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Just Two

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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...

A little humility goes a long way

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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...

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I'm not sure if this should be ringing alarm bells.

Q.   Hi everyone This isn't a serious issue, i'd just like some of your thoughts. My girlfriend asked me if she thinks it is true that if someone cheats once they will cheat again. I said I think it depends on the person. I didn't know why she wo...

A.   13 March 2018:  Well if I were you then it would be somewhere between alarm bells and perfectly fine. I would have my eyebrows raised, that's for sure. It's ok that she had a dream about him... That can't be helped... But going out of her way to get his numb... (read in full...)

Family and friends want me to present as more "girly girl."

Q.   I’m a girl, I’m not really girly but I don’t dress like a guy either. I just prefer to wear normal casual clothes like a crop top a bomber and nice jeans, vs heels and dresses. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t judge people that do but they seem to judge ...

A.   13 March 2018: Be true to yourself DeJah. You are who you are.. No apologies, no regrets. Do what makes you happy, live the way you want to, don't ever change your ways just to suit others or even worse, to appear attractive to guys. Don't let anyone and I mean ... (read in full...)

What should I do with a badly behaved dog?

Q.   I have a bit of a problem and just wanting advice. I have a dog but I have had for 10 years since I was 20 years old I probably been through more with the dog than anyone in my life. he's always been a bit of a problem and recently I am living in a ...

A.   10 March 2018: You have done a lot for the dog OP and I feel it's the frustration talking now. I can only imagine your predicament... You can't live with him, you can't live without him. OP you have given 10 years of your life to this guy and he doesn't have much... (read in full...)

She says her married boyfriend will get jealous if we have sex.

Q.   I met this girl, after speaking for weeks, we met for casual sex. It was great and she seemed to be enjoying it. We were probably busy for 2-3 hours. She even asked me to whip her, first time for me but she enjoyed it. She was good and was eager to ...

A.   10 March 2018: What are your expectations from her? You obviously and hopefully don't think of her as a long-term partner, do you? If sex is all that you're looking for then you can find other women who are unattached and will be willing to sleep with you. Why are ... (read in full...)

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Is this old saying true?

Q.   Is it true what they say, that once a cheater, always a cheater? I mean if a wife forgave his husband for having cheated on her for a year and a half, are there chances that after 2 years he will cheat again? What are your thoughts or experiences on ...

A.   9 March 2018: Well my personal opinion is that if I caught my partner cheating then there's no way that I could forgive him and move past it. I don't know about the "once a cheater" thing but I do know that once my trust was shattered there was not a chance I ... (read in full...)

How should I reply to his text?

Q.   Hi Thank you for reading. I dated a guy for 7 months last year. He dumped me in late December, saying that he felt that our relationship wasn’t moving forward as quickly as he wanted. He wanted me to move in with him and I didn’t feel ready...

A.   3 March 2018: Go with the first option. Ignore the text completely and don't reply. It's taken you a long time to get over him and the last thing you want is to get sucked into an emotionally draining situation again. If you reply and then he replies, it's going ... (read in full...)

Dude at work shows a lot of signs of interest but not much action!

Q.   Here I am again. I've developed this ridiculous crush on someone I think is showing interest (he's a coworker - same company but not in the same department, just works on the same floor) * we always make eye contact * he gives me shy smiles ...

A.   27 February 2018: Don't make the mistake of dating a co-worker. You'll be stuck in a miserable situation if it doesn't work out, you'll get a terrible reputation at work when word spreads and your credibility will suffer. Keep things strictly professional at the ... (read in full...)

I feel worse after breaking up with my married lover

Q.   I finally pulled the plug and broke up with my married lover but now i feel worse. I am having an extremely hard time getting over it. It was an ugly break up and even though he begged to remain friends and promised to be the man i met in the beg...

A.   23 February 2018:  Are you really that naive? This man couldn't stay true to his wife, the woman he took his vows with. How on earth did you think he would be faithful to you, his mistress? You need to get over your feelings and there's no magic way of doing tha... (read in full...)

I’m pregnant and constantly worrying that he’s still in love with an ex!

Q.   Sooo, I'll try to explain all this as well as I can. I'm sorry if It all seems a bit confusing. It's quite a long story. I have a boyfriend of nearly 3 months. I have known him for almost 4 years and am 5 months pregnant with his baby. The first ...

A.   22 February 2018:  I don't think anyone could explain it better than uncle Wiseowle...His answer is spot on. All I can add without repeating what he's said is that don't depend emotionally on this guy for any kind of support. Yes it takes two people to make a baby... (read in full...)

I want to start a business but struggle with anxiety and depression.

Q.   Im writing this today because I am turning 25 and I'm a failure. I so badly want to be a productive and sensible adult but I'm just a big child. I've failed in so many areas of my life it's laughable. I have no career, no super, I finally managed to ...

A.   16 February 2018:  Well what are your interests? What do you know about starting a business? Have you done your research? Or are you just thinking that you'll dive into it and make things up as you go along? Starting a business or a new venture needs a lot of plan... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't understand how important my sister is to me.

Q.   My husband recently lost his job. I told my sister immediately. My husband is now angry at me and said I should have asked if he wants me to make it public. I told him he cannot control me and that I share everything with my sister and also that my ...

A.   16 February 2018: I also wanted to add that a marriage is about two people OP. Let some things stay between the two of you. If you know that there are issues which he doesn't want others to know about then respect his wishes. That's the least that a partner can ask ... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't understand how important my sister is to me.

Q.   My husband recently lost his job. I told my sister immediately. My husband is now angry at me and said I should have asked if he wants me to make it public. I told him he cannot control me and that I share everything with my sister and also that my ...

A.   16 February 2018: More than breaking his trust, you broke his ego. He's already down and out after losing his job and understandably doesn't want others to know lest they think badly of him. His reactions are normal OP, he's feeling let-down because you immediately ... (read in full...)

I think he really likes me, so how do I help him get his feelings back?

Q.   Hey. So I’m 19. There’s this guy who is 17 and has been a very close friend since the last 7-8 months. He’s like a best friend now. We bonded real well, people actually shipped us. However, there were no feelings back then. Last Saturday, he asked...

A.   14 February 2018: I've seen that it's the common friends who are responsible for a lot of wrong ideas. These people are probably having a good laugh behind your back as well. Why on earth will a guy tell you that he doesn't like you if he really does? You have to ... (read in full...)

I thought he loved me but he cheated and she's pregnant!

Q.   Hello this may be a lil not lengthy but I need advice. I was in a long distance relationship with someone I met on a job two years ago, we met when I moved to Virginia for a short period of time but because we were both in a relationship at the time ...

A.   8 February 2018: He didn't love you. He lied to you. This has nothing to do with you, it's not a reflection of you in any way, you didn't do anything wrong and you couldn't have done anything better. He is a cheat, a liar and an absolute swine and I think you should ... (read in full...)

Will I ever be able to get pregnant?

Q.   So to start im 25 years old my question is kinda going to be all over the place so just bare with me please. So 3 years back I was in a relationship with a guy who did me wrong and gave me a std that I had no symptoms of and it was sitting in my ...

A.   7 February 2018: Sweetheart, your concerns are completely understandable but don't you think it's better if you ask your doctor these questions? I'm sure it's not as bad as you think because you can't possibly be the first person in the world in this situation. As ... (read in full...)

Could my FWB's partner's ego have kept him from admitting that he cares about me?

Q.   I've been on and off friends with benefits with a guy for 4 years. I've fallen in love with him and I told him in person. he said he likes me but can't commit to me because of his family situation as his family are not speaking to him. During this ...

A.   7 February 2018: How could you even get the ego angle in here?! What ego could there possibly be in telling someone close to you that you love them? The simple fact is that he's just having sex with you and has zero romantic feelings for you. There is no love. ... (read in full...)

How can I deal with racist comments?

Q.   How can I deal with racist people ? I am a European ( originally born in chech) and came here at 3. I have been in the states for 27 Years my life has been shaped here - I love this county and never want to love. I can not identify with people and ...

A.   3 February 2018: In today's political environment in the US, I guess this is more common than ever before because it is validated by the person running the country. From making comments about "shithole" countries, to building walls to #MAGA, it's becoming ... (read in full...)

Do we try to help this couple, whose marriage is deeply troubled?

Q.   So this is for a couple who have been family friends for a long time, let call them A (the woman) and B (the man). They've had differences in approach and tension going on, but now they have stopped conversing all together. They have a child and ...

A.   3 February 2018: I think you should stay out of it. Till someone categorically asks for your help or advice, don't go around offering either, especially where private and personal lives are concerned. What happens behind closed doors is for the husband and wife to ... (read in full...)

I didn't realise being a bridesmaid would mean so much pre wedding work!

Q.   Hi folks, I’m looking for some help working out if I’m being unreasonable; if my friend is; or if it’s a bit of both. So basically my friend is getting married in August and I’m going to be a bridesmaid. That’s all fine, but the problem is she s...

A.   3 February 2018: While the first instinct in reading your post is to tell her to take a hike, a kinder approach is to look at this this way. She's your lifelong friend, she's about to get married, she's stressed and she's banking on you for support. Even if you c... (read in full...)

Three dates in and she does't want to kiss!

Q.   So I met a girl through Tinder and we went out for dinner. I'm 30 and she's 27. We hit it off really well. We talked for nearly 4 hours. She had a pretty bad cough though, and I didn't attempt any sort of physical contact except a brief touch of the ...

A.   31 January 2018: Wow! Talk about being a freeloader! ... (read in full...)

Three dates in and she does't want to kiss!

Q.   So I met a girl through Tinder and we went out for dinner. I'm 30 and she's 27. We hit it off really well. We talked for nearly 4 hours. She had a pretty bad cough though, and I didn't attempt any sort of physical contact except a brief touch of the ...

A.   30 January 2018: She prefers to keep seeing someone to decide if she wants "something" means that she decides for how long this experiment of her continues... At your expense. Literally! Don't waste your time on her anymore OP. You're giving her way too much imp... (read in full...)

Is there anything wrong with my sister and I being nude around each other?

Q.   I am 20 years old and my sister is 18 years old. Our parents are usually not home: my dad is a long distance 18 wheeler driver and since my sister graduated from high school last year, my mom often goes with our dad. Both my sister and I hat...

A.   28 January 2018: If there's nothing wrong then why don't you do it in front of your parents or your friends? In no universe is this acceptable or "right" and you are both going to have a very tough time having to explain this to anyone. ... (read in full...)

Love my boyfriend but I'm tempted to stray

Q.   Hi there, thanks for looking. I hope it’s ok to ask this.. but please be nice as I’m already feeling in a very low place right now, and hate myself for this already. I guess I’m looking for the sort of advice a parent might give. I can’t stop cryi...

A.   26 January 2018:  When you say that your boyfriend has a bad temper, what exactly do you mean? Is he violent? Verbally abusive? Anyway what I feel is that basically your relationship with your boyfriend has run it's course and the new guy is a distraction.... (read in full...)

What hope for this relationship?

Q.   I’m heartbroken and confused by all of this and appreciate any insight. Please bear with me and my story. I’m 30 and he’s 32. He’s Single. Never married. About 6 months ago, our friendship progressed to us having mutual feelings towards each other. ...

A.   22 January 2018: What rubbish! Can you say no to something that you genuinely feel is "too good" and could be yours? What he's saying is just a cop out. He's not into you and is just playing games. For whatever reason, he's enjoying leading you on and then dum... (read in full...)

Boyfriend shows no respect

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and we have been practically living together since day one. First off he is a total momma's boy, which I have no problem with. But I know he will never out me first before her. My problem is that he ...

A.   20 January 2018: You love someone who abuses you left, right and centre and has zero respect for you? Why do you have such low self-esteem? Do you really see this relationship going someplace good? Are you telling us that you're that deluded? I also notice t... (read in full...)

I'm getting married soon so why am I thinking of this other guy?

Q.   Hello, a few days ago i went to a family wedding with my fiancee. Everyone had a great time and got on well, it was brilliant! Only problem is, my cousin brought a friend with him who i now cant stop thinking about. We found we had a lot in com...

A.   17 January 2018: Everyone has cold feet before they get married! I was almost considering running away! :D OP don't be too hard on yourself ok? Marriage is a huge step and it's only normal to feel apprehensive as it draws closer. The flirting with the stranger... (read in full...)

Why send me a video of his girlfriend?

Q.   My to be ex husband sent me his intimate vdo of him with his girlfriend. After we have been talking about divorce for these past years. We have been lived in 2 different countries though. So he sent me that last week, saying I should know and he ...

A.   16 January 2018:  Obviously to hurt you! To drive home the point in the way that would hurt you the most... That you mean nothing to him while he's completely into her (sorry I don't mean to be gross but that's what he's doing). To humiliate you, to make you cry,... (read in full...)

I thought my luck had changed! Now what?

Q.   Hi, I have just come out of relationship with a wonderful guy, i was never treated as good in my life before by any guy, he brought me everywhere, family functions and so on, he was always very affectionate towards me, forehead kisses which are ...

A.   15 January 2018:  Sweetheart he's made his decision and you have to respect that. You might not want to give him up but he's decided that he doesn't want to be with you. Why, when, where, how...these things don't matter. What matters is that he has made the deci... (read in full...)

Am I an evil step mother?

Q.   I am a stepmother who will be inheriting my husband Home instead of his adult child. I want responses on whether * am the evil stepmom everyone fears. Here is my story. My husband was a widower when we married,that was 14 years ago. His daughter ...

A.   14 January 2018: Nobody is a monster. Not you nor she. It's difficult for children to accept their parents being with other people and not everyone can get on board with that. Your husband on the other hand is also allowed to choose another partner after the deat... (read in full...)

I want marriage and children, is he wasting my time?

Q.   So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about five years we both have crazy work schedules so I suggested that we get a place together somewhere located centrally Between both of our apartments.In my mind it’s the perfect solution so we can spend more ...

A.   14 January 2018: Have you asked him why he's opposed to you living together? How often do you meet each other? Has he ever spoken about marriage and kids? It's very important that you be on the same page regarding the big decisions. You say you are hoping that it w... (read in full...)

Will waxing my upper lip hurt?

Q.   hi y'all, I'm 20 yo girl and have a kind of a moustache. it doesn't bother me a lot tbh. I only waxed it once (mum did it for me) and it kinda hurts, so i can't trust anyone to wax it for me( not even myself).. I would like to shave it, but i ...

A.   13 January 2018: Threading works best for me so that's what I'd suggest to you as well. I have a pretty low threshold for pain and absolutely cannot bear the agony of waxing. Shaving is a complete no-no. ... (read in full...)

My friend wont stop pestering me

Q.   Since mid December i decided to cut back on social media ( im not on it much ) i let my friends know i was having a break from it so they knew they wasnt being ignored. I really enjoyed having a break from it ive felt free and relaxed so this ...

A.   12 January 2018:  I understand what you're trying to say. It's hard to ignore her before she's in your face literally all the time, gives you no breathing space and has no concept of boundaries. The best that you can do without being downright rude is to just i... (read in full...)

I found my best friends sex tape online

Q.   This is unbelievable. There is a girl I’ve been friends with since we were two years old, and we are now 24. I recently found a video of her on a porn site (one of my friends who met her at a party sent me a link saying it looked like her). It 10...

A.   9 January 2018: How close are you as friends? The question is worded as "best friends" but you say that you're friends and have known each other a long time. There's a difference between the two. Either way, telling her face to face will not be easy. As Honeypie... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doest take care of herself and has no ambition

Q.   Is it me? Is it her? Are we fizzling. I feel like my gf of 4 yrs doesn't make effort. Everytime we are going out we isn't putting effort in. I don't mind until I realised its everyday. In my family my mum and sisters always make sure they presen...

A.   9 January 2018:  The fact that she doesn't shower, shave, bother to put an effort into her appearance, eats all the time, doesn't want to do anything at home, has no ambitious, has no friends or hobbies... All this **screams** depression! How have you never ... (read in full...)

I am worried about oral sex and hygiene

Q.   I've been in a relationship for a while now. She's coming over for the weekend. This will be the first time we'll be alone together in a private place. We've talked about being physical and we're both ready for it. I want to please her sexually. ...

A.   6 January 2018: First things first: Use a condom. Stay safe always. Shower together so you know that you're both clean and proceed from there. If you want oral sex then you'll have to give it as well. Are you ok with receiving it? Don't read stuff online and buil... (read in full...)

My question is should I follow my heart and keep seeing her because I feel great in her company or should I cut my losses now?

Q.   So I've been living in Spain for a few months and I met a local girl and we really hit it off the first night. I tried to meet up with her again but she said she just wanted to be friends because she liked a German guy she met a few weeks ago but he ...

A.   4 January 2018:  Financially and socially, are you in a better position than her? Because right now it seems like she's keeping you in the loop because you're a safe catch. She's sleeping with the other dudes despite you being on the scene because she's obviou... (read in full...)

Should I ask my co-worker out? Or is she a gold digger?

Q.   Hello, The thing is I'm getting mixed signals from a female coworker. She said once that she doesn't like quiet guys (like me), or fat guys (also like me), but recently she seems much more eager to talk to me about random stuff (but she does spe...

A.   4 January 2018: How you still want to ask her out despite all this is beyond me. If someone has been pulled up by the boss for flirting relentlessly with a "hot guy" then it just shows the level of professionalism or the lack of it. I think your buddies are havi... (read in full...)

How do I enact new behaviours so my needs are not negated?

Q.   I have a question about what to do regarding a specific behaviour by a friendly couple. I am thinking about this in a general context of re-evaluating my own behaviours within friendships (and relationships with men) because a consistent, recurring ...

A.   4 January 2018: For the record I too agree that they were out of line giving out your address. Addresses and mobile numbers should never be handed out... It's common courtesy and decency. Anyway now you know where you stand with the. Treat then the same way. The... (read in full...)

I'm worried about the looks I will get if I buy condoms

Q.   Hi all, Recently, I got together with a guy and well, our relationship has been moving fairly quickly. I absolutely okay with how it's going. So, I was just wondering, he will coming to visit me at my own place (I live near my uni campus), and lik...

A.   3 January 2018: Sweetie what would you rather have? Isn't it better to have a "weird look" now than all the judgemental looks and shock and horror if God forbid you have to have an abortion? Or the morbid fear of trying to tell your parents that you're pregnant? ... (read in full...)

How do I enact new behaviours so my needs are not negated?

Q.   I have a question about what to do regarding a specific behaviour by a friendly couple. I am thinking about this in a general context of re-evaluating my own behaviours within friendships (and relationships with men) because a consistent, recurring ...

A.   3 January 2018:  All that comes to my mind is that some people don't want to get personally involved in other people's problems. They just want to meet in good times, share some happy moments and then go their way. Maybe this couple is like that? As long as you ... (read in full...)

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