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female
age
30-35,
*indaloo
writes:Hi I am a very shy person. I blush quite easily, I went on a second date with a guy who I really like, however I'm quite a quiet person so I don't think he's very interested in me. He messaged me the day after we met saying 'it was nice to see you, I had a good night, did you? But like you said last night we are two quite different people' I said I was quiet because I was, but I also suggested to go for a few drinks which obviously wasn't the best idea as it was noisy and I don't have a loud voice. I messaged him back saying ' ok well if you would like to meet up again maybe lets go for a walk or something tears quiet' he put back 'ok cool sounds good, didn't think that you were that bothered, but that's cool'. I haven't replied to him yet as I don't know what to put because I don't want him to feel he has to put that he'd like to meet up again, but I really do like him, what go you all suggest? Thank you
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (6 October 2015):
 I agree with Tisha.
Tell him, I would like to get to know you better and it was hard for me to talk over the noise at the bar, where as it would be easier to have a chat while going for a walk.
And don't be afraid to let him know that you are somewhat shy and quiet, but working on it.
Being shy and quiet are not NEGATIVE traits. It's just WHO you are.
I don't think he would want a second or 3rd date if there wasn't things about you he likes, and you about him.
Maybe now is the time to find things you two have in common or both like and go enjoy them together - or try totally new things. Like going go-karting etc.
Don't put yourself down. You are FINE, just the way you are.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 October 2015):
 I'd stop assuming you know what he thinks. I'd go with what you'd like to happen and work toward that.
If you like him, let him know by responding assuming he'd actually like to take you out again.
"Okay cool, let's meet up for a walk then let's have a coffee/tea/snack to reward ourselves. How about a walk through ABC or XYZ park then a stop at GHI for gelato then at the finish line we get a coffee/tea at PQR?"
If he declines the invitation and doesn't offer an alternative date option then you'll know.
Lindaloo, you may be shy and quiet, but that doesn't mean that you aren't dateable. So stop assuming the worst!
I saw a pertinent quote today. "A negative mind will never give you a positive life."
So assume the best!
Good luck!
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