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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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Q. Is it true that women look at mens butts like men look at theirs...!!??...
A. 28 August 2012: trust me, the ladies who like looking start learning in their teens but tell the truth about how much they really look after the age of 30:)... (read in full...)
Taking care of my boyfriend's sick mother and he doesn't appreciate it
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I have looked after my mother in law on a series of occasions for weeks or months at different time, and now all the time. As now as she has health issues. But I do not try to do it alon... (read in full...)
I love my wife but I am not sure I can live with her because of her slovenly habits
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You love your wife and you have been together a long time. So if the place was cleaner would that lift this big load off... (read in full...)
Should I confront the man my wife had a one night stand with?
Q. My wife had a one night stand behind my back. She was in school with this guy and he knew she was married. I know where this guy lives, my question is do i go round there and hit the shit out of him?...
A. 27 August 2012: The Issue is NOT the guy. It could have been ANY guy.
The real issue is your wife who had so little respect for you that she chose to have sex with another man
Talk to your wife about loyalty, respect, fidelity and your relationship... (read in full...)
Do women look at men's butts?
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A. 27 August 2012: Besides the age difference between the lady (who you have come to like) and the cultural differences (you have the Australian flag and I imagine the lady is a long term resident of New Jersey. Then there is the fact that you are the girl friend and ... (read in full...)
My husband and his family do not believe I was a virgin because I didn't bleed after our first night together. Why did I not bleed?
Q. Hola I am from Mexico . Please forgive my English it is second language to me. I am originally from Mexico but live here in the united states. I am 21 years old and recently got married . I was a virgin when I married . I didn't bleed . My husband ...
A. 27 August 2012: It is barbaric that they are putting your through this. A qualified doctor would tell them that without doubt not all girls bleed. Complete virgins do not always bleed.
Occasionally girls who are definitely NOT virgins do bleed (until they get help... (read in full...)
It was his Ex who caused all these problems. Yet even though he knows that he blames me. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year has changed lately. He is not now how he used to be. He was once a lovely and caring boyfriend. Now he is not like he used to be. He started changing his attitude when we had this big fight the night before I was supp...
A. 27 August 2012: I think he is looking for excused TO BLAME you.
And the timing of when this started happening to you makes me wonder if he and his ex were complicit together in this. He may have said a throw away line. She could have picked up on it.
If he does ... (read in full...)
"This song is not about you" ?!
Q. Ive been dating this guy for about three years last night he turned on some music. He was particulalry playing songs from a personal play list. After hearing several songs. he search for a particular one and before the song came on he said, now ...
A. 27 August 2012: How appallingly tactless of this guy.
Leave him to his dreams. His own attitudes will drive women away. His mind is not on you.
Leave him to wallow in the past.
Look to the future and abandon any thoughts that this guys wants a relationship. He... (read in full...)
Men: I have a crush and need advice!
Q. Hi there, I would really appreciate some honest advice here as I am struggling with a particular situation and don't have a lot of people to ask and guess what it is about a MAN! There is a guy I have been working with for the last 5 months th...
A. 26 August 2012: he does really like you I think. Truly.
But he is ultra cautious. Why I am not sure. But i tried to think of 'why' in my answers.
Some guys are way too cautious.
But just keep on encouraging him.
I think deep past hurts can really make some... (read in full...)
Men: I have a crush and need advice!
Q. Hi there, I would really appreciate some honest advice here as I am struggling with a particular situation and don't have a lot of people to ask and guess what it is about a MAN! There is a guy I have been working with for the last 5 months th...
A. 26 August 2012: hi You are still in the same country right now - before he goes on holidays and before you take up the other post. Do something to break the ice. Are you any good at making macarons? Very 'in' at the moment. If you can make them then that migh... (read in full...)
Men: I have a crush and need advice!
Q. Hi there, I would really appreciate some honest advice here as I am struggling with a particular situation and don't have a lot of people to ask and guess what it is about a MAN! There is a guy I have been working with for the last 5 months th...
A. 26 August 2012: hi
I don't think you said his age, but i am going to assume a bit older than you, more experienced than you and a bit more senior than you.
There is clearly some attraction between the two of you.
He is super cautious. And i think you both lik... (read in full...)
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A. 26 August 2012: Hi, when you next do the shopping pre-arrange an appointment to see the doctor.
Discuss the fact that you need a longer acting contraceptive as you keep forgetting to take the contraceptive pill (technically that is correct - you do forget to take... (read in full...)
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A. 26 August 2012: Don't overwhelm him. But occasionally send him card where you tell him about something interesting you have recently done that was positive.
Send him a Happy Birthday card at the right time.
And of course remember him with a Christmas Card. ... (read in full...)
Will he grow to love our child?
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A. 26 August 2012: He now takes you for granted. You are becoming a non-person to him. He does not think he has to do a thing to impress you. In fact he sees it as his right to bully you.
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Do some things for yourself.
Of the things suggested... (read in full...)
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A. 26 August 2012: I suggest you contact the following group and seek advice and support to stay in USA at least for a while.
Please do this urgently as time is important.
https://nilc.org/overview-immeligfedprograms.html
My good wishes to you
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A. 26 August 2012: hi
Ah, but at a certain point you will not be able to fly on a plane (advanced pregnant state).
So the longer you can stay in USA the better. Once you reach the cut off point the Airlines will not accept you on a flight. So you may get to stay in ... (read in full...)
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A. 25 August 2012: Hi
You have NOTHING to be ashamed of and you have done NOTHING wrong.
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Booty is one thing. But were this man's actions disrespectful and selfish?
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He is treating you like his own living breathing convenient sex provider. Drop him like all the previous gals have. He might call... (read in full...)
Is he ever going to change, or is this going to be it forever?
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A. 25 August 2012: Hi
Sadly your boyfriend is in a complete rut. And he may lack confidence in himself. People often do not even recognise that what they are experiencing is depression. He may think he is incapable of doing anything differently to how he acts now.... (read in full...)
He performed oral on me and then we broke up. What happened?
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A. 25 August 2012: First of all he was not sincere. A man's actions tell you the character of the man, not his words.
And secondly sex too early is never a good idea. It debases you and it makes him think it was way too easy.
First of all always make a man prove to... (read in full...)
Indian society is very harsh on babies born out of wedlock but the man wants nothing to do with me. What do I do now?
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Kind empathy please. How can I stop my parents pressuring me into marriage?
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Your parents are quite unreasonable about pushing you into a marriage when you are so young.
If you do want to continue your studies after marriage could you also consider birth control for the firs... (read in full...)
Kind empathy please. How can I stop my parents pressuring me into marriage?
Q. Hi dear cupid..i m 18 yrs old. my question is about my family..ok here's my question Daily my parents are forcing me to discuss marriage..they deal with me like a puppet..whenever i put my views my father started abusing and my mother she looks at...
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I have a fear of tattoos
Q. I wanna ask you people about somethink that bother me about 4-5 years. I have tattoo-phobia.. I hate tattoos. I'm just like, scared when i see person with tattoo, especially someone close to me. I'm afraid that my best friends will someday put tatto ...
A. 23 August 2012: Hi
I have not heard of a phobia concerning tattoos though i would not be surprised if that occurred in some people.
If you explored it with a Counsellor I feel it is possible that something you saw or experienced earlier in your life could ha... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my aunt?
Q. Hey I'm 19 years old and I live with my aunt and she strict and mean. I am in college the only one in fact but she disapproves , I'm paying for school my self so it's no money out get pockets. And the problem is she never lets me do anything like u ...
A. 22 August 2012: Whatever she feels about your relatives she has no right to take it out on you.
If she feels resentful about any of your relatives then that is her problem. But she is going the wrong way about things. And if she thinks she is being 'nice' she is a... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my aunt?
Q. Hey I'm 19 years old and I live with my aunt and she strict and mean. I am in college the only one in fact but she disapproves , I'm paying for school my self so it's no money out get pockets. And the problem is she never lets me do anything like u ...
A. 22 August 2012: Sadly I think your Aunt has gone way too far. I do not think you have an obligation to deal with her. Her actions towards you are disrespecful and she is using you and abusing
Your Aunt is not your friend.
And she is a very Selfish woman.
... (read in full...)
My father saps my confidence but my real problem is how do I forgive my mother for not protecting me enough, when I was a child?
Q. Hi, small background of the situation being: When i was 12-14 i got regularly mentally, physically, emotionally and verbally abused by my father for years. My mother had just has my younger brother and states she did not know , but the reality ...
A. 21 August 2012: Your parents behaviour is unacceptable and perhaps you do not have the confidence to tell them face to face how much their actions ahev hurt you.
Though they are not (on a scale of 1 - 10) the very worst of the worst. some particularly bad pare... (read in full...)
I started dating a gorgeous, model-like, ambitious, cheeky guy, and he's now turned into an overweight, boozy, attention seeking boy!
Q. This is really tricky and I'd appreciate both male and female help with this. I've been with my lovely boyfriend who I care deeply for for two and a half years. When I met him he had model looks, a great body and I couldn't keep my hands off him....
A. 21 August 2012: Also before you start get him to have a check up for his health at the Doctors. He may be surprised to find out his cholesterol level and his level of good fat and bad fat. The Doctor can really put it to him straight on the risks to his health by ... (read in full...)
I started dating a gorgeous, model-like, ambitious, cheeky guy, and he's now turned into an overweight, boozy, attention seeking boy!
Q. This is really tricky and I'd appreciate both male and female help with this. I've been with my lovely boyfriend who I care deeply for for two and a half years. When I met him he had model looks, a great body and I couldn't keep my hands off him....
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He needs to start working out at home with some simple at-home weights. You can make a s... (read in full...)
Ffacebook issue with my LDR. Help Please!!!!!
Q. So, Im here in need of advice =) My ldr girlfriend and i are happy, i love her and she loves me. We ve been together for 3 months and I just came back from a trip to europe to see her, mom and some of her friends and she doesnt like the idea to ...
A. 21 August 2012: If you are communicating well and regularly and you get on well then you and her are in a happy mature relationship.
And it sounds like she is secure in the knowledge that you love her and she loves you.
Facebook is not loved by everyone. It ... (read in full...)
How not to be a nagging girlfriend
Q. I've realized I tend to look a lot at flaws in my boyfriend instead of looking and focusing in the good things. I remember that with my first boyfriend, everything was perfect (this was four years ago). After a very sad and painful breakup, I had ...
A. 20 August 2012: hi,
what a lovely follow up. It was a delight to read. Because you clearly already have some great relationship tools at the ready, due to your own personality and your studies.
I do hope over the next nine weeks, putting everything in to practise... (read in full...)
How not to be a nagging girlfriend
Q. I've realized I tend to look a lot at flaws in my boyfriend instead of looking and focusing in the good things. I remember that with my first boyfriend, everything was perfect (this was four years ago). After a very sad and painful breakup, I had ...
A. 20 August 2012: Hi
I think it is about respect and being non-judgemental. Your Boyfriend is not a client asking for advice.
He is a person with good and bad points just like all of us. All of us could improve something about ourselves.
Sometimes it ... (read in full...)
I made a mistake and my friends are punishing me for it. And excluding me, Can things get better and how?
Q. How can one mistake I made last a life time. It wasn't even a big one, it was a small insignificant act. When my "friends" organised an outing, I ended going out with one of my others friends in the group, just me and her. The group got drunk, m...
A. 19 August 2012: Correctly 'reading' people is also a very important social skill. That means you notice their non-verbal clues. You notice (but do not comment on) their body language. You notice how they walk, talk, behave and relate to others in the group. And if... (read in full...)
I made a mistake and my friends are punishing me for it. And excluding me, Can things get better and how?
Q. How can one mistake I made last a life time. It wasn't even a big one, it was a small insignificant act. When my "friends" organised an outing, I ended going out with one of my others friends in the group, just me and her. The group got drunk, m...
A. 19 August 2012: I suggest you look for a nicer group of friends. These 'friends????' These people are not behaving like real friends. in fact they sound really mean. Some people have already wised up to them, and have recognised that they are mean. Which is very ... (read in full...)
Religious differences. Parental interference. I love him so much and I know he loves me too. What do I do!?
Q. I'm in love with my guy friend who has been brought up in one religion and me in another religion. I have started to question my beliefs about 2 years ago... now I identify as agnostic. A few months ago I told my parents about my love for my frie...
A. 14 August 2012: i do wish you luck.
It is not easy losing someone we love.
Losing a loved one even if that is losing his presence because of the relationship breakdown still hurts a lot.
This is a learning experience. From it you will grow stronger.
But ... (read in full...)
I thought it was a love marriage but my husband treats me badly and sometimes acts like an animal
Q. I am 24 year, 1-1.5 year married girl with no child yet. It was a love mariage after 8 years relationship. My husband abuses and black mails me, he even call to my mother and tell her our before marige secrets. Sometime he behaves awsem and sometime ...
A. 14 August 2012: If you live in India the situation has particular aspects that have to be taken into account when a woman wants to leave her husband.
Though aspects would be different to (for instance) if you lived in USA or UK. Then there can be particul... (read in full...)
Religious differences. Parental interference. I love him so much and I know he loves me too. What do I do!?
Q. I'm in love with my guy friend who has been brought up in one religion and me in another religion. I have started to question my beliefs about 2 years ago... now I identify as agnostic. A few months ago I told my parents about my love for my frie...
A. 29 July 2012: There is supposed to be Freedom of Religion and Religious Tolerance
It is no one else's business.
Tell them if they make things that are your business into something that beomes their business:
"Well that does sound like you have a really b... (read in full...)
Religious differences. Parental interference. I love him so much and I know he loves me too. What do I do!?
Q. I'm in love with my guy friend who has been brought up in one religion and me in another religion. I have started to question my beliefs about 2 years ago... now I identify as agnostic. A few months ago I told my parents about my love for my frie...
A. 28 July 2012: You live in the USA. That is the first plus.
You can marry anyone you like.
His situation may be more problematic. But if he truly loves you and he lives in the USA then so can he marry if he wants to, even if it is against his parents wishes. ... (read in full...)
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