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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi FriendsReally sad for me.....Both of us are married, she is 30 and I am 42. I met her few month back in her office. She is beautiful and nice. We start talking on phone and chat. But when she came to know my feelings through mail. She asked me not to send such type of mail to her because she is married. Also she asked me to maintain a distance in between because both of us are married. I respected her decision and stopped everything to her. And went into the no contact zone for some time. After this once when I sent her Good morning, she immediately responded. We talked on phone and I asked her to meet, she said ok and will call but she did not. But I kept calling her. Every time she picked up my call and talks very nicely. But she never text me or answer my text. Once I asked her is there any problem or I disturb her when calling. She said there is not any problem I can call her.But every time I feel the same with her.After asking a lot of time on different dates perhaps she got irritated and asked me to not to call her anymore in a bad manner. But as I really love her I responded gently and said sorry but she was not listening. I said OK I'll not call her. And text her few emotional lines.But it is very difficult to feel the pressure. Kindly advice me what to do get her back in my life.Any female friend can advice me on my dearest point of view.Amit
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2015): Yes - I agree with the others - she is married & NOT interested in you.
You are deluding yourself here. Unfortunately we meet plenty of nice people at work - who are pleasant & nice - not because they are after a new partner - but just because pleasant & nice is their nature. You are reading too much into this & I think you have scared her off.
At the end of the day you are both married, so shouldn't be looking for another relationship anyway.
Try, keeping yourself occupied so you do not think of her so much...
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reader, Tottochan +, writes (16 September 2015):
Namaskar,It clearly seems like you are crossing the line when she has already told you to your face that she is not interested in having a relationship with you.Please refrain from contacting or troubling her again as she is well within her rights to complain about your behaviour to the HR section. Or even her husband.I understand that you think you have feelings for her, but please realise the harm that you are doing to your own family. Would you be fine if your wife indulged in similar behaviour as yourself?Just leave this poor lady alone. Spend time with your family and fulfill your responsibilities to them. Introspect on what might be missing in your own relationship with your wife that you felt that you can fulfill it only from elsewhere - and work to bridging that gap.Best of luck.
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (16 September 2015):
 so you want to break up two marriage's just to get what you want. you desire to build a foundation on cheating, and mistrust.
what happens to this woman when something better comes along to replace her with a newer model?
how would she trust you in the future? you want her to cheat, you want to cheat on your wife.
all of this are signs of low character, and not caring what you do to two marriages. how well your wife feel about your decisions ? i guess you do not care.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 September 2015):
 Well, if any female friend can advice you on how to get this woman back into your life, have you asked your wife? She might have an opinion on how best to accomplish that goal.
Amit, you will need to face facts. Face reality. Accept this.
this married woman has asked you not to contact her any more.
I know I know next to nothing about culture in India. But I'm pretty sure that when a woman has told you to stop contacting her in any culture, that it's really selfish to continue to do so.
She doesn't want you to be in her life.
Accept it. It's a life lesson. Learn it.
And I do go back to your comment about "any female friend." Isn't your closest female friend your wife? Ask her what to do about. If your wife has no idea, then by all means come back and ask us again.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (16 September 2015):
I hope you get her back...and marry her. Just to have someone else come alone and sleep with her, then take her away from you.
Then you may understand how your wife and her husband would feel :)))
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (15 September 2015):
 Some people won't take no for an answer and it sounds like you are one of them.
It appears she has made it abundantly clear that she doesn't want to hear from you. No means no.
I'm sorry you are feeling the hurt of unrequited love, but it sounds like you want to break up someone's marriage, and that is selfish on your part.
Sometimes you have to just lick your wounds and then find someone who is right for you.
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