Is Polycystic Ovarian Synrome hereditary?
Q. my sister has just found out that she has Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and she is trying for a baby. The doctor said it may be harder for her to conceive because of this. Does anyone know if it is hereditary?? Its just that a few years ago when i was ...
A. 3 November 2009: According to this link, yes it is. To quote:
"Both sisters and daughters of women diagnosed with PCOS have a 50% chance of developing this syndrome"
http://wuphysicians.wustl.edu/page.aspx?pageID=491... (read in full...)
I have a "shag buddy" but now I want a proper relationship with him
Q. I've been sleeping with a close male friend for about 2 years, you could desbribe him as a "shag buddy". I was coming out of a long term relationship when it began, but am now single, and would love to have a go at taking things to another level ...
A. 3 November 2009: The only way I know of to deal with this is to stop sleeping with him. Then when he comes to you wanting sex, you have to demand 'relationship status' or however you define 'the next level'. He doesn't get the sex without that.
If you relent a... (read in full...)
What's the biggest age difference that won't make society feel awkward?
Q. i'm almost 18. there's a guy i like right now who's 23. we have decent banter and tend to stare at each other, but that isn't going to work out because he just got engaged. there's another guy who's 30 and we have terrific banter and i alway...
A. 1 November 2009: Seems pretty accurate. It's different for men and women of course. That figure applies to older men and younger women. It's not really socially acceptable for women to date men more than a year or two younger than them!
Socially acceptab... (read in full...)
Does she look at other men? Is she lying to me?
Q. I feel terrible. I do not know what to do. I have accused my girlfriend time after time after time of looking at other men and she always insists that she doesn't. But I see her looking around whenever we are outside, so she has to be judging and ...
A. 1 November 2009: "I can't stop thinking that she's looking at other men"
It sounds like you have obsessive jealousy. It's a serious problem where you imagine your partner is doing things that she's not. This can also be called 'delusional jealousy', 'morbid ... (read in full...)
I lied to my fiancee that I'm a virgin... what now?
Q. Hi i had forced to have sex now im getting married and i lied to my fiancee that im a virgin i cant tell him the truth what should i do??????????/ plz help ...
A. 1 November 2009: You absolutely need to tell him. He has a right no know this before he gets married to you, it's too important a piece of information about you to keep a secret until after he's promised to spend the rest of his life with you.
Many times on this ... (read in full...)
I asked why she wanted to marry me and she couldn't answer
Q. should i be concern my girlfriend get alone well because i adapt to people well but we are not really compatible and she spend all her time looking at wedding sites,venues shows etc... iask her why she wanted to marry me couldn't really answer....
A. 1 November 2009: You don't need a reason. It's enough to just want to. Getting married is about emotion and feelings, and you don't have to have rational 'reasons' for having feelings. They just are what they are.
But, if you don't think you're compatible then tha... (read in full...)
Anal sex is far to painful for me and I feel like a failure but I can't do it any more... help!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a great sex life, despite him working long hours on most days. he's wonderful, like mr. perfect, and i really love him, but i have a really big problem. He's really keen on anal sex, but i've tried it two to three times, and ...
A. 31 October 2009: Useful site:
http://www.puckerup.com/... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: Normally no. But under these circumstances full disclosure is reasonable and merited. The onus is on him to rebuild trust: this will help to a degree, and should be part of an overall willingness to be open about anything and everything. Withholding ... (read in full...)
What's the biggest age difference that won't make society feel awkward?
Q. i'm almost 18. there's a guy i like right now who's 23. we have decent banter and tend to stare at each other, but that isn't going to work out because he just got engaged. there's another guy who's 30 and we have terrific banter and i alway...
A. 30 October 2009: It's the 'half your age + 7 rule'...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships#The_.22half-your-age-plus-seven.22_rule... (read in full...)
Is 8 partners too many at my age?
Q. Im 20 and have been having sex since i was 17. i have had 8 partners and when i told my new bf he looked shocked. he said it was becouse im not loose down there. but i feel like he thought that was alot. is 8 partners at my age to many?...
A. 30 October 2009: "Yos: if the man is childish enough to be bothered by the number of your previous sex partners, I dont see the use in having him around."
I'm sorry but it's frequently nothing to do with being childish. Until you've encountered this problem ... (read in full...)
Am I giving off the wrong vibes that I cannot get a man?
Q. I've never had a boyfriend before but in college i've had my share of interactions with guys that only consisted of sex. Last month I broke it off with this guy who turned out to be untrustworthy. I completely put my all into making it work with ...
A. 30 October 2009: "I've never had a boyfriend before but in college i've had my share of interactions with guys that only consisted of sex."
To me that says it all. Are you having sex with these guys in the hope that they'll be your boyfriend?
Do you realiz... (read in full...)
Is 8 partners too many at my age?
Q. Im 20 and have been having sex since i was 17. i have had 8 partners and when i told my new bf he looked shocked. he said it was becouse im not loose down there. but i feel like he thought that was alot. is 8 partners at my age to many?...
A. 30 October 2009: Quiet-echo is onto something. You can probably expect your boyfriend to puzzle over this for a few days and then start asking increasingly personal questions about your former lovers. Some tips:
- Don't provide ANY details about past sexual e... (read in full...)
Where do you draw the line between cheating and not cheating when it comes to dancing?
Q. I'm going to ask some... um, shall we say, hypothetical questions here about dancing and whether or not it is "cheating". Hypothetically if you've been with a guy for 4 years or so, and you do these things: 1. Slow dance alone in a room with anot...
A. 30 October 2009: Neither is 'cheating' but that's not the only way to screw up a relationship.
If my girlfriend did 1 or 3 I'd be really upset I think. I know I would never do either and would expect her to be upset with me if I did.
2 is less of an issue. As ... (read in full...)
I'm having trust issues over the porn and text messages to a dominatrix!
Q. HELP!! I am Having TRUST ISSUES due to Porn Sites I found my BF visiting!!!!!!!!! Its been almost a month since I have confronted him with what I found...including text mesages to an AD he answered about wanting to b dressed and dominated! I bel...
A. 29 October 2009: I wouldn't be so sure he's gay. It sounds very possible he just wants to dress up like a woman and be treated as one. Which is kinky for sure, but not gay.
If you really want to save your relationship you could consider doing this for him. You... (read in full...)
Should I let her past bug me?
Q. I found out that the women that i am dating for 6 mths has had 22 men in her past,some where relationships of 1 to 2 yrs in length but most where only a few mths in length and then she tells me that she has had 4 one nite stands.She is 35 yrs old ...
A. 29 October 2009: "if you really loved her, her past wouldnt be a big problem"
Sorry I have to disagree with that.
Having spoken to and read many many men's accounts on this, one thing has become very clear: the more a man loves his partner, the more he can be h... (read in full...)
G/f's past experiences have made her resentful toward men
Q. My girlfriend of one year has some built up resentment towards men from the experiences she has had. I love this girl, care for her enormously and would really like to help her with this. She has been disrespected sexually, not in an abusive ...
A. 29 October 2009: Part of moving past something is seeing it for what it is. It may be that as well as feeling disrespected, and angry / hurt about that, she may also have some anger towards herself for allowing herself to get in these situations. She was complicit ... (read in full...)
Should I let her past bug me?
Q. I found out that the women that i am dating for 6 mths has had 22 men in her past,some where relationships of 1 to 2 yrs in length but most where only a few mths in length and then she tells me that she has had 4 one nite stands.She is 35 yrs old ...
A. 29 October 2009: Welcome to the (very large) club. Personally I have a 'don't ask' policy these days, as it's best not to know. The more you know, the worse it feels. As for people who say 'the past is the past'... well... that's a truism. It's also false. The past ... (read in full...)
Does porn affect your feelings towards your own partner?
Q. Do one's perceptions of their partner's attractiveness become altered by actively engaging in pornography? Would it be possible to remain sexually attracted to your partner considering that the individuals portrayed in pornography are, for the...
A. 29 October 2009: Numerous experiments have been run demonstrating that men who have recently watched porn (or video of attractive + sexually available women) view their partners as less desirable that men who haven't.
So unfortunately, the answer is yes. It's cal... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my girlfriends past
Q. Insecure Of Girlfriend's sexual past I believe I have retroactive jealousy. I am in a 2 year relationship. I work with my girlfriend and we had unprotected sex on the first official date. I said no to the first time we almost had sex due to the c...
A. 29 October 2009: "Honestly, I think that's what it is for some men. Just a good old fashioned eeewww!"
I completely agree. At some point for most guys a woman's sexual behaviour passes a certain line and we just feel revolted! No reason to be disrespe... (read in full...)
What gift can I get my online boyfriend?
Q. I have an online boyfriend, the only problem is I want to get him something for his birthday, and he's isn't comfortable giving me his adress. Any ideas for what I can get him? ...
A. 28 October 2009: Find out if he has got a gaming PC or PlayStation or XBox. Then get him a game gift token for an online store. Boys live video games and you can send the token via email... (read in full...)
Can online romance be real?
Q. Hi everybody. I just want to ask you guys question. Do you guys believe in online love? I met this guy who have same birthday,same satuition about pass relationship and almost everything are same.We chat on the internet for couple times. Yesterday ...
A. 28 October 2009: Which MMO was it may I ask?... (read in full...)
Can online romance be real?
Q. Hi everybody. I just want to ask you guys question. Do you guys believe in online love? I met this guy who have same birthday,same satuition about pass relationship and almost everything are same.We chat on the internet for couple times. Yesterday ...
A. 28 October 2009: It can happen. But what often happens is that you fall in love with your imagination, not a real person. Then when you meet them (or some time soon after) you come down hard to earth with a painful bump. You learn a lot less about someone through ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my girlfriends past
Q. Insecure Of Girlfriend's sexual past I believe I have retroactive jealousy. I am in a 2 year relationship. I work with my girlfriend and we had unprotected sex on the first official date. I said no to the first time we almost had sex due to the c...
A. 27 October 2009: "It has a lot to do with my standards, morals etc and my ideas of sex and the sacredness it can hold. Adjusting or accepting anything very different from these is extremely challenging."
People talk a lot about morality in this situation. Very sim... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my girlfriends past
Q. Insecure Of Girlfriend's sexual past I believe I have retroactive jealousy. I am in a 2 year relationship. I work with my girlfriend and we had unprotected sex on the first official date. I said no to the first time we almost had sex due to the c...
A. 27 October 2009: Ouch, that blog is really toxic stuff. I guess it shows how twisted and resentful a man can get towards women when he lets this kind of issue get on top of him.
Despite that, he does have a point on some level. Namely that as we age the tables t... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair on my husband?
Q. Soon after getting married, my husband had an unfortunate incident where he became paralysed, resulting in us not being able to have a sex life. I love my husband dearly and I did not leave him. I look after him and attend to him the best way I ...
A. 27 October 2009: What an incredibly difficult situation. For both of you.
Under any remotely normal circumstances I would say an affair is never a good idea. But I fear that in the long run it's between an affair and you leaving your husband. Considering which is... (read in full...)
I am bothered by her one night stand!
Q. Can't Let go I am a 37 year old male with a 26 year girlfriend. We have been in a relationship for 1.5 years. Before I met my girlfriend I had 3 girlfriends. They were all virgins and I lost my virginity after the first girlfriend at 27. (A late blo...
A. 27 October 2009: I've had a similar experience. As the previous poster said: unless someone has been in this situation it is hard for them to empathise. Also, the experience is very different for men and women: we can each get jealous of our partner's pasts, but ... (read in full...)
I feel like dumping her as she finds him attractive!
Q. i recently asked my girlfreind if She would ever have sex with this guy, i know she thinks is good looking, although she told me she is not intrested in anybody but me. She told me she doesnt just sleep with anyone, the fact she has only spoken t...
A. 27 October 2009: " he is 100x better than me, even though i dont let her know this"
This is your problem. You have some kind of inferiority complex with this guy that's making you insecure and jealous.
She's not into him. Your question was a trap that wasn't... (read in full...)
My wife lied about her past and I feel like I want to leave her!
Q. My wife told me she only ever had one boyfriend before me and she only ever slept with him twice. After 23 years together i discover that she was in fact in a sexual relationship with him for 2 years and then with another guy for 6 months. Having ...
A. 23 October 2009: Sorry, I have to comment on this from quiet echo:
"Daresay you'll get some responses from men claiming it's so much harder for men to accept a woman's sexual past than it is for us women because of some genetic hardwiring, but it's pure nonsense... (read in full...)
My wife lied about her past and I feel like I want to leave her!
Q. My wife told me she only ever had one boyfriend before me and she only ever slept with him twice. After 23 years together i discover that she was in fact in a sexual relationship with him for 2 years and then with another guy for 6 months. Having ...
A. 23 October 2009: This is commonly called retroactive jealousy. And it's a common 'condition', it happens to many men. Since it comes up here so often, I'll point you to a few previous questions, hope they help:
http:... (read in full...)
PCOS is ruining my life!
Q. So basically PCOS is ruining my life. I've been diagnosed for a year now but my doctor couldn't put me on the pill because of my acid reflux and Im still suffering form the horribly symptoms. It's affecting my reltionships with people and how I feel ...
A. 23 October 2009: There is lot you can do with diet to improve the symptoms of PCOS. My ex-wife had it, and working with her doctor she figured out a diet that led to major improvements. You can google 'pcos diet' to find information about this.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend lying when he says he doesn't want me to get a boob job?
Q. Okay I want an HONEST answer from the guys here. I have small breasts, like B cup or so. There is enough there for a bit more than a handful, and I can make them look bigger with a push up bra but I hate to do that because I am aware that I am ...
A. 23 October 2009: As a guy who has has a girlfriend with a boob job, I can tell you I really don't like them and would never want my partner to get one. I'd also think seriously about having a relationship with someone who has had one.
So, at least to me, your boy... (read in full...)
How do I 'move in for the kiss'?
Q. This may sound stupid, or a waste of time but, ive been going out with a girl for almost 2 months now, im really into her, the thing is im not sure how to move forward because we have only really just been taking it easy, hugs, pecks all that stuff, ...
A. 19 October 2009: I have had success with the direct question: "Would you like to kiss me?". Keep eye contact whilst you ask (and of course ask at a suitable moment). ... (read in full...)
Why does this girl keep bringing up our past, she sleeps around!
Q. I just need to Vent a little... I really can't believe how rotten some people can really be... I was seeing a girl for about 5 months in said time she just put a good game on and really is a terrible manipulative rotten person.. Slept around ALO...
A. 14 October 2009: That sounds horrible.
I suggest your next course of action is to ignore her: don't reply or respond to any of her advances. She'll eventually lose interest.... (read in full...)
Does sex play a huge role in dating?
Q. How long do you wait for sex with a guy so he doesnt think you are a hoe or slut?...
A. 12 October 2009: Depends on the guy.
More importantly, how long should you wait to sleep with a guy so you don't feel like a hoe or a slut?... (read in full...)
How can I deal with girlfriend's past
Q. My girlfriends past bothers me alot. I know so much about her past and I always get these images that pop into my head of her doing things with other guys and its all I think about. Just looking at her kills me sometimes. The one time that has ...
A. 29 September 2009: This is commonly called retroactive jealousy. And it's a common 'condition', it happens to A LOT of guys. Since it comes up here so often, I'll point you to a few previous questions, hope they help:
http:... (read in full...)
Her fancy dress nights from the past are getting me down.
Q. Hi, I'm in a loving relationship with a wonderful girl and have been for almost a year. However I have an issue. I can't get over the fact that when she was single she used to love dressing up on fancy dress nights and Halloween etc. Obviou...
A. 18 September 2009: Well done for recognizing that these issues are being amplified by your own negativity during your time at college.
It's completely natural for a man to find the knowledge of his partners former sexual activities unpleasant. However it can (and... (read in full...)
My husband is obsessing over everything I might have done
Q. I just got married 4 weeks ago. My husband and I were both virgins on the wedding night. I am 27 and when I was 15 going on 16 I had a boyfriend. We did a lot of things, but never sex. My husband did nothing, he only ever kissed a girl. Now he can ...
A. 5 September 2009: This comes up frequently here. These might be helpful:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)
Dumped by my bofriend because I slightly lied about my sexual history
Q. I need men's advices. My boyfriend with whom I have been with for 6 great months dumped me 3 days ago because I decided to be honest and admit I had lied to him regarding my past sexual history (I told him I had slept with 10 guys instead of 13). ...
A. 4 September 2009: "Would you dump your GF you're in love with because she slightly lied on her sexual history and then tell you the whole truth after a few months"
Sadly the answer to this is yes. It's probably because he was in love with you that it hurt so much ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to fake your virginity?
Q. hi i would like to know if there's any women out there that have lied about being a virgin (especially if anyone's married a Muslim guy) but really they were not and have had to come up with a way to fake loosing their virginity to a man on their ...
A. 28 August 2009: My advice on faking your virginity would be... don't do it. Tell the truth.... (read in full...)
Male Vs Female; A Debate On The Male Obsession With A Woman’s Past
Q. After recently seeing a large number of posts on this site from men asking how to deal with a woman’s sexual past, I wondered why men were so concerned with something that at the end of the day, cannot be changed. So I entered into a conversation ...
A. 28 August 2009: The arguments being given are based on evolutionary psychology. The idea that we can understand much of our behaviour by looking at our evolution, and in particular whether certain behaviour made our offspring survive and multiply more readily than ... (read in full...)
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