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Just Two

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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...

A little humility goes a long way

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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...

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She's boring and bland and I need to cut her loose but how do I let her down without hurting her feelings?

Q.   Hello everyone, I've recently been speaking to a girl that I got speaking to through social media. I just randomly messaged her one day and things took off and we've now been speaking for roughly two months. We went on a date after about 10 d...

A.   21 August 2017: You're right OP, that's what dating is all about.... Till a point. You can test the waters and get a feel of things but you don't / didn't have to get physical. That's NOT a part of seeing if you get along. Things always get complicated when sex is ... (read in full...)

She's boring and bland and I need to cut her loose but how do I let her down without hurting her feelings?

Q.   Hello everyone, I've recently been speaking to a girl that I got speaking to through social media. I just randomly messaged her one day and things took off and we've now been speaking for roughly two months. We went on a date after about 10 d...

A.   20 August 2017: You say she's a genuine and nice girl. It's hard to find good people in the world and you might just be letting go of one. Thrill and passion don't last forever... goodness does. It's unfair though, you were the one who contacted her and star... (read in full...)

Why would he say he isn't right for me, yet I'm right for him but he still doesn't want a relationship?

Q.   Please be patient as I outline my story. We were good friends and disclosed our feelings for each other a few months after re-establishing contact. He's been supportive of me from the beginning, and we have always playfully flirted. There was ...

A.   20 August 2017: The long and short of it is that he's just not that into you. If he were, he wouldn't be dilly dallying this way. If a guy wants to be with you then nothing or no one can stop him. He will do everything and I mean every single thing that he can, to ... (read in full...)

We've fallen out over nothing. What do I do?

Q.   I've been hanging out with this girl for the past 2 months(i know im slow). We have a pretty good friendship and I could tell it was heading towards a relationship. We had an awesome couple of days planned(aka dates) and basically we broke down and ...

A.   20 August 2017: Call her. You need to stop this texting business and pick up your phone and talk to her. I personally dislike texts because a lot of lost in translation. It's an easy way out to escape having an actual conversation but if you like this girl and want ... (read in full...)

He spent 5 years in prison for crippling a child in a drunken car accident

Q.   Would you date someone with a criminal record ? I met this guy at a party of a mutual friend. We spent the whole night talking and exchanged numbers. After spending hours a day texting / talking we went on an amazing first date. At the end of ...

A.   19 August 2017: I wouldn't date him if I were you. Not because that would be my way of "punishing" him but because he's spent 5 years in prison, he's destroyed a child's life and you have no idea the baggage that he has with him. I see that a lot of aunts have ... (read in full...)

Could our relationship be salvaged?

Q.   So this past Monday my girlfriend of 6 months split up with me. She's just got back from a week away with her sister and the day she went away told me she had been thinking about it because of how I react to things and how she's constantly worrying ...

A.   17 August 2017: Its been 6 months! You cant possibly react like that for something that has lasted for this short a span of time. Its not like a 10 year relationship ended! Im not saying that you can quantify your feelings in terms of the number of years that you ... (read in full...)

I cant break up with her because she threatens self harm.

Q.   Hi, So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years total now with some time in between here and there. I've been on the fence about breaking up with her for the entirety of this summer but I haven't been able to act on it because she is s...

A.   14 August 2017: Sweetheart this girl is going to wear you down and it's only a matter of time before you say enough is enough. Keep in mind that barking dogs seldom bite so I highly doubt if she will really self harm. In any case, I think you should inform her ... (read in full...)

When its good its great but right now its bad.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend now for roughly four months. It's long distance so things have gotten intense pretty quickly! We were planning to move in together but I felt it was too soon so I told him how I felt. Since then things have not been ...

A.   10 August 2017: For what it's worth, I don't think you should pay him back for the holiday for the simple reason that you didn't want it in the first place. Just don't accept meals from him or anything else but the next time he throws the holiday at your face, ... (read in full...)

When its good its great but right now its bad.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend now for roughly four months. It's long distance so things have gotten intense pretty quickly! We were planning to move in together but I felt it was too soon so I told him how I felt. Since then things have not been ...

A.   10 August 2017: Slow down. You're spending way too much time together at just 4 months. Moving in should be completely ruled out because that's just going to end in a big disaster. He's a bitter bully... Saying that you have no class and are fake is unacceptable. ... (read in full...)

I blurted out I LOVE YOU to my married boyfriend. Why does he still want to be with me?

Q.   I told my married boyfriend of 3.5 years that I LOVE HIM yesterday. It just came out. I did not mean to say it but I did. He was asking me why do I stay with a guy like him? He called himself average, boring, not so attractive yet said I am ...

A.   9 August 2017: I don't think he gives a flying duck about what you say or feel as long as you're sleeping with him. Come on, you're his mistress, we all know how that's going to play out. However, I just re-read your question again and I think you're trying to s... (read in full...)

What makes a person act like my ex did?

Q.   I was dating a guy for about two years. Around April of 2017 he breaks off the relationship. I was being needy and angry during that time because I was in my senior year of college and it was finals. And my father had stage four cancer he got really ...

A.   8 August 2017: There. Right there. Your father was dying and this guy says that he doesn't have the "time" to comfort you, he doesn't "know" how to and he'd rather be with his own father and impress him. This is when you should have walked away immediately without ... (read in full...)

Cheating past discovered via old emails! Should I confront him?

Q.   ve been with my bf for almost 10 years now. I've never had any issues, and never even had a slight suspicion that he would do anything he's not supposed to, and never had trust issues with him (maybe I'm too naive?) one thing always peeved me off ...

A.   6 August 2017: Let's forget the snooping for a moment.Now tell me, what exactly do you plan to do. You either confront him or you don't.If you don't then you won't ever live in peace so you'll most likely ask him.He might deny at first but he has to accept ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a good guy but I don't know if I am wasting my time

Q.   My boyfriend dated a French girl for 2 years and was very open about it. They went on vacations, posted affectionate pictures online and lived in as well. They broke up amicably and remain friends. My boyfriend and I started on a rough note. I wa...

A.   4 August 2017: You're jealous of his past aren't you? Isn't that why you had a rough beginning? Because of the French girl and how secure his relationship seemed with her? Honestly why are you with him if he's commitment phobic? You're scaring him, pressuring him, ... (read in full...)

How do I break my news to the family?

Q.   My bf and I have known each other since high school, he have been dating for 10 months. We have talked about marriage a lot and have started looking at houses together. Three weeks ago I found out I was pregnant. I was using bc but recently switched ...

A.   31 July 2017: You didn't go about this the right way. You should have told then about the pregnancy first. Of course they're pissed, they have every reason to be! They have no clue what's going on and you suddenly spring "I'm getting married on Thursday. Be there ... (read in full...)

He changed his mind about getting married so who keeps the ring?

Q.   A few weeks ago my ex fiancé basically told me that he didn't want to get married then he told me he was no longer in love with me. Then a few weeks later he basically tells me I'm in love with you but your not my soulmate. I was annoyed and I do...

A.   30 July 2017: *Pressed send without completing my answer ... Yeah so I was saying, the man wasn't ever madly in love with you so I doubt he'll want to stay friends now. Just give him back the ring and don't hold on to relics of the past; they will only serve as... (read in full...)

He changed his mind about getting married so who keeps the ring?

Q.   A few weeks ago my ex fiancé basically told me that he didn't want to get married then he told me he was no longer in love with me. Then a few weeks later he basically tells me I'm in love with you but your not my soulmate. I was annoyed and I do...

A.   30 July 2017: I'm sorry this is going to sound harsh but this is not a contest to see who can get more petty. He's asking for something that he had gifted and you're refusing to give it back. Neither of these actions are in good taste. How will keeping the ring ... (read in full...)

Tired of my freinds' boasting about their conquests

Q.   My friends are all in relationships, all very serious, one just got engaged. I'm happy for all of them, really I am, but here's the thing, the last time I had any sort of relationship was when I was 15, and I clearly wasn't enough for him because he ...

A.   28 July 2017: Your weight isn't the problem. Your friends are. Just because they are in relationships doesn't mean that you have to be in one as well. It's not a contest. And I really doubt how happy they are because if someone is really happy and secure in their ... (read in full...)

Is what we are doing right?

Q.   Hello everyone actually I'm quite curious to tell about my relation as I'm dating a guy and it's been just 1 mth that we have been in a relation and he always likes licking my boobs and he always like to put his hand n rub in my private part i a...

A.   27 July 2017: This has troll written all over it! In any case if this is a serious question, we're not here to moralize. You're 18 years old, it's your choice what you do. Just be safe and don't let anyone take advantage of you. Proceed with caution when you... (read in full...)

I thought he liked me but now I'm confused

Q.   Hi all. My brother came from his college and he was sharing his experience with me. He is studying abroad. His friends had seen me in pictures because obviously my brother should have shown them our family pictures. Once my brother showed one of h...

A.   27 July 2017: Don't do anything. Because you've initiated contact first and my guess is that he knows you're interested in him. I don't believe in these excuses that he's hesitant to talk to you because of your brother. If someone is interested in you then ... (read in full...)

think they are way too secretive and just honestly don't want them anywhere near each other!

Q.   Okay so before me and my bf were dating he had a crush on my best friend but nothing ever happened because he was actually dating someone else. We winded up dating about a yr later. We were kind of like a trio before our romance started but as time...

A.   16 July 2017: He's right. You have to give him credit because despite being an idiot, he's given you two great options and both very do-able. He's actually solved your problem for you and has shown you the exit route! Just do what he says. You need to brea... (read in full...)

Things were good until his ex' got involved

Q.   I met a guy online in January who is a really great guy. He's a bit older than me but that doesn't bother me. He's 37,I'm 27. We spoke for about 3 weeks before we met for real. We got on instantly and after a few weeks, we began spending more and ...

A.   16 July 2017: Ten stars to Aunty BimBim... Couldn't have said it better!! Yes, and in short, run for the hills. Plus, you don't even know who or with how many of them he's involved. Are you really naive enough to think that you're the only online girl he's dup... (read in full...)

How can I stop liking my married coworker?

Q.   How can I stop thinking about my coworker? I have developed a crush on a new coworker in my new job - he is quite handsome but married. He is friendly but we have never been innapropriate - we on chat about silly things and we added each other on ...

A.   11 July 2017: Nothing wrong with having a crush as long as you don't act on it or expect anything to happen. It's not a crime to appreciate beauty and to find someone handsome but you should know that he's off limits and expect nothing from him. Don't ever all... (read in full...)

How do I get out of loving the "other man" when I'm a married woman?

Q.   4 years ago I became colleagues with a man I met online. He knew I was married from the beginning and he was always platonic with me, or so I thought, Things soon started getting weird between us and he started acting jealous whenever I'd men...

A.   11 July 2017: You only have yourself to blame. If you're so weak that you allow this man to just walk in and out of your life and take all these liberties with you then it's your problem, not his. You could have told him to take a hike, to get lost, to never ever ... (read in full...)

Is she interested or a flake?

Q.   Hey there, I am recently out of a relationship and ready to start dating again. Went back online and met a cool girl who I really clicked with. We messaged a few times back and forth, exchanged numbers and text quite a bit. Before our first date s...

A.   9 July 2017: I think she's just not interested enough and you said it, she's a flake. She's come up with every excuse as well... Working overtime, bad day-need space, sick. Nah, not worth it. I say you move on.... (read in full...)

How to cope with abuse for mixed race relationship?

Q.   Hello, I have been with my amazing boyfriend of 3 and a half years and we are more than happy. I am a black female and he is a white male and we constantly receive horrible comments and a few uncomfortable stares in restaurants, beaches, cinemas ...

A.   9 July 2017: Verbal abuse when you're walking down the streets? Really? It's that bad? I'm surprised reading about this because I hadn't thought that discrimination on this basis was so extreme. I'm sorry you've had to go through this but really you have to ... (read in full...)

Why is everyone sceptical about a 'friends with benefits' arrangement?

Q.   So a while back me and my friend had sex a couple of times. We actually live in a shared house with other people, although they don't know that anything happened between us. We had known each other for about a year before this happened, and had ...

A.   5 July 2017: Why do you bother about what other people say and why the need to discuss your sex life with your friends? If it's working for you then it is and that's that. Enjoy it without thinking too much about it. I must admit however that it seems yo... (read in full...)

Trivial Fights getting out of control

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have had our ups and downs. When it is good it is REALLY good. The passion is high. We share a lot and are similar in many ways. But we have had our share of down-at-the mouth fights. Somehow we ...

A.   5 July 2017: If there was one piece of advice that I could give you then it would be to run for the hills. These are not trivial fights and he's not just another annoying boyfriend. He's someone who is not to be trusted, he has anger management problems... (read in full...)

Does this mean he just wants casual sex?

Q.   There's this guy who used to work with my dad, who's a few year younger than me but we seemed to get on. Every time I went into his work (a pub) he seemed to be having the usual barman banter and fun with me (sometimes he'd go a little further ...

A.   5 July 2017: If you're into casual sex then it's your call but I would stay away from this cheap, creepy guy if I were you. ... (read in full...)

He lied to my face, only admitted it after I told him I had seen proof

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. We broke up for about a month or so in between, in which he admitted to kissing a girl. That's it he says.I don't care about any of that, we were broken up. However, I found a condom in his backpack. We ...

A.   1 July 2017: I guess your question is, should you trust him? Well here's your answer. You choose your worries. If you decide that he's not worth the headache and the drama then just leave. Why bust your head over someone who's not worth it?... (read in full...)

New Flatmate Is Already Causing Trouble. How To Deal?

Q.   I'm a working professional, returning to uni in October and as my previous flatmates were moving city I found a room for the summer. Basically there are three international students who usually live in this flat but two of them went back to their ...

A.   1 July 2017: Both you and the other girl should speak to this guy and ask him to keep it down. Ideally the other girl should put in a word with the landlord but my guess is that she won't. I guess that leaves you with two options. Either you hope that thi... (read in full...)

What's going on? I am confused why my partner is now an issue.

Q.   I need some objective clarity. So here goes. When we were teens, say 16 years ago, he had a major crush on me and we went out a few times. I never reciprocated because I guess there weren't any feelings there, and I distanced myself from him. He ...

A.   29 June 2017: No, he doesn't have feelings for you. I think he sees you as someone running after him and he enjoys the attention. He may lead you on for the ego boost because at one point of time it was the other way around but he's not interested in you. Your ... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend had me arrested for harassment charges! Has anyone else experienced this?

Q.   I need some advice please. I was with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and the relationship was great, we had so much in common and were lovers but also best friends. I have abandonment issues and eventually started to self destruct until, after weeks of...

A.   26 June 2017: How can you get arrested for no reason at all and for no fault of yours? If that's the case then you shouldn't be writing here, you should be fighting the legal system! I have a feeling though that there's more to what you're telling us. ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?

Q.   So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...

A.   21 June 2017: Sorry and I forgot to add and basically to answer the headline question, I don't think she's trying to break *you* up per se, she'll do this with any girl in your place. Like a dog in the manger thing.... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?

Q.   So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...

A.   21 June 2017: High maintenance? My God you're the exact opposite! How you're putting up with so much is beyond me! He's slept with this woman, he's kissing her in front of you, she is making declarations that your boyfriend is hers, she doesn't let you two spen... (read in full...)

Is there something going on between my husband and his co-worker?

Q.   Why is my husband gets annoyed when i ask him a question about the woman that he always with most of everyday at work? Is he having an enotional affair with this woman? It does not mean that i am doubting him. I tried to not be negative about i...

A.   20 June 2017: As difficult as this is for you, it's not going to make things better if you constantly keep asking him about her. Not only are you giving him ideas when hopefully there are none, you're giving that woman way too much importance. I know it's tem... (read in full...)

I changed my mind about having children, he wants children would this be the end of our relationship?

Q.   Hi everyone, this one is a difficult one for me. I recently got engaged to a man I love and think the world off, the time we been together we have had minor disagreements, but other than that the relationship has progressed smoothly. Lately I have ...

A.   16 June 2017: I don't think that anyone has ever regretted having a child. Saying "fine I won't have a child, problem solved" is not solving the problem at all. It's just pushing the problem under the carpet. I think you're very angry at him now and since you ... (read in full...)

My partner is making me feel bad for not letting him live with me permanently. What should I do?

Q.   When I first met my partner, I explained in the first 3 months my views about living together before engagement. I explained that I have lived with an ex in the past and it didn't work, so therefore I want to wait until engagement before living ...

A.   16 June 2017: Why did he sell his place without first having secured some other place to live? Where are all his belongings at this point of time? How can a grown man just sell his house and have nowhere to go to? I find this very strange. He's banking on you to ... (read in full...)

I'm devastated because I tried my hardest but I couldn't make it to the Universities of my choice. How do I break the news to my parents?

Q.   Hi everyone, I literally just got my results of my exams today and unfortunately i did not make the requirements of the universities i have chosen. I fell a little short of the requirements so its not too bad. The problem is, both unis actual...

A.   14 June 2017: What a brilliant answer by Aunt YouWish!! If only there was a rating higher than 5 stars! This is not the? end of the road for you; this is just how life is going to be now that you're out in the big bad world. OP when I was a student, I too de... (read in full...)

Why am I so stuck on social media?

Q.   Hello everyone About two years ago I used to hang out with a group of girls that weren't that great - they were gossip fueled - vain - and all they cared about is showing off and getting married. For two years I fell into that hole - I started...

A.   12 June 2017: What makes you think that getting a guy is equal to winning? By the way, you should also keep something else in mind. The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it on Facebook. I don't think this needs any elaboration, doe... (read in full...)

I'm married and have fallen for a married friend. Do I pursue this?

Q.   I am 29 years old. Im maried in 2010 with 2 kids (3 and 5). I met my wife when i was 15 and have been with her ever since. I have never cheated on her or even talked to another woman inappropriately. But the other day we were hanging out with some ...

A.   12 June 2017: I don't think anyone is going to encourage you to go ahead with this affair and break you're marriage over this. You got married at 22. That is way too young to get married because you're still growing up and just beginning to see the real wor... (read in full...)

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