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writes:My best friend is being convinced by her boyfriend to have sex. I have cried every day trying to convince her the consequences.Her boyfriend says he knows what he is doing but he is only 13. I really need help to try to convince her boyfriend not to pressure her into it. Is there any way I can try to convince him?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 October 2012):
 are they law abiding... or do they do things to break the law.
It would be breaking THE LAW for them to have sex.
He doesn't sound like much of a boyfriend...
and if she is your friend, persuading him not to do it is not the key.. the key it so get her to feel so good about her self that she is strong enough to say no
is she on birth control? if not she risks getting pregnant... does he want to deal with that?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 October 2012):
 There are two "responses" to this:
1. This guy who is COERCING her to do sex is NOT MUCH OF A "BOYFRIEND" after all... is he? Point that out to her... and,
2. Remind your friend that SHE is in control... and there are good reasons for her to decline participating in sex...
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2012): She won't thank you for trying to put her off doing this, she will probably have to learn the hard way and endure whatever consequences there are afterwards.
Unfortunately people (And teenagers with an ever growing defiance rate these days) do as they please despite the risks and consequences.
She won't thank you for this either, BUT, can you not express your concerns to her parents and let them know what she's planning to do, they can pull her over it and it may actually put her off doing this with her boyfriend, the more people that know of her intentions.
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reader, Abella +, writes (25 October 2012):
 Ask your friend if she will consider coming with you to the school counselor.
Tell the counsellor all the same things you have already put to your friend and ask her for some advice for you. Because so far your friend is not listening to your conerns.
If you and your girlfriend go together to speak to a school counsellor I am sure that the counsellor will have some extra good tips to help both of you.
You sound like a very responsible friend.
The assurances of the boy don't mean a thing.
He is selfishly and in a very immature way thinking only of himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2012): You might be able to convince this guy not to pressure her. But then she will probably just sleep with the next guy who pressures her instead.
If you want to help your friend out then you need to make her understand that she should not let herself be pressured into anything.
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