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I am a 35 year old happily divorced woman with four children. Two girls and identical twin boys. My field of expertise is domestic violence having grown up with it and now work in a domestic violence women's shelter advocating strongly for the empowerment of women. I consider males and females to be equals and am passionate about the work I do. I am currently in a healthy stable relationship and my one wish is that all people find themselves in a healthy relationship. My hobbies include bellydancing, bushwalks, camping, going to the beach and making the most out of each day and taking time out to smile and be happy. Cheers.

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Where do I "go" when I have to pull out?

Q.   This is kind of a strange question but here goes. When having sex with an unfamiliar partner, where do you "cum" when you need to pull out? Is there some kind of ettiquette with this kind of thing? Seriously I never know what to do when that moment ...

A.   9 July 2008: Simple if you don't want to share your cum then either don't do it or wear a condom. You know the saying love me love my cum. Well mate if you don't want your cum inside her then don't enter. If she does not want to get pregnant then wear a condom. ... (read in full...)

How can I leave this guy? He does nothing to help out!

Q.   How do I leave my boyfriend of 5 years and two living together. He refuses to work more than two days a week and plays video or is on the computer from the moment he wakes up until he goes to sleep. When I tell him a man must work he tells me I am ...

A.   6 July 2008: sounds like he sees you more like a mother than a partner. He sounds abusive in that when you tell him that a man works he becomes defensive. He states you are being sexist. Red flag warning sign of an abusive person. He feels that as a man he is ... (read in full...)

I tell silly lies to try to keep my guy!

Q.   I found the man of my dreams but I am so afraid of losing him that I lie about little things just so he thinks I am perfect. I hate this and he has caught me in these "little lies" so to speak and now he doubts everything I say. For instance...

A.   5 July 2008: If you find yourself telling lies to make yourself perfect in his eyes then he is not the one for you. In a healthy relationship both parties should be allowed to be themselves, ie dress how they want talk to whomever and most importantly have their ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   22 April 2008: well Mandy I got a phone call at work today from an unidentified male asking specifically for me. He asked me if I was still going out with my partner and at first I thought it was an officer from the police station. I remained coy about this line ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   21 April 2008: He texted me today and I played it cool. We have a dv march coming up in one of the local towns and we always provide the banner so I will be seeing him there with his work role being crime prevention officer and me as domestic violence outreach ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   20 April 2008: Mandy thank you so much for your advice. I am really struggling not to contact him and I am waiting to see what he does ie when he contacts me as the ball is in his court. I said I would wait 8 weeks but I could not guarantee what the future holds ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   19 April 2008: Update her harassment of me extends to now calling me from a payphone. She did this a couple of weeks ago cause he took off fishing and cause she couldnt contact him she rang me. The night before he rang me and was on the phone with me for 5 minutes ... (read in full...)

How often should I call my girlfriend the days I can't see her?

Q.   After seeing my counsellor I realise now the only problem in my life is women. I have been on 3 dates in my entire life, longest relationship lasted 5 weeks. I now know it is because of low communication (i.e. when I didn't see her I would only send ...

A.   12 April 2008: Mate if you like a woman call her as often as you like. My current partner and I are going through a rough patch thanks to his ex meddling in our lives and I just really love hearing his voice. If a girl is smitten with you then the more you call ... (read in full...)

Should my friend stick with her "dirty" boyfriend or go for someone less smelly?

Q.   ok, this question isn't for me it's for a friend!! she has this boyfriend that she lives with. she says he is kinda dirty like he doesn't take showers everyday and brush his teeth and that sometimes he smells. She has been talking to these ot...

A.   9 April 2008: All I can say is if he doesn't shower I would not be sleeping with him or giving him head. I definitely would not want his thrushy mouth near my clit either. Is he on drugs! Cause usually lack of hygiene is one of three things 1 he has not been ... (read in full...)

I went to "third base" with a gentleman from my trip - now I feel lost in my values, as this situation contradicts my usual self!

Q.   Dear Aunts and Uncles, I am twenty years old and until recently I have never been kissed. Kissing was something I was not familiar with and I could not push myself to do something I did not consider natural, no matter how perfect, accordin...

A.   9 April 2008: Darling, do not be hard on yourself. After all you are human and you perceived this man to be an ok choice to come into your personal space. You felt a connection and attraction. The lack of time to establish a relationship was not available to ... (read in full...)

Love bites - why a problem?

Q.   is it such a big deal to have a love bite? my boyfriend and i went away for the weekdend, friday till monday and it was amazin! we spent all our time in the swimming pool and then back in the shallet we just spent all the rest of our time just enj...

A.   9 April 2008: Basically it is seen as a big deal due to peoples perception of it looking cheap and an indication of a sexual relationship. To me it is like a dog cocking his leg and peeing to mark his territory. Love bites are a personal thing but I have always ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   3 April 2008: Anonymous I have thought of moving but I have moved already 4 times in 3 years due to my ex and he had it in family court that I am not allowed to move more than an hour away so basically I am trapped from really getting away. Also my job is ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   30 March 2008: Thanks Mandy. I feel I know that her next move will be to fake an injury to herself or her property and blame me for it. That way the police will arrest me not her so I have written a letter to work stating that I will volonteer all free time to ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   30 March 2008: Update on the situation. On Friday my partner left work early to go fishing with mates overnight to get away from the stress. I sent him a text to see how he was and as soon as I sent it the phone rang so I picked it up but it was her so I let rip ... (read in full...)

How is an abortion done?

Q.   I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....

A.   26 March 2008: Sweetheart you have made the decision because it is your decision. Instead of some of these posters bagging you they should be bagging the male who put you in this position. It is so easy for them to walk away but the woman has to be responsible for ... (read in full...)

How do I handle my girlfriends rough past?

Q.   Hi there im new to this but i really need some advice from several caring people. my situation is my girlfriend comes from a long hard past and im the best thing that has happened to her. We are both nineteen but when she was 6 years old she lived ...

A.   26 March 2008: I can feel the trauma you are experiencing from her past but this is only a miniscule portion of what she is feeling. Her core values and beliefs have been formulated since she was 6 and before that basically she has no power and she is at the ... (read in full...)

She said she's still recovering from her divorce, to be fair with me, and that she enjoyed our date. What to do next??

Q.   Hi, i recently taken a girl out on a date, she's in the middle of a divorce.which went great. To the point of her askin do i want to see her again and do i want to kiss her. I responded with yes to both these questions and was looking forward to the ...

A.   26 March 2008: Mate it sounds like she really likes you but divorce can really wreck your confidence. Even though you think she is stunning she may not feel that and being a police woman is a very time consuming job. My new partner is a policeman and as much as ... (read in full...)

I'm trying to make conversation with this girl but I'm not good at it! Any advice?

Q.   hi i need some advice, im not very good at what to talk to this girl i like her,im a bit shy too so that does not help anyway.... i do try to make conversation but she does not do qustions back to me so it seems its just me asking which see...

A.   26 March 2008: Ok find out what her interests are. Music would be a good safe topic to talk about given your age. Conversation should never feel awkward and being shy can be tough but it can also be a really good quality. I was really shy at school and hardly ... (read in full...)

Is it really better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? I need some help.

Q.   Is it really better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? I always thought it was, but now I’m losing that belief. I’ve only ever had the one relationship and it ended 2 days ago. I could really do with some help. I’ve ...

A.   26 March 2008: To you question is it really better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all: If we never love we never feel emotion. If we never love we never grow. The pain you are going through is GRIEF. There is a saying that what doesn't kill you ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   26 March 2008: As for a police arm mandy female stalkers really are low priority in Australia even though you and I both know that their potential for escalation is much the same as it is for males although the issue of rape is non exsistent with female stalkers. ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   26 March 2008: update The investigation is still continuing into the pre paid mobile identity theft. One of the numbers rung on this phone was a direct line to a bank I do not bank with in a town I don't live in but I did bank with them years ago and the scary ... (read in full...)

Where can I find a good sex psychotherapist in my city?

Q.   Hello I think I need to speak to a sex psychotherapist that I will pay for privately. My question is, how do I find one in London, how do I know if they would be any good ? My background is that for decades I have had much awkwardness abou...

A.   25 March 2008: First of all you need to explain your awkwardness a little more clearly ie in detail. You are saying that your parents religious faith and their values have left an impression on you. Ok this is what the issue is here. Every one of us carries with ... (read in full...)

How to resist temptation of contacting or responding to an ex.

Q.   Hello. I've written here before asking a question about how to get over a breakup. That was back in September. I definitely got through the break up, and moved on and found happiness within myself. But not completely. Currently I am...

A.   24 March 2008: Excellent. You see he threw out the bait to see if you would bite. No response on St Paddys so chose to throw the bait further ie by running into you and being flirty. ie trying to weaken your resolve and confuse you. By being nice, and in your face ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   24 March 2008: That is so good to hear you are at peace. I agree with Pericles that short posts mean peace. Savour every moment darling and enjoy because YOU ARE WORTH IT! Happy easter from Australia!... (read in full...)

First time oral, I don't know what to do?

Q.   hi i'm going to do oral sex for the first time with my new girlfriend but im worried about how i go about things and how is the best way to lick a girl out can any one give me tips?...

A.   18 March 2008: Try this technique- With your tongue on her clit trace IN CAPITAL LETTERS each letter of the alphabet with your tongue. By the time you get to O she will be getting pretty aroused. Also what arouses a woman more than anything is a guy who loves ... (read in full...)

How to attract males when overweight and unattractive?

Q.   I am a 21 year old female who is very overweight and unattractive. I am attempting to tackle my weight issue, but it is going slowly. No men ever show any interest in me, while my other friends are constantly getting male attention or are in...

A.   18 March 2008: Oh honey I know how not feeling as though you are attractive due to weight can make you feel. Try some positive affirmations and if you want to lose weight then join a gym or dance at home to whatever music you like. Go for a walk. It is so sad that ... (read in full...)

When I finally miss them, they seem to stop missing me!?

Q.   Why is it whenever I go out with a guy in the beguining they act like they can't get enough of me, then that goes away and they seem to be fine to not see me every single day??? Usualy when I first meet a guy they are all over me and I am a bit u...

A.   18 March 2008: Well in the dating stage guys are full on because of their natural instinct of being the suitor and beating the opposition. Once they feel secure that you are with them exclusively then they get COMFORTABLE with you and RELAX. It does not mean they ... (read in full...)

How is an abortion done?

Q.   I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....

A.   18 March 2008: Honey I hope that you are well and firm in whatever choice you decide to make. I assisted a woman with a further pledge towards her termination today. This woman already has 5 children and was facing being on her own with baby no 6. Really the issue ... (read in full...)

Are people required to change because their married now?

Q.   My husband and I dated for 4 years before marriage and we have been married 1.5 yrs, are in counseling already. There is no emotional, physical or spiritual connection anymore and I don't want to live like this. I have a habit that is not ...

A.   17 March 2008: Ok maybe the mary joanna you partake in and the friends you keep that associate with that he would try to limit you from having. But I suspect it is a little more than that. Denying you from having male friends is SOCIAL ISOLATION. Picking apart ... (read in full...)

Should I go to a "Gentleman's Club" to lose my virginity or am I selling myself short?

Q.   Hey guys, I've been pondering this for a while now, but I'd like to get some outside opinions on this. I'm still a virgin at 20, and quite frankly I'm over it. It hasn't happened yet, I can't see it happening anytime soon, and I just feel bored ...

A.   16 March 2008: glad to hear you are ok mate. Being a virgin is basically to be intact. Although you are male what I am getting at is most people see losing your virginity as the be all and end all of what qualifies you as a person. You have alot of strength ... (read in full...)

He doesn't seem to have time for me any more.

Q.   I'm with this guy and our relationship used to be so great but now he doesn't have time for me. We never hang out or do things together because he's always with his friends. Iif I try to talk to him I don't want him to think that I'm trying to take ...

A.   16 March 2008: the romance and the magic in a relationship settles down once the guy is comfortable with you and you get taken for granted. I agree with the other post that maybe you are feeling insecure or needing more attention from him. Hey darling it takes two ... (read in full...)

Sometimes I feel he was on the rebound for me as my last relationship failed badly.

Q.   I met a guy 9 months back. I didn't like him that time but slowly started liking him. He always said he loved me, did beautiful things for me which no one ever did. Dunno when I started liking him. Now he behaves differently. He doesn't care for ...

A.   16 March 2008: after 9 months with you he is feeling comfortable with you no doubt and may be taking you for granted. That is why I stress so much that the dating phase should go as long as you can as this is where the magic in the relationship is and people tend ... (read in full...)

How close is too close when it comes to a friendship? Is brotherly love possible between persons of the opposite sex?

Q.   Over the past week my ex-girlfriend and I are trying to get back together but while we were broken up she always talked to this guy whom she says is considered just a "friend". although she told me that one night he went over to her house to lay ...

A.   16 March 2008: I would definitely say it is a personal thing different with other people. I certainly do not have male friends I would lie down in bed with and do nothing. Maybe if I had a gay friend or guy who was attracted to males. Hate using labels. This would ... (read in full...)

I am thinking to leave my GF to be with another, both persons were acquainted to me by my best friend - afraid this would cause displeasure in my circle of friends!

Q.   I had gone a while without a girlfriend, but there was this one girl(Jennie) that I had liked for a couple years now. I had met her through one of my best friends(Pat), and pretty much had a crush on her. I had come close to making a move and ...

A.   16 March 2008: Well maybe write a list of pros and cons of both girls and go with your heart. I mean if you like this other girl then you need to break up with your girlfriend and tell her that you like someone else. Then give yourself a little rest and then ... (read in full...)

Why would he ask for my number...say he will call and still not call??

Q.   Well, I'm 18 and I met this guy who is around 33. I met him by chance and we started talking and well I know him a bit and it was pretty nice. He was really sweet and all and he had asked me if i was alone or witn company and where I lived, but unfo...

A.   16 March 2008: He is a player. For him to keep asking you if you are all alone. Did he say do you have a boyfriend or are you all alone. That would be the difference in my response. He sounds like a married man who just wants a hot young girl to relive his ... (read in full...)

If a guy cheats on you once, will he cheat on you again?

Q.   If a guy cheats on you once, will he cheat on you again?...

A.   16 March 2008: Yes a cheater will only say he is not cheating while he is not caught. Once caught he will then only admit to it. Remember that fleetwood mac song. Thunder only happens when its raining. Players only love you when there playing. he is a PLAYER. P... (read in full...)

How often should I feel these flutterings of pregnancy?

Q.   hey, not been on here for ages. Hi everyone, I am now 17 weeks pregnant, which is... 4 months 1 week and 4 days. Anyway, I couldn't be happier but my main concern is that I keep feeling the fluttering feeling which is meant to be the babies first ...

A.   16 March 2008: Glad you posted. With my first it was around 17 weeks that I felt the first flutter. It was amazing. The stretching pains on your abdomen is your skin stretching. Honey I hope you are rubbing essential oils on your belly twice a day to prevent ... (read in full...)

I did stuff with my friend and now I can't stop thinking about her...

Q.   hi, I'm really confused at the moment. I've got a long problem: a while ago my friend came over for a sleepover. We were discussng what it would be like to kiss a girl and I leaned over and kissed her. I pulled away straight away but she pulled m...

A.   16 March 2008: Ok mate the exact same thing happened to me when I was 9 or 10. Had a sleep over her place and she wanted me to kiss her with my tongue in her mouth and my finger inside her. I felt really uncomfortable but she forced me and said if you don't do it ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has "slutty" posters on his wall, why do I feel insecure?

Q.   I feel really insecure in my relationship with my bf. I dont know if its me that is the problem or him? I have never felt secure in a relationship (besides for the beguining, that feeling of secuirty soon fades away) so it makes me think maybe im ...

A.   16 March 2008: Honey it sounds as though you have some really strong core values and beliefs. This is good. Choosing not to drink even though all your peers are is good. It shows that you have self respect and do not want to do what everyone else does. Having ... (read in full...)

He tells everyone I am a "retard" but I still want him back!

Q.   hey I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm having big dating problems. I was dating this guy I totally fell in love with. We dated and one night I was talking to our friend and max(the guy I was dating) tested me and asked what I was doing, I told him talk ...

A.   16 March 2008: I would wait until you are more clear on what it is you want and who you want. It seems to me that attention is what you want and honey you are still young. He called you a retard. Definitely not the grounds for a healthy stable relationship. ... (read in full...)

How to resist temptation of contacting or responding to an ex.

Q.   Hello. I've written here before asking a question about how to get over a breakup. That was back in September. I definitely got through the break up, and moved on and found happiness within myself. But not completely. Currently I am...

A.   15 March 2008: Boundaries. Maintain your personal boundaries with this man. He does not care for you and is treating you like a puppet on a string. Remember: 1. You are a beautiful woman. 2. You are worthy of love and respect. 3. You are beautiful just the way... (read in full...)

How is an abortion done?

Q.   I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....

A.   14 March 2008: In Australia there are two methods for abortions. One is the medical abortion which an agency near to me gives the woman a series of pills and this will help to create an abortion and there is alot of bleeding. I think it is that RU pill. The othe... (read in full...)

Should I go to a "Gentleman's Club" to lose my virginity or am I selling myself short?

Q.   Hey guys, I've been pondering this for a while now, but I'd like to get some outside opinions on this. I'm still a virgin at 20, and quite frankly I'm over it. It hasn't happened yet, I can't see it happening anytime soon, and I just feel bored ...

A.   14 March 2008: Mate you sound like a real catch. 20 and still a virgin. Mate I am sure there are plenty of women out there from 18- 35 that would just love to meet you. With hookers, it is just sex and I have been friends with hookers and mate they do at least 10 ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   14 March 2008: Wow ringing you at 3am just shows the lack of respect. He is probably hoping that if you answer the phone at this hour you will be not thinking of a defensive response. I would get an answering machine, turn the phone to silent ring tone overnight ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   12 March 2008: He was expecting a card or phone call from you and when that didn't happen he felt the loss of power and control over you. He used GUILT AND PITY to make you see HIS emotions without considering yours. SORRY PHASE. NEXT IS BUYBACK PHASE. He is ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   12 March 2008: I am so proud of you. You had enough strength to not send the card. It is ok to buy it and your instincts told you not to follow through. That is a positive step. Another positive thing would be to keep a journal. On one half of the book you can ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   10 March 2008: Glad I was able to help. To have moments when you feel like caving in and going back is to admit you are human. You know the emotional cost you have put into the relationship is what makes you falter but this is when you should just do nothing. Your ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   9 March 2008: Thankyou for posting and letting me know you are ok. Keep posting as rcn and myself genuinely care about seeing you in a better place. Information you are gathering will strengthen you in addition to doing some work with yourself. I mean building ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   9 March 2008: Wow I am so proud of you for going to the library and reading up on domestic violence related issues. I am getting goosebumps and tears of joy in my eyes. You are on the road to recovery. Once I armed myself with literature and books on the subject ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   6 March 2008: Hey I hope you are doing ok and come back and let us know how you are going. I see you are getting your strength back and just want to say how proud I am of you. I left my abusive ex husband 3 years ago and there were many times I had this crazy ... (read in full...)

His ex is stalking us and I am frightened.

Q.   Update on his ex won't leave us alone -Harassing phone calls. Hi guys I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 6 months and his ex wife has been making harassing phone calls to my partner and I. I successfully had calls traced with the ...

A.   4 March 2008: Thank you all for your responses. Mandy you helped me heaps went to the link you suggested. The sanction the other woman spoke about is a justice examination order in Australia.She has accused my partner of abusing his kids then when the kids ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   22 February 2008: Going to the library is such a positive step for you. Arming yourself with as much literature on emotionally abusive relationships will have a twofold effect. One it will provide you with information on all the tools manipulative people use to soul ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   22 February 2008: Wow it sounds like you have been through alot of pain in your seven years with this coke addicted man. I would say the selfishness within him was present before the cocaine and the cocaine has just emphasised it and enhanced this personality trait. ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   15 February 2008: It sounds as though you have reached the crucial milestone in your life in where you have realised that no amount of good and love coming from your side is going to change him. Sometimes beautiful warm caring women have to reach absolute rock bottom ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   13 February 2008: Ok for him to say you are in shock has he followed you to the doctors to know that you are on valium? Also he is softening you up for valentines day. You are on a very heavy dose of medication BECAUSE OF HIM. When I left my abusive ex husband my ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   13 February 2008: Hey just wondering if you are ok and you haven't caved in and let him back in your life. Send us an update so we know you are ok.... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   11 February 2008: To the man that asked you out I would have accepted a coffee date with him and after a few coffee dates explain to him that you have been in an abusive relationship and you want to take things slowly because you will not accept bad behaviour again ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   10 February 2008: In Australia we would consider this stalking behaviour. My suggestion is to get an answering machine for your home phone and that way you do not have to directly speak to him and if he gets ticked off he may leave a nasty message that you can take ... (read in full...)

Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!

Q.   Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...

A.   7 February 2008: Change your cell phone number for a start or turn it off each night after you have received all calls from your friends and family. Have messagebank take all calls so that he has to leave a message and then simply delete it. You are in a cycle of ... (read in full...)

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