3 years into the relationship I find out my boyfriend lied about his age
Q. Hello I found out after being on a relationship for 3 years that my boyfriend has lied about his age by 4 years. When I confronted him he didn't even bother to give an explanation. Which has made matters worse. I'm questioning if he has told other ...
A. 16 April 2024: I agree with the other aunts here, its a big red flag. If he can lie about this then what else is he going to lie about.
Trust is the most important part of a relationship, without trust a relationship is doomed to fail.
If you feel the tru... (read in full...)
Torn between wife and lover
Q. Please don’t shoot me down for asking this question as I know I’ve done wrong and am struggling enough as it is. I’m a 52 year old male, married for 30 years. I’ve not been happy for probably 10 years. As the children grew up we both realised we...
A. 16 April 2024: While I don't agree with affairs I think that you did the right thing divulging to your wife what you have been doing.
Its also good that the other woman said she will not continue anything with you while you are still married.
By you own ad... (read in full...)
Interested in a perfectionist
Q. I am trying to get a friend to open up and be herself around me. She is a self proclaimed perfectionist and very hard on herself. I sometimes think she likes me and puts pressure on herself for things to be a certain way. As you can imagine it makes ...
A. 16 April 2024: I really don't think there is an awful lot you can do really apart from continuing to be her friend and be supportive where you can.
I believe that we should never try to change people, we are all on a life's journey and following our own path... (read in full...)
I got involved with engaged co worker and made her choose
Q. Hi everyone! Here's my situation: two and a half years ago a new coworker arrived into the company I've been working with for the last 7 years. A couple of weeks after she arrived, she started to flirt with me in a real intense way, I mean, she...
A. 1 April 2024: I think that you should just forget her and just concentrate on your job, what your paid to do.
Think yourself lucky things happened the way they did, because if by some chance she did leave her fiance and get with you how could you ever trust he... (read in full...)
I don't hear from him alot does it mean he isn't keen on me?
Q. i feel silly writing this but if a guy doesn’t constantly text me all the time or go a few days without texting does that mean he is not keen when we meet he says he likes me and is starting to get feelings but could it be because he is texting a ...
A. 25 March 2024: I gather from your post that you have not known him very long and you are still in the getting to know one another stage.
Try not to over think things and make scenarios that may not be happening, or ever happen.
He say's he is starting to g... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be friends with my ex on social media
Q. I am happily married to my husband who I met ten years ago. However an ex boyfriend from when I was 17-18 added me on social media. I accepted because there are no feelings there and I didn’t see the harm in being on good terms as it was so long ...
A. 22 March 2024: I think that ex's are ex's for a reason and should be left in the past where they belong.
I think you should delete this ex before the situation causes complications in your marriage, and that's the last thing you want.
Leave the past on the ... (read in full...)
Could this lead to love
Q. I have met this guy a couple of times and i have this electric undeniable connection with him, i don’t know him that well at all but when we kiss it’s amazing i know it’s not love but could this connection lead to love i have never had this before ...
A. 22 March 2024: Sounds like you are in the beginning stages of those first stages of meeting someone, encountering that connection and getting that dizzy butterfly feeling of connecting with someone you like.
Its very early stages so all you can do is go with ... (read in full...)
Could this lead to love
Q. I have met this guy a couple of times and i have this electric undeniable connection with him, i don’t know him that well at all but when we kiss it’s amazing i know it’s not love but could this connection lead to love i have never had this before ...
A. 22 March 2024: test... (read in full...)
Why does she want a black dildo
Q. Hi, my gf 27, me 34. recently mentioned she wants a dildo. So I said I will look for her. When we were looking she pointed she wanted a black one. We are white. So it made me think is she into black men? She doesn’t watch porn but I don’t know if ...
A. 18 March 2024: I think maybe you are reading to much into this, its just a colour.
I agree with the other aunts, you need to ask her. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go? Help!
Q. Please can I get some career advice - I’m so torn….. I’ve been working for this company in customer services for almost 18 years. I’ve always felt a bit over looked and never really given much opportunity to progress - unfortunately it...
A. 17 March 2024: I think as you have applied for this new job you should now stick to your guns and take this new exciting opportunity.
Why did your current employer offer you this while you were still working there?. The fact that they are now offering you this... (read in full...)
A friend told me that my husband is having an affair
Q. I’ve been told that my husband of 25 years is having an affair with a woman we know. The person who told me has said they’ve been seen together in places they shouldn’t be and that it’s been going on a long time. There is no proof and he’s never ...
A. 13 March 2024: I think that until you come across solid concrete evidence that he is cheating I would be inclined to take third party gossip with a pinch of salt.
You already know he goes for a coffee with this woman, which is where this third party has seen... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a good man but is it time to walk away
Q. I have been with my partner for four years when I met him he was amazing and wee just seemed to click. I also have a young daughter and after about a year he started offering days out with her too, which made me fall in love with him more that he ...
A. 13 March 2024: I don't think that any of this is a very healthy situation, not for you or your child.
It seems like your relationship has unfortunately run its course.
Its not ok for your to be spoken to like this, emotional abuse is just bad as physical,... (read in full...)
Crazy man I've never met will not leave me alone
Q. I matched with a guy online. We have FaceTimed one and agreed to meet on date however before the date I changed my mind as he was very pushy and whilst at work he sent me repeated messages despite knowing I was at work asking why I was ignoring him, ...
A. 11 March 2024: I am sorry to hear what you are going through, there really are some unstable cranks out there. You have not done anything wrong here, but I understand how worrying this must be for you.
I agree with Honeypie & YCNBS, I think you should keep all... (read in full...)
Is he playing? Feeling confused, foolish, stupid, and ashamed Title
Q. This guy who lives in my neighborhood and I started communicating and occassionally seeing each other in September 2023. We both are busy and don't get to see each other often. He works 8-12 hours a day, and I am unemployed due to disabili...
A. 11 March 2024: The answer to your question in a nut shell is yes these are red flags and yes you should end things once and for all.
Its never really a good idea dating someone within such close proximity as when things don't work out things can become a little... (read in full...)
Is he playing? Feeling confused, foolish, stupid, and ashamed Title
Q. This guy who lives in my neighborhood and I started communicating and occassionally seeing each other in September 2023. We both are busy and don't get to see each other often. He works 8-12 hours a day, and I am unemployed due to disabili...
A. 11 March 2024: test... (read in full...)
Tired of his drama
Q. Hello, I met someone online and we began a relationship. He has moved to where I am and I'm seeing a lot of red flags. I didn't ask him to move here, firstly. He did it on his own. Once he arrived here he got angry that I didn't see him ...
A. 8 March 2024: Its important that you recognise the red flags and from what you say he does not sound like someone that you want in your life as he does seem to display some worrying signs.
Unfortunately him moving close to you is out of your hands and nothing ... (read in full...)
Should I say something or let it go
Q. I don't know whether I should speak up or let it go. So me and my boyfriend now (fiance) have been together since we were 16 years old. We have been living together since 21 years old we are now 32. Last year he decided to incorporate sex toys into ...
A. 6 March 2024: It difficult to say why the toy was out of the box, he could of been masturbating with it, or he might not have been. But if he was its not really that bad of a thing, you still have a good sex life don't you.
I think that if it bothers you this... (read in full...)
How can I make my dream a reality?
Q. I know that this will seem like a silly want to others, but there is something I desperately want. Some women want a baby, some Women want a career, some women want a Gucci bag. I love horses and have always dreamed of learning to ride one, an...
A. 28 February 2024: I think its important for each and every one of us to have a goal, to have dreams and to know what we want and where we are going.
Nothing is going to happen over night but keep your dream with you and around you at all times. Instead of focusing... (read in full...)
Get together that left me feeling excluded
Q. Myself and 3 friends went out for dinner saturday night. I don’t drive so when we go out one of them usually picks me up (all 3 of them live quite close by to me) and I always offer to pay towards petrol or buy them a drink so it’s not as if ...
A. 28 February 2024: It seems odd that after 15 years of friendship they are being funny with you and excluding you.
It really does seem a minor thing if its all about the driving thing. As you have said you have offered to pay petrol money and buy drinks.
If n... (read in full...)
Is it normal to hurt when your ex has a new girlfriend?
Q. Is it normal for it to hurt when your ex gets a girlfriend? So 2 months ago me and my ex split up after he cheated on me. I caught him and he still lied to my face. It has almost nearly broken me but I’ve managed to pick myself up and I was star...
A. 23 February 2024: I know it does not feel like it now but time is the healer of all things and these feelings will soon dissipate and you will be free of any emotional attachment you have to him.
He betrayed your trust, he was horrible to you, so you could te... (read in full...)
Should I be suspicious of his ex-wife?
Q. Friend with benefits just got out of the hospital for open heart surgery. His ex-wife has been at his house twice a day to cook breakfast and dinner since he came home, though I offered to help. Should I be suspicious that something more i...
A. 20 February 2024: I don't know how many years they were married, they may have been married for many years, have kids together, and had an amicable separation.
by your own admission you are both friends with benefits so on that basis he can do what he likes, a... (read in full...)
I cannot tell when men are interested
Q. I've never had a bf and I am bad at reading signs of interest from a guy (yes, I know I am almost 30 and still boyfriendless). A guy and I were in a conversation, and because I liked him, I started laughing randomly mid-conversation. There was ...
A. 20 February 2024: * meant to say best medicine, not bed medicine *... (read in full...)
I cannot tell when men are interested
Q. I've never had a bf and I am bad at reading signs of interest from a guy (yes, I know I am almost 30 and still boyfriendless). A guy and I were in a conversation, and because I liked him, I started laughing randomly mid-conversation. There was ...
A. 20 February 2024: They do say that laughter is the bed medicine, also laugh or smile and the world does it with you.
There is no rush to meet anyone, go along the lines of you would like to meet someone but you don't need to meet someone.
I think the most i... (read in full...)
She’s angry I didn’t tell her, her ex got married!
Q. I fear I have just lost a dear friend and long friendship over a silly mistake that I didn’t even know I made! My friends fiancé cheated on her 3 years ago. Obviously she was devastated. My friend does not have a facebook account, never h...
A. 20 February 2024: Very odd behaviour indeed, she made it quite clear that she never wanted to know, and to be honest she should have moved on with her life now and got over this.
We all have ex's, so what if they have tied the not now, the relationships done and... (read in full...)
He is controlling and I'm worried that the bad outweighs the good
Q. I was in a relationship for 8 years, 2 children and a wedding booked when I found out he was having an affair with a woman he worked with. We split up but stayed amicable for our children. 3 years down the line and I went through some serious ...
A. 29 January 2024: Can people like this change?. I would go along the lines of no.
You will never find the qualities in a man like he has to offer?. Well i totally don't agree with you there because you most certainly will find someone with good qualities, and prob... (read in full...)
Sister in law has some odd quirks which at times cause hassle!
Q. My sister in law has some funny quirks- she is a nice lady and makes my brother happy which is the main thing but sometimes she does things that make no sense and just create more hassle. I’m probably going to be told to mind my own business ...
A. 29 January 2024: I agree the scenarios you mentioned is very odd behaviour indeed. she does sound a strange one for sure, but at the end of the day she is the one your brother married, and he is obviously happy.
I would be inclined to just take her actions ... (read in full...)
She is in pursuit of me
Q. So about a month ago this girl I was close friends with cut contact from me. We kind of had an argument and then other people said some things/rumors she got upset about. For the past week or so she seems to be for lack of a better word 'in pursuit'...
A. 29 January 2024: To be honest you are never going to know if she has a crush on you unless you actually ask her.
I really don't think she would follow you around and do the things she does if she never liked you, you would just not put that effort in for someone ... (read in full...)
My husband s a hoarder of cars and computers
Q. Dear Cupid I am married to my spouse for last 6 years and been together for 10 years. No pets and no kids. I love my husband dearly. We both work full time and share our house workloads. Everything is great, but he has been hoarding cars an...
A. 29 January 2024: Sounds to me like you husband is a master of procrastination on top of being a serial hoarder.
Do you have a big house with lots of land and not to many neighbours?. I only ask this because i would not imagine its that nice for your neighbou... (read in full...)
Curiosity killed the cat
Q. Curiosity got the best of me. I am almost certain she isn’t honest but I feel bad because I don’t think she’s comfortable but I asked my friend indirectly if she was gay. It’s several reasons why I want to know and think she is. Anyways when I asked ...
A. 24 January 2024: I guess its a personal thing that she did not want discussed with other people and you have now given her a reason not to trust you again.
What’s the likelihood she will come back and we can be friends again?! Well thats kind of impossib... (read in full...)
Something just feels off about him
Q. I started seeing this guy at the end of November 2023. On our second date, he asked me about my dating history and he proceeded to tell him his. He told me he still talks daily to his most recent ex and that she is always asking him to get back ...
A. 24 January 2024: Call it your womans intuition, if something inside you is telling you that something feels off then there is a good chance it is.
Its important to read the red flags, and he is certainly displaying quite a few of these.
The question is coul... (read in full...)
I am confused about what he wants
Q. Hey everyone and thank you in advance for your advice. I met a guy from the USA while he was working in my hometown ( I'm European). We hit it off on our first date and long story short we've been seeing each other for 2 months now. He recently...
A. 9 January 2024: I agree with you that 2 months is not really a great deal of time to have been in a relationship and getting to know someone, but I guess sometimes if you have that connection you know when you know don't you.
I think that he likes you, and does... (read in full...)
Don’t want my friend tagging along to my birthday weekend!!
Q. I know this is going to make me sound spoilt and like a coward… It’s my 40th birthday coming up shortly and my husband is treating us both to an overnight stay in a cabin in a zoo- it’s something I’ve wanted to do for years. A few ...
A. 9 January 2024: I think that your husband should have discussed inviting her with you in private then at least you could have both come up with decision to not invite her.
He has really put you on the spot by inviting her like this because now you have the dile... (read in full...)
Guy I'm dating pressures me
Q. Hello, and thanks I'm currently in a dating someone for approximately 8 months. He pressures me to see him frequently. He pressures me to talk on the phone. As an example. I'm sick and have barely any voice he will start texting and I'll...
A. 9 January 2024: I think in a relationship its important to look out for red flags.
From what you have mentioned in your post what he has done to you would make most people ditch him and run for the hills.
Your post is just full of negatives about him, and to ... (read in full...)
I want to tell my family I have an 18 year old daughter
Q. When I was 18 years old, I got my girlfriend, Stephanie, pregnant. She is the same age as I am. Due to different reasons, we choose to put our daughter up for adoption. Her family knows that she had a daughter and that I'm the father. Stephani...
A. 8 January 2024: It a tough one, but i feel here that all you can be is brutally honest, so i would choose the moment that feels right and just explain what happened then just let the chips fall where they may.
A lot of water has passed under the bridge, Your par... (read in full...)
My family found out I don't keep the gifts they give me. How do I handle this?
Q. My family (my parents, my brother, my sister-in-law and my sister-in-law's family) are terrible at buying gifts for me. They usually buy me clothes that don't fit, items that I don't need or want and other items that are useless to me. I us...
A. 8 January 2024: I would just be honest with your family and tell them a few months before Christmas not to buy you clothes or items for the house.
I think that for anyone, including myself i hate having clothes brought for myself because you are then in that sit... (read in full...)
Why block me?
Q. So this is a weird one, I came across a local musician online. Thought his music was great, had a few conversations with him. Sometimes I got the impression he liked me but I put clear boundaries down of no. I'm here for music and music only. All ...
A. 8 January 2024: How very strange, not sure why that happened, or why he would do that.
As you say you are there for music and music only so just carry on as you are and carry on enjoying what your doing and try to not let the actions of some strange people r... (read in full...)
Friend's style changed dramatically after breakup
Q. Concern over friend Friend recently had a break up about 6 weeks ago. She works at a school and went from dressing very girly/feminine like skirts and dresses everyday. She still wears dresses but now dresses in all black daily and wears litera...
A. 5 January 2024: I think we all have very different ways of dealing with things and all adopt various coping mechanisms to deal with loss and break ups or being cheated on, and this is her way.
Just maybe keep an eye on her from time to time, be a friend, ... (read in full...)
My mom is pregnant by a man 4 years older than me
Q. My problem is simple My mother is 41 years old. I found by chance ultrasound picture show that she is 10 weeks pregnant. When i asked her, she confirmed her pregnancy and want me to meet the father. When i met him, i found that he is the young man...
A. 5 January 2024: You can't force your Mum to have an abortion, neither can you force her to terminate the relationship, she is a grown adult capable of making her own decisions.
I know its not an ideal situation, and yes I understand that this could be hard for... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my crush
Q. I'm in university right now and I have a crush on someone from another major.. I confessed to him but through our university anonymous confession channel. Now he knew that somebody like him.. But how do I text him first?? Like we never even talk to ...
A. 26 December 2023: I don't think that you should send a text, i feel this could come off worse for you.
I would wait for the perfect time, a time that feels right for you and strike up a conversation with him. Just start off with short and sweet conversa... (read in full...)
How to reframe my mind for healthy dating after toxic past
Q. So if you see my previous posts I was in what I now consider a toxic relationship for almost 2 years. I will spare the details but I essentially felt used, discarded, and led-on by my ex-boyfriend who I considered to be a pretty nice guy. I'm not ...
A. 24 December 2023: Ok i know you have some bad experiences with regards to dating, and you feel you are surrounded by negative relationships.
I am a great believer that time is the healer of all things, and its so important to refrain from dating and get yourself... (read in full...)
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