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Are we still friends or is it over?

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Question - (6 September 2016) 8 Answers - (Newest, 7 September 2016)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am friends with a female at work. we have fallen out a couple of times but have always made up.

last week i sent her flowers at work in the hope of she would put me back on facebook as one of friends but it back fired on me and things seem to take a turn for the worse.

We didnt talk for sometime and i did not go into work as i was unwell. When i went into work and felt better we talked. it was her last day at the firm and i wished her all the best and we shook hands.

she made eye contact with me for a brief second but she looked down on the floor.

What does this mean? are we still friends or is it over?

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (7 September 2016):

N91 agony auntDude, you've posted about this about 5 times already.

Leave this girl alone, your behaviour is beyond creepy.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (7 September 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntYou keep changing your story over and over again, first you did not remember you sent flowers, now you sent them so that she would put you back on facebook. You did not go to work so that you did not need to face her, but now it is because you where ill. You use a lot of excuses but if I am being honest I think you know rightly what you are doing here, you are not so silly. You know that your behavior is wrong, but you change your story in hope that just one person will say go for it and keep at her until she says she wants to remain friends. But nobody is going to give you that advice because they have followed your story, we all know that you have basically stalked this girl. In my mind the reason she probably left her job was so she did not need to be freaked out by you any more. Enough is enough, leave this poor girl alone, let her live her life. If you are struggling to let her go seek professional help before you get a criminal record, and stop making excuses as it is clear to see that you know what you are doing.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (7 September 2016):

Anonymous 123 agony auntIt's over. And it's high time you understood this.

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A female reader, llifton United States +, writes (7 September 2016):

llifton agony auntDude, it's over. Please leave this woman alone.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (6 September 2016):

Honeypie agony auntIt's over, so yes you NEED to accept it.

LEARN from this. Moderate your behavior accordingly in the future. Don't be so pushy.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (6 September 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntYou didn't go into work because you didn't want to face her, OP. You need to be honest with yourself and read through the responses on the other posts you've submitted because you're hung up on being this lady's friend, but you went too far and there's no coming back from that.

Please seek therapy because this kind of obsession with her is very unhealthy and could easily end up scaring her.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (6 September 2016):

CindyCares agony aunt It is over. Accept it.

Some times we just cannnot get people to do and act and react how we would want, and any attempt in this direction only backfires and makes the fix you are in worse and worse.

You have seen it yourself clearly ( I hope ) with the flower thing. The more you push, the more they pull away.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (6 September 2016):

Tisha-1 agony auntIt is over. You overstepped the boundaries. She isn't going to be your friend in the way you hope.

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