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hey :-)

I'm Amy and I'm 21 =]

I joined this site a while ago but I haven't been on here for months, busy with university!

I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now =] He is short and Portuguese and squishy and I love him and he makes me happy!

I kinda know what pain Is. I know what love is and i definitely know what confusion is! I also have experience of problems in the bedroom and can relate to many others who do too.

Not all of my relationships have been a bed of roses, and all of them have had different difficulties.

I always do my best to give a balanced and considered answer :-)

Yout can also contact me here:

www.youll-like-this-blog-i-hope.tumblr.com

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..Who You Lose Your Virginity To

This question has 13 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...

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My boyfriend's parents really hate me!

Q.   My boyfriends parents hate me! they tried to tell him lies about me and saying stuff they knew will hurt him. when they realised he didn't buy anything they were saying they decided to keep him away from me which means holding him hostage, then they ...

A.   21 January 2013: His parents don't sound all the ticket to me tbh. You said he got hurt, did they beat him? Because if so you can report them to the police.... (read in full...)

I need to get over him. Why do we keep breaking up and reuniting. How can I get over him?

Q.   We've had an on and off relationship for over 3 years now. He loves me, i love him, but i always break up with him. Right now we are apart, but everytime i see him my eyes water , and i melt. all the memories come flooding back. My bestfrie...

A.   11 January 2013: You don't give us many details - what are your reasons for breaking up with him?... (read in full...)

Boyfriend versus my ex. Why should I choose?

Q.   I have been dating my Boyfriend for 5 months and recently I was texting to my ex-boyfriend,who I had dated longer than anyone, and my boyfriend at the same time. In the middle of texting I started to feel like my boyfriend was just a friend and that...

A.   11 January 2013: I wouldn't change anything just yet, these thoughts or feelings can come and go pretty quickly sometimes. If it persists for several weeks I would break up and be single for a while, as this might help to make things clearer in your head.... (read in full...)

Breaking Up... Should I do it? Am I being too pushy or too helpful? What should I do?

Q.   Well I need some help with my relationship. Here's the background: I am 17 and he is 16. One exact year apart in age. We have been dating for 2 years and 8 months. When met I thought it was love but found out it was infatuation. Long story sho...

A.   11 January 2013: The very beginning of your problem reminded me of my last relationship, except I'm 21 and my ex is 23. It is easy to think you're in love when you're not and sometimes something has to happen or change for you to realise that. But it sounds to me ... (read in full...)

Can short guys have success with women? And if so how? I need advice on how to cope better with my height.

Q.   I am a 5'4" male and i am very insecure about my height. I know that women love tall guys and that most of them turn their noses at the thought of dating a guy as short as me. However, I also know that some guys my height and shorter do have suc...

A.   11 January 2013: My ex was also 5'4", a little shorter than me. We were together for 3.5 years and height was never an issue for me throughout the relationship, and didn't affect how attractive I found him at all =]... (read in full...)

Will I feel this pain every time I have sex?

Q.   Am a girl age 17 I tried to sleep with my boyfriend for the 1st time in my life, I was a virgin n when we were starting I couldn't stand for the pain, does that mean always when I try to have sex I will feel the same pain?...

A.   14 December 2012: Its hard to tell with so few details, what kind of pain is it? If its a dry burning pain then you may need more foreplay and some artificial lubricant. Also if youre not aroused enough he can hit your cervix with his penis. It could also be that ... (read in full...)

He tells me not to worry about his cheating, because he loves me!

Q.   My boyfriend is cheating and anytime I talk about it,he goes like..he knows he is doing the wrong thing but the fact that he loves me should be enough reason for me not to worry....does he really loves me,if he does why would he cheats...am soo ...

A.   14 December 2012: If he loved you, he wouldnt do it, but he wants to have his cake and eat it which is why he tells you he loves you and that you shouldnt worry. Dont give him what he wants because its not fair on you or the other girls he may be lying to - get out ... (read in full...)

My parents want to meet my bf! Not sure if this a good idea...any advice?

Q.   Hi, I´ve been dating my bf for a quite long time. The thing is I know all his family already and I get along with them really good, because they are open minded people, funny and cheerful and I feel with them like I can talk to them about everythi...

A.   14 December 2012: You cant keep them from meeting him otherwise they will worry about you and get suspicious as to why they havent been introduced. As long as you warn your boyfriend of how strict they are and he bares this in mind, then you should be fine!... (read in full...)

Should I tell my bf that I have a crush on another guy?

Q.   Okay, so I've been going out with this boy since August and it's been okay. I know that he loves me but I don't love him back I just really like and care for him. But, there's this other boy that I have liked for about 2 years and have recentl...

A.   14 December 2012: I wouldnt tell your boyfriend that you have feelings for the other guy, but you said you dont love your boyfriend, therefore I think you should be honest about your feelings for him and leave him.... (read in full...)

Do I have feelings for my co-worker?

Q.   Recently, I've been having intimate dreams about my co-worker. He's 29. I'm almost 22. In these dreams, we kiss or have sex. It's so confusing to me because in real life, I only see him as a friend. At least, I think I do. My other co-workers ...

A.   14 December 2012: I know what its like to be confused about your feelings for someone! I think you need to spend some time alone with him, and see if any romantic feelings appear from being in that situation. It does sound to me like your dreams are trying to tell ... (read in full...)

Can't get past his excessive body hair!! Help!

Q.   Ok, Im 21, im gay, and have been going out with this amazing guy now for a couple of months. The other day we 'went all the way' for the firs time- with each other. Thing is, he's got the most amazing smile and eyes, but he is REALLY hairy on his ...

A.   12 December 2012: It might just take some getting used to. If you end up having strong feelings for him, then youll probably get over it, and if you dont, it could be a sign that your feelings for him arent that strong. You could turn it the other way and suggest ... (read in full...)

Fertility doubts!

Q.   hi! i seem to have a 32 days based period, does that make one less fertile? i wonder, i sometimes don’t get periods for 2 months do i still have a chance to conceive?...

A.   12 December 2012: It wouLdnt hurt to See a nurse but some people just have very irregular cycles. Dont panic, but make an appointment to be in the safe side.... (read in full...)

Can chemistry be built up over time??

Q.   I currently have an intimate relationship with my best friend, but when I bring up being in a relationship, she says the chemistry isn't there. I really think it's just because im not a big muscle tatted bad boy. We already get along great and ...

A.   12 December 2012: Unless she is in denial for some reason, then shes made it clear shes not interested in you in that way. Whilst it is possible for the chemistry to build up, I worry that you are keeping your options closed by waiting for her to have feelings for ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend Watching Porn In A Long Distance Relationship

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years now from opposite sides of the world. We are both 18 and we have not seen each other within the last 3 years. Everything is great except for the fact that he watches perverted things like women ...

A.   12 December 2012: You said you were in a long distance relationship, so hes not getting any sexual attention. So he could watch porn, or he could sleep with someone else, which would you prefer? I also gave a similar answer to another asker last night - any guy who ... (read in full...)

I've never been in a relationship, before, but there is a girl I want to ask out. Advice Please!

Q.   Hi i have a problem im a sophmore in high school that has never been in a real relationship ( sadly never even kissed a girl) but there is a girl in my biology class that i get my mind off of but there are two problems we hardly ever talk,she is a ...

A.   12 December 2012: You need to get to know her better. Talk to her more often when you get the chance, just as a friend, and maybe then start including her in your social activities. You may well grow closer. If she starts liking you As more than a friend, then great! ... (read in full...)

I caught my wife exchanging explicit pictures on her cell phone, is divorce imminent?

Q.   I caught my wife exchanging explicit pictures on her cell phone she says she has no attraction to this man it was purely an emotional connection I don't know if I will ever be able to trust her again children are involved is divorce imminent?...

A.   11 December 2012: If she is interested in someone else emotionally, then thats even more of a reason for you two yo split up. If it was physical with no Emotion Then it could be rectified as she may still have feelings for you and regret it. But if she was in love ... (read in full...)

I feel bad about my sex appeal knowing mean watch much better on a porn movie. Am I second best in a guy's estimation if he watches porn?

Q.   I know there are many questions about porn, but plese bear with me. So when men watch porn, do they watch it for the women's bodies? Especially girl on girl, or girls masturbating, or stripping, ie. porn that doesn't involve men at all (so it's not...

A.   11 December 2012: Nearly every guy watches porn, or so it is accepted, but that doesnt stop guys loving, lusting after, and wanting sex with a woman! Anyone with common sense knows that not everyone is going to look or do it like a porn star, and anyone that expects ... (read in full...)

How do I feel confident when my crush said I was unaatractive?

Q.   I'm not pretty and i don't think any guys will love me because i'm ugly. Every girl that i've have known who had a boyfriend were pretty and then there's me who wants a boyfriend and to know what it feels like to be loved. People find me ugly ...

A.   11 December 2012: Firstly, as a teenager, these flyaway and mean comments happen a lot, and half the time the person saying them doesnt mean it! Secondly, confidence And a great personality are more Important than appearance and a person who cant see past looks is ... (read in full...)

Fading feelings in a LDR, maybe he's not my true love?

Q.   Hi, ive been dating this guy for a while and we love each other but we've gone long distance for four months now and although we talk about marriage and spending our lives together, lately my feelings have been fading, i just don't know with him ...

A.   11 December 2012: Personally, I dont think long distance relationships work. You always miss each other, you dont have a physical relationship, and its easy to worry that theyll find someone else. Especially as you are doubting your feelings, I think you should break ... (read in full...)

Am I losing my libido?

Q.   Hi guys! It's me, again. That boyfriend that I've been talking about? Yeah, we've been together for over a year now, (hurrah, huzzah, love conquers all!) and I couldn't be happier with him. I do have a little problem, though. Recently, my li...

A.   11 December 2012: Are you on any medications or has there been a change in your routine that is making you tired? Stress in another area of your life? Have you been ill? I am guessing your feelings for him havent deteriorated so i doubt it would be that! Sometimes ... (read in full...)

Does he just prefer being married or does he really not know how to behave?

Q.   My boyfriend of 4 and half years has been pressuring me to marry him. I have been unsure because we have been making up and breaking up perpetually, over his use of dating sites. He seems to overlook how much it upsets me, even though he doesnt go ...

A.   11 December 2012: Im finding it really hard to work out this guys motive for marrying you. It really doesnt sound like he loves you, and Im wondering if its because he would get more of a thrill from cheating if you were married because its 'naughtier' as some people ... (read in full...)

Does he just prefer being married or does he really not know how to behave?

Q.   My boyfriend of 4 and half years has been pressuring me to marry him. I have been unsure because we have been making up and breaking up perpetually, over his use of dating sites. He seems to overlook how much it upsets me, even though he doesnt go ...

A.   11 December 2012: Im finding it really hard to work out this guys motive for marrying you. It really doesnt sound like he loves you, and Im wondering if its because he would get more of a thrill from cheating if you were married because its 'naughtier' as some people ... (read in full...)

Is there a disease that gets worse when you have sex?

Q.   Is there such a disease that gets worse when you have sex and therefore the doctor will be able to tell whether you're having sex or not?...

A.   11 December 2012: Yeah, sexually transmitted diseases Are caught from having sex. But I think the real question is, why do you ask? Message me, I wont judge :-)... (read in full...)

He says he's using porn to remind himself of me

Q.   My ex boyfriend and i fell out over his porn use. He claimed he looked at women who look like me to recreate the joy he had from the night before, he was a virgin and claimed it left him buzzing. However he didn't say he often used to it to think ...

A.   11 December 2012: Every guy watches porn. Most boyfriends and husbands watch porn. For a guy, its normal. Plenty of girls have fantasies about other guys. But guys just like that extra stimulus. If he was avoiding sex with you, and watching porn, then you have a ... (read in full...)

Why do men prefer light skinned girls?

Q.   Most people say I'm really pretty and I have no trouble getting the Guy I want. But I'm Spanish and Mexican American, though my skin color is brown but not dark brown. I always hear guys mention they prefer light skinned girls. Is there anything ...

A.   11 December 2012: Its all personal taste, some men prefer darker girls, why do you think so many wear fake tan?! It may just be a coincidence that you heard these guys. Some guys like pale girls, some like darker ones, most probably dont have a preference! Everyone ... (read in full...)

How can I determine if he is just a really nice guy, or is he also interested in me?

Q.   I am 19 years old, and I have never had a boyfriend. I've never been kissed, asked out, or even had anybody hold my hand. I think this is because I use to give off an aura that I wasn't approachable, but that isn't the case anymore. I really ...

A.   9 December 2012: I think you need to take a look At his body language here as this can tell you a lot. Here are a few signs that he might be interested: His pupils dilate when he looks at you He leans into you when hes talking to you He makes a lot of phy... (read in full...)

My B/f snores at night and I cant sleep!

Q.   Does anyone have any advice for my situation? I have been with my boyfriend only a few months. I am 23 he is 27.His an amazing guy and we get along like a house on fire. My problem is, he snores at night and i cant sleep! His a bit overweight a...

A.   9 December 2012: Youwish has a great idea with the ear plugs! There are also probably tips online about how not to snore. I think sleeping on your back makes you snore more so you could try and convince him to sleep on his side. But if that doesnt work, I would just ... (read in full...)

Do you think moving in together without an engagement is a good idea?

Q.   I wanted to get your take on being engaged before moving in together. I've been with my significant other (SO) for almost 4 years. I am 24, just finishing up my last year of University. He is 28, finished college two years ago and is still str...

A.   9 December 2012: I have always thought that it is best to move in together before committing to something as serious as marriage, because a lot of couples crack under the pressure Of being together constantly and running a house together. If thats gonna happen its ... (read in full...)

She loves me and doesn't want to hurt him (boyfriend)!

Q.   I dont understand what it is like.. She loves me but she says she doesn't want to hurt his bf.. Shes confused.. but today his bf came to know that she talks to me..So its like everything is shattered right now! I was talking to her n we both were c...

A.   9 December 2012: I thinkyou need to point out to her that by carrying on like this all three of you are suffering. If she leaves him, he will be upset at first, but will then have a chance to find a better relationship so it works out better for everyone.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend didnt invite me to go see the movie and went with his friends instead! Am I overeacting?

Q.   my bf recently shifted to my city.its been 4months since he is in my city.earlier we were in a long distance relationship since 3 years.my bf planned out for a movie with his guy friends and he didnt invite me! this was really shocking for me.when i ...

A.   9 December 2012: Well if hes being verbqlly abusive and is making up excuses then I would leave before it escalates.... (read in full...)

How do users and abusers live with themselves?

Q.   Dear Cupid I have a generic question, the abusive boy friends or the ones who use people for their purpose and throw them away like dirt, how do they live with themselves, knowing that they hurt several people. I have a bf I believe soon to ...

A.   7 December 2012: Most of the time, their behaviour stems from one of two deep seated issues: either they have had problems at a young age that caused the behaviour, if their father was abusive then they may believe their behaviour is normal. Either that, or they ... (read in full...)

I am embarrassed by my lack of sexual experience.

Q.   I am currently a freshmen at college and go out regularly in the party scene where I meet a lot of nice and attractive guys who seem to be very interested. I'm not afraid to give out my number to a guy after talking to them at more then a couple ...

A.   7 December 2012: Youre clearly not comfortable with losing It to a guy you rarely know, so dont look for that kind of attention. Make friends, and as soon as you find yourself in a relationship, then you decide whether the time and the person are right. Dont do ... (read in full...)

How do I actually get over a girl and just continue with my life?

Q.   So I am 17 I live in Massachusetts and I have a girlfriend who I care about a lot, I don't know if I love her which probably means I don't but maybe I do. I think too much and get really stuck on things involving relationships and girls as a result, ...

A.   7 December 2012: Its good that youre leaving early in the relationship as you are less attached to her than if you were leaving a long term relationship. Youre 17 so you have your whole life ahead of you, relationships formed at this age rarely go far. You will feel ... (read in full...)

Could he be seeing someone else?

Q.   My boyfriend and I were dating for 3yrs, I helped him financial when needed for his mother's meds or and family members including his kids etc.everything went well or so I thought.he will be retiring the armed force in Feb next yr,and now all of a ...

A.   7 December 2012: I dont think finding out if he was seeing someone else will achieve Anything, because it wont change anything And will just make you feel worse. He has made it clear that He no longer feels the same about you And you cant force him to change his ... (read in full...)

How can someone who used to love me so much now seem to hate me when all I've done is be kind and thoughtful?

Q.   A person that I am very close to is shutting me out. She has had some big problems in her life in the past few months and I have stuck by her all the way. I help her constantly but lately she is shutting me out. Lately when we hang out she is rude ...

A.   7 December 2012: Maybe she takes it out on you because she thinks she can get away with it? You need to make it clear that she can call you if she needs to, but youre not going to go out of your way to help her without her asking and that her lack of gratitude is ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont have sex or go anywhere near my "man parts" when she's on her period.

Q.   Is it wrong for me to be extremely frustrated at the fact that my girlfriend won't go anyone near my genitals when she's on her period? We can be hooking up and it will get intense and she'll stop us and tell me she "doesn't want to get too horny, ...

A.   7 December 2012: If she is not comfortable with having sex on her period then you cant make her. And I can see where shes coming from if she thinks its unfair that you get pleasure and she doesnt. Why not make a compromise where you give her pleasure without ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend didnt invite me to go see the movie and went with his friends instead! Am I overeacting?

Q.   my bf recently shifted to my city.its been 4months since he is in my city.earlier we were in a long distance relationship since 3 years.my bf planned out for a movie with his guy friends and he didnt invite me! this was really shocking for me.when i ...

A.   7 December 2012: I think you are overreacting a bit. He doesnt have to do everything with you, It is important for both of you to spend a bit of time apart and spend time with your friends. If its happening all the time then you have a problem, but you should do ... (read in full...)

Doesnt he really not care about me? Or am I worrying about nothing?

Q.   Hey I am with this guy since a long time ....but i sometimes feel he doesnt care for me. I dont understand how to determine that its just all in my head or if he really doesnt ... I am right now upset ...yesterday night ...he was with his cousins...

A.   7 December 2012: Its hard to tell whats going on without knowing more about the situation or your relationship history together. The odd argument is totally normal in a relationship, but is it happening all the time? Are any other aspects of your Relationship being ... (read in full...)

Would I be right to tell anyone I meet in the future that I'm a virgin because I feel like I am, despite having tried to have sex a number of times?

Q.   Dear cupids, I do not know how to explain how I feel at the moment. I am disgusted with myself. After I experienced bleeding, I still tried to have sex again like a month after. I bled again and every time I bleed. I believe I am still a virgin cos ...

A.   7 December 2012: Bleeding every time you have sex isnt right and you really ought to see a doctor as there could be something wrong. When you do have sex, explain the situation so he knows to go very easy on you and be patient.... (read in full...)

I'm getting feelings for my married friend. Is she into me as well?

Q.   Ok first off I'm a single guy and this is something that just happened I didn't plan it. I have a married female friend I have recently reunited with, a few weeks ago she came to see me at my house to watch our favorite shows. She's always told me ...

A.   7 December 2012: She may well have feelings for you, but I wouldnt risk making a move on her as a. She might not feel the same way, and b. Stating the obvious, shes married! But if you dk both have feelings for each other it would be a waste not to act on them and ... (read in full...)

She loves me and doesn't want to hurt him (boyfriend)!

Q.   I dont understand what it is like.. She loves me but she says she doesn't want to hurt his bf.. Shes confused.. but today his bf came to know that she talks to me..So its like everything is shattered right now! I was talking to her n we both were c...

A.   7 December 2012: I can understand her frustration, as Ive been there myself. But if she doesnt love him, then she shouldnt stay with him, Not only because shes not truly happy but also shes making you unhappy and shes giving her boyfriend false hope and preventing ... (read in full...)

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