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Is phone sex cheating?

Q.   I cant stop thinking of cheating on my boyfriend .I had phone sex with another man and it turned me on ,totally!! . Is something wrong with me ? Is phone sex cheating ?I wanted to be in a open relationship and he said he will think about it ....Am I...

A.   31 January 2012: Yes, anything that involves your flirting with another guy or being intimate with another guy is cheating. Unless he says he is cool with it otherwise. Him cheating on you isnt right; It sounds like you need to make a decision to stay with him... (read in full...)

Is she interested in getting back together?

Q.   So me and my ex broke up with me almost 2 months ago. We live together and still live together. She broke up with me for some reasons she wasnt clear on. She wasnt having a relationship with another guy though. She has alot going on, between school, ...

A.   9 December 2011: Lol . no I tried that a week later. she hugged me, i tried to kiss her. ... (read in full...)

Is she interested in getting back together?

Q.   So me and my ex broke up with me almost 2 months ago. We live together and still live together. She broke up with me for some reasons she wasnt clear on. She wasnt having a relationship with another guy though. She has alot going on, between school, ...

A.   8 December 2011: And another thing worth noting is that she does unusually nice things like when I have to rush out to class, she'll make my bed and sometimes (if we're out together)she'll ask if im hungry and even when I say no she'll get me something or even when ... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   26 November 2011: I just wanted to note that everything did go well, and i feel like it got to the point to where (I feel like, but not sure) we were flirting physically without really saying anything, like she would purposely bump me with her hip or elbow and at one ... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   24 November 2011: I couldnt do that, Black Friday shopping is dangerous especially by yourself. I'll go and I'll try to have fun. But nothing too personal between me and her.... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   24 November 2011: I dont want to take her shopping, nor should I buy her anything. Another thing I should probably avoid is her asking other relationship questions like she did before, Yeah? I definetly wont be asking questions either if I want her to miss me e... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   23 November 2011: Now, we were supposed to go black friday shopping with my Mother now she has to do something else now its just me and my ex and o would hate to be rude and tell her i dont wanna go cause of her nor do i want her going out at 3am by herself. this is ... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   23 November 2011: The thing is I never know when its good, cause if anything she'll ask those awkward question like "If I ever go to do something me and her have done before and then remember the times me and her have had" It was only out of pressure that I ... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   22 November 2011: Her father had told me was to, "Worry about myself, let her come to me if she wants to talk, go out do my own thing, be happy, dont mope around the house and show her im happy. And eventually she will come back to me." Now he doesnt tell me t... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   22 November 2011:  She didnt take a shirt. she returned a shirt that I never knew she had taken and then told me she wore it when I was away cause she missed me... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   22 November 2011:  mammaboo: your response is exactly what her uncle told me, he said "She knows that you still love her and that you are somewhat desperate for her love and attention. She holds all the chips. When she wants to be around you, she can. When she do... (read in full...)

Why is she pushing me away? Why is she seeking me out only to reject me again? My offer is love and stability

Q.   My Ex Gf and I have lived together for 18 months. We’ve supported ourselves this entire time, paying the electric bills, insurance, groceries, etc We broke up a month ago. For domestic reasons she has chosen to still live with me, despite the ...

A.   22 November 2011: LucysFlowers, Her friend doesnt live near us, she lives almost an hour away, but when A got kicked out of her house she moved up to her Grandmothers house, which is how I met her. After me and A broke up I asked her best friend something in ... (read in full...)

How can I change my G/f's mind about sex? She's had some nasty experiences in the past but my friends' are nagging me about why its taking so long with her

Q.   Hey guys, me and my gf have been dating for 5 months already. The thing is she's a virgin and I'm not, I of course care about her and do not want to pressure her into doing anything shes uncormfotable with. We've been talking about sex (well maybe ...

A.   18 November 2011: "but my friends' are nagging me about why its taking so long with her" Hmm.. If this is a problem because your friends are nagging at you as to when you are going to "Tap that" then you should spare her a broken heart and break up or man up. Y... (read in full...)

He left me for harmless online flirting. Why?

Q.   I have been with my chap going on 4 years. I have flirted online which was harmless and meant nothing. Just a bit of a joke and no more. I understand i hid it from him,but only so he wouldnt get the wrong idea as we had a break up over it once. ...

A.   15 November 2011: Its not harmless, To him its you looking for something else that he cannot give you and you didnt address it with him. It also probably wasnt a good idea that if you guys had broken up one time over it, that you probably shouldnt have gone and done... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned that my boyfriend lies to his friends so that he can spend time with me?

Q.   dear cupid, i have been in a realtionship with my man for 2 months now. we are so loved up and get on like a house on fire, we live quite a distance apart (40mins) and we both work till late evening apart from weekends where we are both lucky we ...

A.   14 November 2011: Dont be offended by this, normally when guys enter a new relationship its common. When the guys call your boyfriend up and ask him to hang out and he gives them a bs reason dont be offended, guys dont even think about it when they make up that lie, ... (read in full...)

I need help getting over my feelings for this 16 year old girl!

Q.   So Ia am a 28 year old guy, and I think I am falling for a 16 year old girl. It started out as her flirting with me about three months ago, and I thought it is just a phase she is going through and just shrugged it off. But as time has passed the ...

A.   14 November 2011: This is most likely what you dont want to hear, but your going to have to confront her about it and you yourself are going to have to disconnect your feelings for her, if its something you dont think you can do then just wait till she is 18. Im not ... (read in full...)

Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...

A.   14 November 2011: "She clearly means a great deal to you. That you are making such a huge effort. And she is getting you to jump through hoops. Sounds like there are some big issues simmering here. Hang in there, even if she is not coming to the party yet with res... (read in full...)

Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...

A.   14 November 2011: "Just show her respectfully by your actions that you still need her." When we broke up and I told her I needed her it didnt go so well, so how do I go about doing this without pushing her away. I accepted the ride home and she was very frien... (read in full...)

Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...

A.   13 November 2011: Abella, i think thats what i was looking for this entire time. Im gonna look out for myself and slowly insert your plan. i know you dont know the details but that seems like great general advice. i mean doing what i said above sounds ok, righ... (read in full...)

Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...

A.   13 November 2011: for that to happen either of us would have to drop out of school and work double what we are working now. thats gonna have to be something i.look into. I know its not good enough but what im doing right now is all I got. Im sticking to my thin... (read in full...)

Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...

A.   13 November 2011: her moving out isnt an option. she has no where to go. i agree with kate, but all the advice was given to me not her. ever since she asked the friendship question and got my response she kinda ignores me. i leave every morning extremely early so i... (read in full...)

Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...

A.   13 November 2011: only thing she expressed was being friends. its awkward atleast for me. So talking about it, i feel, would push her away. ... (read in full...)

Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?

Q.   My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job)...

A.   13 November 2011: Also something noteworthy is that she admitted that if we didnt live together the relationship would still be going on. ... (read in full...)

Would a couples therapist be the answer? It destroys me, but she just doesn't get it

Q.   I've asked a question on here before about the same thing, but this time its a little less extreme. Basically this question sums up my problem: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

A.   23 October 2011: she isnt cheating that much i know, shes going to let meet the guys thats shes been hanging out with. me and her are fine now, i left the house after that for about two hours and walked around. she changed before she met these guys, and she di... (read in full...)

Would a couples therapist be the answer? It destroys me, but she just doesn't get it

Q.   I've asked a question on here before about the same thing, but this time its a little less extreme. Basically this question sums up my problem: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

A.   23 October 2011: I talked to her about going to Therapy and she refuses to. I noticed changes about 3 to 4 months ago She wont ever tell me whats wrong, she'll go talk to her best friend about it. I cant tell if she is happier but she likes going over to ... (read in full...)

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