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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How can I find out how serious my father's health condition may be?
Q. I live with my father and today he sat me down to tell me something. He told me his doctors have found 2 rather large lumps on his brain and they don't know what it is until they do further testing next Monday. Now I'm someone who worries a lo...
A. 19 October 2015: Hi, just checking in on what you've learned. I hope that no news is good news in this case. And that you were able to get the HIPPA forms completed so you can speak to his doctors and get some accurate updates.
I know just hard difficult this can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't respond in kind when I say "I love you". The last 2 times he said "Pardon???"
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend now for almost 3 months and I really love him. I've felt like I love him for sometime but suppressed telling him because it wasn't quite the right time and it didn't feel like the right time. Then last weekend we were ...
A. 12 October 2015: I think the other aunts have given you some great comments here. My thought on his comment "Pardon?" is that he was hoping you would slow down just a bit. Just a little verbal cue to alert you that you may be moving too fast.
Lay off saying the phra... (read in full...)
What can I do to ensure he doesn't give up on me, when he's facing family pressure?
Q. please help.I am 20 and my fiance is 19.he still lives with his mother and she doesnt kno were still engaged.she hates me for no real reason and has been trying to force him to leave me for about 9 months now. she recently found out that I came to ...
A. 9 October 2015: I'm rather suspecting that he doesn't live with his Mum. If he has a few pounds to rub together then he can easily find a cheap prepaid phone that he could use without her knowledge.
Have you actually been to meet her and spent time with her at thei... (read in full...)
How can I find out how serious my father's health condition may be?
Q. I live with my father and today he sat me down to tell me something. He told me his doctors have found 2 rather large lumps on his brain and they don't know what it is until they do further testing next Monday. Now I'm someone who worries a lo...
A. 9 October 2015: The forms would be known as the HIPPA forms (as SVC pointed out). We've been there, done that, know the drill and can walk you through this. More info is needed, however. :) Hope to hear from you soon and that we've alleviated some of the worry.... (read in full...)
How can I find out how serious my father's health condition may be?
Q. I live with my father and today he sat me down to tell me something. He told me his doctors have found 2 rather large lumps on his brain and they don't know what it is until they do further testing next Monday. Now I'm someone who worries a lo...
A. 9 October 2015: What were the tests they are planning to do? He would have appointments and directions for what he should or shouldn't do before such tests. If he was undergoing scans there would be very specific instructions on that.
Can you please provide more... (read in full...)
I hate hearing about how happy they are in the bedroom! What do I do to get over this hurt and jealousy?
Q. What can I do? I hate hearing about their sex lives and I'm hurt enough! How do I stop thinking about my ex and his new woman? My ex boyfriend was very sexual - sex obsessed I would say. I didn't date him for long as he wanted to move too quic...
A. 9 October 2015: Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it, every time an unwanted thought about them floats through your mind. Ask your friends to spare you the details of anything he's up to. Have a ritual flushing of him from your life. Take everything ... (read in full...)
Did I assume too much about her? What's my next move?
Q. I came back tonight from work a bit disappointed. This is the situation. I work at a job that haves a cafe and the connection between me and one of the girls there is strong. She stumbles every time I am there and acts nervous when I apporoah her ...
A. 9 October 2015: It sounds like you let her know you'd like to see her and she said no. I think at this point the only thing you should do is back off. If you do leave the company, you could try asking her again, but do be prepared for another no.
I'm sure you... (read in full...)
My Bf donated his sperm before we got serious. How can I stop freaking and get over this?
Q. My boyfriend who I love donated his sperm 3 years ago. It was one of the first things he told me before we got serious and at the time I was fine with the fact that there were 2 kids with half of his dna. But then when things did get serious, it hit ...
A. 7 October 2015: Maybe another way to think about it is that he donated part of himself like a kidney. That his donation has helped another person live a better life.
I think you should consider professional help to deal with what you refer to as "pure obse... (read in full...)
Do I listen to my gut? I want a committed relationship. Am I over-reacting?
Q. I have been on and off with this guy for a few years, I went through his phone (I know I shouldn't be doing that!!) and found out he had a girl stay over at his place recently.. lets just say he lives in a studio. I confronted him and he told me ...
A. 7 October 2015: You're not officially in a relationship, it's been on and off with this guy for years, you don't trust him and found out you had a reason not to trust him.
Yes, I think you're right, something is up. If you want a committed relationship with a guy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lost it when I told him I wanted to look in on my brother as I'd promised my parents!
Q. Am I in the wrong? My parents are away on holiday and my brother has been left home alone (he's just turned 18, can't cook but he can heat up soup and do beans on toast) and my parents have asked if I can go out each day to cook supper and make ...
A. 7 October 2015: Wait. Your brother is an adult and you are expected to tidy up the house he lives in, do his dishes and help him study?
Ah. So he's a special needs student then.
I'd spend the time with him teaching him how to cook a few dishes, show him how to w... (read in full...)
He hasn't said a word to me in a week, I miss talking to him, what do I do?
Q. Our friends told me that the guy I like drunkenly told them he liked me but since then he hasn't said a word to me and seems to be actively going out his way to avoid me has he decided he doesn't like me what do I do it's been a week now and I miss ...
A. 7 October 2015: I've found another post to illustrate my point here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-falling-in-love-with-my-housemate.html
As I told that woman, don't drink for a month, go out clubbing by all means but don't drink. Do that for a month then... (read in full...)
He hasn't said a word to me in a week, I miss talking to him, what do I do?
Q. Our friends told me that the guy I like drunkenly told them he liked me but since then he hasn't said a word to me and seems to be actively going out his way to avoid me has he decided he doesn't like me what do I do it's been a week now and I miss ...
A. 7 October 2015: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/a-little-crush-has-led-to-me-actually.html The vomit cuddle guy, I'm assuming?
I think vomit cuddle guy has an alcohol problem, knows it, and is avoiding you because a) he can't remember what he said or did and is h... (read in full...)
How can I be happy doing what I do at home?
Q. im a 34 stay at home mom for 11 years. im grateful to raise my 3 kids, but im depressed being at home cleaning and taking care of the house. this last year i started drinking in the day.. at first it made cleaning more fun, but i need to change. i ...
A. 6 October 2015: One of my relatives is a stay at home mother with three children (they are perhaps a bit older than yours). She's found a great job in the medical field coding claim forms. She sets her own hours. The income allows her to get some freedom.
She does... (read in full...)
He stopped texting me. Why? We did break up, recently, but we did keep on texting each other.
Q. He hasn't texted me :( So my ex boyfriend and I recently began talking. We talked great and had basic conversations. Before we broke up we would tell each other "i love you" but since we broke up I don't feel comfortable telling him that again. ...
A. 6 October 2015: Good luck in with your classes and rock your GPA! You won't have to worry about what he's doing and that might actually give you a mental break. :)... (read in full...)
He feels there is no spark and he just wants to be alone to find himself. How should I act towards him? Has he moved on?
Q. Hey everyone! I hope you could put some light into my situation. I started dating my coworker at work, in the beginning it was all perfect, i felt pursued he was so charming and really swept me off my feet. We went on many dates together and spen...
A. 6 October 2015: What is the point of trying to test whether a flaky guy like this coworker is jealous or not? Who cares? He's not worth worrying about any longer.
You don't need any more drama in your workplace. Do your job, stay professional with everyone, incl... (read in full...)
Does he like me? I am not sure. But I really like him. So what can I say to him to advance things further?
Q. Hi I am a very shy person. I blush quite easily, I went on a second date with a guy who I really like, however I'm quite a quiet person so I don't think he's very interested in me. He messaged me the day after we met saying 'it was nice to see ...
A. 6 October 2015: I'd stop assuming you know what he thinks. I'd go with what you'd like to happen and work toward that.
If you like him, let him know by responding assuming he'd actually like to take you out again.
"Okay cool, let's meet up for a walk then let's ha... (read in full...)
He stopped texting me. Why? We did break up, recently, but we did keep on texting each other.
Q. He hasn't texted me :( So my ex boyfriend and I recently began talking. We talked great and had basic conversations. Before we broke up we would tell each other "i love you" but since we broke up I don't feel comfortable telling him that again. ...
A. 5 October 2015: Oh, and P.S. if he's a bright guy he surely knows you want to impose some restrictions on his party style. He may not want to discuss that so he's keeping the convos quiet and not about super deep stuff just yet.
You've only been dating 3 mont... (read in full...)
He stopped texting me. Why? We did break up, recently, but we did keep on texting each other.
Q. He hasn't texted me :( So my ex boyfriend and I recently began talking. We talked great and had basic conversations. Before we broke up we would tell each other "i love you" but since we broke up I don't feel comfortable telling him that again. ...
A. 5 October 2015: I remember reading your post about suggested guidelines for your relationship: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/this-is-a-second-attempt-at-our-relationship.html
You sound like you are a very earnest and optimistic young woman who is doing her ... (read in full...)
Am I being too idealistic by not using my looks to my advantage?
Q. Trying to say this without sounding arrogant but I'm OK looking according to our society (relevant to the question). I also don't wear makeup and don't wear revealing clothing but a lot of skirts/dresses because they are more comfortable, which for ...
A. 1 October 2015: As I re-read your question, are you asking about appearance as it relates to getting male attention? You mention popularity and parties and being expected to be flirty.
What do you mean by "get ahead based on my appearance"? Who are you getting ahea... (read in full...)
Am I being too idealistic by not using my looks to my advantage?
Q. Trying to say this without sounding arrogant but I'm OK looking according to our society (relevant to the question). I also don't wear makeup and don't wear revealing clothing but a lot of skirts/dresses because they are more comfortable, which for ...
A. 1 October 2015: If the job you're trying to succeed in has many people trying to reach a certain goal, then why wouldn't you use every advantage to maximize your career development and potential?
You are in a new arena, "travel blogging" wasn't a career 20 year... (read in full...)
My son dislikes his sister-in-law and her family and won't go on family vacations with them! How do I handle this?
Q. I have two sons. The oldest is 32 years old and the youngest is 30 years. The oldest, Rob, is married with two kids and my youngest, Justin, is single with no kids. About ten years ago, we all went on a family vacation (My husband and I, m...
A. 1 October 2015: You could also say gently to Rob, that his wife and her family seem to be getting rather strident on the family vacation when it comes to Justin. That maybe he should let them know it's fine if Justin can't join the family vacation, and not to press ... (read in full...)
My son dislikes his sister-in-law and her family and won't go on family vacations with them! How do I handle this?
Q. I have two sons. The oldest is 32 years old and the youngest is 30 years. The oldest, Rob, is married with two kids and my youngest, Justin, is single with no kids. About ten years ago, we all went on a family vacation (My husband and I, m...
A. 1 October 2015: I would stay completely out of this, other than to say to your DIL and her family, IF they ask, "Gosh, Justin can't go this year, perhaps the best approach is to just let it go."
Justin is an adult and can fight his own battles, you are not resp... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to another mother at the school. I want to make a move, but how?
Q. I have recently met a mother at my children's school. I am so attracted to her. I first met her when I was just coming in from an errand and I was parking my car and then I saw her stop, waiting on me to park. She was one of the most beautiful woman ...
A. 30 September 2015: If you can't get her alone then she doesn't want to be alone with you.
If you can't get her to open up you, well, have you been open with her? Have you told her about your relationship with your child's father?
The tension you feel may well be ... (read in full...)
Should I even try to make a long distance relationship work?
Q. I met a guy a couple of years back due to work, but have since moved to another state. I've always liked him, I'm sure he knew after a while, but at the time he was in a relationship. Recently he got in contact with me out of the blue, but sin...
A. 30 September 2015: You end up in long distance relationships often?
You are probably spending a lot of time on social media and apps?
I think that it's very easy and comfortable to sit on the couch and try to connect with people through all your various screens.... (read in full...)
She's stopped making eye contact! How do I let her know I really like her?
Q. Hello - Please help!! I have a girl in my office who earlier smiles at me while having eye contacts, she even mirrored me, she use to play with hairs while looking at me, she tried to talk to me. But, when i tried to make an eye contact with her, ...
A. 30 September 2015: I would take her hint. Her hint is that she doesn't want to get to know you better. Why? Who knows.
At this point, if you are still spending a lot of time staring at her then you do need to check that, and stop it.
Ignore her, don't make eye cont... (read in full...)
He made a racist remark. How should I respond? I think reporting him will make things worse for me.
Q. Hi all, I'm a 16 year old female that has just started college and is having some issues. I am on a male dominated course and I know a boy on their from my old school. We got on really well at school but now we're at college he's trying everythi...
A. 30 September 2015: "Ah, yes, I heard that what you call f*cking pakis took a vote and they'd prefer to be bullied by a guy with a bigger dick."
Don't actually say that to this sadly racist individual. But think it. Remember it.
One thing that bullies hope is that ... (read in full...)
How much do you have in common with your husband/fiancé/boyfriend?
Q. When I started dating my fiancé he told me all about the activities he did with his last girlfriend, such as them jogging together, bicycling and going to a concert. He told me the concert turned into a magical night for the both of them. The ...
A. 30 September 2015: My husband and I do share most interests. He attends events that interest me, even though he wouldn't have chosen to buy a ticket or take the time to do so if I hadn't shown an interest. And vice versa.
This post sounds like you resent that he used... (read in full...)
My husband has started wetting the bed!
Q. My husband is 34 years old, for the past two months he has started bed wetting, he couldn't realize in sleep that his bladder is loosing control, at first i supported him, i told him its OK and all but in 2 months yesterday was the third time in ...
A. 29 September 2015: Another vote for taking him to the doctor as soon as possible. A healthy young man suddenly experiencing bedwetting doesn't need shaming or to be shouted at, he needs to be evaluated by a doctor.
Read that link that Honeypie provided, it has some... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and in UK. He's 17 and in USA. How can I manage the crush I have for him? The first thing he asked is "did I want to see his .
Q. Okay so I have been talking to this guy on Snapchat and Instagram he's 17 and lives in America first thing you need to know is he's a boy and I think I've kinda fallen for him. He asked me if I wanted to see his dick and of corse I said no then...
A. 29 September 2015: The easy way to check on if what he's doing is okay is to ask your parents.
You're being groomed by an online 'friend' who is trying to get you to offer him sexual stuff. You are vulnerable because I have no doubt this is all being done in secr... (read in full...)
I'm not happy and his dog also causes me problems. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone Hope someone could give me some good advice me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 4 years we have a 2 year old and a 1 year old and he Has a dog a rottweiler that he had when we met we moved in together. He is at work all day ...
A. 29 September 2015: Take yourself and the dog to a trainer so you can learn to handle it. Get a crate that the dog stays in while he's at work. That will handle the dog. Hire a babysitter or take the children to daycare center (I think you in the UK call them ... (read in full...)
Could she be sleeping with other men, or intending to do so?
Q. My long term friend with benefits recently told me that she needed some space, and she was emphatic that I respect her wishes. Here's the confusing part: we still have sex a couple of times a month, and when I do leave her alone she will reach out ...
A. 28 September 2015: Sounds like it's time to end the relationship. If there's no trust and a lack of honesty... what's the point?
She wasn't invested in this relationship anyway.
So the good news is that you can start the mourning and healing, and you only waited a... (read in full...)
Is this even a long distance relationship? How do I confront him about our complicated situation?
Q. BACKGROUND: Ok so there's this guy called E.(2 years older) I met him on a dating app while I'm on an overseas internship. We seem to chat alright online. However when we met, we're both socially awkward and it was hard to get a good co...
A. 28 September 2015: Aw, he sounds like a nice enough guy. You had two dates that ended with nothing beyond his wishing you lived in his country.
I think crushes are normal and common and for the time that they last, delicious! I wouldn't put more weight on this thou... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable? How can I trust him?
Q. Hi everyone, I am very stuck. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months and we were very happy and content together. I never thought that I would be thinking of breaking up with him but I really feel stuck. We were making plans for...
A. 28 September 2015: This is a grown man? A man who can't manage to tell an ex he's moved on and has a new girlfriend? Hm. And then tries to make you feel guilty by blaming you for his 'losing a friend'? Double hm. That's a hm hm.
Well, now you know he's not as grown... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that men my online 17 year old FWB meets will use her!
Q. hi so i have met a girl online, she is from another country and we became friends, she suffers from mild depression, but she is very nice and beautiful and i really like her, i wont say i love her because i know its not possible to fall in love onl...
A. 28 September 2015: Amit, have you ever watched the MTV show "Catfish"? I ask because you do seem very attached to a person you've never met, and you seem to believe her story without much contemplation.
Let me point out to you that your age range shows as 22-25, so i... (read in full...)
I am falling in love with my housemate.
Q. Ok so I've just started uni and I've already got feelings for one of my housemates which is essentially breaking the cardinal rule of freshers. It started when he was being really sweet trying to encourage me to get involved with of the flat (I'm ...
A. 28 September 2015: You've just started uni and getting to know this guy and already it would kill you if he brought another girl over? Whoa. Whoa, girl, whoa.
How much are you drinking? And yes, it does sound a bit, well, not psycho as you put it, but extremely need... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just told me he would not be able to resist really good looking women ....
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years and I were discussing our plans to go travelling overseas, where he told me we would need to stay away from certain countries where there are "extremely good looking women" because he wouldn't be able to control himself. He ...
A. 28 September 2015: I agree with BrownWolf on this, I would have said, "awesome! I'm up for some hot drunk stupid sex with some super built dudes from there too. Isn't it great we have a hobby we can share together?"
or
"You go, babe, you go! I've sent country ... (read in full...)
Is my local Starbucks barista flirting with me?
Q. Is my local Starbucks barista flirting with me? So everything I go to my local Starbucks the same guy is there. When I first encountered him he told me that my nails was pretty. I'm guessing that that is a icebreaker. And another time he told he ...
A. 28 September 2015: Well, we know he has noticed your nails, your smile and likes to look at you. It could be something like, he wants to be sure you tip him, or he's a natural flirt, or he just likes being personable and kind to everyone who comes in.
I think the only... (read in full...)
I'm incredibly attracted to him but not ready to have sex after only one month and 4 dates!
Q. I have been dating a guy for almost a month. We met on a popular dating app and hit it off immediately on our first date. We talked for hours and ended up having to be told to leave the restaurant because they were closing. He took me out for dinner ...
A. 28 September 2015: Why don't you decide the next date venue? It doesn't have to be something expensive or the typical date thing of having dinner. Go bowling or go see an indie music act or invite him to meet you with some of your friends at a local microbrewery for ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with him, but I'm afraid I'm reading too much into things! Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, I met an alcoholic guy back in May when I was in hospital with complications from my Diabetes and he was in for Liver problems. We were there together for about a week and, when we got out, we started hanging out together. Within...
A. 28 September 2015: I've also looked at some medical websites about using cocaine if you have Diabetes. Not a good idea. And you were hospitalized for a week due to complications?
Please seek help for drug and alcohol abuse if you can't stop using. It would be a grea... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with him, but I'm afraid I'm reading too much into things! Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, I met an alcoholic guy back in May when I was in hospital with complications from my Diabetes and he was in for Liver problems. We were there together for about a week and, when we got out, we started hanging out together. Within...
A. 28 September 2015: It seems he has some serious health problems, you mention that he's an alcoholic, does that mean he's in recovery or is he still actively drinking? You also added that he is very much engrossed in pub culture, so is that where he hangs out?
You also... (read in full...)
My siblings are attacking me for moving back home for 6 months!
Q. I'm 20 and earn 100 euro a week and i suffer from severe stress anxiety and depression. I moved out from home one year ago to live with my fiance but our rent increased massively causing us to leave the home we made together, the rent rise was a ...
A. 26 September 2015: I would reply to any message they sent "thank your for the message, I have passed it on to our mother and father.
"It's extremely distressing to find that we have reached this level of family animosity and nasty messages.
"I am here with my fianc... (read in full...)
I know that we are amazing friends but my question is, is it possible to have a 'bond' with a guy friend?
Q. Hi, so I'm currently studying for a degree and have a close group of friends made up of three girls and one guy. Myself and the guy are close friends and when I went through a breakup of a very long relationship he was an amazing friend to me and ...
A. 25 September 2015: I don't know, if you read your question over again, it does sound a bit like you see the romantic side of it. "he puts his arm round me to warm me up, we whisper in each others ears and our faces touch" You feel "jealous, excited and protected ... (read in full...)
Could she be sleeping with other men, or intending to do so?
Q. My long term friend with benefits recently told me that she needed some space, and she was emphatic that I respect her wishes. Here's the confusing part: we still have sex a couple of times a month, and when I do leave her alone she will reach out ...
A. 14 September 2015: "She has given me a lot of hints over time about me slipping a bit in the courting department, which is something I attribute to the normal nuances of long term dating."
"what's holding me back is having to go through the whole dating page... (read in full...)
Could she be sleeping with other men, or intending to do so?
Q. My long term friend with benefits recently told me that she needed some space, and she was emphatic that I respect her wishes. Here's the confusing part: we still have sex a couple of times a month, and when I do leave her alone she will reach out ...
A. 6 September 2015: Any updates?... (read in full...)
Could she be sleeping with other men, or intending to do so?
Q. My long term friend with benefits recently told me that she needed some space, and she was emphatic that I respect her wishes. Here's the confusing part: we still have sex a couple of times a month, and when I do leave her alone she will reach out ...
A. 17 August 2015: So she's not your girlfriend or date, right? You state outright that she's a friend with benefits.
So, I think now that you realize that this set up doesn't serve you and you are having problems with the status quo, then it's a great time to end ... (read in full...)
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