People were worried about me. Now I'm geting worried myself. Do I need a psychiatrist?
Q. This is going to sound wierd, but people are concerned about my mental health and to be honest, so am I. I am VERY paranoid, if something happens I DO take it the wrong way every time, so that it ends up like things are against me.I panic easily, ...
A. 20 July 2008: It doesn't hurt to see a counselor or a psychologist to determine whether you are too unstable, but a lot of the symptoms you're noting sound like what come with the teen years(perhaps you are an only child and your family is not used to these ... (read in full...)
He sort of half asked me to marry him by doing a text and not sending it but showing me instead. Then he acts like I've said no. I'm really confused.
Q. hi i was wondering if anoyne could maybe help ok ill get to the point me and my bf have been together for 2year and 5mnth like evrey relationship weve had are ups and downs but we get on really well it was his birthday not so long ago i didnt have...
A. 20 July 2008: Why would you act like it never happened? If you act like that then it IS a form of rejecting his proposal, however awkward.... (read in full...)
He sort of half asked me to marry him by doing a text and not sending it but showing me instead. Then he acts like I've said no. I'm really confused.
Q. hi i was wondering if anoyne could maybe help ok ill get to the point me and my bf have been together for 2year and 5mnth like evrey relationship weve had are ups and downs but we get on really well it was his birthday not so long ago i didnt have...
A. 18 July 2008: You two are so materialistic! In your account of what happened, you don't mention your response besides questioning his action and then creeping around the incident and not discussing it, so why WOULDN"T he think you rejected him? neither of you ... (read in full...)
Does he want me to regain the weight I lost, because he likes larger women, or what, he lost, and he looks good, he also watches skinny girls in porn, what goes?
Q. I have lost weight and still in the process of losing. I'm feeling sexier and more confident and finally fitting back into my skinny jeans. I was telling me boyfriend the other night how much I have lost. He told me he'd rather that I gain some ...
A. 18 July 2008: It sounds like he may have felt guilty about the porn situation and the discussion about the skinny girls so when he saw you trying to lose weight he didn't like that he had influenced you to change your body for him, but just explain to him it was ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend became my stepsister!
Q. Ever since september 2007, my girlfreind and i have been together. She turned 16 last week and my B-day is in august. We've been happy and hav'nt had any big problems with each other, but what we didnt know up until feburary that year is that her ...
A. 18 July 2008: Not to be mean, but your parents sound like completely selfish people. They expect you two, the original lovers, if you will, to break it off and cut your romantic ties for their own relationship, and then they act clueless when they see you near ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend became my stepsister!
Q. Ever since september 2007, my girlfreind and i have been together. She turned 16 last week and my B-day is in august. We've been happy and hav'nt had any big problems with each other, but what we didnt know up until feburary that year is that her ...
A. 18 July 2008: Not to be mean, but your parents sound like completely selfish people. They expect you two, the original lovers, if you will, to break it off and cut your romantic ties for their own relationship, and then they act clueless when they see you near ... (read in full...)
He asked if I would wear a strap on and take him from behind?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months now. We were fine at first but now.... He has started asking really difficult sexual favours from me. He recently asked me if i would wear and strap on and take him from behind?!?! I didnt know what ...
A. 18 July 2008: To piggyback off of uncle sneakers' comments, it sounds as though this IS a request and not a demand, or some void he needs filled so that he is sexually satisfied, you said he says he's satisfied, and that he is willing to compromise on what you're ... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian?
Q. I'm 12 years old and I'm not sure if i'm lesbian. last week me and my best friends had a sleep over and we all started fingering each other. I masturbate to lesbian porn and I don't get turned on by boys. Am I lesbian?...
A. 18 July 2008: Regardless of whether you're gay or straight, you're way too young to be watching gay porn, that is for ADULTS which is why it is called ADULT film. If what you're doing is confusing you, maybe you shouldn't do it! take a step back, and think about ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the butterflies in my stomach, does it mean we're not meant for each other?
Q. I have a very important question. When me and my bf kiss I don't feel butterflys or weak in the knees or things like they say in books and such. Does that mean were not meant for each other? He feels it but I don't. My bf thinks I don't feel it ...
A. 18 July 2008: I'm like that too. I think that those feelings are fairly fake, and romanticized as real...even if others feeling them, those feelings that you're looking for are not fully indicative of your caring about and for someone...they indicate lust maybe, ... (read in full...)
How to I Stop Having Urges to Self-Injure?
Q. I know this isn't a romance question but maybe you can help me anyway. Over the last year I've been having more trouble dealing with my problems in healthy ways, and when I am overwhelmed my knee jerk thought is to hurt myself, to cut myself ...
A. 22 June 2008: I wrote this a while back, and just wanted to update you all and say that the urges to hurt myself have significantly decreased, I'd say 1 urge per 1-2 months, but it's no longer my gut reaction when there's a troubling issue in my life. Thank you ... (read in full...)
I've been having an awful lot of vaginal discharge and I have no medical insurance... should I be concerned?
Q. I've been having an awful lot of vaginal disharge lately. I've always had it now and then, but lately it seems like after a day, the crotch of my panties are lined with it! It's thick and white with just the slightest yellow tint. It's also cau...
A. 13 June 2008: Sounds like a yeast infection to me though, in which case, the yogurt treatment would be most helpful, though it wouldn't if you had both a vaginal and a yeast. I just saw this ad on TV that promoted a kit that diagnosis whether you have a vaginal ... (read in full...)
I was so unhappy I thought I had no choice but to split up with him. Should I write him a letter explaining why?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend of nearly a year on saturday. I did this because I felt we had been getting more and more distant. He would ignore me and seemed more interested in going to the pub than spending time with me. Just before we split up he ...
A. 2 May 2008: Well, if it's only been 6 days I would definitely think that this is still viable, go tell him you were too quick to react and it was a mistake... (read in full...)
Does he mean it or is it sex talk?...
Q. Ok we have had sex three times the first time it was 1 min long. The next two times he put it on me! He lasted.....he's very shy but he tells me during sex that I have some good puss when guys say that do they really mean it. He always tells me how ...
A. 2 May 2008: perhaps that's why he doesn't last so long, cause you're so good ;)... (read in full...)
I was so unhappy I thought I had no choice but to split up with him. Should I write him a letter explaining why?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend of nearly a year on saturday. I did this because I felt we had been getting more and more distant. He would ignore me and seemed more interested in going to the pub than spending time with me. Just before we split up he ...
A. 2 May 2008: I've tried this move before, the not explaining what was really bugging me and instead jumping the gun to breakup mode instead of actually addressing the issues. I also tried to talk to the ex MANY months after what happened, just for closure's ... (read in full...)
She's going away soon - do I ask her out and risk the friendship?
Q. Lately i have been wondering if i should ask one of my best friends out. The only thing is i wont see her for 3 months when she goes back home for summer. A while back i took her out for lunch and had a good chat and from that point we became ...
A. 2 May 2008: I don't know if I'd be as forward as "let's go out sometime" because you're too uncertain, but I think I would lay a little foundation for when she comes back , just plant a seed in her mind to get her thinking about the possibility of you two ... (read in full...)
Do I have a butt fetish here? Anyone else? Does it make me a pervet?
Q. Ladies, do you like it when a guy kisses and licks your butt cheeks? Does it make you sexually aroused? The reason I ask is I love doing this for a woman. I think a woman's butt is the sexiest part of her body, so when I see a woman's bare butt, I ...
A. 2 May 2008: I agree with LJ I think it's sweet, a cute way of showing affection. I like having my butt worshipped, I've gotten some butt confidence from my boyfriend's friendly words (and actions) towards it! Definitely not creeped out over here! ... (read in full...)
I've been developing some strange sexual fetishes. Will this affect my relationships?
Q. Hi, I am a 24 year old male from England. I am quite a good looking lad and don't really have any problem getting the girls, the only problem is I am confused as to what turns me on at the moment and it is the wrong sort of girls i attract. Si...
A. 30 April 2008: This probably isn't the answer you're looking for, but nobody's normal, normal is a construction, and sexually normal pretty much just means being missionary the rest of your life. I think that you should just accept that this is the scene you're ... (read in full...)
Woman on top advice needed!
Q. Ok my boyfriend of 9months asked me about 3 months ago would i go on top during sex just for a change, i said no cause i havent a clue what to do and he was ok with that.but personally i tried it with my ex and it just didnt work for us. I would ...
A. 29 April 2008: something that i always had trouble with before was leverage? that is, I would have on leg on either side of my man's body but didn't even feel him in me during the up and down motion, so what i've found instead works nicely for me, is one leg the ... (read in full...)
I don't think my girlfriend is comfortable with my new facial scars!
Q. Hey, I'm just a bit unsure of what to do here. Bit of background, I've been in the army for 3 years now, I went on overseas deployment and ended up getting wounded and coming home early. I now have some bad scaring on my face. I know it doesn't ...
A. 16 April 2008: I'm sure her comments aren't meant to sound ungrateful that you're alive but rather indicates her wish that things could just go 'back to normal,' to before you were overseas. It may not even signfy to her disfigurement but as a permanent reminder ... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and half months and we already had sex.
Q. if i am on the shot and he cums in me more than once and one time the day before i get the shot is it possible that i could be pregnate?? he tells me that i am the first girl that he has never used a condum with me and that he wants me to have his ...
A. 16 April 2008: I'm assuming 'on the shot' is a form of birth control? obviously if you're on birth control you're not going to be getting pregnant, I don't know why you'd leap to that meaning that you were infertile, that's far-fetched. Maybe you can cross that ... (read in full...)
She can't say the "L" word!
Q. I am with a woman who can't say the L-word. We have been together a year and a half and I feel like the woman. I say "I love you" and I get silence...she cant say it and tells me anytime she ever said it in her life everything went wrong---but i ...
A. 6 April 2008: I am also one who has trouble just spitting out I love you all the time. I do think that is putting a lot of trust in the other person's hands that I wouldn't feel comfortable with. Plus, I only like to say it when it feels genuine. I do say I love ... (read in full...)
He was drunk and said he never wants to speak to me again... sober, he said he can't remember.
Q. Last night me, my boyfriend and quite a few friends were out in town. All of us extremely drunk. At the end of the night my boyfriend told me to leave him alone and he never wants to speak to me or see me ever again, I don't know why because I ...
A. 6 April 2008: I think I would trust him on this, you gave him a way out of the relationship if he wanted it, and he resisted and said he wanted you. It really just sounds like the drinking went a little out of control, sometimes people say things TOTALLY from ... (read in full...)
My younger sister (14) has sex with her BF which my mother doesn't know, should I tell her?
Q. hi, this isnt really advice im after but something i just cannot get my head around?!!!!!!!! my sister is 13 years old she will be 14 in august. she has been goin out with this 17 year old guy now for about 3 to 4 months and i know she is havi...
A. 6 April 2008: It sounds like jealousy, or at least, annoyance at the injustice that your mom didn't even give craig and you the time of day while you say your sister is tramping around in the meantime, it's a double standard. I think your mother's treatment of ... (read in full...)
My younger sister (14) has sex with her BF which my mother doesn't know, should I tell her?
Q. hi, this isnt really advice im after but something i just cannot get my head around?!!!!!!!! my sister is 13 years old she will be 14 in august. she has been goin out with this 17 year old guy now for about 3 to 4 months and i know she is havi...
A. 3 April 2008: You will perhaps irreversibly lose your sister's trust if you rat her out. her sex life isn't your business to tell. I understand that she's MAKING it your business by telling you about it, and by being so public about it but you have to respect her ... (read in full...)
I feel like a slave but he doesn't hit me too hard so maybe he will be better after we have children...
Q. My husband comes from a family where the men are always in charge. He was very nice to me when we were dating and after we got married he changed like he thinks he is my master. I feel like a slave sometimes and if I don't do what I am supposed to ...
A. 14 March 2008: Let's just say, he didn't change. He didn't get worse, he didn't get better. Do you really want a child to grow up in an environment where one's mother is devalued and treated as though SHE were the child? I don't think he WILL change, at least for ... (read in full...)
Manipulative behaviour
Q. Help! I really need some advice and very quickly. I have a situation which I just don't know how to deal with. I am a woman who has a really close relationship with a gay man, - we are best friends, and he and his partner and I are really close. ...
A. 14 March 2008: This may come off a little immature, but maybe you could switch the venue, make it at your house and say you wanted it a little more private so keep the information to yourself? This situation sounds like a nightmare, I would consider associating ... (read in full...)
Since my BF told me he was bi, we did not have sex as much as before. What is happening?
Q. My boyfriend told me that he was bi, which is okay with me. We have had fun exploring with it. But lately he doesn't always want to have sex with me or go down on me as much anymore. He does other things to please me. He says because he is angry. He ...
A. 14 March 2008: I agree with gothgirl, that the anger is the root of the issue, which may be homosexuality related OR not! Because, he used to have sex with you okay, but something has CHANGED to make him angry during heterosexual sex? If so, what has changed, ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my husband touching me or kissing me...and the thought of sex makes me sick.
Q. I don't know what it is. the thought of making love to my husband makes me sick. I can't stand him touching me or kissing me. In the past and currently he has some anger problems and he says hurtful things to me and about my family and its a turnof...
A. 11 March 2008: He sounds verbally abusive to me and it may be better for you to seperate from him for a while to sort out how you want to take your next step--with or without him.... (read in full...)
Do I marry and die????
Q. I've been in this relationship for 6 years now. He claims he fell in love with me the moment he saw me and has wanted to marry me ever since. After a few years he went to another country to pursue his studies. I missed him terribly and decided to ...
A. 11 March 2008: Does your family know about this other man? Your relatives only want to see you happy, and you should be doing the marriage for you, not for anyone else. Don't waste your life pleasing others!If you really don't want to cancel a wedding, just swap ... (read in full...)
Is infidelity genetic?
Q. My boyfriend has confided in me that his dad cheated on his mom while they were married and that was the cause of their divorce. My question is, is my boyfriend more likely to cheat on me in the future because he has been exposed to and influence ...
A. 11 March 2008: I think he'd be even more so against adultery after seeing his mother in pain and probably experiencing itself! Don't doubt your relationship just because your bf's father has made mistakes! Have faith!... (read in full...)
I just want the truth...is my bf bi or not??
Q. I need some serious help, my boyfriend and I have been together off and on for over a year.. I found out he was a member of a adult website and listed himself as bi-sexual, when confronted he was defensive and said no I just like looking at ...
A. 20 February 2008: To answer your follow up, I would say men can have sexual attractions to other women and a relationship can bloom; likewise, men can have attractions to women and men and still want you to be the one. I would think he feels a LOT of shame about ... (read in full...)
I just want the truth...is my bf bi or not??
Q. I need some serious help, my boyfriend and I have been together off and on for over a year.. I found out he was a member of a adult website and listed himself as bi-sexual, when confronted he was defensive and said no I just like looking at ...
A. 19 February 2008: I mean, there's technically nothing wrong with being attracted to both sexes; the lying and the putting up pictures behind your back however, could be construed (depending on your definitions) as adulterous. He HAS admitted he "likes seeing things" ... (read in full...)
I have an 18 month old daughter already and feel it's time to have another one but only this time I am having problems concieving...
Q. I have an 18 month old daughter already and feel it's time to have another one but only this time I am having problems concieving, I was on the pill. Anyone got any ideas on what will help my chances?...
A. 19 February 2008: this keeps happening it seems, the whole misidentification of age/gender in posts, i can't tell if it's carelessness in this case, or a mistake or joke. If you really are only 17, i would agree with the first aunt. you're going to have trouble ... (read in full...)
I'm just curious what you all think would be a nice way to tell him to stop without disgusting him. "Stop, I'm bleeding," doesn't seem to quite cut it.
Q. I'm on my period and the guy I've recently started seeing has tried to make a move. I'm just curious what you all think would be a nice way to tell him to stop without disgusting him. "Stop, I'm bleeding," doesn't seem to quite cut it. Since it's ...
A. 19 February 2008: It sounds like he is writing off your period as a problem, maybe saying it doesn't mean much to him. if that's the case then just Tell him it makes you uncomfortable to engage in sexual activity during your period, i don't think a lot of women even ... (read in full...)
What are these spots down there?
Q. I'm a 13yr old girl. I have spots down there. Like alot of them. They are swollen/red and sometimes they even bleed. I dont shave down there. What is it? ...
A. 13 February 2008: Are you sexually active? Maybe that'd provide a clue. Either way I'd look into going into a doctor!... (read in full...)
How can I avoid leaking before I come?
Q. i seem to get wet or precome when me and my wife have foreplay or begin sex. how can i avoid this?...
A. 11 February 2008: Maybe this isn't answering your question really, but I know that as a girl i like precum, as some physical evidence that a guy's having a good time besides being hard! But I would think that you could either wipe it off, or shorten engagement in ... (read in full...)
He texted me and told me to leave him alone because he is physically and emotionally drained... what do I do?
Q. I met a man online, and we clicked right away. We had our first date, and things went beautifully. On our second date, my family showed up, and needless to say it was awkward. The next day he called and cancelled our third date, stating his dad ...
A. 10 February 2008: I think I would be pretty freaked out by a date who was already introducing me into the family on the second meeting, this is generally a huge step, and he may have felt you were moving too soon too fast, but there's nothing you can do about it now ... (read in full...)
Why do I always shoot myself in the foot when trying to get to know someone?
Q. I really screwed up. I met this girl today at my party's caucus who was really cool, and I think we had some chemistry. I started at her confidently and walked right up to her and started talking. I usually don't display this kind of confidence, ...
A. 10 February 2008: this isn't the end of the world. you know she goes to the caucases, maybe you actually WILL see her next time around. or, why don't you look her up in the phonebook? or, why don't you ask one of your colleagues if they knew her, where you could ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with my engaged to be married manager. His excuse is he'd lose his friends and family if he broke up. What do I do?
Q. I am a 20 year old girl and in a really messed up situation at the moment. I recently started a new job and on a work night out I got really drunk and ended up kissing my manager. He is engaged to be married and he told me it was just a bit of fun ...
A. 7 February 2008: How long has it been since the first hook up? Because there's no timeline here, it sounds like he's claiming love very quickly, and My personal opinion is that it sounds like you're being taken advantage of. he might be doing this (saying he loves ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to laugh during his orgasms?
Q. When me and my long term boyfriend have sex, when he cums, he laughs and is often forced to stop the stroking motion. He says it's not a bad thing at all, but doesn't seem to be able to explain it... or maybe he just doesn't want to. Why does he ...
A. 6 February 2008: i've heard of this, maybe from sex and the city or something, i don't remember, but yea i don't think he's laughing at you or anything, it's just normal reaction some guys do ! ... (read in full...)
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