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1 August 2008: I try to answer as many questions from other teens as I can. However, the question I have seen the most since I joined a few weeks ago is “I am afraid of rejection. How do I ask him/her out?” Well unless I’m mistaken there is no magic way to ask ...
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What to do when the ex who messed you about wants you back? I never got over him!
Q. what do you do when you were with you're ex boyfriend for nearly 2 years, so in love.. but it all fell apart, because of his mistakes, he changed, started to treat me horribly, messed me about and so on.. nearly a year down the line after breaking ...
A. 18 November 2009: I have a friend in a similar situation as you. Im going to give you the same advice i give her. She refuses to listen to me, keeps going back and keeps getting hurt. You have a great guy now, stay with him. You're ex just wants you back so he can ... (read in full...)
Will I catch up to her? She's 6 feet tall, I'm 5'9"!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 months and I love her a lot but she's taller than me she's 6 foot. And im 5 feet 9 inches will I catch up or pass her in height. ...
A. 18 November 2009: umm just curious... should height really matter? Im 6 feet 1 inch. My girlfriend is just over 5 foot. So you dont have that much of a heighth difference.
To answer your question, it depends on how old you are, and how old she is. Maybe you'll h... (read in full...)
One thing finally goes right for me, and now my dad is being unreasonable. Please help me understand this!
Q. Ok so i need some quick advice. Bad. I've had a rough time with relationships. Out of the 3 ive been in, ive been cheated on 3 times. Ive finally found an amazing girl, we've been talking since this past friday, so not so long. But we both thin...
A. 18 November 2009: grubbyduckling- actually it wasnt an online dating thing, i met her through a friend that my dad doesnt think too highly of. He knows her through his youth group. And i understand he's not ignorant, its just i dont understand this. And i know... (read in full...)
How is the best way to handle her text messages?
Q. Quick question, I have been having issues with a new girl I met after a really romantic weekend, and when I tried to talk to her, I get these phrases when we tried to talk on Monday (the day after). I'd sent her a few messages on Facebook, sent a ...
A. 11 November 2009: Yes... id have to say she's made it very clear she wants you to back off. After "I need you to please give me some space!!!! I'm not rushing into anything", you should have listened. Obviously this woman has no problems communicating, and knowing ... (read in full...)
I need your help aunts... Should I ask him out?
Q. Ok here goes, I'm 13 an I've liked one of my best friends for a year, but for a while he was being a bit off wiv me for a while but then today he was being really nice to me an sitting next to me in class and we were having a laugh, and it was such ...
A. 11 November 2009: Well, if you've liked him for a year, thats an awfully long time to wait! I say go for it. Like caring guy said, you need to be brave. Hopefully he'll say yes, but if he doesnt, dont worry, at least you tried, and theres nothing wrong with that.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend, my "friend" and I...
Q. so i love my girlfriend we've been goin out for 6 months n its been great...the problem is i lost a friend because of it well this is the story when i met her she had a boyfriend we talked and talked for hours we became really close friends my frien...
A. 11 November 2009: You did a great thing, your so called friend is being selfish.
What he's saying is if i cant have her then no one should be able to.
He's obviously not being too friendly by trying to steal her off of you is he?
If you’ve been with her 6 m... (read in full...)
I'm scared to give him a hand job in case I do it wrong!
Q. I'm 17 and i've only ever kissed and made out with guys. I'm now going out with this guy who's 18 and more experienced and i want to give him a hand job, but i dont know how to do it and i'm scared he might judge me if i do it wrong. Should i tell ...
A. 11 November 2009: Dont lie, then he'll judge you and expect you to be great.
Instead, simply tell him you've never done it before, want to do it right to please him. He'll more than likely gladly show you/explain to you what he wants you to do.... (read in full...)
Why do guys say I'm not attractive?
Q. Hi SO what to do! I have been told in my ols school i am really pretty and was popular and had many bf but know if we play spin the bottle no guy wants to kiss me. Ok not true they do but WHY do guys say I am not attractive? When I used to get ...
A. 11 November 2009: Heres my spin on it (not that the sex thing is wrong), Here’s just a different take (seeing as I have a similar problem.
Why dont others think of you as “pretty”? In my case, its reputation. I used to be a quiet guy. Very emotional, kinda aw... (read in full...)
How would I date an amputee without making him feel uncomfortable?
Q. I moved into a new place and caught a glimpse of a guy who is lives few blocks away. I was very drawn to him. Only on the fourth time i saw him completely to realise he didn't have an arm. I was shattered! i was hurt and felt like throwing up. I ...
A. 11 November 2009: i wouldn't say you love it... that may come off the wrong way, and would probably make him feel uncomfortable.
Treat him as a normal human being. YOU have to be comfortable with him. Only talk about it if he brings it up, or ask him about it. He's... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex boyfriend back?
Q. Hey, Recently my boyfriend and I broke up and I want him back. We broke up over a week ago and are on speaking terms. I see him at school every day and today he told me that the reason he broke up with me was because he was the one doing most of ...
A. 11 November 2009: Think about he might feel. If you are on speaking terms, thats good. PROVE to him that you are willing to put more effort into a relationship, by doing things for him now without letting him know you expect a relationship in return. And yes, Dr Bex ... (read in full...)
I want to fight for this girl...so anyone got any good tips?
Q. Its me again. This one will be short and sweet i promise, no 1000 word questions this time. Background----------------------- 6 mos ago I had this little crush on a girl, except my vulgar best friend (unintentionally) complicated th...
A. 11 November 2009: Thanks! yeah it does help a little. I already made the fact that im interested and not going to bug her clear via text. Honestly, id find a card a little creepish.
And at this point its too early for me to tell if theres anything i could do to ge... (read in full...)
I promised I would, but now I am not sure if I should break up with my girlfriend?
Q. So here's the situation. My ex broke up with me months ago. I'm insanely in love with her. In the months following she would hold my hand and stuff, but tell me we can only be friends "for now" then she got a new bf, and i figured it was t...
A. 10 November 2009: Needless to say, one more reason you should NOT leave her for your ex. She's just messin with ya man. Enjoy the beautiful girl you have. Maybe i should give you some examples why not. Not my last ex, but the girl before her told me frequent... (read in full...)
Is my step cousin flirting with me?
Q. I am probably imagining this but still just want to make sure. My step-cousin came up behind me without knowing and there was no space(right up against me) and when I moved over so he could get by he just followed my footstep, then after a minute he ...
A. 10 November 2009: no you probably shouldnt worry about it.
If he is, he is your step cousin, no blood relation, so there is nothing wrong with it. Ive heard of step brothers and sisters dating before...
Im guessing hes not, but how long have you known him? if he... (read in full...)
I promised I would, but now I am not sure if I should break up with my girlfriend?
Q. So here's the situation. My ex broke up with me months ago. I'm insanely in love with her. In the months following she would hold my hand and stuff, but tell me we can only be friends "for now" then she got a new bf, and i figured it was t...
A. 10 November 2009: I must say you've put yourself in quite a situation.
If you are with your girl now and its fine, dont ruin it. Can't fix what's not broken, you can only ruin it.
Your ex is playing you. I was your age not to long ago, and girls at your age have... (read in full...)
Any tips about phone sex? How do I avoid being awkward?
Q. So my girlfriend and I live in two different cities and she constantly wants phone sex..I have never had phone sex before so I usually stay quiet..I need some advice on what to say to her..I want to give her the satisfaction she wants......
A. 10 November 2009: Personnally, whats always worked for me, is one of us ask the other what their fantasies are, and then we talk them out, being very descriptive and sensual.
the easiest thing i could tell you about how to avoid being awkward is be 100% honest w... (read in full...)
How can I stop all these nasty jibes about my boyfriend just because he's dyslexic?
Q. So, about two months ago, I started dating a guy. He's my first boyfriend, and the one I lost my first kiss to. He's unbelievably nice, kind, and sweet. He always treats me well and makes sure I am alright. He calls me all the time just to make sure ...
A. 10 November 2009: Dyslexia has nothing to do with intelegence. I am slightly dislexic (if i dont catch myself) yet am at the top of my class.
DrP is 100% right about the sandwich thing. If she's saying he's retarded, yet she dated him, then thats not saying m... (read in full...)
One of three!!!
Q. Ok,I've known this girl for 14 months, she's 18 and I am 27. We went out for 13 months and split a month ago. I love her dearly. However, since we split, I have been seeing a different girl who is 19 and has been very very sweet with me and can't ...
A. 9 November 2009: ok by what im reading in this question here, there are only 2, not 3 as the title says? correct?
Really, its up to you, you have to make this call. Which one treats you better? Which one do you like better? Do you want a long term relation... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend is in the way!!!
Q. About 2 months ago I started school at college. In one of my classes, I saw this girl for the first time and I knew that I was going to talk to her. After class I went and had lunch with her and immediately we got along. About a week later, she ...
A. 9 November 2009: being 2 years younger than you, take my advice however you will, but im going to tell you ive had a lot of experience with girls that do that.
Take somethings into consideration. She cheated on this guy. What makes you think she won't cheat on... (read in full...)
So much drama with this girl...is it worth it?
Q. I know this looks long but the question is short. 2/3 of it is just part of the argument we had that id like you guys to weigh in on. This is kinda a follow-up to my earlier question: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...
A. 9 November 2009: Sorry i havent been on here in a while.
Point blank, the situation probably got out of hand. Girl A who i was going to homecoming with ended up seeing a 24 yr old guy behind my back. we're both 16. great. So i broke it off with her 2 days before h... (read in full...)
So much drama with this girl...is it worth it?
Q. I know this looks long but the question is short. 2/3 of it is just part of the argument we had that id like you guys to weigh in on. This is kinda a follow-up to my earlier question: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...
A. 7 October 2009: Aunty Em...
Thanks ive been a fan of your advise for a while.
Um yeah. Me even thinking about more than 1 girl at a time is unusual for me. This is all kinda new to me... For so many girls to take notice is kinda new. Its been over a year sinc... (read in full...)
Should I carry on trying to take things further?
Q. hi. I know this might sound a bit stupid but i am totally unbearablely obsessed with this guy. We don't know each other very well but we have been going to the same hockey club for 1 or 2 years and he's recently started at the same school as me. ...
A. 6 October 2009: Atleast try. Seeing as how i cant see you/dont know you or him, i cant tell you whether he is out of your league or not. There really is, however, no such thing as "out of your league" with a little perserverance, you can get about any guy to... (read in full...)
How do I convince my mam to let me date him again?
Q. My ex,, i still like him loads,, but it was a complicated relationship before all because of the lies my uncle was telling my mam when he didnt even know the boy i was going with,, he never knew his name or out but my uncle was telling my mam that ...
A. 6 October 2009: Tell your mam this. Explain it basically the same way you said it here. If she doesnt believe you, then have her talk to him, or surely one of your friends or his friends could vouch for him. This is a tough spot, but i wish you the best of luck... (read in full...)
When will the awkward flirting/crush period stop?
Q. When will the awkward flirting/crush period stop? or well I mean, I'm just waiting for him to ask me out but he hasn't yet... I am pretty sure he has a huge crush on me because he is always doing these things: We were sitting at dinner yester...
A. 5 October 2009: Completely agreed with everything else... ...or, you can always ask. It does sound like he likes you, and you seem pretty sure yourself. Guys do find it a bit of a turn on when a girl takes charge, so id say go for it. I dont think you'll be d... (read in full...)
My love for my bestfriend
Q. okay, well i have this girl bestfriend that ive known for about two years now. when i first met her, i was dating this other girl i thought i was in love with. during that time, i never really payed attention to my bestfriend yet. i never pai...
A. 23 July 2009: Well that certaintly was long, but as someone who writes 1000+ word questions i felt obligated to answer it, because id want someone to answer mine. Well reading through it, you made a good choice getting rid of your ex that kept cheating on you,... (read in full...)
I want to be there for him, but I don't know how if he won't tell me what's wrong?
Q. Please help,I don't know what to do. Me n my bf,have been together for nearly a year now, my parents broke up last night of a 13 year relationship and a 4 year marrage. Im 15, and its my mum and step dad are the ones who have broken up. My bf, ha...
A. 14 July 2009: I am going to tell you this, because recently the same thing has happened to me.
I am rather open about it, because of how horrible my mom treated me, and all the rumors she spread about my dad and me just setting it straight.
However, i ca... (read in full...)
Is she just being herself? Or could her flirting be more?
Q. Ok... well... maybe someone could clear this up for me. Im going to try to cut this to the chase because im infamous for writing 1000+ word questions. Never could figure out when a girl was flirting with me, especially this one. She's very flir...
A. 14 July 2009: hey thanks guys. Your oppinions have been much appreciated.
I think im just going to do what you guys suggested and stay friends, especially jc's yours helped a lot!
Thanks!
Nick... (read in full...)
How can I get over my boyfriend betraying my trust?
Q. First off. I love my boyfriend and I will not break up with him so please do not encourage me to do so, your efforts would be in vain. Throughout our relationship , alcohol has never been an option. He would never let me drink and he made me s...
A. 12 July 2009: Im just going to pick out a few key statements in you question:
I mean if I had done the same thing he would have ignored me for at least a week and possibly dumped me!
I don't know what to think, I obviously can't trust him
on the other h... (read in full...)
Mature for my age, but too immature for a relationship?
Q. starting maybe january this year, i started getting really lonely, what with my friends and i moving in different directions. consequently, i started going into chat rooms. at first, it was just for fun, but then i started having cyber and phone ...
A. 12 July 2009: Oddly enough, i have the same problem... i am very mature for my age, making it hard to fit in, friends split in different directions and such...
Same age group too...
Anyways. No, you asking a question like that, in my oppinion, means ... (read in full...)
How can I ask her out with her friend being there?
Q. Ok so I'm 13 and I don't know what to do. I know have decided to hang out with this girl I've started to like and i though We'd go to like a movie, but we're going to my house so I was like OK then she said her friend(girl) was coming. How can I ask ...
A. 12 July 2009: Youre confusing love with liking her, which is quite all right. most people think their first like is love, heck i did.
If you like her, then theres nothing wrong with her coming over to your house.
Theres nothing even wrong with you asking ... (read in full...)
How can I confront her in order to make things better?
Q. Sorry in advance that this is so long. Here's something I'd like some advice on. I've been thinking about this a bit, and it's just been something on my mind the last few days and something I'd like answered. I started talking to this girl the...
A. 12 July 2009: hey sorry... if your still waiting for a response sorry. i havent visited this site in a long time...
Well, by now i've moved on, but it ended on the premise that she still wouldnt talk to me, her friends still insisted that she liked me (yet by ... (read in full...)
I like her but I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship with her
Q. Hi, I started talking to a girl who's a few months younger than me (I'm almost 17) a couple of months ago. At first, I was very excited to get to know her. We've hung out a handful of times and she seems to be very interested in me (and her friends ...
A. 12 July 2009: as for writing so much dont worry about it... the few i have written were both overe 1000 words a piece =)
If i was you in that situation, i would very much like to know if she liked me back, especially if there was no one else i was interest... (read in full...)
How come guys always change when you get too close to them?
Q. How come guys always change when you get too close to them? This guy that I know at school always trys to make me laugh and when I'm sitting with my best friend and he's trying to talk to me he will try to dodge her head to talk to me face to face. ...
A. 22 April 2009: I think he may like you.
Or he would just rather talk to you face to face, at least thats how i prefer to talk to someone.
Some guys are just like that. If you are referring to the texting thing as selfish or narcisstic, i dont necisarrily... (read in full...)
So depressed and confused over the two boys in my life...what can I do??
Q. My boyfriend split up with me the other day and then i got with this other lad J, and i was happy at first, but now im not too sure. Lately i have been feeling really depressed and sad and emotional and have lately been crying much more than i used ...
A. 18 September 2008: OK. i feel like this alot. its tough to pick and choose. when me and my ex broke up, there was her friend that i kinda liked and liked me back, but i realized i might want to go my ex after a while when she stopped acting so childish, and that going ... (read in full...)
I met one of my girlfriend's friends and now I sort of want to date her. But if things went wrong, I'd like to go back to my current girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. ok. ive been with my gf (im 15 she's 14) for close to 2 mths. yesterday, her school had a pep rally (she lives about a half hour away). I went to hang out with her, but she's a cheerleader, and most of the time i didn't see her. I met two of her ...
A. 28 August 2008: Hey id just like to say thanks to everyone thats been helping me. Unfortunately, the only thing that worked out was she broke up with me last nite. At least i didn't have to worry about hurting her. As for her friend, my gf and her mom told my dad ... (read in full...)
I met one of my girlfriend's friends and now I sort of want to date her. But if things went wrong, I'd like to go back to my current girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. ok. ive been with my gf (im 15 she's 14) for close to 2 mths. yesterday, her school had a pep rally (she lives about a half hour away). I went to hang out with her, but she's a cheerleader, and most of the time i didn't see her. I met two of her ...
A. 27 August 2008: Unfortunately, last nite on the phone we kind of had an argument so i dont know what to think of it now. Id be nice if someone could let me know what they think of my updated situation.
Everything she has said bad about me, she lied about and took... (read in full...)
How can I talk to this guy I like!?
Q. I really like this guy, but i'm always nervous arround him, i want to talk to him. Everytime i see him i freak out, and when he talks to me..i give short answers and then just walk away..i don't know what to do. I really wish i could get over it. ...
A. 25 August 2008: Just try to make a conversation with him. If he talks to you he cleary atleast notices you. Try not to be nervous, but if you are that's ok. Everyone gets nervous when talking to someone they like for the first time. Good luck!... (read in full...)
What should I do?! I want to know if he loves me!
Q. im prego and im 15 years old... me and my baby's father planned this baby. he broke up with me shortly after we found out that im prego. im in love with him and i know u may say im to young but i know how i feel and it wont change. he is acting ...
A. 25 August 2008: Im sorry but gecko 12 is right. He wants out and nothing to do with you or your baby. The only thing you can do to see if he loves you is ask him how he feels.
I don't know a ton about this stuff but if you need help just send me a message.... (read in full...)
I met one of my girlfriend's friends and now I sort of want to date her. But if things went wrong, I'd like to go back to my current girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. ok. ive been with my gf (im 15 she's 14) for close to 2 mths. yesterday, her school had a pep rally (she lives about a half hour away). I went to hang out with her, but she's a cheerleader, and most of the time i didn't see her. I met two of her ...
A. 25 August 2008: I would never cheat on anyone. When I was in elementary school and when ppl had gf’s just to have gf’s I was cheated on. And even then it hurt. I didn’t flirt back. I didn’t even let her know I wanted to be more than friends. The only reason ppl ... (read in full...)
I'm shy...should I invite her to do something together?
Q. I'm 14 and I have a crush on a girl with the same age. I met this girl in the ending of July and I talked with her for three days (long enough to develop my crush). In August, she went on vacation to a far place, but we kept talking by ...
A. 24 August 2008: dont worry. if you never ask youll never know. everyone gets nervous, its normal. She'll more than likely to be nervous too. you really cant make a mistake as long as you be yourself, if she doesnt like you for yourself, she wont like you at all. If ... (read in full...)
I met one of my girlfriend's friends and now I sort of want to date her. But if things went wrong, I'd like to go back to my current girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. ok. ive been with my gf (im 15 she's 14) for close to 2 mths. yesterday, her school had a pep rally (she lives about a half hour away). I went to hang out with her, but she's a cheerleader, and most of the time i didn't see her. I met two of her ...
A. 24 August 2008: btw, i just talked to my gf and she told me the girl that i met was telling everyone i was her bf. My gf also told her best friend that the girl did that. Who knows who else she told. Now my gf and her best friend are telling me she's psycho and... (read in full...)
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