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Feeling funny after unprotected sex
Q. omg . my period ended on [7/8] and since then my boyfriend and i have had unprotected sex about 7 times since {7/10] . well i been feeling a little funny since . after the first or second time i just been feeling all bloated and my back been ...
A. 25 July 2008: Well, it sounds to me like you DO need the lecture on unprotected sex. However, the symptoms you are describing seems to most resemble a UTI (urinary tract infection). However, it could be another STI/STD.
Find yourself a doctor and get checked ... (read in full...)
Do women 'cum' like men?
Q. Do women cum? I know that men do alot but i'm confused.I know that women get moist down there I have made out with guys and my underware gets wet is that a female version on cum? I have never had sex so sorry is I sound like a retard. Thanxs for ...
A. 25 July 2008: What you are referring to is the female response to arousal. When you are making out with your boyfriend, or just thinking about sex, your body begins its journey to preparation for penile penetration.
The vagina widens and lengthens, and lubr... (read in full...)
What is so appealing about the women in porn? And how can I feel better about myself?
Q. I know this is probably asked around a lot, but I just can't help but feel awful. I've checked out porn, and while yeah, some porn starts have downright UGLY faces, make squirrel like sounds (how can you guys get off to that pitch?) and most...
A. 22 July 2008: Well, you hit the nail on the head when you said these women are selling a fantasy. That's it. A fantasy. These women are nothing more than imaginary people. Let me explain...
Men, like women, sometimes daydream about their perfect partner,... (read in full...)
Can a guy fake an orgasm? How does it work for men?
Q. Hi there! How many times does a guy has to cum during sex? let say if we're doing it for an hour! Can they force it to cum just to plz u, to show dat they r happy or is it natural (a must kind of thing?)Thanks...
A. 21 July 2008: The title is a little misleading.....
Men, on average, barring any psychological or physical issues, will achieve orgasm with most sexual encounters.
Answering your questions - men (like women) don't HAVE to cum during sex. Some men can eng... (read in full...)
Is a female getting wet equivalent to a male getting hard?
Q. Just slightly curious here as to whether or not a female getting wet is the equivelant to a male getting hard. IE: Are they pretty much the same thing?...
A. 17 July 2008: Yes and no.
The female vagina prepares itself for sexual intercourse by secreting lubrication. The vagina also enlongates in preparation for penile entry.
The male gets erect in preparation for sexual intercourse. Men also get "wet", we se... (read in full...)
Are there ANY relationships that work out?
Q. I stumbled across this site looking for some advice...and came out quite discouraged =[ Does anyone know of a functional relationship? Of a healthy marriage in which mistakes are made but forgiveness is extended and the love is still strong? D...
A. 14 July 2008: Be not discouraged by the things you see - for the things you see are only a part of the whole.
Of course there are many relationships in which neither party cheats, lies, or disrespects each other but instead loves and adores one another.... (read in full...)
We did everything except have intercourse, she is married, but in a troubled relationship, if and when she is free, I want to marry her, don't know if I screwed up with her, what do I do now?
Q. i am divorced. recently had a woman visiting me who is married to someone i know. they are going thru some tough times in their marriage, she also told me that they had not slept in like 7 months. It got hot and heavy and she literally threw herself ...
A. 12 July 2008: A wonderful man would not have intercourse with a wonderful woman who is married - whether she's happy or not.
Being her friend is one thing. Being her friend that makes her come because she and her husband are going through a rough patch is... (read in full...)
Tight or flappy down there - what do guys prefer?
Q. Ok got a question. I know all women are different "down there", but what do you guys generally think of labia or flaps or whatever you want to call them. I've seen girls who have really short labias, and then girls with really puffy labias and ...
A. 11 July 2008: I haven't seen a vag in over a year. So right now it really doesn't matter to me what the darned things look like - so long as I'm able to look!
But if I had a choice, I like puffy lips.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Don't men enjoy going down on their ladies?
Q. I need a little advice about oral sex. I always thought that men loved to give oral sex to their ladies, but recently discovered that my husband of 8 years may not like to give it. We are both 28 years old. I make sure I always shower first and ...
A. 18 June 2008: When I was married, there was nothing I enjoyed more than giving my wife oral sex. Not sure why, since when I was younger the thought of oral sex repulsed me. Once I got my face down there and tasted it for the first time, I was hooked. So here's ... (read in full...)
Is marriage worth it?
Q. Really stupid uestion.. But I read a lot of uestions in here, married people having affairs and asking for advice about extra marital affairs.. Why have that extra marital affair.. Is marriage worth it.. My parents separated after 26 years o...
A. 16 June 2008: Not a stupid question. It does deserve discussion.
Interesting observation. Yes, people cheat on their wives and husbands and feel as though it's okay - or try to justify why they're doing it (my wife doesn't want sex with me or my husband ... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl really be just friends?
Q. Can a guy and a girl really be just friends? And by friends, I mean more then just talk and hang out in the same group. I mean have a proper friendship. Can they be best friends? So far in my life, at age of 19, I havent been able to have that. An...
A. 15 June 2008: You can definitely be friends with the opposite sex without worry about sex.
I've been really good friends with my current best friend for about 6 years. We cheer each other along when we enter into new and exciting relationships and hold eac... (read in full...)
Can an 18 y.o. get in trouble for getting a 15 y.o. pregnant?
Q. can an 18 year old only get in trouble for getting a 15 year old pregnant if somone reports him? ...
A. 13 June 2008: Yes.
I believe the minimal age of sexual consent in the USA is 16 in most (34) states. South Carolina's law is 14 for females and 16 for males. It is 18 in some states. So unless the female lives in South Carolina, the male COULD get in troub... (read in full...)
My girl friend is pregnant!
Q. I am 13 year old boy and i have a really big problem. i am dating a 15 year old girl and several weeks ago we staying at my house. its a long story but at the end we drank a bit and i was drunk and really horny so i had sex with her, i didnt use a ...
A. 5 June 2008: DiovanLestat - that was WELL said. 5 stars!!!
This is the consequences of your actions. What's done is done.
If she decides to keep the baby, you will no longer be a normal 13 year old. You will be a father, with responsibilities... (read in full...)
Should I cut my ex out of our kids lives?
Q. Hey, just wondering if anybody had any advice for me. I split with my ex last year and now she's starting playing silly games. She arranged to take the kids out on Sunday (I look after them) and I'd made 100% sure with her that it was fine for her ...
A. 5 June 2008: Cutting the ex out of the kids lives while they're young could pose potentially hazardous later on when the kids grow up. The mom could start saying things like "I wanted to see you but your father wouldn't let me.." - and then you become the bad ... (read in full...)
Going by the expiry date, when might this condom have been bought?
Q. Im in a relationship of 3 years, and i found a condom wrapper in the room and im trying to figure out when it might have been bought. The exp. Date on it is october of 2009. It was by some of my boyfriends thing from when he was married. But i cant ...
A. 3 June 2008: The expiration date on the condom is NOT going to tell you whether or not he's cheating on you. The condom (with that date) seems a bit old though as I the exp date on condoms are like 5 years or so. But keep in mind, condoms might not be a best ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have a MFM threesome, but I do not want to...
Q. my wife of 10 months wants to have mfm threesome but i dont think i want to. what should i do?...
A. 3 June 2008: I think phiatiger is spot on with what they said. Just let her know that you are not interested in this sort of thing and try to communicate to her why not. There are many reasons why someone would not want to do this - for me, it's simply the ... (read in full...)
Is there prejudice against bisexuals?
Q. If it is okay to be bisexual then why do bisexual people have to hide it? Why do our parents scream at us about it?...
A. 1 June 2008: What may be okay for you might not be okay with others. So while you believe you're perfectly okay and everyone should except you for who you are, others might not believe the same things. That's when prejudice steps in. Because you're not like ... (read in full...)
He loves "woman on top" position but I never feel comfortable in this way, please give me some tips! How to make him climax in this situation?
Q. Hi all My husband loves me to be on top of him while having sex but I never get comfortable in this position.I am not good to make him come to climax in this either.Please tell me how to have sex on top of him. I would be thankful Soni...
A. 31 May 2008: Well, there's some things you've said that leads me to following conclusions...
You stated that "My husband loves me to be on top of him while having sex..."
Although you might not feel comfortable, your husband is enjoying himself. So... (read in full...)
Job interview: what to wear and what to say
Q. Hi, I know this isnt a relationship question but i really need some advice! I have a job interview on Wednesday and its my first ever interview so i want to know what would be good things to say and what kind of clothes to wear? I really want this ...
A. 22 May 2008: Congratulations! Welcome to the work force.
Let this be your stepping stone towards greatness. Be confident, and others will be confident in you!
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I know I'm going to be criticised for this, but please! I'm VERY concerned about this pregnancy because of the family history of VERY large babies! I'm terrified!
Q. I know people are prob going to criticise me for this post but here goes. I am pregnant with my first ever child but I am terrified and am even considering if to go through with the whole pregnancy. My husband family have a history of havin...
A. 20 May 2008: You've gotten some good info - but there's something else that could explain why your husband's family produces large babies...
Gestational diabetes.
While a small amount (or none) may have been formally diagnosed with Gestational diab... (read in full...)
Job interview: what to wear and what to say
Q. Hi, I know this isnt a relationship question but i really need some advice! I have a job interview on Wednesday and its my first ever interview so i want to know what would be good things to say and what kind of clothes to wear? I really want this ...
A. 18 May 2008: Welcome to the working world!
Well, not sure what type of job this is - so without any info on that, I would say to wear a business suit. If you don't have a business suit, wear something that is conservative and non-revealing (not showing ... (read in full...)
Shaven or Hairy?
Q. I have been trimming my pubic hair regularly. But am not sure its what guys like. The guy I was planning to have sex with likes it shaven. Should I continue shaving or do guys prefer hairy?...
A. 17 May 2008: Well, I can't speak for all men but I like a really thick bush.
You should do what you want to do - whatever makes you comfortable. Shave it or keep it - just be happy and confident with your decision.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Shaven or Hairy?
Q. I have been trimming my pubic hair regularly. But am not sure its what guys like. The guy I was planning to have sex with likes it shaven. Should I continue shaving or do guys prefer hairy?...
A. 17 May 2008: Well, I can't speak for all men but I like a really thick bush.
You should do what you want to do - whatever makes you comfortable. Shave it or keep it - just be happy and confident with your decision.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
My ejaculate doesn't seem to spurt very far is this normal?
Q. Hi My wife and I have been married for many years, we have always enjoyed sex. one of the things we both enjoy is mutual masterbation and talking dirty to each other. she has always liked me cumming on her body but resently i cannot spray as f...
A. 16 May 2008: Well, ejaculatory force has a lot to do with a lot of things...
First off, being well hydrated before sexual activity will definitely help. Some people state drink a few glasses of water. I'm not sure about the correct number, but maybe just one... (read in full...)
Is having no sex unhealthy?
Q. Would it be unhealthy to remain a virgin for my whole life?...
A. 26 April 2008: To answer your question, no, it would not be unhealthy to remain a virgin all your life. The body is pretty much self sufficient in maintaining itself sometimes.
As a Christian, I've got my views on premarital sex - but that isn't the topic of... (read in full...)
My wife does not get pleasure with lovemaking. Any tips or advice?
Q. I got married 1.5 yr back.My height is 5.8 Ft and my wife is 5.5 Ft and having a 5.5month old baby.My penis size is 5 inches and slightly bent towards left.I experienced that my wife didnot get pleasure at the time of lovemaking. Only she get litl...
A. 26 April 2008: Uncle Phil is on the right track I think...
Have her to tell you - or better yet guide you to what feels good to her during sex. Switch positions often to find the best one that is comfortable and provides pleasure for both of you.
Hope th... (read in full...)
I am SO scared to have sex, I was raised to believe it is bad!!! My boyfriend has been waiting for me for years to express our love in that way, help!
Q. I am 24 years old and I am a virgin. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I love him with all of my heart and want to marry him but I am so scared to have sex. I was raised in the church and to think that sex is bad. I am scared that I ...
A. 25 April 2008: First of all, if you don't feel ready yet - then don't do it. Period.
Secondly, congrats on holding out this long. That is very commendable.
Thirdly, I'm sorry to hear that you have be taught to believe that sex is bad. Sex in no way is... (read in full...)
What is guys' opinion about women with kids?
Q. does having a child turn a guy off? im 20 and have a 3yr old daughter. me and her dad broke up last year. do guys not like women wiv kids...
A. 25 April 2008: Some men have their preferences. Some men will not want to date women with children. Other men won't too much care.
I'm either way. While I would rather she not have kids, it's not a deal breaker either. I love kids so it could be a plus. A... (read in full...)
She was dry with me but wet when she came back from work-is she cheating on me?
Q. My wife and i have past 2days we had sex she dry before start and then she went to work when she come back when I feel her she was wet as she just finished having sex or may be cheatin...
A. 25 April 2008: A few things:
-She might not be in the mood when you're ready for sex - which is why she might be dry when you touch her. Remember, if you want sex and she isn't in the mood but is willing to have sex with you, you need to GET her in the mood thr... (read in full...)
Is it me, or does he have a secret? He only wants anal sex!
Q. My husband only wants anal sex. We'll start out making love vaginally, but then it seems he can't come unless he's inside my anus, or masturbating on my anus. He also prefers to be behind me, So i'm kinda starting to wonder if it's me, or if he's ...
A. 24 April 2008: I think the first thing is to talk to your husband and ask him directly what or why is it? There could be many reasons for him seeming to only want to make love anally. A couple of them being:
-It's a fetish. He could have watched one too many... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 20 April 2008: This is an unfortunate situation. It's pretty bad that she was raped by two guys she thought were her friends. It will be even worse if you guys have a riff in your relationship together because she won't do what you think is right - no matter ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble masturbating! What is this white stuff?
Q. hi, im 15 years old and im having trouble masterbating. when its time for me to cum i only get a white liquid. anyone got any advice???...
A. 17 April 2008: Well technically...
Sperm is microscopic - meaning you can only see it under a microscope. Semen, which is comprised of many fluids from the male body and also contains sperm is usually white in color or sometimes a little off white (yellow ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: "One writer boastfully says, The words of GOd arent meant to be take literally but by grace we are saved... The bible doesn say that."
Ephesians 1:5-12
5 having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to... (read in full...)
She wants me to be more aggressive with my love-making!
Q. My wife says I love her , make love to her, too softly she wants me to be more aggressive. I need some examples and she says to me , figure it out . "I want to be taken not made love to". Help!...
A. 11 April 2008: When you say she wants to be taken I get the impression she wants you to "take" it, not beat her around.
For example, next time she doing the dishes, or even cooking (move her away from open flames), or ironing clothes or whatever: just walk up ... (read in full...)
I'm 8 months pregnant, will having intercourse hurt my baby?
Q. I'm 8 months pregnant, and me and my husbund still want to have sex, but find it hard what can we do to make it easier? Will it hurt the baby or am i just being silly?...
A. 11 April 2008: You find it hard that you can't find the right positions, or hard that you are unsure if sex will harm your unborn child or not?
First of all, congrats on your pregnancy. Many blessings to you and your husband.
Now, sex while pregnant is okay... (read in full...)
Does a woman make a man cum with her body, or does the man make himself cum using her body?
Q. Hi People, On rare occassions wen me n my boyfriend ahve sex, hes more into it den me n i dnt usual put too much effort into it but he still manages to cum. I was just wondering, when men/boys cum wen having sex wud u say that: The woman m...
A. 11 April 2008: I would say it's neither one: most men cum or reach orgasm simply through the friction of the penis moving in and out of the vagina.
So the woman wouldn't have to do anything - she could just lie there while he pumps away - him doing all the ... (read in full...)
How safe is ORAL SEX from AIDS.. HIV...??
Q. How safe is ORAL SEX from AIDS.. HIV... Is it dangerous to have oral sex with women for aids ?...
A. 20 March 2008: I'm guessing your question is whether or not it is dangerous to have oral sex with women WITH HIV/AIDS? Correct?
Again the process of infection lies with opportunity. If there are open sores in the mouth of the person giving oral sex, then cer... (read in full...)
Sex, the messy details
Q. I plan on staying a virgin until my wedding night and I hope to marry a virgin. I'm concerned about what our wedding night might be like. This might sound naive but just how messy is sex without a condom. Is there semen everywhere? What about ...
A. 20 March 2008: Hey Drummaster!
Let me first applaud you for taking the narrowed, mostly untraveled road of chastity until marriage. Very noble.
Having said that - in this day and age it would almost be a miracle to find someone else who is a virgin. Not tha... (read in full...)
Sex with my teacher.
Q. I have this extreme urge to just make out with my teacher and have sex with him. I feel like he likes me too. I don't know. I'm confused. =\ btw: I'm 15. He is 37....
A. 20 March 2008: Sexual feelings at this age are a part of the normal maturation process. It's not a bad thing that you have these natural feelings.
Lots of young people tend to have "crushes" on persons much older than them. All kinds of feelings swirl around a... (read in full...)
Should I be at all worried that she may be pregnant? I know this sound stupid but I just don't want any kids with her....
Q. Two weeks ago a friend stayed at mine, we slept together, she is not on the pill so we used a condom, wanting to play it safely I didn't even cum inside the condom whilst I was in her, we had been messing around before and I had been fingering her ...
A. 10 March 2008: Two people have already said it - but if you're that hung up on having a child with her, you shouldn't be having sex with her. Point blank.
But shouldn't be pregnant. It seems you took all the necessary precautions to make sure pregnanc... (read in full...)
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