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Is it right that american girls do oral sex easily ?
Q. I am french, so please excuse my english which is not very good. I have heard that in USA, american girls do oral sex (blowjobs) easily, it's not a big thing for them. To make love with them may be hard, but to be sucked may be easy. Is that...
A. 3 June 2009: I completely agree with Full moon temptress. It's pretty easy to see why this guy isn't getting any head from French chicks.... (read in full...)
Developing a roving eye, help!
Q. Hi. I've been married to my wife for almost 3 years, together for about 6. We are both in our late twenties. When I met her she was the most lovely, charming, sexy woman I'd ever met and we're were deeply in love within days of our first date. ...
A. 26 April 2009: You obviously love your wife, and she loves you. You have the foundation for a good relationship here. Don't go a-roving just yet. What is at the root of her waning sexual desire? Is it her health? Or is that an excuse for something else? ... (read in full...)
Hormonal changes in women during their period... quick poll!
Q. Quick poll: when a gal goes on her period: -Guys: does it happen that she can become difficult to deal with? As in, she's much shorter tempered and you can agitate her more easily? -Gals: do you tend to get short with people including your o...
A. 2 April 2009: Personally, I don't have any changes of mood. I just get cramps, but they go away with Nuroflash. So no, no mood swings here... My girlfriend doesn't either. I think people use it as an excuse (both men and women)!... (read in full...)
Important and interesting job question for all of the readers!
Q. After being unemployed for quite some time, I decided to take a job a little while ago and the pay wasnt so good but I took it because I couldnt afford to not be unemployed anymore and I actually liked the job - the role itself is almost like a ...
A. 1 April 2009: If you're passionate about it, isn't there any way you could find another job doing the same work but with a different company where you would be paid better? Now that you have experience you can ask for a higher rate from the start, also a lot of ... (read in full...)
Can't stop watching porn.
Q. Hi there, i really need some help. Ever since the age of 12 i have been download porn off the internet, its been 6 years now and i still keep doing it.. It is a complete waste of money! I really dont want to watch at all, it does not even do much ...
A. 1 April 2009: I don't think porn is that big of a deal. I wouldn't spend your money on it though, you can find it for free all over the place! If it's really bothering you or preventing you from having a social life, cut it out for a while. If everything's fine ... (read in full...)
My feelings for my boyfriend aren't as strong any more
Q. My boyfriend who is 25, and me, 21, have been dating for 3 and a half months. After a while, we started arguing about small things, but it would escalate to him losing his temper and threatening to break up with me. I would always be the one ...
A. 1 April 2009: I think that you're staying with him out of something akin to politeness. The more it drags on, the harder it's going to be to leave him - but you're going to end up leaving him in the end. Better to do it sooner rather than later. I think you know ... (read in full...)
I've found a lump on my breast...
Q. Hi. I'm 19 and I'm sitting here in tears because I have found a small lump on my right breast only a few minutes ago. I'm alone at the moment as my mum is asleep and I don't want to waken her with a false alarm of worry her so I don't know who to ...
A. 23 March 2009: Calm down, calm down, calm down! Book yourself a doctor's appointment tomorrow - if you don't, you're going to stress out about it. Lumps can be all kinds of things, best to know what it is ASAP. Don't freak yourself out too much.... (read in full...)
Loving girlfriend but all I can think about is her exes
Q. Hi, Im in a loving relationship with my girlfriend. When we started going out everything was great and I was never worried or jealous of previous sexual partners but as we are together longer I get more and more jealous. We are lesbians and ...
A. 23 March 2009: The past is the past. You're going to have to deal with this on your own. Most people you will date will not be virgins, we all have our stories behind us. So your girlfriend dated guys before. Most (not all, but most) lesbians have slept with a man ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want me to perform oral sex on her
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months and have a healthy sex life. Just recently I've wanted to find more ways to pleasure her and one being eating/licking her out. She has had a few male previous sex partners, one being who she let ...
A. 23 March 2009: It doesn't mean she loved the guy more than she loves you, it means that at that point she didn't know it wasn't her thing, and you only find out stuff like that through trial and error.
You're right though, it might be different with you. Wha... (read in full...)
How will I know when she's actually had an orgasm?
Q. I am in a relationship with a woman and I am also a female. She's slightly different from the other girls I've dated. But in a good way. Well, we really love each other and have been going out for a while now, and we both agreed we are ready to ...
A. 23 March 2009: Normally she will have a physical reaction and after she orgasms, she will push your head away - the clitoris is insanely sensitive afterwards, if you keep licking away it's going to be painful for her and her reaction will be to make it stop. ... (read in full...)
Do guys like girls who go horseriding?
Q. do guys like girls who do horseriding or they think girls who horserifing are posh and snobby...
A. 12 January 2009: I don't know, I think it probably depends on the rest of the horsey girl's personality... If not, she could always try dating a horsey guy, right?... (read in full...)
Will his puppy lose its sight?
Q. Hi you lot, Need some advice really. My son has a lovely new little puppy. He let his mate look after it for him while he was at work, and the friend took the puppy round to his mate who has 3 cats. To cut a long story short, the puppy got attack...
A. 19 December 2008: Ah, poor little dog. I'm sorry. If the vet says he's going to lose his sight in that eye, it's probably true... But you know, I had a cat with one eye for a very long time, and it didn't seem to make all that much difference to the cat. She still ... (read in full...)
Lover treated her badly, now wants her back, what to do?
Q. I am a lesbian after being in all types of relationships, i finally found a women whom i connected with on some many levels. She was married to a man before and had, had a child. After meeting her child and her i hopelessly feel in love with both of ...
A. 19 December 2008: Stay friends with her for now, I think. Don't jump into a relationship again - it may be that she is just lonely and regrets what happened, and if that's the case, things could slide back into the old habits. An abusive situation is NEVER excusab... (read in full...)
I've not been feeling myself for a couple of weeks. What should I do?
Q. i am 16 and i have a boyfriend, we've been officially going out for around 3 weeks but had a thing for just under 2 months. I feel very comfortable around him but that's the thing...there is no spark for me. I kinda just went into the relatio...
A. 19 December 2008: I think you should talk to your boyfriend. Three weeks isn't a long time - tell him that you're not looking for anything serious, that you don't feel as though you are ready to make a commitment to him, that you want to be honest with him about it ... (read in full...)
Weird lump! What is it?
Q. Ok I'm thirteen and I have this really weird umm...let's say....lump. It goes like in between the two labias and at the end there's a big brownish looking lump. I could pull like 10 cm down without it hurting. It gets uncomfortable sometimes and ...
A. 13 December 2008: Which labia are you talking about? The outside ones or the inside ones? Because if it's between the outside ones, this could just be your labia minora. Labia come in all shapes and sizes, there's a lot of variation.
Take a look at this: http://w... (read in full...)
She wants me then she doesn't! Why does she keep doing this?
Q. I'm 14 and I have a girlfriend, we've been going out for a long time and we were at the movies so we made out. But whenever we started making out, within seconds she would push me off and turn away like she didn't want to any more. Then a couple ...
A. 9 December 2008: She's playing a coquette game. It's a pretty dangerous thing for her to be doing, because it can go wrong. A lot of girls do it, they kiss you, then push you away going "no no no!" and giggling, then they kiss you some more. The thing is that when ... (read in full...)
Is he gay... or just lying?
Q. So I have this friend who I'm really close with, but every now and then we hook up when we're really drunk, like REALLY drunk. and most of the time it's just me doing everything, and sometimes he even pushes me off, but i can't help myself so i keep ...
A. 9 December 2008: Sounds like he's in denial. Does he get drunk every time he sees you? If it's a regular occurence, he's probably doing it on purpose. After all, alcohol is an easy scapegoat... Maybe he really doesn't remember, maybe he doesn't want to remember. Is ... (read in full...)
My wife is an automechanic and it's embarrassing!
Q. My wife is an auto mechanic and she also fixes everything around the house. It's kind of embarrassing because my friends always tease me about it. Like once we when on a rode trip with our friends and the car broke down. My wife repair it on 30 ...
A. 9 December 2008: COOL! If you don't want your wife any more, will you post her to me?
Seriously though, what's your problem? You should be proud and happy to have a wife who can fix your car. ... (read in full...)
He has cybersex with women in the Internet! Should I leave him?
Q. i've been married for 6yrs and i always knew that my husband was into porn but i didn't know how bad til i look into his computer.wow i thought he's really into this.but at frist i thought it was just a guy thing that all guys do this.is it?then ...
A. 8 December 2008: Porn is one thing, cybersex is another... When you say "very young teens", how young are we talking? Like illegal young? Because that's another thing again. I think you and your husband have to sit down and talk about this. ... (read in full...)
What did she mean by, "You live like Cinderella"?
Q. Ali (friend) called me yesterday and asked if I wanted to hang out, I told her I couldn't because I was busy cleaning the house for the holidays. Then she replied... "Alice every time I call you you're cleaning. You live like Cinderella" I asked ...
A. 8 December 2008: Sounds okay to me. It's when you're polishing the back of the mirror and separating the left shoes from the rights that you might want to start worrying.... (read in full...)
Boy names that mean miracle or or something along those lines?
Q. Hello everyone! So, my wife is pregnant. We are trying to choose a boys name that would mean "miracle" as if this child is born, it truely would be because of the high chances of a misscarriage happening. We have a girl name already, but yeah... ...
A. 8 December 2008: According to babynames.com, two boys' names meaning "miracle" are Milagro and Pele. A little unusual perhaps but there you are.... (read in full...)
What did she mean by, "You live like Cinderella"?
Q. Ali (friend) called me yesterday and asked if I wanted to hang out, I told her I couldn't because I was busy cleaning the house for the holidays. Then she replied... "Alice every time I call you you're cleaning. You live like Cinderella" I asked ...
A. 8 December 2008: She's probably just teasing you a little. My wife cleans a lot too, whenever I call her up and she's cleaning I shout at her "CLEAN, woman, CLEAN!" It's just a silly joke between us. I wish I were more like the two of you, but there you are. I ... (read in full...)
How do I please my girlfriend?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm 16 and have been with my girlfriend who's 17 for a couple of months now. She's a little more experienced than me, as i've never been in a same sex relationship before. Every time we have sex, she makes me cum, either by going ...
A. 4 December 2008: Do you know what she likes? Do you talk about sex together? Do you know what turns her on? It's not always the same thing for everyone: example, some women absolutely love having their clitorises massaged, others are too sensitive down there and ... (read in full...)
First gay relationships...?
Q. Hi, Here's the thing. About 3 years ago I realised I was bisexual. I've had one relationship since then with a girl, but it was long distance and although I really felt for the girl, it didn't work. Before this i'd always dated boys, perhaps ...
A. 4 December 2008: Start by getting to know ONE of them. It's hard to jump straight into the middle of a group of people. So get to know one or two girls, and they will introduce you, show you around, you'll find out all the gay bars and places to go, and you will ... (read in full...)
A guy in my class has a crush on me, but is very shy, how do I make him comfortable enough to talk to me?
Q. There is a cute boy in my grade , and he has a crush on me. But, he blushes whenever he sees me. How do I get him to atleast say hi?????? ...
A. 16 November 2008: Say hi to him first. He'll probably say hi back. Just talk to him until he's more at ease.... (read in full...)
I want to dress up sexy for my boyfriend... WHERE to get the clothes?
Q. I'm a big girl and my boyfriend loves my curves and has asked me to dress up sexy in stockings and a basque and I'm worried as soon as I walk into a shop that sells them, people are thinking ew look at her trying to be sexy, and I get this feeling ...
A. 16 November 2008: What are you talking about? People in shops are there to sell things. The reason clothes come in different sizes is because women come in different sizes. And curvy women look WAY better in basques than skinny women - get a corset, it will nip in ... (read in full...)
My best friends (females) are together and I've been sworn never to tell anyone!
Q. I'm 13 and I'm really close with 2 of my friends (Since we're into all the same stuff and can talk about anything with eachother!) but they're MUCH closer to eachother to me. Loads of rumours have been going around school that they are lesbian...
A. 11 November 2008: It's normal that you feel hurt - after all, you were defending them and assumed that you knew everything about them, seeing how close you are. The fact that they told you in the end proves how much you mean to them. It's hard for anyone to come out, ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my boyfriend is still a virgin?
Q. The guy that I am currently dating is 22 years old and is a virgin. I asked him why but he just said that he doesn't know. He told me that he has three girls before. I am wondering if he lied to me about that. Is it normal for him to still be a ...
A. 10 November 2008: 22? That's not especially late. My friend Dave was 26 before he lost his, he wasn't putting it off until marriage, he was an attractive guy, it just hadn't happened and he didn't stress too much about it. He just said that when he was ready, he'd ... (read in full...)
Is my long distance girlfriend cheating?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship at the moment.. we met in my country 8 months ago and she had to go back to her own country two months ago to continue her studies.. i only decided to come on this because she is ignoring me at the moment and i ...
A. 6 November 2008: Ugh! Long-distance things are so hard because the person literally disappears every time they turn off their phone or go somewhere with no signal. I'm in one too. I go out with my friends and find a bunch of hysterical messages from my girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or he's just playing with my heart?
Q. Hi everyone He sent me a text msg and said:" BaBee .. I miss you alot" and then later hetold me that he was just a wrong message. ( he sent it to his gf) I always keep wondering whether he sent me a wrong mesage or it was his plan. He did ma...
A. 2 November 2008: Let it go. The text wasn't for you, it was for his girlfriend. He has made it clear that he's not interested. Leave him and his girlfriend alone and stop reading into things.... (read in full...)
I have bizarre sexual fantasies that disgust me.
Q. I have bizarre sexual fantasies that disgust me. I am very attracted to ideas of being harshly dominated by men or animals. I imagine working as a prostitute or being raped among other things. These ideas horrify me. I even allowed myself to ...
A. 27 October 2008: Everyone, everyone has fantasies. Luis Bunuel put it very well: "When I reached the age of sixty, I finally understood the perfect innocence of the imagination. It took that long for me to admit that whatever entered my head was my business and mine ... (read in full...)
How can I get my friend to back off without runing the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend is an amazing guy. He calls me while im working to leave sweet messages on my phone and would do anything for me. I love him more then anything, but after we started having sex, which i was a virgin before hand, and now i feel like i u...
A. 13 October 2008: If you only just noticed he's been making moves on you for years, he must have been quite subtle about it. If it's never bothered you before - I mean, if you didn't catch on, it couldn't have been that bad - why go stirring up trouble now? You have ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my classmate's eating disorder?
Q. This girl S in my class has an eating disorder. No one really likes her, and I'm the only one in our class who even tolerates her, but she thinks we're friends and always tags along with me at school. I feel bad about it, but my friend came up to me ...
A. 13 October 2008: You aren't enabling her. She has a problem and she's going to keep on doing what she's doing whether you have brownies or not. You did a good thing by talking to the guidance counsellor - between the counsellor and her mother, she is going to have ... (read in full...)
He said I just don't "do it for him". What's going on???
Q. My gay best friend told me he was "experimenting" when he took my virginity! We were both virgins and he told me for months and months that he liked me, I liked him a lot! I was practically in love with him, we used to spend hours on the phone ...
A. 13 October 2008: He's probably been struggling with his sexuality for a while. It sounds as though you and he have a very strong connection... and if you had been a boy you would have been the one. He was probably testing himself to see if he could possibly feel ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I like him, but some other girl is after him! What do I do?
Q. Im not sure if a like a guy. He told me he liked me about a month ago, but i said i didnt know how i felt. Ive met him like 6 times and never felt a spark, but last time i kind of did. We havent met for a while, and weve kept it as friends but k...
A. 13 October 2008: I don't think you like him. The way you're feeling sounds to me like a jealous reaction. He liked you and that was good - let's face it, it's always nice to have people interested in you. If he gets a girlfriend, then he won't be interested in you ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend's brother to stop, and understand that I'm not interested?
Q. A few weeks ago i had sex with this guy for the first time. It turned out to be the best sex i've ever had. The first time we had the flat to ourselves for most of the night - he lives with his younger brother - a few hours later, while still in ...
A. 13 October 2008: Ehh... that's kind of weird. The most confusing part about it for me is your own guy's reaction. Wouldn't most guys be kind of annoyed about their brother talking to and about their girlfriend like that? Instead, he's aiding and abetting his ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering...is my bf bi sexual?
Q. Hi, I have a very loving relationship with my boyfriend. But recently I've started to think my bf is bisexual, because of some things he says, the way he talks about other guys and the way he acts. I've spoken to my bf about this before and he s...
A. 12 October 2008: Maybe he's bi, or bi-curious. It doesn't really matter too much. If you two are happy together, that's all that counts. Look at it this way: compare bisexuality to liking both blondes and brunettes. Just because you're dating a blonde doesn't mean ... (read in full...)
How do I find out how she feels?
Q. Hi Readers. This is not my first time to ask for advice on dearcupid, but the last time I didn't really get any advice that helped me and my problem... Basically, I'm a woman in my early 20's and am, and have been in love with another female...
A. 11 October 2008: Do you know if she's interested in women or not, first off? Do you know if she identifies as queer in any way? If so, there's nothing to stop you starting to hint around her. If she identifies as straight, all is still not lost. You yourself go ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal to have these pictures?
Q. Hi, I'm 14 and have had a serious girlfriend for 2 years who i really love. during the summer she went to europe and we never saw eachother so every once in a while she would send me nude pictures of her. i am not asking this question because of ...
A. 11 October 2008: Actually, yes it is. Weird, isn't it? This is your girlfriend and you're the same age as her, but yes, you could be prosecuted for possessing child pornography. I agree that it's crazy, but it's happened before. An example: http://news.cnet... (read in full...)
My soul mate is pregnant! What now?
Q. first of all hello there my name is Niko im 17 years old and so is my girlfriend, we have been dating for more than 8 months... i know that she is my soulmate... i knwo that i will marry her.. im sure u will say u cant find a sopulmata at 17 years ...
A. 11 October 2008: Yep, sadly enough the "pulling out" method is ineffective... even if you don't ejaculate inside her, she could still end up pregnant. As you may have found out. First of all, get the test done and find out for sure. This may be a false alarm. Okay... (read in full...)
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