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Is it possible to get a sex change?

Q.   i want a sex change but i like women i just also want to be one but is it possiple to get another sex change ...

A.   26 October 2009: This website explains the operation from man to woman: http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/SRS.html... (read in full...)

Is it possible to get a sex change?

Q.   i want a sex change but i like women i just also want to be one but is it possiple to get another sex change ...

A.   26 October 2009: you can become a woman..you go on i think some kind of testosterone blockers, so you stop growing facial hair and your muscles and voice become a little more feminine; as for surgery you can get breast implants easily, and the surgery for turning a ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to get a sex change?

Q.   i want a sex change but i like women i just also want to be one but is it possiple to get another sex change ...

A.   26 October 2009: you can become a woman..you go on i think some kind of testosterone blockers, so you stop growing facial hair and your muscles and voice become a little more feminine; as for surgery you can get breast implants easily, and the surgery for turning a ... (read in full...)

I'm confused and I don't know where to go from here

Q.   I started out as FWB with this guy seven years ago, but as you can imagine, we eventually fell in love, and despite the fact that we didn’t want to be in a relationship, we became “exclusive” and things started to seem like we were in one, up to the ...

A.   25 October 2009: I think you need to spend less time with each other. You SHOULD be able to have friends, etc. but instead your time is consumed by your man that you do like, but are finding it harder to see that. If you own a business with him, maybe you guys can ... (read in full...)

First lesbian sex together ruining our relationship...can anyone help?

Q.   Serious issue here :/ I have had a girlfriend for a while now. It's become very serious. one time when she came to stay round mine we decided to have sex for the first time, it was my first time all together, and her first time with another ...

A.   25 October 2009: okay also, is she in general, very distant now? I'm wondering if she's having second thoughts about being a lesbian, if this is her first experience. maybe she's feeling weird about how it went and now is questioning her orientation. I think ther... (read in full...)

First lesbian sex together ruining our relationship...can anyone help?

Q.   Serious issue here :/ I have had a girlfriend for a while now. It's become very serious. one time when she came to stay round mine we decided to have sex for the first time, it was my first time all together, and her first time with another ...

A.   25 October 2009: okay. I'm not sure how much you know about female orgasms (it says you could be as young as 13), so I might come off as condescending, I apologize in advance if this is all stuff you know. It sounds to me that you took on too much at once. If she ... (read in full...)

Will my gf be put off by my problem I think I'm not what she thought I was

Q.   hi. Ive been with my gf for about 3 months. ive known her for years and shes always really fancied me. Iv always suffered with acne and i dont go out when i get a bad flare up. Most people dont realise i have bad acne because i dont go out when...

A.   25 October 2009: agree with the other girls--i mean you've already warned her, so i feel like she's prepared enough to "face" you (oh, a PUN!), just think broadly, even though your skin has been bad a while, it's about to be a temporary ailment that is going to ... (read in full...)

What do you think he's thinking?

Q.   Hi! I liked this guy for ages, but was never sure if he liked me... i was pretty sure he did, and so, at the age of 17 (yes, it was humiliating) I finally kissed him at a party. It was my first kiss. He definitely seemed to like me that night, but ...

A.   25 October 2009: honestly, i'd be forthrigh about it and call him and be like do you want to be friends or not because you're going back and forth and that's not worth my time; you don't have to make yourself vulnerable and say how you feel about him, just say it's ... (read in full...)

Stamina problem

Q.   I really hate having sex with my girlfriend because I have... stamina issues where i uh finish early. I really love her though and don't want to disappoint or lose her. What can I do?...

A.   25 October 2009: also if you come fast but also get hard fast again, maybe you should have her give you a handjob or something and THEN get to doing the deed. or, if it's not the case that you harden up quickly again, then there are also c*ckrings that keep you ... (read in full...)

Does he really care for me?

Q.   Hey, Im 18 years old and i just got back with my boyfriend after a 5 month break. He has changed to a very sweet person and regretted everything he has done to me. and i was good enough to forgive him, since im not so perfect either, but the ...

A.   24 October 2009: an alternative theory: maybe he feels self conscious about his being on nutmeg around you and wants to be sure that you still accpet him and is feeling a little frantic cause you're acting distant. i'm wondering why you got back together, you say ... (read in full...)

Does he not like me?

Q.   Last night, I went to my school's football game because the guy that I like--who's on the team--invited me to come and watch; when the game was over he met me over by the gate where everyone comes in and asked did I enjoy it amongst other things, ...

A.   24 October 2009: I wouldn't want to be second rung to anyone either! I don't think it's worth you confronting him over, because he WAS pretty upfront about being more interested in this other girl. I don't see any good that could come out of talking it out with him, ... (read in full...)

Being in a relationship at 15, what should I do?

Q.   Hi everyone, I really need help any and all advice will be needed. So I'm a 15 year old girl.. and I suck at relationships i can get the guy i want. but after i get them it goes down hill... why? Do i not show i care or what? what do i do and ...

A.   24 October 2009: This is too vague to really give advice on. Why don't you give us a typical trajectory (play-by-play) of a relationship you've had recently, in terms of, how long did you know X before went out, how many dates, would you call him ever, would you ... (read in full...)

Do you think I am a slut?

Q.   Do you think I am a slut? I have been flirting with this guy for years, he likes me because I am shy, we have kissed a couple of times, we get on really well and very recently we were kissing and as we were kissing he asked me to make him cum, wh...

A.   23 October 2009: to me, a slut is someone that goes around with A BUNCH of guys, you only did one sexual thing with one guy, so from my definition I'd say you're not a slut. I agree with what people are saying re: maybe you're feeling used because you want more out ... (read in full...)

Have I done the right thing? I still like him

Q.   Hi, The first guy is 18years old, and the second guy is 17years old I am 16 years old I’ve kind of fell for this boy at this convention that I been to for 3 days ,He was staring at me all the way through when we both was waiting for this coach t...

A.   23 October 2009: Back off of both of them! I get that you sensed their interest, but one of them has clearly stated disinterest/fear of you, and the other has a girlfriend? I think they did think you were cute, but that's not necessarily the same as actually wanting ... (read in full...)

Any sites that address missing someone in the military?

Q.   I am a girlfriend of a marine, and I'm having a hard time adjusting to his second time overseas. I know there are a lot of spritual or patriotic support systems, but as an atheist and pacifist, my emotional pain is not easily alleviated. Neither my ...

A.   15 October 2009: Thank you for taking my question seriously I really appreciate your answers. Good luck to you both~... (read in full...)

What do we need to work on to better our sex life?

Q.   three years ago I brought up a sexual comment to spice up the night and my husband threw me off,maybe we had a fight before, i dont know. Today I feel that he is not the sensual guy. There are other times that I see that he is not into the sensual ...

A.   15 October 2009: well I would just emphasize to him that when you do talk to him about sexy stuff, it's because you're interested in him and sexual things with him, and all those guys are so much in the past you don't even think about them anymore. I don't know if ... (read in full...)

When I laugh my muscles go weak, is this normal?

Q.   hello quick question umm when i laugh i cant control myself and my muscles go weak and i end up being really floppy. today when i was laughing a when really floppy and i was eating when it happened and i couldn't physically close my mouth. is th...

A.   13 October 2009: I have never heard of this, maybe it's an issue with your body needing oxygen? I have no idea. I think it's something you might want to check on with a doctor, what if you're driving and laugh? I'd be a little concerned about the aftereffects, ... (read in full...)

My gal says she has lost the spark ... and is now in love with another guy...

Q.   Hey... well I was in an intense relationship with a gal...with both of us in love with each other...she used to call me her soul mate...and she was the same for me... It was a spiritual connection for both of us and we both involved emotionally...

A.   13 October 2009: I would wait out this relationship with the other guy. she sounds like she's not even that invested in it, as she said she didn't care what happens in it. I think she saw him as a sort of, refuge from the troubles she was having with you but when ... (read in full...)

Should I tell her it's over?

Q.   My girlfriend and her roommate (male, also my childhood friend) are getting too close. He is getting sexual and crossing the line and being disrespectful. We both met my girlfriend about 4 months ago and I started dating her, but then he moved in ...

A.   13 October 2009: Why don't you try to get her to move in with you? I would try to tell her to be with you (by moving in, or at least backing off that other guy) or it's over, i really don't think she understands the consequences. And if she gets defensive and thinks ... (read in full...)

Am I gay (honest opinions only)?

Q.   i'm a 27 year old and have been thinking bout men since i was 17. it started as a little bit here and there like one day think about men the next i think about women. i had a sense of guilt when i masturbate thinking bout men when i blow. at the age ...

A.   13 October 2009: I disagree that once you touch a guy you're no longer straight or that you're officially gay. I would continue to push yourself to figure out who you're more comfortable with; for me I'm sexually attractive to girls, that's pretty much the only ... (read in full...)

What do we need to work on to better our sex life?

Q.   three years ago I brought up a sexual comment to spice up the night and my husband threw me off,maybe we had a fight before, i dont know. Today I feel that he is not the sensual guy. There are other times that I see that he is not into the sensual ...

A.   13 October 2009: I'm not following: -he threw you off of his body mid-act, or he just rejected your comments? -it's an issue of you wanting to talk dirty and him thinking you're a whore because you've been with a lot of guys and he's reminded of that, instead ... (read in full...)

Does intermittently questioning yourself and your love necessarily mean you don't love?

Q.   This question may be asked a little too late, but I'll go into it anyway. Do you ever question your love for your partner, or do you think this necessarily means that you don't love the person? I feel strongly, and believe I care deeply for my pa...

A.   23 November 2008: Thanks so much for the support, I was really stressing out. I don't really understand your second comment though, are you saying that once it seems off it never gets back to 'normal'? ... (read in full...)

My friends tell me to run from him but I don't see him in that light at all...

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have a little dilemma. I met this guy online and we hit it off from the very first meeting. I told him from the start that I was not looking for anything serious and just wanted someone to have fun and a casual relationship wit...

A.   17 November 2008: I agree with moongoddess-don't listen to others or judge from you past relationships, maybe you need something a little refreshingly new and different from your old man. I wouldn't necessarily factor his being a vet either into anything, he may have ... (read in full...)

Is there a right way to have sex and what mood should we do it in?

Q.   I've been dating this guy for about 2 years and I really love him and we know we're both ready to move onto the next step of our relationship, we both know about protection and all that but is there a right way to have sex? or is it bad to plan out ...

A.   17 November 2008: yea I would take it slow a nd just see where things lead naturally..it is much better to get all turned on for things to come (heh no pun intended) versus dedicating a night starting off with sex, because you could be way too tight and dry to j ... (read in full...)

My two best friends are a gay couple and I have fallen for one of them! Help!

Q.   My two best friends are a gay couple that have been together for 4 years. I know how crazy what im about to say sounds but I have completly fallen for one of them. We have the closest relationship and at times I truelly believe he feels the same ...

A.   17 November 2008: THat's really difficult and I feel for you. I would consider diversifying your spending time with other friends...find worth and validation and happiness with people that are not already taken, if only to create some emotional distance between you ... (read in full...)

The more times we kissed each other, the more distant he has become...

Q.   I am best friends with this guy, he has told me before i am one of his best girl mates.. We have kissed each other (properly) when we were drinking quite a few times.. then we seem to go on as if nothing has happened until it happens again. ...

A.   20 August 2008: What was his track record beforehand, I think that can be a big predictor of how he handled the situation, his sudden coldness may not be anything personal, that is. I have a feelin though that he may have felt uncomfortable or had second thoughts ... (read in full...)

He kidnapped me and now talks in terms of marriage. Should I tell him I don't want to?

Q.   I'm 16 and I recently met this guy, he seemed so nice and sweet and now we are living together. He's 25 and he has a good job and a girlfriend but he tells me he doesn't love her. I used to live at home but like the knight he is, he rescued me from ...

A.   20 August 2008: Honestly, I am really concerned for you..I don't want to offend you, but it tends to be characteristic of an abusive partner when he not only goes out with a minor, when he (clearly) can have someone his age, but also goes to extremes to show his ... (read in full...)

I was mugged and I may have internal bleeding. My boyfriend still wants to go away for the weekend?!!

Q.   I got mugged and punched really hard in the stomach. The doctor said I may have internal bleeding, and to monitor how I feel. The pain has got worse so I called the doctor again who said it didn't sound good and if I started to feel dizzy etc to ...

A.   2 August 2008: It sounds like you may have downplayed the whole thing, I'm not even sure if you mentioned the 'I could go unconscious and die' part to him..it sounds like you may have just said I got hurt and I might want someone to stay with me, but that's cool, ... (read in full...)

I was mugged and I may have internal bleeding. My boyfriend still wants to go away for the weekend?!!

Q.   I got mugged and punched really hard in the stomach. The doctor said I may have internal bleeding, and to monitor how I feel. The pain has got worse so I called the doctor again who said it didn't sound good and if I started to feel dizzy etc to ...

A.   2 August 2008: It sounds like you may have downplayed the whole thing, I'm not even sure if you mentioned the 'I could go unconscious and die' part to him..it sounds like you may have just said I got hurt and I might want someone to stay with me, but that's cool, ... (read in full...)

How do I know if I'm bisexual?

Q.   Hey I'm a bit confused about my sexuality i mean I'm getting married in 5wks to the most fantastic bloke I could wish for but I fantasize about having sex with women when I watch porn it has to involve at least 2 women I've had 3 somes with women ...

A.   1 August 2008: I've gone through this...for me, I've decided that I don't know who I would date next, a boy or a girl, but it doesn't matter because I'm with the person I want to be with for a looong time, with an unforseeable ending. I think your attractions ... (read in full...)

I feel controlled by my girlfriend, but I wonder if I am the one in the wrong.

Q.   Hi, I'm having problems with my girlfriend but im not sure if it is me who is in the wrong. I'm 30 and she is nearly 27. We have been going out 4 mths now, and I normally see her a few times a week. However she doesnt like me arranging social a...

A.   1 August 2008: It could be that she is insecure or lonely or that she wants more time with you than that she wants to control your life. Also, as for the 'consultations' i'd say that it could be to simply mentally prepare herself for those times you won't be ... (read in full...)

My husband's male friend is at our home, almost every other weekend, our sexual acts have changed, could my husband be cheating on me with his male friend?

Q.   My husband has a best friend that he hangs out with all of the time. He has recently gotten to the point where he goes outside to talk with him. I came home one day on my lunch break and when his friend called he was speaking in codes, and finally ...

A.   30 July 2008: I agree with the Wulf dude...Regardless of whether something sexual IS going on, the fact that there is so much time being spent to the point that you think it could be a relationship is enough just cause for a sit down and a reassessment of your ... (read in full...)

I keep thinking to myself: SHES MY FRIEND! I don't want to think about her in black lingerie!

Q.   Sigh... I'm 22, not a daft wee boy. Sure as hell feel like one. I have a female friend, and sadly I've developed feelings for her, I now have a crush on her :( I thought that perhaps it was just the fact that it a progression due to the emotional...

A.   30 July 2008: If you want to stop disrespecting her then you can tell her the truth so she can understand where you're coming from-- I mean leave off the lingerie part, but you have to tell her what's going on, if you want any part of your friendship to remain ... (read in full...)

I keep thinking to myself: SHES MY FRIEND! I don't want to think about her in black lingerie!

Q.   Sigh... I'm 22, not a daft wee boy. Sure as hell feel like one. I have a female friend, and sadly I've developed feelings for her, I now have a crush on her :( I thought that perhaps it was just the fact that it a progression due to the emotional...

A.   30 July 2008: If you want to stop disrespecting her then you can tell her the truth so she can understand where you're coming from-- I mean leave off the lingerie part, but you have to tell her what's going on, if you want any part of your friendship to remain ... (read in full...)

I keep thinking to myself: SHES MY FRIEND! I don't want to think about her in black lingerie!

Q.   Sigh... I'm 22, not a daft wee boy. Sure as hell feel like one. I have a female friend, and sadly I've developed feelings for her, I now have a crush on her :( I thought that perhaps it was just the fact that it a progression due to the emotional...

A.   30 July 2008: If you want to stop disrespecting her then you can tell her the truth so she can understand where you're coming from-- I mean leave off the lingerie part, but you have to tell her what's going on, if you want any part of your friendship to remain ... (read in full...)

People were worried about me. Now I'm geting worried myself. Do I need a psychiatrist?

Q.   This is going to sound wierd, but people are concerned about my mental health and to be honest, so am I. I am VERY paranoid, if something happens I DO take it the wrong way every time, so that it ends up like things are against me.I panic easily, ...

A.   20 July 2008: It doesn't hurt to see a counselor or a psychologist to determine whether you are too unstable, but a lot of the symptoms you're noting sound like what come with the teen years(perhaps you are an only child and your family is not used to these ... (read in full...)

He sort of half asked me to marry him by doing a text and not sending it but showing me instead. Then he acts like I've said no. I'm really confused.

Q.   hi i was wondering if anoyne could maybe help ok ill get to the point me and my bf have been together for 2year and 5mnth like evrey relationship weve had are ups and downs but we get on really well it was his birthday not so long ago i didnt have...

A.   20 July 2008: Why would you act like it never happened? If you act like that then it IS a form of rejecting his proposal, however awkward.... (read in full...)

He sort of half asked me to marry him by doing a text and not sending it but showing me instead. Then he acts like I've said no. I'm really confused.

Q.   hi i was wondering if anoyne could maybe help ok ill get to the point me and my bf have been together for 2year and 5mnth like evrey relationship weve had are ups and downs but we get on really well it was his birthday not so long ago i didnt have...

A.   18 July 2008: You two are so materialistic! In your account of what happened, you don't mention your response besides questioning his action and then creeping around the incident and not discussing it, so why WOULDN"T he think you rejected him? neither of you ... (read in full...)

Does he want me to regain the weight I lost, because he likes larger women, or what, he lost, and he looks good, he also watches skinny girls in porn, what goes?

Q.   I have lost weight and still in the process of losing. I'm feeling sexier and more confident and finally fitting back into my skinny jeans. I was telling me boyfriend the other night how much I have lost. He told me he'd rather that I gain some ...

A.   18 July 2008: It sounds like he may have felt guilty about the porn situation and the discussion about the skinny girls so when he saw you trying to lose weight he didn't like that he had influenced you to change your body for him, but just explain to him it was ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend became my stepsister!

Q.   Ever since september 2007, my girlfreind and i have been together. She turned 16 last week and my B-day is in august. We've been happy and hav'nt had any big problems with each other, but what we didnt know up until feburary that year is that her ...

A.   18 July 2008: Not to be mean, but your parents sound like completely selfish people. They expect you two, the original lovers, if you will, to break it off and cut your romantic ties for their own relationship, and then they act clueless when they see you near ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend became my stepsister!

Q.   Ever since september 2007, my girlfreind and i have been together. She turned 16 last week and my B-day is in august. We've been happy and hav'nt had any big problems with each other, but what we didnt know up until feburary that year is that her ...

A.   18 July 2008: Not to be mean, but your parents sound like completely selfish people. They expect you two, the original lovers, if you will, to break it off and cut your romantic ties for their own relationship, and then they act clueless when they see you near ... (read in full...)

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