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If I get turned on by both men and women, does it make me bisexual?

Q.   If i get turned on by both men and women does that make me bi-sexual? becuase welll when i see a man naked or topless i get really turned on, but also whenever im flirting with a girl or just see one i get really turned like yeah i dunno if ...

A.   27 August 2009: Don't get hung up on labels like "bisexual". If you get turned on by seeing both men and women, enjoy it. Don't worry right now about which way you'll want to go eventually, and don't rush to decide. Anyway, it's worth remembering that it's not... (read in full...)

My friend died. Could I have stopped it? Do I talk to my friend about it or will it cause him problems?

Q.   This is kinda a long qustion and one that has probably been a long time coming but which has suddenly been brought to the surface. I'm in a really awkward situation and I don't know what to do. When I was 14, my best friend killed himself. ...

A.   26 August 2009: I think you need to settle it in your own mind, not talk to anyone else about it and certainly not to someone who was close to your friend who died. Why don't you go to.. wherever his final resting place was, or if that's not possible, go somewher... (read in full...)

Ever met someone so perfect that you're ashamed of your baser feelings/instinct?

Q.   Have you ever met someone who is so beautiful, so pure, intelligent, fun-loving and wittingly sweet that it makes you feel ashamed of your baser cravings and the animalistic urge to make her your own? I didn't know people like her existed ...

A.   26 August 2009: You say you "can't have her". Why not? If you don't try, you'll never know. Oh there are plenty of women who are totally in control of themselves, but you do need to look past the outward facade and see whether she's really as beautiful and perf... (read in full...)

I'm really worried! What exactly is making my erection disappear?

Q.   ok, im 17 and i have a girlfriend who is 16 and we've been together for a year now, we've had lots of foreplay but whenever we've tried to have sex, whenever i've tried to put on a condom on, my erection disappears. i've definately been putting the ...

A.   7 November 2008: First, stop worrying about it. Second - well, you're 17? And so you're masturbating regularly, right? Try stopping the masturbation - and I don't mean stop it altogether, just for a day or maybe a couple of days before you're likely to be... (read in full...)

He confessed he had sex with a prostitute while on a business trip!

Q.   We have been married for last 6 years and I would like to say happily until last week when my husband confessed that he had sex with a prostitute recently on an official trip. I have sort of forgiven him and have been trying to come to terms with ...

A.   7 November 2008: At the very least, I would suggest you make sure he feels extremely guilty about this: shout, scream, show how much it has hurt you. Deliver ultimata about what's going to happen if he ever does anything like this again. In short, make absolutely ... (read in full...)

Is my husband's overnight meeting anything to worry about?

Q.   I have recently found an e.mail from a female colleague of my husband who asked him if he got back safely from a recent meeting where he stayed overnight. Do you think this is anything to worry about considering he said she wasn't even there?...

A.   30 September 2008: No. On its own it's not something to worry about. Concern about a co-worker who is going away is common, perfectly normal, and a sign of friendship - which is always good. However, there's always the possibility that there is more to it. The... (read in full...)

Girl who needs advice about forplay and teasing with another girl, help!!

Q.   Heya, So, I've got a girlfriend (I am A girl as well) And I'd like some advice on teasing. I'm not to good at foreplay, so I don't suppose you might be inclined to give me some tips in this feild? I've got the neck nibbling and the point under the ...

A.   10 September 2008: People respond differently to different actions on different parts of the body. It doesn't really make much difference whether it's girl/girl or heterosexual. I suggest you experiment and watch for the reaction. It's not hard to see it when ... (read in full...)

I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?

Q.   Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...

A.   22 August 2008: So she did, Eyes. My mistake. I'm always 'erring like that.... (read in full...)

I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?

Q.   Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...

A.   22 August 2008: Eyes! Surely you're not suggesting that she might be a little CHUBBy?... (read in full...)

I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?

Q.   Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...

A.   22 August 2008: AND, I should add, when I say "a real winkle", I mean a man with a real winkle (and some mussels). Don't be so shelfish. I look forward to hearing that you've given up any idea of doing it with fish. It would warm the cockles of my heart. ... (read in full...)

I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?

Q.   Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...

A.   22 August 2008: Hmmm... It smells fishy to me. OK. I'll try to be a Ray of light, so don't be a Crabby old Trout if you think my answer's off the Scale. I'm sure the solution will surface, if you sea what I mean. Personally, I Codn't imagine anyone wa... (read in full...)

We are first cousins, and I was told there's a huge possibility that we would have abnormal babies. Is this true?

Q.   Hi dear, I am in trouble and if anyone knows about this can you please reply to me back as soon as you can. My problem is that someone told me few days ago that if we marry our cousin (kids of two sisters) there is a huge possibility that we ...

A.   20 August 2008: It's NOT a high risk that there will be anything wrong with a baby born to first cousins. With couples who aren't related, the risk of a baby having an abnormality of some sort is about 2% - i.e. 2 out of every hundred babies born. For first co... (read in full...)

I want to make porn movies. How can I protect myself from diseases?

Q.   i am 19 years old girl and i am interested to join a porn movie making company. i like sex so much.i want to enjoy the sex with different male parterner in different style. but i do not have so much knowledge about the physical deseases generated ...

A.   19 August 2008: Are you really sure this is what you want to do? Once you start making porn movies you are rather stuck in that sort of lifestyle, and it closes all sorts of other options in your life simply because many people see being a porn actress as putting ... (read in full...)

Nipples, or cleavage?

Q.   Do men prefer seeing hard nipples through a shirt or ample cleavage?...I have both...

A.   14 August 2008: Tellulah! Spoilsport :(... (read in full...)

Nipples, or cleavage?

Q.   Do men prefer seeing hard nipples through a shirt or ample cleavage?...I have both...

A.   14 August 2008: The answer is "YES"!! Actually, the suggestion of cleavage rather than a huge expanse of flesh is often more interesting - and the faint impression of a nipple is far more intriguing than an enormous pointy thing trying to escape. But, I have... (read in full...)

I want to be the 'Miss' and him the 'Master', but it seems like he don't want to control me!

Q.   How do I get my husband to be controlling in the bedroom? I want to be the miss and him be the master. But it seems like he don't want to control me, or make me do things to him, but that's the only thing that gets me off, and in the mood. Can an...

A.   14 August 2008: Tell him what you like. You have to explain it step-by-step so that he understands. Control and domination in the bedroom is an area that is a great turn-on for loads of people, but those who haven't really considered it often have great dificult... (read in full...)

My 11 year old is ill and I'm supposed to be in court... she says she will be fine but...?

Q.   Today could only get slightly worse, but not much. I have been up since 3am with my 11 yr old daughter. She has been sick twice. Some sort of tummy bug. At 2pm i'm suppose to be in court at a hearing to put £1000 charge order on my exes house th...

A.   14 August 2008: If you're really worried about leaving your daughter then phone the court, explain, and ask for an adjournment. Courts in the UK are usually flexible and understanding, but you must contact them before the hearing if you aren't going. ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with Beyoncé...

Q.   i can't stop loving beyonce, what the hell should i do?...

A.   14 August 2008: I know how you feel. It's one of the great injustices of life that our love for the world's greatest Goddesses is destined to remain unrequited. But what would you do with her if she said she loved you? On second thoughts, don't answer tha... (read in full...)

I have joined a church where you can receive the Holy Ghost, I have a medical problem, which causes irregular hearbeating, how do I tell what is spiritual and what is related to my medical condition?

Q.   hi. i have recently started attending a church where spiritual things happen. and one of them is getting the holy ghost. now i have a problem. i have just been diagnosed with synus arrythmia.irregular change in heart beat caused by breathing. i need ...

A.   11 August 2008: It doesn't matter whether it's due to your arrythmia. What matters is that you believe, and if what you feel is because of the arrythmia then maybe that's the way it was supposed to be. I know it's a cliché, but "God moves in mysterious ways" - ... (read in full...)

She made me get rid of my photos, but is holding on to hers

Q.   My wife made me destroy all the pictures I had of all former women, just friends also. Recently I just found pictures of some of her old boyfriends also (one of whom she has his name and hers tattooed on her leg)when we were going through some old ...

A.   10 August 2008: I wouldn't have married her if she was like that. In my view, no one, absolutely no one, has any right to make you destroy any part of your past - even if you have moved on from it. And, similarly, you have no right to demand that she gets rid... (read in full...)

Married, and thought I was over being bi. What's going on?

Q.   Dear All A really strange thing happened to me...I used to be bi sexual . .. well umm not exactly. i was just influenced by some lesbian gfs and i got it on with a girl.. Also at that time my parents were very strict and i wasnt allowed to date ...

A.   10 August 2008: It turns you on because it's sexual attraction and you happen to have sexual feelings for both sexes. There's no great mystery about it. Many (most?) people, bisexual or not, feel a sexual attraction for other people even when they've made the... (read in full...)

Old age, love and incest, is that so wrong?

Q.   Hello...My name is Leonard I am 80 years old been carrying on a relationship with my 66 year old married sister. I to am married, but we're in love. We have had sex together and will more, when we can. We both are in unhappy marrages and we live far...

A.   10 August 2008: "In reality, what's so wrong with it?" you ask. In reality, you are both married to other partners. Yes, I agree, the practicalities on which the incest laws are based don't enter into it. The reality is that you are both cheating on your mar... (read in full...)

I'm paranoid my boyfriend will break his promise - help!

Q.   My boyfriend took cocaine infront of me and i can't get over it. Me and my boyfriend have been together over 8 months now and we have spent almost everyday together, we never really argue and were like best friends. One weekend we was at his...

A.   8 August 2008: From what you've said, I don't think you have anything much to worry about. Cocaine, as you no doubt know, is a dangerous drug. But it's primarily a "social drug" which means that the people who get addicted are the ones who take it regularl... (read in full...)

What should I do about my sister watching lesbian porn?!

Q.   Many times i have caught my sister watching porn and kind of grinding to a stack of pillows (the way a man would to a woman). anyway, it was lesbian porn and shes 12 years old. i didnt tell her i knew in case of embarrassment. but i dont know if its ...

A.   8 August 2008: You shouldn't do anything, because it's nothing to do with you. Whilst it's not desirable for a 12 year old to be looking at any sort of porn, it's not doing any real harm. If you are seriously concerned that the type of porn she is watching... (read in full...)

All the answers for "I don't know what to do when I'm on top".... Well they're not working for me! Help!

Q.   Okay, I know there's loads of questions from girls out there asking "I don't know what to do when I'm on top", and theoretically the answers are pretty good. But they don't seem to be working for me. My boyfriend doesn't really mind, but he still ...

A.   8 August 2008: I know that not everyone would feel comfortable with this but... With him lying flat on his back, get on top and get him "in" (if you see what I mean!!). Then do it to yourself. ... and if he still moves around in directions you don't... (read in full...)

The size of my boobs is worrying me

Q.   i have a slight problem, i'm only 17 but i constantly feel paranoid about the size of my boobs. i dont know my actual size, but i am rather small. i was just wondering what types of bras are better to push them together and up. i currently wear g...

A.   8 August 2008: Tubby is good (although I would call it "cuddly"). There's an old (and not too respectful) phrase that describes it as "all that meat and no potatoes" !! Well, personally I like my meat much better than the potatoes. Potatoes just get in t... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't want me to talk to my mum! What do I do?

Q.   this is a very long story but ill give you the shortened version. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. He moved in about 10 months ago with me and my two children. When we first met I told him alot of lies and he only found out ...

A.   7 August 2008: You can't let your boyfriend stop you seeing your close relatives, particularly not your mother. But equally, you can't let your mum's hate for him or his hate for her break up your relationship and your future with him. You need him too. I don... (read in full...)

I've advertised myself on a porn site - I feel dirty!

Q.   i have posted myself on a porn website and now i feel dirty and dont know what to do?...

A.   7 August 2008: Really? What site was it? I'm sure we can get your posting removed without too much of a problem.... (read in full...)

Having sex with my first cousin.

Q.   Hey Last night me and my cousin got a bit drunk and we started making out, even tho we stopped a few times saying this isn't right.. but still we kept doing it. Today she told me that she wants to have sex with me and that she can't believe s...

A.   31 July 2008: Let's correct some of the comments here, because they are factually wrong. Babies born from first cousins do NOT have a high risk of birth defects. Research into it has put the figure at around 4% - which compares to around 2% for the general ... (read in full...)

Why do men look at other women?

Q.   Why do married men--or any man for that matter--stare at other women when they want to be with you and they love you and all that stuff? Men are so confusing sometimes I'm surprised I have nerves left....

A.   31 July 2008: What a lot of complicated answers. I don't think it's complicated. Men look at women because women look nice. Very nice. Extremely nice. Women are worth looking at. Just because you might happen to drive the best car you could possibly b... (read in full...)

Please explain sex / oral sex to me and give tips...

Q.   i have recently gotten into a relationship with a man a year younger than me.. we are really happy apart from the fact that he will surely expect me to sleep with him soon, altho he has put no pressure on me so dont get me wrong i really want to. ...

A.   30 July 2008: First, he won't be disappointed. If the relationship is right for both of you and you both know it's time for sex, then it may not be perfect first time but it certainly won't be a disappointment. I think the most important thing to remembe... (read in full...)

Am I wrong for giving him an ultimatum to not be in his child's life?

Q.   Am I wrong for asking him to not be in the child's life cause honestly I dont think I can handle it if he is, because that means he will have to be in this OW's life as well for the child's sake. He has no business with them. I dont think I'm wrong ...

A.   30 July 2008: You aren't going to find your answer by throwing around quotations from the Bible, mainly because for nearly every extract there's another that can be interpreted as meaning something different. If, however, you take the Christian message as a ... (read in full...)

We are more like friends than a couple now. Is it time to move on?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and in the past 6 months our sex life has gone completly, even kisses and cuddles have gone. I have tried more or less everything. We are more like friends now as we have nothing in common like we use ...

A.   29 July 2008: Maybe. But take a step back, and consider whether this is the person you could get on with for the rest of your life. Love, passion, always having everything in common - it's all very nice but in the real world it just doesn't happen for ever. Y... (read in full...)

Should I hold back, and only say "I love you" as much as he does?

Q.   Been with my boyfriend 3 months and he recently told me he loves me which was amazing as I felt the same way so I told him back! Now since then he doesn't say it very often, and I've found myself telling him that I love him more than he has told...

A.   29 July 2008: Say what you feel, and don't worry about it. There are few people who don't like being told how much someone loves them. Some people are good with words. Some people say a lot without meaning most of it. Some people have trouble finding ... (read in full...)

How do you know if you are ready for sex?

Q.   how do you know if your ready for sex???...

A.   29 July 2008: To answer the question, you know you are ready for sex when you find someone you genuinely love enough to want to share the most intimate parts of your body and to share theirs. The problem is, of course, that your feelings, your emotions... (read in full...)

What is sexual contact, and is it illegal to have any sexual contact with someone under 16?

Q.   i just wondering if u could help me what is sexual contact??? is it illgal to have any sexual contact with a person who is younger than 16? ...

A.   29 July 2008: The legal definition of sexual contact is "touching intimate parts of the body, including thighs, genitals, buttocks, the pubic region or the breast/chest area or the clothing covering those parts and/or using intimate parts of the body to touch ... (read in full...)

The word 'cousin' is keeping him apart from me, I've never felt love like this before!

Q.   I have fallen totally in love with my 1st cousin and he feels the same but he feels he cant move forward with me because of the word cousin,we have always had a special bond between us and have only just recently meet up at a relatives funeral after ...

A.   29 July 2008: Yes, it's legal in the UK for first cousins to live together, to have a sexual relationship, and to marry if they wish. I don't see why it should be a problem for either of you, and if anyone else doesn't like it that's their problem, not yours!... (read in full...)

Why do women like "bad boys", and why do so many people cheat?

Q.   Just wanted to know people theory's why there are so many in relationships who cheat? Can you really love someone and cheat on them? What is it with women and the whole "bad boy" image? It seems the better you treat a woman the worse they treat...

A.   28 July 2008: Actually, not so many people cheat as you might believe. Unfortunately by reading sites like this you get a somewhat distorted view of the world - because there aren't too many people asking questions who haven't got some sort of problem. And, wo... (read in full...)

How do I stop cheating with my friend, when I have a boyfriend ?

Q.   i have a boyfriend and a really great friend! I have an affair with this friend how can i stop it? he knows I hav a BF and doesnt want to say anything that will ruin my BF and can i stop the love life with my friend, i dont think i need it if ...

A.   28 July 2008: You tell him "I need to stop this now because I have a boyfriend." As you said, he'll always be there for you. And if he's a real friend, then he won't question it. If he IS a real friend, then I'm surprised he didn't suggest it first - because ... (read in full...)

How can I get rid of really bad breath?

Q.   Hi okay this is pretty embarassing, I have had really bad breath for a while maybe like a week or something... anyways I have tried so many remedies like tongue scraping, mouthwash, chewing parsley, and many others and it just isn't working!! My ...

A.   28 July 2008: Look up "tonsil stones" or "tonsiloliths" (check spelling). They're one of the most frequent causes of bad breath, and particularly common in young adults. Try to avoid eating anything for an hour or so before you go to bed, and have a good, cle... (read in full...)

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