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1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...

CatFish, and tips to keep you safe

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10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...

Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle

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22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...

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My girlfriend wanted an open relationship but I can't cope with it.

Q.   I'm struggling with the pain and shock involved in starting an open relationship. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months. Recently we agreed to open the relationship and allow each other to have sex with other people. She's the one wh...

A.   18 September 2017: This is a very painful situation for you to be in,but the good news is you do not have to continue.First of all this girl does not love you or anyone or anybody....just what she wants.....sexual encounters with many men....just lust.You might ... (read in full...)

Should I stay .... or maybe I should go

Q.   Hi dear Cupid, so I'll break this down in for form.. Myself (24) partner (23) - together three years Before I met him - I saved $13,000. Dating him - started going halves in things cause I thought it was a great idea. In three years - partner ...

A.   17 September 2017: Re your answers of the 16th.Just ask yourself what is there to love about a guy her treats you in such a disgraceful way.What more do you need.....he has stated pay half the bond to his mum.......OR MOVE OUT.......Ask yourself this question are you ... (read in full...)

Should I stay .... or maybe I should go

Q.   Hi dear Cupid, so I'll break this down in for form.. Myself (24) partner (23) - together three years Before I met him - I saved $13,000. Dating him - started going halves in things cause I thought it was a great idea. In three years - partner ...

A.   16 September 2017: I think you have answered your own question.As you stated.Should i stay....Or Should go.Maybe you might consider ....going...and finding someone who appreciates you as a woman and not as a Loan Banker.In your mail there is no mention of ... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my husband's business venture

Q.   My husband is starting up a business and is very excited. He dedicated his life to it and we seldom get quality time as a newly married couple. If he is busy with his own job, i can understand. I know certainly what his business is. But this mor...

A.   16 September 2017: This is a difficult situation for you to be in especially as you are not very long married.However i can understand how you are worried after finding out your husband is in debt.First of all there is no point in your husband telling you not to worry ... (read in full...)

What's the future for me as the other woman?

Q.   I am in a relationship with a wonderful man who I love and he loves me. We are very happy however I am "the other woman", even though our relationship is serious and we've been together for like 3 years, because he's cheated on his current/previous ...

A.   3 September 2017: Just ask yourself the question...How could you be in a relationship with this are The Other woman.If you think you must be dreaming.Yes he will cheat on you ...because that is just what he is good are not the ... (read in full...)

My wife doesn't want sex as often as I do

Q.   What do i do? I am a married man in my late fifties, who has a very healthy normal sex wife, who i love, is healthy and the same age as me can go more a week without showing ANY inte...

A.   2 September 2017: You are a very lucky man to be so healthy,and have a healthy wife.The answer is NO...all women do not lose interest in sex once they hit a certain age.However some people have a higher sex drive than others,so that is just the way they are .Would ... (read in full...)

Is this woman's behaviour a red flag?

Q.   Well been seeing this woman for about seven months,been staying at her house the whole time, I do own my own house, my daughter and granddaughter live there, my house, I don't know what to do we get along good most of the time, but she snaps at...

A.   2 September 2017: Well you sound a reasonable man, and the way she is snapping at you is uncalled for .Her disregard for you and your 2 year old granddaughter re- smoking in the car is a disgrace.However would you consider having an indept chat with her on the ... (read in full...)

Why does my married lover not admit how he feels about me? And keeps changing his words?

Q.   Can anyone here help me to make sense of my married lover's words? Why did he tell me he loves me? Then the next time he says he likes me. Then he says he likes me a lot. Then the next time he says he adores me. And the next time after that, it's...

A.   31 August 2017: He is a cheater,user, using you as a sex object not for love but just for Lust.He will continue like this after he has replaced you not once but many times.My concern is not about him....we know what he is playing at .I am more concerned about You.I ... (read in full...)

Is it ever ok for your boyfriend to insinuate that you're fat? Feeling hurt and ashamed, how do I react?

Q.   Hey guys :-) I was just hoping for some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I think of myself as a really good girlfriend to him. When we first got together we were both in very good shape. However over the years we've both put w...

A.   27 August 2017: This is a very hurtful situation for you to be in,and most unfair of your boyfriend.Just because he has lost some weight does not give him the right [1] To hurt you about your weight..if you are healthy and fit and happy the way you are that is your ... (read in full...)

I feel directionless, as if my life is the same thing, over and over.

Q.   This is sort of relationship question. Relationship with oneself. I feel stupid for feeling so low and for needing advice on how to find happiness after 40. I just never thought I'd feel this bad. Age and looks were never the problem for me. I...

A.   22 August 2017: I read your very interesting mail,and i know where you are coming from re your many self questions and i am also smiling..Because in writing this can be for you the first step to a understanding of the new you...Man a being in search of ... (read in full...)

I'm ready to leave, but how do I take my dignity with me?

Q.   Ive been seeing a 34 year old guy for two full months now. He treats me well, takes me out to nice places well until i saw him texting other girls on social me. I caught him once flirting with girls the one time we went shopping together. I told him ...

A.   22 August 2017: It seems for your mail this guy is not ready to settle down and be happy with one girl...or maybe this is just the type he is.Either way it is not good for you.Words used in your mail like...hate..flirting..leave.....these words speak as you feel.By ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is asking for more than I can afford.

Q.   Dear Aunts, I have been visiting my boyfriend for a week now so today im leaving ive decided to take him out for lunch. He just told me that it would be better if i buy him grocery. Im a student I don't have that kind of money. All i wanted was to ...

A.   22 August 2017: As a thank you to your boyfriend ..the lunch you offered for cooking for you when you were visiting him...was very kind on your more is needed.His request for groceries ...was OUTRAGEES ON HIS PART.Just say can do as i am ... (read in full...)

My ex wants to chat again. Is he just trying to keep all of his options open?

Q.   I was seeing this guy three years ago and the relationship was very rocky. Eventually we split, he met someone else but we stayed in contact. We spoke last month and admitted there was still something between us. He says his relationship is ending ...

A.   21 August 2017: This guy does not know if he is coming or going and seems to suit himself no matter who will be hurt.If he had real feelings for you he would not have gone into another relationship...which is not working out.He has the cheek to ask you to wait ... (read in full...)

My very best friend is cheating on her partner! Do I tell him?

Q.   Please help. She is my very bestfriend for 17 Years. WE See really good with each other. I care for her. I know her very much and everything what she do is open to me. Thats how she trust me. My Problem is, i visited Her 2 months ago. Thats ...

A.   20 August 2017: I would 2nd the advise that WiseOwlE has given you.However i would say that you are Her friend and she trusts you.While the whole situation is sad from an outsiders view[which is you]no one knows what the man in questions knows.So it is not really ... (read in full...)

How do I talk to him aboug where we stand?

Q.   I've been dating a lovely man for 23 months and no sex. He says he has libido problems but does nothing about it. We have good times when we are together and he phones me every night to discuss his work. I know that I'm more attracted to him, ...

A.   17 August 2017: One can love at any age.and no mater what age we are we need love and know that we are loved in return.However your friend seems to be happy just to be friends and maybe has no desire for anything else with you or with anyone else.As you stated you ... (read in full...)

Married but falling for someone across the world

Q.   I'm married with 3 children. A few weeks ago, I met a wonderful man in a pub in Edinburgh. He's Australian and was on a cricket tour. We instantly connected and got on do well I found myself being attracted to him. We shared a kiss at the end of the ...

A.   16 August 2017: Did you often hear the old saying...Hills are greener far away but as you and i know that is not the case.So STOP right now and think of your husband and children their love for you and yours for them.This is new its fun,its different..but remember ... (read in full...)

How do I curb his frantic sex?

Q.   I currently started dating this new guy and everything is going great only problem is that he is insatiable. We have only been on two dates and we have spent both nights together however the first night we just made out and I spent the night th...

A.   16 August 2017: I think you have already answered your question..when you stated cannot handle it.This man seems to have a very high sex drive as some people do.However the choice is yours [1] Have an indept with him on this level and tell him how you ... (read in full...)

Things were perfect then he began to change. Should I break up with him?

Q.   My relationship was perfect with my boyfriend.and then things began to change..he doesnt go down on me when we have sex and making excuses saying the odour coming from my vagina smells terible when we have sex and thats the reason he cant.and ...

A.   12 August 2017: This situation is very sad and hurtful for you,and anyone,that would hurt you like that is not worth being with.The thing is he really has a problem with himself and does not seem very happy.It would be nice if were to meet someone who would ... (read in full...)

Why wasn't the fact that he was married and a baby on the way enough to stop him from cheating?

Q.   I just found out that my husband cheated on me. Him and I are "newlyweds" we married in may 2017 and his affair happened from February to early May 2017. He is in the army and he used to be based only 3 hours away from our hometown. He would visit ...

A.   31 July 2017: This is a very sad situation for you,and i would understand that you are feeling down and unhappy and the fact that you are expecting a baby.Now first and foremost no way are you to blame for any of this.This was his wrong behaviour and will also ... (read in full...)

Some advice please on my first date

Q.   I'm going on a first date soon with a boy I really like. We went to elementary school together and recently reconnected on a dating app. I haven't ever been in a long-term relationship, and all the dates I've gone on in the past few years were ...

A.   27 July 2017: How lovely for you on your first date,there is no need at all to be concerned.Wear something pretty and just be yourself and chat away and ask questions.If the truth be known your guy is a little anxious to make a good impression on you. remember it ... (read in full...)

He blows hot and cold. Should I tell him I like him?

Q.   I really want to tell this guy how he makes me feel but I'm scared I'll scare him off because he is sometimes hot and cold with me... When we talk we connect although he asks me things about myself, when I ask him he doesn't reply, he continuous...

A.   27 July 2017: Might not be a good idea,he might feel pressure and as you stated might scare him off.However 3 ways of looking at this are.[1] Maybe he does not know yet how he feels about you.[2]Perhaps he just wants a friend.[3]Maybe he is trying to decide is it ... (read in full...)

My married lover has been conflicted lately. What is next?

Q.   Hi. I'm not looking to be judged. I am just looking for some good, sound advice as this situation is not one you can discuss openly. And as happy as it can be, it can also be difficult and very painful. I am not sure how to address this. I hope you ...

A.   25 July 2017: There is nothing new about your problem,its an age old problem...where a married man wants his bread buttered both sides Why should he bother to make a choice.On one hand he has his wife and all the home needs looked after.On the other hand he has a ... (read in full...)

I don't understand why she wont just delete her profile from online dating sites!

Q.   It's hard to know where to start, and I know this will turn into a long post so I appreciate anyone willing to read through and offer advice. I've been in a long-term-relationship for about six years, we're the same age. When things are good,...

A.   8 July 2017: This is a very sad situation for you to allow yourself to be in.When trust is gone from a relationship there is no love.Now you state that she never cheated on you .Well what do you think she is doing on all those dating sites ? please answer this ... (read in full...)

Should I make the first move second time around?

Q.   Hey everyone. I joined a dating site back in Jan. and had just got chatting with a nice guy but he did inform me he was leaving the site because he was going to see how it would go with someone. I’m still on the site and recently he's come back on. ...

A.   24 June 2017: First of all while on site talking to you ,he left the site,telling you he was going to work it out with someone.Now he is back on site....and viewed your profile,but did not mail you.I would not consider it a good idea to mail him first...because ... (read in full...)

Is getting back with him a vain hope?

Q.   Hi everyone, I have a question regarding an ex that I am still in love with. We broke up in March. He said he "wasn't in the right mindset to have a girlfriend, I have to sort some stuff out" and "this doesn't mean we can't get back together." ...

A.   22 June 2017: Yes its so painful and hurts so much when the person we love finishes the relationship....believe you me we have all been there.However i do understand where you are at at the so very difficult to handle and sad.Now i want you to take a ... (read in full...)

How can I get hime to be more romantic?

Q.   I'm dating a guy for almost a year and he isn't the romantic type. He's said he's not a mushy type about 6 months in so I pulled back a lot and decided to move on. After two weeks apart he texted me and called wanted to try again. Still the same no ...

A.   22 June 2017: The situation is not every man is romantic...and he seems from your letter Not to be romantic...that is just the way he is...he cannot help it.Move on and find a warm,loving ,romantic man,otherwise you will be very unhappy and he will not understand ... (read in full...)

I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love

Q.   I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...

A.   12 June 2017: Treasure your good husband and family and the many wonderful years you all had and have together.Sometimes Hills are greener far away.On no attempt put your marraige at risk.As you stated he is your ex-boyfriend from the past.So leave him in the ... (read in full...)

What do I do? I feel I can't trust him anymore after what's happened.

Q.   Hi I've been in what I thought was a happy relationship for the past 3 and a half years. A couple of weeks ago I went on my Facebook and seen he had became friends with 2 women. I asked who they were and he denied he had added anyone. I had my s...

A.   5 June 2017: This is very sad for you after 3 and a half years.He does not deserve someone like you.When trust is BROKEN in a relationship is is very difficult to trust that person again In his case he was unfaithful on you with one woman,maybe two.DO NOT WASTE ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure about his response. Please help.

Q.   I went through a rough break-up with my ex' two years ago and it's ended in a court case. I have a hard time trusting people now but for the first time in a while someone has caught my eye, and for the right reasons. He isn't my usual type and he'...

A.   3 June 2017: If a man wants to ask a woman out he will there is no man to shy to do that.You have been friendly and have asked him cannot do anything more.It would be wise to let him come back to you.Do you know is he in a relationship.because you ... (read in full...)

Drunken fumble, was what the guy did normal making out or was it more than that?

Q.   I was at a party recently and we both were pretty drunk and horny, and started making out and it turned into a very intense one. He started moving my hands all around her body including my breasts and my butt, and cupped my breasts and butt ...

A.   31 May 2017: I do hope for you this is learning experience for you.You were lucky and safe this time.Please remember a drink or two is fine......ALWAYS REMAIN SOBER.....that way you will know who you are with.[2] What they are doing to you.[3]How far you want to ... (read in full...)

I made a fake account and my boyfriend chatted with it!

Q.   i made a fake account recently and send request to my bf...and he asked who s this and then i started talking to him by telling fake family nd fake profession and all..he shared all his personal details with me he even send his pictures to me( fake ...

A.   26 May 2017: To create a FAKE PROFILE and FAKE FAMILY is not how you deal with your own mistrust of a person.In any relationship there has to be trust of each other.It is always most important to be Honest at all level.If you find you cannot trust someone ..MOVE ... (read in full...)

I'm not in love with my husband. Do I tell the man that I do love my feelings just to get it off my chest?

Q.   I am married to a wonderful man, and have two teenage children. But I was never in love with my husband. About 10 years ago I became very close to my doctor,he was unmarried, we never told each other how we felt but I know we both knew. I feel in ...

A.   25 May 2017: This is a very difficult situation for you to be in.Did you ever hear the old saying....Hills are green far away.Years ago you made the right decision to stay as you stated with your lovely husband and children.In life there are many different types ... (read in full...)

Do you think our relationship go anywhere?

Q.   I have been talking to this guy for nearly 4 months who I met online. We are from different states, would be a 10 hour drive there. Originally, I was only talking with him for something to do, casual flirting here and there, nothing serious. He ...

A.   17 May 2017: Well yes he certainly likes as you stated he would not be in contact with you every day.First of all a word to the wise..a long distance romance at the best of times is difficult and i note you stated that he was still studying,and may not have the ... (read in full...)

Am I asking too much? Can I trust him?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot over the last 3 months. It started as I was nitpicking at him and I think it was due to my parents divorcing and me desperately wanting him to be there with me. I live at home with my Mum and brother and ...

A.   16 May 2017: When two people are in-love,at the best of times its difficult.We expect the other person to be 100% prefect all the time and to respond to our individual needs and when this does not happen..we are hurt,disappointed and wonder what is ... (read in full...)

Jealous of my girlfriend's sexual experiences

Q.   I feel a bit silly really. I've been in a great relationship with a woman for several years now. She's fun, kind, understanding, we share a lot of common activities like music, cycling, swimming, travel, and she has really helped me develop - and ...

A.   14 May 2017: Reading your mail,i understand that you have a wonderful relationship with this why spoil it.. the past is gone and just a memory.Look to the Now and the Future and continue to enjoy your special relationship.So many of us wish we did this ... (read in full...)

My grandmother died and I've lost my job

Q.   I'm not one to ask for advice but I really need some. I've been under a tremendous amount of stress and I'm not sure how to cope, I feel like everything is crashing down around me. On January 10th my grandma who I was really close to died a...

A.   16 February 2017: This is a very difficult time for you,and the passing of your beloved grandmother was and is difficult for you to come to terms with.However you have asked for help and that is a positive start for you.So would you consider counselling, to deal with ... (read in full...)

I am 61 and living with a man who's sought my approval to go out with other women. Is this acceptable?

Q.   I am 61 years and /i nnnnnnnnnhave this man I met on a dating site last year it is coming up on a year we became friends on Facebook and chat and text almost daily. We have not met in person yet but he had asked about the possibility of moving i...

A.   7 February 2017: This is a very hurtful situation for you to be in.Please understand this man is a user and had no feeling for you or in fact for any woman who he will meet.You will notice ALL is on his terms,do not allow this man to do this to you.Best advise i can ... (read in full...)

Has this man gone cold on me?

Q.   Hi, I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He asked me to be his girlfriend on our third date. We get on really well and can actually have great conversations on our dates and through texts (he only likes to text as feels anxious ca...

A.   5 February 2017: This is a very hurtful situation for you, and i do understand how you are feeling.However for your sake it would NOT be wise to approach him at all,because as you stated when you suggested meeting up..he ignored you So do not put your self in a ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's excuse didn't cut it with me

Q.   So my boyfriend of 9 months didn't come to my sister's wedding yesterday. I was annoyed to start when he said he couldn't come a month before the wedding but when I heard his excuse I was more annoyed. I don't get on well with my family and ...

A.   5 February 2017: I can understand,why you are annoyed,and disappointed that your boyfriend did not attend the wedding.However maybe he does not like weddings.[2]Or it could be as you have made him aware that you do not get on with your family,he thought there could ... (read in full...)

Our marriage is totally devoid of all physical contact!

Q.   I am writing to you because I feel I have no one to tell. I have been married for 20 years to a woman who is the mother of my three children (19, 17 1nd 12). We haven't had sex since before the birth of our youngest child and its killing me. In f...

A.   28 January 2017: This is very difficult for you and very hard to handle.You seem a very kind ,caring man,and i can also understand the reason you decided to go to sex-workers.However this is not the is only make the situation More difficult to handle and ... (read in full...)

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