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Men don't see me as dating material - why?

Q.   Hi, you know how people like to use the term "friendzone" in situations when girls only see guys as friends? Well, i'm the opposite. I'm a 25 yo girl and find that most guys see me as a buddy or undateable. I've gone on dates with guys but nothing ...

A.   15 October 2017: I don't know enough about you to give you great advice, but most guys won't friend zone a girl unless they're not attracted to them. Something you're doing is putting them off. Maybe you're a bit of a tom boy? Guys tend to like girly girls, any ... (read in full...)

He has kept in touch, but I thought he only wanted sex.

Q.   Hi there! So i went on a date a few months ago with a lovely giy who i knew from primary school who just happens to now have his own tv series. We went out for a drink, had a lovely time. Then the next week he drove 3 hours to see his father (...

A.   13 October 2017: It takes seconds to send a text message. A text message every couple weeks does not sound like he's crazy about you. Are you exclusive? Do you know if he's dating and texting other girls? My gut tells me he's just doing the bare minimum to keep you ... (read in full...)

What if she's not willing to compromise?

Q.   I've been dating a girl for 2 months now and we are official, she's 34, and I'm 36. She has 2 young children that I've not met yet- I will be soon. Things seem really good but I have abit of a concern, please could you guys give your advice and your ...

A.   12 October 2017: Run away. Two months in and you already know she's stubborn and going to be a pain to deal with. She's not going to get any better and she has kids in tow. My 2 cents, prepare to eject and move on to the next girl. ... (read in full...)

Why does every girl that I like want to be "just friends"?

Q.   So I m now 29, for the last several years I haven t been able to start or get a relationship. Every girl I ve shown interest in has turned out to be asexual, gay, not interested and only wants to be "friends". In the last 7+ years I ve asked...

A.   4 September 2017: There's not enough information there to give you a great answer. If you're getting to the third date, you're probably doing somethings right, but you're probably getting other things wrong. Also, they probably find you attractive enough to go ou... (read in full...)

A guy I have a crush on wants to do things I've never done

Q.   Hi, Im 15 years old, and there is this guy who I like and he likes me back. He says that he wants to finger me and do stuff with me, and I want to as well but I am shit scared. There are so many things that Im worried about, and questions I want a...

A.   18 August 2017: Red Flag! This boy doesn't actually like or he wouldn't put you under this pressure and in this situation. If you go along with anything this boy wants from you, he will leave you feeling worthless and used. Run away as fast as you can. ... (read in full...)

Do men ever regret dumping a good woman?

Q.   Want to ask the other women on this site,I treated my ex great I thought, I did every thing to try to make him happy,its been over a year now, do you think he ever thinks of me. Do men ever regret dumping a good woman, oh he ghost me, never got a ...

A.   2 August 2017: There's a lot more good women out there than there are good men. For men that have their act together, there's usually a few great women around the corner. Your ex might think about you, but he might have moved on. ... (read in full...)

Advice please on my crush on a policeman

Q.   I am 17 year old young woman! I have a strong attraction to a local cop, because he responded to a home invasion when i was all alone one summer.. I fell for him because he was such a quick responder, like 5 mins. He was so sweet, very experienced. ...

A.   23 July 2017: Stay away from him until you're 18... The time will fly anyways. If you're still crushing on him when your 18 take your shot. ... (read in full...)

On/off holiday friendship

Q.   I met this guy on holiday. We got along really well and I thought he was, well, perfect. Then he had to move away and stuff cause his holiday ended. We exchanged phone numbers and we were texting for a while. After a couple of weeks of texting he ...

A.   15 May 2017: I suspect that if you let him, he'll hurt you pretty badly. This isn't very complicated. He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, but he'll take anything from you that he can. Block him.... (read in full...)

She's pushing but it seems too soon

Q.   Hi, I feel like my girlfriend is trying to inadvertently pressure me into proposing to her on her 21st birthday. Her b'day is at end of June and she has hinted so many times at me proposing eg. showing me ring a she likes and talking about it. ...

A.   14 May 2017: If you're not going to marry her, let her go. I know the ultimatum puts you in a terrible position, but its also unfair to her if you continue to string her along. If you're unsure about marrying her, don't marry her. If you're not going to marry... (read in full...)

Girlfriend doesn't make any real effort to lose weight despite wanting to

Q.   I've been in relationship with my girlfriend for about 7 months now. I liked her for her personality and character but her weight had always bothered me right from the start. She was actually slim just under 2 year back(she looked amazing) but gai...

A.   29 March 2017: If you're not attracted to her end it. She's chubby, but within a healthy range. If she was actually overweight or obese, I do think you'd have a right or obligation to encourage her to change. As other's have pointed out, you're probably underwei... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's insecurity is chipping away at our relationship

Q.   So I am having some serious issues in my relationship and I don't know how to deal with them. I am coming here for some much needed perspective. To start, I'm a gay female. 33 years old. My girlfriend is 27. We have what I would normally conside...

A.   29 March 2017: Veering across lanes is dangerous. I feel like she purposely put you in danger while she was driving. I'd consider that some type of abuse. If you can't trust her to keep you safe, there's nothing else to fight about or discuss. End it. ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend didn't contact me and I'm angry

Q.   My bf was at a lunch at a client today and then they went to a hotel bar with the guys for drinks. He hardly contacted me during the lunch nor told me they were going to a bar afterwards. I had to contact him and ask him what he was up to because he ...

A.   25 March 2017: You don't trust him because he cheated on you. That's understandable. And you're acting weird because you don't trust him. Also understandable. If you want your relationship to survive, you should at least take his calls instead of pushing him a... (read in full...)

It was his first time. But straight after we finished he called his best friend to tell him we'd had sex. Made me feel like an object. What should I do?

Q.   Hello, I'm a 16 year old girl. When I was 14 I had a relationship with a boy which lasted about 1,5 year. At the time my parents were breaking up and everything was falling apart. I got sexual abused and that boy destroyed me and I felt like de...

A.   17 March 2017: I'm sorry, but you had sex with a boy who is not nice or kind. Please don't sleep with him again or he will continue to hurt you. ... (read in full...)

How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?

Q.   How much effort should a woman put into being attractive for her partner?. I mean considering my partner has developed very particulicular tastes in women lately. How much should I be trying to be what he wants or trying to be attractive to him He...

A.   8 March 2017: "He never seems to even notice me" You should be with someone who not only notices you but appreciates you. As for your effort... Whatever you do, do it for yourself and what makes you happy. If you want to lose weight, get a new hair cut, or... (read in full...)

Should I go on a trip with my family or to a wedding with my boyfriend?

Q.   I'm struggling to make a decision. I don't want this to sound like first world problems or like a brat. I've been dating someone for nearly 6 months now. We're starting to get more serious and have had a really great relationship so far. The ...

A.   7 March 2017: I vote for Europe. If it was his sister or brother getting married, it'd be a different situation. If he's the right guy for you, he'll understand that this is a great opportunity for you. ... (read in full...)

I don't want to hurt my girlfriend but after 3 years I am not sure that I want to be with her

Q.   How can i break up with my girlfriend? Im not sure if i even want to. We have been together for three years. We have been having problems recently. She told me she was not sure where we were going, that we were stuck in the same old patterns doing ...

A.   25 February 2017: I think the others have said it well. Cut her loose. ... (read in full...)

Slept with my best friend, My boyfriend is hurt, help?

Q.   My best friend Michael and I always hang out on his bed and play video games, watch movies, listen to music, do work, or just talk. Last night we were just watching tv and taking about past senerios and we hit some that are sensitive to me and I ...

A.   6 February 2017: Fatherly Advice, nails it. It is foolish to think a guy wouldn't want to sleep with a girl, unless she were really ugly. Michael likes you and has been holding back all this time. He made his move and he's thrilled he finally got into you. ... (read in full...)

I wasn't ready for sex so he hasn't talked to me for two weeks!

Q.   my boyfriend hasn't spoken to me for two weeks..he suddenly went silent after we argued over the fact that I wasn't ready for sex .we have only gone out for almost a month.I like him but I don't want to base my relationship on sex....do I call him ...

A.   2 February 2017: Don't speak to him again. He doesn't care about you. He only wanted sex from you. That's it. If you let him, he will crush your heart. Stay away from him. ... (read in full...)

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