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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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What is crossing the boundary between an attached guy and his female friend? Please enlighten me!
Q. Recently, a female friend called my boyfriend about a personal issue. She was talking about a guy whom she slept with and did not want to pursue anything beyond FWB with her. They used to be colleagues, but by the time this call took place, they ...
A. 11 February 2016: This may be just as simple as opening his eyes and cluing him into thing to which he's been oblivious.
I'd err on the side of assuming he's a good guy who needs some guidance-- unless you have other causes for concern?... (read in full...)
What is crossing the boundary between an attached guy and his female friend? Please enlighten me!
Q. Recently, a female friend called my boyfriend about a personal issue. She was talking about a guy whom she slept with and did not want to pursue anything beyond FWB with her. They used to be colleagues, but by the time this call took place, they ...
A. 11 February 2016: That's a very good point. When you talk to him about it again, ask him how the same scenario would play if the roles were reversed.
Now, as you are the one feeling insecure, that tells me that there's some imbalance in the relationship to begin with... (read in full...)
What is crossing the boundary between an attached guy and his female friend? Please enlighten me!
Q. Recently, a female friend called my boyfriend about a personal issue. She was talking about a guy whom she slept with and did not want to pursue anything beyond FWB with her. They used to be colleagues, but by the time this call took place, they ...
A. 10 February 2016: Oh and PS I did not discuss sex, sexual relations, anything bedroom related with this male friend. I needed help in understanding why the boyfriend seemed so distant and not doing the things I expected from a boyfriend.... (read in full...)
What is crossing the boundary between an attached guy and his female friend? Please enlighten me!
Q. Recently, a female friend called my boyfriend about a personal issue. She was talking about a guy whom she slept with and did not want to pursue anything beyond FWB with her. They used to be colleagues, but by the time this call took place, they ...
A. 10 February 2016: Back in my 20s, I asked for a male friend's help in decoding the relationship woes I was experiencing with my then boyfriend. I didn't ask him out for drinks, just to be clear. I just needed someone who was male to explain things to me. He did, it ... (read in full...)
I'm married so why am I having an affair with a co-worker?
Q. I put myself in a very difficult situation and don't know where to go from here. Recently I had an affair with a coworker.I'm a married woman and feel horrible about it. I wasn't planning on it, believe me. When I look back, I realize that we both ...
A. 9 February 2016: Where do you go from here?
You accept that he's moved on and doesn't want to continue seeing you.
He said it out loud and has done nothing (beyond idiotically continuing to email you and talk to you) to indicate that you two will be together... (read in full...)
Do I throw away a 3 year relationship based on a "gut feeling" my BF is cheating on me?
Q. Please help me. I cannot live this way anymore. I am on the verge of throwing away an almost 3 year relationship with a man I love and adore because of a "gut feeling" he is cheating. How do I deal with this? I am right at the edge. I hav...
A. 9 February 2016: Has he cheated in his past? He's 63, has he ever been married? Is he by any chance still married? And if he is married, does he live with his wife? Does she know about you, if there is a wife? If not, after 3 years, why not? That would suggest he is ... (read in full...)
My husband is demanding a MMF and I want no part of it. Where is this coming from?
Q. My husband of 37 years is now demanding an mmf. He also recently started working his finger in my anus during intercourse and insists on oral from me right after sex without wiping my juices off of his penis. I don't know where this is coming from. ...
A. 8 February 2016: HI there, flowing. Odd that you seem to be answering your own question.
Care to elaborate?... (read in full...)
How do women find men who want them?
Q. I do not know how to really say this but I am 18, I am a virgin and I have never actually been kissed. I want these things, I want to be kissed, I want to have sex. But I cannot find anyone who wants me? I want a relationship but I have never had...
A. 4 February 2016: How does anyone find someone who wants them? By meeting and getting to know people, by making friends, by being part of social groups.
You are not alone, you have plenty of company in being 18, not having had sex or ever having been kissed.
Do yo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend no longer speaks to me, says he's too tired!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I live together and I noticed right away that we had no dates any longer and just coexisted, so to speak. It was a downer on the romance. I brought it up, and we've done several things to still feel like a couple and not j...
A. 4 February 2016: He may be clinically depressed. Before you give up entirely, get him to your doctor and have him evaluated. Sometimes people get so blah with depression that it appears to be neglect, when in fact they are just so depressed that they can't do ... (read in full...)
What do you say to someone who is thoroughly convinced no one will like them for who they are?
Q. This question isn't really about help for me, but rather for my friend. Some info on him: he's 40, been divorced for just over a year, and is looking to date again. The problem? He hangs out in bars, claiming he's just "people watching", then com...
A. 4 February 2016: You can't teach someone a lesson they don't want to be taught. If he believes "all women like jerks" then, as a woman, you have been disqualified as someone who can advise him.
Let it go. He's living the life he's chosen. If that involves hang... (read in full...)
She told me she loves me but that she's been seeing another guy for a couple of years
Q. So I met this girl about a month ago.. We pretty much got along very well and talk everyday. We hangout all the time and have become very intimate. We got to the stage where she is telling me she loves me.. But then we had a serious talk and she ...
A. 3 February 2016: "I just need some advice about our situation not about how to have sex or what not"
Don't have sex with her. Wait until she is officially single to have sex with her. Is that difficult in some way?
"Alright she is actually a nice clean girl" ... (read in full...)
She told me she loves me but that she's been seeing another guy for a couple of years
Q. So I met this girl about a month ago.. We pretty much got along very well and talk everyday. We hangout all the time and have become very intimate. We got to the stage where she is telling me she loves me.. But then we had a serious talk and she ...
A. 3 February 2016: THIS girl? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-she-not-very-sexually-experienced-and-im.html
You've known her a month, you keep repeating a pattern, you aren't taking precautions to avoid STIs or pregnancy.
My advice would be stop having sex with... (read in full...)
Is she not very sexually experienced and I'm just manipulative?
Q. So I've been seeing this girl for a month now- I am very sexual with her but just over the weekend we had unprotected sex and I came inside her.. She was pretty nervous afterwards but we kept doing it for the next 4 days. We have basically fallen in ...
A. 3 February 2016: Are you trying to figure out who to blame when she gets pregnant?
Isn't that answer obvious to you?
Oh wait, you said you were stupid, so that lets you off the hook. Not your fault if you choose to have unprotected sex. After all you are stupid b... (read in full...)
I find sexual chat with men stimulating but enjoy kissing women. Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, My question is related to sexuality, and I almost feel as though I have the answers myself but I just need someone to bounce them off. From an early age I have had a pretty high sex drive. My tastes in pornography have mostly been ...
A. 1 February 2016: If you want a meaningful relationship with a girl, what are you doing to further that goal?
You make some interesting choices of words. For example, you use the word "secure" in the context that you are locked into a heterosexual identity: "My refl... (read in full...)
He wants sex almost every night! Is this normal?
Q. How often do couples have sex? I have been with my partner for just under 2 years and feel he always wants sex. I have a 3 year old from a previous relationship. So some nights I am just too tired and want to just sleep. Then he sulks if I say no or ...
A. 1 February 2016: I would call him on the sulking and accusations of cheating when he says it. Stop and look him in the eye. Tell him you don't appreciate it and you find it a huge turn off. Tell him you are exhausted. Tell him you are worried because you are ... (read in full...)
How do I navigate asking to have the one child over without inviting her kids?
Q. My male cousin died a few years ago. Ever since I have gotten his 4 children together for visits. They are half siblings and don't see each other unless I get them. Recently one child was placed in the custody of my female cousin (his sister). Sh...
A. 1 February 2016: "Hi there! I hope things are going well for you! You may not know but I have been getting Jack's children together for monthly (or every other month) visits in the years since he died.
"I'm sure Bob is so happy to be with you and his cousins. The ... (read in full...)
What should I do about the little white lies that he tells?
Q. So I'm talking to a guy and I've found he tends to tell small lies, for instance, today he went to a car show and he said his phone was going to die soon so I told him I would talk to him later so he could save his battery for the last little while ...
A. 1 February 2016: I think he's just being a kid and being super lazy. Having to tell the girl he's talking to that he doesn't really want to talk all the time is a problem.
I'd back off and assume he has to grow up a bit before trying to "do" something about his fibs... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to only want anal and never vaginal sex?
Q. I recently met a guy from a dating site. The first time we met, we engaged in anal sex without a condom (he had a fantasy of ejaculating inside my anus) as a way to avoid pregnancy. Everytime we meet he only wants to have anal and never vaginal. ...
A. 1 February 2016: You engaged in condomless sex with a man you know virtually nothing about. It doesn't really matter if it is vaginal or anal sex.
Go see your doctor and get screened for STIs (sexually transmitted infections). And use a condom from now on with him ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm starting to get some kind of sex dysfunction but I'm not sure why this would happen
Q. 51 y.o. male here. I no my body very well and I take care of it. I workout every other day and I take vitamin and enzyme and amino acid by the handful. I use the Paleo diet, only drink mineral water, eat a lot of eggs everyday, I avoid gluten and ...
A. 1 February 2016: Go see your doctor. Bring a complete list of all the supplements you are taking as well as a full run down of your diet.
No nonsense Aidan made an excellent observation: that a diet comprised of lots of meat will contribute to the buildup of uric... (read in full...)
Boyfriend proposed but I feel unsure!
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years proposed! It was a complete shock. We had talked about getting married in the future and joked about it, but I wasn't expecting a proposal! I definitely love him, but I feel more anxious and embarrassed than excited. I ...
A. 1 February 2016: If you are anxious and unsure, shocked and unaware that your boyfriend of 8 years might propose marriage.... well, why is that?
If you are feeling anxious and embarrassed, find out why. Is it because you don't really see yourself with boyf... (read in full...)
How can I talk to someone who won't admit to doing anything wrong?
Q. I feel like my boyfriend of 3 years is taking me for granted. I feel like he thinks he doesn't have to treat me well because I'm just going to put up with it. In the past, I have put up with it and I haven't said anything because I didn't want to ...
A. 1 February 2016: I agree with Aunty BimBim. Set your 'late' boundary and once that's past, be away doing something else fun. Go to a movie or meet up with a friend.
What has the conflict you referenced been like before now?
Be pro-active.
"Jonesy, I love... (read in full...)
My husband is demanding a MMF and I want no part of it. Where is this coming from?
Q. My husband of 37 years is now demanding an mmf. He also recently started working his finger in my anus during intercourse and insists on oral from me right after sex without wiping my juices off of his penis. I don't know where this is coming from. ...
A. 1 February 2016: Say no, ask him what the hell is going on and if he need to change up his meds and tell him he needs to change his internet porn habits.
If you aren't comfortable with something then make that clear. Leave the room if you have to.
And to ec... (read in full...)
When someone just disappears is it your fault?
Q. When you treat some one special, then they disappear, with out even a good bye, after months of pure joy, is it your fault, especially when you thought you both felt the same way...
A. 1 February 2016: Did you do a wellness check to make sure they are alive?
... (read in full...)
What should I do about the little white lies that he tells?
Q. So I'm talking to a guy and I've found he tends to tell small lies, for instance, today he went to a car show and he said his phone was going to die soon so I told him I would talk to him later so he could save his battery for the last little while ...
A. 1 February 2016: The fibs might be a way to get you to back off for a bit.
Why did the talking end so quickly before?... (read in full...)
He's a good guy but I don't like the way he talks to me
Q. I have been dating this guy since November, we are not official yet but have told one another that we aren't talking or interested in other people. Lately we have been fighting, fights that I may cause but its because of how he talks to me. For ...
A. 29 January 2016: Back when dinosaurs had to use phones and not text, they were able to convey with verbal communication of a few short minutes more than a text message convo could ever convey.
My advice to you would be to stop texting in the morning when he's goin... (read in full...)
Why does an extra marital affair last 3 years and still going strong?
Q. What are the reasons an extra marital affair lasts going on 3 years?? Do most of them not end sooner? And realistically how much longer can it continue? Why does a married man stay this long with another woman? Surely it isn't a lapse in j...
A. 29 January 2016: I remembered another situation similar, a married man with a mistress and a wife. The husband and wife were long time friends of my parents. As this couple aged, they grew apart (they married young). After many years of unhappy marriage, the husband ... (read in full...)
My husband won't stop badgering me about having a threesome
Q. My husband of 18 years has been pressuring me to have a threesome with another man. I am not comfortable with this but he keeps insisting that he wants to share me with either a friend of his or one of my choice. I am 60 and not real comfortable ...
A. 29 January 2016: I agree with Code Warrior, don't do it.
Make an appointment with a marriage counselor, tell your husband you've arranged a 'threesome', take him in the back door of the office and plop him down on the couch and get the marriage counseling sess... (read in full...)
Why does an extra marital affair last 3 years and still going strong?
Q. What are the reasons an extra marital affair lasts going on 3 years?? Do most of them not end sooner? And realistically how much longer can it continue? Why does a married man stay this long with another woman? Surely it isn't a lapse in j...
A. 29 January 2016: Who knows why he keeps the OW around? Well, he does. If you are the OW (other woman), what is in it for you, besides some extramarital sex? Do you get to go on long family vacations with him? Spend the holidays with him? Meet up with him and your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 years came inside me for the first time after sex. Why did he do this?
Q. My boyfriend came inside me after having sex. He always pulls out and this is the first time in 2 years he has ever done this. So I am wondering if I need to be concerned by the change in behaviour. Why do this after all this time when he has neve...
A. 29 January 2016: Why did he do this?
Because he's as clueless about contraception and avoiding STIs as you seem to be. You are 22-25, no flag given, so I can't direct you to the site in your country which would provide some very basic information for the both of y... (read in full...)
I'm very self conscious about the cold sores on my mouth and worried about what others think
Q. I've been feeling really insecure and self-conscious recently because I have these two horrible cold sores on both corners of my mouth that look disgusting and really hurt! I know this may seem like such a small thing to be moaning about when there ...
A. 26 January 2016: If you want reassurance, get a proper diagnosis from a qualified medical doctor. You say they are cold sores, then you say they aren't....
You need to be examined by someone who is qualified....
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he has too much invested in me. What does this mean?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. We were talking the other day. Some what if's type of conversation. I asked him if he would ever leave me or leave me for someone else and he said he has everything he wants and needs fr...
A. 26 January 2016: Is he still married or did he finally divorce her?... (read in full...)
Is NSA the same as FWB?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm sort of dating a person for past 2 months and today after sex he told me he wants to do NSA and he doesn't attach emotionally to anyone (which he does to protect himself) and won't commit. Though its NSA he won't be seeing anyone el...
A. 23 January 2016: To protect himself from what? The horror of a relationship? ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's sister has me rattled
Q. I am finding my girlfriend's sister really annoying lately and feel like I'm getting to the point where im gonna say something or snap. I'm trying to be understanding because she has recently got out of a long-term relationship, moved back home ...
A. 13 January 2016: One possible approach is to ask, calmly and a bit earnestly, "I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you meant by that comment. You said, '[insert comment here] and then laughed. Could you explain?" Look at her intently with a calm expectant look on ... (read in full...)
When is right to ask her over?
Q. Hi, is four dates, too early to ask to come over to her place, bring a movie, and popcorn so we can be alone, and snuggle. We have been out dancing, out to eat, talking on the phone, that is texing. I have ask, she says its too early. I don't dr...
A. 13 January 2016: It's impolite to invite yourself over to someone else's home. It would be far more polite to invite her to your house, laying out what your plans are for the evening.
Suggesting popcorn, a movie and 'snuggling' would be a signal to her that you expe... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend suddenly gone nasty?
Q. my boyfriend has been letting me down a lot recently so i told him i was having a week to myself to clear my head he said he was fine with this . i messaged him on facebook today (a week later) and could see he had read the message 2 hours later he...
A. 27 December 2015: You use the word "suddenly" but you start with the phrase "my boyfriend has been letting me down a lot recently"...
Then you say "i havent done anything wrong or been nasty to him i dont get why he has suddenly got a nasty attitude towards me he s... (read in full...)
What good excuse can I give my bf ?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 6 months. I am on vacation right now with my mom, because she just retired. My bf didnt want me to go on vacation, but I had to because my mom had purchased the airplane tickets and everything before I even me...
A. 27 December 2015: What do you mean, he can't face the truth? Did you tell him that your trip with your mother would last as long as it did?
Are there other 'truths' you can't tell him or is this the only one?
And you said "He starts to argue and get mad because ... (read in full...)
My mother passed away today, and I feel like a bad son!
Q. My mother past away today, she was 84, she been in bad health all year, she is in a better place now, but am I a bad son, my girlfriend broke up with me , three weeks ago, am thinking about her more, I love my mom, but my heart is broken, over a ...
A. 27 December 2015: I'm sorry to hear of your loss. It's especially difficult on holidays. Everyone reacts differently to loss....
Please reach out to the grief counselors recommended by the EMTs, or the hospital, or the social workers or the hospice people, so that... (read in full...)
How can I tell if the woman I like wants to be treated like a princess?
Q. Ladies, can you help, me with a problem I have, am single, not a bad boy, the problem is, I don't know which women, to treat like a princess, an which ones, I should act like I don't care, the ones ,i treat fantastic, which has only been two, in ten ...
A. 27 December 2015: My advice would be to get to know the woman a bit better. I gather from this post and your other posts on the topic, that you want to sweep a woman off her feet by showing her that you have very romantic ideas, like dancing on rose petals.
D... (read in full...)
I'm waiting for him to make the next move but it's killing me! Advice, please!
Q. I rekindled with my ex boyfriend this year and over the last 6 months we have dated a few times and have now become intimate. He came to my work xmas party and we had a great time. That was over 12 days ago. since then he has not called me or ...
A. 27 December 2015: I guess I'd want to know who 'rekindled'? Did you reach out to him or did he reach out to you?
The thing that bothers me for you is that he hasn't made contact in 12 days after being your date at your work Christmas party.
Is it possible that you... (read in full...)
What good excuse can I give my bf ?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 6 months. I am on vacation right now with my mom, because she just retired. My bf didnt want me to go on vacation, but I had to because my mom had purchased the airplane tickets and everything before I even me...
A. 27 December 2015: Here is the post I remember reading: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-should-i-pay-for-in-the-first.html So over a month ago you knew you were going to be gone for a month and a half. And another one even earlier: ... (read in full...)
May We All Find Peace And Love This Holiday Season
Q. I wish to offer my most sincere wish of good tidings, good cheer, and peace in a troubled world. If we all watch the news and read social media; we would think the world has gone mad. The mass killings of innocent people. The plight of people who ...
A. 27 December 2015: Peace and joy to all! Thanks for a thoughtful and heartwarming article.
... (read in full...)
What good excuse can I give my bf ?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 6 months. I am on vacation right now with my mom, because she just retired. My bf didnt want me to go on vacation, but I had to because my mom had purchased the airplane tickets and everything before I even me...
A. 27 December 2015: Midsummer, I remember that you had wanted your boyfriend to move out of his mother's house because you couldn't be intimate together there, and you couldn't be intimate at your mom's house either.
Then when you convinced him to move into a new plac... (read in full...)
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