I'm in love with my best friend who is going through a divorce, is there any hope we could be together? Or should I just give up?
Q. My heart is broken and I am wondering if I should just give up on love. I REALLY need help in this situation! I feel very broken about this. Please no mean answers... I'm hoping no one will judge me for this. I love my best friend. I love...
A. 22 May 2013: It sounds pretty hopeless to me. Since you are so very determined that you will never love any other man, I guess you might as well give up on love. However if you do give up you will NEVER know if that truly is your only option or if you are just ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...
A. 22 May 2013: See ya on the flip side baby cakes.... (read in full...)
I feel unwanted and unworthy of being in my family. What can I do to distance myself as much as possible and not just revert back to "forgiving" them and letting them continue it?
Q. My parents are ALWAYS on my case and never follow through when telling my 14yo brother to do something. It sounds petty, but it's constant and my brother takes advantage of it and shoves it in my face. If I could afford to move out, I would, but I'm ...
A. 18 May 2013: Are you getting any professional counseling? You have some very major issues and if you are not getting some professional help dealing with them you are in for an uphill battle. Get the help honey so you can then start planning a bright future.... (read in full...)
I have been invited to attend my married lover's birthday party. I don't think I should go, should I?
Q. Hi.All I'm in a very long term relationship with a married man,please no judgements,we can't end it so it goes on and has done for years. We are both in our late 60's and have known each other for over 30years.he treats me with the utmost respect a...
A. 18 May 2013: Does the wife have any clue at all as to your role in her husband's life?... (read in full...)
How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...
A. 18 May 2013: Have his parents call your parents.... (read in full...)
We both like each other and want to go on a date but we are too busy to meet up, how do I act in this situation? Can I flirt with other guys or not?
Q. I confessed to liking him and he told me he likes me back. He has tried asking me out, but since we're both busy with exams at the moment, we haven't really decided on when. What is he expecting from me? Does he expect us to be dating now or a ...
A. 16 May 2013: Don't buy him a thing until you have an established relationship. And go ahead a flirt if you feel like it, it's not like you are committed at this point in time. ... (read in full...)
My surprise weekend turned to going to his mom's! Why couldn't he have told me the truth sooner?
Q. Please help I don't know how to handle this. My boyfriend of 2 years told me he was planning a surprise weekend away for this weekend and I told my family and friends and this week ago I wanted him to give me an idea of where we were going so I know ...
A. 16 May 2013: Tell him from now on he need to piss or get off the pot. Explain to him how disappointed you get when things are just hot air. And I guess you will have to just take his "plans" with a grain of salt until you know for sure whether they pan out or ... (read in full...)
How can I help my grandad fulfill his dreams when my family is standing in the way?
Q. My grandad is 86. He has prostate cancer, dementia, severe arthritis, can barely walk or sit up on his own and has been in and out of hospital recently for traces of pneumonia in his lungs which are now (fingers crossed) gone. I would like to cr...
A. 16 May 2013: I'd see if I could come up with a old picture of his school, enlarge it, and frame it for him.... (read in full...)
I'm sick of his ex! Will she ever be out of the picture?
Q. hi all thank you for taking the time to read this. i have fallen in love with a man who is 25 yrs older than me and im having his baby. the problem is, is that his stupid ex wife will not get it through her head that i am with him now. i had to w...
A. 16 May 2013: Ha ha Please say you are a troll trying to wind up the aunts/uncles. Please? For the sake of all humanity?... (read in full...)
Do you think I have any right to be angry? Or was I to blame for being naive?
Q. Well I was dating a guy for a month. It was a LDR and on the third date, I had to spend the night at his, due to distance. The date did not go too well, we had a bit of a falliing out but made up. In the night, he said he would prepare the spare ro...
A. 16 May 2013: Life lesson.... (read in full...)
Do you think parents who do not want to take responsibility for their children should be let scot free for the sake of peace?
Q. I have a 10 year old daughter with my ex. My ex has not been seeing the child nor supporting her financially. I took him to court for child maintenance, and he was ordered. He only paid few times and has completely stopped. I work and can somehow ...
A. 15 May 2013: Go back to court and get his child support directly deducted from his pay.... (read in full...)
Do I confess my feelings for him before I go?
Q. Over a year ago, I started working as a Team Leader in a customer service account that employed over 200 people. Since I was recruited externally, my lack of familiarity with the account and the people made me feel very apprehensive, but the manager ...
A. 15 May 2013: Since you don't know if he texts others and you don't know if he isn't just as flirty with others, it's hard to say, I guess if I were you it would be worth the risk to just ask him out for a drink. What have you got to lose?... (read in full...)
My Mother, Computer, And I. Do I have a computer addiction forming?
Q. modnote: if anyone can suggest what "regetong"? means then please post the word. Neglecting perhaps? Hey i need help again. Lately ive been obsessed with my computer and ive been regetong? my mom and my chores lately. I usually spend my time on...
A. 15 May 2013: Forgetting works too... (read in full...)
Do I confess my feelings for him before I go?
Q. Over a year ago, I started working as a Team Leader in a customer service account that employed over 200 people. Since I was recruited externally, my lack of familiarity with the account and the people made me feel very apprehensive, but the manager ...
A. 15 May 2013: Since you both are single I'd just ask him out like Zippy said. Nothing ventured.... Any way if he does say "no thanks" at least you will be leaving soon. ... (read in full...)
Can you be happy and have fun in life if you don't have any friends?
Q. How can you be happy and have fun in life without having friends? Is it possible? I've always been kind of a loner, and I don't really know what to do with my free time. I feel really lonely and I feel like you have to have friends to be happy...
A. 15 May 2013: If you feel lonely then you really aren't cut out to be a loner. Loners ENJOY being alone, they prefer it. You just need to find the right kind of friend(s). And you find them by doing exactly what KC suggests. Figure out what activities you really ... (read in full...)
I do everything for him and he does nothing for me! Is this love?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship since 2 and half year now. I did so much for my fiancé that now days no one does. I got laser hair removal for 10,000, I gave him everything he asked me for, expensive perfumes, shampoos, glasses, iphone ...
A. 15 May 2013: Wow is all I can say. You really need to come to grips with the fact that you are being used and if you think you are broken now after 2 1/2 years, just think how you will feel in another year. Girlfriend, this ain't gonna get any better. You have ... (read in full...)
Do I confess my feelings for him before I go?
Q. Over a year ago, I started working as a Team Leader in a customer service account that employed over 200 people. Since I was recruited externally, my lack of familiarity with the account and the people made me feel very apprehensive, but the manager ...
A. 15 May 2013: Are you both single?... (read in full...)
My FWB is sick of me and called me a whore! Did I do anything wrong to deserve to be treated this way?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in on and off FWB with my best friend. I fell in love with him but he says he likes me but no love word. Long story short, he bacame very abusive (physically and emotionally) lately. I couldnt even hold a decent conversation ...
A. 14 May 2013: The THING you did wrong was the whole FWB thing. I personally think the whole concept is a crock. Next time wait for an actual relationship to develop before you let that nickel between your knees drop.... (read in full...)
We've been together for 5 years but I don't feel I can talk to him, why is it so hard?
Q. I feel like i need someone to just tell me what to do about my boyfriend, i hate feeling like im walking on egg shells around him, we are like strangers and hardley talk, we dont do anything together, and i feel like he loves to have a dig at me ...
A. 14 May 2013: He calls you useless? Honey you are just afraid to let him go because you fear the unknown. Take a deep breath and cut the cord to this loser. I known it's scary but you will, in a very short time, be wondering why the heck you waited this long to ... (read in full...)
I'm never asked on second dates, what is wrong with me?
Q. In the past year, I have been on about 8 - 10 unsuccessful dates with men. I am wondering if you could please give me some advice about what I am / am not doing right for nothing to eventuate with these dates? I will tell you a little bit about...
A. 14 May 2013: Sounds like there is nothing wrong with you except for being unlucky picking your dates. Keep plugging someone will eventually turn up that will be a good fit.... (read in full...)
Dating a girl for 2 weeks, saw some strange messages on her phone then her best friend calls me to tell me to walk away from her! What should I do?
Q. I have been online dating for about a year and I go on about 2 dates a week. I'm no Brad Pitt but i'm a good looking guy and have just qualified as a children's doctor. I met a girl (M) 2 weeks ago and we have been on some dates. She is cute ...
A. 14 May 2013: All this and you have only known her for 2 weeks? Sheesh!
Slow down Buddy. If you don't you will deserve all that you get. It's been 2 weeks for crying out loud. Think with that head that is above your shoulders. As a doctor I assume you are tota... (read in full...)
Texting relationships: good or bad?
Q. What are your opinions on a relationship that is 90% texting, phone calls maybe every other day or so and mostly booty calls. The guy is telling the woman he loves her, but he is telling his really close friends that "Hell No I Do Not Want To Spend ...
A. 13 May 2013: Other than phone calls and sex, do you guys do anything else together?... (read in full...)
What's a good way to make friends?
Q. Hey everyone. This may sound silly but what's a good way to make some friends? I'm only 18 and I've never really had many friends. Some of the friends I did have are no longer my friends. I go to a community college and nobody seems to really talk ...
A. 13 May 2013: Join some clubs at your college or do some volunteer work in your community those are great ways to meet people. I wouldn't pursue the online thing but then that's just me.... (read in full...)
Do you stay out of the financial decisions your fiance makes with his children from another marriage?
Q. We live together. My fiance has two adult children from his first marriage. His son has a nice job and a new girlfriend. His son moved out of his apartment with his last girlfriend...he broke it off with her. His son is now moving into an ...
A. 13 May 2013: You are very wise to stay out of it. As long as it's not YOUR money, stay as far away from this hot potatoe as you can. Remember this tho' when you do finally tie the knot you may want to keep your finances separated. Just curious, do you have any ... (read in full...)
I want to make an impression on her. How can I make this boat trip special for her?
Q. Hey Im taking a woman on her first boat trip and want ideas to make it special for her. We have 23 people and we are snorkeling and doing some wildlife sightseeing. I'm having her match my swimming suit n also baking a family dessert recipe for h...
A. 10 May 2013: Dessert and matching his/her swim suits would do it for me.... (read in full...)
Am I an awful girlfriend because I don't want to go to the car meet with my boyfriend?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. I feel like an ungrateful spoiled girl for this question since there are so many about women whose men do not want to spend time with them, I have the opposite issue. I actually started to live with my boyfriend of a y...
A. 10 May 2013: I also think you should just suck it up and go with him. Hell I go fishing with my husband all the time and it's not because I like to fish. It's a quid pro quo kind of thing if you love the guy. Besides you never know, you may actually enjoy it.... (read in full...)
Not a romantic relationship question, it's a cry for help. Should I leave my alcoholic dad and start my own life?
Q. I want to move with my boyfriend and our to kids to Michigan, where we both have jobs waiting and we can stay with his Aunt for cheap while we save up for our own place. My mother died about four years ago, my dad is an alcoholic and was before m...
A. 10 May 2013: I agree you need to get the DSS involved at this point. You will need to explain the situation clearly to them and that you will be moving out of state. They will monitor the situaton at your father's home and if needed will remove the younger kids ... (read in full...)
Is this a problem what happened when I had sex with my girlfriend last night?
Q. MOD NOTE: English is not the first language of asker. Dear sir.. I am 27 years male. I do have habit of hand shaking my peninsula.(masturbating). When I do so that lequid comes out.(I ejeculate when I mastubate). Last night I had sex with my g...
A. 9 May 2013: Tish...??? ... (read in full...)
I know married co-worker is just pulling my strings but how should I respond to these situations?
Q. I have a male coworker who is about 16 years older than me (I'm 21, you do the math :/)...and, well, his behavior is kind of creepy. If he didn't wear a ring on his finger you wouldn't know he was married. He just had a baby and has another small ...
A. 8 May 2013: You should focus on the fact that you may have just prevented some other girl from going through all of this crap from the guy. You did the right thing, pat yourself on the back.... (read in full...)
Is this a problem what happened when I had sex with my girlfriend last night?
Q. MOD NOTE: English is not the first language of asker. Dear sir.. I am 27 years male. I do have habit of hand shaking my peninsula.(masturbating). When I do so that lequid comes out.(I ejeculate when I mastubate). Last night I had sex with my g...
A. 8 May 2013: "hand shaking my peninsula" is going into the DC Manual.... (read in full...)
Is it lust or love I feel for my cousin?
Q. Hi, i have one small story,about my attraction with my married cousin sister from my ssc onwords it started when i was slept with her on same bed(normal sleep) but next few years i din't much interactions with her one day again i went to her...
A. 8 May 2013: Sentimental??? Once I got to the 12th word in this post the answer was clear. Whatever it is you are asking my advice is to leave the lady alone. Totally alone. Get on with your own life.... (read in full...)
I thought he was my soul-mate, but now he's with a girl who's everything he said he hates
Q. My ex and I broke up a month ago. We'd been together 3 years. Completely out of the blue he sat me down and said that although he loved me, he couldn't be with me, I wasn't making him happy. I genuinely didn't see it coming - everyone used to say we ...
A. 7 May 2013: You handle like we always advise: stay busy and occupied, force yourself to stop looking at his and her Facebook pages, go out with friends and be visable, no moping around the house. As far as his new girlfriend being everything he said he hated ... (read in full...)
When do I tell someone I am dating that I cannot ever have children.
Q. I am an 19 year old female, I have just met a guy who I have started dating, we have been on 1 date, but been talking for months. Last year I found out that I can never have children, when should I tell him this? I have been thinking I should tell ...
A. 6 May 2013: I certainly hope you have gotten a second and thrid medical opinion.... (read in full...)
Does the number of people you sleep with have any effect on you later in life?
Q. I am just wondering if the number of people you sleep with has any psychological or emotional effect on you later. I am not talking 3 or 4 partners. I mean, like, say 50 partners. My best bud is dating seriously a girl who has slept around qui...
A. 6 May 2013: Do not go there Buddy. Do not get involved in that aspect of your friend's life. It will bite you in the butt. Let him make his own decisions and choices regarding his love life. This is truly a time to mind your own beeswax.... (read in full...)
I think I've found my soul mate but she's 35 years younger than I. What do I do?
Q. I think I have found a soulmate, however I don't think we were meant to be together as we have a very large age difference. I think that as the older person I am meant to help her in some way. Why do I think we are soulmates? Well, our likes are so ...
A. 3 May 2013: How old is she? Help her? Help her in what way? Why do you think she needs help? How old are you? Have you ever been in a long term relationship?... (read in full...)
Did my ex love me?
Q. Hi i was just wondering did my ex really love me he would correct everything i said everything i done even stupid things like cleaning my teeth how i tidy up how i hoovered yet he could be so loving he would also call me names quite often and tried ...
A. 2 May 2013: He's history so force yourself to stop dwelling on the past and start living in the present. Make some plans for the future to give you something to look FORWARD to. Chin up onward and upward.... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend but now I'm not sure if I did the right thing?
Q. I dated my boyfriend for 8months and we started drifting apart. I attributed it to the fact that he was working at that time (it was vacation. We're both college students) so maybe that's why we couldn't hear from eachother much. That was actually ...
A. 30 April 2013: I was exhausted just reading your post. This relationship is too much work. You do know that boyfriends are supposed to be fun and make us happy, right? If you have a pair of shoes that hurt your feet, do you wear them? Don't go back, go forward.... (read in full...)
I kept waiting for him to leave his g/f but he never really did so I ended things. Did I do the right thing?
Q. I'm confused that I already made a mistake as he asked me to wait for him to breakup with girlfriend of 6 years he told me they are in verge of breaking up but I didnt do it. I just stoped waiting and said goodbye a month ago. I've waited for him to ...
A. 29 April 2013: You absolutely did the right thing. Time is precious and it should never be wasted. Keep on with the no contact, you'll feel better soon. Just keep telling yourself that if he really loved you as much as he claims, he would have done that break up ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to experiment with a woman?
Q. I've been in a relationship for seven months and it's been great for the most part. He recently told me that he thinks every woman should have a sexual experience with another woman, especially if they're in college like myself. He doesn't want to ...
A. 25 April 2013: What if he told you it would turn him on if he knew you were having sex with a llama? ... (read in full...)
Will a shy guy ever ask a girl out?
Q. I really like this shy guy, but with his line of work, i am a 'client' so it makes the situation a lot harder to court him (thou i am not a direct client of his). I have written a question on here before and i get the impression that he does like ...
A. 24 April 2013: I don't think you have any other choice but to ask him out. If he's so shy you might have to wait forever for him to get around to it. At least if you do it you'll know whether he really is interested.... (read in full...)
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