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My partner never makes time for me

Q.   Hi just wondering if this is normal I've been with my partner now for 4 years we have 2 children aged 1 and 2 we live together but he never makes any effort to spend any time with us if he needs to go anywhere he asks his mate first rather than me ...

A.   26 September 2017:  Sound like this is a case of too much mommy, and not enough mistress. :) It is hard when you have small kids to be a mistress for your hubby. You are in mother mode most of the times. But there is one word that will save your marriage... ... (read in full...)

Can smells and tastes affect a perfect blissful courtship?

Q.   Im blessed with a beautiful and very loving, caring partner who im sure would do anything for me and I would for her as well. So when I have this seemingly silly problem, I do not know how to overcome. Her odors. She uses deo but it wears off either ...

A.   26 September 2017: "after a long day as she works very hard around the house, cooking, gardening, cleaning to keep the house a paradise" They still make these kind of women?? Don't get me wrong...Young women today are lost. They can't even boil water. Maybe I... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and my husband's sexual demands are taking a toll on our marriage

Q.   Yesterday my husband came away from a childs party to use his fake vagina, which i never knew he had. I know this will seem like a pathetic reason to be upset but i just cant help feeling insecure and disgusted. Weve been together for over 11 years, ...

A.   26 September 2017: Sometimes you have to turn the tables around and put your hubby in your shoes. Ask him straight up..."I am thinking of getting a profile on POF after I have the baby. Just wanted to run it by you to see if it's okay?" When he gets mad, you sa... (read in full...)

I know I could have an amazing life with mistress but don't want to hurt my wife and children

Q.   Hi. I am really confused and need advice. Here goes with a bit of background and my position. I am an almost 49 year old man and have been married for almost 25 years.we have 3 of which has now left home. My wife gave up work 17 years ag...

A.   25 September 2017: "I came from a broken home with an alcoholic father" Biggest excuses ever!!!! No matter what your parents did with their life, has nothing to do with how you live yours. People LOVE to blame something in their lives for the mistakes they ar... (read in full...)

I'm Open-Minded but His Porn Habit & Denials are Alienating Me!

Q.   my husband who is 10 years older than me is watching porn on a daily basis and playing virtual reality porn games,I know because he,s not very clever at deleting his history.He shows no interest in me even though I go out of my way to look nice and ...

A.   22 September 2017:  My dear...Your husband's penis is yours. Not his...Take it. Wait for him to be watching porn. Go in the room...check see if he is hard. If yes...take hold of it, and sit on it. Let him watch all the porn he wants while you get to enjoy "Your ... (read in full...)

I want more, he leads me on but in the end wants just sex. It's he just a player?

Q.   Hello! I have been friends with this guy since sophomore year of college and I graduated last year. He's 25 so yeah we are still young, but I feel like we have a good vibe going with one another. We used to hang out and talk about everything and ...

A.   22 September 2017:  "He leads me on" Some women walk right into trouble, hoping it will turn out good, and when it doesn't...they blame the guy. You see what he wants clear as day, yet you claim he is leading you on.... (read in full...)

We were such good friends, now she wont even talk to me

Q.   Slightly off topic of love and relationships but wondering if someone can shine some light over a situation with a close friend. I'm broken, torn, lost and really struggling to come to terms with the loss of my best friend, for the simple reaso...

A.   22 September 2017: "Anyone can claim to be your friend, but some people are friends in name only. The grief caused when a close friendship turns sour is as bad as death. Some people will be your friend as long as things are going well, but they will turn against you ... (read in full...)

I am unhappy at home, and flirting with my ex boyfriend

Q.   I am married for nearly 4 years and lived together for 5 years . Since having my son last year , everything has changed . We both very good with looking after our son but My partner seems to be on the phone so much , which has been locked fo...

A.   22 September 2017:  OUCH!!!! Partner...Not even husband or hubby. So you have moved him into the friend zone...Not good. You cannot change your husband unless you change your way of thinking. can make you forget to be a woman, and him a man. How s... (read in full...)

My wife's sexual past has become a sticking point for me

Q.   OK this might be a bit long winded but here we go. So I have been happilyish married for nearly ten years now. I met my wife in 2003 while on my OE in London and we got together and started dating and then eventually the "how many people have you ...

A.   22 September 2017:  Your wife sexual past is not the problem...YOU ARE!!! This is what love is...Learn it...and it will save your marriage... "Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable... (read in full...)

We've been married a year and are in a rut! I need some advice

Q.   Lately, our marriage has been on the rocks. We have been together for 5 years and we are days away from our 1 year wedding anniversary and there has been so much tension and hate lately. I feel like I can't do anything right. We had an argument not ...

A.   20 September 2017:  WOW!!! The first problem I see here is.... "I" This letter right here is the problem in your marriage. Go back and look at all the "I's". If you are married, it should be "WE". You do not have a marriage where you should have one. You have a... (read in full...)

I really like him, I think he likes me too, but he says he isn't ready for a relationship.

Q.   Hi all I became really close to a guy back in June. He worked for a rival company to the one I was in. We started texting constantly and every day. It was clear that we were both attracted to each other. We ended up kissing while out one ni...

A.   20 September 2017:  LMAO!!! "He even went as far as delivering flowers to me and our other friend last week. Expensive ones." That was hook and you bite and feel the pain of that hook. He will be gone so a fisherman in a speed boat. I a... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wanted an open relationship but I can't cope with it.

Q.   I'm struggling with the pain and shock involved in starting an open relationship. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months. Recently we agreed to open the relationship and allow each other to have sex with other people. She's the one wh...

A.   20 September 2017:  AWESOME!!!! What happens when a dog has been kept in the house all day, and you OPEN the front door?? Be that dog...just don't come back.... (read in full...)

My ex came back into my life only to leave again!

Q.   He reached out to me after about 6 months of not speaking, during that time he was dating someone else. We ended up meeting up to talk, and we had great conversation. He apologized for things that wet wrong with us and opened up to me that "he just ...

A.   20 September 2017:  Your EX did not come back into your life...YOU let him in. Never go backwards. Life was just making sure you learn that lesson. Things did not work the first time. So...let's see if she has learned anything...NOPE!! Guess what?? He wil... (read in full...)

How do I get him to understand my loneliness?

Q.   Hi everyone. I'm just looking for a bit of advice. I am married to my partner who I've known since we were kids. I've been feeling so lonely recently as I feel like I've lost connection with my friends. I work and sit at home waiting for my husba...

A.   20 September 2017:  Here is a little fact...NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY!!! People can ADD to YOUR OWN happiness, but no one can make you happy. When you are in a good mood, and a good friend comes by, they add to your own happiness, and it makes you more happy... (read in full...)

I want to marry this woman and find it hard to let her go! Please help!

Q.   Help help help. In a previous column I told everyone about how my x dumped me after 3 1/2 years by text. I also found that she had a dating profile. We talked on the phone. She says she feels like a horrible person for what she did and we had long ...

A.   20 September 2017: Exactly what are you fighting for?? Are you fighting to make things harder, or are fighting to make yourself look like a fool?? If a woman dumps me...then thank you for your time we spent together. No way I am going to drag it out just end up ... (read in full...)

I'm worried I can't ask her to do the same thing again!

Q.   A few weeks ago I helped my girlfriend clean and put the dishes away. Afterwards she filled the sink with dishsoap and undressed me. She wanted me to sit on the counter over the edge of the sink. I was reluctant at first but I did it. She then used ...

A.   20 September 2017:  You do realise you did not ask her in the first place right?? If I were you...I would be looking for a way fix her clock in the same way. :)... (read in full...)

She said she wants to hangout with her friends which is fine except for my concern about this one male friend!

Q.   My gf of 1.5 years is amazing for the most part. We have talked about getting married and moving in together and everything. We plan on moving in in the next 6months. Recently she told me that she feels that she will miss out on being young cause ...

A.   20 September 2017: What are you insecure about??? Do you have a letter from life that says she is yours forever? No woman on the Earth belongs to you. You may get the privilege of having one of them say " I do". But do not think for one second she is yours. Be... (read in full...)

Why do people bad mouth their significant others?

Q.   Why do guys complain about their gf/wives but then not leave? I have a coworker that always complains about his wife - I never bring her up but somehow he will say something about her nagging or sound so dis interested in any event that they ...

A.   20 September 2017: Both men and women bad mouth the partners because the problem is NOT with their partner, but with themselves. We humans love to point the finger and blame the other person for our own problems. Much easier than blaming yourself. Anytime you w... (read in full...)

Are we sexually incompatible? I need help!

Q.   my fiancé and I have been together for a year and a half and we have been struggling sexually. when we first got together he told me he wanted to wait until marriage to have sex I was perfectly Fine with that as we both were practicing christianity ...

A.   20 September 2017: Not all who call themselves Christians follow the rules... Ask your fiancé if he masturbates. A lot of young people do not realise that when you masturbate, you train your body to only get turned on by a certain your hand or a vib... (read in full...)

How do I play it on our third date?

Q.   Hey guys, I need some advice.. I met a girl on a dating site about 3 weeks ago or so, (she's 32 and I'm 36), after messaging abit, we exchanged numbers, spoke on the phone and arranged a coffee date. That went well and a week later, we went on a ...

A.   12 April 2017:  Let her lead. She will let you know how far she wants to take things. Do not expect anything. A woman can sense your intend, and she may shutdown and become cold. Cooking together could be a test...To see what you are really after...or...... (read in full...)

Why am I thinking about someone else who is not my husband, why I feel irrational and risky?

Q.   I'm 30 year old, married and I have 2 beautiful children. I've married my husband 5 years ago, I always loved him but never really fell in love with him (movie style) I actually didn't think those feelings truly exist and love is how you treat pe...

A.   12 April 2017:  Look right here... "it fell into a calm routine, our life is running smoothly, like a boat in a calm water." Lets break down all your words, and lets look at life itself. First...Calm...Is life always calm? 2nd...Routine...Even the weat... (read in full...)

How late is too late to start dating in the modern world?

Q.   How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship. 25? 30? 35? I mean, to really just START! Never been on a date before, and so on and so on. This could all be due to many combination of reasons: ...

A.   12 April 2017:  30?? My man... you are right on time. :) Actually...I believe men should start date after they are 25 years old...Why? Maturity. Most men before 25 years old, have no freaking idea what to do with their own life, muchless look after the life ... (read in full...)

What do women look for in a man for a boyfriend?

Q.   What do women really look for in a man for a boyfriend?...

A.   12 April 2017:  You asked the wrong question my friend. It should be... "What do women look for in a husband?" Most women, if not all, never go looking for a boyfriend. They look for...THE ONE. That one guy who they can date and see if he is "the one" to m... (read in full...)

How to get along with younger colleague at work who ignores me a lot, HELP!

Q.   Need some advice please please! on a workplace situation.. SORRY FOR LENGTH..NEED TO EXPLAIN.. I am a nurse, a "worker", (not a boss or anything like that) work in a hospital, been in the hospital years but worked in my current area 8 mo...

A.   5 April 2017:  What is your concern with people speaking to you or not? This is not high school where you need to fit in to feel loved or wanted. Do these people put food on your table? Are they there for you when you are sick? Do you have to sleep in the... (read in full...)

How can I stop living in the past and stop worrying?

Q.   Hello everyone, how does someone stop living in the past , it seems like my life is a contact worry, I can't escape my own "prison" I always worry about what other people think of me , constant non stop, whether it's a work, at home , with friends...

A.   30 March 2017:  "my life is never lived on the present" Well, presently you choose not to live in the present. No one is telling you to live in the past or worry about everything....YOU are doing to it to yourself...and no one can make you stop but you. ... (read in full...)

I'm in a sexless marriage due to my wife's depression and now menopause. What do I do?

Q.   My wife had 10 months off work with work related depression now the menopause has struck We have not had sex for nearly 2 years and even sleep in different rooms at times as she is in bed by 9pm most nights due to the medication. I am now becoming ...

A.   30 March 2017:  What do you do?? Treat her like your girlfriend. Take her out on dates. Buy her flowers, kiss her, flirt with, run her baths, massage her whole body, make dinner, help her around the house, and DO everything you can for her. Here is the best ... (read in full...)

He wants us to get married but to keep it secret!

Q.   Ok here is my story. My boyfriend of 7 months is asking me to marry him secretly in summer and not telling anyone because he wants to give his 14 years old child enough time to feel more comfortable. we want to buy a house as I don't want to move ...

A.   30 March 2017:  "asking me to marry him secretly" In what world is this normal? When a man truly loves a woman, and makes that decision to marry her, he wants the whole world to know...why? It is us marking what is now ours. This lady of mine is off the mark... (read in full...)

How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?

Q.   How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?. I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately. How much should I be trying to be what he wants or trying to be attractive to him He...

A.   12 March 2017:  OP...Your question is fair and valid...YES!!! Let me ask you this...How do you feel when you know your man has interest in other women, other than you??? Do I see other women that are attractive? Yes of course...We all do. But you...Yes YO... (read in full...)

Are men interested in a women in her 50's? Or do they always chose the younger ladies?

Q.   Are there many men actually interested in a relationship with an attractive woman in her 50s or will they always choose a younger woman if given the chance . It seems for sex an older woman is still often chosen if attractive especially by you get ...

A.   12 March 2017:  You bet your 50 something year butt we do. :) The challenge of out doing, or out sexing an older woman...Yes please :) How to make an experience woman, not able to walk to the bathroom after sex...hehehe. How to make her orgasm so big...... (read in full...)

Husband found out about my promiscuous teen years

Q.   I've been married 3 years and my husband and I have a great relationship based on trust on we don't keep secrets. I was recently contacted on Facebook by Erica, a high school friend. When we were in school, we were promiscuous. We did girl on g...

A.   12 March 2017:  Was you husband a virgin when you got married? If yes...okay feel bad...If no...Then he has no reason to be upset. What you did before him, was the past. If you were still doing it now...then I can understand why any man would be upset. Th... (read in full...)

Porn related little white lie - should I let it go?

Q.   Should I bring it up or let it go? My husband is very busy running three businesses. He gets very stressed with it. Sometimes he masturbates to porn to relieve tension - I know all this, it's not every day or all the time. Sometimes I use his ...

A.   10 March 2017:  Question...Do you thing his hand has more power to relieve his stress than you? Do you think your vagina looks like or feels like HIS hand? Sure...masturbation is an easy and lazy way to get one off. Be we all know what happens when thing... (read in full...)

She asked me to slap her hand for no reason. Is that her way of flirting?

Q.   Hey everyone, So there's this girl I've had my eye on since almost a year now. Im not sure if she has feelings for me but there have been signs.I'm holding back on asking her out cos my financial situation is not stable and I won't be able to...

A.   10 March 2017:  Easy...Looking for a man...not a boy...Some women want to see how far a man would go to please them. If you had refused, she would have found you weak. She is flirting...but in her way. A man steps up and does what needs to be done...a boy... (read in full...)

I want the relationship to work. What are your opinions on flirting/ making inappropriate comments to another female while the guy is in a relationship?

Q.   Please guys only (ps if advice is just shouldnt be together please do not respond. I want to make this work) Okay so guys. What are your opinions on flirting/ making inappropriate comments to another female while in a relationship. ...

A.   10 March 2017:  "I want to make this work" I am going to use your own words...and you tell me if you want it work. "made comments to other females which i dont particularly like." "But it still upsets me." "How hed "tap that" "females caption is so... (read in full...)

How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?

Q.   How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?. I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately. How much should I be trying to be what he wants or trying to be attractive to him He...

A.   10 March 2017:  "I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately" Did you actually read what you wrote???? "MY partner has taste in "WOMEN"...WOMEN !! Umm...what sounds better...MY partner likes "ME" a certain... (read in full...)

Does my Bf really care, after 8 months together if he'll unwilling to hold hands in public and only becomes more demonstrative when he wants sex?

Q.   My boyfriend and I been together 0ff and on, but now we been together for 8 months and when we out and about he dont hold my hand. He still tell people that i am his friend and we live together and he only holds me when he want sex. i can sleep na...

A.   10 March 2017:  "He still tell people that i am his friend" If I put this on a bill board...the biggest bill board the world has ever seen...Would you get it???? Let me guess...You are hoping if you stick around long enough....He will change...right? M... (read in full...)

Are men interested in a women in her 50's? Or do they always chose the younger ladies?

Q.   Are there many men actually interested in a relationship with an attractive woman in her 50s or will they always choose a younger woman if given the chance . It seems for sex an older woman is still often chosen if attractive especially by you get ...

A.   10 March 2017:  Here is the number one question you should be asking yourself....What are you bringing to the table?? Are you bring a woman who feel put off by men, because you see them chasing younger women? If lose...You bring negative (read in full...)

My mother in law walked in on me naked. I put some clothing on. But should I try not to be concerened? My M-in-Law wasn't bothered at all.

Q.   My wife and I are currently on vacation and staying at my mother in laws house for a week. Last night my mother in law walked into my bed room as I stepped out of the the bathroom. I was completely naked. She did not seem at all bothered by ...

A.   30 January 2017:  You have any idea how many times she has seen a man naked in her years? Does she have sons? Grand kids that are boys? Her own husband...Please.. you are another pair socks to her. If it meant something to her, she would be shocked and ran o... (read in full...)

Should I give up on men? Is there such a thing as a normal guy? I want a relationship with a man.

Q.   I have have asked for advice before here and wanted to come back a year later to ask maybe what I am doing wrong. I am a woman in my early 30s that has given up on love. I have only been with three men and two had a relationship with. Through t...

A.   30 January 2017:  What are you looking for? Sounds like you are looking for anything. You have to have a plan. What kind of man you are look for and live your life accordingly. If you are look for any kind of me...very easy. If you look for a m... (read in full...)

After 9 years together and 3 children our sex life remains bland. I love her. How can I find ways to interest her in oral sex?

Q.   Hi, I'm 26 years old. I have a fiancé I've been with for 9 years who is also 26 years old. We have 3 beautiful kids together. My question today is, why won't my fiancé suck me off? I have literally tried everything but I cannot convince her to d...

A.   30 January 2017:  See this mentality right here "why won't my fiancé suck me off?"...That is why...Typical man mentality. You have turn the action in a childish play thing. Like a spoiled child that cannot get what it wants. Think about who you are asking f... (read in full...)

He gets my hopes up talking about having kids and then changes his mind!

Q.   hello all of you, I'm Lauren, I would like you all to know my name. I need some advice. I have just come out of a 16 year relationship, my now ex was a lot older than me and had his fill of life experience, married, 4 kids, divorced and th...

A.   30 January 2017:  Easy fix...You get his hopes up about sex...then change your mind...every time. You see this... "I have met the right man" The right man would put a ring on your hand...not give you hope. You HOPE it does not rain after you just had your ha... (read in full...)

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