I need to get him out of my head forever. How do I get rid of his so-called "friendship"?
Q. I am so upset by this so please no horrible answers. My ex friended me on facebook-i hadnt seen him for 4 years-it was to tell me he had got married. We were due to get married but it ended really badly because he barely showed any love or care-i o...
A. 7 November 2009: I understand your position very well because I have been there too. For myself and maybe you too, it is hard to extract yourself from the relationship completely because you romanticize the good times in the back of your head. People who are ... (read in full...)
I think I've lost the love of my life
Q. please help, ive lost the love of my life, ive scared her off, im in love with this girl we have known each other for a couple of months she is definitely interested but i told her that i love her and she has started to pull back and i dont know ...
A. 7 November 2009: People behave rather oddly around the subject of love if you haven't noticed. I think some women are more interested in being an object of affection rather than being in love. While she might not have this kind of issue it is something to keep in ... (read in full...)
What do you think he meant by the kiss on my forehead?
Q. I finally hung out with a guy that i have been talking to for the last couple of months. i realized i have a crush on him:) when we were leaving he gave me a hug a kiss on the cheek and one on my forehead. i was just wondering what people think of a ...
A. 7 November 2009: On the serious side: I think he wanted to kiss you on the lips but might have thought it was a little too soon. He may have also been unsure about how receptive you would be. You did say that it wasn't until recently that you recognized your ... (read in full...)
I'm married but want to have an affair with a married man..
Q. Please everybody I really just want answeres from MEN. Please, all men out there reply to this. I am happilly married and i know a guy who is also happily married, I have never cheated on my husband but I want to cheat now. I want to have hot...
A. 7 November 2009: "I" think the outcome of this is going to be bad regardless of what the poster has between their legs.
"I" think deception is gender blind.
"I" would advise some therapy
... (read in full...)
Read this email message and tell me what you think!
Q. I found a message in my husband's email. It was from the owner of a company he has done some work for (who is a male), and he has an email address at that company i just became aware of. He has been hiding all of this from me. The message ...
A. 5 November 2009: Sounds off to me too. I have guy friends and we can make funny gay grab ass kinda jokes sometimes but it never sounds like hurt feelings. The kind of jokes we make are very off color and politically incorrect. Its the kind of thing I would never ... (read in full...)
Should I ditch this engagement? After what she did with this guy?
Q. I need help. I just found out my fiancee cheated on me a little while ago. I don't know if I should marry her or not. I'm real pissed off and upset, but I love her, but this is not acceptable. I'm a believer in that 2 people who are in love and ...
A. 5 November 2009: On the serious side...DUDE! WHAT ARE YOU THINKING??
On the lighter side...go ahead and marry her. Its only your kids and your house and your dignity at risk. Lots of men recover from having theyre hearts ripped out and stomped on while they lay... (read in full...)
I'm 13 years old and have dating and kissing questions.
Q. Ok i need help!!! im 13 and never benn kissed. And everyone else i my school has already have a boy-friend . Ok this guy i like him but my best friend likes him too!! but i think he likes me not her .... and the way i know it is because he ...
A. 5 November 2009: OK... I know you don't want to hear your dad talking down to you on this site but there are a couple things that may at least keep you from getting started on the wrong foot as you start to interact with boys.
First off boys don't belong in the g... (read in full...)
I would really like to talk to her and get to know her, but I don't know how.
Q. I live in an apartment complex and these past few months I have noticed a girl about my age around. Sometimes when I walk my dog I saw her go to her car. I would really like to talk to her and get to know her, but I dont know how. With winter ...
A. 5 November 2009: So you are nervous about being clumsy with a girl. Dude! That will come up for the rest of your single life! Welcome to the club!
Its good that you are open to making friends. Female friends are a great thing, they will let you in on how women th... (read in full...)
The last thing I wanted was a sexless marriage!
Q. i was three months pregnant when i married in december. i can count on one hand the amount of times i have had sex in the last 10 months. i feel desperate to have sex but my husband is always too tired and would prefer to watch tv. i am back to my ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sounds like you need an honest conversation with him. Look into erectile dysfunction and do some home work on male libido in addition to the responses you get here. Try approaching this logically rather than emotionally. My feeling is that it is not ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my ex-husband, even after 9 months!
Q. how do i stop loving my ex and the father of my 2 children? its been 9months sice we finished and im still head over hells in love with him, i asked him move out because he stopped all affection towards me we were like 2 flat mates instead of a ...
A. 4 November 2009: You sure can get over him! You will need to start living your own life. Sure you are a single parent now but that does not make you a prisoner in your life. I know from experience.
Consider this the beginning of a new life for you. Sure there wi... (read in full...)
I am tired of this woman texting my husband with her problems!
Q. my husband continues to be friends with a woman that i don't approve of. i told him several times that she wants more than that,but he says i'm just jealous. everytime she has drama in her life she text him at least 15 to 20 times and believe me is ...
A. 4 November 2009: A self respecting man would never tolerate his woman doing this and that should go both ways for a pretty dammed good reason. Its totally disrespectful and a form of being un-faithful like R&B said.
I don't put much focus on the woman because ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon for me to stay the night?
Q. I've been seeing a fantastic woman for 3 1/2 months now. She is in the process of divorcing ,and has 2 kids, aged 16 and 18. They still live in the marital home.The problem is my girlfiend feels awkward me staying the night because of the c...
A. 3 November 2009: You wait until she is comfortable welcoming you into her family before she lets you spend the night in the same house as her kids. Pretty simple.
If she is really a catch and you see a real future with her you should make an attempt at building... (read in full...)
My ex keeps contacting me. What is she playing at?!
Q. havne't heard from the ex in 2 weeks. I've dropped off the face of the earth and avoided her. Sunday night i get the text message. "I have a book, movie, and a bowl belonging to you. Let me know if you want them". She has had these items for over a ...
A. 3 November 2009: You are on the right track I think. This woman is a game player by all accounts. Just keep steering clear and your head will clear up. Her games have worked on you in the past and to be fair that is your own fault. Don't take it wrong my boy, you ... (read in full...)
Do you think that he is texting in the hope we get back in contact and get back together?
Q. hi me and my boyfriend broke up two weeks ago, i didnt want it to happen but he said it had too due to him needing to sort out his life. he has a lot of debts plus we live some distance apart. he told me that the decision will haunt him for th...
A. 3 November 2009: I think you are both in the throws of some rather typical breakup pain. Your opinions about his behavior are probably accurate. But I will also say that his stated need to sort out his life is also accurate.
Yes, he misses you and still loves yo... (read in full...)
What does a belly-button piercing symbolize? Advice from those under 20.
Q. I’m looking for input from the under-20 crowd here about just how piercings are perceived. My 14 year-old daughter is anxious to get one. The first negotiations were for her nose, but lately it’s been for her navel. I’m old and stodgy, and have...
A. 3 November 2009: Two things are coming to mind here. Before I weigh in, I must say I am 39 and a single father of a 12yr old girl. Dis-qualifiers?? Maybe...
First thing I think you are up against is the age old battle we parents have at home to keep our children... (read in full...)
My wife refuses to give me oral pleasure because it's "degrading" but expects me to give it to her!
Q. My wife says that giving oral sex is degrading, so she refuses to do it. However, she expects me to give her oral pleasure every time we have sex. I have since stopped giving her oral sex. She says I am acting like a spoiled child. If that is the ...
A. 3 November 2009: I guess I will go ahead and give the first male opinion here.
Sometimes I wish my capacity for fluffing reality and co-signing this kind of behavior was better but you wouldn't really be helped by that kind of smoke up your ass now would you?
... (read in full...)
She masterbated to his voice during a business phone call...am I overreacting and how should I handle this?
Q. Hi everyone, My question is about my boyfriend's ex.Her behaviour has upset me.I think that he should not talk to her any more.Am I overreacting?How should I deal with this? I am with someone I love dearly for over a year now.And he loves me too....
A. 3 November 2009: On the serious side: I say relax and be glad he is a good man who has chosen to be with you instead of that tramp.
On the light hearted side: I say ask him if he would be interested in some sexy phone talk with you. You are not trying to out do t... (read in full...)
How can I convince my boyfriend to stop stressing about my health?
Q. I don't know what's going on. Ever since my boyfriend found out that I'm about 20 pounds underweight, he has been a bit over-protective than usual. I've explained to him that my doctor has put me on a good diet and I should gain some weight in the ...
A. 3 November 2009: Men are by nature protective of they're woman. You will never change this and lets be honest, it is very endearing if its is not totally psychotic. Much the same as how women's nurturing quality is absolutely wonderful but can be a nightmare when ... (read in full...)
I feel men lack a moral compass
Q. I have issues with men and am not really sure what else can be done. I dont like feeling this way and dont hate men but I simply feel that the majority of them lack a moral compass. I look around the world and see rapes and murders daily on the news ...
A. 3 November 2009: Very eloquent R&B. I have gotten more wisdom from my dog than most of the people around me (no joke). Thats not even a diss on people as much as its a compliment to my dog.
I wish more women were like dogs!
... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 3 November 2009: Feel free to PM me. I dont want to get way off topic with this thread but it would be nice to share our tales and compare notes. ... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 3 November 2009: Thanks for the good wishes. We are getting along just fine. Being a single parent is very challenging as you know and it really puts a different spin on the points being made here.
By the way I am widowed not divorced. Only one marriage and one ... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 2 November 2009: Yeah Mr.Q! You big meanie! I was stuffing my foot in my mouth way before you came along! Get in line mister!
This post really hit a nerve for me as it did for alot of other folks. R&B2, I have to apologize to you for taking the brunt of some of ... (read in full...)
Am I shallow because I like men, based on their looks?
Q. I need some advice/opinions/anything on this issue I have. As long as I can remember I’ve been really attracted to blond/blue eyed/boyish looking men (Brad Pitt when he was young, Jensen Ackles, Patrick Wilson type guys). I’ve ‘chased’ a few guys in ...
A. 2 November 2009: I like the blond dye for your BF idea!
Seriously though, are you just admiring Gods handiwork when you look at these guys or are you having an involved fantasy life involving these men? That is the determining factor I think.
Men are notor... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my past with this other guy?
Q. I have been "talking" to a scorpio guy I like for a couple months now, but we aren't together in any way. We have hung out 3 times away from work, and we both have feelings for each other. Before me and him met, I had a sexual relationship with a ...
A. 2 November 2009: What Sis said and one more thing. You really shouldn't date or screw where you work for what should now be obvious reasons. ... (read in full...)
I am 37..my husband is 34. Is this a big age difference?
Q. Hey there it is me again, so being 37, AND MY HUSBAND BEING 35, do u think the age difference is to much? i am just tired of all the immature jerks that i have dated in the past, they have cheated on me, lied and used me,who knows what they want ...
A. 2 November 2009: No offense but you dont sound like you are 35 by what you said. You are married, why even bring up the guys in the past, they became irrelevant as soon as you said "I do".
You said that you just want somebody to love you at the end of your pos... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 2 November 2009: Welcome to the single parent club. I have been on my own with my daughter for 5yrs too.
As another single parent who had to learn some of the same things, here are a few things I learned.
-Do not introduce you child to anybody you date until y... (read in full...)
Mistreated sexually in a shop! What should I have done?
Q. I went to a shop the other week somewhere in Northwest England (not saying where), was looking at buying some new electronics for my husband, and asked a saleswoman for advice. She then asked me to come over to her desk, to discuss it, which I did, ...
A. 2 November 2009: I am sorry but I was somewhat amused and titillated by the visual on this one until I thought of it in terms of a guy doing this with me. Ughhh like Jack Black doing a strip tease...funny, but...ewwwwwww! You can report it but honestly I think... (read in full...)
Why do I feel a sense of rejection with her?
Q. Hi here's my problem -- I feel sick and upset even thinking about the fact that other men have slept with my girlfriend. She is 18 and I am 20. I fell deeply in love with her the day that I met her two years ago, but it took her 5 months to feel t...
A. 2 November 2009: I think most guys fall hard with they're first love. Its like dreaming of flying for years then one day you are hurled through the sky trying to get your bearings and struggling not get a little scared when you look down. By the way it is like that ... (read in full...)
I feel men lack a moral compass
Q. I have issues with men and am not really sure what else can be done. I dont like feeling this way and dont hate men but I simply feel that the majority of them lack a moral compass. I look around the world and see rapes and murders daily on the news ...
A. 2 November 2009: Gosh, I am really sorry to be this blunt but do you really think that the reason YOU are single is because so many men have broken moral compasses?
My moral compass is in pretty good shape and one of the its functions is detecting women who are ... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 2 November 2009: I know I came off rather charged up but I am glad you could see my point.
I will be honest about what runs through a mans head regarding commitment. I imagine it is similar for women but obviously with different priorities.
Most men want... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 1 November 2009: Such a great post and the responses have been quite interesting. I hope the poster takes my 2 cents in the spirit of blatant honesty rather than disgruntled anger at some of the respondents.
What I found highly amusing in all this was how many... (read in full...)
Does she look at other men? Is she lying to me?
Q. I feel terrible. I do not know what to do. I have accused my girlfriend time after time after time of looking at other men and she always insists that she doesn't. But I see her looking around whenever we are outside, so she has to be judging and ...
A. 1 November 2009: Women don't look at men in Spain? I imagine they don't fart or belch there either. So do the men in Spain never admire the female form? Has anybody told you about Santa and the Easter bunny yet?
You will have to pardon me for being extremel... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: I hope this whole experience has given you the motivation you need to dump this sack of crap like a bad habit.
This thing has been blown wide open right here in front of all of us and he has not done a single follow up. What does that tell you... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: Ohhh Mr Q. Why must you continue to be so kind to this guy. See, what we have here is what every man who has been burned secretly dreams of. We cant take our aggressions out on women when they are dishonest and unfaithful. When we see a man do the ... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: OK I am pissed off at you now! Flame away everybody but I don't give a shit.
Mister- You are yanking our chains here and I for one don't take kindly to it. This half truth, half assed attempt for sympathy will not fly here any more.
Real me... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: Holy group therapy Batman! I replied to his post and then saw this. I feel like I got duped!
Well it is not really about Email accounts anymore now is it?
I think it is interesting that this is unfolding here with all of us but I believe th... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: So simple to solve. Get your own private yahoo or gmail account right now. There, done!
Now as for being open and honest about everything. That is simple too. You don't have to discuss or divulge everything and you shouldn't if it is not directly... (read in full...)
How do I sort my head out and get back on track?
Q. Hello, i would be very grateful if you could read this and not judge. I just dont know whats wrong with me, my head is so messed up. I am 17 years old and i am currently studying my A2 levels (loads of work), i just recently passed my driving ...
A. 31 October 2009: What you are feeling is actually normal I think. I hope you don't feel I am being too flip but I sincerely mean it. I think your feelings are magnified because you have taken to beating yourself up about it all and that is what is probably hurting ... (read in full...)
Why it is Important for him to earn your Love
Q. The other day I had a thought and decided to write it down. I had several women write to me regarding this thought and so I decided maybe I should post it here for those of you women who wonder what it takes to make a man stay with you forever. T...
A. 31 October 2009: This is a 2-way street. Women need to earn our love and respect too, and some of them don't deserve it any more than the type of man you described.
Plenty of guys post on this site about working so hard to please a woman only to get treated ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my girlfriend loves me?
Q. How do I know if my girlfriend loves me? She as been giving me signals as if she don't want me...but I spoke with her and she said if I didn't like you I would tell you directly. Another thing is she has college n I work full time. To add to it she ...
A. 31 October 2009: When you find yourself going from one woman to the next while still licking your wounds from the last one your doing something wrong. This is called "rebound". You are not really taking your time to build a relationship you are seeking to fill an ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my girlfriend loves me?
Q. How do I know if my girlfriend loves me? She as been giving me signals as if she don't want me...but I spoke with her and she said if I didn't like you I would tell you directly. Another thing is she has college n I work full time. To add to it she ...
A. 30 October 2009: Your dating a mother and a college student, you have got to realize that she is not going to make you number one sometimes. I think another factor is you both have demanding lives and it is difficult to get on the same page sometimes.
All t... (read in full...)
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