New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login237816 questions, 1047436 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap
*rownWolf agony aunt


Canada  (Male   XML/RSS

Like what he writes?
... Add *rownWolf to your favourite agony aunts

Want to get in touch?
... Send *rownWolf a private message

*rownWolf's Ratings
1234567891011Next > [28 pages, 1094 answers]

How do I play it on our third date?

Q.   Hey guys, I need some advice.. I met a girl on a dating site about 3 weeks ago or so, (she's 32 and I'm 36), after messaging abit, we exchanged numbers, spoke on the phone and arranged a coffee date. That went well and a week later, we went on a ...

A.   12 April 2017:  Let her lead. She will let you know how far she wants to take things. Do not expect anything. A woman can sense your intend, and she may shutdown and become cold. Cooking together could be a test...To see what you are really after...or...... (read in full...)

Why am I thinking about someone else who is not my husband, why I feel irrational and risky?

Q.   I'm 30 year old, married and I have 2 beautiful children. I've married my husband 5 years ago, I always loved him but never really fell in love with him (movie style) I actually didn't think those feelings truly exist and love is how you treat pe...

A.   12 April 2017:  Look right here... "it fell into a calm routine, our life is running smoothly, like a boat in a calm water." Lets break down all your words, and lets look at life itself. First...Calm...Is life always calm? 2nd...Routine...Even the weat... (read in full...)

How late is too late to start dating in the modern world?

Q.   How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship. 25? 30? 35? I mean, to really just START! Never been on a date before, and so on and so on. This could all be due to many combination of reasons: ...

A.   12 April 2017:  30?? My man... you are right on time. :) Actually...I believe men should start date after they are 25 years old...Why? Maturity. Most men before 25 years old, have no freaking idea what to do with their own life, muchless look after the life ... (read in full...)

What do women look for in a man for a boyfriend?

Q.   What do women really look for in a man for a boyfriend?...

A.   12 April 2017:  You asked the wrong question my friend. It should be... "What do women look for in a husband?" Most women, if not all, never go looking for a boyfriend. They look for...THE ONE. That one guy who they can date and see if he is "the one" to m... (read in full...)

How to get along with younger colleague at work who ignores me a lot, HELP!

Q.   Need some advice please please! on a workplace situation.. SORRY FOR LENGTH..NEED TO EXPLAIN.. I am a nurse, a "worker", (not a boss or anything like that) work in a hospital, been in the hospital years but worked in my current area 8 mo...

A.   5 April 2017:  What is your concern with people speaking to you or not? This is not high school where you need to fit in to feel loved or wanted. Do these people put food on your table? Are they there for you when you are sick? Do you have to sleep in the... (read in full...)

How can I stop living in the past and stop worrying?

Q.   Hello everyone, how does someone stop living in the past , it seems like my life is a contact worry, I can't escape my own "prison" I always worry about what other people think of me , constant non stop, whether it's a work, at home , with friends...

A.   30 March 2017:  "my life is never lived on the present" Well, presently you choose not to live in the present. No one is telling you to live in the past or worry about everything....YOU are doing to it to yourself...and no one can make you stop but you. ... (read in full...)

I'm in a sexless marriage due to my wife's depression and now menopause. What do I do?

Q.   My wife had 10 months off work with work related depression now the menopause has struck We have not had sex for nearly 2 years and even sleep in different rooms at times as she is in bed by 9pm most nights due to the medication. I am now becoming ...

A.   30 March 2017:  What do you do?? Treat her like your girlfriend. Take her out on dates. Buy her flowers, kiss her, flirt with, run her baths, massage her whole body, make dinner, help her around the house, and DO everything you can for her. Here is the best ... (read in full...)

He wants us to get married but to keep it secret!

Q.   Ok here is my story. My boyfriend of 7 months is asking me to marry him secretly in summer and not telling anyone because he wants to give his 14 years old child enough time to feel more comfortable. we want to buy a house as I don't want to move ...

A.   30 March 2017:  "asking me to marry him secretly" In what world is this normal? When a man truly loves a woman, and makes that decision to marry her, he wants the whole world to know...why? It is us marking what is now ours. This lady of mine is off the mark... (read in full...)

How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?

Q.   How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?. I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately. How much should I be trying to be what he wants or trying to be attractive to him He...

A.   12 March 2017:  OP...Your question is fair and valid...YES!!! Let me ask you this...How do you feel when you know your man has interest in other women, other than you??? Do I see other women that are attractive? Yes of course...We all do. But you...Yes YO... (read in full...)

Are men interested in a women in her 50's? Or do they always chose the younger ladies?

Q.   Are there many men actually interested in a relationship with an attractive woman in her 50s or will they always choose a younger woman if given the chance . It seems for sex an older woman is still often chosen if attractive especially by you get ...

A.   12 March 2017:  You bet your 50 something year butt we do. :) The challenge of out doing, or out sexing an older woman...Yes please :) How to make an experience woman, not able to walk to the bathroom after sex...hehehe. How to make her orgasm so big...... (read in full...)

Husband found out about my promiscuous teen years

Q.   I've been married 3 years and my husband and I have a great relationship based on trust on we don't keep secrets. I was recently contacted on Facebook by Erica, a high school friend. When we were in school, we were promiscuous. We did girl on g...

A.   12 March 2017:  Was you husband a virgin when you got married? If yes...okay feel bad...If no...Then he has no reason to be upset. What you did before him, was the past. If you were still doing it now...then I can understand why any man would be upset. Th... (read in full...)

Porn related little white lie - should I let it go?

Q.   Should I bring it up or let it go? My husband is very busy running three businesses. He gets very stressed with it. Sometimes he masturbates to porn to relieve tension - I know all this, it's not every day or all the time. Sometimes I use his ...

A.   10 March 2017:  Question...Do you thing his hand has more power to relieve his stress than you? Do you think your vagina looks like or feels like HIS hand? Sure...masturbation is an easy and lazy way to get one off. Be we all know what happens when thing... (read in full...)

She asked me to slap her hand for no reason. Is that her way of flirting?

Q.   Hey everyone, So there's this girl I've had my eye on since almost a year now. Im not sure if she has feelings for me but there have been signs.I'm holding back on asking her out cos my financial situation is not stable and I won't be able to...

A.   10 March 2017:  Easy...Looking for a man...not a boy...Some women want to see how far a man would go to please them. If you had refused, she would have found you weak. She is flirting...but in her way. A man steps up and does what needs to be done...a boy... (read in full...)

I want the relationship to work. What are your opinions on flirting/ making inappropriate comments to another female while the guy is in a relationship?

Q.   Please guys only (ps if advice is just shouldnt be together please do not respond. I want to make this work) Okay so guys. What are your opinions on flirting/ making inappropriate comments to another female while in a relationship. ...

A.   10 March 2017:  "I want to make this work" I am going to use your own words...and you tell me if you want it work. "made comments to other females which i dont particularly like." "But it still upsets me." "How hed "tap that" "females caption is so... (read in full...)

How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?

Q.   How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?. I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately. How much should I be trying to be what he wants or trying to be attractive to him He...

A.   10 March 2017:  "I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately" Did you actually read what you wrote???? "MY partner has taste in "WOMEN"...WOMEN !! Umm...what sounds better...MY partner likes "ME" a certain... (read in full...)

Does my Bf really care, after 8 months together if he'll unwilling to hold hands in public and only becomes more demonstrative when he wants sex?

Q.   My boyfriend and I been together 0ff and on, but now we been together for 8 months and when we out and about he dont hold my hand. He still tell people that i am his friend and we live together and he only holds me when he want sex. i can sleep na...

A.   10 March 2017:  "He still tell people that i am his friend" If I put this on a bill board...the biggest bill board the world has ever seen...Would you get it???? Let me guess...You are hoping if you stick around long enough....He will change...right? M... (read in full...)

Are men interested in a women in her 50's? Or do they always chose the younger ladies?

Q.   Are there many men actually interested in a relationship with an attractive woman in her 50s or will they always choose a younger woman if given the chance . It seems for sex an older woman is still often chosen if attractive especially by you get ...

A.   10 March 2017:  Here is the number one question you should be asking yourself....What are you bringing to the table?? Are you bring a woman who feel put off by men, because you see them chasing younger women? If lose...You bring negative (read in full...)

My mother in law walked in on me naked. I put some clothing on. But should I try not to be concerened? My M-in-Law wasn't bothered at all.

Q.   My wife and I are currently on vacation and staying at my mother in laws house for a week. Last night my mother in law walked into my bed room as I stepped out of the the bathroom. I was completely naked. She did not seem at all bothered by ...

A.   30 January 2017:  You have any idea how many times she has seen a man naked in her years? Does she have sons? Grand kids that are boys? Her own husband...Please.. you are another pair socks to her. If it meant something to her, she would be shocked and ran o... (read in full...)

Should I give up on men? Is there such a thing as a normal guy? I want a relationship with a man.

Q.   I have have asked for advice before here and wanted to come back a year later to ask maybe what I am doing wrong. I am a woman in my early 30s that has given up on love. I have only been with three men and two had a relationship with. Through t...

A.   30 January 2017:  What are you looking for? Sounds like you are looking for anything. You have to have a plan. What kind of man you are look for and live your life accordingly. If you are look for any kind of me...very easy. If you look for a m... (read in full...)

After 9 years together and 3 children our sex life remains bland. I love her. How can I find ways to interest her in oral sex?

Q.   Hi, I'm 26 years old. I have a fiancé I've been with for 9 years who is also 26 years old. We have 3 beautiful kids together. My question today is, why won't my fiancé suck me off? I have literally tried everything but I cannot convince her to d...

A.   30 January 2017:  See this mentality right here "why won't my fiancé suck me off?"...That is why...Typical man mentality. You have turn the action in a childish play thing. Like a spoiled child that cannot get what it wants. Think about who you are asking f... (read in full...)

He gets my hopes up talking about having kids and then changes his mind!

Q.   hello all of you, I'm Lauren, I would like you all to know my name. I need some advice. I have just come out of a 16 year relationship, my now ex was a lot older than me and had his fill of life experience, married, 4 kids, divorced and th...

A.   30 January 2017:  Easy fix...You get his hopes up about sex...then change your mind...every time. You see this... "I have met the right man" The right man would put a ring on your hand...not give you hope. You HOPE it does not rain after you just had your ha... (read in full...)

Is lack of length a problem?

Q.   Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, I am from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl in next 6 months I am worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.5 inch. When flaccid its about 3 to 3.5 inch varying. When I do some...

A.   30 January 2017:  Your hands and fingers are okay? You have tongue? Lips? Loving words to say? Make sure all of those things are used before your penis.... (read in full...)

How can I end this selfishness in my marriage?

Q.   Hi guys. Im just looking for a bit of advice. Im 24 years old and I married my husband last year. Lately he has been very selfish and entitalled. Every morning he is rude and angry. He always complains about having to go to work. I am so sick and ...

A.   30 January 2017:  Ask him one question..."Why did you marry me?" If he says he married you because he loves you, then ask him what part of your marriage right now, shows you how much he loves you. If his answer is not based on his love for you...well you know ... (read in full...)

Gave up my family and now he treats me badly

Q.   Hello all. I'm married for 20 months now. It was a love marriage, a run-away marriage actually. My husband was the nicest man ever. So polite so caring so adorable. After I ran away from my home and few months passed he changed. He has become...

A.   30 January 2017:  You know it was wrong to run away... And this is the lesson to learn. Make sure you know what you are running to BEFORE you run. Words are just words...his action speak for themselves. A respectable man would never ask his woman ran away from he... (read in full...)

Should I dump uni' for a small screen role?

Q.   Hi everybody, I have a difficult decision to make. I am a student at uni studying accountancy. About half a year ago I suffered a nervous breakdown and was allowed to take break from my studies. I was experiencing a deep depression and took this ...

A.   30 January 2017:  Actor or not...Having an Education is best role you can play.... (read in full...)

I found out my brother has been having an affair. Should I tell his wife or keep quiet?

Q.   My brother has been having an affair with a single woman who is 15 years his junior. It has been ongoing for more than 3 years. I am very close to his wife and kids and accidentally found out about it last week when he sent me a text meant for h...

A.   26 January 2017:  Ever think of talking to your brother?? After all he is your brother. His wife has nothing to do with you. Go to him and tell straight up about what he is doing. Let his own guilt be his teacher. If he refuses to listen, then sit back and wa... (read in full...)

I'm more interested in sex than my boyfriend

Q.   Should I back off and give boyfriend some room? Is there something wrong with me because I have a high sex drive? How can I get him to perform oral sex first without directly asking for it? We've been dating for 9 months I'm in love with him. I ...

A.   25 January 2017:  Uumm...You are a woman...and you have womanly skills we cannot resist...why are you not using them? WiseOwl made some good points. You have a short skirt? No underwear, and sit next to him on the couch. Lean back and spread your legs. On... (read in full...)

26 years old and never been on a date

Q.   I'm a 26 year old guy and have never dated. When I was in high school, I was pretty much an outcast and girls just laughed at me. One time a girl made me think she wanted to go to a dance with her and asked me to meet her there. She showed up with ...

A.   25 January 2017:  " I feel like there's something seriously wrong with me." Yes there is something wrong with you. Too much time on your hands sitting around thinking about dating. Have you looked at the rest of this site??? Have you seen all the trouble and ... (read in full...)

I ranted about a friend to another friend and he told her what I said!

Q.   A very good male friend and I used to work at the same workplace with another woman. A few months ago this woman told me to join her new company as we had all been made redundant. I got a job there a few months after her but she failed to tell me ...

A.   25 January 2017:  The one you ranted on was not a friend. The one you told something to in private, is also not a friend. Two people you need out of your life....Why?? Imagine it was something more serious, and he told on you, and your life was now on the line.... (read in full...)

How do I deal with insensitive remarks about infertility?

Q.   My husband and I had a lot of difficulty to have our baby. After years of fertility appointments, I managed to conceive naturally and we had our miracle baby. I love him more than words can say. However, I have not forgotten the pain I went through ...

A.   25 January 2017: "How do I deal with insensitive remarks about infertility?" Let me give another way of looking at it. Imagine all those remarks as when you went into labour. How much pain your were in. How much pain the baby caused before it was born. How... (read in full...)

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

Q.   My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.   23 January 2017:  What's the problem?? He has just told you what he wants in his life right now...guy friends, not a girlfriend. You want a boyfriend...he is not sitting around with your brothers. He is out there waiting for you to come find him. The longer ... (read in full...)

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

Q.   How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.   23 January 2017:  Let me explain your two biggest mistakes that I see... First.. "How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough" If your partner does make you feel good enough...Why oh why, are you still with him?? Second... "when... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

A.   23 January 2017:  My son is 21, daughter is 20...And no way in hell are either one of them spending the night with their boyfriend or girlfriend, unless they are married. I am not being strict...I am be a responsible parent. I have not explanation for the pare... (read in full...)

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

Q.   I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

A.   23 January 2017:  Question...isn't getting the test done, and have a good result gives you a peace of mind?? Even if they found something, and it can be treated...also a peace of mind. Your fear should be based on waiting so long, that something does develop, and... (read in full...)

Is it my fault I got put into the FWB category?

Q.   I've always been a woman that holds myself with dignity and believe that I have a lot to offer a man in a relationship. I am in no way saying this to brag or boast myself but my personality has always shined and others have told me so as well. ...

A.   20 January 2017:  Honeypie is right. Fact...If you agree, then whose fault is it? If I offer you drugs and you agree to take them, and you become a drug it my fault?... (read in full...)

I love my partner but we've been having sexual issues and I'm starting to develop feelings for a colleague

Q.   Hi all, I am having a bit of a problem at the moment. I have been with my partner for just over 5 years and we have been extremely happy. We are best friends and have been since the start. Very recently I have started developing feelings for ...

A.   20 January 2017:  Simple example... If you have a car and it has a flat tire...that is a you cannot get around. Driving on a flat tire will cause even more problems. So how do you fix this issue??? Do you get the tire repaired and all is good...or... (read in full...)

I'm starting to miss him. Was leaving the best option? How do I heal from being a victim in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Q.   Hello, After Christmas (2016) I left my partner, as I came to realise I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. It was slowly wearing me down and I started to get ill; for the first time in nearly 20 years, my eczema came back and spread all...

A.   20 January 2017:  Of course you will feel like you miss him...You have known him for nearly 20 years. He has become a part of your life, for better or for worse. Here comes the truth about getting away from someone abusive...Getting away was not the hard part...... (read in full...)

What am I doing to not want men to talk to me or want me romantically?

Q.   I am 21 and still never had a boyfriend or asked out. It really upsets me that guys almost never start a conversation with me. I have only had 2 cute guys reasonably around my age start a conversation with me and that was a while ago. Now, only old ...

A.   19 January 2017:  We guys like smiles...A smiling face or happy face is more attractive than a sad, grumpy, unsure, or insecure face. One says "talk to me"...the other says "I have problems, and I will make them yours." We guys run from the second face. Thi... (read in full...)

My girlfriend told me that I have 'dry 10 second sex'!

Q.   My girlfriend told me that I have "Dry 10 second sex" and I took it as a insult because to me it felt like she was saying that she doesn't enjoy my sex anymore. I told her how I felt and tried to move past it but I just couldn't it makes me feel ...

A.   19 January 2017:  You don't end it...This is a good thing :) :) :) You see...most young people believe plenty and often is the of way of sex. As you get older and wiser, you realise...NOPE!! Quality is the key. Let me guess your sexual routine...You have a ... (read in full...)

This bothers me a lot. What can I do? Married nearly 15 years and now my wife is no longer interested in Bjs.

Q.   Been married for nearly 15 years. My wife has basically decided that she will no longer perform oral sex on me. It's not like I was getting once a week, in fact once every two years is more like the current rate. When we first married, it was some...

A.   19 January 2017:  What is the rest of your sex life like? Active, so so, or once every blue moon? There could be one two reasons that I have notice over my years on this side of the Earth. 1) Let's put it out there...Cheating...If one partner is getting t... (read in full...)

*rownWolf's friends

These are mutual friends, so *rownWolf has added them and they have added *rownWolf!

Abella agony auntAbella
alpet agony auntalpet
Atsweet1 agony auntAtsweet1
BrownWolf agony auntBrownWolf
cheannryl agony auntcheannryl
cretia2009 agony auntcretia2009
Duckiies agony auntDuckiies
Ginger fish agony auntGinger fish
Glorytilldies agony auntGlorytilldies
holliegeorgie.x agony auntholliegeorgie.x
Honeypie agony auntHoneypie
Inallhonesty... agony auntInallhonesty...
Intrigued3000 agony auntIntrigued3000
kayla00 agony auntkayla00
l'Extase agony auntl'Extase
Manya agony auntManya
maxxie agony auntmaxxie
Moo's Mum agony auntMoo's Mum
MTT agony auntMTT
no nonsense Aidan agony auntno nonsense Aidan
Ormskirk360 agony auntOrmskirk360
proxylaine agony auntproxylaine
rossacelt agony auntrossacelt
Songwr1ter agony auntSongwr1ter
Wolfscar agony auntWolfscar
xXJDXx agony auntxXJDXx
zebralove agony auntzebralove

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft