A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes:My husband of 18 years has been pressuring me to have a threesome with another man. I am not comfortable with this but he keeps insisting that he wants to share me with either a friend of his or one of my choice. I am 60 and not real comfortable with my body. I am not into anal at all and really don't care too much for giving oral. He wont stop badgering me. What should I do?
View related questions:
threesome Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 January 2016):
 I agree with Code Warrior, don't do it.
Make an appointment with a marriage counselor, tell your husband you've arranged a 'threesome', take him in the back door of the office and plop him down on the couch and get the marriage counseling session started. Find a marriage counselor who is used to working with couples with sexual 'differences.'
If you've been married for 18 years and presumably together longer than that, and your communication has always been good then work from that.
If your communication has been a problem for a while then that's where you start.
In the meantime, if he won't stop badgering you, then ask him to move out while you contemplate the options.
Oh, and find a good divorce attorney. I'm not sure this will end well for the marriage.
A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 January 2016):
 Keep to your word, tell him you will leave if he keeps pestering you about it. Tell him it is unfair off him to ask you to do something you are uncomfortable with.
...............................
A
male
reader, Garbo +, writes (28 January 2016):
 You should stay with your word, which is don't do it. Never, ever do sex that isn't comfortable to you. If this MMF is something you don't want to do, then be sure you don't do it.
You are not an object to please people sexually. Instead, sex is a mutually pleasing act that should express sense of love. I don't see this in what your man is pressuring you to do. Don't do it, be firm about it, and make sure he knows that in no uncertain terms.
...............................
A
male
reader, Denizen  +, writes (28 January 2016):
 Tell him no means no. Like it or lump it. You are in a legal union with one man, not his coterie. I think he probably is thinking about wife swapping in the future, and it doesn't sound like your thing. So put your foot down now.
You are going to have to work out something between you for the future because it looks like your paths are diverging.
...............................
A
female
reader, singinbluebird +, writes (28 January 2016):
 Please leave him. Not only if he is disrespecting you, he is sexually harassing and wants to exploit you. Seek help, tell your family and friends. DO NOT give in.
...............................
|
