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After cheating and a break up, my ex friended me on facebook. How do I respond?

Q.   My ex and I were in a LDR. We broke up last month. It was a bad breakup. I asked him for closure, but he didn't say anything or contact me. I was heartbroken and cried to bed almost every night. I defriended him on Facebook after the breakup and ...

A.   10 June 2013: Ignore the request. Simples.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend cheated but he is constantly accusing me of being the cheater!

Q.   My boyfriend has cheated on me in ?the past and I decided to forgive and forget about all of it but since then all he does is accuse me of ?the same things he was caught doing and I can beg and plead till I'm blue in ?the face for him to believe me ...

A.   19 February 2013: Walk away - like you should've done in the first place. It's probably a bit of reverse psychology to make himself feel better for what he's done. You deserve better.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend always accuses me of having sex with other men but then gets off on it

Q.   This might seem strange but the guy I'm currently with is extremely jealous , through out our relationship of nearly a year he has constantly accused me of havin sex with other guys. If I go out for a few hours and am late back he would take me to ...

A.   19 February 2013: Get rid. It does appear he is getting of on the thought of you sleeping around, but at the same time, it's creepy. I suspect there is more to it, and to be with someone controlling and jealous is not a comfortable place for me.... (read in full...)

We don't seem to agree on how things should occur before he proposes!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We lived together for one and I had to move out because of family issues. He just started a business an hour away and wants me to get a job down where he is so we can be together again... I told him ...

A.   19 February 2013: Yes you are making a commitment to moving so you can be with him but the fact you are refusing to do it unless he proposes is absurd. What makes it more ridiculous is that you have already lived together. If you try and push him into doing s... (read in full...)

How can I get past what happened before? Can this work?

Q.   You need to know my back history to understand this. High school i dated a girl three years, senior year she left me for someone else and was with him the night we broke up. She left because for two years we were plagued with bad sex mostly because ...

A.   23 November 2012: She is clearly not the right person for you by reading many aspects of this this and there is also a loss of trust from your side that you're checking her phone and Facebook etc. Personally, I don't see you two have a future together and you need... (read in full...)

Girl I like is always with this guy? 

Q.   I like this girl in college. I've never talked to her and she's in none of my classes. I see her around campus and in the library almost everyday. I'm pretty certain she finds me attractive. We've exchanged repeated and extended eye contact. I've ...

A.   23 November 2012: Forget making "a move", try chatting to her - then you'll find out more about who she is, if you actually like her or or if she likes you and during the conversation it may come up who this bloke she's hanging around with is. After all that the... (read in full...)

I'm worried about making noise during sex

Q.   Now that Ive got used to a condom since 1st time sex I'm finding intercourse with my boyfriend more and more enjoyable.I think I'm now ready to go a bit vocal with the pleasure but I'm young and a bit nervous about starting.It's so quiet in the ...

A.   21 October 2012: Just go for it an enjoy yourself - but make noises because you feel pleasured as opposed to feeling you have to make noises for the sake of it.... (read in full...)

Straight guy having fantasies about giving oral sex to a man

Q.   I'm a straight guy and have ways been in relationship with girls. I am currently in a long term relationship. But lately I been have fantasies about giving oral sex to men. I'm not attracted to men and I'm not turned on by men. But the idea of ...

A.   1 October 2012: The key point here is you have a gf. If you want to try this, fine but you cannot be with her - open-minded or not, this is cheating. Do you know what has made you feel you want to try this and how long have you had these feelings for? ... (read in full...)

How can I stop being in love with a straight guy?

Q.   I’m a young gay guy and I feel like a crap right now. I’m in love with my straight classmate. It’s so hard for me that I’m literary breaking down. Of course, he doesn’t love me back. He has a girlfriend, and seems that he’s happy with her. I know I ...

A.   1 October 2012: You just have to get on with your life and stop moping. Nothing will ever happen between you two. Quitting the football team or not going to his party isn't going to solve anything - you're just avoiding him and that's an immature way out. It'... (read in full...)

I had sex with both brothers but I'm wondering if its possible for me to be in a relationship with one of them

Q.   This is the situation..I've know this guy since we were like 6 years old and you can say he was my childhood love but we never actually dated but the feelings were mutual and we just never got into a relationship with each other but I knew he had ...

A.   6 September 2012: I back TasteofIndia on this one... (read in full...)

What can I do about my drama queen cousin's boyfriend? He likes me I don't like him!

Q.   Hello everyone, I am not sure what to do about my cousin's boyfriend. He flirts and texts me quite a bit, mainly when he and my cousin argue. He confides in me about the problems they have, about the trust issues, ect. I will admit, he can do way ...

A.   2 September 2012: You have to put him in his place, make it clear you're not interested, tell him to back off and don't reply to his texts. ... (read in full...)

Had sex with my long time best friend, things have been awkward. Should I text/call him?

Q.   Hello. I am going to try to make this story super short. Basically, I have this best friend of almost 6 years. We are very close, talk to each other about anything, and enjoy each others company. There is also physical attraction that has always b...

A.   2 September 2012: You don't say how long it's been since you slept together but clearly this is bugging you and understandably so. Get in touch with him... (read in full...)

She wants me to be more dirty but now I"m not sure we should have started down this path!

Q.   I am really unsure what to make with my girlfriend. We've been together 5 months, throughout May we did not kiss or do anything sexual as she'd commented she felt guilty, plus I had things on my mind so I deliberately didn't do anything. Fro...

A.   30 July 2012: Seriously, chill out. Go with the flow, experiment a little and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's mum came home while we were having sex!

Q.   Hey aunts and uncles! I have a quick question for the mums out there or anyone really that can help! Long story short me and my boyfriend were over heard having sex today in his house. We are both 21 so not kids! We didn't know she was hom...

A.   5 April 2012: The fact is it's happened and you have to get on with it. No-one likes to be heard or even caught in the act by their or their partner's families but you're not the only couple it's happened to and won't be the last. Personally, u... (read in full...)

We met up, got a room & had sex! No protection.

Q.   I had unprotected sex with a woman over the weekend. We just met up, got a room and we ended up having sex. The issue is that I finished inside her and she didn't think much about it either. I did mention to her that I was about to finish and she ...

A.   5 April 2012: You're old enough to know better about unprotected sex. You know deep down the majority of blokes would much rather not use condoms during any sex and finish inside (and like in your case did not take much encouragement to do so). But you ... (read in full...)

He sleeps, goes out with his friends, basically ignores me, is his attraction to me gone?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. He works nights so he sleeps most of the day. I understand him being tired all of the time. Lately, he has been getting up for an hour then goes back to bed and sleeps until he goes to work. This has ...

A.   5 April 2012: It seems he is putting others before you and you now need to put yourself first. End it and move on.... (read in full...)

I'm miserable in this relationship, but afraid to be without him. How do I find the courage to go it alone?

Q.   Hi, ive never written to one of these before but right now i could do with some advice. I have been on and off with my boyfriend for a couple of years, main reason being he is too attached to his wife/ex wife. Long story short i just cant cope w...

A.   4 April 2012: It's just something you have to do. There's no easy way of doing it but this time you have to make sure it's final. You say you'd rather use your money on things other than drinking, which is absolutely fine, but at times like this you need yo... (read in full...)

He flirted. All the right signals and moves. Then he jumped up and ran away. Telling me he is not gay. How do I recover from this set back?

Q.   ModNote: some more graphic aspects removed so the question could be posted. Tuesday 4th of April 2012: i feel so sad, depressed, in pain, humiliated, stupid and frustrated. i never thought i will feel like this ever in my life. all this mixed b...

A.   4 April 2012: It sounds like he may be bi curious or simply in denial about his sexuality. The way it seems to me is that he was ok with one stage but then panicked or got freaked out - perhaps he's just not ready. Give him a little space and time to refl... (read in full...)

All husband talks about is cheating and the sex he had while he was married to me!

Q.   My husband admits to cheating with dozens of friends and family during our first years of marriage. He also lived with two other women while in the service and I was home pregnant. He got both of them pregnant and left them that way. I am finding it ...

A.   4 April 2012: I'm surprised you are still with guy and even more surprised you have been with him this long. My guess is he is telling you all this to provoke s reaction. Well the best reaction would be to leave him. He clearly has no respect for you ... (read in full...)

Adding on facebook when you have no common friends?

Q.   Hello! There is this one guy in one of my classes and we always have tension, we are always giving eye contact. And today we finally spoke and I told him I thought he was really cute and he said I am as well! I feel like a child again I used to ...

A.   4 April 2012: Have a couple more chats with him first before adding him on Facebook, then you shouldn't feel unsure. As for having no mutual friends, that is irrelevant.... (read in full...)

Is it really cheating if you really love the guy even though he has a girlfriend?

Q.   so i have a bit of a stupid question, if a man or woman are married and one of them sleeps with someone else over and over its an affair. but if its just a guy and girl dating, is it still called an affair? and is it really wrong to flirt and sleep ...

A.   4 April 2012: Yes it is still an affair, cheating, whatever you want to call it and it is wrong. If he wants to sleep with you, he needs to finish it with his girlfriend. I don't know how you can say you love him more than he does, but put yourself in her ... (read in full...)

B/f watching porn but doesn't understand that I am not sexually satisfied!

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. he initiated sex a lot in the beginning and i really liked that. for the last few months, our sex life has been awful and i am rarely satisfied. whenever i try to initiate something, he laughs it ...

A.   4 April 2012: One question here. You say you want sex as much as possible to give you a better chance of finishing and you think he has become discouraged by you not being satisfied. What have you done to help him make sure your buttons are pressed so-to-sp... (read in full...)

Boyfriend cheated once, I think he may be again!

Q.   hey i have been with my boyfriend 3 years this month, but i can't help doubting him. i know he cheated on me at the begining of our relationship (yes, call me stupid for staying) but it did really upset him and he did tell me about it. now...

A.   4 April 2012: Walk away. I'm guessing it's your first serious relationship and often that can make people behave like you are - always forgiving. The problem is you don't know any different as this is your only experience. You are young and there are ... (read in full...)

Do I talk about our drunken one night stand? Or let him bring it up?

Q.   Ok, so I got really drunk and slept with my best male friend. This has brought out feelings for him and got me thinking about being with him. I have known him for years and although we have our differences and we both have other close friends,...

A.   4 April 2012: I think you two need to have a chat about it to find out where each of you stand. I wouldnt go all out telling him your feelings straight away. Let a little out and see what his thoughts on the "incident" you had... (read in full...)

Four years of talking online but I still don't know his real name, or phone number

Q.   Hi Users, Where do I begin?. I'll just write what comes I suppose. For four years I have been talking to a man online. We talk every day at least 3 to 4 times and sometimes more. We log onto MSN in the mornings, during breaks at work, after wor...

A.   3 April 2012: This is all wrong and bizarre that basic facts about each other you do not even know (albeit he knows about you now). How can you fall in love with someone who you don't know you're talking to? Words are very easy to write down on a computer an... (read in full...)

Why has the consistency of his cum changed?

Q.   hello i have a question i need help with please. im 18 and me and my boyfriend are sexual active for about 4 months now. well a couple weeks ago his cum started to change. it used to be sticky but now its very liquidity. is that normal or can ...

A.   3 April 2012: Nothing to worry about and nothing further to add to what the others have said. Agree with it all.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't respect girlfriends wishes

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years. We've had alot of ups and downs. Here recently I told him I wanted to try to connect better on an emotional level rather than physical. (no sex). He still tries to get me to give in, but ...

A.   3 April 2012: How on earth is refusing sex going to help your two communicate better? It's basically saying: Open up or you don't get sex. The fact of it all is if you two cannot communicate together, then you are not right for each other.... (read in full...)

I really do love her but I don't want to waste more time on a relationship with a girl with no goals or plans in life

Q.   Hi ive beem dateing my girlfriend for a little over a year now. I love her with all my heart but i dont know if i see us going anywhere in the future. The problem is that shes not trying to get a job or anything and it seems like she has no ...

A.   2 April 2012: You've answered you're own question - yes you should end it. No you're not being harsh. You have discussed it with her but without any success. It's good to see people wanting to achieve something in life and have drive.... (read in full...)

Should I try to meet a bircurious guy like myself online?

Q.   I am a 16 yr old bicurious male and I was wondering if anyone thought it was or wasn't appropriate for me to try and meet another gay or bicurious male online of my same age. I haven't met any I would like to date in person but am unsure of what is ...

A.   31 March 2012: I would go for it, but like chancesare79 says, be careful about who you agree to meet... (read in full...)

I'm addicted to paying for pornography

Q.   First a little about me. I'm a male, 23 years old, about three friends, never had a girlfriend or sex, not even kissing. I am addicted to pornography. However, what's even more self-destructive is that I am addicted to PAYING for pornograp...

A.   31 March 2012: Get out an meet people. If you can't tear yourself away from the computer, at least use it constructively - joining a dating website. Or do stuff like speed dating. If you want to stay lonely, keep on doing what you're doing - which see... (read in full...)

GIrlfriend gets annoyed when I try to spice up our sex life

Q.   ok so i have tried to spice up my sex life with my gf however when i have asked her about certain things she gets annoyed with me. we have always had a lot of sex almost every day for over 3 years now. in the last year however she seems to be bored ...

A.   31 March 2012: Once someone cheats, it can change everything. You have to ask yourself why she cheated - there was obviously something wrong in the relationship for that to happen (but like in many cases, people don't talk to each other about them). Then yo... (read in full...)

Is this girl pregnant with my boyfriend's baby? I cant even ask him because he's locked up!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time he's bad but I really love him and he loves me very much,I'm only16 and I need help?...I found out that he was texting other of their names was Gina,now this was about five months ...

A.   31 March 2012: Get away from the whole situation, dump this guy as it seems clear he is trouble and you don't want him to drag you down with him. You have a life to lead, don't let it be ruined before it has even started.... (read in full...)

We've been together four years and I've always hoped he would change!

Q.   Hi, I've been with my bf for about 4 yrs. We've had our share of issues. I always hoped somehow he would change, but I don't believe he will. Sometimes its incredible he's sooo complimentive, charming, he will cook for me treat me great and o...

A.   31 March 2012: you need to leave him, well you should've left him a long time ago - the final nail would've been hitting you. you've put up with far too much and don't deserve to be treated this way. he's had enough chances to seek help.... (read in full...)

I have no idea what's going on, she's done a complete 180 from being over the top, to completely ignoring me!

Q.   Well where to begin. Basically, I met a girl who at first appeared very forward shall we say, in her feelings for me. I received many flattering (although false) compliments from her, and she was quite touchy feely, a little possesive, alway...

A.   31 March 2012: Just leave it, she's stringing you along and you need to move on. ... (read in full...)

I just don't want to hurt anymore!

Q.   Ok well I was.with my boyfriend for two years the first year was wonderful. Then he cheated on me hurt me bad but I loved him so much that I gave him anither chance then he started accusing me of cheating the whole time ive been fathful.he dosent ...

A.   31 March 2012: Get rid. You can do better than him. He cheated on you, yet you gave him another chance, now he's turned on you and personally I think he's looking for an excuse to get out. Dump him before he dumps you and move on. There are better peop... (read in full...)

Do married couples have better sex when drunk?

Q.   Do you prefer sex when your drunk as a married couple?. The wife and I Always seem to have the best sex when we have a little too much red wine. The "wildness" comes out! ...

A.   2 March 2012: I'm not sure marriage has a lot to do with it... (read in full...)

My b/f comments on his ex's facebook "I miss you and feel lonely without you"

Q.   k so.. my boyfriend always talks to me like he is totally in love with me, always tells me he loves me, never wants to leave me, we aren't to far in the relationship and he already wants to engage to me, already wants kids with me [even though he ...

A.   1 March 2012: This guy must be a charmer because he's sucked you right in and unless you get out of this relationship now, you are going to get hurt. He has a baby on the way with a girl he still has feelings for and he has drinking habits. You don't say... (read in full...)

Does anyone think that some people just aren’t meant to find love?

Q.   Hey guys, words of advice would be greatly appreciated. Does anyone here have a problem with confidence. I mean confidence more to do with meeting new people and getting into relationships. I’ve never had a girlfriend, never kissed anyone and ...

A.   1 March 2012: Patience is key here. The more you want it, the harder it is to find it. These things just tend to happen when you least expect it. Be yourself, be friendly, talk to people, see what happens. There's many more people in your situation so... (read in full...)

I feel sometimes that I treat my girlfriend like a comfort blanket.

Q.   I am a very self-oriented person who enjoys my own and other people's company, striking a balance between these two depending on how I feel. I love other people's company, but only when it suits me. I am the most important person in my life. My g...

A.   29 February 2012: You need to take a look at yourself and understand that relationships are about two people not one. Yes, ultimately in life you have to look after yourself, but when it comes to relationships you have to (and should want to) be there for each o... (read in full...)

I've been reflecting on my relationship, and I feel that although I love my B/f and want him to be happy, it feels one-sided, and I'm not sure I want to carry on in this way

Q.   I need some help to weigh up my relationship, please. I feel I put in most of the effort and it is starting to get to me. We've been together 18 months. It feels like i'm always the one suggesting things to do, like going to the cinema or out for ...

A.   29 February 2012: Relationships are all about give and take from both sides, but it seems in your case, you are doing all the giving and he is doing all the taking. Have you talked about this? To put it bluntly I don't think you have a future together, based ... (read in full...)

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