My date was rude about his ex wife
Q. I have been talking to a guy online for a month. Yesterday he said his ex wife had put on a lot of weight after two children going up to a UK size 14 (12 USA) and that he struggled to find her attractive and things went downhill after that. I said ...
A. 26 January 2016: You dont want to go out for dinner with him, so dont. I wouldnt want to either.... (read in full...)
Why is hubby hiding Viagra from me??
Q. I have been married for a very long time. About 10 years ago I discovered that my h was a porn/sex addict, he has never sought help, just thought that he could hide it better, now with the use of pocket porn, his mobile phone, he has a constant...
A. 26 January 2016: I cannot imagine anyone taking viagra just to masturbate. I think you need to do a bit of homework. Check that he isnt on dating or adult hook up sites. It sounds very unusual having missing viagra if there has been no sex.... (read in full...)
Why did my guy betray me and stop being loyal while I was busy supporting my Dad during Dad's terminal illness?
Q. I have had the worst year of my life due to my dad's terminal illness. This has took a lot out of me waiting for the outcome to happen. I had what I thought was an amazing man supporting me. I've now happened to find out that through all these ba...
A. 26 January 2016: You have found this out at a very bad time, but I think it might have been happening for some time before it.
If it wasnt going on before, then either way, you now know what happens when he becomes a little bored. He finds his own excitement. What... (read in full...)
Has he got a compulsive addiction? Dating him for 4 years. My bf's unusual obsession is joining free dating sites.
Q. I have been in a relationship for more than 4 years. This has been held back by my bf's unusual obsession with joining free dating sites. It had been a good few months and I really thought he at last had learned his lesson. Clumsily he ac...
A. 23 June 2015: I`ve been through something very similar. I dont know about the addiction bit, but it never went away. I think the dating site bit is just an easier opportunity to cheat.... (read in full...)
I feel stuck. Do I just keep him as a text friend? Or disappear? I'm not attracted to him.
Q. I joined a dating site and got talking with a guy we get on and his pic looked good , but when he sent me another pic after talking for a while he looked different. I'll probably sound shallow now but there has to be some kind of attraction , hes ...
A. 20 June 2015: You are not attracted to him, and that it is not your fault. You both presumably want to meet someone, so dont waste his time or any more of your own. No attraction, no go.
You need to either tell him the truth, or if you really fear hurting his ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh getting annoyed with my fiancé's bed-wetting and his behaviour when he is very drunk?
Q. Am I just being over sensitive? My fiance and I do not go out very often, mainly due to finances, but he does get to go out more often than I do. I don't mind this as I am a bit more of a 'home' person. However there is something about his beha...
A. 13 June 2015: I think you need to get out before you get used to it. No one should have to live a life with dread.... (read in full...)
Why would an openly gay guy look at guys on a dating site looking for women? Am I being paranoid or insecure about her?
Q. I have been dating for over a year now. Her brother who is gay has lived in her home for as long as I have known her. I have noticed several times - dating sites browsing men's profiles. She always said it was her brother looking at them, not to s...
A. 14 April 2015: It sounds like she`s cheating on you, or has plans to. The trouble is, you are not allowed to say anything about it, so it cannot resolve.
I`ve been through this myself. Unfortunately, it never got any better. I would think very carefully and act ... (read in full...)
Friend with benefits has an ex visiting from overseas and told me not to contact him or visit him while she's here! What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing and sleeping with a man for just over 9 months now. Just out of the blue, he told me his ex from the USA is coming over to stay with him for a month. First he said it was without warning, and then his story changed, saying it was ...
A. 4 June 2014: This is probably someone from his past who he has not stopped caring for. For her to travel all that distance, she probably cares for him a lot too. Telling her will backfire on you. She won't like it and they may have an argument, but I cannot s... (read in full...)
I'm telling the truth now, how do I get him to accept that and have faith in me again?
Q. I admit to lying quite as lot to my boyfriend about being on some internet sites. That was a few months ago now. Since I stopped going to these sites, he has now stopped believing me. We break up every week, get back together and have a real loving ...
A. 30 May 2014: I have been through what you have put him through. It makes me angry because all you can think about is getting out of it scot free.
Why do some people just not try to put themselves in the same position of others, and forget about themselves for ... (read in full...)
I'm telling the truth now, how do I get him to accept that and have faith in me again?
Q. I admit to lying quite as lot to my boyfriend about being on some internet sites. That was a few months ago now. Since I stopped going to these sites, he has now stopped believing me. We break up every week, get back together and have a real loving ...
A. 30 May 2014: Some internet sites? Facebook? Dearcupid maybe? I am with bronzed adonis and think you have possibly been caught on dating sites.
I had a long relationship with someone who could not/would not stop going on them. He lied about it over and over agai... (read in full...)
GF is cheating and I don't see it?
Q. I have been dating my jealous, possessive, demanding and highly strung girlfriend for just over 2 years. I have constantly tried and failed to meet her demands and expectations. Her jealousy occasionally turns violent and emotional if she ever gets ...
A. 12 April 2013: Being on dating sites is disrespectful enough. That's before you even mention the real cheating. Why would anyone want to be with someone like her? She is an abuser.... (read in full...)
Will he ever stop going on dating sites? I hesitate to allow our relationship to develop further because of this.
Q. Can someone please answer, because I think I am slowly losing my mind through this. I have been dating for three years now. He wants to take our relationship further, but I can`t. The reason I can`t is because for at least two years, I have be...
A. 4 April 2013: If you always took him back then he knows he can do exactly what he wants. I have been where you are and I doubt anything will change.... (read in full...)
I was foretold that my girlfriend will go on dating sites saying that I neglected her. Now it came true.
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and half. Her ex comes to her house regularly to pick up and bring their son home. He comes in, we talk, there are no bad feelings. Around a year ago he dropped a sarcastic remark relating to my girlfriend ...
A. 9 March 2013: Telling you that you was trying to make her out to be a slut, was her way of getting out of it, by putting you on the defensive and making you look like the bad guy in all this. This is a tactic often used by cheats. It also shows her total refusal ... (read in full...)
I was foretold that my girlfriend will go on dating sites saying that I neglected her. Now it came true.
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and half. Her ex comes to her house regularly to pick up and bring their son home. He comes in, we talk, there are no bad feelings. Around a year ago he dropped a sarcastic remark relating to my girlfriend ...
A. 8 March 2013: Once an online dater, always an online dater. Once a cheat, always a cheat. Some people say leopards can change their spots, but I have yet to see proof of that. She sounds very much like my ex. I dont know, but going online to cheat or replace you ... (read in full...)
She says she can tell lies about other guys as she is not my wife!
Q. i have been dating since 2 years. my girlfriend wants us to be engaged and then married. i have found her to be on dating sites many times and text messenging guys on different phone numbers. she always told lies about it, but now said that it is ...
A. 5 March 2013: Does she really want you to marry her? It`s just an excuse for going online. If you marry her she will think of even more excuses to go online, and maybe even some lies too. To be honest, she is probably going to be online for the rest of her life. ... (read in full...)
As the "other" woman in the affair, how to deal with his revengeful wife
Q. I am in a weird situation and need your advice. I (happily married and want to stay in that marriage) had an affair a couple of years ago with another married man, whose wife found out. Their relationship is going down the drain and he told me ...
A. 4 March 2013: No one here can guess what she will do next. What would you do in her situation?... (read in full...)
I made a mistake by cheating and boyfriend met someone. How do I get him back?
Q. Hi all. Two years ago today I was dumped by my ex. We both did things to each other. I accept I made him insecure by constantly flirting with attractive guys when we went out, and by flirting on dating sites (which he always found out about). I did ...
A. 3 March 2013: I have an ex who cheated on me via dating sites. Do not tell yourself that it was harmless, because it is so far from the truth. It is cheating and it shows you had no respect for him. You also cheated on him physically. You say you still think ... (read in full...)
If I'm not good enough for my girlfriend then why didn't she just let us stay broken up?
Q. I found out my girl of 2 years was talking sexual to guys from dating sites. It caused us to break up and she begged me to go back to her. She admitted it was stupid and said it was not for sexual reasons, but teasing and flirting with them just for ...
A. 1 March 2013: Congratulations. You have landed yourself an internet cheat. The only thing that is certain in your future is a lot more uncertainty. Forget her. Do not go back. You will only end up getting even more confused, paranoid and insecure. ... (read in full...)
If partner is using dating site do they always keep on carrying on until you dump them permanently?
Q. I am noticing there seems to be a growing number of questions here relating to repetitive cheating on dating sites by their partner. I have had to go through this with my partner who never admits it or thinks he is not doing anything wrong by way o...
A. 26 February 2013: My ex would not stop going on dating sites. We used to break up, get back and argue in between. He still never stopped. He used to lie about the profile being him, we broke up, he then put his photo on it, and at the same time was begging me to take ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend because of his addiction to cyber sex?
Q. Hello Dear Cupids I discovered my boyfriend had been emailing female contacts he has on yahoo and also paltalk, to talk about sex. I discovered after I checked his computer after he had repeatedly clicked off the screen quickly when I came in t...
A. 24 February 2013: I am sorry to contradict you Yos, but do not confuse cheating online with internet addiction. I have been through it. Cheating and surfing the web are two completely different addictions.... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend because of his addiction to cyber sex?
Q. Hello Dear Cupids I discovered my boyfriend had been emailing female contacts he has on yahoo and also paltalk, to talk about sex. I discovered after I checked his computer after he had repeatedly clicked off the screen quickly when I came in t...
A. 23 February 2013: I went through this for years. You think he has "a sex addiction to the anonymity, ego trip and lack of intimacy of cyber sex" as you put it. The thing is, you can look for reasons and answers forever. You never find the answers, and then you will ... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to be getting married in May. My fiance has been again been caught talking sexual on dating sites!
Q. I am supposed to be getting married in June. The honeymoon is even booked. After the wedding she would have been moving into my house. We have been together for over 5 years. It has been an off and on relationship for the last 3 years. Mainly d...
A. 23 February 2013: "Not let something so stupid come between you?" She sounds like a total nut case. Lets hope you stick to your decision. ... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to be getting married in May. My fiance has been again been caught talking sexual on dating sites!
Q. I am supposed to be getting married in June. The honeymoon is even booked. After the wedding she would have been moving into my house. We have been together for over 5 years. It has been an off and on relationship for the last 3 years. Mainly d...
A. 21 February 2013: You have bags of answers here and all but one say the same. That one that doesnt, has probably no idea of what it is like putting up with an internet dating site die hard. Well I have !!! If she cannot keep off dating sites now, then getting married ... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to be getting married in May. My fiance has been again been caught talking sexual on dating sites!
Q. I am supposed to be getting married in June. The honeymoon is even booked. After the wedding she would have been moving into my house. We have been together for over 5 years. It has been an off and on relationship for the last 3 years. Mainly d...
A. 21 February 2013: I have been in a very similar situation to you. Forget asking her why. You will never get a honest answer. You will never get an answer that adds up. You will end up even more confused. Leave her to it. ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell me about this close female friend of his? Why has he saved hundreds of emails? And why is he buying this woman gifts that I don't even know about?
Q. I don't know if I'm overreacting or not... I hope someone can help me clear this up in my head. I have discovered that my husband of less than a year has a close female friend that until the other day, I did not know about. I found out when he left ...
A. 9 February 2013: I think you have stumbled across something that you wasnt supposed to know and he thought you would never find out about. He probably is cheating on you.... (read in full...)
She sends texts to her male workmate every day. Does it sound like I have a right to be discouraged and want to leave her? She dismisses my fears.
Q. My wife and i have been married 5 years and for the past 2 years, she has been texting her workmate and calling him on a daily. We also live very close to her workplace and he takes her and picks her up. Ive spoken to my wife about my dislike...
A. 9 February 2013: You need to stop allowing her to fob you off. Let her know how serious you are. I am sorry but it does appear she/they are making a fool of you and her actions would make most people think she is up to no good.... (read in full...)
She has started going on dating sites, in front of me. She tells me there is better than me out there. What should I do?
Q. I have lived with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have both decided against getting married and have no children (she doesnt want any). Everything has been steady and we have always got on. Over the past 6 months she has got into a twice weekly g...
A. 6 February 2013: Your girlfriend is insecure. If she thinks you are not good enough then find someone more down to earth and in touch with reality. Her `friend` has a motive. She is not a real friend to her and is likely to let her down in the end. to be honest, ... (read in full...)
Why does my BF keep going on dating sites if he loves me?
Q. My boyfriend swears down that he loves me. For the past year or so we keep on arguing because he wants to keep talking to girls on dating sites. I dont think he is going there with the aim of meeting any of them. My question is this. He is very ...
A. 26 January 2013: He does not love or care about you. By the sound of it, he is not likely to change. Leave him to his dating sites. You will eventually meet someone far better, who wont even think about dating sites. He wont do better than you. By him being on ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont stop using dating sites but makes me out to be the bad guy! What have I done wrong?
Q. Will someone please understand where I went wrong and what I did what was wrong? I have dumped my girlfriend because yet again she is on dating sites. She is not letting it go and is behaving like I have done her the greatest injustice for leaving ...
A. 22 January 2013: I have been in your situation and seen exactly the same behaviour and reactions. It`s no use asking why she is like that, because with people like that, you will never find out or get the closure you are hoping for. She`s probably still active on ... (read in full...)
Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight?
Q. Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight? I joined on line dating. Not to date, not to cheat, but because I was bored because he would rather be out football training, than be home with me. He doesnt ...
A. 18 January 2013: If you joined a dating site, then it sounds like you had no feelings for him either. I have been in his situation, and it stands out, just how much you have not thought about what it feels like for him. Your reason for joining a dating site does not ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?
Q. I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right ...
A. 9 January 2013: This is the start of a new year. Get rid of him and cut ALL contact. He caused you unrest and he still is causing you unrest. ... (read in full...)
I told him some guys wanted my number and he hasn't returned my texts!
Q. Hi I met this guy on line about 4 weeks ago,I felt a attraction to him and he expressed he was attracted and interested in me and wanted to talk more and we have been flirting like mad via text more than phone. when the txts or conversa...
A. 8 January 2013: You have been living out a fantasy. You have not met. You know absolutely nothing about him except for what he has chose to say to you. His reasons for disappearing could be anything from his wife suspecting something to him being a bit of a nut ... (read in full...)
She totally destroyed my confidence. How to get her out of my head? How to move on from the hurt?
Q. Hi my girlfriend I had for two years was paranoid about me thinking I was looking at other girls eying them up and kept on saying that someone else comes along I would be off ,I kept on reassuring her and telling her I loved her ,she turned her ...
A. 5 January 2013: She was paranoid about you looking at other girls because she was projecting her own character on to you. She was on a dating site, so what does that tell you? Do not be too hard on yourself. No matter how much attention you gave her, it still ... (read in full...)
Why will my girlfriend not stop going on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just short of two years. She has been going on dating sites like it`s a habit for at least the past year. She has lied and lied about it, but she surely knows that I know different. We have been broke up over Christmas ...
A. 5 January 2013: I lived through the same crap once. You wont ever get any closure. The chances are, is that she actually believes her own lies. Let her get on with it. Cut all contact and dont listen to anything she tells you.... (read in full...)
My Gf has many issues, especially with her ex Bf. All this is getting me down. Is our relationship a lost cause?
Q. My girl friend is 46 has a failed marriage and three children. Two very young. One children was conceived via a relationship only based on sex only, but she fell pregnant. Then a second child with this violent man because she wanted another chil...
A. 5 January 2013: Without respect, I dont see how your relationship is going to ever work.... (read in full...)
What do you think this message means?
Q. What do you think this message means ?. It's from a guy that i know. He said "i want us to be close but you never reply much and yes we got on great and i ruined it as i didnt want a relationship and now your with your boyfriend i am just wanting ...
A. 3 January 2013: He means he wants a blow job (an uncomplicated one).... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with trust and honesty!
Q. I have caught my boyfriend on dating sites 5 times this year. He has promised to stop doing it from now on. He said that all the other times too. I find all i do lately is look for evidence of him doing it again. Just like i have done in the past ...
A. 27 December 2012: I have been where you are. It never went away and it went on for years, and it even still goes on now. He tried getting back with me, yet was still on those dating sites. Dump him and forget that he and dating sites exist.... (read in full...)
Was he over the top to break up over this after 2 years together? Was he looking for an excuse?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in April of this year. He had found out I was on dating sites again. I did not want to meet anyone, because I was in love with him. I used to go on dating sites to tease the guys on them and had no intention of meet...
A. 24 December 2012: You joined dating sites to tease men? Is that code for having cyber sex? It is going to be difficult for anyone to offer advice to you, because you dont seem to think you have done anything wrong.... (read in full...)
She treats me like dirt? What can I do?
Q. To everyone else we are perfect for each other. Photos of us together are all over her facebook. She`s forever announcing to the world how much in love she is, and she tells me that all the time. There`s also another side to this. Her secret d...
A. 24 December 2012: "I have tried my best to be what she wants me to be, but something about me is not good enough". That is because nothing will ever be good enough no matter what. It is not you, it is her. Her behaviour is just typical cheat behaviour. You are being ... (read in full...)
Why is he still lying? Yet begging to resume our relationship? Will he change or continue to go on dating sites if we get back together?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago for going on dating sites and sex texting with girls. He could not even explain who these girls were, so I assumed they were from dating sites. He is still lying and says he never went on those dating s...
A. 22 December 2012: I should also add that I was in a relationship like yours. For 4 years this dating site shit went on. He also put his photo up on the dating sites that he`d denied being on, after we broke up over it. Nothing different about him or any other dating ... (read in full...)
Why is he still lying? Yet begging to resume our relationship? Will he change or continue to go on dating sites if we get back together?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago for going on dating sites and sex texting with girls. He could not even explain who these girls were, so I assumed they were from dating sites. He is still lying and says he never went on those dating s...
A. 20 December 2012: Whether he wants you back or not is of not important. He will be on dating sites regardless. His behavior has told you that.... (read in full...)
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