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My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Q.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   23 January 2017:  What's the problem?? He has just told you what he wants in his life right now...guy friends, not a girlfriend. You want a boyfriend...he is not sitting around with your brothers. He is out there waiting for you to come find him. The longer ... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Q.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017:  Let me explain your two biggest mistakes that I see... First.. "How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough" If your partner does make you feel good enough...Why oh why, are you still with him?? Second... "when... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017:  My son is 21, daughter is 20...And no way in hell are either one of them spending the night with their boyfriend or girlfriend, unless they are married. I am not being strict...I am be a responsible parent. I have not explanation for the pare... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

Q.   I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

A.   23 January 2017:  Question...isn't getting the test done, and have a good result gives you a peace of mind?? Even if they found something, and it can be treated...also a peace of mind. Your fear should be based on waiting so long, that something does develop, and... (read in full...)

Is it my fault I got put into the FWB category?

Q.   I've always been a woman that holds myself with dignity and believe that I have a lot to offer a man in a relationship. I am in no way saying this to brag or boast myself but my personality has always shined and others have told me so as well. ...

A.   20 January 2017:  Honeypie is right. Fact...If you agree, then whose fault is it? If I offer you drugs and you agree to take them, and you become a drug it my fault?... (read in full...)

I love my partner but we've been having sexual issues and I'm starting to develop feelings for a colleague

Q.   Hi all, I am having a bit of a problem at the moment. I have been with my partner for just over 5 years and we have been extremely happy. We are best friends and have been since the start. Very recently I have started developing feelings for ...

A.   20 January 2017:  Simple example... If you have a car and it has a flat tire...that is a you cannot get around. Driving on a flat tire will cause even more problems. So how do you fix this issue??? Do you get the tire repaired and all is good...or... (read in full...)

I'm starting to miss him. Was leaving the best option? How do I heal from being a victim in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Q.   Hello, After Christmas (2016) I left my partner, as I came to realise I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. It was slowly wearing me down and I started to get ill; for the first time in nearly 20 years, my eczema came back and spread all...

A.   20 January 2017:  Of course you will feel like you miss him...You have known him for nearly 20 years. He has become a part of your life, for better or for worse. Here comes the truth about getting away from someone abusive...Getting away was not the hard part...... (read in full...)

What am I doing to not want men to talk to me or want me romantically?

Q.   I am 21 and still never had a boyfriend or asked out. It really upsets me that guys almost never start a conversation with me. I have only had 2 cute guys reasonably around my age start a conversation with me and that was a while ago. Now, only old ...

A.   19 January 2017:  We guys like smiles...A smiling face or happy face is more attractive than a sad, grumpy, unsure, or insecure face. One says "talk to me"...the other says "I have problems, and I will make them yours." We guys run from the second face. Thi... (read in full...)

My girlfriend told me that I have 'dry 10 second sex'!

Q.   My girlfriend told me that I have "Dry 10 second sex" and I took it as a insult because to me it felt like she was saying that she doesn't enjoy my sex anymore. I told her how I felt and tried to move past it but I just couldn't it makes me feel ...

A.   19 January 2017:  You don't end it...This is a good thing :) :) :) You see...most young people believe plenty and often is the of way of sex. As you get older and wiser, you realise...NOPE!! Quality is the key. Let me guess your sexual routine...You have a ... (read in full...)

This bothers me a lot. What can I do? Married nearly 15 years and now my wife is no longer interested in Bjs.

Q.   Been married for nearly 15 years. My wife has basically decided that she will no longer perform oral sex on me. It's not like I was getting once a week, in fact once every two years is more like the current rate. When we first married, it was some...

A.   19 January 2017:  What is the rest of your sex life like? Active, so so, or once every blue moon? There could be one two reasons that I have notice over my years on this side of the Earth. 1) Let's put it out there...Cheating...If one partner is getting t... (read in full...)

Shall I tell him? Do I let it out or just walk away without saying anything ?

Q.   Do you tell the person you love that you have feelings for him ? Despite the fact he is not that friendly to you and never indulges you in their personal thoughts and life ? I have been thinking about telling the guy I love that I loved him but ...

A.   19 January 2017:  "I don't care what will happen next" You do realise this is your life you are talking about right? You should ALWAYS care what happens next. Because the next thing that happens could be something you regret for rest of your life...and I... (read in full...)

Logically I know it doesn't matter, but I am struggling with my Girlfriend's past!

Q.   I know a lot of you are going to say this is just another guy with hang-ups and insecurities suffering from hypocritical retrospective jealousy – and to a certain extent you may be right – but I really am desperate to fix this (fix myself?), so ...

A.   17 January 2017: "I just need to find a way to reach emotional peace …" You already have emotional peace...but you choose not to accept it by doing this... "The trouble is that I now know about this stuff and my mind is filling in the gaps – making stuff up ... (read in full...)

Can two cheaters make a relationship work?

Q.   I was in a serious relationship with a guy (it was long distance where we had to fly an hour to see each other). Then one day, I find out he had been texting this other girl 10 hours a day, and they were seeing each other for 3 hours a day for ...

A.   16 January 2017:  The question you need to be asking yourself is...why do you still care? You know your ex's history with women. Hopefully you found that out AFTER he cheated on you. Because if you knew that info while you dating him...well...even more reason ... (read in full...)

Need to reset my compass when it comes to men

Q.   Dear all All of my life I have struggled with self-acceptance issues. I tried hard to work on my self-esteem and confidence. I'm pretty confident at the current time but the thing is every time anyone approaches me in an intimate way I find myself p...

A.   13 January 2017: "I tend to fall for guys that show no romantic interest" You cannot stand men anymore, or you cannot stand yourself for making foolish choices when it comes to men? Which is it? It is okay to think you never want to be with men anymore, after y... (read in full...)

I don't fantasize about other men so is it wrong that I feel upset that my husband uses porn?

Q.   I've read a lot of information on porn use following some tension between my husband and I over his use of it . When we first married I did tell him that I was not wanting to be in a relationship with someone who used porn and he assured me he ...

A.   12 January 2017:  Ask your husband the same question I ask every man who watches porn, and jerk themselves into stupidity... Tell me which woman's vagina looks like a hand? And if it did, would you really stick your penis in there? Tell your husband you are... (read in full...)

How do I say NO to my boss?

Q.   Dear aunts and uncles, This is not a romantic relationship question, but I need help :) My boss wants to change some fundamentals we agreed on years ago and I need to find a delicate way to say no. I work for a minuscule company as a trans...

A.   12 January 2017:  Unless you have your arrangement in writing, there is not much you can do. However, Do not look at this as a bad thing. Your boss is getting up there, and maybe she is looking for a reliable replacement for herself. Nonetheless, here... (read in full...)

I like going out with her but it's destroying my self-conference!

Q.   Whenever I go out partying with my Best friend, all the boys flock to her or spend all evening telling me how hot she is. It is destroying my self confidence but I love hanging out with my friend. What to do? ...

A.   11 January 2017:  Her confidence attracts the guys...Insecurities chase them away. Hint.... (read in full...)

Every time we talk on the phone, he is always clicking away on his computer.!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We are both in our early 30's. We are planning to move in together around Summer/Fall. But, I have a problem with him... every time we talk on the phone, he is always clicking away on his computer....

A.   11 January 2017:  Your guy finds his computer more important than you. That is a fact. The fact that you have stuck around this long to argue about this...interesting. Men suck at multi-tasking...our minds do not the same as woman's mind. Three years... (read in full...)

Why would a man persist with a LDR if he was not attracted to the woman? Why even tell the woman he "loves" her?

Q.   Would a man have a long distance relationship with a woman who he wasn't attracted to and even tell her he loves her? Why would he want to do that if he later admits he is not attracted to the woman? Is it loneliness ? Is this a common thing ...

A.   11 January 2017:  It's called SEX. We want it, and you have it...Look around you. Men have done almost anything to get sex. Want men to get to mars in one year? Put naked women on it. We would row a boat through space if we had to. Is this a bad thing...Oh ... (read in full...)

How can I stop him bringing up my ex'?

Q.   My boyfriend constantly keeps on about my past. I'm 4 years older than him and had a long-term relationship with someone else before we met. He's only ever really had flings and more casual relationships before me. We've been together 4 years but ...

A.   11 January 2017:  Tell him straight... "Stop asking or bringing up my ex, or I will make YOU the next one....Then I will tell my new boyfriend what my last ex did, so that he will not make the same mistake."... (read in full...)

Don't want this to get out of hand. Should I let this messaging everyday friendship develop?

Q.   Hello everyone. I'm a 19 year old female, looking for some wisdom, perhaps telling me what I instinctively know myself but I just need somebody else's perspective. I've recently gone to university and made a great male friend, and currently...

A.   11 January 2017:  If you go to the zoo and see a Panda bear, it is be behind a fenced in area, and away from the public right? You look at it and you think "He is soooo cute. I wish I could just hug him." Do you know why he is kept away from the public? Beca... (read in full...)

She flirts with me at work but flat out rejected an invitation out. What now?

Q.   I have liked a woman at work a lot and I was sure she felt the same, we are both bi-sexual. We've been flirting loads but I know she's not had a partner or sex in 14 years (she told me)and does seem to have a lot of walls up. However she has ...

A.   11 January 2017:  Let me give a guy's rundown on it happens to us very often :) Not all women want to date. A lot of women...especially in the work place are just look for some attention. They are not getting it at home, and or, they will flirt big ti... (read in full...)

Should I tell my ex that feelings have resurfaced for him even though we are both married to others?

Q.   Hi guys! My ex-partner and I separated amicably over a decade ago, and keep in contact and remain friendly towards one another for the sake of our fifteen year old daughter, whom we co-parent. Our relationship, which lasted for about eight years, f...

A.   11 January 2017:  Truth is...NOTHING regarding your EX should be on your chest, or any part of you. They are called EX for a reason. As in EXit from your world. EXtinct, EXpire, and they should be NON-EXistent in your life. What is the point of going backw... (read in full...)

Is it normal we haven't got into a fight yet? And is it good or bad?

Q.   Okay so basically I've been told by a couple of my friends that its not good my boyfriend and I haven't actual fought yet. We've been together for a little over four months, we irritate and annoy each other at points but we haven't actually...

A.   10 January 2017:  Question...In what world is fighting or arguing okay? Has anybody ever felt "Damn, I am so happy we had that major argument. We should do this every" Some fools believe that when you argue it means you love each other. If that ... (read in full...)

My abusive ex is dating again. Would it be weird or wrong if I warn his new Gf about him?

Q.   Hello all, Ok here's the short situation I was married have two kids with the guy. He cheated and abused me verbally and physically. We ended up getting a divorce and I'm finally free of him. He is living in another county now. He does n...

A.   9 January 2017:  "He has other children with other women" Did any of the other women warn you about him? If yes, then warn the new lady. If you were given that help, but refused it, then do the same for others, and let them refuse it. If these other women kn... (read in full...)

Do women dream about male virgins too?

Q.   Dear female cupids Many men dream of making love to a virgin Girl and teach her all about sex. Do women dream about male virgins too? Personally I haven't had this Kind of desire, although i lost my own virginity to another virgin. My ...

A.   9 January 2017:  A woman will express herself no problem...but she needs a few things from the man first. One...TRUST...To know she can trust you completely with her body, and her mind. Two...She is the ONLY ONE... If a woman has any insecurities that sh... (read in full...)

My abusive ex is dating again. Would it be weird or wrong if I warn his new Gf about him?

Q.   Hello all, Ok here's the short situation I was married have two kids with the guy. He cheated and abused me verbally and physically. We ended up getting a divorce and I'm finally free of him. He is living in another county now. He does n...

A.   9 January 2017:  Your "EX"...Should be EXactly that... An in EXtinct. No longer a part of your life or thoughts. Why are you look back to see what he is doing or who he is dating? You should be living as if you never met him or knew him. Some pe... (read in full...)

He still has a dating profile up ...

Q.   My new boyfriend ( of 2 week ) still has a dating profile online , hes open about it and says he has 'friends' on there . should i tell him he needs to prove theyre friends by showing me the conversations hes having or demand he deletes his profile ...

A.   9 January 2017:  Two weeks and you want rights into his life, conversations, and his friends??? How long do you plan for this to last? Two more weeks? Yes he is right...Two weeks is not written in stone that things will work out. Has he made it clear that y... (read in full...)

My husband wants me to date other men for sex!

Q.   I have been married for 17 years my husband for the past 5 year asks med to have sex with other men while we are having sex it gets him harder, should I? I have explained to him sex is more then sex to me, he says for me to go out and date then. I ...

A.   9 January 2017:  Your husband has made it clear he does not honour your marriage, or vows. He will soon cheat on you, if he is not doing it already, and using this to make his cheating okay. As in...if you are dating and sleeping with other men, then you can... (read in full...)

How do I get him to last longer?

Q.   M boyfriend and I are in a Long Distance Relationship. We see each other every 4-6 weeks. I've been noticing that when we have sex, he doesn't last long... no more than maybe a minute or two at most. His explanation is that because he goes without ...

A.   9 January 2017:  Andie's Thoughts is dead on. Most men believe that a penis is for pleasure...So wrong. There is a reason why woman need 20 minutes to get even close to orgasm, and a man averages around of two minutes. The penis is to finish her off, ... (read in full...)

Do women dream about male virgins too?

Q.   Dear female cupids Many men dream of making love to a virgin Girl and teach her all about sex. Do women dream about male virgins too? Personally I haven't had this Kind of desire, although i lost my own virginity to another virgin. My ...

A.   9 January 2017:  Let me put it this way.... If you can afford to buy a brand new sports car, with all the upgrades, zero mileage, new car smell, the works. Would you turn that down for a car that is used, high mileage, in need of maintenance, and had several ... (read in full...)

My life looks pretty discouraging!

Q.   I have just turned 30, and that has caused me to evaluate what I should or should not have acquired/achieved by this age. And my self analysis looks pretty discouraging: Dead-end part-time job with no health benefits ,and no PTO I have just gradu...

A.   6 January 2017: "just a handsome, wealthy, older boyfriend who has given me his debit card indefinitely until I find the job of my dreams. Sure he helps me out but I feel crappy about it because I'm not a gold-digger by nature." That statement above vs... ... (read in full...)

Should I be more angry or just let it go? My wife confessed that she gave oral briefly to a male stripper at a party

Q.   Hi, my wife went to a girls party night recently where we both knew there would be male strippers. I was totally cool with it but she got carried away with the night and ended up giving a few seconds of oral to all but one of the stripper...

A.   6 January 2017:  First of all...You the man...a real man!!! Thank goodness there are a few of us left. You love your wife first...that is why you are not getting a divorce right now. Awesome. You chose not to let the foolish male pride and ego do the talki... (read in full...)

After my past life I can't face his sexual demands

Q.   I am 42 and have been through a lot. I have been rapped when I was younger and beat by my mom and almost every guy I have been with. I need help trying to figure out something. My boyfriend gets mad at me for not wanting to do a 3-some. I ha...

A.   6 January 2017:  Your past is not there to make you weaker. It is there to make you stronger than you have ever been before. Don't you see? You have been beaten down all your life. But now you have a chance to stand up and say "NO MORE!!!". You do not find a... (read in full...)

Why do men insist on commenting about other women's looks?

Q.   I was wondering if anyone could shed some light in this for me . A guy was seeing went out of his was to make a point to me how beautiful his ex wife was. I have also noticed before that men seem to do this when on dates sometimes . They seem to ...

A.   5 January 2017:  A lot of guys or girls who bring up their ex, are not completely over them. They normally bring them up because they know they were the reason for the break up, and that knowledge is still fresh in their minds. When they were with their ex, th... (read in full...)

Guy says he doesn't like me, but others say the opposite. What do you think? ?

Q.   Question: Every guy I know says this guy obviously likes me, but the guy himself said to me it's not that way? He's close to me since my break up 5 months ago. He's brought me out, treated me to food and movies, would come all the way to my neighb...

A.   4 January 2017:  Then the guy is right....What others say or think, has no power over what the guy himself says. If you said you do not like a certain guy, but other think and say you do...who is telling the truth?... (read in full...)

I don't want to nag, but my boyfriend won't shower. Solutions? How should I respond?

Q.   I'm 26 and I've just got into a relationship with a guy who's just turned 25. We've been seeing each other for months and we've been official for less than 3 weeks. As you can imagine I'm still in the honeymoon phase but he's straight away made him...

A.   4 January 2017: "Am I trying to save a relationship he's not interested in??" Still you try...why? Because you love him...yet it is one sided. Boyfriends are like buying fruit in the store. Do you try to save the bad fruit? Do you bring home the bad fruit? N... (read in full...)

I am finding it hard to communicate with my perfectionist BF, especially about studying law. What should I do?

Q.   There is so much going on in my life. I am a 21 year old accounting student who wants to change to law. It is quite depressing especially if i tell my bf (23 years old) of 6 months that because he will be disappointed in me. My parents already ...

A.   4 January 2017:  "but my bf is a perfectionist when it comes to academics." Good for him...So question...Where is he a perfectionist when it comes to your life and how you chose to live it??? Where born for him to tell you what is right or wrong for you? ... (read in full...)

Am I selfish, or is he crazy ?

Q.   Hi, I need your honest opinion on this situation. My boyfriend calls me selfish all the time. I'm honestly tired of hearing it. But I feel he asks for too much from me when we've only been together for 7 months and don't even live together or know ...

A.   4 January 2017: "he said he didn't feel that way" You are the one that is crazy. I am a man...and if I tell a woman I love her, and she said what he said above...yet I still stick around...then yes...I am crazy. What's even more crazy is you let him control ... (read in full...)

My marriage is emotionally unfulfilling and dead. Should I stay or leave?

Q.   I'm in a marriage that could be described as comfortable . Both of us treat each other very nicely , the sex is good on a physical level ( although no emotional component really ) and we have built an good life together over twenty year . The ...

A.   30 December 2016:  Hi OP, Sorry if I misunderstood your post. You said you felt unfulfilled, but not specifically why, until your response. Yes you are correct. Lack of communication can destroy any relationship. It makes you feel alone and unloved. I have b... (read in full...)

My marriage is emotionally unfulfilling and dead. Should I stay or leave?

Q.   I'm in a marriage that could be described as comfortable . Both of us treat each other very nicely , the sex is good on a physical level ( although no emotional component really ) and we have built an good life together over twenty year . The ...

A.   29 December 2016:  When was your last date? When was the last time you did something flirty to get him fired up? When was the last you got all womanly and sexy?? Notice I use the word YOU!!! If this was your husband writing this post, I would be asking him t... (read in full...)

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