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Why is this man everywhere I go?

Q.   Why is he everywhere i go! Honestly I called out a hand man in the summer he dragged the job out as long as possible. Now i seen to "bump into him on my street almost everyday sometimes even 2x. Like I know I can almost write it off as he has other ...

A.   10 December 2014: Whow! I don't really trust the two minutes standing by your yard. He might be some ill wisher. You can't be too careful these days. Perhaps it is just coincdence that you often meet. Worse case, he loves you and is stalking you or worst case he is ... (read in full...)

He says he finds me boring during sex! Help!

Q.   hello... when i have sex with my partner it lasts a good amount of time(anything between 10 mins to an hour.. which i think is OK) i think he gets pleasure from it and so do i but 9 times out of 10 after sex he always makes sarcastic remarks like ...

A.   26 April 2011: I agree with the 1st answer. You might as well try the 'going down' on each other and changing styles. I'll be glad if you try saying 'what a boring sex' after sex with him and watch his reaction, then scold him to stop his disregard after ... (read in full...)

If we're both fifteen...what happens if we want to have a baby?

Q.   What iF You're 15 And You And Your Boyfriend Want To Have A Baby?!?...

A.   26 April 2011: Wait till you are not so young anymore, then you have one.... (read in full...)

How do I overcome my status as a "divorced" man? It seems women think I'm damaged goods!

Q.   Okay, so I joined match.com, and I'm a little dispondant. I'm divorced, I was treated badly by my ex who was emotionally and physically abusive to me, and after trying everything I had to leave for my own safety. I have ticked the divorced box...

A.   26 April 2011: Hi, Yes, most women would get scared because they don't know what led to the breakage of your first marriage and are scared it might happen to them. It shows you are an honest man by ticking that box. Don't worry yourself, unless if you are bent on g... (read in full...)

My best friend's boyfriend is taking over her life! I'm scared he'll succeed in pressuring her into what she's not comfortable with!

Q.   i am new with this whole advice thing. but I feel like my best friend is replacing me with her new boyfriend. i have talked to her countless times. she is in pure denial, and her attitude is changing for the worst. she stays up all night talking to ...

A.   26 April 2011: Hi, I think you sound a little above normal disturbed level now about this. You are her best friend and he is her boyfriend (two different stages) so you don't get to feel bad when she talks all night to him because they are in love and that or ... (read in full...)

Should I go back to my country? What other options are there to pay my tuition fees?

Q.   hi, i am an indian who came to Australia for higher studies. i don't have money to pay my next year's tuition fee as i didn't get a job. i can't ask my family for help as their business went bankrupt. so, i asked my boyfriend for help (just to lend...

A.   25 April 2011: That is what I hate with asking for help. I wonder if he loves you honestly?. Was he generous with little gifts to you before this? If yes, then he isn't to be trustd because he can't help you big time but yet, some people are just like that wit... (read in full...)

I need help to understand my jealousy, or i'll lose the best man I've ever had.

Q.   I have been in denial of my problem. I am very jealous with my bf and its wrong.. I have had problems with him in the past and i don't trust him. I'm tired of being like this and i want to change. I question him about everything, like where is he g...

A.   25 April 2011: How do you know he isn't cheating when he is always lying over simple issues? Tell him you don't believe him bluntly each time he lies to your face, it could help reduce or stop his silly lies. You have every right to not trust him since he gives y... (read in full...)

What to do about decietful wife

Q.   Hi, i hope you guys can help me out. My wife of 5 years has broken my heart with her deciet, when we first started dating she new everything about me, how i wanted to marry a virgin woman with a good personality,kind at heart and honest. I told her ...

A.   25 April 2011: Its me again. Why can't you forgive, since you already have a daughter? Think about the long run,what if you fall for a mistake later in life and you get denied a forgiving heart? What about your daughter, she'd be brought up in a broken home jum... (read in full...)

What to do about decietful wife

Q.   Hi, i hope you guys can help me out. My wife of 5 years has broken my heart with her deciet, when we first started dating she new everything about me, how i wanted to marry a virgin woman with a good personality,kind at heart and honest. I told her ...

A.   21 April 2011: Well, at 1st I thot u were a female (ur displayd gendr) talkn about ur wife. Strange! Did u use sm1 else's page or... Neva mind. Lying is the most hurtful thing in d world. I wl say she made a huge mistake coz one can't lie to d whole world ab... (read in full...)

I don't get on with my mum, how do I tell my parents I am pregnant?

Q.   I'm 15 years old. Yesterday i found out im pregnant. The father is not my boyfriend and never was. I have never been more scared in my life. My parents are divorced and I live with my dad because me and my mom don't get along. My mom is re-married ...

A.   23 February 2010: Hi dear, If my sister should confide in me with your kinda situation, i will boldly help her get rid of it in only one condition, that next time, she stays off guys for in any similar case, i would rather tell her off. as i understand, u dnt have... (read in full...)

If you're in an LDR and it's working, PLEASE respond!

Q.   I need to know if Long distance relationships work. So for all of you in happy LDR's, please respond and tell me that they work and you're happy. Also, how often do you see eachother? the guy i like is 6 hours away from me and we both are broke ...

A.   23 June 2009: yeah dear they work a times but mine was hell. let me gist u. he was in malaysia and i was in nigeria. u got that? ok. so he was this kind of loving coz sometyms he cried for me when we had silly fights. his sister stays somewhere around my block in ... (read in full...)

Importance of family

Q.   Dear Cupid, I need some advice on the importance of family in a relationship. Basically my partner's family are rude at times, have little to no manners and the majority also have poor social skills e.g. saying hello can be an issue. The parents ...

A.   5 May 2009: Well, I think the family of who you wanna be with, matters alot. But if they are that way, you cannot change them and you wouldnt leave your partner coz of them. dont let them worry you. Just learn to live in peace with each one of them and try ... (read in full...)

I'm very confused and scared

Q.   hi I'm a pakistani and i had an arranged marriage with my cousin. I didn't like him then and i don't like him now. But still i got married to him out of fear of living alone. Now the problem is he doesn't talk to me like a husband should talk to his ...

A.   25 April 2009: hey sis im a muslim too and i understand your situation, first search ur heart nd see if u luv him nd wldnt mind giving him some time, but d question is does HE LUV U? i guess u knw that youself, i'd advice u to call it off cos he dosent luv u or ... (read in full...)

Just got dumped and want to get over him!

Q.   I just recently got dumped and I was really in love with this person and I still am. I do not know how to get over him and I wanted to know wat I can do to get over this?...

A.   25 April 2009: hey lolisboring, i dont think she should even think of going back to him. love lasts with respect and i believe whoever breaks up with one, doesnt respect them that much. so i think she should live on without him unless there is more to the breakup. ... (read in full...)

She goes out and leaves me when she hears her ex is around?

Q.   Is it right for a man to be quiet when his wife leave him alone in the kitchen to go outside when she heard her ex-boyfriend was around ?and is it right for her to tell the husband that this is her house she can bring in anybody she likes or talk to ...

A.   25 April 2009: hi, well, i dont think your wife is right an inch. marriage is about sacrifice. sometimes one has to overlook somethings for the sake of his/her oartner. this time, she has to stop seeing him at all if thats what u want. you can not be shoved away ... (read in full...)

How do I find confidence & be happy with myself?

Q.   i'm insecure with how i look. i have all these family/friends/work problems coming at me all at once. and dealing with a break-up! i know one of my problems is that i am too passive and naive. (is it wrong to be nice and trust everyone?) another ...

A.   3 February 2009: well, there are people that tend to feel that way about themselves. it is usually because some! close to the person is much more attractive, or people dnt appreciate their looks or someone is telling them they aint all that.ut i tell u. its nt about ... (read in full...)

My husband is obese and isn't willing to diet or exercise, what should I do?

Q.   My husband is obese and isn't willing to diet or exercise, what should I do? He is not willing to seek outside help, doctors said our sexless marriage is because of his weight, as being obese reduces a man's libido, also he suffers from sleep ap...

A.   22 November 2008: well, it is really rare 4 someone obessed to seek no medical attention. this might sound weired but if i were in ur shoes, i would cook up a plan with a doctor to tell him a medical story of lies so he could get scared and agree to be helped, like ... (read in full...)

I really like this boy but he keeps giving me mixed signals.

Q.   Well I like this guy and I am not so sure if he likes me because one minute he smiles and stares at me the next minute he is moody and doesn't even look at me. What should I do?...

A.   22 November 2008: You do nothing gal. You should put him off your mind for 1. if it is true he loves you, you can then love him back 2. if he doesnt love u n he is just trying to be nice, then you see, u r off the hook. but be yourself towards him. Another thing,... (read in full...)

It seems like he might like me, but inexperienced as I am, I'm not sure. What do you say?

Q.   Hey. Alright, so I really like this guy in my grade, and I want to know if he likes me back. We're pretty good friends; we talk and joke around all the time. Recently he's started walking me to some of my classes, and whenever we're talking he looks ...

A.   16 September 2008: ah... i bet u he likes you. guys just dont try getting too close to a gal, if they're not interested in her. besides, does he do that to other gals? or why do his friends not do those little plays with you? he likes u surely if not for a ... (read in full...)

Being cheated for 3 years, want out now. What type of financial support can I get from my husband for me and my child?

Q.   I found out my husband cheated on my when our son BeBe was just 4 weeks, he is going to be 3 this Oct. The other woman just gave birth to my husband child 3 month ago. After almost three years of sharing my husband with the other woman, there is n...

A.   16 September 2008: i feel so sorry for him to have allowed a mere woman break his family. i hate it that BeBe has to grow up in a broken home but even if i were in your shoes, i'd leave for when there's no love, there's no happiness. try getting something doing and ... (read in full...)

What can we do about my grandma?

Q.   I'm so scared right now. My grandmother is very ill at the moment! She has severe memory loss, rarely knows what she's doing and basically has lost her mind. All the family are so concerned about her, she lives with my grandad who tries his best to ...

A.   21 July 2008: if you really care that much, i think you should sit as a family and decide who, coz somebody in his rght senses has to volunteer and go stay with them. if not one , then two. remember, these are the same people who took care of you or your parents, ... (read in full...)

I love him, but should I, as a female, say I love you first?

Q.   i'm developing likeness for a guy "is right to tell him "i love you" as a female?...

A.   9 July 2008: baby, life aint hard. we make it hard for ourselves. you tell him in a stylish way if yu are shy to come out. i know what you mean coz i''m from where you are but u know, some parts of the world don't see it as anything. i'm in your kind of ... (read in full...)

Sexual games on a dark alley. I'm worried we were taped!...

Q.   well im really unsure about something which happened last night?! will anything happen to my boyfriend?. i was 16 last month and my boyfriend of nearly 6 months turned 19 yesterday, we went into town last night to celebrate his birthday and his new ...

A.   9 July 2008: well, it sounds somehow not true. i'm contemplating he knows about the camera. he didnt panic at all while he knows he cud get in much more trouble than u. well, hope you dont get caught but there's something fishy about his reaction. may be he ... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!

Q.   Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...

A.   2 July 2008: yo! that's great news. what an extended family. congrats to all and more good lucks to Andy... (read in full...)

My husband keeps hinting that I have sex with his brother, who I have been attracted to for years now; what do I do?

Q.   My husband and I moved in with his younger brother (12 years younger) a few months ago. He and his wife are in the process of getting a divorce and we agreed to move in to help each other out with bills, etc.My husband and I have been together for ...

A.   1 July 2008: your husband is sick. if he has infected you with his senseless sickness, then you better get help. let me tell u the truth... "He doesn't love you anymore" for even thinking about that. ... (read in full...)

Torn between a jailbird husband and my more stable lover. I need advice!

Q.   Dear Cupid I am a hard working 50 years old young women, lol. I am searching for some good advice . I have been married 10 years, but has been in and out of prison the majority of those. When he did time I did time with him.All that I have bee...

A.   10 June 2008: well, this is complicated a bit. you sound like you love your husband so much. if your lover could give you so mush joy then why leave him for a never staying home husand. you are stressing your self for someone's troule. think... (read in full...)

Flirty emails from my husband to my best friend have me asking, should I just carry on as normal?

Q.   I have been with my husband for 16 years and we have been married for 6 years, we have 2 children. Last week I was looking on his e-mail and found e-mails from him to my best friend. These went on for an afternoon and were very flirty. I have spo...

A.   9 June 2008: oops! taht's a sad story. their must be something fishy about it. since he denied it, then you have no cause to blame him. it could be a joke as he had said. there is no need fighting over what could break your marriage.you shud talk to your friend ... (read in full...)

Am I on the rebound, heading for a possessive relationship or should I give this guy a chance?

Q.   Hi guys, I need some advice. Ive been on 3 dates with a guy and he is quite cute but i dont feel that spark when we kiss. We have only had a peck but i didnt feel anything. We get on great, he makes me laugh, we have loads in common and he seems...

A.   9 June 2008: em, you shud follow your heart and your feelings. love doesnt come so fast atimes, it takes it's time to find the route to your heart. let him be with you for more time and may be you'd feel the spark soon. if at all he doesn't have an unbearable ... (read in full...)

Should I stick with my boyfriend of 2 years?

Q.   my boyfriend of two years has been withdrawn from the university. i'm presently serving at an oil company. my parents are trying to reject him for his problem. we want to get married but i'm scared he can't take care of me or i'll become a liability ...

A.   9 June 2008: thanks ya'll. i'd stick to that.looking out for more help from you.... (read in full...)

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