Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 8 January 2014: Dear tisha,
my mother knows that he is a cheater, i cryed on her shoulder when i found out, he is a child most probably and i myself don't know why am i with him still.
Dear honeypie,
You are right, he is supposed to do it willingly i shou... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 8 January 2014: Dear tisha,
my mother knows that he is a cheater, i cryed on her shoulder when i found out, he is a child most probably and i myself don't know why am i with him still.
Dear honeypie,
You are right, he is supposed to do it willingly i shou... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 7 January 2014: dear repliers, i can't thank you enough for the help you gave me, you really clarified many pin pionts in my relation ship. yes he did cheat, yes is an abuser, but now i am stronger to deal with him, i love him dearly and i will try to fix him, i ... (read in full...)
Do I ignore married co-worker? I know I shouldn't act on my feelings!
Q. Hi. Well..I am in a strange situation and I'm not sure how to deal with it..I am in a long therm relationship but started to develop feelings for a married colleague and he has feelings for me for more than an year...we never talked about it ...
A. 6 January 2014: hello, you are not guilty, you are not over thinking, and you have the right to feel confused and he is the one to blame because his gift and feeling now expressed are not appropriate for a man with a wife waiting for him to get back home. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks any man will be led by his hormones!
Q. Dear cupids, Today i asked my boyfriend of 1 year, what would he respond if a sexy woman asked him for his phone number, he said: to be honest, any man that is put in such a situation will be lead by his hormones and probably approve and take adv...
A. 13 June 2013: Dear cupids, i never give him the idea that cheating is okay, we even broke up twice only because he had the phone number of a new girl with out telling me, and he always was the one to come back. I do not think he is strong enough to cheat over me, ... (read in full...)
We don't have enough time for me to reach orgasm. What can I do?
Q. dear cupids, my boy friend of one year doesn't have the enough time to give me orgasm, we have sex at his parents house, and they rarely leave now, so when they are out we have a quick one where he reaches orgasm and i am stocked wanting more but...
A. 3 June 2013: I don't say that i am upset yet i do say i need another try and that i haven't reached satisfaction yet so he calls his parents and they say theu are on the way! And yes we only have his home, in mine i'm never ever left alone.
I have tryed star... (read in full...)
Together 7 years. Recently he's been criticising me for the smallest things and has a short fuse. What's going on?
Q. Hi everyone on this forum, i have used this forum once or twice in the past so here i am again, with a new problem for all those agony aunts out there. ive been with my fiance for 7 years now and well i am starting to find problems with, what i t...
A. 26 May 2013: men under stress usually put it on the people they love, maybe it is problems at work , maybe it is problems because he has no work , maybe it is problem because your work is better than his. finance to men is very important and no matter how much ... (read in full...)
I feel awful feeling this way but I am not at all interested in my boyfriend's step daughter!
Q. Ive been in a relationship for the past 8 months with someone that makes me very happy. However he has a step-child from a past relationship that he is very close to as treats as his own daughter and Ive never been with someone who has a kid and Im ...
A. 26 May 2013: having a man very close to a kid who is not even his, means that he will be even closer to the his own biological children, this is a man you do not want to lose. think out of the box with me okay, your boyfriend shows interest in what his step dau... (read in full...)
How to deal with disappear reappear guy
Q. Hi I really need an advice. Apparently I'm dealing with a houdini. The old disappear and reappear acts. I've dated this guy for a month. we went on 4 great dates. on our last date he brought me home, we watched movie, we kissed for the first ti...
A. 26 May 2013: hi
telling him you are not ready and "I want it with the right guy" is equal for you saying you are not the right guy, meaning he might have not really liked the idea, and he just might be hurt.
on the other hand, i think you should let him know... (read in full...)
Is he really worth spending my life with?
Q. dear cupids, i love a man of great generosity and respect to me, we has been together 11 month now and we were planning to get married after a year my parents would only accept him as my husband only if he have a 4 room apartment and a 1200000...
A. 6 May 2013: after multiple formal talks at work he called me tonight and expressed how much he misses me and how hard was it for him to move on and that all the irrespectfulness was because of the pressure he is under and he solely said that the name of the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me but we work together and no one knew we were dating!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years dumped me thru phone. He was very mean and verbally abusive to me all the time and broke up with me yesterday. We started working in the same office 2 months back. I cant quit my job, noone in office knows we are dat...
A. 5 May 2013: breaking up out of anger is not something that means you are out of his life for ever! you should worry if he did it face to face because only then it would mean that he thought about and that he is sure of his choice, yet on the phone means that he ... (read in full...)
How could my boyfriend not know if he loves me or not?
Q. hi cupids, my boyfriend always asks me if i love him for real, or if i am with him only because sexual intercourse happened between us knowing that from my region, a girl making any physical contact with her boyfriend is forbidden, he alway...
A. 15 April 2013: thank you so much for the answer, but you need to know that he made the rules no me,he said that uninstalling his side of the application was better for us!
anyway we talked later, after my initiation, and he said that he install it again just to d... (read in full...)
How could my boyfriend not know if he loves me or not?
Q. hi cupids, my boyfriend always asks me if i love him for real, or if i am with him only because sexual intercourse happened between us knowing that from my region, a girl making any physical contact with her boyfriend is forbidden, he alway...
A. 14 April 2013: that is what i will do, i am not expecting the best future with him, we are very different in how we think but the love usually get us through, so time will show me when his love will decrease due to routine, if we are going to stay together. note: ... (read in full...)
I thought he wanted me to get pregnant but after I lost the baby, he told me to go?
Q. Hi i really hope you can help me i recently went through a miscarriage we had decided to try for a baby i fell straight away we were so happy about it we talked about spending our lives together things changed afterwards he started saying i wasn't a ...
A. 12 April 2013: it might be simple fear of the future with the little baby, maybe when he was so close to the fact of having another responsibility to handle he simply proffered to run away, and since he can't he asked you to do, even married men do it.
i thin... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend about this conversation with my ex?
Q. dear cupids, as silly as the issue may seem yet i need a prompt answer becuase any action that needs to be taken have to happen today. 5min ago my x boyfriend who is with me in the university said hi and his hi continued into a brief of his ne...
A. 12 April 2013: cupids,
i told him about the chat! he didn't comment, he just smile the silly smile, i didn't ask any thing in fear actually lol!
thanks again... (read in full...)
How could my boyfriend not know if he loves me or not?
Q. hi cupids, my boyfriend always asks me if i love him for real, or if i am with him only because sexual intercourse happened between us knowing that from my region, a girl making any physical contact with her boyfriend is forbidden, he alway...
A. 12 April 2013: thank you! even though he didn't propose but, yes he does , he loves me, he finally said it, he loves me not out of shame, and even though he regrets what he did, it is not the condition that keeps him so tightly linked to me.
... (read in full...)
How could my boyfriend not know if he loves me or not?
Q. hi cupids, my boyfriend always asks me if i love him for real, or if i am with him only because sexual intercourse happened between us knowing that from my region, a girl making any physical contact with her boyfriend is forbidden, he alway...
A. 8 April 2013: Thank you alot for your answer, we passed 10 month and in 17th of this month we will be 11 month together, i have made it clear that i love him for him only, and i had left once before, so he knows i'm not with him only for that reason, plus i have ... (read in full...)
I think I made a mistake by judging his past?
Q. I fell head over heels in love with a man.He was 10 years younger than me. He was a serial cheater. Cheated on his exwife cheated on his ex girlfirends and cheated on his last girlfriend to be with me. It was perfect for 8 months. I knew he was ...
A. 31 March 2013: i don't think you did a mistake, you simply don't have to live forever in fear of what if he cheats!! he have the right to be with other women now that you are apart, and if its only sexual contact with others then he does love you. what you shoul... (read in full...)
I don't know how to play the game of being chased
Q. I have a problem with being pursued by men/boys. I don't know what is wrong with me but I don't know how to let a man/boy pursue me and work for me and my attention. It causes problems because I always drive away the boys that I like because of my ...
A. 31 March 2013: from my own experience, men needs to feel your need to them, even if its for something silly like opening a can of juice or something! never compare a man with an ex be the kid out side, and the wild when your alone, and never under estimate t... (read in full...)
Does a teacher know when a student has a crush on them?
Q. Do teachers realise if one of their student has a crush on them?? Just wondering.... And how would they know????? No biggie, my friend does...
A. 31 March 2013: a teacher is a human being! he/she will realize that someone is paying him extra attention, giving more care and time... will he know? yes! unless the person having a crush treats all the other teachers extra good so the teacher he/she have a crush ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't rush to defend me when some men made comments about me!
Q. Dear cupids, my 10 month boyfriend and i have passed over all the porblems you may imagine and all thanks to the power of true deep long long conversations and in ten month i have never faced such a situastion as the one we passed today and his re...
A. 18 March 2013: thank you all for the splending answers! I guess i never thought of it in this way, i simply disliked the idea that he gave no reaction but now i sort of get it.
You're right they are not worth us wasting time on them
And yes it happens alot but... (read in full...)
Now that she's got a boyfriend, she doesn't shut up about him!
Q. Hello everyone I have a very good friend and she recently got into a relationship with her boyfriend but now that she's with him she doesn't shut up about him! How can I politely tell her to stop talking about him so much. Practically every time we ...
A. 27 February 2013: i have been in a similar situation, only i'm the girl who is always talking about her boyfriend! and no i never used my friend as a remedy. its as simple as when you get the most fantastic clothe ever! how proud would you feel , like you've a... (read in full...)
Girl flirting with my boyfriend at party, and then friending him on Facebook.
Q. My boyfriend and I were at a birthday party at a house a few weeks ago. We met a mutual friend of one of the birthday girls for the first time, a female about our age. At first she seemed really nice and we were both chatting with her. Then ...
A. 27 February 2013: OP, you are not being ridiculous in anyway believe me, you are simply being a woman! if you don't feel that you have to have your boyfriend only for your self your not normal! the effect of what ever you do lies in the way you do it! men are not ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend about this conversation with my ex?
Q. dear cupids, as silly as the issue may seem yet i need a prompt answer becuase any action that needs to be taken have to happen today. 5min ago my x boyfriend who is with me in the university said hi and his hi continued into a brief of his ne...
A. 27 February 2013: thanks for all your answers, they really helprd me take the right call, i will tell him, but not like a separate story, it will just be right their when we're talking about our days. i am the kind that tells him everything and he does too, and that... (read in full...)
Now that he's gone I think he is the one
Q. How can I win my boyfriend of 5 months back? He dumped me because we weren't allowed to see each other very often because my dad didn't like him. But we always said we'd find a way past that and see each other when he was old enough. If anyt...
A. 17 February 2013: hunn, if he is really the one fate will get you back together! if he is really the one you wouldn't say : " he was pretty much the one" you would say he is the one. you seem to like hi but i don't think you really love him because you did not ... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 2 February 2013: Denise32 : I WILL leave him! and CMMP i will win my self and he will leave me! ... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 2 February 2013: every one thanks one more time! i closed my phone and i'm treating him very formally at work and refusing his proposals to join dinner or break fast making my studying for my exams as my excuse.
yet i think he feels i'm leaving because he is bein... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 1 February 2013: every one!! really THANK YOU for answering my doubts. i have thought of what you said several times yet always he found a way to convince me the other way around. I AM GOING TO GO! I will leave surprisingly giving him no trace to find and... (read in full...)
My wife is constantly texting another man, asked me to move out and yet says she wants to work on things!
Q. Hi. I have used this site a few times and thank those who have added comments, it helps. Will try to be brief here... Married for 12 years, 3 great kids. Wife and I have always been great friends, quite a bit in common but our sex life has...
A. 29 January 2013: really?! "I am a great man, great dad, make a lot of money, cook, clean, etc. Confused...thanks." what kind of great men actually say that about themselves?! OP be realistic, see the problem from her sight of view. you said that she wanted spark... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend's fear of getting caught make him react differently during sex?
Q. my boyfriend and i love each other very much, yet he doesn't have his own house, so usually we wait until his parents are out of his house then we go cuddle, have sex, talk and sometimes times cook and eat together while watching tv. his fathe...
A. 7 January 2013: you think!! ok i will take what you said in consideration even though i think you missjudjed him, but yet again i love him so i think i'm the one framing him the way i want.
thanks again
... (read in full...)
I don't know how to treat my ex-best-friend since he's found a girlfriend and everything changed.
Q. Ok. One of my guy friends got a girlfriend last year, and I was like okay cool. Then he starts talking to me less and less, and I was like wtf why isn't he talking to me we talk all the time. I guess i started getting to me, because I totally ...
A. 1 January 2013: the problem is not in you its in your friend, his girlfriend is the one who is jealous of you not the other way around. put your self in her shoes come on! your boyfriend talks regularly to some girl and he loves talking to her and shares more ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend's fear of getting caught make him react differently during sex?
Q. my boyfriend and i love each other very much, yet he doesn't have his own house, so usually we wait until his parents are out of his house then we go cuddle, have sex, talk and sometimes times cook and eat together while watching tv. his fathe...
A. 1 January 2013: LittleMonster thanks again
and no he does pay great attention to me out side the sex demanding area...for example on new years eve he drove half an hour behind my parents car just so he can look at me saying:"i need to tell myself that i spent new ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend's fear of getting caught make him react differently during sex?
Q. my boyfriend and i love each other very much, yet he doesn't have his own house, so usually we wait until his parents are out of his house then we go cuddle, have sex, talk and sometimes times cook and eat together while watching tv. his fathe...
A. 31 December 2012: thanks LittleMonster, your answers really helped, yet according to my third question I meant after sex I used to cuddle with him yet now i'm alone, is their something useful someone can do with his body that is hipper after having sex? ... (read in full...)
He's amazing but then when trouble hits he does a 180. I'm too weak to stay away from him. Is this normal?
Q. he screamed at me on the phone so i ignored him for 5 days in which he asked me out and called several times and even once he came to my university with a flower and i said i was in an exam he have serious mood swings that i'm afraid may put m...
A. 21 December 2012: every one thanks a lot for your answers and concerns. you need to know that i gave him a "friend treatment" for a couple of days after which he cracked, but this time he didn't go crazy angry yet crazy tender and at one day he-by him self- apologiz... (read in full...)
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
Q. Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
A. 18 December 2012: really nice
suggestion number 5 is the best,lol, it made me laugh!
thanks for your efforts... (read in full...)
LDR of 3 years--she sent me fake photos of herself from porn sites! Why did she lie to me?
Q. I feel like such an idiot. I've been in a long distance relationship for more than three years. I'm in the UK and she's in Australia. We met on the internet, but quickly moved on to talking on the phone, and we'd talk for hours every day. For v...
A. 8 December 2012: your surprised...i get that, but what do you mean you don't know what to do, if she is such a bad girl you wouldn't have fun fun talking with her for 6 hours per days for 3 years, if she is a lier their is no way she can keep on the lie that long. y... (read in full...)
We've broken up but he has offered to pay for the operation for me to get my virginity back, should I let him?
Q. my boyfriend got me loose my virginity, then he promised he would pay the money to get it back. i love him dearly and i'm sure that we are going to get married 4 days before now i read a chat between him and an ex in which he said "my love" and "swe...
A. 21 November 2012: dear female reader, he did promise marriage before even holding my hand, that happened at the day when we completed 2 month together and he came and talked with my parents, and thats why later i allowed him to hold hands which dragged us to bed. he ... (read in full...)
Women: Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Q. Warning:(The following contains broad generalizations to illustrate a point, there are no rules nor concrete all encompassing truths in what I write, there are always exceptions. This applies to men too) I've been on this site for a while now and ...
A. 19 November 2012: i hope I've read this article a bit earlier than now!
great job, lesson learned professor.... (read in full...)
We've broken up but he has offered to pay for the operation for me to get my virginity back, should I let him?
Q. my boyfriend got me loose my virginity, then he promised he would pay the money to get it back. i love him dearly and i'm sure that we are going to get married 4 days before now i read a chat between him and an ex in which he said "my love" and "swe...
A. 19 November 2012: Cerberus thanks for the feedback, i will make my best to avoid him, I'm even considering having some time off work. you must know that he told a common friend today that we broke up now but this is better because this way he can focus on settling ... (read in full...)
We've broken up but he has offered to pay for the operation for me to get my virginity back, should I let him?
Q. my boyfriend got me loose my virginity, then he promised he would pay the money to get it back. i love him dearly and i'm sure that we are going to get married 4 days before now i read a chat between him and an ex in which he said "my love" and "swe...
A. 19 November 2012: Cerberus i can't thank you enough for your time.
but you need to know that i lost it by accedent, and as i was cying he held me tight and said don't worry theirs an opparation for the matter,even though i trust that he is not that kind of men, but ... (read in full...)
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