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Am I mean to delete all our photos from his phone?

Q.   I plan to break up with my boyfriend but I don't want to let him know until I delete all our photos together from his phone. Am I mean to delete all our photos from his phone? I never wanted to take pictures with him in the first place because I ...

A.   26 June 2018: It does come off as petty, unless of course there are some for his eyes only. Other than that I wouldn't bother. Just adds salt to the wound ... (read in full...)

I’m starting to worry about her relationship with a lesbian friend!

Q.   My girlfriend is friends with a lesbian. I'm starting to get worried. Am I overreacting? They've become really close. They've been spending a lot of time together. Sometimes, she goes for a girls night out with her friends including her le...

A.   25 June 2018: I would have said relax mate don't worry BUT I have to admit asking if she had ever been with a woman would have me raise an eyebrow of concern that maybe, just maybe she is feeling out the situation. Not cool. Id have a chat with your gf and air ... (read in full...)

How do I ask for a sex toy?

Q.   I want a sex toy because, I'm a 17 year old girl now. I know after I ask I'm going to say, think of it this way, I'm still a virgin. Most people my age aren't anymore. But the problem is, I have to ask my dad. Not a mom. How do I do this? I'm ...

A.   24 June 2018: Not sure, in your country, if you can buy one from an adult store being 17 so why not just buy one from the internet. Maybe you have inquisitive parents who might just ask what it is when it gets delivered so maybe just get it sent to the post ... (read in full...)

I’m worried about having sex due to the shape of my penis!

Q.   Hi. I'm 19 years old. A boy who has never had sex due to the shape of my penis. I have a down curved banana penis. I'm scared to try it out. What should I do?...

A.   22 June 2018: My ex had a rather noticeable bend in his, so much so he saw a Dr. to see if he could have it straightened out. Thing is it worked just fine and most certainly did the job. ... (read in full...)

Was I wrong not to thank the ex who agreed we would go “no contact” for the flowers?

Q.   So, my ex fiancé sent me flowers Monday, about a year ago he left me for his ex that he was stuck on. I knew something was wrong but he never admitted it. When she rejected him when he went back home he tired to get back with me. I flat out ignor...

A.   22 June 2018: You should not feel bad at at-he should. Treating you second fiddle was bad enough and now he is just trying to emotionally manipulate your good nature. I wouldn't think nothing more of it or him. ... (read in full...)

I know I was stupid for having sex with my ex! What do I do now?

Q.   I split up from my fiancé 7 weeks ago due to not making any time for me I’ve tried talking to him loads of times he just walked out on me whenever I tried talking to him so I ended the relationship I did feel better about it up until Sunday gone he ...

A.   21 June 2018: Blimey ! you would be hard pressed to find someone who has not done either the make up or for old time sake sex with an ex. Be kind to yourself. You can move forward and you should if you have come to the conclusion things wont change. What you ... (read in full...)

I hate my boyfriend’s best friend and don’t want him at my wedding!

Q.   I got engaged to my boyfriend and we are currently planning the wedding, making guest lists etc. My partner wishes to invite his best friend to the wedding. The thing is i can’t stand being in the same room as my fiancées best friend as he severely ...

A.   21 June 2018: This is your chance to take back control. You could take this douchebag aside and tell him straight the reasons why you don't want him there and he is invited for no other reason but out of the love that you have for your fiancee. Inform him that ... (read in full...)

I asked for help and he lied about why he couldn't.

Q.   I am not sure if what I am feeling right now is normal or I am being unjust? I asked for help from my boyfriend of 4 years. what I need is a room/place to stay for 1 year while I am doing the last part of my studies. We do not live together...

A.   15 June 2018: Um HELLO...short memory syndrome. I can see why you are pissed. What you have done to support him in the past aside, he lied. So what you have on your hands is an ungrateful, unreliable, Indian giving, lying sod. Call him out , you deserve an ... (read in full...)

What’s the difference?

Q.   Whats the difference between making love and just having sex? Like what are some things that would take place if you’re making love rather than just having regular sex?...

A.   12 June 2018: Personally I think the difference is about connection and thoughtfulness. Not that that does not happen during sex but I think it is something shared on a deeper level and more intimate.... (read in full...)

Where is the panty liner, will he think me disgusting if he finds it?

Q.   Before me and this guy had sex I went to use the bathroom and I removed my pantyliner. The pantyliner was clean as I recently put it on but his trash was overflowing so I decided to just wrap it up and put it in my pocket and throw it away when i ...

A.   12 June 2018: Oh good god no, don't ask him. Chances are that would embarrass him just as much as it would you and if he did find it rolled up probably wouldn't give much thought as to what is was any way. Nothing to be ashamed of, not your fault his bin was ... (read in full...)

How do I end this pathetic relationship without him turning it all around on me?

Q.   Hi I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter together the relationship is pathetic between us there’s no affection he sleeps on the sofa does everything to avoid spending time with us it’s always me doing everything for ...

A.   7 June 2018: Other than pissing you off, does it matter if you wish to end it and he turns it around on you? Know what you do is all you could and continue to focus on the big picture, that is where to from now and your Childs' wellbeing as well as your own. A ... (read in full...)

How can I make the pain of this go away?

Q.   I recently ended a relationship with man I was seeing for a year.When met him he told me his relationship with his kids mother was over and he was in a process of moving out.Well he never moved out and woudn't take me out on dates.He only invest to ...

A.   7 June 2018: Its a time thing. Dont beat yourself up for thinking and wanting it were different. Distance yourself from this dude that is the power you have and not the power to change his situation. Chalk it up to experience and take time to really evaluate ... (read in full...)

I think she thinks we are in a full-blown relationship!

Q.   DearCupid, I've been good friends with this girl for 2 years. We hang out on a pretty regular basis with our group of friends. One night she told me she liked me over text messages. I told her I liked her too. We talked about setting up a dat...

A.   7 June 2018: Whats done is done but you really do need to sort this out quick sticks.I think there is room to recover from being a dick before letting to go on further and becoming a fully fledged arsehole. Be honest and man about it, admit that you actions ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's ex wants to meet him for coffee!

Q.   My boyfriend asked me if I would be okay if he met his ex for coffee. His ex reached out to him wanting to catch up while she is in town for some official business. My boyfriend's ex ended their relationship a year ago and is currently seeing ...

A.   2 June 2018: I think he made the wrong decision by not declining the invite. Asking you does not dismiss he has indeed put the burden of dammed if you do dammed if you don't in your court. Thats just not fair. I think trust is one thing but this is disrespectful ... (read in full...)

Do I keep believing him after his string of lies?

Q.   Long story short, over the past month, my husband has been caught in a string of lies. First lie is when he told me he called his buddy but later found out he called a female coworker to congratulate her for this cover she got for a magazine. Odd ...

A.   2 June 2018: Liar, liar I smell fire. Telling you your crazy is him gas lighting you. You're not crazy, he's CRAZY for thinking you have no reason to be thinking he's up to no good-sorry but he is. $200 gifts for someone he claims is NOT a real friend, come ... (read in full...)

Should I tell him I know he's been texting his ex?

Q.   I have been kind of talking to this guy and hooking up with him for a few weeks now, and one night we were sitting at this bar and his ex girlfriend walks by and I noticed he was staring at her for a bit. Now I only know it’s his ex girlfrie...

A.   29 May 2018: I have to agree with the other aunts and uncles. From what you post the relationship as such is too casual to be expecting his upmost loyalty. Clearly he still has feelings for her, regardless if she reciprocates to his txt or not, he is not ... (read in full...)

Can a devout Catholic male can be friends with a transgender girl?

Q.   I am wondering if it is possible that a devout Catholic male can be friends with a transgender girl (she was born a boy but transition to a girl)? I did not know she was transgender until after we got to know each other. I enjoy her company but...

A.   24 May 2018: I think you already know you can, because you already are and should remain so. Personally, I could not bare carrying the burden of causing someone to feel the pain of being rejected for who they are. I would like to think my God can see me as being ... (read in full...)

HE wants to play games with his ex, but I am not sure about it.

Q.   Hi, I started an LDR a week ago, we talk every day, everything is good. But he just got out of a 3months relationship ( his ex gf ended it..) Now, she's texting him, and he wants to go with it. wtich means he just wants to make fun of her and make...

A.   13 January 2018: His attitude belongs in the school yard not in a relationship. He has shown his mean streak-red flag!... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel offended by my boss's improper comment?

Q.   Hi.I teach at a higher education institution, where I had an incident with my boss today. While I was having coffee with four colleagues, he told us to not use electric heaters because the central heating system - which has never really worked – was ...

A.   11 January 2018: Nipped it in the bud. next time he may think twice about doing it to you or anyone else for that matter. ... (read in full...)

His email to his brother hurts more than his affair

Q.   My partner and I have been together for 3 years in January, he cheated on me with someone I knew in October. In our bed When I was away for 2 days. When I came back he acted like nothing had happened but I knew in my heart and then my friends told ...

A.   10 January 2018: Sweetie, this ain't love and your right, the affair is one thing but wanting to hurt you so deeply by him wishing you catching him in the act is the lowest of the low. Ive been cheated on, a few times, and its never been the sex that cuts so deep, I ... (read in full...)

New girfriend wants marriage .... I don't!

Q.   Simple situation, I've recently walked out on a 18 year marriage, we've lived apart or part-time for the last 2 years. We have no children, fury babies only. She has the lions share of income and I was not satisfied in our relationship, we simply ...

A.   6 January 2018: With brute honesty. You sir, need time to BREATHE and recover from a divorce and you know what THATS OK. If your new gf cant understand that then I think single life is far more appealing that being pushed into something you don't want. To me that ... (read in full...)

Should I confess to my drunken night?

Q.   I went out last night and got really drunk. A guy grabbed me and started kissing me and feeling me up and without thinking I started kissing him back. Then he said he would help to get me home safely but he got out of the taxi too and we ended up ...

A.   6 January 2018: If you are feeling guilty now, then chances are you will tomorrow and the next and the next after that and so on. IT WILL EAT YOU UP ALIVE and chances are it will come out one way or the other. Maybe you will fess up, maybe he will rock up, maybe ... (read in full...)

Do I contact him over this rude breakup?

Q.   I got in from work to find a email off my boyfriend saying because I'm not an animal person (he has a cat) it won't work out. I have a cat myself. He has blocked me off everything and I don’t know why so I can’t ask him. I knew he was having a few ...

A.   5 January 2018: An email!!!!!! because of a cat!!!!!! be thankful he broke it off- bloody coward... (read in full...)

I feel I shouldn't move in til he sorts his children's visitation issue.

Q.   I have been dating my bf for 2 years now. we live separately for the moment he has his home and I have mine. He has asked me to move in his home but, I have declined at the moment for this story I will tell. he has 3 children 9,10 and 18. I have ...

A.   5 January 2018: I still stand by my first post. Let him and his lawyer sort through it as best they can. You will be made a target and scapegoat pawn in a messy situation. Living together you simply cant get away from it and it can be taxing, VERY taxing on a ... (read in full...)

Why didn't my ex have the courtesy to tell me he was getting married and having a child?

Q.   Hi Everyone, I could use some advice. I'm having a difficult time coping with my ex boyfriend getting married and having a daughter. He was married in August and continue to see me casually until one day I found out he was married with a d...

A.   2 January 2018: What a jackass lowlife scumbag! that is if you had no idea he even had a fiancee, otherwise well.... either way be pleased hes not your problem but hers. If he comes back for a bit more on the side, more than likely he'd be sniffing around when she ... (read in full...)

He used me then broke up with me. Should I ask him to give back the gifts I gave him?

Q.   Now my ex as of a few weeks before Christmas, I gave him,Christmas gifts, then the next day , it was over, haven't heard from him since, he didn't give me any gifts, my friends told me he should of given them back, cause he knew he was dumping me, ...

A.   2 January 2018: And if he says no? Just more annoyance and upset for you. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend planned a week long New Year's party at his parents' holiday home despite knowing that I wouldn't be able to make it because of my upcoming exams

Q.   My boyfriend [24M] of 6 years decided to throw a week long New Years party with all our mutual friends (roughly about 20 people) at his parents holiday home, which is couple of hours drive away, while I [23F] stay back and study for finals for grad ...

A.   31 December 2017: Personally, if I had to study for my exams I'd be grateful everyone just buggered off so I could do it in peace with any interruptions. Also I would want for my partner to enjoy having some fun with friends, not be bored silly just because I was ... (read in full...)

I told my wife the truth and she is furious!

Q.   I have been married to my wife for about 11 years now and have 2 kids, a girl aged 8 and a boy aged 4. Recently I was on a night out with friends and were at this bar where we met a few girls and ended up going to their apartment which was nearby. ...

A.   29 December 2017: While you were getting it on???? Dude, thats cheating come on. You FUCKED UP BIG TIME and if it wasn't for her checking your phone, fuck up number two. How do you mend it, I guess you do whatever it is that you would expect of her if she got it on ... (read in full...)

Why can’t they leave me alone and enjoy my visit?

Q.   Am visiting family interstate for 2 days,staying overnight then leaving. Staying with my parents and will visit my younger sister and her family also, as they live in the same town. I have to stay with parents as sister has 2 kids (17...

A.   29 December 2017: People only get away with what you let them get away with. No body wants to listen to that crap, hardly welcoming is it! Anything negative Id respond with positive: Im tired mum, because Im having fun living my life You can never have enough w... (read in full...)

Cannot accept my background and heritage

Q.   I can’t identify with my European parents and nationality. I have been living in the States for the last three decades but along my life I have encountered people from my nationality. I don’t mean to sound judgemental here but everyone from where I ...

A.   27 December 2017: Why identify as anything. Just be you and live life anyway you please. ... (read in full...)

Married man taking me for a ride and dumping without closure

Q.   I am 34 single been in a few bad relations and have always been dumped. After 4 years I recently met this man online and he started off with lies. It turned out he was married with a Pico and he says it's his conscience which made him speak the ...

A.   26 December 2017: What he 'needs' is a big fat 'Fuck off'. Don't go down that path with a married man. In person, on line it makes no difference it is a recipe for disaster, that much you can count on. Cheaters, men and woman, are master manipulators to get all it is ... (read in full...)

I feel I shouldn't move in til he sorts his children's visitation issue.

Q.   I have been dating my bf for 2 years now. we live separately for the moment he has his home and I have mine. He has asked me to move in his home but, I have declined at the moment for this story I will tell. he has 3 children 9,10 and 18. I have ...

A.   22 December 2017: I wouldn't if it were me. It all sounds a bit too messy atm. Stress and unfinished ex business is not a good start to living happy under the same roof. Relationships can work just as well from not living together.... (read in full...)

What's the best way for me to appraoch this girl?

Q.   Hi I'm having a problem with getting any sort of connection with a girl I have become friends with. We met at college and have been in group tasks etc and we got on really well I have real feelings towards her but have tried to talk to her via ...

A.   22 December 2017: Keep it cool. A simple and casual invite to coffee , if she accepts see where it goes. Personally I think the "asking out for coffee ritual" is the baseline for getting some sort of indication of how things are. What ever your do mate, I wouldn't be ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is being brutally honest and I can't cope with it.

Q.   Been dating for a year and it's the BEST relationship I've ever been in. However, he's starting to be brutally honest and I'm not liking it. I've told him how I felt, even cried and I try to avoid certain topics just because where it can lead to. He ...

A.   13 December 2017: Honesty is one thing but to be somewhat positive there is also tact. Can you give some examples?... (read in full...)

Troubled and confused by girlfriend and her kitten

Q.   Dear all This problem is a bit strange and you may think I am weird, however this is just the way I am. I am in a long distance relationship with a girl I love very much. We have plans to be together soon. Recently she out of the blue to...

A.   8 December 2017: Why dont you take the cat ? ... (read in full...)

Was it inappropriate for my wife to wear the revealing dress just to get back at me?

Q.   A short time ago me and my wife had an argument just before we were going out to meet friends for some dinner and drinks. She wasn't quite ready, so she said she would meet up with us later. So I went and met with our friends. She came in about a ...

A.   20 November 2017: be glad that hot little lady is your wife-YOURS... (read in full...)

Would this relationship be wrong?

Q.   I've already asked this question but I didn't outback detail in to it so I'm gonna try again! Is it wrong for me to be falling in love with my soon to be step uncle ? I've recently turned 18 and he's recently turned 21. My uncle is marrying ...

A.   19 November 2017: Go for it. Hope it works out for both of you. There is nothing wrong or sordid about this. Apart from not being blood related there is enough degree of separation to tell any one interested in voicing their opinion to mind it! ... (read in full...)

How can a wife cheat for 3 years and act like everything is ok?

Q.   After I found out that my wife was having a three year affair with another man, I gave her an ultimatum and she ended it....she eventually told me that she made a big mistake, and didnt know what she was thinking the past three years...I found out ...

A.   11 November 2017: When you are as cunning as her i suppose it would be easy and over three years i guess even easier because it became the norm. I agree with Honeypie, 3 years (1095 days) is NOT a mistake by a long shot, it was a deliberate and well executed ... (read in full...)

Does he like me? He has a girlfriend but what's with his behaviour towards me?

Q.   There's a guy who I work with, we work at a recreational centre for youths. I've noticed he's been acting different around me when we work together. I'll list a few examples: whenever we talk, he'll make eye contact and then he looks at my lips, he...

A.   7 November 2017: Flirty little chap, I have to agree. Be careful...... (read in full...)

Why would he say "I love you" if he has no intention of changing his life for you?

Q.   If a married man you've been involved in a long term relationship with tells you he loves you, could he really mean it, even if he will never leave his wife to be with you? It's a terrible predicament to be in when you realize you now love this ma...

A.   29 October 2017: saying I love you is cheaper than paying for it- ... (read in full...)

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