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My girlfriend just wants to be friends now. How do I get her back?

Q.   i had a girlfreind who just wants to be freinds now. i wana be more then that what should i do ...

A.   9 September 2008: wait be her friend and you might just get her back if not at least you will have gained a great friend to bad mouth your future ex girl friends off with... (read in full...)

How can I accept my appearance?

Q.   hi their, this isnt a love or sexual question, its more about appearance.. im about 5'4 large built and a little overweight.. alot of people tell me how pretty i am, but all i see is ugly and fat, i got tormented at school when i was younger when...

A.   9 September 2008: ok i'll tell you something i'm a size 20 and i've dropped 2 dress sizes in 4 months (i was a size 24) and all i've done is cut out bread(nothing else i eat what i want when i want), i take 2 different types of slim tablets and do an exercise dvd ... (read in full...)

Do you think he means what he says? Do you think I'm going to lose him??? Help!

Q.   I have known this lad for 5 months.. it doesnt seem that long but it feels like it's been forever .. the other night we was sat in his house and we was having a drink and just talking and having a little kiss and that .. but he stopped and i was sat ...

A.   9 September 2008: DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM not until ur ready don't do it 2 keep him do it because it feels right tell him ur nervous and a virgin because although ur mature 4 ur age hiding ur worries can lead u into alot of trouble and u only learn that when ur older in ... (read in full...)

I'm sick of the cliches and find life pretty dire.

Q.   I am going to be honest, life is something I've never been a fan of. I'm nearly 20 now and so far my life has been pretty dire. I was never the popular person at school, the truth was it took me a bit more effort than most people to get passing ...

A.   9 September 2008: well i know for a fact that some one will want u one day because i was worse than u are now i still have the scars from where i used 2 cut myself and now i'm happily married and have been 4 3 years i still take anti depressants but i'm happy i'm not ... (read in full...)

Should my sister take him back?

Q.   my sister was in love with a boy for 2 years. then, they breaked up. he now lives in other city. for some time he comes here. he has a girlfriend there. he still says to my sister that we will patch up. but my sister doesn't understand what to do. ...

A.   9 September 2008: tell ur sister that she's to give it time and if he does love her he'll break up with his girlfriend and then tell her how he feels because telling her now means he's not risking anything but i can tell u now she'll need u nomatter what happens ... (read in full...)

I love him, he loves another. Now another boy likes me, what do I do?

Q.   i am in school. i love a boy from the first day of school. after 6 or 7 months i came to know that he loves my best friend. i don't know that if she loves him or not. but i still love him. recently a boy proposed me. i too like that boy, but as a ...

A.   9 September 2008: do what u think is right find out how ur friend feels about the lad u like and find out if she'd be ok with u asking him out and if all u feel for this other lad is friendship then tell him try 2 put it nicely but don't be 2 soft about it or the ... (read in full...)

I have a girlfriend but want to be with my cousin?

Q.   I am 27yrs old guy i am very much atracted towards my cousin who is 17yrs old. Every time i see her i feel to make love with her.I have a girlfriend and we have sex when ever we get a chance. But then also when ever I see my cousin i dont know what ...

A.   9 September 2008: i gotta say u cant help who u fall for but be careful she may just love the fact that she's got a nice guy who's sexually experanced after her what u need 2 do is find out who u want in ur bed more ur gf or ur cousin because ur not being fair 2 ur ... (read in full...)

How can I stop gagging when giving Blow Jobs?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for over a year now. He REALLY likes it when I give him a blow job...my only problem is I gag. I cant help it, it's not the fact that his cock is in my mouth, it's the fluids...even just pre-cum. For some reason ...

A.   9 September 2008: IF IT'S THE TASTE go 2 the doctor because i had the same problem with my husband we both saw him together and found out that my husband had a slight infection (not s.t.i or s.t.d) he took antibiotics and ever since it hasn't made me gag IF IT'S... (read in full...)

I'm concerned that she's going to try to take him away from me. How do I tell her to back off?

Q.   In the past year and a half, my boyfriend and I have had a lots of ups and downs and things were finally seeming to get better again when 2 weeks ago on Saturday we were at a friends house and we met a girl, lets call her C. My pregnant friend, ...

A.   9 September 2008: this is very hard how do u say back off and not hurt her feelings it's simple u cant tell her that u don't trust her and never leave her alone with B either ask B or C to come with u 2 da shop or just don't go 2 da shop at all then that way u've ... (read in full...)

How can I handle my lover's best friend who wants to tear us apart?

Q.   I really need advice on this and Im sorry for the length but to truly understand you kinda need to know everything. It's a very complex situation. I've already established that this isnt perhaps a great situation, but I need help on how to deal ...

A.   9 September 2008: all i can say is sit down with the lad ur seeing and his flatmate and find out w.t.f is going on because from what i can tell is this flatmate is playing mind games with u and it's working he's sending flirty messeges so at first it was fun but now ... (read in full...)

Should I wait for him?

Q.   I'm 15.I asked out a guy in my year 6 weeks ago. he said he probly would go out with me, but he doesn't feel ready to go out with someone yet. I'm sorta stuck now. I still want to go out with him, but asking him out again would be weird. I see him...

A.   9 September 2008: just tell him that when he's ready 2 answer ur question it'll most likely be to late because u need 2 get on with ur life ur far 2 young 2 be waiting around for a boy who u might only go out with for a few weeks and if that doesn't make him answer ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend claims she was raped - but I think she just cheated on me!

Q.   My girlfriend left this guy who was father to her daughter her sister told her I cheated on her and she tried to sleep with hime but he forced himself on her and she was drunk I didn't belive he forced himself on her I though it was just an excuse ...

A.   9 September 2008: ok i think u should believe her because i think it might of started off with well u did it why cant i but then she got cold feet and said no but some men cant take no for an answer and carried on. when it comes to her anger i believe that it's due ... (read in full...)

He has so many pictures of him and this other girl - what should I do?

Q.   Hi all, So I've been dating my present boyfriend for almost one year, I'd say maybe just around a month off from it. I'm 19, hes 20. Anyways, I recently stumbled upon pictures of him and this other girl, its not any inappropriate picture, but its ...

A.   9 September 2008: try a letter if that doesn't work try talking 2 this girl and tell her ur worries u never know she might become the best friend u've ever had... (read in full...)

My husband still contacts this fmale friend after he promised not to!

Q.   I found out my hubby had a female 'friend' and although he says nothing happened ever, I overheard him discussing her with his brother. Also I found other overwhelming evidence that he was infact having an affair with her. We went for counselling, ...

A.   9 September 2008: all u can do is tell him 2 choose her or u he may not give u an answer u wanna hear but it seems to be the only way that he'll realise he cant have his cake and eat it at the moment he's got her and he's got u so why should he give her up if u stay ... (read in full...)

Twosome that became dissapointing threesomes...

Q.   I am a middle aged woman with a married girlfriend (I have known her before she got married) we like to party and her hubby don’t mind at first it was only her and I satisfying each other, her hubby has known about us before they got married and he ...

A.   9 September 2008: tell her out right just because he pleases her doesn't mean he pleases u every one is different i mean if she hits all ur right spots just think it might be fun getting her 2 teach him how 2 please u i know telling people that they don't do it right ... (read in full...)

How close should I be as a friend?

Q.   This guy said he liked me. then said he didn't. i found out it was cause of another girl. we're still good friends. but now he's dating the other girl. how close should i be as as friend?...

A.   9 September 2008: don't change ur friendship 4 this girl she either takes ur friendship with him for what it is (just friends) or she can lump it just coz she's with him now doesn't mean ur 2 change the bond u and this lad have... (read in full...)

She kissed another guy? Should I forgive her?

Q.   I have been going out with a girl for 2 months now, but i have recently found out that at the very beginning of our relationship, she kissed another guy. She was very drunk and couldn't even remember it, her friend had to tell her. Should i ever ...

A.   9 September 2008: that all depends on how u feel mate i kissed another man at the begining of my relationship 5 years ago but that was it my bf stayed with me and now i've been happily married 4 3 years and believe me if we didn't love each other i wouldn't of said ... (read in full...)

Caught up in lies and deceit.....how do I come clean??

Q.   I am bordering on desperation, I have read the articles on your site, my situation is at this stage hopeless, I am so caught up in deceit, lies and cheating I don’t know how to come clean. I’m 46 married to my hubby for 28 years he is 60 years ol...

A.   9 September 2008: right for starters make edward sort him self out if money is his trouble then being disabled will get him a socal worker who will help him which will take the pressure off u so u can be his friend not his wage packet. as for this chris bloke so ... (read in full...)

My bfs family think I was cruel to my ex....was I wrong??

Q.   I was with this guy for two and a half years, we lived together throughout the whole relationship and hardly spent any time apart except when we went to work. He treated me quite badly at times and I began to get very resentful - he'd come home with ...

A.   9 September 2008: no it's very clear that he only cares 4 himself making sure he's the good guy in all this but when most people hear what u did at the end they wont listen 2 ur side because he's like the little kid who didn't get all the sweets he'll make out that ... (read in full...)

Does he want to work out the relationship in the future because he wants to keep contact with me?

Q.   In a LDR for many years pretty close relationship we were looking towards a visa and overall serious connection. He broke up with me because he says I kept doing things that bothered him such as he would warn me don't go spend the money on that you ...

A.   9 September 2008: i think he's confused about every thing at the moment and yes he might consider getting back with you when he sorts himself out don't badger the guy instead of saying hi every time he's on line say it every once in a while then that leaves the ball ... (read in full...)

We never manage to have a real conversation....is he interested??

Q.   I've known this guy since I was in sophomore year of high school, and when I say known I mean we knew each other as "friendly acquaintances". We went to different high schools and I was always, and still am, the quiet and unsure girl. I knew him ...

A.   9 September 2008: hunni from what u say i think he likes u i mean if he can talk 2 other girls and not u there must be somthing there why not ask him to see a movie with you because at the movies you don't need 2 talk and then see where u go from there u never know ... (read in full...)

I want to move out and have a baby with my bf...how do I go about this???

Q.   I am 15 years old, I live with my mom and 14 year old sister. I have been with my 17 year old boyfriend for six months now, and he wants me to move in with him and he and I want to have a baby. We both feel ready for this. And I know its a big resp...

A.   9 September 2008: ok it sounds like u don't want 2 go but u want 2 be with this guy no matter what so here's my advice u and ur bf sit down with ur mum and his parents and talk about it in a mutal enviroment say like in the park or somthing don't do it in ur house ... (read in full...)

My ex had unprotected sex with another guy and got pregnant. Now she want my help! What do I do?

Q.   My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up for 4-5 months now. We dated for over 4 years. I had been trying to work things out with her but it was not going anywhere. There was too much history to throw away. In July I was out with a coworker at a ...

A.   9 September 2008: right i've noticed that all the relpies to this so far have been male and it seems like they're saying be a friend nothing else all i can say is do what ur heart tells u this baby didn't ask 2 come into this world but it'll b here before u no it and ... (read in full...)

Is it normal that I think about sex all the time?

Q.   hello, I am 17 years old and I have had about 6 sexual partners, but I have had a boyfriend for about 6-7 months now, and he does it better than all of my other boyfriends put together (could be a reason some were in 10th grade at the time while me ...

A.   9 September 2008: yes it's perfectly normal because u have a high sex drive like most women do at that age and as he's doing it right by ur standards that's gonna make ur sex drive sky rocket even higher because it's perfect ur very lucky... (read in full...)

I am out of state right now so I cant meet him, how do I keep him interested in dating me?

Q.   Hi everyone I recently met this guy who is the same age as me on Speeddate. Hes really awesome and we have a lot in common and seems to be interested in me. The problem is right now I am out of state doing a research internship at a hospital. So I ...

A.   9 September 2008: sweetie if he wants u he'll b there when u get back take a chance be yourself and not anybody else and if your so worried about being annoying just ask him 2 tell u if ur going 2 far tell him ur worries and u never no he might have the same worries ... (read in full...)

I'm confused by his actions! Do I try to keep him as a friend? Will he contact me again?

Q.   HI this is a bit of a long one but I really could do with some kind of clarification here or advice. I went on a date with this guy back in January. We hit it off really well and he said he wanted to see how things go. The next time I heard fro...

A.   9 September 2008: hunni i'm sorry 2 say this but i think he's got a girlfriend because i have a friend like that i have known him 4 22years (i met him when i was 4) and we dated a bit and he did to me what this guy is doing to u, he knows that if he txt's u once in a ... (read in full...)

Should my girlfriend accept all my flaws or should I change for her to prove my love?

Q.   Hey there aunts and uncles of Dear Cupid. I have a sort of problem from an argument i had yesterday with my girlfriend. She said that if i really loved her i should/would want to change some aspects of my behaviour to make her happy, but i argued ...

A.   9 September 2008: ok get where your girlfriend is coming from on this one coz i had the same arguement with my husband. i'll let you in on a secret the only reason she's gone mental about this is because she wants more time with you... being romantic doesn't... (read in full...)

Is masturbation a sin?

Q.   I am a christian who masterbates. I want to know whether masterbation is a sin or not. please help....

A.   9 September 2008: look it is not a sin all men do it ok if u become a monk or some thing then yes it is but if your an ordaniry man with christian beliefs then no it's not this world is hard enough with out some people taking away the few pleasures we get for free be ... (read in full...)

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