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How can I make this work? I want to get back with her. My family think I'm crazy to try.

Q.   My ex girlfriend and I had a pretty intense relationship. We met when she was pregnant with her son, we became friends first but started dating shortly after her son was born. I hadn't had much contact with my family for a few years but once we ...

A.   23 March 2016: Just noticed you saying that they didn't say anything while you were together but did when you split up, they'd more than likely just go back to keeping it to themselves if you were back together.... (read in full...)

How can I make this work? I want to get back with her. My family think I'm crazy to try.

Q.   My ex girlfriend and I had a pretty intense relationship. We met when she was pregnant with her son, we became friends first but started dating shortly after her son was born. I hadn't had much contact with my family for a few years but once we ...

A.   23 March 2016: If you don't mind me asking why did you stop seeing your family? It's pretty unfair of them to blame her if they hadn't seen you for a long time, it'd be strange if you hadn't changed in all of that time. Your friends were a bit out of line enc... (read in full...)

How can I make this work? I want to get back with her. My family think I'm crazy to try.

Q.   My ex girlfriend and I had a pretty intense relationship. We met when she was pregnant with her son, we became friends first but started dating shortly after her son was born. I hadn't had much contact with my family for a few years but once we ...

A.   22 March 2016: The thing about intense relationships is that although you have seriously bad lows you also more than likely have extremely good highs that keep you going back. But should a child be around to see that? It's quite frightening for a small child to ... (read in full...)

What can I do? I have a crush on a person but I am in a relationship with another.

Q.   Dear readers, Thanks for taking your time to read this. I've been in a loving relationship with my boyfriend for more than six years. We met each other in Highschool and were each others' firsts in almost everything. I am 22, my boyfriend is t...

A.   22 March 2016: Well don't tie yourself up in knots about the way you feel, that won't benefit you or your relationship with your boyfriend. People can sense when something is up and worry what's wrong so getting very upset about it will probably show. You d... (read in full...)

Can a man be too romantic? That's why my girlfriend broke up with me

Q.   Hi,am thirty five,an my girlfriend just broke up with me,after six months,I treated her really good, she said the reason for breaking up with me is, am to romantic,am not a challenge, should I just move on,or try to win her back....

A.   22 March 2016: Jls is spot on, romance is good after you build a good relationship, not be used as a tool to get that good relationship. Nothing worse than some romantic and charming man sweeping you off your feet and then a year later he forgets your birthday. ... (read in full...)

My wife says she has feelings for her boss!

Q.   2 days back me and my wife were having casual discussion and my wife informed that she is having feelings for her boss. I was stunned to hear this. She further said that she is feeling for him for past 3-4 months. She said she wanted to control her ...

A.   22 March 2016: If there's one good thing to take from this is that she's being very upfront and honest about it. It'd be so much worse if she kept this to herself and acted on it. When a person is cheated on one of the worst things about it is feeling like the... (read in full...)

How do you stop being an older virgin from beating down your confidence?

Q.   As an older virgin, how do you not let it bother you? I tried improving myself and taking more interest in my hobbies. Focusing on interacting with as many people as I can. Downloaded dating apps to raise my confidence. I'm turning 23 and n...

A.   22 March 2016: In my own experience the first time I've had sex with a partner it's never been fantastic, it's nerve racking even when you have had sex before. The first time you take your clothes off in front of somebody else you think oh god I hope he doesn't ... (read in full...)

How do I approach my GF weight issue?

Q.   In the 3 years we have been together my GF has been slowly letting herself go physically to the point where I no longer find her attractive. When we met in college, she was more physically active on a daily basis but now she has an office job wher...

A.   14 March 2016: Hi! Looking at my response I in no way meant that she was lazy or needs somebody whipping her in to shape! I have no idea what she does at her job but I'm speaking from experience, I used to have an active job and going to a sedentary one it's ... (read in full...)

Was my ex right for gettigng upset with me? We've broken up

Q.   Hi guys! I know your probably bored of me now after asking previous questions so apologies if you are. I am still quite distraught about whats happened between me and my ex (Please read my other posts if you don't know some of the situation). ...

A.   9 March 2016: I was going to say crying about this is a little bit extreme but people don't cry over nothing. Have you asked him if he has had a bad experience with an alcoholic in the past? Ok he doesn't enjoy being with you when you drink but he's quite d... (read in full...)

How do I approach my GF weight issue?

Q.   In the 3 years we have been together my GF has been slowly letting herself go physically to the point where I no longer find her attractive. When we met in college, she was more physically active on a daily basis but now she has an office job wher...

A.   9 March 2016: Is she really overweight at the moment or did you meet her when she was extremely fit. Is this extra weight just a love handle or is it a lot of weight. Just curious because some people can be super critical and expect women(or men) to stay ... (read in full...)

Questioning my sexuality ( female ) help!!!

Q.   So I've been questioning my sexuality for a while now .. I am a female and I am attracted to men I currently have a boyfriend now and But I have been becoming really good friends with this girl I work with at my job. We hanged out and to ...

A.   8 March 2016: What Honeypie said is a good point, imagine if a man was hitting on your boyfriend and he was trying to work out how to make it happen, you wouldn't feel all that great. Let me know what you meant to begin with, did you mean that you are question... (read in full...)

My ex keeps asking me about other guys that I meet! It’s confusing!

Q.   Really need help please!! my ex boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. he first said the reason why was because he didn't love me anymore, but then he gave other reasons saying he wasn't ready, he was also telling his family different reason ...

A.   8 March 2016: You need to stop talking to him or you will never move on. He breaks up with you but still has an effect on you trying to find somebody else. He can't pry into your personal life at arms length when he knows you would like to see him. It probably ... (read in full...)

He's going to propose soon but our sex life has disappeared!

Q.   Hi all... so my boyfriend and I are taking a big trip to California in October and while there we have planned to secretly elope. He hasn't yet proposed lol. But he has been looking at rings (ads appearing on my computer and he also left an email ...

A.   8 March 2016: I don't think I'd have a very active sex life living with parents so probably that has a lot to do with it. I'm sorry to hear you had a miscarriage and it might have effected him and the way he's feeling. Coping with the loss of a baby, health ... (read in full...)

I told her I didn’t think she was hot, but that she was super cute, and that’s when the trouble started! Help?

Q.   So let me begin by saying im happy being in a relationship with my girlfriend. I love her and im thinking she could be the one. But over a month of dating she said she was ready to take our relationship to tbe next level. She's ready to have sex...

A.   8 March 2016: I'm really short, I have a baby face and I look a lot younger than I am, I would love to be some leggy Amazonian goddess who men find hot but I'm not. I get called cute and pretty but to be thought of as hot would be a much nicer compliment. Being ... (read in full...)

My husband calling me fat after a baby is not cool!

Q.   My husband is appearing to be non supportive and loving after I had a baby. What kills me is that he is constantly acting like he is obsessed with every beautiful woman he comes across. I feel left out in the beautiful woman praise because he ...

A.   8 March 2016: Ok so it's good he's not an opportunist and he's great in lots of other aspects with your family. Some men can be quite sarcastic and talk to a woman the same way as they talk to their friends. The way he comments about other women to you does he ... (read in full...)

Questioning my sexuality ( female ) help!!!

Q.   So I've been questioning my sexuality for a while now .. I am a female and I am attracted to men I currently have a boyfriend now and But I have been becoming really good friends with this girl I work with at my job. We hanged out and to ...

A.   8 March 2016: And yes as Cindy says you only do this when you are single. Not every man in the world has the fantasy of his girlfriend being with another woman, it would still be cheating. ... (read in full...)

My husband calling me fat after a baby is not cool!

Q.   My husband is appearing to be non supportive and loving after I had a baby. What kills me is that he is constantly acting like he is obsessed with every beautiful woman he comes across. I feel left out in the beautiful woman praise because he ...

A.   8 March 2016: I'm not sure if it's true he wants to be in the US because of better job opportunities, the unemployment rate in the US is quite similar to the UK. Although we love having a good moan about things the UK has a pretty good standard of living and ... (read in full...)

Questioning my sexuality ( female ) help!!!

Q.   So I've been questioning my sexuality for a while now .. I am a female and I am attracted to men I currently have a boyfriend now and But I have been becoming really good friends with this girl I work with at my job. We hanged out and to ...

A.   8 March 2016: I know you say that you are becoming really good friends with her but can you see this friendship lasting a long time, that would be life long and you would stay in touch if you didn't work together. Getting in to a sexual relationship wit... (read in full...)

Hurts me that ex bf found love and moved on so quickly meanwhile I'm still hurt

Q.   I hope this doesn't come off rude or pathetic but I really need some advice. It's been only 2 months since the guy I was with for 3 years (and who I was really in love with) broke up with me and started dating someone else immediately afte...

A.   8 March 2016: Of course it doesn't come across as rude, I don't know why you would think that, and no not pathetic as everybody has a hard time when this happens. I've been in this situation myself, I was with someone for 8 years, we have two children, we had... (read in full...)

I wonder if he’s really interested in me, and whether I should tell him about his best friend?

Q.   Last August I got with a guy for he first time, I went back to school and he went to college I didn't think much of it until I bumped into him a few weeks later at a party and he approached me and we chatted while both sobar. Two weeks later we saw ...

A.   8 March 2016: I'm a bit confused by the last part where you say should you tell him you had sex with his best friend over the summer. If this jealous ex is the person you are referring to over the summer then surely he would already know you had sex because he ... (read in full...)

Did my boyfriend act unreasonable in this situation?

Q.   Did my boyfriend act unreasonable in this situation? Now my boyfriend has said that he hates when I drink alcohol, I don't drink often and when I do its at family birthdays and bbq's in the house. Hes always with me when I drink because I invite ...

A.   8 March 2016: I just read AuntyBimBim's response that lead me to your other question. He does sound controlling telling you what to wear, I didn't agree with him shouting and being angry in the street anyway but then reading he punches lamp posts he sounds ... (read in full...)

Did my boyfriend act unreasonable in this situation?

Q.   Did my boyfriend act unreasonable in this situation? Now my boyfriend has said that he hates when I drink alcohol, I don't drink often and when I do its at family birthdays and bbq's in the house. Hes always with me when I drink because I invite ...

A.   8 March 2016: I don't think it's so much of an issue that he doesn't like people drinking at all it's more the fact that you say you get 'cheeky and loud'. I can relate to this, when I have a drink I get louder, I love having a dance and it's ok when others ... (read in full...)

A young pretty woman gets special attention whenever she has a maintenance problem. Do I tell his wife about this? How do I address it?

Q.   I work as an maintenance assistant for a local housing association. In the office we deal with tenants on daily basis for repairs. Most of them get turned away unless it is serious or have to wait a few days for the repair. However there is a female ...

A.   6 March 2016: I live in a housing association flat and I also work at a call centre that takes calls for a housing association. As far as the little world that I live in is concerned people phone us up to get things done, not walk in the office to log a repair. ... (read in full...)

My Boyfriend has gone to Canada for the weekend. Should I be mad that he did this?

Q.   So I've been with my bf of and on for the past two years he is 28 I am 32. Recently things have been really progressing with us it's been good. He has told me that he has wanted to take a trip to Canada and for financial reasons I am just strapped...

A.   6 March 2016: It doesn't matter if you are right next door, how many miles is it from the most southern point of the US to the most northern? I live in the UK and the distance between Florida and Canada is the same as me driving to Greece for the weekend. I ... (read in full...)

How can I recover my self esteem? I was called ugly by a friend of my boyfriend

Q.   I don’t even know the lad, never spoken to him. The only time we ever came into the vicinity of one another it was at a party my boyfriend invited me to. Apparently he keeps talking about me to my boyfriend in a vulgar/crude (sexual) way, which to...

A.   6 March 2016: Did you actually hear this guy saying this? Why on earth would your boyfriend want to tell you that somebody thinks you are ugly? He's either incredibly dumb or he's said it to put you off him. I think your boyfriend has told you this so ther... (read in full...)

After more than 4 years I now feel nothing for him. Is there any point in continuing this relationship?

Q.   Hi all, I need some advise. Is there any point in continuing a 4+ year relationship when I just can't seem to look at him the same way anymore? I look at him and feel nothing on most days now, on some- a little disappointment. It's bee...

A.   6 March 2016: Did he support you through this abortion? It's a big deal and effects a lot of women badly, even though there is no shame in doing it and you made the choice for solid reasons it still gets to you. I have the impression that these broken pro... (read in full...)

Is flirting cheating?

Q.   Where do I begin? Basically I am a flirty person by nature, and I never really had a problem with that, I have my fun, mess around, and never really have anything that lasts. However, just over a year ago now I met a girl who I really fell for. We ...

A.   6 March 2016: Ok maybe it is in your nature, but other bad personality traits can be in peoples nature. Think of some bad things that would turn you off a woman, laziness, selfishness, being a bit of a b*tch. We all have bad aspects of ourselves that w... (read in full...)

Why does he treat me like a last priority?

Q.   Its been two year i am dating my boyfriend. Last year when my birthday came,i thought he will plan something special for me. I went to his home and when i asked him " where is my birthday gift" . He said i don't have any, i am always like this and i ...

A.   4 March 2016: I guess I'd be a little disappointed if my boyfriend didn't buy me a birthday gift, it doesn't show a very caring side to him does it. But asking where your gift is is a little bit rude, then demanding he buy you chocolates and being in a bit of a ... (read in full...)

Is there a way to get over my anxiety about tattoos? My girlfriend has two!

Q.   I have a problem with tattoos on women and don't know what it is, after a girlfriend got her second one I lost it and flipped out and my anxiety level goes up around her and everyone in her family has tattoos and that bothers me more, Is there an...

A.   4 March 2016: What's this tattoo like? Is it a big old ugly thing or is it small and discreet? I guess you chose her because you were attracted to her and the more of these she gets the less attracted you will be. I don't think you should be bothered about h... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is hiding 1/2 naked photos of women in his locked app on his phone

Q.   I've been with my partner for a year and a half. There were trust issues before the relationship started as he was seeing myself and my work colleague at the same time. We eventually got through the issues and all has been fine since. Recently ...

A.   4 March 2016: Apple are a multi billion dollar company and I'm sure that they could fight successfully against the FBI on that matter. It doesn't mean that what they are doing is morally right because I don't think anybody would believe that! I have an ex w... (read in full...)

Why why do girls dump guys who treat a girl like an angel?

Q.   I wonder why ladies, I never hear a woman, talk about them dumping a nice guy, on here. I here all the time,How they get hurt, by the guy who treated them bad. It does happen all the time, a guy treats a woman fantastic. Then a woman, breaks t...

A.   4 March 2016: Janniepeg has hit the nail on the head with this, it's all about testosterone. The fact of the matter is that females are attracted to testosterone and pheromones. In other words we can't help who we are attracted to, it all comes down to biolo... (read in full...)

I'm 8 months pregnant and boyfriend needs space. He's leaving me when I need him the most!

Q.   Im 8 months pregnant and me and my boyfriend have not been getting on. Most of the time its down to him keep going out every weekend and come back rolling drunk the next day or so later. My hormones are all over the place too and I snap at ...

A.   4 March 2016: I was under the impression that he was quite young when you said he goes out every weekend and comes home that drunk. But he's 37! He needs to grow up a bit. I would say you need to try your best to be calm to talk to him about this behaviour b... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is hiding 1/2 naked photos of women in his locked app on his phone

Q.   I've been with my partner for a year and a half. There were trust issues before the relationship started as he was seeing myself and my work colleague at the same time. We eventually got through the issues and all has been fine since. Recently ...

A.   3 March 2016: Do you actually want to stay with a man who does this? You say at the end that you don't want the relationship to end you just want a way to bring this to his attention without him getting angry that you looked. Say he didn't get angry that you l... (read in full...)

He lied about his drug use in the past, but then was upset that I needed time to deal with my anger about his lying. Shouldn't we take some time to calm down when we are angry?

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles, having a little problem in my relationship and I always find the advice here helpful. Recently I found out that my boyfriend used to do drugs. When we were going out, he did not tell me about his drug history. I specifically ...

A.   2 March 2016: While I personally don't feel that drugs are an automatic road to self destruction and yes many successful people have taken drugs, you obviously feel differently and this is why you asked him outright not only if he ever did drugs but also asked if ... (read in full...)

How do I make this threesome idea happen?

Q.   I want have a threesome with my wife and friend. the game plan is they should not know each other so I want to blind fold them and to convince them for this and then the game goes on.... suggest me how to make this wonderful...!?...

A.   2 March 2016: What do you mean convince them that they don't know each other? The way that you have worded things makes it sound like you are the only one who really has any idea of what will be going on! So are you sure everybody is as up for this as you ... (read in full...)

He left because after I had our children he was not attracted to me.

Q.   I'm sitting here pretty emotional tonight. You probably get questions having to do with this subject often, but how can a young woman work on body confidence? When I was only 19 I gave birth to beautiful twin baby girls. I had a normal pregnancy...

A.   28 March 2015: Hey my body looked like crap for a long time after I had my children. I had c sections because my pelvis is too small and the babies got stuck. When you have a c section your stomach muscles are just ruined. It took me a long time to deal with ... (read in full...)

Is it time I ended my two year relationship with him over his disparaging nasty remarks to me?

Q.   My family is going on a vacation. They rented out a nice cabin. They asked my boyfriend if he was interested in possibly coming with. The only catch is they didn't have room in the car for him so he's probably have to drive himself there but they...

A.   7 March 2015: I don't agree with the anonymous male saying that it isn't fair for her to complain because he shouldn't have to spend all his money on her. They asked him if he wanted to go with them, he didn't have to say yes in the first place if he knew... (read in full...)

My husband has let himself go, and I don't know what to do!

Q.   Hello, My husband and I have been married for a little bit over two years. A year ago, he was diagnosed with a chronic disease. He is supposed to put it into remission a while ago. The problem is he doesn't take care of himself. It's true ...

A.   7 March 2015: I just noticed your post about him having addiction problems too, I understand why you are frustrated with him. You said you helped him at his lowest point of depression and through his addiction, is him becoming over weight harder you for to deal ... (read in full...)

My husband has let himself go, and I don't know what to do!

Q.   Hello, My husband and I have been married for a little bit over two years. A year ago, he was diagnosed with a chronic disease. He is supposed to put it into remission a while ago. The problem is he doesn't take care of himself. It's true ...

A.   7 March 2015: Normally I'd say we all have a duty to keep ourselves in shape for our other halves, but in this case his chronic illness you mention needs a bit of consideration. I had a nice figure a year or two ago and worked hard for it but then something b... (read in full...)

I am not happy with the size of it!

Q.   Hello people, this maybe a daft issue but it really gets to me. I have been depressed for ages now and well I feel the most of it is I'm not happy with my penis size. My first relationship ended with the girl dumping me and then spreading th...

A.   7 March 2015: My ex worried about this a lot, ok it wasn't that big but unless a woman was like massive down there she'll still feel exactly the same thing as if the penis was an inch or two longer. I can honestly say it always feels the same to me whatever the ... (read in full...)

Is it time I ended my two year relationship with him over his disparaging nasty remarks to me?

Q.   My family is going on a vacation. They rented out a nice cabin. They asked my boyfriend if he was interested in possibly coming with. The only catch is they didn't have room in the car for him so he's probably have to drive himself there but they...

A.   7 March 2015: My ex always said things like that when we argued, amongst many other things. He used to call my mother slow and retarded all the time too. Whenever we got into an argument he would say I was mental and stupid as if to say well I'm right and your ... (read in full...)

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