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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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In dating, I don't want to be wasting my time if he's not interested! Any suggestions?
Q. Hi Advice please- I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now and he used to reply straight away and now he waits days and says sorry he's been really busy. I really like him, I assume he likes me and wants to carry on seeing each other, b...
A. 9 November 2015: It sounds like the ball is in his court to send a message.
You assume that he likes you and wants carry on seeing you, how you find this out is by allowing him to make the moves to arrange dates and start conversations.
Sadly, in my opinion,... (read in full...)
I can look past the religious stuff to give it a shot with him, what do I do?
Q. We got coffee, the next day he said we couldn't be more than friends cause I'm not is religion. We kept hanging out as friends, but he kept flirting and taking me out. Then he came over one night, we watched tv and talked a bunch, eventually he ...
A. 9 November 2015: You might be able to look past the religion thing, but he's not going to be able to do that.
I'd say "hi" when I see him and exchange pleasant chit-chat if you are in a situation where you can't avoid his company. But beyond that? No more alon... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate to wear sleeveless to interviews? (I am the interviewer)
Q. I recently got promoted to a role that required me to conduct interviews. My company is on a hiring spree lately so am busy interviewing several candidates daily. Where I work, it is very hot. Most people wear light and comfortable clothing to the ...
A. 9 November 2015: If the men won't be able to manage to work in an environment where there will be women wearing sleeveless clothing without ogling, then perhaps they would not be good hires for this particular company.
You could suggest to them as they leave th... (read in full...)
How do I clean the slate at work? My boss thinks I am too helpful!
Q. Hey guys please help I feel low I need help to restore my reputation at work I started 13 weeks ago and don't laugh but every week continuously was bringing in sweets etc trying to be nice with my team it was good to start But other areas n...
A. 7 November 2015: Stop bringing in sweets and do your job. Anticipate what might be needed and get that done before it's even asked. Make your boss look good. I assume you want to be appreciated for being a good person which is why you put so much emphasis on the ... (read in full...)
I'm comparing myself to husband's ex and have feelings of falling short!
Q. I'm new and have one main issue that's been going pretty much since I started dating my hubby a few years ago. He is sweet, smart, hard working, adores me and has never done anything to make me feel insecure. In full disclosure this is strictly an ...
A. 7 November 2015: Hi Bitty67, I'm going to ask you a question. If she wasn't an NFL cheerleader, would that change anything about your outlook on this situation at all?... (read in full...)
Is she being unfair? Do I need to end the relationship?
Q. I'm having a bit of an issue with my girlfriend of a year and a half. We met and dated for a year long distance before she asked me to move in with her. Actually, she said we'd break up if I didn't, so I gave in and did it. I moved to a state where ...
A. 5 November 2015: So what if she's not speaking to you? I would take that as a brief time out from her unrealistic expectations.
Go see your friends. Invite her along if you want to introduce her to your friends but be sure you arrive in separate cars.
You appear t... (read in full...)
Physician's assistant - any suggestions on how to handle the gruelling demands of this work?
Q. Hey all! I'm quite confused about making career choices and really need some advice. I want to become a Physician Assistant with a focus in Psychology. It took me some time to figure it out but that's where I'd like to go. I enjoy helping pe...
A. 30 October 2015: Why not go straight to school to become a PA? You have listed several reasons why being an EMT would be a problem for you. If you need to earn money in order to attend school to become a PA, you'd also need money to get EMT certification which would ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend having sex with her personal trainer?
Q. Hi guys, I've been dating someone for 6 months now and generally it's been great. She has had a personal trainer (PT) for about 8 months. I was happy she had goals and wants to achieve them. I've started becoming concerned with the chat...
A. 30 October 2015: I guess the good news is that you've only been dating her for 6 months. And as her physique and energy levels were sadly not what you'd like in that time? Well, at 6 months, you theoretically would be in the honeymoon phase, and as that's not how ... (read in full...)
How to honor my parents, without shaming his?
Q. Hi, Aunts and Uncles. My fiance and I are tying the knot this January in Las Vegas. We've been engaged for years, but have put off getting married because, like everyone else, we've been struggling a lot financially. Knowing how badly we wanted t...
A. 30 October 2015: You don't need a lot of money to get married. All it costs is the marriage license and whatever your state requires prior to issuing that license. You might need a lot more money to have a fancy reception though.
So is this about getting marr... (read in full...)
Does this sound like a marriage of convenience?
Q. Well, let's see if I can get good advice ^_^ I've known a man, he's English and living in the UK while I'm in the states, for about a year now...this September I went over and stayed with him for a month, came back to the states, and over Skype he ...
A. 28 October 2015: An Englishman living in the UK wants to marry you in California, then go off to Spain to learn ENGLISH? What? Even if he was going off to learn Spanish, that wouldn't make sense. California has many Spanish speakers.
And he won't introduce you to a... (read in full...)
Is it possible to loose your virginity to someone without being emotionally attached?
Q. Hi, im 18 a virgin ,by choice, but i met this guy im thinking of loosing it to, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship but stills wants to have sex. on one hand im thinking to do it because i know the sex would be AMAZING so i would have a ...
A. 28 October 2015: I forgot to add that most of the advice given to people who are questioning whether or not they should lose their virginity is this: if you have to ask, you aren't ready.
... (read in full...)
Is it possible to loose your virginity to someone without being emotionally attached?
Q. Hi, im 18 a virgin ,by choice, but i met this guy im thinking of loosing it to, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship but stills wants to have sex. on one hand im thinking to do it because i know the sex would be AMAZING so i would have a ...
A. 28 October 2015: You were ready to have intercourse for the first time but haven't done anything but kissing? You felt so turned on that you were ready to proceed with a guy who doesn't want a relationship.
Why did you stop, if you were so ready to have sex for ... (read in full...)
I am afraid I will never be my own man if I stay at this job
Q. So here I'm finished with college , single , and thinking of leaving my job. It all started after she left me (and yes i get how stupid this is) she was with me for so long I "changed" because of her and now she's gone; my parents and closest ...
A. 27 October 2015: You've been absent from your workplace for more than a week now?
Sam, if you are unhappy at work then don't stay in the job.
You may not even have a job at this point.
If you are overwhelmed and unable to cope following a breakup then you rea... (read in full...)
He left me before I could learn anything!
Q. Hello, I'm conflicted... I don't know what to do. One time, just one, I get mad for a foolish reason. He told me, " let's not talk anymore" and deleted me everywhere. I loved him. It just hurts to see how easily he let me go, away from his life...
A. 27 October 2015: Are you seeing him in real life every day at school? Or was this something that was happening in the virtual world?
How did you meet, how long were you two a couple, how much time did you spend together (in real life), how much time did you spen... (read in full...)
Is it possible to loose your virginity to someone without being emotionally attached?
Q. Hi, im 18 a virgin ,by choice, but i met this guy im thinking of loosing it to, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship but stills wants to have sex. on one hand im thinking to do it because i know the sex would be AMAZING so i would have a ...
A. 27 October 2015: Oh, and P.S., for your first time, if you are with a guy that you know really well and your relationship is based on mutual attraction and love and the possibility of a future? The first time sex may be awkward, but it won't be "shit" as you put it. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to loose your virginity to someone without being emotionally attached?
Q. Hi, im 18 a virgin ,by choice, but i met this guy im thinking of loosing it to, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship but stills wants to have sex. on one hand im thinking to do it because i know the sex would be AMAZING so i would have a ...
A. 27 October 2015: Are you a "never been kissed" virgin? Or an "everything but penis in vagina intercourse" virgin? Or somewhere in between?
I ask because you seem to believe this 25 year old guy will be amazing, based on, what? His talk? Discussions with other wome... (read in full...)
Is there hope for us? Or, is she wanting a clean cut?
Q. Hi. I hope that my question isn't too vague. I have been in a long-distance relationship for a few years. Though I never met the girl in person, I know she's for real, as we had quite a few webcam dates, and it was magical. However, she recentl...
A. 26 October 2015: Are there any ways to win back a woman you never met in real life, dated via webcam chats, and who has broken up with you?
Um.
No, it's not likely.
Have you considered trying to do the "real life" thing of meeting someone in person, asking them ... (read in full...)
How do I fix that I cheated on my wife and then kept lying about it?
Q. Over 2 years ago I broke and destroyed my wife's heart by having an affair, at a time when we should have been at our happiest expecting our first child through IVF. On revelation of what happened I cowardly hid the truth in order to save our rela...
A. 22 October 2015: I read this question and your followups and I have an observation. This has been about your control of the marriage, your wife, the situation, everything.
What you don't seem to be able to grasp or even realize at the moment is that you can't cont... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my boss. Does he like me?
Q. So I have a crush on my boss and I have this feeling he has it too.Signs-His eyes shine when he talks to me.Whenever he is around me,he tries to look at me.His friends at work are sweet to me.I have come to this new company unfortunately with ...
A. 21 October 2015: He's married.... what do you hope happens here?
He's your boss. He might be an attractive person.
If you don't want to waste your time, then what's the point in spending this much time wondering if your married boss likes you?
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of one year is pushing to get married and I'm not ready for it!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. I am 32 and he is 37. Neither of us have been married or have children.We live about 40 mins from one another. Here is the problem. He has been putting the pressure on me very heavy the last 4-5 ...
A. 20 October 2015: What are these problems?
Based on this post? I'd stop being the one who does all the driving. I'd do a background check on him. Maybe he can't come to see you because his driver's license is suspended? Or doesn't exist?
He's been aggressi... (read in full...)
Why does the girl who ran off with my ex manage to get under my skin?
Q. How do I cope with the girl who ran off with my man? She posts sleazy photos of her and him up on Instagram and Facebook to get back at me and her ex. I try not to look anymore and most times I don't - but from time to time I see images w...
A. 20 October 2015: I saw a quote today and immediately thought of your situation. Okay, ready, here goes:
"If you are willing to look at another person’s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a stat... (read in full...)
Why does the girl who ran off with my ex manage to get under my skin?
Q. How do I cope with the girl who ran off with my man? She posts sleazy photos of her and him up on Instagram and Facebook to get back at me and her ex. I try not to look anymore and most times I don't - but from time to time I see images w...
A. 19 October 2015: "She posts sleazy photos of her and him up on Instagram and Facebook to ****get back at me**** and her ex."
Wait. Why would she be getting back at you?... (read in full...)
Why does the girl who ran off with my ex manage to get under my skin?
Q. How do I cope with the girl who ran off with my man? She posts sleazy photos of her and him up on Instagram and Facebook to get back at me and her ex. I try not to look anymore and most times I don't - but from time to time I see images w...
A. 19 October 2015: Because you let her?
Just block her so thoroughly there's no longer a chance that you'll see the photos.
Your ex is the one who ran off with her, she didn't have anything other than a now-extinct friendship with you, right? Your ex is the one who ... (read in full...)
How do I protect my children from the unwholesome things online?
Q. Hi I am a 31 yr old mother. I have 5 yr old daughter and 3 yr old son. Now a days the children are tech savvy. Even the films, their promos show some porn like scenes, objectinable language, offensive actions like raising middle finger and sometimes ...
A. 19 October 2015: Limit exposure to television. (I have to admit to having no idea what is running on television in India so I'm making assumptions here.) In the US, there are parental controls on the televisions that limit what channels can be watched without a ... (read in full...)
Advice and Help or shall I give up.
Q. have recently separated from My wife and I did not want this she did. Due to a number of issues. Which are 1.A family member causing a Rift and I was not there for her properly during the 1st pregnancy 2. Me making silly mistakes 3. Not...
A. 19 October 2015: Your wife has lost trust in you and doesn't believe that you have her as your top priority. It's played out again and again, based on your post ("A family member causing a Rift and I was not there for her properly during the 1st pregnancy" and "Me ... (read in full...)
How can I find out how serious my father's health condition may be?
Q. I live with my father and today he sat me down to tell me something. He told me his doctors have found 2 rather large lumps on his brain and they don't know what it is until they do further testing next Monday. Now I'm someone who worries a lo...
A. 19 October 2015: Hi, just checking in on what you've learned. I hope that no news is good news in this case. And that you were able to get the HIPPA forms completed so you can speak to his doctors and get some accurate updates.
I know just hard difficult this can ... (read in full...)
I need help finding a solution!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with my man for almost a year now and lately we've been speaking about our future in terms of where we may live one day. He used to talk openly about it but lately he seems short with me when I bring it up and I'll explain...
A. 19 October 2015: Which coast are you on? I'm assuming California or possibly the Gulf Coast, based on the "swimming, surfing, swimming, walking, diving" activities. There is surfing on the East Coast but not as much diving. Most of the citie
You also wrote "I beca... (read in full...)
Could it be masturbation causing bad luck
Q. Could it be Masturbation causing me bad luck?? Im one person who hated wanking n everything those days went on very well. Happened one day when i got some advice form a friend who told me that jerkin yourself helps to last long during sex. De...
A. 15 October 2015: I think if you've decided it's bad luck then you will be on the lookout for negative things to happen. Have you ever heard the term "self-fulfilling prophecy"?
... (read in full...)
How do I get to know him better and get him to ask for my number?
Q. So this new guy at my job is really nice and really attractive. I've started having little conversations with him. But how do I start getting to know him more to the point where we exchange numbers. I don't see him that long because when I go into ...
A. 14 October 2015: "Hey, I was thinking about you last night! Remember we talked about that band/job/politician/restaurant/workout? I saw the funniest article/post/review/discussion/meme about it! I'll send it to you if you'd like." *sweet smile*... (read in full...)
Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?
Q. Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...
A. 14 October 2015: I think asking privately, in a romantic setting, would be lovely.
Then including the family could be something you two plan together. A family dinner or a party? Or on a special holiday?
You've been dating only 8 months, which to me is not that... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from my vicious boyfriend and stop myself from communicating with him?
Q. I've asked a few questions on here lately because I'm in kind of a messed up relationship but today I know I have to walk away from it. Two years ago I was raped and my boyfriend was totally unsupportive. After he brought me home from the police ...
A. 14 October 2015: You've been sexually assaulted. You've also been emotionally assaulted.
You won't be able to recognize that until your thought processes have been worked through in a supportive and healing way.
The rape was 2 years ago and the aftermath must hav... (read in full...)
Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?
Q. Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...
A. 14 October 2015: I'd start asking the "hypothetical" questions.
"So if you were to get married in the future, how do you think you'd want your daughter involved? Or not involved?
"What do you think would be the best way for a proposal to happen?"
At another time... (read in full...)
Does this virgo guy like me?
Q. The story is he used to like me a few years ago and I turned him down because I was seeing somebody then, and he said he was gay. Fast forward a few years now I like him and I told him, when I told him he said we would talk about it but we never di...
A. 13 October 2015: I would assume that he likes you well enough to hug you and to tease you about being away and seeing other guys, but he doesn't like you well enough to actually ask you out or ask you to be with him as a proper girlfriend.
His label for his own sexu... (read in full...)
Is there any way around his refusal to sign these documents? It's stopping me from travelling with her.
Q. Is there any way around getting my daughter a passport when her father is refusing to sign for it or let me borrow any of the legal documents needed. He isn't apart of her life and never has been but when she was born, he came to the hospital...
A. 13 October 2015: I would go back to the grandparents and explain the situation again. Give them the forms that need filling in and explain the documents needed.
And I would definitely get legal help in this. Your tactic of refusing child support may have back... (read in full...)
Is this sexual harassment? The actions of my new boss make me feel uncomfortable.
Q. I have just started working in a new role and have found my boss's behaviour odd. He has asked me whether I am serious with boyfriend, if the relationship is flexible and can be moved around for work, how old my boyfriend is, if my boyfrien...
A. 13 October 2015: Sorry to keep adding to this, I'm in the middle of making our evening meal and keep thinking of new things to ask. :)
Does your workplace have an employee handbook? If so, read it.
Does your workplace have a human resources department? If so, call... (read in full...)
Is this sexual harassment? The actions of my new boss make me feel uncomfortable.
Q. I have just started working in a new role and have found my boss's behaviour odd. He has asked me whether I am serious with boyfriend, if the relationship is flexible and can be moved around for work, how old my boyfriend is, if my boyfrien...
A. 13 October 2015: I would also practice the icy cold glare. Which you give to him when he asks such a ridiculous and inappropriate question.
"If you are asking me if my hours are flexible, the answer is ....... (fill in your information here). If you asking me pers... (read in full...)
Is this sexual harassment? The actions of my new boss make me feel uncomfortable.
Q. I have just started working in a new role and have found my boss's behaviour odd. He has asked me whether I am serious with boyfriend, if the relationship is flexible and can be moved around for work, how old my boyfriend is, if my boyfrien...
A. 13 October 2015: I second the idea that you log every single interaction you have with this individual. In a log book, dated and maintained meticulously.
I would parry any personal questions with a response repeating the entire question back to him at least twic... (read in full...)
Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?
Q. Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...
A. 13 October 2015: I think it's sweet and generous to want to include her daughter and your family in the happy news. You know her family and you presumably know her daughter, so I would trust your own judgment in this.
Have you been discussing the possibility of marr... (read in full...)
Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?
Q. Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...
A. 13 October 2015: I'd have floral headdress made for the daughter and when you tell her that you're going to be her new step dad, put the "crown" on her head and tell her that she'll be an important part of the wedding as the most special flower girl ever.... (read in full...)
Is sexting ok when you are in a relationship?
Q. It was a two month relationship. I found him sexting other women and I lost it,cried the whole night etc,didn't let him sleep but the lies he told the other woman was devastating. I have learnt my lesson to leave if anything like this happens ...
A. 12 October 2015: Not unless you both agreed it was okay.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't respond in kind when I say "I love you". The last 2 times he said "Pardon???"
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend now for almost 3 months and I really love him. I've felt like I love him for sometime but suppressed telling him because it wasn't quite the right time and it didn't feel like the right time. Then last weekend we were ...
A. 12 October 2015: I think the other aunts have given you some great comments here. My thought on his comment "Pardon?" is that he was hoping you would slow down just a bit. Just a little verbal cue to alert you that you may be moving too fast.
Lay off saying the phra... (read in full...)
How can I find out how serious my father's health condition may be?
Q. I live with my father and today he sat me down to tell me something. He told me his doctors have found 2 rather large lumps on his brain and they don't know what it is until they do further testing next Monday. Now I'm someone who worries a lo...
A. 9 October 2015: The forms would be known as the HIPPA forms (as SVC pointed out). We've been there, done that, know the drill and can walk you through this. More info is needed, however. :) Hope to hear from you soon and that we've alleviated some of the worry.... (read in full...)
How can I find out how serious my father's health condition may be?
Q. I live with my father and today he sat me down to tell me something. He told me his doctors have found 2 rather large lumps on his brain and they don't know what it is until they do further testing next Monday. Now I'm someone who worries a lo...
A. 9 October 2015: What were the tests they are planning to do? He would have appointments and directions for what he should or shouldn't do before such tests. If he was undergoing scans there would be very specific instructions on that.
Can you please provide more... (read in full...)
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