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Is the wife really accident prone or trying to assault the husband?

Q.   Wife hits me 3 times in groin with point-point accuracy but says they're all accidents. 1. Wife wakes up and tries to get blanket from husband who's weight prevents her from getting blanket. Wife then does an open-palm strike through the blan...

A.   23 October 2015: I honestly don't understand how anyone thinks this is funny. Lets change the roles. Put husband where the word wife is and vice versa and face where groin is. Still funny? Thought not. Speak to her a explain if these 'accidents' keep happenin... (read in full...)

Is it over? Wife met up again with guy we had 3sum with and let him do things she has never let me do

Q.   I recently got talked into a 3sum by my wife where she let the other guy do a sexual act she has always refused me. I've now found out that the same night, after when she took him to the train station they did it again in the car. Is it over?...

A.   8 August 2015: If cheating is a deal breaker for you the yes, it's over. You agreed to the threesome but what happened afterwards, privately, between them was cheating. I think you deserve better. If it isn't a deal breaker and you think you can forgive ... (read in full...)

So what do you guys think? Am I playing with fire? Can I trust that he has changed?

Q.   My bf and I have been together for a year and a half and we live together. Before me, he was a real stud. He slept with almost 200 women and even today is never short of women's attention. Any gf he had before he cheated on them. He admitted all ...

A.   7 August 2015: To suggest to your boyfriend every few weeks that he might cheat on you is very often. I have never suggested to my husband that he might cheat on me in the nine years we've been together. Your boyfriend only responds with his 'it might happen' ... (read in full...)

I don't like the way he treated me. Does he not have a conscience? Or did he just never care? Or is he trying to get over me?

Q.   1997- 1998: Was in David's school. He was my school mate. Wasn’t really his friend but just a classmate. Sept 2014: Started working at a local Retail store Pharmacy. Saw David there. We chatted and exchanged numbers but he was getting over a break ...

A.   31 July 2015: You ' freaked out' and accused him of having an sti. Yet you're unsure why he hasn't spoken to you in a month and you feel he's being disrespectful? I think he's a nice guy that gave himself time to get over an old relationship before starting ... (read in full...)

I made a comment about a person and my friend came back on me saying things that really hurt!

Q.   I am friends with this girl and we were out together the other day, and I said a remark about a random stranger saying that she is fat, she doesn't need any more chocolate (because she was buying so many bags) and now my friend has had a go at me ...

A.   26 July 2015: You were very rude. You have no idea why that person was over weight yet thought you had the right to comment. As an emotional person id have hopped you know how hurtful hearing strangers say those things are. Your friend was not only right to p... (read in full...)

I should have listened to my mum's warning about this man

Q.   I have let my Mum down by my actions the past while. I met a older man at work, he was always helping me and being friendly. The man has a wife so I always thought he seen me as just work-mate. After working there a while I had saved up enough ...

A.   26 July 2015: Talk to your mum. Honestly she doesn't care about being right, she was just looking out for you. She'll be happy to talk. Ignore this man for now. If he tries anything else then tell him that you are willing to take this up with your supe... (read in full...)

How do I find out what web sites my husbands on and see his profiles

Q.   How do i find out what web sites my husbands on and see his profiles...

A.   22 July 2015: You. Don't. You either talk to him about your fears or you trust him.... (read in full...)

FWB with a married guy who says his wife is a nightmare yet he refuses to leave her. What do I do? Am I just the "other woman"?

Q.   Please bare with me on this, it's a little tricky. Okay, I've recently entered a 'friends with benefits' situation with a friend of mine (we use contraception) but before that we did class ourselves as being in a relationship due to the strong em...

A.   11 July 2015: In a word. Yes. Leave him. You deserve better. And his wife deserves more respect from you. ... (read in full...)

Wife of 5 years says her heart was always with someone else

Q.   I’m just devastated by the news that I just received, and just wondering if I can get perspective from other men and women. My wife and I have been married for 5 years, together for 7. I accepted her 2 children from her previous marriage with op...

A.   23 May 2015: I am so sorry for what you are going through. It must be so painful for you. I think you should push for the divorce now. You have time to find the love of your life, a women that will be there through everything. This is not that women. Let her ... (read in full...)

How can I let go of my guilt? ?

Q.   Sorry guys, this is a long one lol. So I have been with my fiance now since we were fourteen( i am now 21). He is amazing and I cant describe how much I love him. I am getting married next july and we are expecting our first child together...

A.   23 May 2015: Sweety, you did nothing wrong. Nothing actually happened, and you told your fiance right away. He Forgave you, in fact, it was probably the kick in the pants he needed to realise that he could easily lose you if he didn't treat you right. Forg... (read in full...)

My guy never wants sex yet he's always using porn. Is it ok for me to cheat?

Q.   Hello well i love sex who doesn't. MY MAN that's who we never have sex his always tired body hurts not to mention he doesn't take any notice when i dress up get my hair and nails done.when I'm out he is constantly watching porn like all the time ...

A.   9 May 2015: I find the amount of people that ask this question disturbing. No. It is NEVER ok to cheat. If you are not happy and this is his attitude then leave him. Do not make HIM an excuse for YOU cheating. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend won't stop taking drugs. should I leave him?

Q.   I am 25 and my partner is 30. We have been together for 8 months and have had an uneasy relationship. We love each other very much, but he takes class A drugs occasionally and I did not like this. When I came to the decision to leave him he told me ...

A.   6 April 2015: Yes. If he really has gone that long without, then his 'friends' should know not to bother. He loves drugs more than you. I am sorry, but he has to go. ... (read in full...)

It was not my kid but I lost my girlfriend over it anyway. I'd like to get her back but am worried she'll take me to court!

Q.   I cheated on my girlfriend with this skank from work that everybody slept with. She knew I had a girlfriend I loved and it was just sex. She wanted me to be with her but that would never happen. She told me she was pregnant and my world ended. My ...

A.   18 March 2015: You lost your girlfriend because you cheated, not because of a baby.This other girl was single, you were the one that had a girlfriend you 'loved'. Stop blaming other people for mistakes you made. Do NOT contact your girlfriend. She doesn't ... (read in full...)

Is a baby ultimatum a bad idea?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. I am 30 and he is 41. I love him and want us to be together for the rest of our lives. I have mentioned marriage before to which he has said he doesn't believe in. Sure I'm disappointed, but he assures me ...

A.   15 March 2015: What you are suggesting is NOT an ultimatum. You just want him to clarify when 'someday' is. Which is absolutely your right. Sit him down and have a serious conversation with him. Explain to him that while his aversion to marriage is not a deal ... (read in full...)

My husband wants to name our first child after his father, and for him it is not negotiable!

Q.   I am pregnant and I found out that my husband and I will be having a boy. I am not excited because my husband wants to name our son after his father's name. It is a Lebanese tradition that the eldest son of the family must name his future son's name ...

A.   28 February 2015: I think its a 50-50 choice myself as you were both equal in the conception. You said you'd like to ccompromise, but your compromise seems to be you getting to name your child what you want and him not. Try the other way. He gets to name the baby ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend made several comments about another woman which hurt me but he said thats how guys talk

Q.   I want some honest help as to whether im overreacting to something that happened this evening. I've been in a relationship for 3 years with this guy and he's helped me no end overcome some trust issues that were holding me back. I'm only his thi...

A.   26 February 2015: Put simply, No, you aren't overreacting. It was very wrong of him to say that in front of you and especially In front of other people. I agree men do talk like that. But not generally in front of their partners. I think it shows a huge lack of resp... (read in full...)

I have resentful feelings for my wife lying about her past!

Q.   I will make this simple short and sweet. My wife lied to me about her sexual past and was not honest about it. She had made herrself sound innocent and I knew she wasn't a virgin when we met. Being dumb and naïve I didn't press the issue further. A ...

A.   14 February 2015: When you say 'she made herself sound innocent', how do you mean? Because you assuming that she us innocent and her lying about it are two different things. What is this new information that has made you feel this way? Why does it change things? ... (read in full...)

How can I deal with this bully at work in a mostly male environment?

Q.   Hi Everyone, I have a co-worker that is well liked by everyone but for me he is a bully and rude. He has no respect for women comments he has made about women acting helpless or women should pay their fair share on dates and in life. He will see...

A.   14 February 2015: Wow. Okay. I don't agree with a sentence of what anonymous just said. Jeez. Moving on. Ignoring him is the best way to go. He'll either realise you aren't rising to the bait anymore and give up or he will get worse and others will notice a... (read in full...)

Does anyone have any experience with Body Dismorphia Disorder?

Q.   Hi, Does anyone have any experience of Body Dismorphia Disorder (BDD)? My female friend is incredibly attractive but finds it extremely difficult to date anyone. Only recently she admitted to me when she wad drunk that she suffers from bdd. I...

A.   14 February 2015: Please, please get her to see a therapist, preferably one that specialises in bdd. She needs to talk about this with a professional. It doesn't go away, but it can get better and pills won't stop her feeling this way. Bdd is an awful thing to live... (read in full...)

She says I have lost her trust, I say she is being over dramatic!

Q.   my girlfriend says I've lost her trust and she wants to end things but I think she's just being over dramatic and refusing to give me another chance. My old flame called me to say could we be friends again so I met her for a drink didn't tell my gf ...

A.   9 February 2015: If she just misunderstood then why did you find a need to keep it from her? Why did you feel the need to catch up with your ex? You lied to her. You did betray her trust. You're very lucky she's speaking to you at all.... (read in full...)

Six months into the relationship I find out she lied. How do we move on from this?

Q.   Just looking for opinions what other guys would do in my position. Basically me and my girlfriend have been together 6 months, in the early stages of the relationship there was rumours had she sent pics of herself in underwear to a guy she had be...

A.   4 February 2015: I don't see how, what she sent and who she sent it too, before she was with you is a problem? You didn't mind her sending them to you. It would be different if she did it now, but she didn't. She shouldn't have lied admittedly but you had no right ... (read in full...)

My fiance didn't introduce me to his work friends should I drop him?

Q.   Hi there, I found this site on Google and I really wanted to get some opinions on what's going on in my life. I don't have many people to turn to at this point so I wanted to see if I'm alone here in my feelings. Let me give you some background ...

A.   4 February 2015: You are definitely not over reacting. Even if he didn't want to come out to his workmates a simple 'whoa, that's unnecessary.' would have been nice. It must be so difficult for you and my heart truly goes out to you both. It seems he does love... (read in full...)

I can't stand him but I still need him for some things. Should I break things off?

Q.   I am currently in a reaionship which is due to be a year this february. I do not and can never like him. We women date for two reasons, either for love or because we need something from the guy. Yes I needed something from the guy and i know he ...

A.   3 February 2015: I'd say there was 1 reason to date!?! You're being quite cruel. You are using him and being very unfair. If the rolls were reversed would you think it was okay? Break up with him and let him find someone worth his time.... (read in full...)

I found out my b/f was watching anal sex pornography and told him it was deal breaker. I still think he's watching it and lying about it!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year and I've known vaguely that he watches porn for most of our relationship. However, it's only been recently that I've really started to have an issue with it as I've never really looked it up (so ...

A.   28 January 2015: Why is it a deal breaker, would you feel comfortable with him telling you what you can and can't do/watch? He enjoys it, he's not hurting anyone. If it was a deal breaker you should have told him at the beginning of the relationship. ... (read in full...)

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