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Just Two

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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...

A little humility goes a long way

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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...

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My wife wants to use a sperm donor to ensure that our third child isn't autistic but I’m not sure how I feel about this.

Q.   My wife (34f) and I (36m) have been married for just over six years and in many ways have an ideal marriage and are very much still in love. Despite two kids, we still have sex 2 - 3 times per week. We still find time for getaways nearby beaches, ...

A.   19 September 2018: If both you and your wife are not on the sand page regarding this then there is no way you should go ahead with it. Because if you look at it the way it is without any sugar-coating, it will just be your wife's baby. Not yours. You will basically be ... (read in full...)

My fiance is a virgin but I've slept with 6 people and had an abortion. Do I need to tell him all this?

Q.   Hi, I am engaged to a wonderful guy from the last 5 months, we are going to get married this December 2018,I came to know by investigation and inspection and his views and thoughts and actions, that he is a virgin and he is against premarital sex ...

A.   19 September 2018: Don't tell him anything. You're starting a new life and while you've done nothing to be ashamed of, your fiance might not see it like that. The guys you've been involved with are probably living life unscathed and there's no reason why you should ... (read in full...)

She owes me money but is adamant she transferred the money!

Q.   Hello This is not so much a dating question or anything, but I have used this website before for advice and found it helpful. A girl I have been on and off chatting to asked me if she could borrow £1000 to repair her damaged car. I agreed...

A.   17 September 2018: She's obviously lying and you've been fleeced. Do you know where she stays? You need to somehow contact her and ensure that you prove to her that you haven't received the money. And as aunt honeypie says, contact a lawyer. The amount is too big ... (read in full...)

DId I ruin a good thing by commenting on his social media and being petty?

Q.   Hey guys, I'm in a dilemma with a guy. So the beginning of August, I start talking to this college athlete that goes to the neighboring school. Everything is great, affection, attention, dates, sex and spending time. Until about a week ago, he pos...

A.   11 September 2018: I personally think that he's being a tad overdramatic...I mean this is really no great reason to break something off just like that. But then it goes to show you what you mean to him and I think whatever happened was for the best because at least ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants me to help support him as he tries to strengthen his knee!

Q.   Hello I would like your opinion on this. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We live in the USA, he lives in the East Coast, while I live in the West Coast. We've been together for about three years. My boyfriend injured himself ...

A.   5 September 2018: Don't give him a single penny. His story is as dodgy as his knee and there is no way your should fall for his brazen shamelessness.... (read in full...)

Does this indicate that there is more than a friendship or just nothing to worry about?

Q.   Ok so my boyfriend has a female friend which happens to be his accountant but he told me they are also friends,they around the same age group, he is older than me, when my bf did his housewarming get together he invited me and my family plus his ...

A.   5 September 2018: Well I wouldn't worry. While she's obviously interested in him... Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out... He's not. And that's what is important here. Look you can't stop someone from falling for you or looking at you a certain ... (read in full...)

Is it unreasonable that I don't want to know about his personal masterbation habits?

Q.   I hope this question is not too vulgar. It's actually quite personal and embarrassing but I'm not sure how to handle my situation most effectively without some advice. I'm sorry for the length. It's a two part question i guess. A few weeks ag...

A.   3 September 2018: If porn is a touchy subject for you and your ex has given your grief over it then why on earth did you want to bring it into your bedroom with the new guy? OP I don't know if you realise it or not but you're trying to self-sabotage your relation... (read in full...)

After one date his messages have become short and infrequent. Should I give up?

Q.   I connected with a guy on a dating app and we hit it off. We seemed to be on the same wavelength, there seemed to be a lot of chemistry, a real attraction. We continuously messaged each other. We arranged to meet and counted down the days. The ...

A.   1 September 2018: I'm jumping in late but I'll add my two cents. I've said it many times before here and I'll say it again...if a man likes you and wants to be with you then nothing and I mean nothing can stop him. Do you remember that episode of Sex and the City ... (read in full...)

Turnng 30 and getting itchy feet about passionless relationship

Q.   Hi, I don't know what to do or how to feel. I have lived at home with my parents until not long ago. I was always a good kid and studied hard and didn't go out partying. I've bought a house and moved in with my partner of 10 years. I have bee...

A.   24 August 2018: You know what they say... Why buy the cow when you're getting the milk free? You've bought a house with him and living together so basically you're his wife without it being legal. You're cooking, cleaning, sharing a bed, finances, responsi... (read in full...)

I’m ready to buy my first home but I’m not sure about buying it with my boyfriend!

Q.   I'm 24 and I'm ready to buy my first home. I have been saving for years and years and finally have enough for a small deposit. I currently live at home with my mum and I've never lived elsewhere. Living at home and just paying rent and the food shop ...

A.   14 August 2018: The guy who gives you butterflies also calls you names not worth mentioning and no, no amount of pressure from home or work gives anyone a right to be nasty with anyone. You are always responsible for how you act, no matter how you feel. Remember ... (read in full...)

My husband slapped me on the face because he didn't like what I was wearing and I wouldn't change

Q.   3 years ago, i thought i met the love of my life. I've been in the US for 4 years, since I've been working there i met this man, we got into a relationship and after 1 year, he proposed to me. I was madly in love with him. Since we got married, he ...

A.   6 August 2018: You're not convinced by what your parents are telling you and you're asking strangers on the internet for permission to divorce this guy? Yes please, in that case! He hit you... He could very well keep you locked up next to avoid men lookin... (read in full...)

I rejected my ideal guy years ago, and now he's with someone else and it's driving me crazy. Help!

Q.   Hey, I'm writing this partly to get it off my chest and partly because I need to change something about this situation, even if it's just my way of thinking about it. 5 years ago I was single, much more stupid than I am now, and met a brillia...

A.   30 July 2018: Yes, it's a terrible idea. It's not up to you to decide how Ben's relationship is and if it's platonic or romantic. You're being very judgmental of him and his girlfriend and just because you want what you can't have gives you no et to spoil so... (read in full...)

We moved in way too quickly and now finances are breaking us apart

Q.   Hey all.. Before I start, please don’t include judgement saying I shouldn’t be living with him yet, it’s too soon to have introduced him to my daughter, etc. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating 6 months. We moved in together rather quickly ...

A.   27 July 2018: When you ask for advice on a public forum, don't start off by dictating what not to tell you. Why don't you want to be told that you moved in too quickly? Because it's the truth and you already know it and just want it to slide by? Well you know... (read in full...)

My friend never has time for me anymore since she started dating. Do I walk away?

Q.   Not sure if anyone on here can help but I wanted some advice about a friendship. One of my best friends has recently become very distant and so reluctant to see me. I've been trying to arrange to see her one weekend for several months but I jus...

A.   26 July 2018: The friction here is because you don't think that your friendship should change because of her relationship with a guy while your friend feels that you don't understand that she's busy now that she has a man in her life who takes most of her time. ... (read in full...)

In love with someone else whilst in a relationship with someone I am not in love with

Q.   I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months now. We get on really well as companions and friends, we really care about eachother and are affectionate. I know he loves me and i feel safe with him. The longstanding issue has become ...

A.   25 July 2018: I think first things first, you need to break up with your boyfriend in the nicest way possible because it's not right to treat him as a safety net. You know that's the right thing to do. Your heart says so, your instinct says so, and that is ... (read in full...)

How can I approach an actress for an autograph when she's unfriendly?

Q.   I’m going to see a favorite theater show at the theater in 2 weeks,. I’d like to say hi and get a photo with 1 of the co actors at stage door after. she’s known for being cold/unfriendly and aloof. She’s very talented and has a sma...

A.   21 July 2018: Why do you want to approach her in the first place when you know that she doesn't like interacting with people and is, as you say, cold, unfriendly and aloof? It almost seems like an invasion of privacy! Why is it so important for you to ... (read in full...)

He treats me better than my exes but I keep finding he tells lies!

Q.   I've been dating a guy for 3 months now. He treats me better then all my crappy exes did and seems to really care about keeping me around. The problem is that he's lied to me about a few things, and often tells me that he feels like he's walking ...

A.   20 July 2018: Why are you with him if you don't trust him? You're driving by his house just to check if there's anything fishy going on because your gut said so? Do you realise that he's not the one looking creepy right now? Look, I think he's no more than an i... (read in full...)

I don’t know how to move on! Advice?

Q.   I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...

A.   18 July 2018: Sweetheart you may have just had the luckiest escape of your life. There is nothing and I mean nothing worse than being with someone who abuses you. Abusers make you feel small, worthless, useless, unloved, unlovable and then you start questioning ... (read in full...)

Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!

Q.   What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...

A.   16 July 2018: The only thing that 'bothers' me just a little is that you are co-workers. More than the two months thing. You see each other every single day. I know you're not even remotely thinking of it not working out but God forbid something goes wrong and ... (read in full...)

After years of neglect, my teeth need dental care! Is this how I go about it?

Q.   Hi guys... I think this is more for support as well as advice. I've been on before about this topic but a new angle this time. So I've now got a boyfriend and one major issue I had was I hate my teeth. It's because of years of neglect ...

A.   13 July 2018: Yes OP, this IS the first step. Even if the dentist says, wow that's bad, so what? Logically tell me, so what? He/she will still do your dental work! They don't know your, they will be know you beyond just being another patient and you will soon be ... (read in full...)

Why couldn’t he understand that I needed his emotional support that day?

Q.   Monday was a sad day for me. I lost my job and broke up with my boyfriend of 4 yrs. Although I'm not too worried about being able to find another job, it still is not a happy event to be let go... I called my boyfriend and he sounded shocked ...

A.   13 July 2018: Well there you have it then. He's not made any effort to give you what you want the most... His time. And guess what, it woudn't have changed in the future either because he doesn't see it as a problem and doesn't even want to understand why it ... (read in full...)

Why couldn’t he understand that I needed his emotional support that day?

Q.   Monday was a sad day for me. I lost my job and broke up with my boyfriend of 4 yrs. Although I'm not too worried about being able to find another job, it still is not a happy event to be let go... I called my boyfriend and he sounded shocked ...

A.   12 July 2018: Whatever happens is for the best OP. You'll find a much better job and in this moment of adversity, you saw the true face of your ex boyfriend. "A friend in need is a friend indeed" is something that we were taught as kids and you can see for ... (read in full...)

She only wants to be friends but acts like we are more?

Q.   This is a complicated issue that has really affected me mentally. I've been friends with this girl since secondary school and we have always been pretty close, we got closer as we moved up to college and since becoming close friends and spen...

A.   6 July 2018: Oh please OP, no one is as naive as this girl is pretending to be. I don't believe that people need to be told what boundaries are... It's something that you just know. Inherently. In this case, the girl in question is plain and simple playing ... (read in full...)

My ex has I have slept together too many times!

Q.   My ex and I go to the same college. We see each other a lot considering we have many of the same friends. We broke up two months ago because I was stressed out a lot, and he was too about school and things happening with his family. But rece...

A.   4 July 2018: I think it's a bit of everything. You're bored, you're still not over him, seeing him reminds you of the time that you had together and the fact that you've been lovers in the past makes you comfortable which is why you end up sleeping with him over ... (read in full...)

I found out my fiancé lied about his education. Now what?

Q.   My fiancé and I were recently engaged. We have been together for two years. He moved here from out of state shortly before we met. He told me and has always said that he graduated from University A. According to him he attended University B for ...

A.   3 July 2018: Ask him immediately. You should know why he lied to you and he better have a good answer! He's going to great lengths to cover up his lies by changing his resume each time but then that's the thing with lies... One lie leads to another and before ... (read in full...)

I cheated and want to fix my relationship, but how?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years, since I was 23. He is a wonderful person. I love him, he loves me, and we've always worked so well together. We've never had any problems beyond whose turn it is to do the dishes. ...

A.   3 July 2018: You don't love your boyfriend, I'm pretty sure you have a narcissistic personality, and you cheated knowing damn well that it would lead to sex because that's exactly what you wanted and you went for it. I think right now you should break up... (read in full...)

Is it for sure that I will get a green card?

Q.   I got a divorce 3 years ago because my husband was emotionally and physically abusive. I have a 4 year old daughter, and i always do my best to sacrifice the best for her. I live in the middle east, and i always have to go to Texas, USA for months ...

A.   28 June 2018: As the male anonymous uncle pointed out, it's difficult now because Trump is very particular about immigration from Islamic nations - what with the travel ban and everything- and what you're planning might be an uphill task. Speak to someone who ... (read in full...)

Am I mean to delete all our photos from his phone?

Q.   I plan to break up with my boyfriend but I don't want to let him know until I delete all our photos together from his phone. Am I mean to delete all our photos from his phone? I never wanted to take pictures with him in the first place because I ...

A.   26 June 2018: I'm the only one who's going to go against the majority I guess. I'm not proud to say that I did this once. The guy in question was a jerk and although the photos were not questionable in the least, I still didn't want him to have them. By the end ... (read in full...)

I ask women I sleep with about their opinion on abortion because I don't want kids. How do I know the girl I'm seeing is on the same page?

Q.   So I met a wonderful girl online and we hit it off really well. We kissed on the first date, had lunch on the second, and ended up sleeping with each other on the third when she invited me over to her apartment for pizza and a movie. We used ...

A.   22 June 2018: I somehow find this to be very strange. Do you have any idea what an abortion entails for the woman? If you don't want kids that strongly, get a vasectomy or use condoms every single time or just abstain. Or else be prepared to pay child support ... (read in full...)

I'm worried he still has feelings for his ex.

Q.   Is he really over his Ex? Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years now and I thought we was both the happiest we could be. Last night he went to show me something on social media and his ex girlfriend was at the very top of his search bar I...

A.   18 June 2018: Yes, it looks like he's not over her. I'm sorry OP, this must be awful for you but it certainly looks like he's still hung up on her. The question is, what do you want to do now?... (read in full...)

Should I give both of us another chance? Or not bother?

Q.   Hi everyone. I have this ex who i was with 2 years ago. We met and everything was great so much that we moved together in 3 months so we could be closer, he lived in another city. From that moment on he gradually changed and was becoming cold, ...

A.   16 June 2018: Trust your instincts because if you feel that nothing has changed then it hasn't. You know at some level that it's going to end in a disaster yet again. You know what they say...fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. ... (read in full...)

My friend is upset with me and I am not sure what to do to mend our relationship!

Q.   Four months back one of my high school friend got married. We have been friends from last 12 years. She is a very nice lady but she was there for me in my hard times. we always had back of each other. She married her boyfriend even though she was ...

A.   16 June 2018: Don't do anything because you haven't said anything wrong. Friendship is a two-way street but right now the way she's going, it's all about her. She's old enough to realise her mistake and if she doesn't then too bad. The more you apologize, the now ... (read in full...)

All couples argue..But where do we draw a line?

Q.   My dear other half thinks his verbal abuse is just an arguement and it would be if I would agree to that. But I know there is more to it than that and it destroys me as the pattern repeats with increasing frequency. He cant see that its not a c...

A.   14 June 2018: Arguments should be healthy and shouldn't be made just to prove a point. It's good to hear both perspectives but it should be dignified. No name calling, no bringing up the past, no being petty and no dragging it out beyond the conversation. ... (read in full...)

I had a dream that my husband's best friend kissed me, and now I need help clearing my head

Q.   Dear Cupid, I've been married for three years and just found out I have a child on the way. I have a very loving and kind husband who bends over backwards for me. I love him dearly. Now, DH has a best friend that I've met only a handful of times. T...

A.   13 June 2018: Just because you're married doesn't mean you can't have a crush on someone! Don't be so hard on yourself and stop blaming yourself. You know nothing is going to come out of this, you know you're not looking for an affair and neither is he. Hey i... (read in full...)

How do you know if you're meant to be together forever?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years, lived together for almost 3 years of that. He's my best friend and we've spoken openly about marriage and kids. Anyway, my question is, how do you know if you're really meant to be together fore...

A.   12 June 2018: It's not bad that you're questioning the relationship because it just goes to show that there's always room for improvement. You know OP, I have always been a very firm believer in travelling, seeing the world, experiencing other cultures... (read in full...)

She has a guy friend stay over!

Q.   I am dating someone and have been for 4 or 5 months now. She is having a guy friend stay over, which makes me uncomfortable on a level of respect. I have stayed at another girls place with a previous gf and was told by family that this shouldn't of ...

A.   11 June 2018: Why can't he stay in a hotel? What does she have to say in her defence when you ask her this? ... (read in full...)

How should I handle finding these texts?

Q.   Some back story: My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. Aside from a few normal bumps and turns in the road, our relationship has been quite a breeze. We started off in a very unconventional way, though. I actually had a fling ...

A.   8 June 2018: In situations where you're questioning the relationship, ask yourself where you see yourself long-term. Do you think you could go on to marry this guy? Have kids with him? Trust him to give you a safe and happy home? If yes then look at mend... (read in full...)

Am I rushing things, I've never had a long distance relationship before.

Q.   So I’m in an unfamiliar dating situation and looking for advice (apologies for the long story below!) Back in January, I matched with a guy on a dating app. He was from my hometown and we had mutual friends, but we’d never come across each othe...

A.   3 June 2018: Ok so here's my take on it. If he were as into you or into the budding/potential relationship that you two have, he would have scheduled time to be with you rather than with his friends. You are far more emotionally invested into this than h... (read in full...)

How to deal with breakups when you suffer from anxiety

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for several years. We love each other very much but probably aren't the best match for each other. I would like to consider breaking up, but I have anxiety and it makes everything difficult 10x harder. I'm scared of ...

A.   1 June 2018:  You need to do what's right for you and if being with this guy is not right then you have to let him go. Just because you are an anxious person doesn't mean that you drag on and on in the relationship even though you know its not working out. ... (read in full...)

Been dating for 4 years but an old flame has returned, and so have the feelings.

Q.   Hi everyone, I've got a serious relationship problem I really need some help with! I have been with my boyfriend for four years. He's caring, kind, affectionate and I really do love him. However, our relationship lacks passion and we have little s...

A.   1 June 2018: I'm not going to repeat what the others have rightly said but I'm just going to ask you a very simple question. Do you see yourself being with this boyfriend in the next 5-10 or even 15 years? Do you see yourself getting married to him, having kids ... (read in full...)

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