Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 2 April 2012: My thoughts are the same as most of the others here - best you tell your partner about what's happened.
Also, you're best friend knows about it...that's one person too many, even if she is a trusted, lifelong friend.
It's not going to be easy... (read in full...)
Do you remember how/why you found Dear Cupid and did it help?
Q. Not a dating/relationship question as such, but just curious...Do you remember why/how you came across Dear Cupid and do you take that into account when answering questions? E.G. When you tell someone to move on/dump their partner, do you ...
A. 28 February 2012: Yes, I remember why I came here and will always be in debt to the kind Aunts & Uncles who have helped me on my way.
When I answer to a problem, I always answer it from my own experiences and instincts. Yes, I know what its like to finish with a p... (read in full...)
Can a woman propose to her boyfriend?
Q. In this day and age, is it completely out of line for a woman to propose to a man?...
A. 28 February 2012: Of course it is - in fact its a Leap Year so its said to be traditional for the lady to propose to the man!!!
Doesn't mean they will say yes though...!!... (read in full...)
What at the signs that differentiate between being friendly and flirting?
Q. during a conversation with a stranger (for example, at a place of work), what are signs a guy is flirting as opposed to just being friendly? what do you consider the stereotypical "weather" conversation? what kind of things would you do/talk about ...
A. 26 February 2012: Flirting can be shown in different ways: touching (arms, shoulders, etc) laughing / smiling a lot during conversation, making fun of each other in a playful way, etc. Depends on the person I suppose. I think you just notice the way they behave is ... (read in full...)
Is my ex jealous that I have met someone else?
Q. Is my ex boyfriend jealous that i have met someone else?. The guy i am currently dating is a lot older than me, but me ex is a bit younger than me. My ex sent me a text message saying " The old dirty b*****d can have you. I wash my hands of you ", ...
A. 13 February 2012: I think you should delete your ex's text message and number and move on from him. It's non of his business who you are with now and his actions only show how bitter and spiteful he is.
You go on seeing your new boyfriend and enjoying your own life... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex, who hurt me or wait for him to contact me?
Q. I'm curious if any men out there ever wished they could get their ex back after leaving them for someone else and then a yr. or so later realized you had made a huge mistake or the one you hooked up with ended up dumping you? Were you too much of ...
A. 13 February 2012: I see there being two ways you can go with this. First, forget about him completely and focus on your own life and your own future. Move on without him. The fact that he finished with you over a year ago and hasn't been in touch with you si... (read in full...)
Is he annoyed with getting with me or what?
Q. Hello:) I've got a few questions, but first, here's a quick overview. Basically i'm almost 16 and i had my first kiss last weekend. It was at a party but the guy and i had been talking for about 3 hours, during which time i had tested him to ma...
A. 13 February 2012: To me it sounds like he's being really immature by writing things like that on his FB. Anyone reading that will see just how childish he is, so he's not doing himself any favours.
It could also be, of course, that he has been teased by his frie... (read in full...)
We had a date I broke it and now he's ignoring me
Q. Basically, I've known this boy for months and i met him from a boy who i was seeing, the night i met him my best friend slept with him. About 7 months later, he messaged me on Facebook and we got talking and meeting up, i haven't told anyone this ...
A. 13 February 2012: I agree with Cerberus here. If he was genuinely interested he would have asked you out to go on a proper date with him. Unless of course you had already asked him to go round to your place.
The fact that he got all moody about you cancelli... (read in full...)
We are going on a walk for our date. I need tips so its not boring!
Q. I fixed a meeting with a girl whom i really like.we plan on taking a walk when we meet,but i'm so shy and i don't know want to mess up this date.please help me with tips that i need to make this walk with her the best and not a boring,one sided ...
A. 13 February 2012: Well, I would say just be yourself and enjoy your friends company and it should all fall into place naturally.
Ask your friend questions about herself and pay attention to what she says! Talk about her work, family, hobbies, interests, etc. Not... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to send a ''thanks (not) for the memories," to my ex, or should I just leave it alone?
Q. I want to let my ex know that Im finally happy thanks to him. We were together for 4 years but messing around for 5 1/2. He cheated the whole time but I loved him so much I stayed. I finally came to my senses and left even after I left I still went...
A. 6 February 2012: I have to agree with the others on this and say not to bother about getting back at him.
Someone once told me: "Don't get bitter, get better!"
If you write to him he will see it as a sign that you are still emotional and haven't really m... (read in full...)
Can retroactive jealousy turn into violence?
Q. can retroactive jealousy eventually turn into the male or female to get violent?...
A. 12 October 2011: Yes, I'm sure it could. If the person who is suffering with the jealousy can't control it or do something to help themselves, then they will wind up getting bitter, angry and then resent the other person.
This could then lead them to dealing ... (read in full...)
The girl I want to date says I have to surprise her! How do I do that?
Q. Hi everyone from Dear Cupid... I am going to take this girl out on a date pretty soon, I really like her and she feels the same but she said I'll just have to surprise her first and then we'll see what's good. So I need help and input on where I...
A. 12 October 2011: I've found that going to somewhere you can actually sit and talk is good for a first date - go for a meal, drink, etc.
If you go to somewhere like the pictures, then you will both spend most of the time sitting in silnce watching the film and... (read in full...)
I get turned on hearing about my girlfriend's exes...how do I get her to talk about it for me?
Q. I really want my girlfriend to tell me about her past sexual experiences during sex. After hearing a little bit about her previous relationships, I want to hear more. It's not that I want her to sleep with another man, just that I want her to use ...
A. 25 September 2011: I agree with the replies below - you might think you want to hear about your girlfriends sexual history during your love making, but the reality of it might be another thing. Why don't you just ask her if she would invent something for yo... (read in full...)
I applied the 'no contact' rule, but last night I caved in and texted him
Q. Recently I wrote about the affair that I had ended I've been working really hard on keeping busy etc but last night I broke 'no contact' and text him. What should I do if he replies? Should I just ignore it and carry on with NC? I've tried d...
A. 24 September 2011: First, I'd like to say don't be too hard on yourself for breaking the 'NCR'. It really is one of the most difficult things to put in place and stick to. During a split with an ex-girlfriend some years ago, I was told about the NCR and thought it w... (read in full...)
If I tell her I like her, would that make her like me back?
Q. Hi, I'm needing some help, there is a girl I like but I can't seem to be able to tell her as she doesn't like me back, but if I tell her could that make her start to like me? And obviously should I tell her?...
A. 19 September 2011: Are you sure she doesn't like you back? Have you spoken to her already?
If you haven't spoken to her already, I would approach her and ask her out on a date. You've got nothing to lose. If she says 'No' then at least you will know, but she migh... (read in full...)
I told him it wasn't working out and now he's all psycho
Q. Hi, this might drag on but ill try not to ramble! So i have just split up with somone because he didnt want a relationship he now has a new girlfriend and im finding it hard to get over it. Anyway just after we broke up a new boy came to our scho...
A. 19 September 2011: He sounds like someone who is controlling, immature and can't take 'no' for an answer.
If he really did like you and wanted to help you by being there for you, he wouldn't become verbally abusive and act childish. He has shown his true colours ... (read in full...)
Going to be 30 and still a virgin! What do I do?
Q. I need some advice, I am the big 30 next year and I hate to say i but still a virgin. I don't get much male attention and I have never had a proper boyfriend infact I have only ever had one date and after a couple days I found out that he asked me ...
A. 19 September 2011: Don't be too hard on yourself!! I'm sure you've got a lot of nice qualities which you haven't told us. The men at your work think you are good looking and there's nothing wrong with being shy. The fact that you've spoken openly here also shows ... (read in full...)
Is this girl flirting with me, or just being nice?
Q. I have a crush on a girl I work with. She has done a few things that make me think she might feel the same. I should highlight that she is very nice and friendly with everyone so I could be wrong. Anyway... She laughs at all my bad jokes, and r...
A. 18 September 2011: I agree with the others here - ask her out and you'll know for sure!
No harm in trying and you might regret it later if you don't.
Good luck!!
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Is it appropriate to add someone to facebook if you just met them?
Q. hello, short question. Is it apropriate to add a girl on facebook if you met her at a party?(it was my friends 21st birthday party). We danced all night together, it was exhausting! She started grinding on me a bit as well. I only got her first ...
A. 25 August 2011: Nice one!!! Glad it worked out for you!
All the best.
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Is it appropriate to add someone to facebook if you just met them?
Q. hello, short question. Is it apropriate to add a girl on facebook if you met her at a party?(it was my friends 21st birthday party). We danced all night together, it was exhausting! She started grinding on me a bit as well. I only got her first ...
A. 24 August 2011: Yes, of course! Add a message to the request telling her who you are or how you met, etc - just in case she can't remember too well!!
Hope it works out for you!
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I enjoy being single, why is everyone asking when I'll get in a relationship?
Q. Im happily single dont get me wrong ive been having fun with a few guys (with protection and the pill obviously) but everyone keeps asking me if im with anyone and when im going to get into a relationship. Im only 20! Im enjoying being a single ...
A. 21 August 2011: It's your life and you decide what's best for you!!
There will always be people around who think they know what's best for you. Even if you are in a relationship there might be someone telling you "he's not the one for you, etc" so tell them to ... (read in full...)
After almost 4 years I still miss my ex
Q. I have a common problem with a specific scenario: I miss my ex, still, after three, nearly four years. It makes me feel like a weak and undeserving person. We met in high school my senior year while he was a sophomore and had a completely wonde...
A. 21 August 2011: Reading this brought back memories of a similiar situation I found myself in a few years back. I was with a girl for almost ten years, we got married, got divorced and we both went our seperate ways. I met someone else and lived with her for 5 y... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate to add someone to facebook if you just met them?
Q. hello, short question. Is it apropriate to add a girl on facebook if you met her at a party?(it was my friends 21st birthday party). We danced all night together, it was exhausting! She started grinding on me a bit as well. I only got her first ...
A. 21 August 2011: I would say give it a go! What have you got to lose? Don't build your hopes up though in case she rejects your request - it might be that she is a private person who might be selective with friends. I know someone who will have only family memb... (read in full...)
Should I move on or try to get him back?
Q. I been out with this guy loads of times over the last month and I really like him. But on our last one he seemed a bit off and like he didn't want to be there. We haven't spoken in about a week but I was busy anyway so thought nothing of it. I got a ...
A. 9 August 2011: Well, it does look like it was his way of saying goodbye. The fact that he says you both want different things and when you find someone...etc show that he's saying it's over.
Add to the fact that he was a bit off with you during your last mee... (read in full...)
Is my male friend living in hope?
Q. At the beginning of the year I decided I need to widen my social circle and find friends who have children the same age as my daughter. Emailed a few people on Facebook that I went to school with and now back in touch with some old school ...
A. 8 August 2011: Well, he's just shown you his true colours by sending that message. Obviously only wanted to get to know you for his own reasons. His loss at the end of the day!
Good to know that you are taking this in your stride. Hope you don't get anymore ... (read in full...)
Words or action, which speaks the truth about this man?
Q. They say action speak louder than words, but I'd like to hear it one more time from you aunts please. My boyfriend says one thing, but his body language and actions make me wonder if his word alone is good enough. He tells me he loves me, yet ke...
A. 7 August 2011: Yes, actions do often speak louder than words and your boyfriend is proving that here. How long have you been together and was he always 'forgetful' or is it just a recent thing? The fact that he is being hot and cold with you shows that the... (read in full...)
Should I send this actor a message on facebook before I send a friend request
Q. Should i send this actor a message on facebook before i send a friend request ?. He isn't a very well known actor. We used to email each other a lot, from our email addresses, not on facebook, as his email is on his website. I also added his sister ...
A. 7 August 2011: As you have already made some form of contact with him, I would say it's worth a try. If you explain to him who you are (about your website and previous e-mails, etc) then he might just be okay with you being on his FB.
Don't get your hopes up... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep hurting me?
Q. What does he keep hurting me like this? what is wrong with me:(? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I thought we had a relationship, I thought I was special to him the way he was special to me. But he broke up with me saying he doesn't want a r...
A. 7 August 2011: He will continue to do this as long as you let him!!
He tells you he doesn't want a relationship but is soon back at your side, sharing time with you, holding hands, etc. Then he's telling you that he's having sex with some other girl!
He's ob... (read in full...)
Why does he act so destructive after we get close?
Q. Dear all. Please help. I.m so hurt and confused. I,ve been seeing my bf for around 5 months. Over the last month,we have got closer,and i feel i.ve started to fall in love with him. It appears that he has too. The emotions are running very high,and ...
A. 7 August 2011: Have you asked him outright why he is behaving this way? Hate to suggest this but could it be that he's seeing someone else?
Yes, when he's with you he will tell you what you want to hear, he loves you, etc but then to change your arrangem... (read in full...)
Asking the girl's friend if she will date me or not? Good or bad idea?
Q. We've become good friends over the past few months, very good friends. But, she remembers everything about me, all the little things, she lets me touch her and tickle her, something that I don't even do with my best friend of many years. I really ...
A. 7 August 2011: Yes, I would say to bypass the friend and go straight to the girl you like. This will show her you are confident and serious about asking her out.
You could go to her friend and do it that way, but then the girl you like might just sit back and... (read in full...)
How do I tell these girls that I don't want to date them without hurting them?
Q. I belong to a website for young people to meet other people and date if they want to. I like one particular girl on that website and don't really like any of the others in a dating way. I've been talking to several people including this one girl I ...
A. 6 August 2011: The best thing is just to be honest with them but be tactful about it. Say you are flattered and appreciate their interest, but you already have someone special in mind.
If you be nice about it and thank them anyway, they will probably be more und... (read in full...)
Is my male friend living in hope?
Q. At the beginning of the year I decided I need to widen my social circle and find friends who have children the same age as my daughter. Emailed a few people on Facebook that I went to school with and now back in touch with some old school ...
A. 6 August 2011: Well done for taking that first step and taking control of the situation. I'm sure it wasn't easy to do but as you've seen for yourself the results showed he maybe had other intentions with regards to being with you.
The fact that he's deleted ... (read in full...)
Can I just not find a lively girl to date?
Q. ok so i want to come close to this girl who has entered my life recently.. but i think i am destined to get only those girls who arent lively at all! Perhaps my ex has set such a benchmark that i dont see any girl who is even near to her in ...
A. 6 August 2011: Well, to be honest with you text messages are not the ideal way to communicate and get to know a girl you like. You say you have yet to speak to her in person on the phone - why not give her a call sometime and you might find she's different ... (read in full...)
Asking the girl's friend if she will date me or not? Good or bad idea?
Q. We've become good friends over the past few months, very good friends. But, she remembers everything about me, all the little things, she lets me touch her and tickle her, something that I don't even do with my best friend of many years. I really ...
A. 4 August 2011: Why not just ask her directly if she would like to go out with you to the cinema, park, shopping, etc? Nothing too formal or serious, but something you could both enjoy.
You can then find out a bit more about how she feels and take it from the... (read in full...)
I feel so used. How do I get over this?
Q. I will try to make my post as short as possible. I was on training abroad for one month. There I had a brief affair with a staff of the University. On our first date, he took me to a hotel. I was a bit reluctant but I finally agreed as I knew that ...
A. 4 August 2011: Don't be too hard on yourself about it. We all make mistakes and if he goes around doing that to people then I hope he believes in "what goes around comes around" and maybe one day someone will use him and put him in his place!
Just try and forg... (read in full...)
Has she just lost interest?
Q. So I'm in kind of a complicated position but I’ll try to break it down. When I was on vacation last May in Berlin I met this girl at the hostile I was staying at. We spent the day together had a good time, went out that evening had some drinks ...
A. 4 August 2011: I'd give her a call or an e-mail to ask how she is. Don't go too heavy though - just a simple 'how are you?' etc.
Don't build your hopes up though just in case she has changed her mind about staying in touch.
... (read in full...)
Why does he lie about who he's seeing? Should I say anything to him?
Q. Why is he lying? should I say anything to him? My ex boyfriend broke up with me cos he said he didn't want a relationship. He told me he loved me everyday and I loved him so much. I was devastated when we split:( We got back into contact ...
A. 4 August 2011: I agree with the others on this one. Don't let him play with you emotions or use you when he sees fit.
What if he decides to finish with you again?
I would tread carefully and not build your hopes up if he promises to change, etc.
Think a... (read in full...)
What is my next step? I don't want to seem too eager!
Q. Some advice please folks! I met a girl from Germany in a park at the start of July, we got talking, she was the one who asked for my number and that we could have a coffee. Unfortunately, she was going home on holiday the next day, but I did t...
A. 1 August 2011: Yes, ask her for a coffee or a drink somewhere. Just be casual and friendly and think of it as asking a friend out instead. Don't show you are anxious or worrying about rejection - be positive!
If she says yes and it goes on to other things t... (read in full...)
What is my next step? I don't want to seem too eager!
Q. Some advice please folks! I met a girl from Germany in a park at the start of July, we got talking, she was the one who asked for my number and that we could have a coffee. Unfortunately, she was going home on holiday the next day, but I did t...
A. 1 August 2011: Why not send her a text or give her a quick call asking how her holiday went? Nothing too heavy - just a casual thing to show that you are still there and interested.
Give her a day or two to reply and see how you it goes. Worth a try!!
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Why cant I get the girl I want?
Q. Why can't I get the girl I've been talking to for a while? I know I'm 13 but at the moment it feels like I'm not doing anything right in my social life, I feel like I'm a screw up. Lately I really liked this girl and I don't think she likes me I'm ...
A. 1 August 2011: Does she know you like her? Have you told her or made any hints to show you are interested? She might not even realise that you like her!!
Why not try asking her if she would like to join you for a trip to the pictures, go to the park or a local ... (read in full...)
Is my male friend living in hope?
Q. At the beginning of the year I decided I need to widen my social circle and find friends who have children the same age as my daughter. Emailed a few people on Facebook that I went to school with and now back in touch with some old school ...
A. 31 July 2011: I've been in a similiar situation myself in the past - being friends with a girl I really liked and hoping there was more to it by reading between the lines rather than listening to what she was saying!
I can only say that the best thing to do is... (read in full...)
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