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Obsessed with a girl in my class. What are my options?

Q.   Hello, I'm 13 yrs old and I'm obsessed with a girl in my year but I'm too shy to talk to her and since its the holidays i don't have contact with her. I want to follow her on instagram but feel like everyone will find something fishy going on a...

A.   4 August 2015: What to talk about first...first do some recon, military term for gathering information. Peep her instagram Facebook whatever and find out what she's into. Music or movies she likes. Or better yet go in blind, leaves you something to ask her about. ... (read in full...)

We were taking it slow and then there was a complete 180, what do I do now?

Q.   About 2 years ago a friend of mine showed me the instagram of a friend. She commented on a picture of us together and inquired who I was. I could tell from her pictures that she was gorgeous and outgoing. Real life of the party type of girl. Well...

A.   3 August 2015: I just erased her from instagram and Facebook. ... (read in full...)

Obsessed with a girl in my class. What are my options?

Q.   Hello, I'm 13 yrs old and I'm obsessed with a girl in my year but I'm too shy to talk to her and since its the holidays i don't have contact with her. I want to follow her on instagram but feel like everyone will find something fishy going on a...

A.   3 August 2015: I'm going to tell you a story, my friend showed me a female friend of his on Instagram. I followed her and she followed me back. it would be 2 years before I ever got to hang out with her in person. so when I did eventually get to hang out with her, ... (read in full...)

We were taking it slow and then there was a complete 180, what do I do now?

Q.   About 2 years ago a friend of mine showed me the instagram of a friend. She commented on a picture of us together and inquired who I was. I could tell from her pictures that she was gorgeous and outgoing. Real life of the party type of girl. Well...

A.   31 July 2015: All of thats fine, but she should understand why after all that someone would want distance from you. Yesterday she's complimenting my picures on facebook calling me "handsome". And last night she texted me old pictures of us....really? Don't ... (read in full...)

We were taking it slow and then there was a complete 180, what do I do now?

Q.   About 2 years ago a friend of mine showed me the instagram of a friend. She commented on a picture of us together and inquired who I was. I could tell from her pictures that she was gorgeous and outgoing. Real life of the party type of girl. Well...

A.   31 July 2015: I'd like to also add that she doesn't do well with intense emotions. they make her feel awkward and uncomfortable. I've even seen her beg her friends not to cry around her because she literally has no idea how to console them. ... (read in full...)

Obsessed with a girl in my class. What are my options?

Q.   Hello, I'm 13 yrs old and I'm obsessed with a girl in my year but I'm too shy to talk to her and since its the holidays i don't have contact with her. I want to follow her on instagram but feel like everyone will find something fishy going on a...

A.   31 July 2015: A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step, I've gotten beautiful women who in school I thought I'd never have a chance with simply because I talked to them and kept talking to them. Then you say something funny or stupid. Doesn't ... (read in full...)

We were taking it slow and then there was a complete 180, what do I do now?

Q.   About 2 years ago a friend of mine showed me the instagram of a friend. She commented on a picture of us together and inquired who I was. I could tell from her pictures that she was gorgeous and outgoing. Real life of the party type of girl. Well...

A.   30 July 2015: I agree with a lot of what you've said, Cindy, but I've had endless conversations with her about my feelings toward her. she once asked me, in what way did I like her, was it just to fuck or try and be with. and I told her that there are two types ... (read in full...)

I think my Ex GF Has Borderline Personality Disorder

Q.   I've recently broken up with my gf of about a year. I loved her more than any woman I've ever been with, but throughout the relationship she exhibited signs of mental instability that I overlooked or made excuses for because I love her. Someone ...

A.   11 April 2015: Thank you very much for your understanding. It helps a lot to know people have had similar experiences with those they love. ... (read in full...)

She's gone and I'm still in love with her.

Q.   I'm still deeply in love with my ex. Even though I never call, text, or look her up on social media anymore. In my heart I miss her terribly, which is irrational and stupid because she doesn't want to talk to me. Sometimes, when I'm at work I stare ...

A.   4 April 2015: I did something stupid last night. I texted her for the first time in two weeks asking her if she wanted to go to a concert with me. She said "No Thanks. Have fun!" Honestly I'm surprised that she responded at all. I feel really dumb.... (read in full...)

Why is my ex letting me know that she's stalking my social media?

Q.   I recently broke up with my gf of about a year. Throughout the relationship she was frequently insecure and jealous, but when she wasn't her love was like the sun. Eventually her jealously and insecurities made her angry, mean, and distrustful ...

A.   28 March 2015: I honestly don't have any hope of getting back together with her. I was just curious as to her reasoning And thought a female perspective could offer some insight. ... (read in full...)

How to get over your EX.

Q.   BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...

A.   30 June 2008: Just today I decided to cut my Ex completely out of my life as talking with her hurts me too much. I reread this article and it's helping me move forward. Thanks, man. ... (read in full...)

She broke my heart and it took me months to get over her. Now after 9 months she texts me out of the blue and my wound reopened, what do I do now?

Q.   Dear All..I have a major head masher...my ex and i split 9 months ago. It was messy, she told me i was the best, we made love, i kissed her as she left for work etc....then that evening, i was dumped...my heart laying bleeding...anyway, Its taken me...

A.   8 June 2008: I understand your emotions. Recently I was dealing with an Ex that has a personality disorder. She would say she doesn't care about me and be downright cruel then a second later she would be calling me saying how much she loved me. If you haven't ... (read in full...)

My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!

Q.   I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...

A.   8 June 2008: "Star07 is right about the NPD too, now this is one that is probably the most damaging to others- this type of person almost always leaves you feeling financially and psychologically raped." That's for sure. She's always trying to "Get over on ... (read in full...)

She dumped me but now she's got pics of us on Facebook as a couple?

Q.   Hello all, Me and ex g\f broke up about 3 months ago. We keep in touch every few weeks, just to say 'hi' and catch up, nothing more. She does not want to get back together However, i have just logged onto Facebook and she has just posted...

A.   8 June 2008: Maybe she likes reminiscing about all the happy times you've shared together? My Ex put me through some extraordinarily horrible stuff and I still have pictures of her on my page and we've been broken up eight months. I'm still on hers too. She even ... (read in full...)

My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!

Q.   I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...

A.   6 June 2008: Hey, Star, don't you think I tried that first? I tried to talk to her about this and she cussed me out. She become very scary. Yelling and screaming like you've never heard. All the while I was very calm and nice, but she just kept getting louder ... (read in full...)

My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!

Q.   I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...

A.   6 June 2008: Thanks 4 that, Star. I understand completely how easily it is to misdiagnose people. However, like I've said I didn't just come to this conclusion overnight or by myself. It took a very long time for me to see all the pieces of the puzzle put ... (read in full...)

My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!

Q.   I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...

A.   6 June 2008: Obviously, Star, you completely glossed over the part where I said I formed a hypothesis. As in my best guess based on the information available to me. Not that I verified a diagnosis using these methods. I noted the majority of the symptoms ... (read in full...)

My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!

Q.   I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...

A.   6 June 2008: sorry, I didn't know the size of the bottle just that it was their biggest. And I'm pretty sure drinking that until you're sick is a no-no. She drunk it little by little pouring it into a red plastic cup. Half the bottle one night, the rest the next ... (read in full...)

My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!

Q.   I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...

A.   6 June 2008: You're absolutely right in stating that no I am not a doctor and cannot formally diagnose her. However, I am an intelligent person who is capable of recognizing specific destructive patterns in a persons personality and cross referencing those to ... (read in full...)

My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!

Q.   I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...

A.   5 June 2008: P.S. I'm not the only person in her life who has noticed this. A mutual acquaintance of ours told me once how she suddenly extremely angry with her over something very trivial and it shocked her. That and Her Best Friend of 6 years who was like... (read in full...)

My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!

Q.   I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...

A.   5 June 2008: She may be a danger to herself. Because I know for a fact that she drives while under the influence of alcohol and weed frequently. Largely in part to her grandiose personality. She's even said "I've driven way worse off than this" Which is a little ... (read in full...)

After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?

Q.   I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...

A.   5 June 2008: I just re-read the message from the anonymous female and she describes exactly what I'm still going through with my ex. For example recently she said that she believes we're going to get married but in between now and then she is going to "Be 23 and ... (read in full...)

My ex said she had a one night stand, why is this cutting me up?

Q.   Okay, here's the situation... My Ex-Girlfriend I broke up with in November was my first love and real relationship, I broke up with for treating me horribly and because I suspected she had Hypomania calls me everyday. She gets drunk then calls...

A.   28 May 2008: I don't know, Sue, maybe I'm just being extraordinarily sentimental because of the extremely strong feelings I had for her for so long? I'm an extraordinarily loyal and dedicated person to the people I care about and I think that I will always lo... (read in full...)

My ex said she had a one night stand, why is this cutting me up?

Q.   Okay, here's the situation... My Ex-Girlfriend I broke up with in November was my first love and real relationship, I broke up with for treating me horribly and because I suspected she had Hypomania calls me everyday. She gets drunk then calls...

A.   27 May 2008: Thanks a lot for your advice Susan. It really means a lot to me. Just that Sometimes it's difficult for me to revert fully to being "Just Friends" with her. She was my first everything. I think about her Everyday. Possibly because she calls me ... (read in full...)

I like her sooo much, but I'm confused by this!

Q.   Okay, im now a junior in highschool, and ive liked this certain girl since my freshman year, i dont know why, but i do soooo much. I got a job at a grocery store, and then she started working there, but the twist is that she started talking to one ...

A.   27 May 2008: Great news, man! I'm glad somebody is doing okay on the girl scene. Okay, so you guys went out for drinks I'm assuming just the two of you alone. For the next time I'd choose something easy and stress free. Ask her if she wants to go to the mov... (read in full...)

Will I find love again? And will I still have feelings for her?

Q.   i dated my first love for 3 years and 2 years on and off. will i find love again? and will i always have feelings for her?...

A.   27 May 2008: Man, I just broke up with my 1st love in November and even thought she treated me badly and I had to break up with her I still thinking about her EVERYDAY. It doesn't help that she calls me everyday as "Just friends" I guess. I like to think th... (read in full...)

I like her sooo much, but I'm confused by this!

Q.   Okay, im now a junior in highschool, and ive liked this certain girl since my freshman year, i dont know why, but i do soooo much. I got a job at a grocery store, and then she started working there, but the twist is that she started talking to one ...

A.   24 May 2008: Life is too short to not go after the things you want. You say she flirts with you and confides in you so you've got a good shot. I say, go in slowly. Next time you guys are flirting tell her you have a crush on her and see if she responds. Then ... (read in full...)

I can't have her in my life as it hurts too much, and with her she can't not seem to stop contacting me!

Q.   My ex gf the relationship didnt last that long, maybe only 5mths and we split up about 3 yrs ago. Since then we have moved in and out of each others lives. Truth of the matter is I still have alot of feelings for her and her for me (though I know my ...

A.   23 May 2008: Anonymous Female's post was really touching. Made me think about some stuff I'm currently dealing with. I broke up with my first love in November after she treated me horrendously and I suspected her of having Hypomania. And even though we've broken ... (read in full...)

My ex said she had a one night stand, why is this cutting me up?

Q.   Okay, here's the situation... My Ex-Girlfriend I broke up with in November was my first love and real relationship, I broke up with for treating me horribly and because I suspected she had Hypomania calls me everyday. She gets drunk then calls...

A.   20 May 2008: To Susan, I had already posted my reasons for breaking up with her in an earlier post and didn't want to go through the rundown again, but I'll tell you all the hypomanic symptoms I've observed from our 9 months of dating # pressured speech... (read in full...)

My ex said she had a one night stand, why is this cutting me up?

Q.   Okay, here's the situation... My Ex-Girlfriend I broke up with in November was my first love and real relationship, I broke up with for treating me horribly and because I suspected she had Hypomania calls me everyday. She gets drunk then calls...

A.   20 May 2008: I talked to my ex about it this morning. First she said I'm not going to talk to you about my life, then she said that she made it all up. As I felt that she might have, but still you never know what someone is capable of, especially if you've ... (read in full...)

My ex said she had a one night stand, why is this cutting me up?

Q.   Okay, here's the situation... My Ex-Girlfriend I broke up with in November was my first love and real relationship, I broke up with for treating me horribly and because I suspected she had Hypomania calls me everyday. She gets drunk then calls...

A.   20 May 2008: I've been thinking about this non-stop since yesterday and I think what's bothering me the most is the disappointment in who she turns out to be. Because I have this image of her in my head built upon her telling me she'd never do something like ... (read in full...)

Why keep begging me to come see you if we're not going to have sex?

Q.   My Ex-girlfriend wants me to drive 3 hours and come spend the weekend with her so we can "hang out and have fun". I just got off the phone with her and she says she doesn't want to have sex and that I can have her bed. The whole not have sex thing ...

A.   27 March 2008: "Hmm maybe shes planning on saying sorry? Or maybe she is playing games with you." That may be the case. She does things sometimes just to see if she can get people to do it. Like when she told me that she got this guy whose virginity she to... (read in full...)

Why keep begging me to come see you if we're not going to have sex?

Q.   My Ex-girlfriend wants me to drive 3 hours and come spend the weekend with her so we can "hang out and have fun". I just got off the phone with her and she says she doesn't want to have sex and that I can have her bed. The whole not have sex thing ...

A.   27 March 2008: My ex-girlfriend treated me so extraordinarily bad during the course of our relationship and to this day has never apologized for it. Which is VERY MUCH the reason for my hesitation at making considerable effort to go see her. Keep in mind tha... (read in full...)

After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?

Q.   I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...

A.   14 January 2008: I know girls are emotional and stuff, but with her it's like a 180 frequently...who likes you on Friday and hates you on Sunday? It's really tiresome... She said she missed me on Friday and yesterday, she deleted me as her friend on myspace! Who ... (read in full...)

After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?

Q.   I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...

A.   12 January 2008: Hmmmmm... I was just talking to my Ex she got arrested for driving with a suspended license. While we were discussing that she said a friend of hers asks why does she still talk to me after what I did and said "That she can talk to whoever she w... (read in full...)

After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?

Q.   I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...

A.   10 January 2008: Sugarbuns, Thank you sooo much for all over your advice. Everything you've said makes a lot of sense. I will take every word of it to heart and proceed cautiously in my dealings with her. I will hold off on discussing the letter again with her until ... (read in full...)

After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?

Q.   I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...

A.   9 January 2008: Sugarbuns, she could not have this order and just be as you've said Immature, but in the off chance that she does have it. I don't think it would be cool to just abandon her altogether. I'm not extraordinarily religious, but I asked a religiou... (read in full...)

After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?

Q.   I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...

A.   9 January 2008: Yeah, a week after we broke up I researched the different types of bi-polar disorders and personality disorders. My Ex fits the bill of being either a hypomaniac or having a narcissistic personality disorder. I sent her a heart felt letter about my ... (read in full...)

Did I do the right thing by sending her a letter?

Q.   Recently I've developed serious suspicions that my ex-girlfriend is undiagnosed with a mental illness called "Hypomania" a mild Bi-Polar disorder. At times during our relationship she herself has expressed concerns about sudden feelings she can't ...

A.   17 December 2007: My Ex has been calling me a lot lately, even after she said that she didn't want us to txt or call anymore. she says she misses me and now she wants to hang out while she's here for Christmas. Which means she wants me to take her out and pay for her ... (read in full...)

I'm in public school. A boy flirts with me showing vulgarity and indecent language. What to do?

Q.   I really need help. I'm only 13 and I'm still in public school. This guy's been kind of bugging and flirting with me. one time he talked so dirty i was like '' help '' lol he was like '' i want your n*pples '' and he put out his two fingers and ...

A.   14 December 2007: Yeah, once you put him in his place one good time and make it clear that you're not amused by his actions I'm sure he'd chill out. Most dudes just need to be publicly humiliated just once by a girl to crush their ego and send them quietly cowering ... (read in full...)

Did I do the right thing by sending her a letter?

Q.   Recently I've developed serious suspicions that my ex-girlfriend is undiagnosed with a mental illness called "Hypomania" a mild Bi-Polar disorder. At times during our relationship she herself has expressed concerns about sudden feelings she can't ...

A.   7 December 2007: My ex just called me... She said that I was sociopathic that she didn't give a f**k about me and that what I did was kinda mean. She also, restated that doctors have run tests on her and that if something was wrong with her then they would have ... (read in full...)

Did I do the right thing by sending her a letter?

Q.   Recently I've developed serious suspicions that my ex-girlfriend is undiagnosed with a mental illness called "Hypomania" a mild Bi-Polar disorder. At times during our relationship she herself has expressed concerns about sudden feelings she can't ...

A.   4 December 2007: You're right it's not going to work forcing her to deal with her issues. Me sending this letter is basically the only and last thing I will be able to do to help her. She habitually cuts people out of her life with disturbing ease and they let her ... (read in full...)

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