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writes:i'm off to university for my 2nd year tomorrow and I am living in student accomodation again. I met this girl on facebook as she messaged me cause we were living in the same accomodation and originally going to be neighbours before I got moved flat. we get on really well and she seemed really into me by always texting me and even when the conversation was dead she picked it back up again which was nice. she even commented about how bad i was at replying as i took a while to reply. we've spoke for about 2 months now and lately she has been acting different because if the conversation goes dead she doesn't reply anymore and I am constantly asking questions etc but i keep getting vague responseswe've had some fun as she has sent me some intimate photos and i have too and i did a stupid thing and screenshot one once and then she was mad about it which i totally understand and it was wrong of me even if she said i could to others i shouldn't have done it but since then we started getting back to before whereas now this past week i feel that I am the only one making an effort even though she said she liked me and i have trust issues from last relationships but the way she is with me seems like she doesn't want to talk and i want to be able to sort things out as i will be living near her for a year tomorrowany advice on what I could do to get this solved?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (18 September 2015):
 I agree with Tisha, you made a blunder of a mistake when you screenshotted her, and you know it.
What I would suggest is that you ask her to meet up so you can delete her pictures IN front of her (she can delete yours) and then see if she wants to talk.
If she doesn't, then DELETE them anyways. And learn from this. What you did was not OK. Accept responsibility and accept that she isn't as into you now as she was in the beginning and that is most likely is because of what you did.
I don't think she is going to chalk it up to you being immature or made a mistake, but as you don't having much respect for her.
I'd stop trying so hard to "win" her back, I don't think she is interested. Instead be civil and learn the lesson from this.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 September 2015):
 I think as it's pretty clear she's not going to be your next girlfriend.
I'd just send her a message telling her that you have come to realize that things aren't going to magically improve. But that you wish her well.
Then, let it go.
I think you freaked her out because of your massive breach of trust. Don't expect that to be healed overnight.
All you can do is live your life with integrity and hope she was paying attention.
Good luck.
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