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| Latest articles: Are you in a controlling relationship?
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3 April 2009: i decided to write this article in view of the amount of people that I know/know of who are in unuqual relationships, that is in particular women who are in unequal relationships. Im not sating that it doesnt happen to men, of course, but often it ...
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Who the heck is "Sadie?"
Q. the guy I ve been seeing just text me, he said ok tks sadie, thing is my name isnt sadie....what shall i do...
A. 19 November 2009: sounds like hes got you mixed up with someone else ! how long are you seeing each other?
say it to him and get to the bottom of it... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my ex-girlfriend, or stay with my fiancee who lied to me, and has a shady past, I do love her?
Q. This is a mess of a problem... and after reading this, you won't like me. Partially because I'm discussing cheating on my fiancee, and further because I end up passing sweeping judgment on people who've slept around. Ironic, right? That said, if you ...
A. 18 July 2009: you are so up yourself, ''good-looking, self-made, Ivy educated, and well off.'' as if that is all that matters. have you looked at your own past in detail to see whether you are a perfect person or not? I bet you havent. everyone has a past and ... (read in full...)
Frightened of my boyfriend and possibly pregnant
Q. Hi I am 16years old and my boyfriend is 19. We have been going out for a little over a year a recently he has been getting angry towards me such as when i have been text ed by a friend he will ask me who it is and if i do not say then he will squ...
A. 12 May 2009: go to your doctor and discuss your options. do your parents know you are going out with him? they might be able to warn him off?? message me if you need to talk & good luck ... (read in full...)
Am I Pregnant or not?
Q. Right, so i've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for the past 5 weeks on and off. Stupid, i know, but we got lazy with the condoms and haven't been worrying about it. I have never skipped a period in my life and my period was due eight ...
A. 12 May 2009: did you not expect to get pregnant from unprotected sex? it only takes once & it only takes one sperm... (read in full...)
Question about race and dating.....
Q. Hello there. I am hoping my question does not come off as offensive or racist at all. It's just that I have been dating my boyfriend almost a year now; he is caucasian (blonde hair, blue eyes) while I am asian. This has always made me a bit self ...
A. 12 May 2009: it depends on the man, though you have to consider if you are living in an area or country where caucasians are in the majority then by the law of averages he might see more caucasian women than asian women in the first place! asian woomen are very ... (read in full...)
Would this be considered rape?
Q. Hi everyone, ok I feel kind of stupid asking this. Ok last week I ended things with my BF of 2 1/2 years. He had become verbally abusive, but always saying the comments were "just joking and you know I don't really mean that". It took me about 6m...
A. 12 May 2009: hi, yes it is rape! holding you down by the wrists and throwing you down on the bed bnefore pushing his hand down your pants.. if thats not rape I dont know what is! if you still dont take mine and the other readers word for it try ringing some ... (read in full...)
Chances of her being pregnant?
Q. My fiance and I had sex last night, we normally pull out but she was on top and we couldn't coordinate fast enough when I came so the first couple shots ended up getting inside her. It wasn't much and she went to the bathroom and washed out. Could ...
A. 10 April 2009: whats wrong with using a CONDOM? or some other kind of contraception... (read in full...)
Are you in a controlling relationship?
Q. i decided to write this article in view of the amount of people that I know/know of who are in unuqual relationships, that is in particular women who are in unequal relationships. Im not sating that it doesnt happen to men, of course, but often it ...
A. 10 April 2009: thank you for commenting on my article, believe me you are better off without him. people like that strip you of your confidence by manipulation you & saying things like ''you wont get another guy'' thats what makes their partners so attached to ... (read in full...)
Married man pursuing young girl...
Q. There is this married man that keeps calling me. I don't understand why he wants to talk to me (he got my phone number through a friend) since we have nothing in common and the age level is too far apart. Well yes I do because he probably just wants ...
A. 20 March 2009: call his wife & tell her about this, if youi dont have her number why not ask this great friend of yours who gave him your number? failing that call around to his house, or threaten him with telling her the next time you hear from him.... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm in a prison hell and don't know how to get out of it.
Q. Hi, this is a bit complicated but I'll try to explain. One year and 3 months ago my ex split up from me, I'd been with him for 7 years and was obviously devastated at the time. We have 2 children together as well. Anyway 6 months after this happened ...
A. 20 March 2009: you have a duty to protect your childre. you know what to do... (read in full...)
I think he wants to trap me!
Q. Help plz!! Today was the first time I had sex with my boyfriend. He didn't use a condom. He said he wasn't going to nut inside of me. I gave him a rag to use when he pulled out. So he claims he used the rag. But when I was cleaning up the room I ...
A. 20 March 2009: why are you people not using condoms? I dont get it...... (read in full...)
DO men really love their girlfriends or wives if they are capable of treating them like that?
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has spat on me, called be a whore, thrown a candle into the bathtub, he has accused me of meeting with someone during the 15 minutes that he was gone and I was sitting in the bathtub before putting on my ...
A. 20 March 2009: no, get out of there fast. for your own sake... (read in full...)
Why does the cheating partner turn it around like its the other person's fault?
Q. I in need of advice. I spend every day from the time i wake up around 7.30am when i know my husband gone to work, just sat in a chair i go on the computer just browsing when i am not doing this i cry i am crying now as i trying to write what i a...
A. 20 March 2009: oh & the reason why the cheater makes it out to be the other persons fault is because they're trying to desperately justify their actions. dont take it.... (read in full...)
Why does the cheating partner turn it around like its the other person's fault?
Q. I in need of advice. I spend every day from the time i wake up around 7.30am when i know my husband gone to work, just sat in a chair i go on the computer just browsing when i am not doing this i cry i am crying now as i trying to write what i a...
A. 20 March 2009: you would be better to move out or better still to throw him out since you have done nothing wrong, its him who is at fault. you should sit him down & tell him how you feel & dont mince your words. then tell him you need space. your not over ... (read in full...)
How do I become a caring guy interested in girls?
Q. I had masturbatd 4 4yrs,bt had stop and i hv noticed dat i now find relationshipt boring, so i find it difficult 2 enter in2 a relatnship even though i had many girl as friend bt i cant love any of dem. So pls wat should i do 2 start lovin girls. ...
A. 9 March 2009: you need to take your time & find a girl that you really like. message me if you need any more advice... (read in full...)
Is this really a size zero diet?
Q. If I do a 2-4-6 diet, for example, one day fast, the next day eat 200 cals, the next day 400 cals, the next 600 cals, and then the next fast again, and go round in this cycle would it be possible to get to size zero? With only doing small exersise, ...
A. 28 February 2009: it is a starvation diet and unless you want to lose upto 10 inches of your former height as you get older on top of getting osteoporosis by the age of 30 go ahead by all means. these arent ''risks'' as you say, there are FACTS.
a size 12 is a nor... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and wanting a 2nd child... I'm having trouble conceiving, help!
Q. i am 18.as of sept.08 i got preg. with my first child when i was 16 with my ex of 3 years.my son just turned 1 feb 10. i have been datin my new man for almost 2 years now and i am wanting another child but i am having problums conciving. my boyfr...
A. 25 February 2009: whats your hurry? your only 18 & what makes you think you'll be together for ever? this has irresponsible written all over it. ... (read in full...)
How should I tell my partner that I want to have kids?
Q. ive been with my partner now for over a year and im 21 and hes 22 i wanna have a child but i dont know how to tell him; he has already got a 3 year old from a previous relationship and hes a good dad but he could also have another one which is a few ...
A. 25 February 2009: seriously? your thinking of having a child with him now in case your not together in 2 years time? do I even need to explain to you whats wrong here?... (read in full...)
Even though I have an STD, that STILL isn't enough to make me hate him.
Q. My ex boyfriend and I dated for quite some time. For the most part, we had a good relationship. I fell hard for him, I'd have to say and well I can't seem to get back up. Our break up was very horrible. We basically said every rude thing ...
A. 25 February 2009: cease all contact its hard at first but its the best thing... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my b/f's ex wants to bring up their past, what do you think?
Q. My boyfriend was with his ex for 5 years. They have been split up for 2 years now and me and him have been togeher for 9 months. When he split up with his ex they were still sleeping together and she got pregnant she got rid of the baby and my ...
A. 25 February 2009: your not being unreasonable I would feel quite p***ed off... (read in full...)
Would you have messaged the "other woman" to find out the truth?
Q. Did I do something wrong? I was with my ex in the fall, then had a feeling something was wrong one night, and looked in his phone to find many texts from a girl I didn't even know. Things like good morning and goodnight and can I bring you lunch ...
A. 25 February 2009: I would have messaged her ... (read in full...)
Why has my ex started calling me again?
Q. My ex has been calling me lately. What does he want? We dated for 4 years and broke up a year ago. I caught him with another woman in his bedroom on New Years day 2008. What a way to bring in the New Years right? (Hahaha I can at least laugh about ...
A. 25 February 2009: hello hes just using you asking you to pick him up when drunk & inviting you for breakfast translates as ''i need a bed buddy''
do yourself the biggest favour and cease all contact... (read in full...)
Should I break it off, because I can't accept his child in my life?
Q. Here is my story and wonder what should I do? I am back with my ex boyfriend that I was with when I was 16 (now 21) we dated until I was 18.. I had to move to the mainland after high school. I cheated on him before but he took me back and our ...
A. 25 February 2009: hi Im in a similar aituation except my boyfriend didnt cheat on me some woman he was seeing for a month came back from poland & informed him that hes a father (the child was 3 months old at the time) they never got to know each other either to the ... (read in full...)
How do I tell family I'm pregnant again?
Q. how do I tell my grandpa I'm pregnant.i live with him and iv gotten prego before and he would be really dissappointed when he finds out I am again...i don't knoe how to tell him...what should I do...
A. 25 February 2009: why didnt you think of this before you got pregnant? I understand they do have birth control in your country... (read in full...)
Dick size & pregnancy?
Q. does dick size have to do with getting a girl pregnant....i went with this dude and he had a super little penis (we definatly didn't have sex) but he has a new girl now and I guess she's pregnant with his baby I'm sittin here thinkin to myself you ...
A. 25 February 2009: size doesnt matter its what one does with ''it'' that counts. no there is no link between the 2... (read in full...)
Silly to use condoms when on the pill
Q. Is it silly to make your partner wear a condom or pull out while on the pill? My bf and I are each others first, so I'm not worried about std's but I heard the pill is only something like 92% safe. That scares me, so I make him put on a condom or he ...
A. 25 February 2009: I would advise you to use both as the pill is not 100% effective and I heard that 1 brand of pill, Yasminellle has such a low dose that it is easy to get preganant even while taking it properly so I would say use both. ''no glove, no love!''... (read in full...)
He is about to become a Dad, and has only just told me. What do I do now??
Q. I have just found out that my boyfriends ex-girlfriend is 8 and a half months pregnant with his child. My boyfriend and I have just got back together after being separated for just under a year and although I knew that during that time he had slep...
A. 13 January 2009: you said you asked him if he had anything to tell you & he said no & now you found out he was lying. Im sorry but that does say a lot about his character... (read in full...)
I love my mom but she's so controlling of my life
Q. my life is so confusing......im currently seeing my ex boyfreind and we are so in love but im seeing him behind my mams back because she has it in to her head that he is gay....he is the most sweetest lad you could ever ask to be with and i dont ...
A. 13 January 2009: it sounds like she has a problem with close friendships of any kind, first she suspected he was gay now she reckons you're a lesbian?! ... (read in full...)
Is Teen Pregnancy Cool These Days?
Q. I just thought I'd speak out about this because I'm 15 years old my friends range from 16 to 19 but a lot of my friends and people I know are 16 /17! And to be honest I'm shocked that girls now a days in this day and age were contraception is so ...
A. 10 December 2008: I afree that its terrible & I have a friend that is 19 & has 2kids. I dont know the situation in canada but in ireland they are only encouraging these single girls to have kids because they get too many social benefits (welfare) & they get offered a ... (read in full...)
His ex is pregnant... should I move on?
Q. What should I do? I fell for a guy who just broke up with is girlfriend. We both fell right away, it was perfect. Then he found out that his ex was pregnant (She has been pregnant for 3 months, he did cheat) with his baby. Should I forget about so...
A. 2 December 2008: You would be better off moving on. sorry. but your head will be wrecked over it.... (read in full...)
I''ve started to feel I'm not ready for a serious relationship at 17, any advice?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and we've had some great times but i've started to feel as if i'm not ready for a serious relationship and my feeling towards her have changed. Everything feels the same now and nothing changes....
A. 2 December 2008: you are perfectly normal for your age... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I don't know what my parents would say!
Q. hi the thing is im 18 my boyfriend is 21 i have been with him for 3years and i really want a baby with him i understand the responsibility issue and not just the cute baby side. me and him would but we're both worried about what my mum and dad would ...
A. 2 December 2008: the NHS was not created so that people could have kids carelessly then expect to get everything for free. no wonder the economy is as bad as it is. save some money get a mortgage on a house get married THEN you can think about having babies.... (read in full...)
I've never had a boyfriend or kiss. I'm 29 and nobody wants me.
Q. hi i was wondering can any one help me . i am 29 years old and i have never had a boyfriend. i never even got my first kiss. i don't know and everyone else does. all but me. every guy i like rather someone else and never me. they reject me in the ...
A. 2 December 2008: I think perhaps counselling might help you understand that its not all about looks 7 that you are not fat or ugly, a proper man will like you just the way you are. xx ... (read in full...)
The interior of my vagina feels uncomfortable, what could it be? I don't want my husband to know!
Q. okay this is a bit embarrassing but do I have a yeast infection? My "thing's" walls are not comtable and they feel tritchy. I dont want have sex with my husband because Im dont want him to know and dont want to talk about it with him. Im embarrassed ...
A. 2 December 2008: It sounds liek a yeast infection nothing to be embarrassed about... (read in full...)
I am wondering what are the possibilities that I am pregnant...
Q. I took antibiotics a few days before I started my birth control for the month. I started my pack about 2-3 days late and have had unprotected sex 4 days before the end of my active pills. I am wondering what are the possibilities that I am ...
A. 2 December 2008: get the morning after pill... (read in full...)
How do I get completely over my ex boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid, Why is life so frustrating? I've been able to break up with my ex boyfriend and is left with a month for me to marry. My ex boyfriend called and memories about him start flashing back. I can never stop loving him. But he is no...
A. 2 December 2008: postpone the wedding for a couple of months & clear your head of any worries & thoughts related to him... (read in full...)
Can a shy man be attractive?
Q. Hello. Do women find good looking articulate loners attractive - albeit strictly those who do not exhibit psychotic tendencies!? Many thanks....
A. 2 December 2008: yes I would much prefer a shy man than the other description =)... (read in full...)
Is masturbation murder?
Q. well as u all know ''sperm'' is pretty mutch something alive ,i mean it turns into a human if u have sexual intercourse with a woman ,well if people masturbate is it a sin ,as my freind said it ''mastubation is murder'' then he followed on ...
A. 13 May 2008: it certainly isnt murder, if that was the case you could say that sex was also murder as all but one sperm are killed off... (read in full...)
He's 35 and I'm 17 and pregnant, is that really wrong?
Q. I'm 17 he's 35, we have been living together for two months, and i'm 6 weeks pregnant. I love him so much, is this wrong we get along so good, so in love with each other? I left mad and went 7 hrs away to my sister's and he drove all night, tired wi...
A. 13 May 2008: one word, YES... (read in full...)
I'm 5 months pregnant and he's with another girl and he still comes round to sleep with me.
Q. I am so hurt. My ex boyfriend is with another girl even though he knows i'm 5 months pregnant from him. He tells me he loves this girl. He phones me all the time and tells me he will be there for the baby, but he doesn't want to be with me. I feel...
A. 13 May 2008: why are you letting him do it to you?? thats the real question... (read in full...)
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