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| | Frank B Kermit's profile:Frank B. Kermit is a Seduction Relationship Expert. He teaches men and women about their emotional needs, how to address each others emotional needs, and various principles of seduction to be applied to ongoing loving relationships.
He is the author of many books and audio programs. An advice columnist for 3 Publications: The Oyster Magazine, Tryst Magazine and Tab Magazine. Producer, Host of an internet radio program entitled Frank Talks: Pleasures and Lifestyles.He is available for Personalized Coaching. Over the telephone and in person, couples coaching, bedroom coaching, one on one or group coaching.
Frank B Kermit currently resides in Toronto with his wife Jade
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Is slating about her boyfriend to me a sign that she likes me?
Q. I like this girl, she's real cute and all and i'm getting the vibe that she likes me too. She's not single but she was telling me that her boyfriend is an 'insensitive p***k'. How should I take this?Is she saying this because she likes me and wou...
A. 29 June 2009: She likes you as a friend, and does NOT want you to replace her boyfriend. She is using you as a therapist to tell all her problems to. Next time, just tell her: "Stop! I am not your therapist, when you're with me, we have fun." ... (read in full...)
Is this betrayal?
Q. My sister and husband are separated, I think I've fallen for him and in the past he has told me he feels the same is this wrong? Is it betrayal?...
A. 29 June 2009: You have to decide if losing your sister (and connections with the rest of your family as they will likely turn on you). You also have to consider that if things with the two of you don't work out, and he still manages to work things out with your ... (read in full...)
Girl has become impossible to get back with
Q. My ex-GF is 19 Her studies are very important to her Her mom says that most times, she says she wants to do something, but doesn't follow through if she is given the freedom to do what she wants She values her freedom a lot it seems She used t...
A. 27 June 2009: Dear Asker,
I think this girl has abandonment issues. And everytime things got tough, you walked out. You violated her sense of abandonment. Just because you are mad at her for things is not reason enough to end an entire relationship. But you ... (read in full...)
Girl has become impossible to get back with
Q. My ex-GF is 19 Her studies are very important to her Her mom says that most times, she says she wants to do something, but doesn't follow through if she is given the freedom to do what she wants She values her freedom a lot it seems She used t...
A. 27 June 2009: Dear Asker,
I think this girl has abandonment issues. And everytime things got tough, you walked out. You violated her sense of abandonment. Just because you are mad at her for things is not reason enough to end an entire relationship. But you ... (read in full...)
Am I cheating on my real boyfriend with my online guys?
Q. hello, well i have a boyfriend in real, and i have maybe 9 guys online. i just wanted to know is it considered cheating on my real bf? and one guy i met online and know is planning to come see me!! im scared i will try to avoid it. am i che...
A. 27 June 2009: Yes it likely is, because of the context.
It sounds like you and your boyfriend are in a (or suppose to be a) monogamous relationship.
The first rule of monogamy is:
You only have sex with one person.
The second rule of monogamy is:
You ne... (read in full...)
I'm 'straight' but I've fallen for a lesbian in a committed relationship...What to do?
Q. I am a 40-something woman, and generally speaking I am and have been straight. I have always fantasised about women, rather than men, and have on a few occasions actually fancied other women, but have never done anything about it, nor especially ...
A. 17 May 2009: First, be very very careful.
You WORK with her, and any move you make could cost you your job.
Next, if she knows that you like her, and she has not made a move, then take that as a sign.
I think you might want to consider that she may ha... (read in full...)
I know I'm straight but I'm also curious. What do you think?
Q. Im not totally sure of my sexuality. I'm a real girly girl, absolutly love fashion and indie music scene. I have the most amazing boyfriend he's gorgeous and girls drool over him, he's absolutely crazy over me and i couldn't ask for anything more! ...
A. 17 May 2009: I think your feelings are very normal. You might be straight with bi-sexual tendencies, you might be on the bi-sexual range where you are physically attracted to one gender, and emotionally attracted to the other gender, or fully bi depending on ... (read in full...)
I am a virgin so this type of thing bothers me
Q. Hi, I am a virgin guy 24 years old. I was on a trip few months back to some outstation.It was a group of some people so it was a nice time. We all slept in a single big room each time. I usually sleep wearing a payjama without underwears. ...
A. 23 March 2009: It makes perfect sense that this would bother you.
To all readers, reverse the genders in this story. See the picture now?
It sounds to me that you feel violated, and rightly so. There was no consent.
You should not have to be sexual wi... (read in full...)
My community and religion do not accept gay people, what do I do?
Q. can any body help me with this ugly situation? well it all started when i was 14 back in the school i notice that i like guys and enjoy chating with them all the time but during that time i never know exactely what is wrong with me i thought ...
A. 11 March 2009: It may not be safe for you to out yourself where you are. For now, keep it secret and learn some self defense techniques just in case. Your life could be in danger.
Next, look to moving to a new territory that will have a community that will supp... (read in full...)
Should I accept my male friend (I'm bi) or live a lie with my fiancee?
Q. I am a 26 year old bi male, who has been in love with one of my male friends for 5 years. I was going to tell him a few times but I always thought he was straight. He has now told me that he fancies me and wants us to be together. I would have ...
A. 5 February 2009: For the posters below...
I did some internet radio interviews, one with a bi-woman, one with an asexual person, and interviews with swingers and people in open relationships (polyamory).
I would offer that you visit my site at www.franktalks.c... (read in full...)
Should I accept my male friend (I'm bi) or live a lie with my fiancee?
Q. I am a 26 year old bi male, who has been in love with one of my male friends for 5 years. I was going to tell him a few times but I always thought he was straight. He has now told me that he fancies me and wants us to be together. I would have ...
A. 2 February 2009: You ARE hurting her by living a lie.
Be honest with her, and give her that honor of being able to make an informed decision.
Your "bi" ness will not just go away even if you cut out your male friend.
Break off the engagement, and set her ... (read in full...)
Step sister pregnant with my child, will we have problems in future?
Q. my mother died when I was 1,after 3 years my father remarried,but my mother was from London,We stay in India,I have a step sister,she is 8 years younger than me.we started having sex when she was 15,my parents do not know about has they are very ...
A. 28 January 2009: The only thing I can think of in this situation is that the sex started when she was 15 (a minor) and you were 23.
Also, were you her guardian during this time, and could it be that you abused your authority over her?
2 years later makes her ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my boyfriend but I'm getting married to his best friend. What should I do???
Q. my mom picked out a guy for me to marry. she asked me if I loved someone.... I told her about my boyfriend but my boyfriend of 2 years says he's not ready to get married and wants to break up. I was devastated. My mom says I have to get married by ...
A. 9 January 2009: im just worrried that how would he react when he finds out that im marrying his best friend?
HE is your Ex, and thus you can not care how it will affect him. He had his chance.
what if he trys to create problems?
Part of being in any ... (read in full...)
18 in love with a 40 year old man
Q. Dear Cupid, I am an 18 year old and I am in love with a 40 year old man. He doesn't know. I can't help it but everytime I see him or talk with him, I just want to be in his arms. I feel like there is no care in the world when I am around him. ...
A. 9 January 2009: I did a Lecture on exactly this topic entitled Dating Younger Women: A guide for older men to the emotional needs of loving younger women. It was about couples that are 20 years apart. It is actually more common that most people think, but there ... (read in full...)
Should I keep her???
Q. Hello dearcupid. Yesterday I spoke about dirty text messages on my girlfriend's phone, most people told me either to give her an ultimatum, or just dump her. The only thing is through what I've seen would I be a mug to see if I can get past this, ...
A. 8 January 2009: Yes you would be a mug to see if you can get past this and wait.
Where is your self respect?
-Frank Kermit
www.franktalks.com... (read in full...)
Locking eyes during sex?
Q. Just curious...so, I read in an article of Cosmopolitan that if a guy locks eyes with you during sex, even just for a few seconds, it means that he wants more than just a physical connection with you. Do you all think that is true or is that a bunch ...
A. 8 January 2009: BS.
I am a Seduction Relationship Expert. This is seduction tactic used to make a person feel a deeper level of intimacy than actually exists in a sexual relationship.
The act of sex addresses all of a woman's emotional needs, whereas the act ... (read in full...)
How long will it be before my lover leaves his g/f & baby for me?
Q. Hi, i don´t know how to start.I fell in love with a guy who has a girlfriend and have a baby(2 months) with her.He is my boss, and i use to work with him over one year as interpreter. Our relationship start by small games.I mean when i started we ...
A. 8 January 2009: He is not going to leave his family for you. You are just his mistress, not a candidate for his future wife.
Have you considered the damage you are doing to that poor child?
He would be having an affair with whoever he liked enough that was ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my boyfriend but I'm getting married to his best friend. What should I do???
Q. my mom picked out a guy for me to marry. she asked me if I loved someone.... I told her about my boyfriend but my boyfriend of 2 years says he's not ready to get married and wants to break up. I was devastated. My mom says I have to get married by ...
A. 8 January 2009: Well, first, you have to come to terms with the fact if you are really OK with arranged marriages. I assume that it is based on your culture, so if you truly feel that it is right for you, and that you can live with the consequences, then so be it. ... (read in full...)
Should I really saddle a kid with that legacy?
Q. Well, I am currently caught up in a battle between my rational and biological elements. To put it simply, I never, ever, ever wanted a child and still don't, but there is some primal emotional need going on with me right now that says I do. I am ...
A. 8 January 2009: "I also was wondering if there was anyone else out there in the same boat?"
My wife and I had this conversation before she got pregnant. We have family histories of diabetes, heart disease, obesity in my case, etc...my wife was adopted, so she d... (read in full...)
Should I believe him that he is not gay or is this a huge warning sign?
Q. I caught my boyfriend of almost a year sending a naked pic to another man. This came as a huge surprise because before this he has always seemed extremely attracted to me and wants to have sex all the time. He is kind of emotional and feminine in ...
A. 8 January 2009: It is a warning sign.
He has doubts, and you would be a fool to build anything long term with him on the "hope" he figures it out.
If you are OK with dating a bi-male, or a guy that will one day realize he is gay and potentially leav... (read in full...)
Trapped between a current boyfriend and an ex.
Q. I am still in love with my ex and he loves me, but I am in a new relationship. I dated my ex., who I will call S. for 4 years. He was my college buddy/studio partner/best friend/boyfriend. We essentially spent just about every day of the 4 years ...
A. 8 January 2009: Does anyone have any new advice besides the obvious?
Why isn't "the obvious" good enough for you? What do you think the obvious is?
First, get out of your current relationship. This is not fair to yourself, nor your BF. He deserves to be w... (read in full...)
Should I really saddle a kid with that legacy?
Q. Well, I am currently caught up in a battle between my rational and biological elements. To put it simply, I never, ever, ever wanted a child and still don't, but there is some primal emotional need going on with me right now that says I do. I am ...
A. 8 January 2009: From what I understand, you might not be allowed to get your tubes tied until a certain age (depending on the country you live in).
That being said, I think you are very responsible to be combating your biological urges when you are either n... (read in full...)
Should I really saddle a kid with that legacy?
Q. Well, I am currently caught up in a battle between my rational and biological elements. To put it simply, I never, ever, ever wanted a child and still don't, but there is some primal emotional need going on with me right now that says I do. I am ...
A. 8 January 2009: From what I understand, you might not be allowed to get your tubes tied until a certain age (depending on the country you live in).
That being said, I think you are very responsible to be combating your biological urges when you are either n... (read in full...)
Why are all these teenagers talking about their sex lives on here?
Q. Is anyone else here fed up - and worried for - all the under-aged girls who come here, desperate for answers about how to solve their problems with their boyfriend who is 10 years older than them? I mean, a lot of these girls are 15 years or ...
A. 14 December 2008: I think the admins of the site need to consult a lawyer on the topic of sex and children, and put some boundaries in place so that certain questions never get posted.
Sorry, but some of the advice given to under-aged people, whether or not you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was molested, when she was younger, she get nervous, when I touch her intimately, is there any way I can help her be less nervous, and enjoy our encounters?
Q. I've been dating this girl for quite a while. We're really close and even talking about getting married once we graduate college. I've been touching and sucking her breast for a while now and she always really enjoys that but I've just started ...
A. 19 September 2008: IF you were truly as honorable as you claim, you would not have felt it necessary to lie about your age, and you would not be trying to justify it now.
The most recent anon post is right on the money. Help her with words, not sex, but that was... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was molested, when she was younger, she get nervous, when I touch her intimately, is there any way I can help her be less nervous, and enjoy our encounters?
Q. I've been dating this girl for quite a while. We're really close and even talking about getting married once we graduate college. I've been touching and sucking her breast for a while now and she always really enjoys that but I've just started ...
A. 18 September 2008: Sorry dude, but I do not beleive this for a second.
She has now associated her negative feelings about sex with YOU, and is looking for a reason not to have sex with you so that you will leave her.
Her religion? If that were a factor, the two ... (read in full...)
I was molested when I was a child and this has given me insecurities about myself! Please help!
Q. I agree that being molested as a child can screw up ones sexual idenity. Here is my reasoning. I was molested from the age of 12 to the age of 14. I am not gay but I do beleive that I am Bi-sexual. Which is very weird because I dont want to be ...
A. 5 September 2008: Please read the book: The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz: A Guide For Survivors of Sexual Abuse.
I think you will find your answers there.
Good luck and and I wish you peace and healing.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My ex has a girlfriend, but still has sex with me. What do I do?
Q. Hi, I still love my ex but he's got a girlfriend and he keeps coming up to me for sex. He keeps telling me that he loves me. I have a daughter by him, and i'm not taking the pill. The sex with him is great. What do i do? ...
A. 5 September 2008: You said: ...and i'm not taking the pill.
So basically, you are trying to trap him by getting pregnant again.
If he is not committed to you with your current daughter, another child is not going to make a difference.
He still has sex with... (read in full...)
Years after our marriage I find out he's my half-brother!
Q. What would you do if you met a guy started going out with him than years later you got married to him and found out that you had the same dad....... What would you do? stay together? seperate? or see each other as brother and sister? ...
A. 4 September 2008: You are old enough to know not to waste people's time. Act like it.
-Frank... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend wants a DNA test, what should I do?!
Q. im 5months pregnant in and i cheated on my boyfriend in i dont now what to do? I know if its not my boyfriend than im on my own and its going to be over because he already thinks its not his because i use to work in the strip club.and he wants a dna ...
A. 3 September 2008: By all means, get the DNA test done. Your child deserves to know who the father is.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was molested, when she was younger, she get nervous, when I touch her intimately, is there any way I can help her be less nervous, and enjoy our encounters?
Q. I've been dating this girl for quite a while. We're really close and even talking about getting married once we graduate college. I've been touching and sucking her breast for a while now and she always really enjoys that but I've just started ...
A. 2 September 2008: I think what you are trying to do is very honorable and you obviously care about her and are coming from a very good place. I respect that.
With that said, I want you to know what I am about to write is to offer you some perspective to understa... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was molested, when she was younger, she get nervous, when I touch her intimately, is there any way I can help her be less nervous, and enjoy our encounters?
Q. I've been dating this girl for quite a while. We're really close and even talking about getting married once we graduate college. I've been touching and sucking her breast for a while now and she always really enjoys that but I've just started ...
A. 31 August 2008: Read this book:
THe Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz: A Guide For Survivors of Sexual Abuse.
It will explain everything you need to know.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Years after our marriage I find out he's my half-brother!
Q. What would you do if you met a guy started going out with him than years later you got married to him and found out that you had the same dad....... What would you do? stay together? seperate? or see each other as brother and sister? ...
A. 29 August 2008: First, see a family lawyer as there may be laws in the area you live in which may force you to annul the marriage.
Now, if the marriage is legal, THEN decide if you want to stay together, and if so, factor in the doctor's opinion about children... (read in full...)
I'm older than the girl I met, is that bad?
Q. I am a 29 year old male from the UK. Two months ago, I met this lovely 21 year old young lady. I have fallen head over heels for her; we are very much in love. But, the age gap bothers me. Does it really matter that my girlfriend is many years yo...
A. 18 August 2008: I just completed a full lecture on this, and turned it into a 3 CD set. In it I explain that her feelings of this mortality issue comes directly from her emotional need of Fear Of Abandonment. In my CDs I explain a number of ways to deal with this, ... (read in full...)
How do we approach another girl for a threesome?
Q. My girl recently said that she would like to have a threesome and wants to try it with another girl, she even said that she would love to watch another girl give me oral. I am happy to do this but i dont know where to start. we have looked on dating ...
A. 18 August 2008: http://www.oysternewspaper.com/
and
http://www.trystmag.com/magazine/magazine.php
The above links are two swinger magazines that I do an advice column for. Their websites offer forums for you to meet other swingers who can offer you t... (read in full...)
He doesn't know I have anorexia. Should I tell him and risk losing him?
Q. So I've been going out with this guy for about 10 months now. He is wonderful---never pressures me to do anything I don't want to do, telling me how he loves just being with me, he's sweet, incredibly attractive, adorably shy, and always tells me ...
A. 17 August 2008: You are right. He WILL judge you. Not because telling him would be a bad thing, but because he is an idiot to be judging women (and people) for their challenges (including eating disorders.
Why the hell would you stay with a man that is this jud... (read in full...)
I kissed a girl because I was drunk and I'm so ashamed to tell my gir;friemd, I feel awful!
Q. hey, i just cheated on my absolutely perfect girlfriend, i kissed a girl in a night-club. so guilty. i broke up with her cause i couldn`t bear to look at her trusting face. i feel like a complete scumbag. i didnt tell her what i did i said i just ...
A. 17 August 2008: This is your guilt. If you are not going to tell her, it is your job to live with the guilt. Breaking up with her and making her think SHE did something wrong is hurting her as a means of transferring your guilt/hurt onto her. THAT is what you ... (read in full...)
His ex was a glamour model I can't compete with; why is he dating me...?
Q. I have recently started seeing this really fit bloke and I am really happy but I have just found out that he used to date a glamour model and it ended badly between them, anyway, my situation is that I am the most flat chested female ever, and I am ...
A. 17 August 2008: If you keep letting your self esteem act out like this, you will push away your bf.
He is with you because until now, you address his emotional needs, and it did not work out with her because she did not address his emotional needs.
It is n... (read in full...)
My friends and boyfriend rarely accept my suggestions and I usually only get to see them on THEIR terms, what can I do?
Q. Hi. I have a problem that is really affecting my whole life and I am not sure how to deal with it anymore. I love going out and enjoying myself and having fun with my friends and boyfriend but no one ever wants to do what I want. I gladly do what ...
A. 17 August 2008: You asked: I can't force people to do what I want so any ideas as to what I can do?
You can go do the things that you want to do without them, and in time, while you are doing those things, make new friends and even a new boyfriend that you can... (read in full...)
I kept a secret and he found out, now he can't trust me
Q. i have recently spilt from my husband of 4 years after i kept a secret from him and he found out.. he said that i should be able to tell him anything and that he now doesnt believe a word i say and has lost all feelings for me... i love my husband ...
A. 17 August 2008: It depends on the secret.
If the secret was something that he needed to know, something that would have affected him and your marriage directly, then yes, you violated his trust in you.
If the secret was something about your life that has no... (read in full...)
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