I don't think I'm ready to settle down yet
Q. I’m 21 and my boyfriend is 24, we met online and have been together for about 4 months now... He’s my first real relationship; all my other experiences have been disastrous one offs and this is the first time I’ve actually been on actual dates wit...
A. 21 October 2009: All the answers so far are being a bit over zealous.
Personally I think you just need to chill out a bit.
Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how happy you are with him, and that you love the way things are between you... But tell him you are... (read in full...)
Do short women really make better lovers?
Q. Just curious to know why so many men say short women are better lovers than taller women. I read several different forums, and sure enough, it came up over and over again. Problem was, no one elaborated on what made sex better with petite women. ...
A. 17 October 2009: What forums are you on?????? If you put "short women are better in bed" then of course you are going to fine loads of stuff. If you put "Sheep are better in bed" then you'll find loads of stuff too. Doesn't mean you should start saying Baa... (read in full...)
Is it possible to build a future together when we have conflicting goals?
Q. Hi everybody, I am new to this site but I registered as I have a major issue and I do not know who else to turn to - I don't feel that I can discuss it with any of my family or friends as I live in a close-knit community and I do not think I can ...
A. 15 October 2009: This is crap and I absolutely sympathise. I was very lucky in finding a man who was happy to be an uncle but not a dad, as I feel the same as you.
The short answer is that you need to end things.
If he is 30, then short of marrying a much ... (read in full...)
Fatten and Feed, Diet and Humiliate. Where can I find a woman like this?
Q. Hi all well i have a bit of a fetish/fantacy but find it difficult to meet women as it is a little unusual, Well hear goes, i'm fat very fat and would like to meet a female that would help me get fatter but humiliate at the same time, for exampl...
A. 15 October 2009: Gumtree.com is full of weird fetishes.
People advertise for all kinds of things on there.
Bear in mind that this woman will dial 999 and run when you have a heart attack / go into a diabetic coma. Or just run and leave you to die.
Do this ... (read in full...)
When is my next period due?
Q. wondering if someone can help tell me when i am due on my period and how long my cycle is. also, what a cycle is, is it the day you come on your period to the next time you come on? right so, i came on on september 13th and came off on the 18th sep...
A. 15 October 2009: Take a pregnancy test then!!!
Go to the doctor if you are worried!
I get the feeling you are much much younger than it says here. Talk to your mum and go to the family planning clinic.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I wan't to be a woman?
Q. Hey, im an 18year old male, and i want to turn into a woman, im just scared of what my family will say and will they disown me thats what im scared about, im always wearing ladies clothes like thongs and bras when family are out, but when they are ...
A. 15 October 2009: This kind of thing is VERY VERY hard for parents to understand.
Every parent wants their kid to grow up and be normal and produce grandchildren with a nice girl.
Be honest, you would want the same for your son too. So if you tell them this, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't take me to homecoming and will break up with me if I go. Is he bluffing?
Q. my boyfriend is a senior and im a sophomore, hes 18 im 16. homecoming is on friday and he wont take me. he says he doesnt wana go so i said i was jus gona go and he said we will break up if i go without him.. i asked why and he said "because its a ...
A. 15 October 2009: Why would you let some boy control you like this?
The number one rule a girl must learn when she starts dating is that you NEVER let a boy tell you what to do.
If he does then he's NO GOOD.
Go to the dance and if he gets annoyed then it pro... (read in full...)
Is it possible for Mr./Mrs. Right to not be into you?
Q. Quick question. Do you think that the person who you love and who doesn't love you back is simply not right for you? Or is it possible to know Mr. or Mrs. Right, the only issue is that he or she is just not that into you? Thanks....
A. 15 October 2009: You're trying to justify pursuing someone who isn't interested. I'm guessing all your friends are telling you to get over them and you don't want to.
It can feel good to be that romantic victim, who will die waiting like a poem. Plus, you are scar... (read in full...)
What do my horrible, recurring nightmares mean?
Q. i keep having reoccuring horrific nitemares. it`s so realstic. i prepare for bed and once i fall asleep in my dream a figure enters my room in the dark pins me down then rapes me. i scream and it feels so real. when i wake up it`s in fright. what ...
A. 15 October 2009: It could be your blankets / duvet is too heavy. If it's pinning you down in real life then it's going to impact your dreams.
Either that or you are just lacking a bit of self confidence in your abilities to defend yourself.
Take up judo,... (read in full...)
Do guys think virgins are a total turn off?
Q. ok, so do guys think virgins are a total turn off? im asking this because i am one and every guy i end up telling this to gets really uncomfortable even though they are the ones that asked. and then of course they run when i tell them i dont believe ...
A. 15 October 2009: Guys want sex, and many guys nowadays want sex as part of a loving relationship that they know probably won't lead to marriage.
You are asking a guy to chose up front whether he has any intention of marrying you, and then to be sex free until th... (read in full...)
What if I refuse to divorce?
Q. here is a dumb question. I still love my wife and i know she still loves me but she has alot of pride. I want to save our marige but i dont know how. Ive tried convincing her to go to counsling with me but she refuses. What would happen if i ...
A. 15 October 2009: I don't think any judge in 2009 is going to force a woman to stay married to you if she has a decent reason to want out.
If you hit her or cheated on her then you are stuffed I'm afraid.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do casual relationships ever turn into anything more?
Q. Has anyone ever had a casual dating relationship (seeing each other casually like maybe for a year) before turning into a real, committed relationship? Or have casual things always ended up as nothing more than that?...
A. 15 October 2009: There will always be an example of a guy who woke up one morning, and decided he wanted to get married. But people also win the lottery.
The chances of that happening are next to zero.
Guys are all very old fashioned about sex. If you have sex ... (read in full...)
Does my step-brother like me?
Q. My stepbrother is always touching my butt and asking me for sexual favors does he like mi?And i think he is sending mi mixed messages and its creeping mi out!!!! I need answers....
A. 15 October 2009: This is a common mistake to make for girls your age.
You think that by touching you he must "like you" and want to be your boyfriend.
It doesn't work like that. If he liked you, he'd treat you with respect and want to spend time with you.
... (read in full...)
Should I stay unsatisfied for my marriage?
Q. every time we have sex I stay unsatisfied. I rather for him to make it quick just to get it over with. There is a time when its good but that's only when I can engage him to make it "rough" but he doesn't like to. What can I do cuz its really ...
A. 15 October 2009: Well if you are married then why can't you talk to him about it?
Communication is the absolute key to being married and happy, so you need to TELL him what you like and the two of you can experiment to see what works.
A good tip is to make s... (read in full...)
It's getting harder and harder to trust her! Is she cheating?
Q. My girlfriend is acting suspicious, is she cheating on me? She tells me she is going to sleep at around 11 or 12 and we hang up, but when i log-in to facebook or myspace it says she is online. I have never said anything about this. But when we hang ...
A. 14 October 2009: So your evidence for cheating is that she's on the internet and she doesn't answer her phone when you think she should?
Well I find it quite hard to chat on facebook while having sex, so I don't quite get your logic.
As for answering her ph... (read in full...)
The Doctor thought I could be pregnant, but the test came back negative. The symptoms are still here - what's going on?
Q. Hey all, A few weeks ago I went to my doctor because I was having pain in my right nipple. He told me I had a blocked nipple duct and gave me some antibiotics so I went on holiday and forgot about it. The blocked duct was fairly erect at...
A. 14 October 2009: Well if you came off the pill then that's going to give you crazy symptoms.
Go back to the doctor again and ask him to do a blood test to confirm pregnancy or not. Ask him what else it could be.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I thought my ex and I were working things out, but he's disappeared again.
Q. I thought my ex and I were working things out. we were each other's first love, me at 23, and he at 25. We were together for a year, and then on and off for about another year, and then finally it didn't work and moved away from each other, b...
A. 14 October 2009: It sounds like he is one of these guys who is crap at communicating.
You either accept that being with him means you constantly don't know where you stand... or you tell him it's not good enough and you CUT CONTACT.
Things clearly haven't ... (read in full...)
I get the feeling there is something wrong, but my girlfriend won't talk to me about it!
Q. hey guys me and my gf are having a little problem and its a bit stupid..==" neway today we were talking on msn and then suddenly she started to sound really sad and depressed so i asked if she was and she said yes and then i asked wats wrong and s...
A. 14 October 2009: Tell her not to manipulate you and not to act pissed off if she is not prepared to talk like an adult about it.
Girls (and men) can do this to make you feel awful and then you beg for forgiveness when you don't even know what you did.
If she ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing with my ex, and was I reasonable with what I said?
Q. Why are men misleading about their feelings? I ask this cos two weeks ago I got close to my ex and all of a sudden he says he's seeing someone else. He said he couldn't do relationships and planned to be celibate. But I didn't believe him as th...
A. 14 October 2009: Yep, getting rid of users like this is the only way to move on and be happy.
So forget this and move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm scared of the one I've fallen in love with and I hate it...
Q. My boyfriend was extremely emotionally abusive (and occasionally physically abusive) for about 18 months. We both want to be together and he has been trying very hard to work through his personal trust and esteem issues that he blames for his ...
A. 14 October 2009: I think you need to get hold of some domestic violence leaflets and information.
You ask if your standards are too high. Are you serious??
Why do you think there are massive government sponsored programmes out there telling women like you t... (read in full...)
I'm in love but I'm scared to tell her! Advice please
Q. Im in love with my girlfriend ive been with for 2 months. I have recently had fallen in love with her but im scared to tell her. We already had sexual relationship but besides that its been going perfect. We enjoy each and we miss and think about ...
A. 14 October 2009: It's always a gamble saying it for the first time, but to be honest, she'll probably be over the moon if you say it.
I say go for it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I tell if she likes me? She has shot me down in the past!
Q. How do i tell if a flirty girl likes me. She touches me and goes out of her way to find me often and when she hugs me she does it longer then with others. She has hesitently shot me down before. ...
A. 14 October 2009: Ask her how she feels.
Tell her that you notice how she acts and you don't want to get hurt.
Ask her if she likes you as more than a friend, and if not then tell her to back off.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Could I have lost my virginity whilst dry humping?
Q. ok so i'm a virgin but i'm just wondering... me n my ex were dry humping and i was wearing really thin pj pants and his pants were undone so it was just his boxers.... well it felt really good but i could kinda feel this pressure/ pain like he had ...
A. 14 October 2009: Virginity is a bit more flexible nowadays.
It's not like a guy is going to want to check for blood on the sheets on your wedding night.
If you didn't have sex then you are still a virgin.
If you want to stay a virgin then having a guy on top... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my bestfriend....should I tell him?
Q. Hey guys, I'm in love with one if my best friends. It started last year: I had a crush on him ever since I got to know him. That crush slowly turned into to liking him a lot and wanting to date him. Then I realized that I loved him. Everything ab...
A. 14 October 2009: Ask hi what he meant when he said he said he loved you, and tell him you would be ok with seeing how things went if he wanted to start dating.
It's not good to sit in silence and suffer. If he says you have no chance then you can take a bit of t... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to rectify the broken rifts in my family and help them to be proud of me?
Q. I'm sitting here right now in tears, needing someone's advice on my life. I'm wondering, have any of you ever felt like you've lost your way in life? That there was a path you should've chosen, but instead went way off into the dirt roads into ...
A. 14 October 2009: What you do is simple:
Get a job, get some cash, move out.
Just because they are your family doesn't mean you have to be in their lives.
You'll be far happier without them. Not all parents are the lovely caring supportive types. There ... (read in full...)
Do I need to take the morning after pill?
Q. ive had unprotected sex 5 days after i finished my period can i get pregnant and do i need the morning after pill or will i be ok?...
A. 14 October 2009: If in doubt, ALWAYS get the morning after pill.
It's free from the GP so why take the risk?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What do you consider the upper limit in physical contact with friends? I'm worried I might be too affectionate and lead people on!
Q. Hi there Aunts! So this question definitely won't have just ONE answer, I'm interested in people's views. I would say that I can be a pretty affectionate person with friends I know well, and most of my friends are guys. I don't flirt with them ...
A. 14 October 2009: Yep you are flirting like hell.
Just because you use physical contact to flirt rather than words doesn't change it.
I' a flirty girl and I have got myself into lots of trouble like this.
Boys are STUPID. If you hug them too long, put your ... (read in full...)
I'm too embarrassed to show my face to his brothers in case they think I am a boyfriend stealing whore!
Q. so me and this friend of mine started hooking up... at the time he had told me he had broken up with his girl.... so we went out lunch , ice cream walk on the beach.... we start having sex .... so one day idk how but i found out he was still...
A. 14 October 2009: They are men, so they are just going to think of you as the girl their brother was having sex with.
If you have a casual relationship with a guy then his brothers are going to think you are a whore anyway.
Men have huge double standards.
As... (read in full...)
So hurt and Confused!!
Q. My bf/ex (not sure yet) just found out that we were pregnant about a month ago. We have been arguing like crazy lately over stupid things. His actions and the way he acts around me have totally changed. (IE wont cuddle, talk, or do anything with me ...
A. 14 October 2009: Well look, if he's freaking out, you can't pin all your hopes on getting him back.
You have bigger problems and they are that you are pregnant and probably about to be a single mum.
So you have to forget him for now, tell him to bugger off an... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a female friend likes you?
Q. me and her are always sitting next to each other in lectures and in seminars. she always playfully hits me, or teases me about something i do or wear and takes my stuff like my hat forcing me to try and get it back. when we were in class the other ...
A. 13 October 2009: How to find if she likes you?
Ask her out on a date!
If she says yes and you end up snogging at the end of the night then it's a pretty big clue she might like you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Any sites that address missing someone in the military?
Q. I am a girlfriend of a marine, and I'm having a hard time adjusting to his second time overseas. I know there are a lot of spritual or patriotic support systems, but as an atheist and pacifist, my emotional pain is not easily alleviated. Neither my ...
A. 13 October 2009: Hiya, I'm an army wife in the UK.
The fact that all the help you guys get is "Go Go USA!" or "God will help!" is absolute crap.
Over here we get a lot more practical help so you could look for some army wife uk, facebook groups websites etc. Mo... (read in full...)
Blood in my semen -- help!
Q. Guys, pls help me. I am 20, i am virgin. Never been in any sexual relationship. The problem is , i musterbate. And when i masterbet yesterday i bled, i bled a few with my sperm. Then again, when i musterbet i bled few hours ago , my ...
A. 13 October 2009: See a doctor.
Could be nothing, could be something very serious.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why does my stomach get bigger during my period?
Q. Hey.I started my menstrual cycle recently and i noticed when i'm having my period,my stomach area and breast area tends to slightly increase in size.However,i weigh myself and realised i didn't put on any weight.Can anyone help me and explain why?...
A. 13 October 2009: You're retaining water and also getting a bit bloated.
It's another FUN symptom of being a woman.
You can eat yoghurt and keep drinking water to wash your system through.
Google water retention and you'll find lots of herbal teas and thing... (read in full...)
I'm questioning whether I should marry him because he clearly does not want to have this baby with me
Q. I am 4 months pregnant and due to marry my fiance in December. I am in my middle 40's and really wanted another child but thought it wouldn't happen at my age but it did. My partner told me that his child rearing days are over and that he never ...
A. 13 October 2009: It's a tough call this one.
One the one hand, he's been honest that he didn't want this, and to be fair you can't blame him for worrying about the health aspects for you and the baby. The NHS has come on a million miles when it comes to helping ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a compulsive liar and I don't know what to do, she will only answer my questions with more lies!
Q. Hey so im going to get straight to the point. ive been with my girl for exactly 6 months in 2 days and im really worried because shes a compulsive liar to everyone, i didnt think it was to me until i found out her ex has been giving her hundreds and ...
A. 13 October 2009: Well if she's got a mental illness you have 3 options:
1. You can leave. If you can't cope with her illness then it's not your fault. You're a boyfriend, not a carer or a nurse.
2. You can tell her you will leave if she doesn't get help. She ne... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can do everything he has asked of me but I love him so much! How can I get the old him back?
Q. Hi everybody. Please help me, I don't know how to decited now. I have date with him for 2 years and we just broke up for stupid reason.(he don't spend time with me). So, i got mad and i left him. He cried first day (i know because he call me) After ...
A. 13 October 2009: So you have to be his housewife, ignore your beliefs on pork, do everything he says... and he gets to do what he wants, have female friends and do nothing about the house???
Well it's your choice.
You can be with him and be a MISERABLE slave.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of trying to make everyone happy but me!
Q. To understand my question, i need to give you some background. I'm 23, my husband is 28 and in the military. We've been together for 7 years and married for 5. My family see him as a golden child, second son and that he cannot do wrong. In our fi...
A. 12 October 2009: Hiya,
I'm an army wife too here in the UK.
If you aren't happy then you aren't happy. There is no point torturing yourself.
I've just relayed your problem to my husband and asked him what he would prefer (in terms of phone email etc) when it... (read in full...)
I always thought only men had "wet dreams." Is this a normal thing or am I just weird?
Q. I awoke in the middle of the night last night wet and horny. I must have cum in my sleep, although i don't remember what I was dreaming about. But I'm female and I always thought only men had "wet dreams." Is this a normal thing or am I just weird?...
A. 11 October 2009: Well if a dream about being chased by monsters can wake you up in a cold sweat and a shaking panic, I really don't see why a sexy dream can't wake you up feeling the way you did.
There's no such thing as normal, and since that is not a bad feel... (read in full...)
I have been with this guy four years and he lies about talking to his ex! What should I do?
Q. please help. I have been with my guy for about 4 years now. the problem is he is still very much in contact with his ex who he was only with for a year! he has met up with her behind my back and they are always txting and calling eachother.. he l...
A. 11 October 2009: Well you either have to lock him in a box and take away his phone.
Or you tell him to make a choice.
Either he cuts contact for good, by telling her over the phone, in front of you, or you walk away.
But the tough bit is you actually have... (read in full...)
Do men sleep with anyone they can?
Q. In your average friends with benefits situation so obviously we're talking frequent sex here, do you think a guy would sleep with just anyone? I mean if a guy is good looking and he knows it surely he would choose someone that he finds attractive? ...
A. 11 October 2009: Well depends on the man.
But if you're JUST his friend who has sex with him sometimes then you'll probably never know because what he gets up to is really none of your business.
If you want him to be your boyfriend then tell him. And if he s... (read in full...)
When is my next period due?
Q. wondering if someone can help tell me when i am due on my period and how long my cycle is. also, what a cycle is, is it the day you come on your period to the next time you come on? right so, i came on on september 13th and came off on the 18th sep...
A. 11 October 2009: 28 days on from the 13th of September is today!
So you should be due on in the next few days if you are normally regular.
If you haven't come on by next weekend then buy a pregnancy test.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
When is my next period due?
Q. wondering if someone can help tell me when i am due on my period and how long my cycle is. also, what a cycle is, is it the day you come on your period to the next time you come on? right so, i came on on september 13th and came off on the 18th sep...
A. 10 October 2009: Go from the first day you came on, count forward 4 weeks and that is when you are next due.
The AVERAGE cycle for a woman is 28 days but every one is different so you could be longer or shorter than that. It can also be a little different every mo... (read in full...)
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