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Just Two

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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...

A little humility goes a long way

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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...

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Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?

Q.   So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...

A.   21 June 2017: Sorry and I forgot to add and basically to answer the headline question, I don't think she's trying to break *you* up per se, she'll do this with any girl in your place. Like a dog in the manger thing.... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?

Q.   So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...

A.   21 June 2017: High maintenance? My God you're the exact opposite! How you're putting up with so much is beyond me! He's slept with this woman, he's kissing her in front of you, she is making declarations that your boyfriend is hers, she doesn't let you two spen... (read in full...)

Is there something going on between my husband and his co-worker?

Q.   Why is my husband gets annoyed when i ask him a question about the woman that he always with most of everyday at work? Is he having an enotional affair with this woman? It does not mean that i am doubting him. I tried to not be negative about i...

A.   20 June 2017: As difficult as this is for you, it's not going to make things better if you constantly keep asking him about her. Not only are you giving him ideas when hopefully there are none, you're giving that woman way too much importance. I know it's tem... (read in full...)

I changed my mind about having children, he wants children would this be the end of our relationship?

Q.   Hi everyone, this one is a difficult one for me. I recently got engaged to a man I love and think the world off, the time we been together we have had minor disagreements, but other than that the relationship has progressed smoothly. Lately I have ...

A.   16 June 2017: I don't think that anyone has ever regretted having a child. Saying "fine I won't have a child, problem solved" is not solving the problem at all. It's just pushing the problem under the carpet. I think you're very angry at him now and since you ... (read in full...)

My partner is making me feel bad for not letting him live with me permanently. What should I do?

Q.   When I first met my partner, I explained in the first 3 months my views about living together before engagement. I explained that I have lived with an ex in the past and it didn't work, so therefore I want to wait until engagement before living ...

A.   16 June 2017: Why did he sell his place without first having secured some other place to live? Where are all his belongings at this point of time? How can a grown man just sell his house and have nowhere to go to? I find this very strange. He's banking on you to ... (read in full...)

I'm devastated because I tried my hardest but I couldn't make it to the Universities of my choice. How do I break the news to my parents?

Q.   Hi everyone, I literally just got my results of my exams today and unfortunately i did not make the requirements of the universities i have chosen. I fell a little short of the requirements so its not too bad. The problem is, both unis actual...

A.   14 June 2017: What a brilliant answer by Aunt YouWish!! If only there was a rating higher than 5 stars! This is not the? end of the road for you; this is just how life is going to be now that you're out in the big bad world. OP when I was a student, I too de... (read in full...)

Why am I so stuck on social media?

Q.   Hello everyone About two years ago I used to hang out with a group of girls that weren't that great - they were gossip fueled - vain - and all they cared about is showing off and getting married. For two years I fell into that hole - I started...

A.   12 June 2017: What makes you think that getting a guy is equal to winning? By the way, you should also keep something else in mind. The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it on Facebook. I don't think this needs any elaboration, doe... (read in full...)

I'm married and have fallen for a married friend. Do I pursue this?

Q.   I am 29 years old. Im maried in 2010 with 2 kids (3 and 5). I met my wife when i was 15 and have been with her ever since. I have never cheated on her or even talked to another woman inappropriately. But the other day we were hanging out with some ...

A.   12 June 2017: I don't think anyone is going to encourage you to go ahead with this affair and break you're marriage over this. You got married at 22. That is way too young to get married because you're still growing up and just beginning to see the real wor... (read in full...)

How can I end my feelings of regret

Q.   Hi aunts. I was in a relationship for six months which he ended two months ago now. I fell in love, we both did and shared a special connection. However he ended it after we had a problem between us that kept surfacing in that I am very tactile and ...

A.   12 June 2017: Was this the only reason that he gave you for breaking up? If so, then he's not being truthful. There has to be something deeper which he's not telling you. ... (read in full...)

Upset because I was not included on a night out

Q.   If you were not invited to a work social event and 3/4 the rest of your female colleagues were would you feel left out? It was a one colleague's 24th birthday, and later that same day another colleague's, who is 29, hens/bachellorette dinner. Pic...

A.   11 June 2017: It's very normal to feel upset. I do feel it was rude to have left certain colleagues out of the parties that were hosted but then you can't do anything about it. If it were me, I'd either have invited everyone or no one at all from the workplac... (read in full...)

Am I too sexual for him? Our sex life seems bland.

Q.   Hi need some advice on my sex life. So I've been in a relationship for two years and I love my bf very much. The problem is that our sex life is quite bland. I am quite adventurous and kinky I love to go down on him but he doesn't reciproc...

A.   11 June 2017: This is a very interesting question because it throws open the debate to the very subjective interpretation of an adventurous sex life. So here's the thing. It's not that your sexual desires don't align, it's that yours is on a different ... (read in full...)

I advised the male friend that jacking off is normal, but telling me all about it is not. How should I deal with this issue when I raise it with my Bf?

Q.   Hello, I've been here historically and your answers have really helped me so I am hoping you can help me with something else as I honestly don't know how to talk to anyone about this or if I should. Before I get into it I need to point out that I...

A.   10 June 2017: I would not keep this guy in my life. Way to much drama and let's face it, you're not really getting anything out of the friendship other than a headache. How exactly is he a friend? Can you share your innermost thoughts and secrets with him? Can ... (read in full...)

How much should I spend on my boyfriend's kids' graduations?

Q.   Hi, I'm not very familiar with the US culture. My boyfriends son and daughter are graduating from high school and middle school. They have a party soon and I don't know what's the norm here and what I should get for them. Do you think spending l...

A.   9 June 2017: Whatever you give them, the monetary value should roughly be the same so that neither feels left out or more favoured. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has been mock hitting me

Q.   Hi, we've been in a relationship my boyfriend and I for 8 mth, we live together, he is a musician, gets hard for him to be talkative so I beleive he is not that skillful linguistically, and I understand the musician he is and how introvert he could ...

A.   9 June 2017: This is an instance of 'it's not you, it's him'. This is who he is and I would be very wary of him. It's inherent in him to express himself in this way... Today it's in jest, tomorrow it might be for some other reason... And this is something that ... (read in full...)

Should I commit to moving? Worried about his cheating in past and about leaving my family

Q.   Hi! I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a little over two years. He is 27 and I'm 21, so naturally he has more experience than I do. 6 months into our relationship, he confessed that he had cheated on me, so we broke up...

A.   8 June 2017: The only advice I can give you is that don't commit to someone who you don't trust. Not now and never in life. ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried? He's 18 years older than me, separated and with kids.

Q.   So I have been seeing this amazing guy for a few months now and I'm head over heels for him. He is the same towards me. The only thing that worries me is he is 18 years older than me and is separated with kids... Advice please?...

A.   8 June 2017: More details please. Where and how did you meet him? How old are the kids? Why just separated, why is he not divorced yet? Who do the kids stay with? How involved is the ex in his life? The next obvious concern is that of age. Assuming you're ... (read in full...)

I'm having an affair with a married woman and she doesn't know if she can ever leave her husband for good

Q.   I am a 26 year old man. I work in a school system and I have now been dating one of my co workers for exactly a year (June 9th) The big problem here is that she is married, with 2 kids, and 11 years older then me. But this is not an affair like ...

A.   8 June 2017: She's a terrible person, a horrible wife and a disgusting disgrace of a mother. She's cheating on her poor husband who's trying his best to give his wife and children a good life and she's fucking you and going on holidays with you despite the fact ... (read in full...)

My husband and I are struggling to move on. Any suggestions on how we can resolve this?

Q.   Hi. I am a married mom mid thirties. My husband and I have been together for 20 years, married for 13 years. We have 5 children together. We have had a wonderful marriage up until recent. Back in Feb 2015 my husband started to receive texts fr...

A.   8 June 2017: It's not going to help if you play everything in your head over and over again. I know you want the details and I know you want to hear everything. It's like not being able to look away from a gory accident on the road. But tell me, how is this ... (read in full...)

I met a very genuine guy, but could this be too good to be true?

Q.   Hi! I'm currently a in college, and have recently gotten out of a relationship about five months ago. He was my first relationship and first love, as we talked for months over the summer before I entered college. He was very respectful and we did ...

A.   7 June 2017: Go with the flow and get to know him better. Good people do exist and it's great that you've met one. Don't question his goodness; embrace it instead and let's just hope that this will be one happy story :)... (read in full...)

Is my perfectionist boyfriend overly critical of my looks? Or am I oversensitive?

Q.   My bf used to think my looks were perfect. But he seems to put me down lately. Like he doesn't like a birth mark on my nose. I can't control that. He tells me that my body is perfect for a woman my age but that I am not 20 anymore. He sa...

A.   6 June 2017: He's extremely insecure about his own looks and doesn't have a clue how on earth he's landed you. He criticizes you to keep you in your place so that you don't start thinking that he's not good enough for you and leave him. It also making himself ... (read in full...)

We've been dating for 5 years. Why does he need so much attention from other women?

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years. Throughout the relationship I have caught him engaging in online flirtation. He signs up for dating sites to chat with women, and he uses Facebook to chat with multiple women (sometimes the ...

A.   4 June 2017: Two questions: 1. Why are you still with him when you should have broken up with him in the first year itself when you knew that he was an ass? 2. Sorry for the language but can he get it up and perform? The reason I'm asking you this is b... (read in full...)

Girlfriend doesn't want to move abroad

Q.   We've been dating for only a few months, our first month I told her I have a dream to move to another country and she said "Yeah if you go we'd break up because I wouldn't leave my family behind!" We decided to stay together but recently a few d...

A.   3 June 2017: There you go. She's a nice girl but you don't have the same goals in life. There's your answer. If your goals don't align and you don't see yourselves in the same place (physically and metaphorically), then that's pretty much the end of the ... (read in full...)

Recently, my girlfriend starts to bleed everytime she orgasms. What could be wrong with her?

Q.   Hello all, I've been with my girlfriend for around seven years. We are our firsts in pretty much everything. Love her to bits still. No fights, good sex life, nothing wrong really. However, something has occurred in our sex-life which I...

A.   3 June 2017: My God your options are STDs and cheating? She needs to see a gynaecologist without any further delay because any bleeding which is abnormal is exactly that... It's not normal and it shouldn't happen. Common sense says that when her uterus spasms ... (read in full...)

Wanting to be seen as Hot. Is it an unrealistic expectation?

Q.   I've never been much of a romantic; I don't really believe in love at first sight, or soul mates, and far prefer my relationship to be based on practical criteria over emotions (we have common interests, we have good conversations, we have a similar ...

A.   2 June 2017: You have way too much free time on your hands to be thinking about all this! Life is short and time is fleeting. Cherish what you have. At least you have a personality that people like. That automatically puts you ahead of most others!... (read in full...)

Living together is making me broke

Q.   My question is about sharing expenses as a couple. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, and we enjoy each other's company. We've been living together for 5 months, which has resulted in my expenses more than doubling. We both work and we ...

A.   2 June 2017: Great! Please show her the door! Tell get very nicely and politely that you can't keep paying for everything and since she's made it clear that she can't and won't contribute then maybe she should just move out. You can think about living together ... (read in full...)

I want to tell his wife that I was his mistress

Q.   I am a 44 years old divorced woman. 15 years ago when I was 29, I dated this one guy who was an American soldier. I wasn’t very much attracted to him at first, so it took a lot of effort for him to get me into a relationship. We never said ‘I love ...

A.   30 May 2017: What will you get out of hurting her? You seem to be punishing her for not being pretty in your eyes! You were jealous of her when you thought that she was smarter and prettier but now that you know she's not, you're thinking what? He had fun with ... (read in full...)

I don't want both of us to be broken after we are dating

Q.   Im that type of girl who seeks relationships that has deep connection and not just a plain relationship. So i know this guy for two years, and he's madly in love with me, at first i was really trying to avoid him because i wasn't interested in him ...

A.   30 May 2017: Tell him. You never know how miracles happen and even if nothing comes out of this, at least he'll know that you loved him back. That in itself is a beautiful feeling ... (read in full...)

I fell in love with a part-time escort and not sure what to do now

Q.   Long read, please be patient. I am a working professional in my early 30’s and I've been living and working in Southeast Asia for the past 10 years. I live and work in a rather remote and industrial area and thus I've always found it diffic...

A.   26 May 2017: Be very careful. You shouldn't become vulnerable just because you're lonely. You are very eager to find someone for yourself and hence are falling in love very easily. Not saying that an escort isn't a human being capable of being loved? but keep in ... (read in full...)

I cheated and had a one night stand!

Q.   Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. She honestly is the love of my life and I am very happy with her and would do anything for her. Unfortunately, I made a terrible mistake a couple of nights ago , had way too many drinks (which I know ...

A.   24 May 2017:  OP when it comes to relationships I personally don't think there are any grey areas. It's either black or white. So here's the thing. Your girlfriend is NOT the love of your life. You say you would do anything for her but that's a big fat... (read in full...)

Was he drunk or did he experience memory loss?

Q.   hi, i am 43 years old and been on my own for 17.5 years, my ex left me when my daughter was five months old and i have remained single. i have met someone i really like and we have seen each other a few times. last night he came to see me and sa...

A.   23 May 2017: Major red flag... Based only on this reaction. Not only is this very suspicious, it's also bizarre and there's no good reason for a response of this kind. Lack of memory my a##. Please be careful of this guy... (read in full...)

I'm trying hard for us to be intimate but he is just not interested and won't give a straight answer as to why!

Q.   Hello all! I was hoping I could get some other input with my problem. I don't really need to get into the past cause that's what it is. So I'll ask now (: I've been married for 4 years in August. We have 3 daughters together. 9,1 and 4 ...

A.   23 May 2017: I don't think you're doing anything wrong by what you've written... You sound like a great wife and mother. However, you said that you don't want to get to the past and you need some other input for your problem. What exactly has happened in the ... (read in full...)

5 years with girlfriend, losing attraction, annoyed and frustrated

Q.   I been with my gf nearly 5 years, we are still living apart due to money issues and our permanent jobs. But things have changed. I'm avoiding her because I feel like i can't really speak to her like I speak to the guys. For example, I mentioned I'm ...

A.   23 May 2017: As you have both grown older since you first met, a lot has changed since the way things were 5 years ago. Your maturity levels are different and so are your priorities. You enjoy living a full life while she seems to be stuck in a rut, doing the ... (read in full...)

He argues about everything! Will our relationship last?

Q.   My partner and I have been fighting a lot ever since getting together 2.5 years ago. I love him a lot but often have doubts about whether we will work long term. Whenever I ask him to do something small (like take his shoes away from my front do...

A.   21 May 2017: Simple answer- No, it's not going to work long term. Because it's next to impossible to live with someone and build a life with someone who's constantly looking to pick up fights and argue. Even worse, your partner is passive aggressive afterwards. ... (read in full...)

I feel used. Should I tell his Gf?

Q.   I had been speaking to this guy that I met online.. we had been flirting away and getting on super well. Time passed as he asked to meet which I agreed. However he didn't make it and I found out it was because he has a girlfriend. I've accepte...

A.   21 May 2017: You shouldn't have agreed to be friends with him once you knew he had a girlfriend. If you had cut him off then and there, he wouldn't have had the audacity to mess with you any further. Tell his girlfriend the truth if you like although I don't ... (read in full...)

I'm 18 years older than him, I know its crazy but its so intoxicating!

Q.   I feel like I've completely lost my mind here, so maybe someone can give me some perspective. I'm a 38 year-old mother of one. I've been divorced for years. I've always thought of myself as a rational person until now. For reasons I cannot explain, ...

A.   20 May 2017: Think of your daughter. Don't do anything that will put her to shame. It's perfectly acceptable for you to have fun but do it responsibly. Also, remember that hot sex won't take away the fact that you're sad, depressed and lonely. You're filling the ... (read in full...)

Closure on possibly unfaithful ex boyfriend

Q.   I was in a four year relationship in which I pretty much did everything for my partner. I paid for everything, was disrespected, even had him move in with me for a couple months until he got back on his feet. I come from an extremely broken family ...

A.   19 May 2017: How will anything change whether you know the truth or not? He's your ex and it doesn't matter in the least. And let's say that for the sake of argument he DID have sex with her which is likely, so what now? You know he's an ass and he's not a part ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's emotion letter to ex for closure has left me feeling second best

Q.   I'm in a confused relationship, my boyfriend of 3 years (were living together) send a closure to his ex-gf behind my back. She cheated on him with another guy 5 years before we got together. He already told me that he dated one girl after her before ...

A.   19 May 2017: He's not over her yet and I doubt if he ever will be. You're right when you say that you're at second place. If that wasn't bad enough, he yells and cusses at you. Don't get taken in by the crocodile tears, they don't mean a thing. Just get up and ... (read in full...)

My female friends keep hitting on my boyfriend. What do we do?

Q.   My boyfriend and I, both 26, have been together one year. We met through a social group meetup. We are the youngest among our large group of friends as everyone else is in their 30s. We have been with the group for 1.5 years. We are both social ...

A.   16 May 2017: You have to be selective about who you're friends with. And if you look at it in the truest sense of the term them you're not really "friends" friends with these people. You are part of a Meetup and that's how you know each other. Too much soc... (read in full...)

My boyfriend needs time to figure his life out!

Q.   I've written on here before about concerns with my boyfriend not saying I love you after about 5 months. However, we split up/decided to take a break yesterday although I'm unsure exactly which it was. Our relationship has been very happy...

A.   13 May 2017: Sweetie I know this is the last thing you want to hear right now but this guy is not in love with you. He's good to you, he cares for you, he loves you but he's not IN love with you. If he was, nothing and no one could have stopped him from ... (read in full...)

Why does my teacher take photos of me? Yes I do have a crush on him.

Q.   So I have a crush on this particular teacher for at least 4 years already. At first, i was completely not interested and found him extremely ugly. However, tables had been turned around in my second year of my Secondary school. Apparently he f...

A.   12 May 2017: What do you mean he takes photos of you? Does he ask you to pose for him or does he do it in a clandestine manner? Either way, it's beyond weird and it's very very wrong. Get over your crush... Nothing's going to come off it and you'll just get... (read in full...)

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