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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I know that we are amazing friends but my question is, is it possible to have a 'bond' with a guy friend?
Q. Hi, so I'm currently studying for a degree and have a close group of friends made up of three girls and one guy. Myself and the guy are close friends and when I went through a breakup of a very long relationship he was an amazing friend to me and ...
A. 25 September 2015: I don't know, if you read your question over again, it does sound a bit like you see the romantic side of it. "he puts his arm round me to warm me up, we whisper in each others ears and our faces touch" You feel "jealous, excited and protected ... (read in full...)
How can I get past the regret of never being able to be with him? Am I allowed to pursue a friendship?
Q. Hello dear all, For many years now I work together with someone in a local cultural institute. While I was young, about 15, he was 21 and I guess our age gap was considered too big, by ourselves and by others. I had a crush on him for years a...
A. 24 September 2015: *Best:)... (read in full...)
How can I get past the regret of never being able to be with him? Am I allowed to pursue a friendship?
Q. Hello dear all, For many years now I work together with someone in a local cultural institute. While I was young, about 15, he was 21 and I guess our age gap was considered too big, by ourselves and by others. I had a crush on him for years a...
A. 24 September 2015: I wonder really if a friendship with him would give you happiness or would it continue to feed your crush.
You say that you feel awful that you wasted years crushing on him. Okay, you may have some sense that being fixated on him is causing you to m... (read in full...)
My insurance does not help with skin removal surgery after weight loss! I'm upset and unhappy with my body! Anyone have advice for me?
Q. I'm hoping someone has been through something like this and can help me out. I am a 28 y/o woman who has been severely obese since early teenage years. It wasn't until I was 25 that I had gastric bypass and have lost 250 pounds putting me now a...
A. 23 September 2015: I know this isn't something that would be comfortable for someone who is so unhappy with the current state of her body, but have you considered looking into local media? Start training with a high profile personal trainer, ask him or her for help in ... (read in full...)
I need advice for my daughter who is living in a filthy one bedroom apartment with 4 children and one big dog! Her husband is never home because he's at his church!
Q. Desperate I need an advise for my daughter who is married with four children, my daughter and her husband works five days a week. They been living in a one bedroom apartment and one big dog since my first grandchild was born 6 1/2 years ago, the...
A. 23 September 2015: Okay, now having read YouWish's advice, I want to second hers most fervently.
"meet with the pastor of his church and explain that she needs his help in keeping the house clean"
Unless you are so terrified by this church for some reason? You ... (read in full...)
I need advice for my daughter who is living in a filthy one bedroom apartment with 4 children and one big dog! Her husband is never home because he's at his church!
Q. Desperate I need an advise for my daughter who is married with four children, my daughter and her husband works five days a week. They been living in a one bedroom apartment and one big dog since my first grandchild was born 6 1/2 years ago, the...
A. 23 September 2015: Let me just double check one thing, you said your first grandchild was born 6 1/2 years ago... they have 4 children.... doing the math (which I'm horrible at) suggests she has that 6 1/2 year old, then a 5 year old, then a 3 1/2 year old then a 1 ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still be so angry and hurt? Why can't I forget?
Q. Well nearly a year after the split I'm still angry and hurt that my friend went off with my ex behind my back. I have tried to do all the things I should do - like no contact and blocking off social media - but it still hurts and I still ha...
A. 23 September 2015: I think you might need to assess how pervasive this hurt is in your life. If you wake up every morning angry and hurt and feeling the pain of the betrayal acutely after one year? Then I think it's time to talk to someone with clinical training in ... (read in full...)
What exactly are morals?
Q. What exactly are morals? I would define morals as standards set by society. Are morals flexible? I am very guarded about my sexual side. I have often read about people who give advice on this forum saying keeping your body till marriage is outdated. ...
A. 23 September 2015: Is this a question about sexual morality? Perhaps that would help you think about whatever it is you are struggling with.
And as we seem to be answering a philosophical question, I would also suggest that defining the words "standards" and "soc... (read in full...)
How do I show my boyfriend my way is the best option? I want to clear my debts before we live together
Q. hi everyone. no 'attacking' please . ive been with my boyfriend for a while now and we have discussed future plans what we both want i already have a teen son and my boyf has no kids . at the beginning i was all up for having another baby but...
A. 23 September 2015: I was under the impression that two can live more cheaply than one, obviously I need to work on my math skills! :)
I think perhaps putting the numbers in black and white on a spread sheet might be useful, for him to grasp the financial reality you ... (read in full...)
He talks about getting me pregnant, but is it just all talk?
Q. Hi,(long story) im 23 and my guy is 19 yrs older. He uses the pull-out method. A few times he's came inside me. He askes about when im gonna have his baby. He says i hope you're ready to have a baby. But sometimes he says you better not get preg...
A. 23 September 2015: So while he may use the so-called pull-out method, he sucks at it. Basically he decides if he wants to release inside you or not inside you.
The real question is, which birth control method are YOU using? You are a grown woman who is allowed to m... (read in full...)
Should I have a baby with him? He's married
Q. I am a 38 year old lady who has been in an unhappy long distance relationship in another city(away from home) for 7years with no assurance from my man that he will marry me any time soon. At the beginning of this year i met a guy same age as me wh...
A. 23 September 2015: I think having a baby with a married man will end up with a lot of heartbreak. His words may be fancy but his actions don't match them. Is that the kind of father figure you'd want a child to have? I sure would have hated to have a father like ... (read in full...)
My father is dying and his partner of 20 years is unsupportive! How do I help my dad?
Q. This is not a LOVE relationship issue but it is a relationship issue. I normally am the one to give advice but this is something I am willing to hear all sides on. Background: My dad is nearly 81 and he is dying. He has non-treatable meta...
A. 23 September 2015: That Karma bus is a busy busy vehicle, isn't it? Poor Agatha. And she smokes? Eek, I hope no longer in their home. Dad needs all the oxygen he can get, and no toxins or extra carcinogens, thank you very much. Her immune system must be taking such a ... (read in full...)
Fiance wants to leave for a 3-month internship. How do I tell her I can't do a 3 month LDR ?
Q. My fiancé is planning on leaving for a 3-month internship next summer. We are both almost 25 years old, I am a real-estate developer and she is working towards her PhD in computer science. We have been living together now for several months, and we ...
A. 23 September 2015: I could see why you'd be startled that it came up from out of the blue. I also get the concern about LDRs.. The thing you should know about my point of view on this is that they can work, mine worked so well we are now married 20+ years. We started ... (read in full...)
Do I go or stay out of guilt?
Q. I left my wife and young sons for another woman, I am not proud of it but I fell in love. So walked.She left her marriage Still with the other woman missed the kids best years, my ex let me have access and it must have been hard for her. Fast...
A. 23 September 2015: So there seems to be some space in between these two things. You were in love with the "current one"... you both left marriages to be with one another ... then you were with "current one" because of guilt and habit. And now, you want out.
What happ... (read in full...)
I have future mother-in-law problems! I don't know what to do!
Q. Need advice. been in a relationship with my partner for 3 years and have recently returned from spending three days with him in Liverpool, but its now got me thinking of the future, but the only thing that's standing in our way is his mum. shes very ...
A. 23 September 2015: I'm trying to work out the math here. You've been with him for 3 years, and at the start of the relationship she said that you were only 18, but you are 23 at this time so you were actually 20 when you began the relationship. Did I get that right? ... (read in full...)
My insurance does not help with skin removal surgery after weight loss! I'm upset and unhappy with my body! Anyone have advice for me?
Q. I'm hoping someone has been through something like this and can help me out. I am a 28 y/o woman who has been severely obese since early teenage years. It wasn't until I was 25 that I had gastric bypass and have lost 250 pounds putting me now a...
A. 22 September 2015: Hey, congratulations on the weight loss! Sorry to hear that you are struggling with the new condition of your body, that must be very discouraging.
I have no knowledge of this but I did find one link that might have some useful ideas. http... (read in full...)
Could you forgive someone who lied about their age and their name? Turns out she the daughter of my boss!
Q. I met this girl "J" at a bar back in late July. She is beautiful and has an amazing smile, I asked her to dance and we ended up talking all night. She told me she was 23. We exchanged numbers and the very next day I called her. We ended up Hoo...
A. 22 September 2015: Maybe society should promote a new approach, that all people who start hooking up or dating are required to show 2 forms of ID, with at least one of them a picture ID. Sure would save a lot of older guys from winding up in prison because they ... (read in full...)
My father is dying and his partner of 20 years is unsupportive! How do I help my dad?
Q. This is not a LOVE relationship issue but it is a relationship issue. I normally am the one to give advice but this is something I am willing to hear all sides on. Background: My dad is nearly 81 and he is dying. He has non-treatable meta...
A. 22 September 2015: Another thing you could try to evoke is the fear of being perceived as being incompetent. For example, that thing about not being able to drive him to the bank or to the notary will make her look like she's losing it, that her mental competence ... (read in full...)
My father is dying and his partner of 20 years is unsupportive! How do I help my dad?
Q. This is not a LOVE relationship issue but it is a relationship issue. I normally am the one to give advice but this is something I am willing to hear all sides on. Background: My dad is nearly 81 and he is dying. He has non-treatable meta...
A. 22 September 2015: I'm sorry to hear about your dad, SVC. I went through the illness and loss of my Dad just 10 months ago. There is nothing so painful as feeling helpless.
I wonder if she's so deep in denial or so scared that she can't leave her comfort zone, even... (read in full...)
Should I try to understand where he is coming from? Returning to my religion is important to me
Q. I've been with my fiancé for 5years. Being financially stable is very important to him. This keeps him from wanting to wait to get married. We attempted to get married 2-3 years ago, but I didn't have any income cause my disability got cut off....
A. 22 September 2015: I'm trying to understand your post before I can offer a comment.
When you said "Being financially stable is very important to him. This keeps him from wanting to wait to get married." Does that mean that he wants to get married as soon as poss... (read in full...)
Could his reaction, to me touching him, be regarded as him flirting with me?
Q. I like this guy and i met him 3 weeks ago in my college and he has 2 of the same lessons as me. We take the same bus home and i sit next to him. Today, i sat next to him and kept touching him and he was like stop touching me or i'll punch you. ...
A. 22 September 2015: If he was 5 years old, punching a girl might be considered flirting. But at 16-17? No, not so much.
The type of behavior you are describing sounds like something much younger children might do.
I think you've been warned off. Don't do the unwanted... (read in full...)
Should it head towards 'more than friends with benefits'?
Q. I have dated this guy long ago when I was 17 and he was 19. We were together for 3 months. By nature he is very secretive! and so no one among our common friends knew about us. Someday he gets a girl to the same group and introduces her as his ...
A. 21 September 2015: He isn't giving you "mixed signals," he's actually been very clear that you are a secret sex buddy. I think you want more so are trying to read a deeper meaning into his words and actions. The relationship is exactly where he wants to "take it," ... (read in full...)
Should I confront a cheat?
Q. Whilst I was browsing on a free online dating site I came across my friend whos girlfriend is eight months pregnant. What shall I do. I've known my friend since school, at school I had a crush on him and decades later I asked him out, which he...
A. 21 September 2015: I think I would message him something like this:
"Hey, Vince, I came across your profile on one the dating sites I use. I wonder if you are aware that it's still up, now that you are about to be a Dad and all. People might get the wrong idea, that... (read in full...)
Should I assume he likes me? What should I do the next time I catch him starring and smiling at me?
Q. Hi everyone, What should I do the next time I catch him starring and smiling at me? I started a phd program in a new school a few weeks ago, and in the department almost everyday a lot of the grad students and some prof's gather for coffee or...
A. 21 September 2015: If you want to get to know him better, smile back and say 'hello' and see if you can start up a conversation. I don't think it's necessary to ask him why he stares at you.
As you get to know him, you'll be able to figure out if he's a player or not.... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to recognise that I cannot handle his 90 year old mother living with us?
Q. my husband thinks it is perfectly ok to have his 90 year old mother living with us it has been like this for our entire life together 14 years. Seven years married. I really cant do it any more how can I make him see sense i'm ready to leave...
A. 20 September 2015: "Dear husband, we have been together a long time and have had your mother with us the entire time. The thing is, I'm really struggling with XY and Z (you didn't specify why it's a problem after all this time, so fill in the blanks yourself). I can't ... (read in full...)
How do I sort things out with this girl?
Q. i'm off to university for my 2nd year tomorrow and I am living in student accomodation again. I met this girl on facebook as she messaged me cause we were living in the same accomodation and originally going to be neighbours before I got moved flat. ...
A. 18 September 2015: I think as it's pretty clear she's not going to be your next girlfriend.
I'd just send her a message telling her that you have come to realize that things aren't going to magically improve. But that you wish her well.
Then, let it go.
I think y... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble dealing with being an idiot after something horrific happened to me. How can I get through this?
Q. I'm having a bit of a problem with confidence at the moment and I don't know how to stop feeling so bad about myself. About two years ago I was raped and I started drinking quite a lot after it, even took drugs which I'm really ashamed of. Befo...
A. 18 September 2015: I think you've been very brave to take this all on yourself without qualified help. Now that it's been 2 years, I think it's time to ask for help from people who deal with this all the time. http://rapecrisis.org.uk
I think reacting in the way you ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you rather date Girl A or Girl B?
Q. Girl A: -quite "generic" -long hair, decent sized boobs but slim, wears dresses and hardly ever trousers and a lot of heels -doesn't wear makeup -bit of a goody two shoes, always annoyingly nice to everyone, comes off as fake, ridiculousl...
A. 18 September 2015: Wouldn't this depend on the guy?
And I would point out that you've used quite a few negative words about girl A and many positive words about girl B. So perhaps your perspective is a bit skewed?
... (read in full...)
Should his past divorce dictate our never marrying?
Q. It's a thought, but I just don't know what to believe. My daughters father was previously married. In fact, in a very romantic show of it he proposed to her and even got their engagement on the cover of a popular newspaper. Well, we have been ...
A. 17 September 2015: These are all very good questions. What I don't see here is that you've asked him any of this?
Rather than allow these feelings of resentment to continue to fester, I think it's time to bring it up again. You haven't brought it up more than once... (read in full...)
Should I explain why I couldn't be present in my abuser's home?
Q. Hello cupids, I am currently in a dilemma I do not know how to explain. I moved out of the house of an abusive man I called father 4 months ago and was finally ready to move on. I cut all contacts with him and whatever would make me remember him. T...
A. 17 September 2015: Wow, you have an amazingly dysfunctional family. Your biological father has 16 children by 7 women? Obviously he's a disaster. His older sister obviously isn't any better.
Your father slept with your school mates? Oh wow. How old were they? Did ... (read in full...)
How do I smooth things over with my boyfriend's family and how do I keep his parents from getting involved in our personal issues seeing as we are both in our mid twenties?
Q. Recently my boyfriend's parents and brother became angry with me. The issue was caused because I had an argument with his brother's girlfriend. She wrongfully assumed I posted about her on social media. I did not post about her but she wouldn't ...
A. 16 September 2015: And just to add to this suggested text to the family, I would suggest you take an objective look at the post. It seems odd that if everything were all happy and awesome with boyfriend's brother's sister, that she would go off about a post. If things ... (read in full...)
How do I smooth things over with my boyfriend's family and how do I keep his parents from getting involved in our personal issues seeing as we are both in our mid twenties?
Q. Recently my boyfriend's parents and brother became angry with me. The issue was caused because I had an argument with his brother's girlfriend. She wrongfully assumed I posted about her on social media. I did not post about her but she wouldn't ...
A. 16 September 2015: "I am distressed that a misunderstanding has devolved into an argument and angry feelings.
"I have tried to explain what happened. I will try again, in the hopes that this can be resolved.
"There was a post on my social media that apparent... (read in full...)
He has eyes for other women...am I blowing this up?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months. I'm in love with him and I've told him this. He said he really likes me too but when he says it he wants to make sure he means it and not just because I said it. I respect that and I am ...
A. 16 September 2015: I don't mean you put the relationship on hold. I mean that you pull back from saying "I love you" to him and that you give him time to show if he can spend time with you in the quiet way.
I think that there's every chance of it working but you do n... (read in full...)
He has eyes for other women...am I blowing this up?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months. I'm in love with him and I've told him this. He said he really likes me too but when he says it he wants to make sure he means it and not just because I said it. I respect that and I am ...
A. 16 September 2015: Okay. There are a few things I would like to point out to you.
One is that you are moving a bit too fast here. You've been dating him for less than 3 months. If I do my math right (which is questionable given this aging brain) that means you'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend used to be so appreciative and now nothing seems to matter to him
Q. This afternoon, my boyfriend texted me a video of his sister and nieces and nephews singing Happy Birthday to his mom. I love his mom and she is super nice to me. Once I saw that video, I went online to order his mom a $80 USD fruit basket to be de...
A. 16 September 2015: He sounds like a very nice boyfriend and I would ease up on him not being perfect all the time. Do
He wanted to spend time with a friend of his. I think that's nice.
You sent the basket to his mother, not to him. And it's from you, not from you... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him "what are we?"
Q. Hi, I have been seeing this guy for a month and we meet almost every single day,we haven't had sex ,but when he held my hand for the very first time I have never felt sparks like that before and we have kissed but nothing more has happened...
A. 16 September 2015: I think I'd continue to get to know him. I think it's okay to ask if he is seeing you exclusively before you get more sexual with him than just kissing.
He may just be the type of man who takes his time to get to know someone before committing. Thou... (read in full...)
I miss him and I'm not happy with my classes and schedule! Please help!
Q. So at the end of July I went through a breakup... The guy and I broke up because of the fact that we were going to different highschools... So this year I get my schedule and go to a school that I hardly know anyone in and am not very happy with ...
A. 16 September 2015: Oh boy, I feel your pain. I went to 3 different high schools because my dad moved a lot for his career. My 9th grade boyfriend was pursued by someone I thought was a good friend after I moved! It was so annoying and back in those days, we didn't ... (read in full...)
My fiance has become the "Church lady" and I don't know how to deal with it
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together about 6 ½ years. Last winter we told our friends and families that we intend to marry someday soon. No ring but we went that far, so I guess she’s my fiancé. We are both in our 40’s. She has children, nearly g...
A. 16 September 2015: I think she need to hear from you "I have talked with her about this - often, but you know what I will not do? I will not argue about it, so I do a lot of walking away. Unfortunately, she seems to have aligned herself with a sect who encourages ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him "what are we?"
Q. Hi, I have been seeing this guy for a month and we meet almost every single day,we haven't had sex ,but when he held my hand for the very first time I have never felt sparks like that before and we have kissed but nothing more has happened...
A. 16 September 2015: It sounds very promising for a relationship. You see him often, there seems to be chemistry. I wouldn't ask him just yet "what are we?"
Are you actually going out on dates? Does he call you up or text you and suggest that you meet up for a meal... (read in full...)
How can I show him love when I have no confidence and feel so insecure?
Q. I'm looking for more advice - I am begging...I did it. I have finally confronted my husband to let him know how unhappy I am in our marriage. We argue about silly things. Mainly most recently due to our toddler growing up and how different we deal ...
A. 16 September 2015: Your trust in him is demolished and it's not going to get repaired unless you two figure out how to communicate. You have no confidence and feel insecure and apparently whatever has been happening isn't improving the situation.
I agree that gett... (read in full...)
We're both married but I want her in my life! How do I get her back?
Q. Hi Friends Really sad for me..... Both of us are married, she is 30 and I am 42. I met her few month back in her office. She is beautiful and nice. We start talking on phone and chat. But when she came to know my feelings through mail. She asked ...
A. 16 September 2015: Well, if any female friend can advice you on how to get this woman back into your life, have you asked your wife? She might have an opinion on how best to accomplish that goal.
Amit, you will need to face facts. Face reality. Accept this.
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My fiance has become the "Church lady" and I don't know how to deal with it
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together about 6 ½ years. Last winter we told our friends and families that we intend to marry someday soon. No ring but we went that far, so I guess she’s my fiancé. We are both in our 40’s. She has children, nearly g...
A. 15 September 2015: "Charlene, let's discuss religion, faith, belief and this relationship. Obviously, you have found your faith and reconnected with your religion.
"I have done my best to keep silent about how I feel about this change in you. However, as you have repe... (read in full...)
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