How do I let go of my long lost love?
Q. I don't know where to start, but writing (even though I suck at it) is my only escape from reality. I was in love with someone back in 2008-2011. He really was amazing, he did everything I wanted to do and made me feel like I was something sp...
A. 1 April 2017: Hi,
This man is controlling your emotions and not letting you move on with your life. You don't realize all that there is in this huge world for you to grab. You can move forward, find new work, find new hobbies, find new friends and yet you are ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel rejected. Can anyone offer me some perspective on this situation?
Q. Hello aunts. I would really appreciate some advice please. I have been in a relationship for seven months now, and we see each other weekly as we live a little way from each other. In the main we are good together. There is lots of contact betwe...
A. 1 April 2017: You speak different love languages and you don't feel satisfied. Won't you feel that with someone else? I think you will!! You deserve that.... (read in full...)
What should I do? Should I let him go? 2
Q. I have been talking to this guy for over a month now and now has been going downhill from there. There will be days where he treats me like his girlfriend and call me "his beautiful" and tells me to stop worrying about him, then there are other da...
A. 1 April 2017: He's not right for you. He's playing games. Don't you deserve to be treated the same AT ALL TIMES? I don't tolerate any BS from men and you shouldn't either. You are young and you will realize your own strength and independence. You cannot be strun... (read in full...)
I don't trust him and I'm worried he'll give me a STD. Is it time to break up with him?
Q. Should I end this relationship? Me and B we were friends for years and I had my boyfriend who I was stable for 4 years and we have a kid, me and him and B lived together for 9 months. One year ago he kissed me and we made love. Before letting ...
A. 1 April 2017: This relationship is toxic. You said it yourself that your instinct told you he was untrustworthy. We need to listen to that voice as much as we are weak and think we love someone. You can't love someone who is a liar and made up something so big ... (read in full...)
Does it mean she is not interested, if she doesn't ask me out?
Q. She is one of my close friend, in class. I have ask her out a couple of times but she had only asked me out once. However when I ask her how her day was, she would give me her answer and ask me why am I asking and is it because I want to have a meal ...
A. 1 April 2017: I think you need to continue just talking to her and do not put any sort of pressure on her at all. She is obviously getting to know you. Just keep it relaxed and talk about normal things, don't talk about relationship stuff right now b/c it will ... (read in full...)
I like him but he doesn't stimulate me. Should I try again?
Q. Hi, I am under a lot of pressure by parents to get married, culturally, I'm old, 30. And my parents really care about whay others think. Anyways, I met a guy online. Sweet, untrustworthy guy, which is hard to find in a world full of untrustw...
A. 30 March 2017: Yes, but he's not arrogant, he's kind, he can take care of me financially, trustworthy. I just think he's trying to.o hard to be liked by me. Yesterday he wrote something about global warming that like like he copied and pasted it from the news to ... (read in full...)
Should height be a factor in not picking someone?
Q. Should height be a factor in not picking someone? There's a guy I went out with recently, cute, sweet, funny, and we got along fine it's just that he's so short. I mean I'm short too but he's like 2 inches taller than me and I'm 5'1 I love ...
A. 19 September 2014: Thanks guys, I think I'm just going to see where it goes.... The height bugs me bit he's awesome so I'll just take it day by day. ... (read in full...)
Should I just delete him from my life or keep hoping for something that might or might not happen?
Q. We have been dating for a semester. He was an exchange student from France and now he went back (he is not in Paris). I'm going to France in a week as an exchange student but in a city quite far from his. And he will begin an internship. We have ...
A. 6 January 2014: I'd say do what he's doing. He's making all the decisions here and he's showing control over you. You need to move on from this b/c it's detrimental to your health and well being if you constantly hold on to someone who isn't close to you or showing ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be alone anymore.
Q. If I'm trying to find my first g/f, or in general first date, etc... What places should I go, library, book store, when I'm at the park on a walk? I'm feeling out of options here, I just don't really want to be alone anymore. If anyone has anything ...
A. 24 December 2013: my thing is, how do u stop looking when thats what u want? So I agree! But I'd say what Sageoldguy said. You'll find your gf in places that u enjoy going to. If you enjoy sports games, art shows, camping, skiing...go out and do those thigns and ... (read in full...)
What do women in particular think of a guy who's 30 and never had a girlfriend?
Q. Anyway, I want to hear some opinions. Guys are welcome to comment, but I think that girls may be able to offer me some valuable insight as to what exactly my problem is, and whether or not anything can be done about it. I've always been rath...
A. 18 December 2013: What site is this? These girls seem young and immature. I am a 27 year old girl and I think it would be so sweet if I was a guys first girlfriend. You just haven't met the right one. None of these girls are worth your time or effort and you ... (read in full...)
Afraid he's lost interest! Should I stop seeing him before I get hurt?
Q. Hi aunties and uncles: I have been going on dates with a guy 4-5 times. He has been a gentleman. I am traditional and not okay with physical intimacy but since the first time we hang out, he always pecks me on cheek to say goodbye. However, as ...
A. 2 December 2013: Yes! Back off a bit and see what happens... (read in full...)
How can I find true happiness within myself. Without needing another human to help provide that happiness?
Q. How can you find true happiness within yourself without needing a man or anyone else to make you happy? I'm finding happiness through men that eventually hurt me because they see my lack of confidence and unhappiness. I want to be in a relation...
A. 1 November 2013: I don't know what I'm passionate about or where I want to move. All I know is that I want to live close to my parents but in my own place, in a city, I am a teacher but I want to try a different career. But not sure what. I want to help south Asian ... (read in full...)
Did the fortune tellers mess with my mind or do I truly want to change careers?
Q. Hi guys,you've always given me great advice on love so now I need some career advice. Before I start, I want to say that I have some form of ocd called pure o, where I over analyze thoughts to the point where I have become mentally ill and anxious. ...
A. 22 August 2013: Thank you! Yes, I want that spark back and stop relying on fortunes telling me something else. I'm not sure I believe them but some stuff is pretty creepily accurate and specific so but I can't guarantee that its true until things unfold I guess. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I've never felt any sort of spark when meeting someone or when in a relationship?
Q. Is it normal I've never feel any sort of spark when meeting someone or when in a relationship? I haven't had many serious relationships at all, recently I went on a date a few days ago with someone who seemed perfect for me on paper and who I've rea...
A. 1 August 2013: I'm similar to you. If you dont have a spark, you dont have a spark. Sometimes if you take some time, feelings definitely do develop. It happeend to me and it threw me off guard. I didn't like this guy at all but there was something about him ... (read in full...)
My face is attractive but I'm quite flabby and I'm worried girls would be put off
Q. My question is the type usually asked by females, who are generally more unsecure about their bodies. Looking on the internet, it seems from the blogs discussing the male body part that females find attractive, it seems that the great majority o...
A. 1 August 2013: Most girls look at personality and face more than body, others look at body more than face. Depends on the girl. I personally like a good built guy but if hes a bit flabby i couldn't care less as long as hes big and can protect me :) I like a cute ... (read in full...)
He makes me wet and it makes me uncomfortable.
Q. Okay so I'm 16 and so is my boyfriend. Were both Virgins and we do want to wait till marriage for sex so instead we Dry Hump. Im usually in leggings or sweat pants and hes usually in gym shorts. But he says he wants to try to do it with pants off ...
A. 24 December 2012: He prob would LOVE your wetness, it's a turn on for guys but I agree you shouldn't be in Underwear if you want to wait, that's getting waaaay too close to the real thing. He's saying that because he wants to get closer to sex and if u want to wait ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged and my parents still treat me like I'm single.
Q. I am a 22 year old Indian male, who recently got engaged to a 20 year old (turning 21) White female. We've been dating for three years, and I felt as though engagement was a good idea. I thought the process, stipulations, and consequences over for ...
A. 6 July 2012: work more! move out, find jobs overseas that might pay for ur housing!... (read in full...)
I had a one-night=stand, he said he would call and didn't. How long should I wait before I delete him as a friend?
Q. So, I had an unplanned one night stand on Sunday. I normally never do one night stands. Only did it once before. I have heard so much from friends about guys being all nice and then never calling back and that has been my experience too last time, ...
A. 6 July 2012: You kinda screwed up by sleeping with him that quick...most guys i did that with basically never called me...i dont think u shud make a move...let him come to u! If he doesn't, move on!... (read in full...)
I'm engaged and my parents still treat me like I'm single.
Q. I am a 22 year old Indian male, who recently got engaged to a 20 year old (turning 21) White female. We've been dating for three years, and I felt as though engagement was a good idea. I thought the process, stipulations, and consequences over for ...
A. 6 July 2012: I'm a pakistani american female and I KNOW EXACTLY HOW U FEEL when it comes to traditions! Know that I am here for you and it will be okay as soooooooon as u MOVE OUT! u cannot deal with this kind of bullshit. I understand that ur family oriented ... (read in full...)
I have a tendency to judge men!
Q. I have a tendency to judge men, I do not like the fact that I do it but I seem to subconsciously criticise their abilities in their work, relationships and mannerisms. I criticise in a way to say that as men they are expected to up their game, as a ...
A. 29 June 2012: Maybe you do like women or maybe you're just really pissed off about men! You'llmeet someone special who will break this spelll and wont give you the chance to make you judge b/c he will be so amazing! You just haven't found the right guy to not ... (read in full...)
I am gay and I love straight guy
Q. I am gay and i love straight guy , i didn't want this to happened but i found myself failing in love with him. At the first i thought that he might be gay, there were many signs , therefore, i developed my feelings into him as he was very nic...
A. 29 June 2012: I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I know what it's like to love someone who loves someone else or doesnt' love you back. It sucks the most that you have to see him...that's really going to be hard I think because it's harder to get ... (read in full...)
Should I write her a msg and tell her everything?
Q. Last year, a guy from college messaged me (i've been out of school for 5 years) and we were never close, just acquaintances. We were facebook friends and last year he randomly told me that he broke up with his college girlfriend. I remember seeing ...
A. 28 June 2012: ok guys, thanks!... (read in full...)
Should I write her a msg and tell her everything?
Q. Last year, a guy from college messaged me (i've been out of school for 5 years) and we were never close, just acquaintances. We were facebook friends and last year he randomly told me that he broke up with his college girlfriend. I remember seeing ...
A. 27 June 2012: i dont know her that well....I know shes fragile at the time but she deserves to know I think!! I would seriously want to knw what was going on behind my back.... (read in full...)
I really want to change my promiscuous ways! Please help!
Q. I was a very promiscuous girl, from 18-24. I would sleep withguys (oral sex mostly) without knowing them that well, it was REALLY easy to get me in bed. I couldn't form lasting relationships b/c of this. I didn't want to be with a guy i slept ...
A. 28 February 2012: Well, I totally agree with that as well! I have a flirty personality and I'm sexual. I know this about myself, it's hard when you don't have sex regularly as a grown woman. Sometimes you just need it. I can please myself but sometimes if the ... (read in full...)
Does she just want to break up?
Q. So once again I'm in trouble with girlfriend. We made plans to go for dinner on Friday. She texted me at 545 when I wanted her to drop by. I texted 615. No response. I text her "???" At 605, still no response. Earlier I told her was hungry. So a...
A. 13 September 2011: Why would you wana be with a girl whose driving u crazy? but dude u needa calm down with expecting a text back every minute, girls like me take our sweet time..i dont respond to texts for like an hour or 2 maybe even the next day, we're just being ... (read in full...)
What's the point of asking me out if he's just going to cancel?
Q. Why would a guy cancel a date that HE asked me out on and then say they'll reschedule but never do? whats the point of asking me out in the first place? whats the point of calling me up and sweet talking me?? i dont get why he even bothered to, or ...
A. 9 September 2011: i've had a crush on this guy since last year, the fact that hes a bad boy makes me feel like, ok well we can just hook up and ill be okay with that. its so worth it to me, i just want a piece and then ill be okay...i know he wants to hook up with ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to see if he contacts me?
Q. how long do i wait before i move on? Went on a first date, at the end he said 'you should holler at me some time' i said okay, but im not one to 'holler' at guys. so am i supposed to contact him first?? i would just like to wait to see if he ...
A. 1 September 2011: but he DID say holler at me, so he put the ball in my court so am i supposed to contacct him??... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to see if he contacts me?
Q. how long do i wait before i move on? Went on a first date, at the end he said 'you should holler at me some time' i said okay, but im not one to 'holler' at guys. so am i supposed to contact him first?? i would just like to wait to see if he ...
A. 30 August 2011: i agree guys!!... (read in full...)
Do I display behavior of a sex addict?
Q. I've had 17 partners. I had oral sex with most of them. I had sex with 2 of them. I love watching porn but have stopped. I masturbate like 3-4 times a week (but masturbate 2 times those days) I like the idea of fantasy. I like looking at ...
A. 11 August 2011: i think you're right! it is a defense mechanism i think b/c i just feel like ok, i dont wanna date you i wanna get rid of u so let me just sleep withu and then never speak to u again. I DO wanna be in a relationship, but w/the right guy, someone ... (read in full...)
Do I display behavior of a sex addict?
Q. I've had 17 partners. I had oral sex with most of them. I had sex with 2 of them. I love watching porn but have stopped. I masturbate like 3-4 times a week (but masturbate 2 times those days) I like the idea of fantasy. I like looking at ...
A. 11 August 2011: Well, dmartin89, i LOVE what you said about sex as a defense mechanism to push ppl away. I do push guys away as soon as i have sex with them, on purpose. It's like i want nothing to do with them. I guess I know I don't wanna be intimate with these ... (read in full...)
What's the best way for me to meet women when I live at home?
Q. I'm 25, from the UK, enjoying life, been single for years, never had a girlfriend. I give off all the right signals - friendly, kind, polite, yet can not meet the right girl. I work in I.T. and dating at work is forbidden, so no opportunities t...
A. 9 August 2011: Um are you muslim b/c if you are...we should meet ;) haha...hows the situation in London? i was going theere in a week but now really worried :/
I'm 25 and have a hard time w/relationships too. You seem great! I say by chance, and DEF go on faceb... (read in full...)
Do I need prior experience to get and maintain a romantic relationship?
Q. I don't have prior experience in a romantic relationship. A friend of mine advice me to go on some "practice" dating, to get to know the field so to speak, before reaching for a the real thing. So when the right lady comes along I'll have the know...
A. 9 August 2011: Not at all, the best thing you can do is be YOU! We love confidence and no pretending. We love honesty and real people, so stop 'practicing' and stressing about saying the right / wrong thing and learn to go with the flow and just be you...we would ... (read in full...)
Caught in a love square and don't know how to get out of it!!
Q. I've never been in a love square before but I have def entered one. I liked a guy Kelen (names are all changed :] ) and Kelen and I were slowly liking each other. Then, a lady friend of his, Kelsey, randomly began hanging out with me. I found it o...
A. 7 August 2011: Be with the man you love, no one can challenge or hurt that...love conquers all ;^)... (read in full...)
I want a life, what do I have to do
Q. Hello everyone, I need an advice for my current situation. I am pretty much stuck in it. I want to start a new life but I don't really know how. I have been imagining a picture of me having free-will. I am soon to be 24 years old soon, an only...
A. 5 August 2011: i love my parenst but I moved to another country! they will realize, if they really love you,that this is what is best for you. You need to live YOUR life, not your parents. They can take care of themselves, dont hinder your life b/c of them. Tell ... (read in full...)
Gay marrying a woman
Q. Hi, i am 29 yr gay, but i look like other normal guys, my family is pressurising me to get married, bt i dont like gls ,i like ther boobs bt nt vagina, i want to kno can i b able to fk my wife nd satisfy her? I am very tense,i have to marry,pls give ...
A. 5 August 2011: your indian and so aam i so i understand its not as easy for indians than it is in the american culture. But don't do this to yourself, if ur parents pressure u, just tell them its not gonna happen and live your life. Maybe you can move away from ... (read in full...)
He wanted to hold my hand and stroked my face after sex, does this mean anything?
Q. Hey :) so I've been seeing this guy for five months, but we aren't officially a couple. I slept with him for the first time a month ago, but I thought that he was just using me. But the last time I slept with him he wanted to hold my hands and he s...
A. 1 August 2011: he might crave affection after sex to make it feel more than just sex, but then afterwards go back to not really being that into you OR he might actually start to fall for you, love takes time, esp for men!... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if I don't work on my problem that I will be alone for a very long time
Q. i usually come to this site asking for help with my girl problems...but just the other day i got so fed up with being let down by girls so much these past few months that im just going to stop trying and focus on myself for once. But ive been so ...
A. 2 July 2011: You just said that after you graduated you were with many girls so whats the problem??? I'm not understanding. Are you back to the way you used to be? Why are u so hung up on girls? The more you think about it the farther away you are going to get ... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 17 June 2011: no im asking, what if the group of friends know your kind of promiscous, im afraid they'll tell the guy 'oh ur with that slut' eventhough i never even had sex in college, i just made out with a couple of his acquaintances, not even good friends, ... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 17 June 2011: wow i like all the discussions! thanks guys :)... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 16 June 2011: but he knew u werent a virgin? wat if a potential serious thing is amongst the group of friends who know about my past a bit?... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 15 June 2011: but how long after did u meet ur husband, right after hooking up with someone, months later, or years later? of this 'change' that took place, i hooked up recently but wna settle down, if that makes any sense, i do wanna get sesrious... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 15 June 2011: what if ppl talk to him and tell him stuff about me :(... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 15 June 2011: ill have to disagree anonymous, the guilt comes from what society thinks is acceptable and be me going against it, it comes from family stuff and what PEOPLE might think, the guilt also comes from me getting worried that God wont want me to fall in ... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 15 June 2011: you give me hope annalisa! i have a good friend by tht nname :)... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 15 June 2011: so i shouldn't feel guilty not telling him? ... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 14 June 2011: how manyh of u agree with anonymous male? there is some truth to that, it is hard for me to feel but i can still feel things, the wayi can remember when i was innocent for guys, when its real, there is no denying that b/c love is love and when you ... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 14 June 2011: dont u think that's wrong, your love shud know everything about u, i wud feel like im denying myself, altho my hookups dont define who i am at all...its a part of me but its not ME. idk, wud it be like our relationship isnt based on trust and all ... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 14 June 2011: Was it the best sex you ever got? How does it compare to the other hook ups?... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 14 June 2011: the funny thing is, most of these guys actually respect me and like me, b/c im sweet in bed, i do the whole romantic talk and make them feel special....then they wana actually take me out and get to know me, IM THE ONE whose like 'get away' and hate ... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 14 June 2011: those were over a period of time, like over years since 19-25 i mean it was one every 4-5 months or so... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 14 June 2011: I'm asking b/c i feel guilty, why do i do it? some of the times i do it for attention, or so ppl dont think im so 'innocent' b/c i give off that vibe, other times i do it b/c i need momentary pleasure, the biggest regret was when i did it just for ... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 14 June 2011: How do you answer the qs if he does ask?... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 19 November 2010: damn cerberus, im reallly curious about ur poo now! love it thank u! ... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 31 October 2010: but dont u get curious? dont u wonder how experiencd they are? doesnt ur past shape who u are now? idk, it'd bother me a little not knowing but it'd bother me telling him about mine, like i needed to get it off my chest b/c i was 'hiding' something. ... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 23 October 2010: Thanks guys, yea I do think its okay to share past relationships to get to know where u stand (if u have ever been in love or if this guy is 'the one' but i agree w/most of u in that i dont need to tell him about my sexual past, and I wont :) u guys ... (read in full...)
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