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writes: please help.I am 20 and my fiance is 19.he still lives with his mother and she doesnt kno were still engaged.she hates me for no real reason and has been trying to force him to leave me for about 9 months now.she recently found out that I came to see hime and she's taken his phone.He is to scared of being disownd by his family to stand up for menow thers no way for me to keep in touch with him at all.he says he is going to wait for me.but im scared he wont last the year its going to take without contact or physical relations.what can I do to keep him from giving up on me.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (9 October 2015):
 I'm rather suspecting that he doesn't live with his Mum. If he has a few pounds to rub together then he can easily find a cheap prepaid phone that he could use without her knowledge.
Have you actually been to meet her and spent time with her at their house?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 October 2015):
 I don't think there is anything you CAN do to ensure that he will keep his word.
I have to ask you, what difference do you think a year will make? His mother will still dislike you, and IF you marry him, that will not go away.
So what you in essence is waiting for is to be with a guy who's family don't want you with their son. THAT is a lot of hostility waiting to happen. And I don't think the mom hates you for "no reason" - you just don't know WHY.
If you two want to wait a year for each other, then by all means do so, but I think it's going to be hard as you have no contact what so ever for that year. A lot can happen in a year. For both of you.
By the way, are we talking two different cultures here?
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reader, Tottochan  +, writes (9 October 2015):
Hey there,Both of you are really young - 19 and 20. He is still living with his parents. Are you two going to college?As he is living with his family, he will still have to respect the laws in his house. It is better that both of you keep marriage on the backburner for now. Concentrate on your studies, or on getting a job that will keep you financially secure and firm on your own two feet. When you both are steady, and can live together, then you should definitely go ahead with your marriage plans.Regarding your fears - you could always stay in touch via email. That would be a private mode of communication for both of you.Why does his mother not like you? I hope that both of you are encouraging each other to do well in life, and your respective careers. It is always better to have a steady foundation in terms of finances, because otherwise that might get to be a contentious issue later on. Wish the best for each other, and get some drive and motivation in your own life, which is not related to your boyfriend. If you do very well on your own, undoubtedly, his mother will also respect you and would definitely change her mind about not liking you :)All the best.
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