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1 June 2017: GET out there..It might be terrifying,but you need to broaden your social horizons.Go on line,join a club or go to a speed-dating night You will not find love in your living room.REVAMP your image;Ask a good friend to appraise your style.Do you need ...

CatFish, and tips to keep you safe

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10 May 2017: CatFish,has nothing to do with either Cats or Fish.As you will probably know a person male/female who will put a fake profile on dating sites....and will contact many people or maybe just one and have a relationship be it ...

Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle

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22 October 2016: In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...

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My boyfriend is being really distant and cold.

Q.   My boyfriend is being really distant and cold. We’ve been together 8 months. He is currently depressed because his ex hasn’t allowed him to see his child. This has been going on for 3 weeks. We never even spoke for the first week - he often shuts ...

A.   13 July 2019: I can understand your situation very well and it is not easy to deal with it right now.However your boyfriends behaviour towards you at the most unfair and out of order.On the other hand i do know he would be very unhappy and not being ... (read in full...)

Marrying a Second Time With a Strong Porn Addiction

Q.   I'll be turning age 72 next month. I've been divorced for almost 9 years now. I've had a strong porn addiction since I was age 12. I usually masturbate using busty babe porn videos at least once or twice each week. I want to get married again, but I ...

A.   7 July 2019: Well the best of luck to you on your thought of wanting to get married again.My question for you ...why ..why would you need porn..when you would have a real woman to make love to.My best advise is to STOP.....its just like any addiction.Yes it ... (read in full...)

Why did she cheat in this way?

Q.   Hi everyone! So I recently just got out of a yearlong distance relationship with another woman. I was half her age and was the older one in the relationship and she was also the “man” as well. She lives in another country and even has a fiancé of ...

A.   4 January 2019: Right from the start..she was a player and continues to be one.As you would be aware if she is willing to cheat with You.....she will also cheat on You.This woman is into playing games.....and has no intention of doing otherwise.Your understanding ... (read in full...)

I'm really sad and discouraged with my life

Q.   Anyone have any advice for someone in late 20’s. I have studied to high level, but don’t have job anymore. It’s been half a year, and I simply cannot afford anything. Friends kindly ask why I don’t have work yet,l. I guess that’s their way of ...

A.   24 December 2018: The great thing about life is that you have a ..Choice...Remembering that every day can be a Fresh start for you.Right now the good things that you have going for you.[1]You are lucky to have a high level of education.[2] You are living at home.[3] ... (read in full...)

My friend has gotten himself involved with a bad girl and I want to help him but unsure what to do

Q.   I'm worried about a guy friend as he's got himself involved with a girl who is bad news. Hes started distancing himself from everyone who's warning him and is distancing himself from close friends She's a complete bitch sorry to say - take a mon...

A.   24 December 2018: I understand your worry about your friend and it is difficult to stand by and do nothing.But no man will accept advise..on a woman they find attractive or are in-love with.So in this case....Sometimes in doing are doing something.By ... (read in full...)

Help! I am seeing my crush in other people. I don't think this is normal!

Q.   I developed a crush on a girl a while ago, Im pretty sure she is into me as well but we are both in longterm relationships. So I have limited contact with her but remained polite with just a hello or a wave. The problem is I am seeing her body ...

A.   3 November 2018: Because you are thinking of her in such dept anything can remind you of her.Yes it is ...Normal...However because she is in a relationship there is nothing you can do on that level..because she may be happy in that relationship However i would ... (read in full...)

I’m excited at the concept of an open relationship but I’m not really happy with the current situation.

Q.   My girlfriend of 6 years is studying abroad for a year (since mid-September). We’re fairly committed to each other so we are trying to do long distance. We are also fairly sexual people but have only ever really been with each other. We are also ...

A.   28 October 2018: As you stated you are not happy with the current situation.Let me be very frank with Open living in Fantasy land...a free for all,and never works...Stop and loving and respecting someone does not mean you want to ... (read in full...)

I seem to get looked over for the more "shiny" people

Q.   Options. Everyone has options and like marketing the ones that are the shiniest are the ones that actually make it through. I've been meeting new people and just when I get close to them they start to be become distant and then you see them on ...

A.   14 October 2018: Life as we know it has changed so much not alone in the past 20 years..but in the past 10 years.In life now.its all about .IMAGE...the type of car you drive.the brand of handbag your wear...and it goes on and on.Each person trying to have the most ... (read in full...)

How can I make our first time as pleasurable as possible?

Q.   Basic sex question: I just got out of a 2.5 yr relationship. I've met someone new, and we've been very open with communication and I've been able to let her know that while I'm not absolutely ready for something concrete, and that I need some more...

A.   7 October 2018: Yes healing on your part is very important...and to grow stronger.Communication with your new girlfriend,talking to each other at all levels and to be quiet open on sexual matters.Time is a great healer and tender love is take all the ... (read in full...)

Was I taken advantage of by my now ex?

Q.   Hello aunts I'm at a low phase in life right now. In academics, career and health. I'm doing everything possible to set those things right. I feel people take advantage of my niceness. I used to be naive and vulnerable before and never stand up f...

A.   23 September 2018: I know you are hurting from the tone of your letter but time will heal the hurt and hopefully you will have learned a lesson from this experiences.First of all nice people Only are taking advantage of ..if they themselves allowed this to happen.For ... (read in full...)

He threw out something important to me for no reason, WHY???

Q.   I had been buying second hand toys and saving them for a friend of my husbands who had asked for help with a co-worker with a 5 yr old who had no money for toys. I collected two shopping bags of quality toys (Dora the Explorer talking doll hou...

A.   23 September 2018: This is unfeeling and uncalled for behaviour on your husbands side.....just threw out the toys and not a word to you.Would you consider having an indept chat on this matter and asking him....the reason why...he acted the way he did...knowing that ... (read in full...)

We never go anywhere and my boyfriend even sleeps in the spare room.

Q.   Hi everyone I’m in a relationship now for 4 and a half years the problem is it’s so boring we never go anywhere together it’s the same routine everyday I try to get him to come places with me but he’s never interested we have only been out a handful ...

A.   4 June 2018: What a pure waste of 4.5 years....Dump him like now...and start living your life.Find some guy that is fully alive and appreciates and knows how to respect,love a girlfriend.In the meantime treat yourself to new hair style/make-up/buy some fashion ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my wife things are broken even though love is still there?

Q.   Hi everyone. I've come to you all for advice before and recieved a mixture of abuse, passive aggression and sexism. I ask you please to respond as if yuo are the shriks you claim to be! Me and my wife have been together 14 years. We have no kids ...

A.   3 June 2018: What Aunts and Uncles are offering on this site is a caring,coming from their life experience of the University of life[with respect to other Added degrees they may have].Taking the time to give the best advise/opinion they have on a particular ... (read in full...)

I think my boyfriend is stingy, what should I do?

Q.   I have been dating this guy for 8 months now and he doesn't get me anything, he doesn't buy me gifts, he doesn't give me money when am in need,and whenever I complain to him about it he always complain that he doesn't have money but yet he always ...

A.   1 June 2018: A relationship is a two way situation.Yes i understand you would be delighted if he gave you a small token of his love.The question now you give him a little gift ?.Because it works both ways.However it is Most important that ... (read in full...)

I cant get the "cloud 9" feeling!

Q.   hello dear aunts! Don't want to go too long or detailed about this. I'm going to cut it short. I 'm seeing someone who is great. He is known to be an honest and decent guy. I've known him as a friend for a long time but we started seeing e...

A.   27 May 2018: I quiet understand how you feel,after such dreadful treatment from your ex-boyfriend....You have been badly wounded.....after those 5 years...and the wounds of hurt are still healing,and it it no wonder that you expect the same thing to happen ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has naked pictures on his phone, am I not pretty enough anymore?

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend about 5 yrs , and I recently he got cought having naked pictures on his phone , he was showing me a picture that he took and by accident ly I saw those , he said that his friend send those to him , so I said would u like ...

A.   26 May 2018: As we become older....i think women in general question are they still attractive....and the answer is a Positive Yes.I can understand why you could question this..after those photos on your boyfriends phone.However would you consider having a chat ... (read in full...)

I'm 25 my girlfriend is 67, its time we went public with the Age Gap.

Q.   This question is about being true to myself in front of my family and friends. I seem like a normal 25 year old guy. I graduated from college 3 years ago. I have a good job. I don't smoke. Don't drink. I go to church when I can. On occasion, I date ...

A.   20 March 2018: They do not say ....Love is blind and marraige is an Eye Opener for nothing . THINK .. .Your idea of an older woman is wonderful and romantic.But have you thought about ..having children...well in this situation this .is...a No ... (read in full...)

How can I help my sister who has spiralled into depression?

Q.   My sister had faced reality and spiraled into depression. I urged her to seek therapy (not just because of this last episode), but in the meantime she needs support. How can I help her more? Some time ago she had a month long fling with a guy...

A.   20 March 2018: First of all by being there for her is a great help...knowing she is not alone to deal with this hurt.When man/woman falls in love a this level....reason.. goes out the window....keep talking to her in a gentle way without to much ... (read in full...)

I need advice on stepping back gently from a friend!

Q.   So i have a friend who ive known since i was 9 we are now 40. We do not live near each other about a 2 hour drive away. Its not that i do not want her in my life as she is a nice person and we are there for each other. She has lots of issues (...

A.   19 March 2018: As you need to stand back from your friend.I understand your situation and the history with your friend, so it is difficult for you.Yes you do need to step back from your friend....not alone for yourself...but also for your frie... (read in full...)

How do you kill all hope after a breakup?

Q.   My ex and I were together over a year,. And broke up 2 weeks ago. We spent 8 months face to face, and nearly a year apart. He told me the distance was a big factor, but that he also felt 'unsure' about our compatability and wanted to think. I told ...

A.   1 January 2018: For a long distance relationship to try and work,takes extra love and understanding on both sides.This is not the situation with you...You are the person that cares the most,and he is just talking about not being sure of his feelings for you and the ... (read in full...)

Parents can't believe I don't want children

Q.   Hello aunts I was at my family holiday dinner and I said that I don’t want to have kids to my family and they looked at me like a deer in the headlights. My parents are miserable (arranged marriage). I was born in a communist country but I came here ...

A.   27 December 2017: First of all let me say,that not everyone wants to get married and have children.There are many single men and single quiet happy lives and do not feel the need to get married.So if this is your choice it is quiet Normal for you.Nobody ... (read in full...)

Does he want me?

Q.   Hi I am 29 yr old female in a relationship with a guy who is actually my junior and is 3 years younger than me. (Well he told me about his age once we get into relationship) I told him then to stop as I was always having this issue of age but he s...

A.   17 December 2017:  Love is difficult at the best of times,and there has to be give and take on both sides.However this relationship seems to have started on rocky ground and a lot of problems to deal with.The death of his mum would be a major sad issue in his life ... (read in full...)

Should I own up to my size?

Q.   I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...

A.   17 December 2017: A loving relationship is what is important here,the sharing and understanding of each other.Making love is not measured my the size of a man penis.As your only in the relationship a month,give it a little more time to develope and use your gut ... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: She may love you ...but she is not in-love with you.The relationship is over.Do not waste time on a person who Only loves herself.Move on..Move out,she is not worth another thought.Give yourself Time and Space to heal and start afresh.After all ... (read in full...)

He wanted to end "whatever this is" and be just friends but he's acting like a jerk now

Q.   Hi, i really need some advice About 2 years ago, I met this guy thru a my best friend. The 3 of us became best friends but he liked me and I never seen him like that. Until 8 months ago I saw him more of a friend. The first move was made by him,...

A.   16 December 2017: As you stated your boyfriend is acting like a Jerk.He is a user and has no real feeling for you...and would only use you for sex.So Block him at all levels and have nothing to do with him again.Remember you will be treated...the way you allow people ... (read in full...)

How can I start finding healthy men to date?

Q.   So I recently moved to Dallas from Houston after my partner and I of 7 years separated. I'm still in love with him. I feel that ever since I had to let him go he has done better for himself. I believe that I was enabling him in so many ways. I also ...

A.   1 December 2017: Wait and give yourself time to heal,as you stated you are still in love with your soon to be ex-husband.On this level you are not in any mind set to start another relationship.It is never wise to hook up on random date,and can prove to be just a one ... (read in full...)

He believes lies people say about me!

Q.   I've been with my bf for 6 months now , a few weeks in to our relationship we were having a nice day out when some girl accused me of being a prostitute and since then people have said horrible stuff about me when my bf has been with me and despite ...

A.   22 November 2017: In a relationship there must be trust on both sides,this is a very upsetting situation for you.However would you consider having a long calm chat with your boyfriend saying how untrue this is and that you are really hurt that he does not believe ... (read in full...)

Help me find my way out of these abusive traps

Q.   I am in a 16-year-relationship that became sexless and violent, abusive. I was thrown out the house in middle of night. I left and he wants me back. While away I met another man who I fell in love with and been seeing for a year this man seems quite ...

A.   16 November 2017: Your first relationship as you stated was violent and abusive.Why would you consider going back to this sort of a relationship.? Nobody has the right to be either abusive or violent to another person and when this happens there is no love there at ... (read in full...)

Do I fight to keep her or let her go?

Q.   So out of the blue my fiance has broken up with me, we've been together almost 3 years and engaged since May. I love her and want to be with her, she says it's because of my messiness and it's effect on her mental health. I've never been this ope...

A.   13 November 2017: Well with respect to you and your loving feeling towards your ex-girl friend ...its not a case of letting her go as she has broken up with you.She has given you a reason why she has called it of.Would you consider in giving her a little space to ... (read in full...)

How much does having a girlfriend actually cost?

Q.   So, I was telling my roommate about my plans to build a new computer and media center for the living room, and he told me I should get a girlfriend (instead of appreciating my contributions to the house). While he might or might not be right, I ...

A.   12 November 2017: As you did not have or feel the need to have a girlfriend since your college days or as you stated any adult relationship in your life.I am just wondering would you consider maybe going ahead with your special project that are important to ... (read in full...)

I'm torn between the re-appeared ghosting ex and the lovely but dependent new love interest! Which one do I choose?

Q.   I am going through a very tough situation and which is kind of a Love triangle. I've been in a relationship with a girl for about 1 year and I loved her so much . but 6 months back she ditched me for some reason. Everyday we used to go through a lot ...

A.   11 November 2017: There is always a reason why people break up.In your case your girlfriend left and had a relationship with someone else.On the other hand you also had a relationship with someone else.In a relationship there is always One person who loves more than ... (read in full...)

I feel always destined to be different, to be alone, and on the periphery.

Q.   Please can ask your thoughts on something aunts? I'm a lady in my mid 30s, professionally accomplished and financially independent. At work I'm well respected and I get on well with most people. In fact I get on well with lots of people outside...

A.   9 November 2017: Yes i am sure that other people both man and women would experience this situation,so your not on your own.However i know this does not it any easier to hear this..but you are not alone on this level.You have reached out right now by asking for ... (read in full...)

I've always been a people pleaser ... how can I stop?

Q.   I can’t stop worrying about what people will think of me - I have always been a people pleaser and have followed the “rules of life” to the T. I got two degreees and got a corporate jobs followe the path. Lately I have fallen in a financial hardship ...

A.   9 November 2017: Well done you doing working two jobs to sort out your money problems...if more people were like you then the world would be a happier place to live.I know its very difficult,when you are a worrying type to tell you to stop on this ... (read in full...)

Pouting Boyfriend when sex takes a back seat

Q.   For 5 years, I've been with a man, 54yrs, who has treated me like a queen. Always very courteous, has all those "good ol' morals" of our generation. I don't think I would ever find another man like him and I'm not looking. Over these years....the ...

A.   6 November 2017: It seems like you are not on the same wavelenght at any level.So no wonder there is so much misunderstandings on both sides.So as you stated...He is not the One.Just move on ,make a fresh start with someone with whom you are on a wavelenght ... (read in full...)

Can our love be revived?

Q.   I'm a beautiful women and I (have) a sexless marriage. Supposedly my husband isn't cheating. What else can this be. There is no connection anymore. I want him to show me he wants me. We love each other, but our marriage doesn't feel strong. N...

A.   4 November 2017: They are treated the way you allow people to treat you.In this case it is you husband who seems to be ill-treating you.Would you consider having a long indept chat with your husband,telling him how you feel and also asking him has he ... (read in full...)

Should I give it a week? Am I worrying too much for no good cause?

Q.   I started chatting with this guy online on Thursday. I messaged him first and thankfully the messages have not stopped since and he has been the one to initiate conversation since the first message. I hate over thinking these situations but I...

A.   1 November 2017: While dating sites are one way of making friends or dating,one must be aware that he maybe chatting up..other friends.So give it time,find out all you can about him after all you do not know the guy at all.IT would be wiser to let him ask you ... (read in full...)

I need to give my wife an ultimatum... Get a better job or lose me

Q.   my wife and i are in our mid 20's. we really want to get a house soon but i just dont think its in our budget at all. she has a 4yr degree at a top school and im a laborer. im making $25+/hr with no student loans and shes making $14/hr with $95,...

A.   31 October 2017: Hello O.P.a very kind thank you for your feed back it is much appreciate.How lovely to read of your deep love for your wife.Hopefully her best friend will give her that little push,but also thread with care on this.Right now she has a loving ... (read in full...)

I need to give my wife an ultimatum... Get a better job or lose me

Q.   my wife and i are in our mid 20's. we really want to get a house soon but i just dont think its in our budget at all. she has a 4yr degree at a top school and im a laborer. im making $25+/hr with no student loans and shes making $14/hr with $95,...

A.   30 October 2017: This seems a very stressful situation for you .Yes i see your point that she will not listen to you at all .Because you are thinking of giving her an ultimatum.maybe you might consider first getting some outside help..... a money advisor.a family ... (read in full...)

Why have I started despising my married lover?

Q.   Is it normal for the other woman to start hating or resenting the married man she's been seeing for a while? How does it go from him being able to do no wrong to thinking less of him over time? So, from love to hate? Seems like such a drop in her f...

A.   29 October 2017: There is a narrow borderline between love and hate.So when love cant grow between two people,as is always the case in dating a married man/woman.Yes this makes a lot of sense and who wants to be SECOND-BEST in a relationship.with neither respect or ... (read in full...)

Has my husband gone off me

Q.   Hello I have a problem with my husband never wanting sex anymore we have been together 6 years and married just over a year ago and now have two children the beginning we were sex maniacs and he couldn't get enough of me now he never ...

A.   28 October 2017: This is a difficult situation for you to handle.As you stated with two close pregnancies,and all the work,and even getting used to both of your live changing with the care and cost of two almost babies.First of all is there anyone family/friend that ... (read in full...)

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