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"This song is not about you" ?!

Q.   Ive been dating this guy for about three years last night he turned on some music. He was particulalry playing songs from a personal play list. After hearing several songs. he search for a particular one and before the song came on he said, now ...

A.   27 August 2012: You are beautiful, smart, great sense of humor, and classy lady. I am actually impress by the way you handle the situation, any women including myself would have made a scene rightfully so. You'll never have a problem finding dates, and any guy that ... (read in full...)

Years ago he was my foster Dad. No blood relationship. No legal adoption. Can we now legally have a relationship? I am pregnant to him

Q.   I grew up in foster care bouncing from home to home and shelter to shelter. When I was 16 I was placed with foster parents that were very close in age 23 and 25. I remained there until I aged out of the system at 18. While living there my fos...

A.   27 August 2012: Absolutely nothing wrong with your relationship with him. Do not believe his ex. I know you feel guilty, because she was probably nice to you back then, but you don't own her anything. She cheated for years, they divorced, he dated other people ... (read in full...)

I got him off drugs, got him a job and now he leaves me!

Q.   Where do I begin,my life's just been a roller coaster ride..when I was 15 I started seeing this guy from my class and we dated all through secondary and high school and rolled into the same university for further studies in new jersey..he was basket ...

A.   27 August 2012: Hi, Sorry... It's going to be difficult for a while, because you still love him. You have the right to feel this way, anyone in your shoes would feel the same. Have you heard that sound: too much love will kill you everytime.... I am sure you hear... (read in full...)

It's been thirty years since I have seen him in person! why does he want to meet up so bad?

Q.   I had a hugh crush on this guy in high school, I mean three years of high school. He was the one for me only I made the mistake (as most young girls do) by telling my friends. Soon it was all over. He knew but never said anything to me about it. I ...

A.   11 August 2012: Hi, Whatever this meeting will lead to, I think it will be good for the both of you. Just make sure not to expect anything, because he's in a relationship, I am saying this, because I don't want you to have expectations, then get hurt again. Don'... (read in full...)

Does he still want this to continue?

Q.   Hi Aunts. This is about a married man i have been seeing for about 7yrs, No judgements please,but i would like you insight on this He knows that i love him but he will only say to me,you know my situation,I can't give you more than i do,but obvious...

A.   31 July 2012: Hi, The question you should ask yourself is, don't you think you deserve more? It has been 7 years of your life, he already told you that he cannot give you more than what it's now. I think you deserve more, someone that can be yours only, some... (read in full...)

My boyfriend spends too much time helping another woman through her separation

Q.   Hi. I could really use your advice to help me determine if I am over reacting in this situation. I have a boyfriend. We have been dating for about five months so the relationship is very new. But I am having a problem with his attention on a f...

A.   29 July 2012: Hi, I just want to say that you do have the right to feel this way, and to be concerned. I am not sure what your boyfriend intensions are, but I don't understand why he hasn't mentioned about you to her female friend. Trust your gut feeling. It's... (read in full...)

After 1 date he decided he didn't want to see me anymore

Q.   what do you think of such a person? I recently met a man who acted as if he was very much interested in me. He gave me so much attention, I was the centre of his world and he firmly believed that I was the right person for him. We talked a lot, he ...

A.   11 July 2012: Hi, Sorry this happened to you and you feel this way. It's over and done, and thinking about it will only hurt you more. Be glad that this end sooner than later. If you are so hurt now, imagine if things got serious, you become attached and star... (read in full...)

I'm worried I'm insecure. Why does it bother me so much that other guys check her out?

Q.   Well, where do I start? I have been dating my fiancé for 2 ½ years. Our relationships have grown and are getting married next year. Here’s the issue (s)..when we are out and are drinking, she becomes “flirty” and “wanders”. What I mean by wa...

A.   11 July 2012: Hi barronittal, I love the fact that you and your girlfriend still go out in dates, have drinks, and enjoy each other companies. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. No matter who you are, everybody female/male at obe point or another have... (read in full...)

I'm on my own, sulking in depression and loneliness

Q.   How do I deal with being alone? I've been alone all my life and I fear I'll always will be. I'm a closeted gay 17 year old boy who's never been in a relationship, never had a first kiss. I feel like I'm so far behind everyone else. I have so much ...

A.   8 July 2012: Hi, I think you are too hard on yourself. I am similar to you in some ways, specially when it comes to trust, loyalty, and integrity. My whole life, I used to take everything very seriously. Long time ago, an old boss of mine told me: " you are too ... (read in full...)

It felt like things were getting back to normal ... but they weren't!

Q.   Hello Everybody, Don't know if this is the right place for this, but here goes... I am now 33 years of age and I was with my long term partner for 9 years. Our relationship, I thought, was good. It had its ups and downs like any relation...

A.   1 July 2012: Hi, I am sorry about your loss. My mom passed away 2002 and until this day I cannot look at her picture without crying. People say it will get better with time, not for me. Just want to say that you are being too hard on yourself. There's abso... (read in full...)

My LDR says he does not love me but has feelings for me. Is that enough and is it OK?

Q.   Hi, Do you think its OK that your LDR boyfriend whom you see every other week still doesn't love you but has feelings for you? We met online and have been dating for 6 months? I'm the longest girlfriend his ever had and his 28 years...

A.   1 July 2012: Hi, Yes, it's possible that he's not in love with you after 6 mos. I understand that you are his first long term girlfriend, but LDR are difficult. You see each other every other week, but for you to develop deep feelings, the two of you need to s... (read in full...)

She says she loves me yet she doesn't want to walk out of her bad marriage

Q.   I have a lady who I have known for 20 some years,she is the wife of an ex-friend, who I had never gotten to know, because of him, he was real jealous and possessive. Well out of the blue he decided to cheat on her, she came to see me one day and ask ...

A.   1 July 2012: Common" the answer is so obvious..... Now I understand when people say: "love is blind" **best wishes**... (read in full...)

She says she loves me yet she doesn't want to walk out of her bad marriage

Q.   I have a lady who I have known for 20 some years,she is the wife of an ex-friend, who I had never gotten to know, because of him, he was real jealous and possessive. Well out of the blue he decided to cheat on her, she came to see me one day and ask ...

A.   1 July 2012: Hi My First Love, You love this woman, and through out the years while the friendship was developing you became emotionally attached to her, and that's what's stopping you to see the true clearly. Yes, her husband is selfish, no class, no inte... (read in full...)

He told me in front of his friends he could do better than me and that our relationship is over.

Q.   I need some advice. I am aware I need to leave this relationship but I need input on how and whether it's really something I should do. I hae a 2 1/2 year old son who considers my boyfriend his "dad" bc he's been there since he was 2 weeks old. Last ...

A.   1 July 2012: Hi, Sorry you are going through this difficult time. I think he's disrespecting you because he supports you and your son. When he tells you, "know your place" that's what he means. Regarless, it's very disrespectful... I know you love him, and it's... (read in full...)

There is nothing left between us but her abuse ....

Q.   I have been in a relationship for over twenty years and we have three children, the youngest is eight. My partner is financially dependent on me, yet she treats me appallingly. It is no exaggeration to say that everything she says to me is critical ...

A.   1 July 2012: Hi, Honestly, I think you should leave. I know you are concerned about your 3 children, and have been married 20 years. The truth is that, if you and your wife don't get along, it also affects your children drastically. Even though they are stil... (read in full...)

I know breaking up with him was the right thing to do, but how come I wish he would fight for me and prove me wrong?

Q.   Hi, i had just ended my 1 year realtionship yesterday. it is something i have to do. i thought it is the right thing to do.. you see, we had been arguing for a long time.. i don't blame him 100%. both at fault. i hate the arguments and feeling...

A.   1 July 2012: Hi lady green, It has been 7 mos now since it all started... How are you doing? What happened after you broke up with him? I remember him telling you "happy now?" Anything changed? Have you talk to him since the break up? I know it's difficult to l... (read in full...)

My wife's ex-sister in law is flirting with me, how do I find out if she wants to take this to the next level? Or should I remain faithful despite not getting any sex from my wife?

Q.   Dear Cupid I only have been married for 5 years now (I got married when I was 50) I figured I only wanted to get married once in my life. I wanted to grow old with someone I loved. When I was younger I was wild child. I had a diffrent g...

A.   30 June 2012: Dear William, Forget about the ex-sister in law. Cheating is unacceptable, but worst you don't mess with family. Not only you will destroy your marriage, but also destroy the ex-sister relationship with her family. I promise you that you'll regr... (read in full...)

I'm married but involved with a 25 year Russian girl. How do I know if my feelings for her are true? How do I know if I still love my wife? Should I try having a baby with my wife to improve our marriage?

Q.   How to start...I am 44 years old and have fallen in love with a 25 year old Russian girl who I met in Moscow while working there for 2 years. I am married (for 18 years) and my wife has never been able to have children. We have recently started...

A.   11 June 2012: I am sorry to hear about your baby. My mother passed away 10 years ago, so I know the pain. There's nothing in the world that you make you feel better. Nothing!! No words can comfort you... I truly hope from the bottom of my heart that you can find ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend gave me Herpes!

Q.   I am in a bit of a turmoil here. I have just gotten herpes from my BF. It seems that he had it all along but didn't want to tell me because he thought I wouldn't want to be with him if I knew about it. There was once when he had a bump on his area ...

A.   9 June 2012: Hi, Reading your post made me so angry. You sound like a genuine person. You are nice, smart, you did everything right, yet you have to deal with this. I am hoping is nothing serious, but being realistic sounds like you are right about your own pre-... (read in full...)

We met on facebook and he wants to have sex with me

Q.   MODERATOR NOTE: TWO QUESTIONS COMBINED FROM SAME ASKER so im 16 and i know this guy from fb that i have been iming 4 bout a month now he is 23 and realy cute n he asked me out and wants to sleep with me but he said if i dont sleep with him then he ...

A.   9 June 2012: I've been your age before, and I don't want to sound boring, or make you feel like I am giving you a lecture, but pls read all the advices that people have giving you, and know that this is serious. Honestly, I think you are a little too young to ... (read in full...)

What is the "deep-stick" position?

Q.   I met a girl on an dating club and her profile states that she loves the deepstick position and I don't have an idea of how this position looks like or how it works and I don't want to ask her. I need to know before we get to it. ...

A.   31 May 2012: Hi, Just advice: I don't know either.... I am not trying to kill your buzz, but to me she's very aggressive, just be careful STD. Use protection. Sorry didn't help much... Good luck... (read in full...)

I'm married but involved with a 25 year Russian girl. How do I know if my feelings for her are true? How do I know if I still love my wife? Should I try having a baby with my wife to improve our marriage?

Q.   How to start...I am 44 years old and have fallen in love with a 25 year old Russian girl who I met in Moscow while working there for 2 years. I am married (for 18 years) and my wife has never been able to have children. We have recently started...

A.   31 May 2012: Hi globalscot, I have to agree with "auntyEm" and "starlights". Before you decide to have children with your wife, you need to decide what you want... Cheating is unacceptable, yet you ask so casually? I am in shock? Do you realize your acti... (read in full...)

I know breaking up with him was the right thing to do, but how come I wish he would fight for me and prove me wrong?

Q.   Hi, i had just ended my 1 year realtionship yesterday. it is something i have to do. i thought it is the right thing to do.. you see, we had been arguing for a long time.. i don't blame him 100%. both at fault. i hate the arguments and feeling...

A.   25 May 2012: Hi lady green, Don't be sad because someone gave up on you. Feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who would never give up on them. Hope you are feeling better :)... (read in full...)

My trust in women is totally shattered because of my ex!

Q.   Hello Everybody, I was with my girlfriend/fiancée for 9 years, Our relationship had ups and downs like any relationship. But overall we had a good relationship. Anyway, about a year and a half ago she fell pregnant. She said she wasn't re...

A.   16 May 2012: Hi, I like your attitude, I know it will take some time, but eventually you will move on and one day you will realize that you did the right thing. At the time being, just be kind to yourself. It's not your fault, and you don't chose who to love... (read in full...)

I know breaking up with him was the right thing to do, but how come I wish he would fight for me and prove me wrong?

Q.   Hi, i had just ended my 1 year realtionship yesterday. it is something i have to do. i thought it is the right thing to do.. you see, we had been arguing for a long time.. i don't blame him 100%. both at fault. i hate the arguments and feeling...

A.   15 May 2012: Hi lady green, Sorry about the break up. Honestly, it has been only a day??? Maybe, since you admit it was the right thing to do for now, you admit it was part your fault, who knows?, few days, weeks, after getting some time away you both real... (read in full...)

My trust in women is totally shattered because of my ex!

Q.   Hello Everybody, I was with my girlfriend/fiancée for 9 years, Our relationship had ups and downs like any relationship. But overall we had a good relationship. Anyway, about a year and a half ago she fell pregnant. She said she wasn't re...

A.   15 May 2012: Hi, Sorry you had to end things with your long time ex-fiancee this way. Yes, I don't blame you for feeling this way, more so it's kind of shocking, and absolutely doens't make sense her behavior and the excuse of saying she got tired of wait... (read in full...)

Regretting the offer for her to move to California with me if this is her 'real' personality....

Q.   I have somewhat of a long backstory to my question, and honestly feel extremely immature resorting here, but I would rather the anonymity of the internet than posing these questions to a friend. Anyway - to start, I grew up in Maryland. When ...

A.   15 May 2012: Hi john.doe.31, I am from Cali myself :) Honest opinion, I think she's a good person, but just have too much going on in her family life, which makes her this way, not sure what the problem is, sick family members? She's the only provider in the f... (read in full...)

Need help! Really need to get the liar back for what he did.

Q.   So basically it's been a long night, my boyfriend well now ex has decided to tell me that he cheated on me, obviously it has really hurt, but I need a way to get him back. I know I shouldn't sink down to his level but I'm going to do it anyway, he ...

A.   15 May 2012: Hi, Sorry you are so angry and in pain. I've been in your situation before, so you don't have to explain all the emotions you are feeling. Also, 3 years is a long time, and yeah text msg??? Ugh.... Pls punch his face? JK... Only makes things wors... (read in full...)

My Indian family, my Pakistani ex gf who still lives at my place, my American girlfriend who's treated like an outsider and me...its a wreck!!

Q.   I'm 21 years old, turning 22 this year. My girlfriend is 20, and turning 21 this year. We've been together for 3 years, and I want to ask her to marry me within the next week or so. Here's the problem. I'm Indian, and she's American. My p...

A.   15 May 2012: Hi pancakewaffle, Right now you have no choice but accept your life and try to be calm. Your parents are adults, unfortunately they had a difficult life, that's why they are this way and your poor mom is bitter because of life. You cannot chan... (read in full...)

Which guy should I choose? The one who is on and off with his ex? Or Mr nice guy?

Q.   Hi, I really need advise for this relationship to come to conclusion.. I've met this guy for almost a year when he used to be with his ex, they were having problems during the time we met. We seemed "click" and we're happy when we're together. ...

A.   15 May 2012: Hi, I'll give you my honest opinion by just reading your post. Both of them have great qualities, good potential. I'll recommend the 2nd guy, just because you don't have any problems and you can start a fresh, clean, new, amazing relationship with... (read in full...)

I think my friend stole my money but she wants to be friends again, what should I do?

Q.   Confused about my friend? I am so confused, my money went missing and I believe my friend stole my wallet which had over $1000 because she was the only 1 who knew i had it besides my family,she was the last person i was with and she was the only 1 w...

A.   15 May 2012: Hi WHISPEROFMYTERY, Sorry that you lost so much money, it must have been an awful feeling, specially when you were saving to buy a car? So sorry. In regards to your friend, just let things cool off for a bit. You don't need to be enemies, try to k... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's sister is trying to stop us being together! What can I do?

Q.   Hi, I have a girlfriend with a mental illnes and a drug problem. she has left me 5 times over crap and every time her sisters convinced her to either take out a restraining order on me or order of protection or call the cops. Her sister didnt grow ...

A.   15 May 2012: Hi, May I ask you why your girlfriend sister doesn't like you and doens't want both of you to be together? It's hard to give you a straight answer, but the only thing I can suggest, if possible is to talk to your girlfriends sister. The sister is t... (read in full...)

Working with an ex boyfriend. how do you deal with it?

Q.   my ex boyfriend broke up with me 4months back.Since then he has been avoiding me completely: doesnt answer my messages or calls. i heard from our friends that he got himself a new girlfriend only a few days after our break up. now it seems am unluc...

A.   12 April 2012: Hi, I am sorry about your recent break up. I have to agree with you that 4 mos is kind of soon for him to be in a new relationship. I know that is difficult to let go of someone you love, we can call him all kinds of bad names, but I know you don'... (read in full...)

Stuck in a quandary between my wife and my married mistress

Q.   I know that I am going to be judged for posting this, but that's okay. I need guidance. I am almost 39. My wife is going to be 42 this year and is already in menopause. We have no children, mostly because my wife is just not a sexual being....

A.   12 April 2012: Hi, I'd like to point out 2 things that you've mentioned: 1) lack of intimacy || sex is not everything in a marriage, but indeed is a big part. People need love, affection, attention, being touch, it's just part of being human and we all need tha... (read in full...)

Never physically attracted to my husband ... don't want sex!

Q.   I've been married for a little over 6 months, dated my husband for about a year and half. We lived together for a year before marrying. We married during a serious family crisis (one of my parents became sick and died). Up until the crisis, I had ...

A.   8 April 2012: Hi, Reading your update, I do see that you were trying to help your husband, you are trying hard to be with him, and I do believe when you say that you are being as gently as possible, but honestly I don't see a positive future... I feel that it w... (read in full...)

My husband sends my daughter to bed so that we can go around the house naked. Is this fair?

Q.   I am a 31 year old woman and newlywed with a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship. My new husband insists that a night, my daughter go to her room so we can have private time and likes me to go nude around the house, even if we are ...

A.   7 April 2012: Hi, I love your question! So funny.... Yes it's far, your husband is funny guy... Why not? Enjoy the times you have with your husband... Hope you have a wonderful life and marriage. All the best... (read in full...)

17 years old (almost 18 now) and never been approached by a guy

Q.   I know that 17 is perhaps a bit too young to be worrying about relationships and men (and I usually don't), but it's come to my attention that not a single guy has ever approached me, at least with any romantic intentions. I'm in my second year of ...

A.   6 April 2012: Hi, You are still young and I promise you that you'll have many opportunities ahead :). Like you said in your post, without intensions, probably you make guys feel intimidated approaching you. You are pretty and guys get insecure with pretty girl... (read in full...)

Never physically attracted to my husband ... don't want sex!

Q.   I've been married for a little over 6 months, dated my husband for about a year and half. We lived together for a year before marrying. We married during a serious family crisis (one of my parents became sick and died). Up until the crisis, I had ...

A.   6 April 2012: Hi, This is complicated... Right now, you are not happy in your marriage in regards to intimacy?... It's a huge problem, specially when you are just recently married, usually the 1st few years are the best, and at least 10 years that you both have... (read in full...)

My affair has gone horribly wrong!

Q.   Hi, I'm in a jam. Well I'm married for 17 years and I had an affair for the first time in my marriage, I met this guy at work and fell head over heels for him but I told him from day one that I'm married and I'm not leaving my husband for no one, he ...

A.   4 April 2012: Hi nutmeg3, I know you are afraid of losing your husband. It will take time for both of you to heal from this, but reading your post, this guy is not mentally stable and I don't think you can handle him on your own. You already lost your job, call... (read in full...)

My wife got in touch with her first sex partner and sent him a pic of her's in a bikini

Q.   My wife and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4 years. My wife has been with between 60 and 70 men between the age of 18 and 30. She had one 3 year relationship during that time. About 90% of her past sexual experiences were just ...

A.   4 April 2012: Hi billyrayvalentine, Sorry that you are going through this with your wife after being together for so many years. You are a good guy, forgave her, and promise each other to put the past behind and be loyal to each other for now on. I am going to b... (read in full...)

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