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writes:I have absolutely no experience with girls and i am trying to make sense of relationships. I want to know what does it mean to be successful with girls? and what does it take to be so? Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
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reader, Abella  +, writes (15 October 2012):
 Well I have your tutorial ready for you.
The firt two articles are absolute Gold standard. And just what you need.
Girls love confident guys. So the one on confidence is a must read.
The rest of the articles are the icing on the cake. They are good articles too.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-be-attractive-a-beginners-guide-for.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/who-is-a-natural-flirt-and-what-qualities.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/20-questions-to-ask-someone-on-a-date.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/nice-guys-.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/lets-talk-about-the-problem-with-nice-guys.html
It is not always the best looking nor the tallest guy who gets the girl. And real girls really do like genuine nice good guys.
Only girls with low self esteem often siffer in unacceptable abusive relationships since they think they do not deserve better.
Try to choose the nice girls who are not unkind and who are not bitchy.
Short term the bitchy girls think they are winning but over time people see through their nastiness.
Long term you want a nice girl who is genuine and who will be there for you. Choose accordingly.
BUT.... that is not enough for some guys. They want to be PLAYERS
Being a player is nasty and players are often shallow as they move on from one girl to the next.
They think this is being successful with girls. With multiple girls, and such players are on the run all the time. And need to tell lies just to survive the mine field they create by trying to maintain relationships with multiple women all at the same time.
Some men call this success.
I call it misery.
It is not success. It is loser territory.
And there is nothing more sad than an aging player who used to be able to get the girl, but now everyone can see through him. So he keeps on going out every night, still looking for the 'one' while he goes home to hs empty place each night, after he has spent time with his latest girls.
That's not success. That's sad.
A
female
reader, Abella +, writes (15 October 2012):
Well I have your tutorial ready for you.
The firt two articles are absolute Gold standard. And just what you need.
Girls love confident guys. So the one on confidence is a must read.
The rest of the articles are the icing on the cake. They are good articles too.
It is not always the best looking nor the tallest guy who gets the girl. And real girls really do like genuine nice good guys.
Only girls with low self esteem often siffer in unacceptable abusive relationships since they think they do not deserve better.
Try to choose the nice girls who are not unkind and who are not bitchy.
Short term the bitchy girls think they are winning but over time people see through their nastiness.
Long term you want a nice girl who is genuine and who will be there for you. Choose accordingly.
BUT.... that is not enough for some guys. They want to be PLAYERS
Being a player is nasty and players are often shallow as they move on from one girl to the next.
They think this is being successful with girls. With multiple girls, and such players are on the run all the time. And need to tell lies just to survive the mine field they create by trying to maintain relationships with multiple women all at the same time.
Some men call this success.
I call it misery.
It is not success. It is loser territory.
And there is nothing more sad than an aging player who used to be able to get the girl, but now everyone can see through him. So he keeps on going out every night, still looking for the 'one' while he goes home to hs empty place each night, after he has spent time with his latest girls.
That's not success. That's sad.
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