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Just Two

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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...

A little humility goes a long way

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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...

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He argues about everything! Will our relationship last?

Q.   My partner and I have been fighting a lot ever since getting together 2.5 years ago. I love him a lot but often have doubts about whether we will work long term. Whenever I ask him to do something small (like take his shoes away from my front do...

A.   21 May 2017: Simple answer- No, it's not going to work long term. Because it's next to impossible to live with someone and build a life with someone who's constantly looking to pick up fights and argue. Even worse, your partner is passive aggressive afterwards. ... (read in full...)

I feel used. Should I tell his Gf?

Q.   I had been speaking to this guy that I met online.. we had been flirting away and getting on super well. Time passed as he asked to meet which I agreed. However he didn't make it and I found out it was because he has a girlfriend. I've accepte...

A.   21 May 2017: You shouldn't have agreed to be friends with him once you knew he had a girlfriend. If you had cut him off then and there, he wouldn't have had the audacity to mess with you any further. Tell his girlfriend the truth if you like although I don't ... (read in full...)

I'm 18 years older than him, I know its crazy but its so intoxicating!

Q.   I feel like I've completely lost my mind here, so maybe someone can give me some perspective. I'm a 38 year-old mother of one. I've been divorced for years. I've always thought of myself as a rational person until now. For reasons I cannot explain, ...

A.   20 May 2017: Think of your daughter. Don't do anything that will put her to shame. It's perfectly acceptable for you to have fun but do it responsibly. Also, remember that hot sex won't take away the fact that you're sad, depressed and lonely. You're filling the ... (read in full...)

Closure on possibly unfaithful ex boyfriend

Q.   I was in a four year relationship in which I pretty much did everything for my partner. I paid for everything, was disrespected, even had him move in with me for a couple months until he got back on his feet. I come from an extremely broken family ...

A.   19 May 2017: How will anything change whether you know the truth or not? He's your ex and it doesn't matter in the least. And let's say that for the sake of argument he DID have sex with her which is likely, so what now? You know he's an ass and he's not a part ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's emotion letter to ex for closure has left me feeling second best

Q.   I'm in a confused relationship, my boyfriend of 3 years (were living together) send a closure to his ex-gf behind my back. She cheated on him with another guy 5 years before we got together. He already told me that he dated one girl after her before ...

A.   19 May 2017: He's not over her yet and I doubt if he ever will be. You're right when you say that you're at second place. If that wasn't bad enough, he yells and cusses at you. Don't get taken in by the crocodile tears, they don't mean a thing. Just get up and ... (read in full...)

My female friends keep hitting on my boyfriend. What do we do?

Q.   My boyfriend and I, both 26, have been together one year. We met through a social group meetup. We are the youngest among our large group of friends as everyone else is in their 30s. We have been with the group for 1.5 years. We are both social ...

A.   16 May 2017: You have to be selective about who you're friends with. And if you look at it in the truest sense of the term them you're not really "friends" friends with these people. You are part of a Meetup and that's how you know each other. Too much soc... (read in full...)

My boyfriend needs time to figure his life out!

Q.   I've written on here before about concerns with my boyfriend not saying I love you after about 5 months. However, we split up/decided to take a break yesterday although I'm unsure exactly which it was. Our relationship has been very happy...

A.   13 May 2017: Sweetie I know this is the last thing you want to hear right now but this guy is not in love with you. He's good to you, he cares for you, he loves you but he's not IN love with you. If he was, nothing and no one could have stopped him from ... (read in full...)

Why does my teacher take photos of me? Yes I do have a crush on him.

Q.   So I have a crush on this particular teacher for at least 4 years already. At first, i was completely not interested and found him extremely ugly. However, tables had been turned around in my second year of my Secondary school. Apparently he f...

A.   12 May 2017: What do you mean he takes photos of you? Does he ask you to pose for him or does he do it in a clandestine manner? Either way, it's beyond weird and it's very very wrong. Get over your crush... Nothing's going to come off it and you'll just get... (read in full...)

What can I do? My Gf of 5 years says she wants to have sex with another guy.

Q.   Okay so I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Recently I started noticing a big change in our sex life like she was losing interest. After a few months and started asking her what changed and all she would say was I don't know. After it e...

A.   11 May 2017: There's nothing much to do here. Either you're into this kind of stuff or your not. She is. You're not. And never the twain shall meet. If you give in to her then you'll be doing something that you don't believe in and that is abhorrent to ... (read in full...)

How should I approach this situation? I think he is messaging other women.

Q.   Recently I have had suspicions that my partner is messaging other women and watching porn. What makes me think this? On a few occasions I have heard orgasms, which made me feel uncomfortable, as I don't like the thought of my partner getting ...

A.   10 May 2017: You're very young OP and the reason I'm saying this is because you have the best years of your life in front of you. You have your entire 20s' lined up and you want to waste it on someone who you don't trust and possibly never will? I get that... (read in full...)

I'm torn between boyfriend and a new guy. Do I stay with my Bf or go with the new guy?

Q.   I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We have a huge age gap 11years??. We met at work and fell hard for each other. We've obviously had our ups and downs but grew stronger throughout the year. My boyfri...

A.   10 May 2017: So Harley, I'm assuming from your name that you're 28 and your boyfriend is 39? Ok so here's the thing. As much as you think that you want to make things work with the boyfriend, take it from me it's not going to be easy. You're right when you... (read in full...)

I'm thinking about people in my past! Also I'm not satisfied with my sex life! Advice?

Q.   A little back story before getting into my concerns-I have been married for almost half a year. We are both very much in love and have a great relationship and I'm treated very well. I'm happy! I lost my virginity to my husband, as he's the only one ...

A.   8 May 2017: I was going to ask you the same question as Uncle Wise... How do you have the time to think of all this? Are you working? What does your husband do for a living? After you alone at home for most of the day? You seem to have a LOT of time on your ... (read in full...)

What, if anything, should I tell my future husband about my dating history?

Q.   After dating few men and some random hook ups, i eventually had to agree upon an arranged marriage by my parents. While my parents are seriously looking out for a groom, I am confused if i have to change my contact number and also delete my faceb...

A.   8 May 2017: Keep your Facebook completely out of bounds for anyone other than whoever is on your friend list. The simplest thing would be to block the exes and the hookup guys. As regards your past, just keep totally mum. It's what you present to the other pa... (read in full...)

My husband is almost forcing me to have sex with my lesbian neighbor

Q.   Hi, my husband has recently come home after a month away and suddenly started wanting me to have sex with my lesbian next door neighbour, he doesn't want to watch or be involved at all. We have known she has a crush on me for a long time and given ...

A.   5 May 2017:  OP if you don't want to then you don't have to. No one can force you to do anything and he's almost pimping you out. I think he feels that this would spice up your sex life for some reason. Tell him firmly that you will not tolerate this nonsense... (read in full...)

Does this man care?

Q.   I recently returned back from Australia to Ireland to look after a sick relative. My WHV was almost up and I have plans to go back in the near future to some touring that I didn't get to do this time round. 3 months before returning I started a "no ...

A.   30 April 2017: Slow down! You barely know this guy, you're living on different continents, you started off with a no strings attached thing and now you're talking of marriage! Put the brakes on for now and take some time to see how and where and how this goe... (read in full...)

Kissed another woman for the first time and enjoyed it. What happens from here?

Q.   So i was at a friends wedding today (some alcohol consumed!) i was chatting with my girl friend (friends for years) about something random in the bathroom stall. Out of nowhere she said she had never kissed a girl and asked would i be up for it, i ...

A.   29 April 2017: You might be treading on a landmine here. I presume from the tone of the post that by open relationship you mean that you're free and forthcoming with your fiance regarding most things and not that you're open to sleeping around when others. What ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend promised to pay for salon visit after being told the price then backed out but is willing to spend $$ on his niece??

Q.   Last week, I told my boyfriend I'm going to get my hair colored for the first time. I showed him photos to get his opinion. After I settled on a style, he said he wanted to treat me to get my hair done. I told him he didn't have to do that and it ...

A.   28 April 2017: I totally agree with the lady who said that she would find it unsettling too but she doesn't really know why. My thoughts exactly! This isn't about the money, it isn't about competing with the child or being jealous of her, it's not even like you... (read in full...)

Did I do something so offensive that my b/f needs to rethink our relationship?

Q.   Soooooo my bf and I have been together for a few years now. We have a mutual friend who we've been cool with for a decade. This friend chills with us every other day. My bf feels like our friend doesn't respect him and has attempted to talk with him ...

A.   27 April 2017: Your boyfriend is clearly not ok with the friendship with the other guy. How has the relationship with him sustained for so long? And how and why does he hang out with you guys ever other day? Who's friend was he to begin with... Yours or his? ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Q.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: He's just desperate to be with you, periods or no periods! It doesn't matter to some men... It's not about being kinky or gross, it just doesn't matter to them. If you are comfortable with it then go ahead. If not, then you can always say no a... (read in full...)

Is my relationship healthy?

Q.   I am 20 and my boyfriend is 27. We got into a relationship pretty fast. I expressed how not having sex until marriage was important to me but after a month he talked me into it. We have went out a lot and he says things like this relationship...

A.   24 April 2017: If you ever have to ask this question, then you know it's not healthy. You're young and naive; he's older, controlling and manipulative and looking to get you pregnant so that you have no way out. Get out of it please. I'm not sure how easy it... (read in full...)

The boyfriend, the receipt and not sure of the meaning behind leaving it out

Q.   We went out with my boyfriend and my parents for lunch. My parents are visiting from another country. They have met 3 times.. At lunch I asked the waitress for the check, my father wanted to pay. My boyfriend quickly left and I saw he is paying the ...

A.   23 April 2017: He did a good thing and anyone else in your place would have been happy. Exactly what isn't a big deal in your culture? Being decent and polite to elders or caring for your partner's parents enough to pay for them? As far as I know, this would be... (read in full...)

Are there any telltale ways to see if he sees me just as a sister/friend?

Q.   Hey guys, first of all, thanks for stopping by, even if you don't plan on answering. I will cut to the chase: I'm a 20 year old girl, and I really like this 25 year old boy, whom I met over the internet. Our locations are too far away to go see e...

A.   21 April 2017: Just stop for a moment and think about what you're doing and how naive you're being in today's day and age when you know the pitfalls of the dark underbelly of the internet. There is no way, absolutely no way for you to know who you're talking ... (read in full...)

I stumbled across hidden videos in my girlfriends computer of her having sex with her ex

Q.   I am engaged to my dream girl and our relationship is perfect. We've been together for 2 years now and We are the perfect couple... or so I thought.. Things changed when I found some things on her lap top. I needed to finish up a report but forgo...

A.   19 April 2017: Ok here's my take on the situation. Let's leave aside the snooping for a moment here and focus on your insecurities. You (understandably) have a huge problem with the fact that she was enjoying herself a lot more with the ex. We don't know wh... (read in full...)

Should work always come first for my boyfriend, even in case of a minor medical emergency like mine?

Q.   My boyfriend of one year works from home. We live together. He's the project manager of a small but successful company. He works at least 10 hours a day. I had severe stomach pains yesterday which came back this morning, so my boyfriend took m...

A.   18 April 2017: Work shouldn't always come first but in this case you're overreacting. He took you to the ER and your grouse is that he didn't display affection and concern for you the way you wanted him to. Some people are just not very demonstrative and maybe ... (read in full...)

I thought my fiance didn't love his ex wife but his old Facebook post seemed to imply otherwise

Q.   I am so disappointed please tell me if I'm over reacting. I found an old post from 6 years ago on my Fiancé face book on his marriage anniversary stating how lucky he was to have her and he hit a jackpot and hope this happiness never ends! I know ...

A.   18 April 2017: I agree with every single thing that Chigirl had said and I couldn't add anything more to it. That is, in reality, the truth of Facebook posts. Don't read too much into them.... (read in full...)

Is it weird that I am 19 years old and I still hang out with my parents ?

Q.   Hello, Well, i am 19 years old, i am studying in college, but still living with my parents. The thing is i don't hang out with my friends: i still don't drive and we live far away from the city, and there's no public transport nearby. So whene...

A.   17 April 2017: What is the world coming to if children have started questioning if it's "weird" to hang out with their parents? *Sigh*!! Sweetie, I'm 15 years older to you and married and a mum myself and yet some of the best moments that I spend and cherish ... (read in full...)

Ho do I deal with her speaking FOR my Dad all the time?

Q.   Dad's girlfriend is always speaking FOR my dad. She comes off very possessive but in an enthusiastic way. Constantly bragging about how she is with my dad. I didn't think much of it at first but overtime I have seen more signs of her narcissistic ...

A.   17 April 2017: Honestly, I don't think she means anything bad; I think it's more of a case of you not liking her for obvious reasons and that's why she pisses you off. I also don't think she's controlling his life per se and I think that whatever control ... (read in full...)

Husband comes home drunk with his underwear inside out and stained. Is he cheating?

Q.   Yesterday my husband came late from work again. This time it was far worst than the last time ... He works at a restaurant , he is a waiter. Three weeks ago he came home 6 hours later after leaving the workplace, He doesn't use a cellphone since he ...

A.   15 April 2017: Oh yes I remember you, the condom sniffer. This is probably the third or fourth post of the same nature and each gets more and more bizarre and outlandish. You are either a troll or someone who seriously needs a grip. Weird doesn't even begin to cut ... (read in full...)

It's now a reunion weekend instead of a romantic getaway, and I'm paying for it!

Q.   Dear Cupid!!!! I recently started dating this guy about three months ago,he's currently not working because he's training to be a police officer. I met him right before he went into the Academy and the things that they go through it is excruciati...

A.   12 April 2017: You've known him for three months and it's a little extravagant gifting him a trip just to make him happy. Don't get him used to nice things this early... You barely know the guy. How did he even agree to accept this gift from you? Look, tell him... (read in full...)

What do women look for in a man for a boyfriend?

Q.   What do women really look for in a man for a boyfriend?...

A.   12 April 2017: A decent guy with strong morals, a good education and holding a steady job. He should have the ability and courage to stand by her no matter what, love her unconditionally, respect her and those that she holds close to her. ... (read in full...)

Men, do you stare off have intense eye sex with women if you are not interested in them?

Q.   Hello world! I'm writing to you men out there, or women who feel they can provide insight!! About a year ago I was entranced in a cafe by the most beautiful young man I have ever seen. Although that wasn't what entranced me: he was sittin...

A.   11 April 2017: Eye sex? Wow... That's the first I've heard this term! Didn't even know it existed! Anyway. I don't know what to make of this post but here's my two cents. You seem a little full of yourself and a little too dramatic. As N91 said, q... (read in full...)

A women with a boyfriend/kids is texting my boyfriend and he texts back. I'm not happy about this!

Q.   I am not sure whether to stay with my boyfriend. We have been together for two months. We had some arguments and i said that i didnt want to see him anymore. I only said that because i was angry that he eas being horrible to me. I told him that i ...

A.   11 April 2017: I don't think she has mental health problems. I think she's unhappy in her own relationship and is looking for a way out and your boyfriend is her passport to what she thinks is a new and better life. He's flirting heavily with her and she's making ... (read in full...)

My car broke down but my boyfriend didn't believe me. Did I do anything wrong?

Q.   Hi all, please I need an advice. I'm so confused and don't know what to do anymore. So I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, we've always argued. I wish he was more affectionate, flirty and playful like me but he's not he's so serious ...

A.   10 April 2017: Yes you're doing something very wrong. You're putting up with this moron and giving him power to use over you and you're allowing him to degrade you. What do you do when you know that something's not right? You rectify it. And you do that ... (read in full...)

I want to confront this guy. Should I do this? Or should I just let sleeping dogs lie?

Q.   I have been with my wife approaching 14 years now and married for three. Four years ago my wife confessed to me that she had kissed another man that delivers to her work. She said she felt terrible about it immediately after, she quit her job and...

A.   9 April 2017: The way I see it is, this happened before you were married so even though she slipped up while being in a relationship, she never cheated on you after she took her vows with you and that to me is what really counts. She owned up, she realized her ... (read in full...)

Married man gave me his phone number!

Q.   I'm a blogger and I'm trying to get an interview with this married guy I'm semi-acquainted with on social media (I'm married too). We follow each other and we have never spoken until a few days ago when I asked him if he would be interested in ...

A.   7 April 2017: Don't give him your number and by that I mean don't text him. There is absolutely nothing that can be conveyed only through text and not via email. Listen to your heart, if you feel something's wrong then it probably is. If he's playing har... (read in full...)

I caught my partner in a lie. Now he's verbally abusive and constantly puts me down

Q.   My partner is so different since I caught him out with a lie. We aren't young (both in our 40's) and there should be no grey areas within our relationship. He has lied to me several times about minor things, lied to at least 5 times about bigger ...

A.   7 April 2017: Do you have a job? You need to leave this man right now and I don't even know where to start. How is it your self esteem is so low that you're putting up with this man? Even your 8 year old knows better than you! Your feelings of anxiety, depress... (read in full...)

Married man says he's in a loveless marriage and likes me insanely but won't get in touch with me till I contact him

Q.   Good day dear aunts and uncles. I met a charming man on a conference I was heading. We exchanged few words and couldn't stop looking at each other. 2 months later I bumped into him on another business venture and we felt the connection. Then we ...

A.   3 April 2017: That's like the cheating married man's anthem! Loveless marriage, in it for the kids, haven't had sex since the youngest was born, wife doesn't care about me... And most guy have a bonus track of how you're always on their mind and they can't stop ... (read in full...)

Why did this older woman have a thing for the guy I'm dating?

Q.   Recently I've gotten together with someone my age.(24) I've known him for since he was 14 he lived down the street.  We were at a bar andhis friend told me that when he was 17 he was fucking this woman when she was 32 years old. (She was in the same ...

A.   2 April 2017: What makes you think she took advantage of him? If I'm not wrong and correct me if I am, the age of consent in Canada is 16, so technically neither of them did anything wrong. It was consentual sex between two people who knew exactly what they were ... (read in full...)

I am confused! Why didn't my professor call when I left her my number?

Q.   I'm in 4th year of Psychology school, and I am 23 years old. There's this older professor (a woman, in fact). She was married a few times (five, to be exact, all to men), there are rumors that she hooks up with students (not sure which sex), and ...

A.   27 March 2017: I'm afraid I'm going to be harsh with you Your teacher is there to do a job and it's not your business to comment or even inquire about her personal life. What she does outside of the classroom should be of no concern to you. You're 23 years ol... (read in full...)

Phone sex with boyfriend turns out awfully wrong

Q.   I don't know where to start but I've been in a relationship with my man for 5 years and he was never very colourful or expressive when we have phone sex. We recently got into a long distant relationship for 3 months since I'm studying. So these ...

A.   26 March 2017: Whoa! This is one twisted character! But you see, that's the thing about fantasies and you never know what's in the darkest corners of a person's mind. Do you remember the episode from Sex and the City where the very "respectable" politician told ... (read in full...)

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