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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How will I handle these delicate decisions about inviting and seating guests at our wedding?
Q. I just got engaged yesterday. We had talked about it for a while before hand so I knew it was going to happen... I just didn't know when! Anyhow my fiance and I had just booked a months holiday to California so we were going to secretly elope in ...
A. 10 May 2016: The whole point of an elopement is that you do it without asking anyone’s “permission.” You sneak off and get married without anyone you know there.
So, as your fiance and father have tanked that idea by changing your plan from eloping into a smal... (read in full...)
Is this liason weird?
Q. I'm 25 and he's 30. We've been dating 5 weeks and are exclusive. I posted earlier about him inviting me to LA with him on business trip (in a month). We plan to go sightseeing together for a few days. Our connection is amazing and we talk about ...
A. 10 May 2016: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-soon-is-too-soon-to-go-on.html
The whole thing about accompanying him on a business trip for the first travel together is now kind of bothering me. I don’t know what kind of business he’s in but generally the ... (read in full...)
Would our guests from Scandinavia be horrified to see ants in our home?
Q. We live in the USA and are not really into using poisons. Thus we have a fair number of ants in our house. Mainly the tiny little ones that don't bite or anything LOL Anyway, we have some houseguests coming to visit from Europe (Scandinavia). D...
A. 10 May 2016: Why assume that all Scandinavians would be the same? Some Americans would be just fine with a few ants; others would be horrified.
You wrote that you are not really into using poisons, does that mean you are opposed to using essential oils or chal... (read in full...)
Are all European women this agressive? How about men?
Q. My wife and I move around a lot because of my work. We have been together for 18 years (married for 15). We both wear rings. And please understand that I am not writing this to brag, I have never been chased by ladies, I would really appreciate some ...
A. 9 May 2016: Are you asking a panel that includes women if any of us have ever experienced unwanted sexual advances?
Hahahahaha! Oh my goodness. Oh dear. O me o my o. The irony is rich here....
Of course we’ve been approached inappropriately. We learn to fend ... (read in full...)
Is this liason weird?
Q. I'm 25 and he's 30. We've been dating 5 weeks and are exclusive. I posted earlier about him inviting me to LA with him on business trip (in a month). We plan to go sightseeing together for a few days. Our connection is amazing and we talk about ...
A. 9 May 2016: “Our connection is amazing and we talk about anything and everything.” vs. “We’ve never discussed sex and intimacy at all.”
You talk about anything but the elephant in the room, is that about right? ARE YOU THINKING ABOUT SEX? your mind must be scre... (read in full...)
I found out by accident that my biological parents are not the parents who brought me up. I feel hurt and so confused. What should I do?
Q. I found out something awful and I'm hurt and disappointed and don't know what to do. My mom's brother and my dad's sister used to date in high school. I never met my uncle because he's been in prison since I was 9 and we live states away from our...
A. 9 May 2016: Obviously it’s a huge shock to learn this so late in life. Why your parents chose not to tell you about your biological parentage, well, it appears you already have some clues based on the background information you provided.
If I were you, i’d reac... (read in full...)
Hookups where the women only get oral?
Q. Hookups where the women only get oral? I've seen some women mention that they do this online and that it's a mini-trend now, but I wanted to see some stories. What did the guys do or how did they react when you made it clear you only wanted them to ...
A. 5 May 2016: Did you just write that you were “jk” in submitting this post? You’ve been “just kidding”? Ah, so it’s all been an inside joke that we were supposed to get somehow. Why am I not loling? Hm.
As for why I gathered those links for you, well, ther... (read in full...)
Why don’t I have the desire to be a mother?
Q. All my friends either have a baby or are pregnant. As much as I love and adore my best friends baby I just don't seem to have the urge to have my own. My boyfriend would love to have a child and I know without a doubt he would be an excellent dad. I ...
A. 5 May 2016: I do understand the lack of the urge to have children. I never had it, don’t miss it, fyi. My husband was in the same frame of mind so it never was an issue for us. We did discuss it before we got married then again when the biological clock thing ... (read in full...)
Why does my mother always seem to favor my sister over me?
Q. My mom treats my sister better than me and makes me share everything. We're 14 and 13 and about the same size so when we go clothes shopping she makes me go with what M (my sister) wants which is usually shapeless pastel t shirts or lacy dress on...
A. 4 May 2016: So it does sound from your post that Mom is making sure that your sister M’s needs are well met. You are the older sister and this often happens to us who are in that role. It doesn’t often seem fair and actually is a very good experience for us ... (read in full...)
Hookups where the women only get oral?
Q. Hookups where the women only get oral? I've seen some women mention that they do this online and that it's a mini-trend now, but I wanted to see some stories. What did the guys do or how did they react when you made it clear you only wanted them to ...
A. 4 May 2016: Oh dear. Ah. So you really are that uneducated and willing to remain so. You asked for advice from the aunts here, you got it. I’m sorry for you that you don’t seem ready to hear it. Be careful. It’s probable that you’ll experience some problems... (read in full...)
How does a teen get over a celebrity crush?
Q. I have a celebrity crush. I understand that at my age, this is completely normal, but I think that I have crossed the line. I won't explain how (I'll leave that to your imagination) but I know that I've gone too far. I've tried to find obtainable ...
A. 4 May 2016: Yes, I do have some advice on how to get over a celebrity crush.
Read a really good book instead of watching crap--sorry, “entertainment news” or youtube videos--or absorbing marketing obviously directed at your age range.
And relax and stop wor... (read in full...)
Shouldn’t we be going at it like rabbits?
Q. Hi , I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years now , and our sex life is almost none existent, maybe once every two weeks. She is 19 and I'm 23 , shouldn't we be at it like rabbits ? We used to be very active , we used to buy all sorts of ...
A. 4 May 2016: If your idea of making her feel wanted is to grope her, give her a slap on the butt, and then try to get kinky with her, I submit to you that you know nothing about her what gets her started on getting in the mood.
My guess is that you’d be very... (read in full...)
When travelling, what are your pet peeves about the people you meet and the places you visit outside of your own country?
Q. This is not a relationship issue, it's just something recreational if any of you wants to humour me up. So : yesterday I was reading on a travellers' forum a thread called "Why Italians are so rude." Now, .. Italian can be rude, I am not argui...
A. 4 May 2016: I’m late to this party! I’ve had the privilege of living and traveling in other countries all my life so perhaps the idea of having to write a pithy and witty response to one of my favorite aunts here has set up writers’ block? Forgive my ... (read in full...)
I want him to move in, but not sure how to ask!
Q. My partner and I have been on and off for almost 4 years due to my mental health. We know we love each other but he doesn't know which version of me he is going to have to deal with each day, which is why we tend to break up. I am getting he...
A. 4 May 2016: Rather than ask outright for him to move back in again, ask him when he sees you two living together again in the future, if at all. That should be enough to get the conversation started about the process of living together.
Perhaps he’s conc... (read in full...)
Why would he be messaging his ex in the first place? And why ask her for pictures? If he misses her, is that a bad sign?
Q. I found out and saw that my boyfriend was texting back and forth was his ex girlfriend. He asked her to send him a picture of her (not sexual just normal) and then he told her how gorgeous she was and that he missed her. I asked him about it and...
A. 4 May 2016: The great thing about DearCupid is that you can read the archives to see what people in virtually identical situations have been advised. I compiled a listing of the similar questions that have come in recently; no doubt you can glean more advice ... (read in full...)
Hookups where the women only get oral?
Q. Hookups where the women only get oral? I've seen some women mention that they do this online and that it's a mini-trend now, but I wanted to see some stories. What did the guys do or how did they react when you made it clear you only wanted them to ...
A. 3 May 2016: From the STI Files at scarleteen.com: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/the_sti_files_herpes
"What is it exactly? There are two types of the Herpes Simplex Virus: Simplex I and Simplex II. Simplex I or oral herpes usually infects the ... (read in full...)
Hookups where the women only get oral?
Q. Hookups where the women only get oral? I've seen some women mention that they do this online and that it's a mini-trend now, but I wanted to see some stories. What did the guys do or how did they react when you made it clear you only wanted them to ...
A. 3 May 2016: Sorry, just re-read your followup. You’re not worried about Herpes because you get cold sores? Oh my.
You know that HSV 1 does colonize in the genital area, no? You can get an outbreak of HSV 1 in your lady parts.
Read this helpful handbook... (read in full...)
Hookups where the women only get oral?
Q. Hookups where the women only get oral? I've seen some women mention that they do this online and that it's a mini-trend now, but I wanted to see some stories. What did the guys do or how did they react when you made it clear you only wanted them to ...
A. 3 May 2016: Good luck. And I was completely serious about making sure someone else knows where you are and who you are hooking up with.
I found your earlier post on on the topic to refresh your memory: http... (read in full...)
Hookups where the women only get oral?
Q. Hookups where the women only get oral? I've seen some women mention that they do this online and that it's a mini-trend now, but I wanted to see some stories. What did the guys do or how did they react when you made it clear you only wanted them to ...
A. 3 May 2016: "Helloooo, Herpes!" was my first reaction to this question. If you don't understand why, let me know in a follow up.
So you're basically looking for men to service you with oral sex, then leave, is that the idea?
Take a look in the postings und... (read in full...)
Why do low-income families go on to have more children when it's hard to make ends meet?
Q. Just curious, as I see tons of family's that have sometimes 4 or more children, yet have an extremely small income. You'd think it'd be the opposite, because the low-income families have neither the time nor the money to properly care for these ...
A. 3 May 2016: Lack of access to affordable health care, including birth control. The annual cost for birth control pills can be such a financial burden that women can’t pay for it AND feed children or buy bus tickets to get to the low income job they need so ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want intercourse so badly?
Q. Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...
A. 29 April 2016: Curious about PUA guys? Why? Are you looking into the dark side of human nature or something? Looking for a reason to dislike men? ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want intercourse so badly?
Q. Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...
A. 29 April 2016: Oh, one more piece of advice, reading the PUA forums will only expose you to bizarre troll type caricatures of real men. A steady diet of those will definitely turn your stomach and possibly distort your perception so that you miss out on the REAL ... (read in full...)
Any advice on getting emergency funds?
Q. Hi, this is isn't really a relationship question but I need help. I live in the U.S and I am in need. I have a full-time job, make decent money etc. my fiancé and I are purchasing a home. We complete everything in July. Now, we have an emergency and ...
A. 29 April 2016: There are sites like gofundme and crowdrise that people use to raise funds. Talk to your mortgage broker about your options.
Sell one of your vehicles (or is that what the emergency is?). Sell high value jewelry or other high value possessions, such... (read in full...)
Why do guys want intercourse so badly?
Q. Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...
A. 29 April 2016: Well, I expect because it just feels really good to them. It doesn’t take a great deal of imagination to understand that, does it?... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this abusive relationship? He has everyone fooled into thinking he is a good guy
Q. My boyfriend has been getting messages from girls he has been with and never tells me about it. Unless I look at his stuff I don't ever know. And only one of the girls has asked him if he was with anyone which he said yes he was. But the others...
A. 29 April 2016: I agree with asking family and friends back in Florida for financial assistance in getting back home to Florida.
I’ve got a list of local California resources in the link here: http... (read in full...)
Can you change a player just a little?
Q. I'm trying to decide if I should have sex with a guy who's a player. If i don't have sex he'll just ignore me. If I do, then I'll get ignored after...but I was thinking, even if I can't get him to commit, what if I got him to at least do nice things ...
A. 28 April 2016: You want him to like you before and after? Boom. You’ve already lost the game to the player before even beginning the game. Game set match to the player.
As for “hot”, well, we’ll have to take your word for it, but from the microbiologist’s or urol... (read in full...)
How do I tell potential FWBs or hookups that I only want oral or manual sex, not intercourse?
Q. I want lower std risks and no pregnancy risks. So I decided to try having hookups but only going as far as foreplay. What I'm worried about is what if they think I'm childish since we're all over 18? Or they may even be angry we're not f*cking... ...
A. 28 April 2016: Good to hear you have applied the basic “don’t have sex with a jerk” rule.
In re-reading your post, I was struck by this:” I want lower std risks and no pregnancy risks.”
I hate to tell you but oral sex carries plenty of STD risks. You may be right... (read in full...)
Can you change a player just a little?
Q. I'm trying to decide if I should have sex with a guy who's a player. If i don't have sex he'll just ignore me. If I do, then I'll get ignored after...but I was thinking, even if I can't get him to commit, what if I got him to at least do nice things ...
A. 28 April 2016: So, what kind of nice things were you hoping for? A nice smile in class? A drink in a bar? Jewelry? A walk at sunset on the beach, holding hands while a guitarist plays beautiful love songs?
If you want sex with a player, have sex with a play... (read in full...)
When do I raise the awkward subject of menstrating with boys I am dating?
Q. When is a good time to tell a guy you're on your period? Seems like every boyfriend since high school gets really grossed out or mad at me when I tell him. In high school I didn't have to because I only had three boyfriends. The one I only dated...
A. 28 April 2016: OP, there are so many things in this followup you posted (assuming it was you?) that need addressing.
First of all, no one should be able to coerce you into dating someone you don’t want to date. That suggests that you are a victim of bullying and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sometimes blurts out something that just sounds wrong! What do I do in this situation?
Q. Hello, Need some advice. My boyfriend is a really wonderful guy! My only issue is that sometimes he means to say one thing and it will come out wrong, especially with friends/acquaintances or when a little tipsy. For example, we were meeting ...
A. 28 April 2016: If he’s a slow learner, he’s a slow learner. Perhaps encourage him not to talk too much when he’s tipsy or flat out drunk?
“Hey, Gerard, there’s something I want to talk to you about. Remember the tipsy comments you made? The ones about parents dese... (read in full...)
Why doesn’t he want this other bus driver to know who the gifts are from?
Q. dear cupid, I like this guy his a bus driver I know him about 3 years we talk a lot on the phone not every day but ever other day so on holidays I get him gifts but now he what’s me to get this other women gift she also a bus driver which she's ...
A. 28 April 2016: “So, Lance, why are we playing these odd games with the gift-giving? It’s puzzling me, I don’t understand why you feel the need to do this. Can you please explain this so I can get where it is you are coming from?”... (read in full...)
What should I do with my gamer boyfriend?
Q. As if my boyfriend didn't play games already enough. Now he wants to play 4 hours straight two nights. While he plays every night for 3 hours. Like is he serious!?!? When were supose to be spending time together. I want to spend time with him, e...
A. 28 April 2016: Hi, again, Midsummer. I remember reading many of your posts on the topic of this boyfriend, like CindyCares. You were having problems before moving in with him, then with deciding who pays what, how long you were going to be away when he first moved ... (read in full...)
We are back together, but he is still talking with the girl he dated when we were split up!
Q. I've been dating my ex boyfriend again for the last 4 months. We were broken up for about 6 months and he was dating someone else for 4 months out of the 6 months we were broken up. He says they were not that serious but they did like each other. ...
A. 28 April 2016: He has a peculiar history of keeping the ex around while he’s with a new girlfriend. You were the ex just a few short months ago, remember?
Throw this bet-hedger back in the shallow pool from whence he slimed and don’t look back.... (read in full...)
I thought we were on the same page about a baby, but now he wants to go travelling.
Q. A year a go I found out I had pcos and it horrified me that I would never conceive. I spoke with my partner and said I don't really want to wait to try for a baby - I'm 24 so it wasnt unrealistic. A year later and all of a sudden my partner wants to ...
A. 28 April 2016: And to add to your followup, of course it would be natural to begrudge him if he turns out to not want children with you. The more I think about it, the more I think you need a mediator to help you discuss all this together, as in a couples ... (read in full...)
I thought we were on the same page about a baby, but now he wants to go travelling.
Q. A year a go I found out I had pcos and it horrified me that I would never conceive. I spoke with my partner and said I don't really want to wait to try for a baby - I'm 24 so it wasnt unrealistic. A year later and all of a sudden my partner wants to ...
A. 28 April 2016: Hi, Sophie (s0ph1e), I found a few of your earlier questions about this relationship. I think things have been a bit rocky with your boyfriend for a while.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-my-boyfriend-have-to-drink-every.html In this... (read in full...)
Why does he want this all of a sudden!
Q. Hi aunts. Just a quick question. I'm in a very loving sexual relationship with my fella who I'm planning on living with later in the year. Everything is great and when we aren't together we message loads which I love. Our messages are loving ...
A. 27 April 2016: "Wow you think this would be something I would enjoy. Interesting to learn this about you. Um no, won't work for me."
Where did the idea come from? Probably porn. What does it matter? ... (read in full...)
Please help me! I’m feeling so suffocated by the choices my mother has made!
Q. Hi all, I posted on here before about moving in with my bf and how my mother and stepfather are dependent on me. Well, I made up my mind that I was going to move in with my boyfriend regardless and start planning on our dreams. Come to find out...
A. 26 April 2016: If you aren’t completely aware of your financial obligations and rights with regards to a mortgage you seem to have agreed to then you need some legal help.
Contact the “mortgage” person tonight and ask all these questions. Ask him or her perm... (read in full...)
Please help me! I’m feeling so suffocated by the choices my mother has made!
Q. Hi all, I posted on here before about moving in with my bf and how my mother and stepfather are dependent on me. Well, I made up my mind that I was going to move in with my boyfriend regardless and start planning on our dreams. Come to find out...
A. 26 April 2016: You “met with the mortgage.” What else happened during the mortgage approval process? ... (read in full...)
Please help me! I’m feeling so suffocated by the choices my mother has made!
Q. Hi all, I posted on here before about moving in with my bf and how my mother and stepfather are dependent on me. Well, I made up my mind that I was going to move in with my boyfriend regardless and start planning on our dreams. Come to find out...
A. 26 April 2016: Go into your personal bank tomorrow and ask to speak with a financial planner ASAP. ASAP! Something is very OFF in this equation.... (read in full...)
Please help me! I’m feeling so suffocated by the choices my mother has made!
Q. Hi all, I posted on here before about moving in with my bf and how my mother and stepfather are dependent on me. Well, I made up my mind that I was going to move in with my boyfriend regardless and start planning on our dreams. Come to find out...
A. 26 April 2016: If your mother can’t qualify with a mortgage without you then she’s not qualified to purchase a home at this point in time.
Your credit could be WRECKED for years to come if the home is foreclosed on with your name on the mortgage. You have sign... (read in full...)
Please help me! I’m feeling so suffocated by the choices my mother has made!
Q. Hi all, I posted on here before about moving in with my bf and how my mother and stepfather are dependent on me. Well, I made up my mind that I was going to move in with my boyfriend regardless and start planning on our dreams. Come to find out...
A. 26 April 2016: Wait. So YOU are the wage-earner on the mortgage?
WHOA.
Brakes on.
“It was promised that my name would be taken off once there was a refinance.”
No, no no nononononoononono.
This is a recipe for financial disaster for you. YOU are buying the h... (read in full...)
How do I tell potential FWBs or hookups that I only want oral or manual sex, not intercourse?
Q. I want lower std risks and no pregnancy risks. So I decided to try having hookups but only going as far as foreplay. What I'm worried about is what if they think I'm childish since we're all over 18? Or they may even be angry we're not f*cking... ...
A. 26 April 2016: “I’m also worried about if I meet a really experienced guy and he just blows me off when I tell him I don’t want sex” Wait, does mean you think will be raped? Oh my dear. And you’re worried about being pressured into doing something you don’t want ... (read in full...)
Please help me! I’m feeling so suffocated by the choices my mother has made!
Q. Hi all, I posted on here before about moving in with my bf and how my mother and stepfather are dependent on me. Well, I made up my mind that I was going to move in with my boyfriend regardless and start planning on our dreams. Come to find out...
A. 26 April 2016: How did they even qualify for a home loan? That’s crazy! I know a mortgage broker and they are very picky about qualifying applicants anymore. Unless they put you on the mortgage and you are the one legally liable for paying for the house? None of ... (read in full...)
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