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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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A. 18 October 2012: Hi
No the age difference is much better than I thought.
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And at 13-15 you may already be too old for a seventh grader? Maybe not too old in four year... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has the nerve to go through my phone when he's the one who doesn't tell the truth!
Q. I have been having some trouble with the settings on my phone so I was messing around figuring out how to fix it. I had to run out to do an errand and left my phone in the middle of figuring it out. When I returned I remembered I had not finished ...
A. 17 October 2012: for some people telling little lies, medium lies and big lies becomes so ingrained that it seems normal. It's beyond me why. It's almost as if, 'if they tell the truth, then others will know too much about them'.
It is hard to understand and frus... (read in full...)
"Signs that your bf is no longer in love with you"
Q. Seems like most of the questions or confusions of females from here are all about how to tell if their bf's loves them? or Does Their ex still Cares for them? Or how can you really tell when a relationship is really over? To Sum it all, Its all ...
A. 17 October 2012: This is a really good article.
I am looking back over the past and trying to think of anything you forgot and I have to say you have really nailed some of the truly clear signals.
When a guy really cares he goes out of his way to ensure he is... (read in full...)
Is saying he loves me a real indication that he does really love me?
Q. My boyfriend said I love you for the first time over a message on facebook. Since then often sends me messages saying he loves me. He sometimes says it as I am going to leave his house or at the end of a phone call But he never says it randoml...
A. 17 October 2012: Some people do mean it and some people say it as a throw a away line. And then there are the people who relunctantly finally say 'I love you' still worried to show their feelings.
Which one is he? Well look at his actions.
Is he overly sentim... (read in full...)
How can I be successful with girls?
Q. I have absolutely no experience with girls and i am trying to make sense of relationships. I want to know what does it mean to be successful with girls? and what does it take to be so?...
A. 15 October 2012: Well I have your tutorial ready for you.
The firt two articles are absolute Gold standard. And just what you need.
Girls love confident guys. So the one on confidence is a must read.
The rest of the articles are the icing on the cake. They ... (read in full...)
How can I be successful with girls?
Q. I have absolutely no experience with girls and i am trying to make sense of relationships. I want to know what does it mean to be successful with girls? and what does it take to be so?...
A. 15 October 2012: Well I have your tutorial ready for you.
The firt two articles are absolute Gold standard. And just what you need.
Girls love confident guys. So the one on confidence is a must read.
The rest of the articles are the icing on the cake. They ... (read in full...)
My past has affected me and subsequently my troubled relationships led to me turning to porn. Can I have a normal sex life?
Q. I am porn-damaged and I need help. Modnote: this paragraph was reduced to a precis, due to the graphic images therein: The background is that I have had a very troubled life where things have happened that were NOT my fault and for which I was ...
A. 15 October 2012: hi
Words are not enough to convey my thoughts that with more support you can heal and hopefully move towards a more satisfying, for you, sex life that is closer to an approximation of a normal sex life.
You may have a strong vision of what you feel... (read in full...)
Tunnel vision positive thinking - used to your advantage
Q. Life is never perfect. Even people, who look like they have it easy, still have challenges. Maybe different challenges to people doing it much tougher, but challenges all the same. That's when it's much harder to feel positive. Even if we cou...
A. 23 December 2010: Hi Solar, Have to agree, bit of positive thinking smoothes the way in this busy month. At this time of the year we all try to madly rush around, so much to finish/do. Sometimes we just have to stop and do something nice for ourselves that makes us ... (read in full...)
Tunnel vision positive thinking - used to your advantage
Q. Life is never perfect. Even people, who look like they have it easy, still have challenges. Maybe different challenges to people doing it much tougher, but challenges all the same. That's when it's much harder to feel positive. Even if we cou...
A. 23 December 2010: Hi Khin77, true, all people need brightening up some days.
My lap top crashed yesterday. Had to get serious TLC for it. But it had a silver lining as i found time to tidy up some old papers/research i've been meaning to do for ages. So had no excu... (read in full...)
Tunnel vision positive thinking - used to your advantage
Q. Life is never perfect. Even people, who look like they have it easy, still have challenges. Maybe different challenges to people doing it much tougher, but challenges all the same. That's when it's much harder to feel positive. Even if we cou...
A. 23 December 2010: Hi OliviaAna, i love the corkboard idea. I do similar by putting up good sayings on the refridgerator. Think I might get a corkboard too, wd tidy up the front of my refridgerator too, thx Abella... (read in full...)
Tunnel vision positive thinking - used to your advantage
Q. Life is never perfect. Even people, who look like they have it easy, still have challenges. Maybe different challenges to people doing it much tougher, but challenges all the same. That's when it's much harder to feel positive. Even if we cou...
A. 15 December 2010: what a lovely follow up JmTnj. And i remain in awe of all your fantastic advice and good commonsense JmTmj. Much appreciated, thx... (read in full...)
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