I put my foot in it! What do I do?
Q. I work in a condominium and have gotten the chance to know a lot of really lovely people. One of them is a lady "Mary" who has the absolute cutest baby daughter. She showed a mommy's day video made for her by her partner and I stupidly asked "Did ...
A. 9 May 2016: What's wrong with that? It's a perfectly normal assumption to make, seeing as the majority of people are hetero. As a gay lady, I would never dream of being offended if someone didn't magically guess that I was in a relationship with a woman without ... (read in full...)
Bi-Curious But Not Sure How To Explore This...
Q. I'm a girl, in my early 20s. People say I'm ok looking (get asked out a lot by guys) but I'm kind of introverted and focused on my studies etc haha so never had a boyfriend before. However I realised recently that I might be into girls too. Not s...
A. 21 November 2015: Yes, get yourself to a lesbian bar! They aren't completely "hook-up"y, you can just hang out and have a beer and see who you meet. Sit at the counter and talk to the barmaid or something.
Otherwise you could get yourself onto an online dating t... (read in full...)
I thought the date went well but he just wants to be friends?
Q. Just another sad love song So I met this guy, Pete, through mutual friend and then we stayed in touch via social media and texting for maybe a month I was at a town a little while. Good connections, nothing sexual, lots in common. Finally we mee...
A. 1 October 2015: He's been clear with you by telling you he doesn't see it going any further romantically by wanting to me friends. When he texted you to chat with the photos of his dog and bike, it was because he doesn't want you to feel as though he doesn't value ... (read in full...)
He made a racist remark. How should I respond? I think reporting him will make things worse for me.
Q. Hi all, I'm a 16 year old female that has just started college and is having some issues. I am on a male dominated course and I know a boy on their from my old school. We got on really well at school but now we're at college he's trying everythi...
A. 30 September 2015: Hi!
His remark was, indeed, pretty gross. In your situation I'd probably leave it for now and stay away from him as much as possible in the circumstances. If he keeps on making that kind of comment to you, then yes, report it, but if it was a on... (read in full...)
What has caused this outbreak of non-platonic love/sexual attraction?
Q. I have a close male friend who I've known for a few years who has always told me that he views me as a friend/doesn't think a relationship between us would work/wouldn't do anything sexual with someone who a close friend as opposed to girlfriend or ...
A. 2 July 2011: Yeah, he likes you. A lot. The thing that's interesting is that you say you let him do things because you were "curious to see where it would lead"... Be careful with that kind of thing. It's kind of fun and flattering for you, but you could end up ... (read in full...)
Help me romance her with roses to show how beautiful she really is!
Q. hi I have a new gf, but I want to show her how beautiful I think she is, but I have a idea, but need advice on if its good or bad. basically im going to buy a bunch of roses(12 but take one out), and give them to her, with the one of followin...
A. 27 May 2011: I like the first one best!... (read in full...)
Room mates 3 cats are stinky and too furry! What do I do?
Q. i have a bit of a dilemma, although it's not necessarily about a relationship problem. i have a roommate who's a great person to live with. she's a good friend of mine, we get along great, never argue, she always pays her bills on time or early. o...
A. 19 May 2011: Say something about it! You can live just fine with cats as long as you make an effort with the cleaning. Your roommate is just being lazy about it, and she won't change unless you say something. Sit her down and talk to her! ... (read in full...)
Are my reasons for getting a purity ring OK?
Q. MY question is this.. i AM not religious that much , well i beleive in god ,heaven and stuff but like i dont go to church or pray or anything like that now i want to wear a purity ring beacause im 13 nearly 14 and i am shocked that there are some ...
A. 15 April 2011: I don't know about purity rings, honestly. In my country, that doesn't really exist. I think, however, that you're making a good and mature decision. Sex is never something that should be rushed into and you seem to know exactly where you stand on ... (read in full...)
I have had thoughts about girls. Am I going to turn into a lesbian?
Q. HELP ME, im so scared and anxious. im not going to go into my crazy antics here, but i'm just gunna sum it up. i've loved boys forever. wanted to date them, be near them, impress them, make them like me. i formed friendships with guys based on th...
A. 3 April 2011: Where to start? Okay. You seem very, very defensive and insecure about your sexuality. First of all, take a deep breath. Calm down. It's okay. Secondly: most people, if they are honest, can sometimes be attracted to a member of the sex... (read in full...)
I was pretty sure I was gay, but now I'm not. Help! I don't want to embarrass myself.
Q. Four year I have been battling with my sexual orientation since like 14 with being gay or straight. At the beginning of this I told myself I'll be gay since I'm aroused by gay porn and some guys. I never exactly got aroused to straight porn or girls ...
A. 27 March 2011: Congratulations! You are on your way towards sexual self-awareness. It's very easy to feel forced into making a choice about labeling yourself. You are attracted to the same sex, so you label yourself as gay. Then if one day you are attracted to... (read in full...)
I want strangers to see my wife naked!
Q. i want to show my wife nude body to strangers accidentally plz advice me what should i do?it makes me excited...and is this normal?....
A. 4 March 2011: You, my dear, have a fetish. Fetishes differ from kinks, in that kinks are little weird things that turn us on, but fetishes mean that we can't reach orgasm without fantasising about/indulging in our little weird thing.
You might want to talk to ... (read in full...)
I'm a jealous and possessive italian woman, and there's nothing I can do about it
Q. hi ok, here it goes. I thought everything in my relationship was going great, until I became jealous and possesive, it runs in the family we are all italian women and become like that. no matter how pretty I'am I become insecure and can't stand ...
A. 11 February 2011: You say you're getting help for your jealousy. Are you seeing a therapist? I think that might be a useful step for you. You say you were raped by ten men when you were eighteen - this is a huge statement to make, and you say it in an offhand way. ... (read in full...)
A dildo for valentines day?
Q. my boyfriend wants to get me a dildo for valentines should i be mad at that or hurt over it idk what to think of it as?please help...
A. 11 February 2011: Me? As a woman? I don't actually give a damn about Valentine's Day, so it wouldn't make any difference to me. If you're very serious about it and want him to make a romantic effort, maybe he could tie a ribbon around it?... (read in full...)
A dildo for valentines day?
Q. my boyfriend wants to get me a dildo for valentines should i be mad at that or hurt over it idk what to think of it as?please help...
A. 11 February 2011: Wow, that's, like, so romantic. Whatever happened to dinner and flowers, eh? "Happy Valentine's Day, my love, I offer you Fake Penis."
Anyway, though, why does he want to buy you a dildo? Have you two talked about this together, or did he just thi... (read in full...)
want passionate and mind blowing sex with my crush, not my husband!
Q. I have been married to my husband for 18 years and we have two sons together. I got married when I was very young and have had no other boyfriends ever. My husband is the only man I have ever been with in my entire life. I find that I am bec...
A. 9 February 2011: Ah, society. Isn't it lovely? It tells us what we're supposed to want, and it tells us so thoroughly that we sincerely believe that we want these things. We're supposed to want true love, to pair up for life, to get married and live the dream. Who ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can keep the space I love and keep a guy interested?
Q. I'm a 26 year old female, and I've never had a boyfriend. I've barely been on a date! I've had guys interested in me, but usually I'm never interested in them. There are only 2 guys that I regret dismissing before we really started anything, and now ...
A. 27 September 2010: Maybe you just haven't yet met a guy who you want to see and hear from more often? You're young, you don't need to harness yourself to anyone. When you meet someone you want to talk to all the time, then you will do it. Give it time, you just need ... (read in full...)
Was my girlfriend a virgin?
Q. hi my question about my girlfriend virginity 2 question give me a both answers n help me my girlfriend is 23 yrs old when i put my finger her virgina means her pussy i can easily put my one or two fingers n she didnt feel any pain n my gir...
A. 12 September 2010: Yes, you can lose your virginity without bleeding. Yes, a finger will go into a virgin vagina without any problem. If you don't have any other reason to believe that your girlfriend wasn't a virgin, then she probably was.... (read in full...)
5 weeks since he walked out without a word. Do I contact him?
Q. boyfriend of 8 years is verbally abusive to me and when he drinks it worse he is all about himself doesnt have a job hasnt in 3 years moved in with his mommy mind you hes 47 ii did everything and anything for him and i feel used i own my home work ...
A. 11 September 2010: Good, he's gone. Change the locks. It seems like he solved your problem on his own by leaving. Why on earth would you want to get him back?! ... (read in full...)
What are the best lesbian dating websites in your opinion?
Q. Dear Cupid, What are the best dating websites or communities for lesbians or F/F relationships in your opinion? The only dating website I've ever joined was okcupid, however I've had bad experiences there because I always get unwanted at...
A. 11 September 2010: AfterEllen! It's not a dating site but it's a community site, and you can talk to ladies on the messageboards who can direct you around, or who might even be pretty interesting themselves...... (read in full...)
Torn between two women, please help.
Q. I am really in a bind. Let me give a brief history of my situation. . . I work in an office setting and have been there a year and a half. When I started, I noticed someone there and never had the courage to talk to her. We will call her Jessie....
A. 16 August 2010: You've already decided, haven't you? You just want us to confirm it. Obviously, go for Jessie. You have feelings for her, and not really for Angie. ... (read in full...)
Husband so protective of our daughter that its really affecting our marriage
Q. so i have been married for 3yrs and have a 1yr old girl my husband overprotects her give her anything to eat and is always playing her now my problem is that i feel like we are just parents we forgot our relationship i feel so lonely all i do is ...
A. 3 August 2010: Does your husband have a job? If I understand correctly, you stay at home with the kid, but I can't tell what he does.
This is interesting because most of the time, this kind of problem comes from the man's side of things. A lot of men feel pus... (read in full...)
My mother wants me to buy my brother a gift, but hasn't offered to pay for it!
Q. I'll try and keep this short, so here's the summary of the story with my mother. She has borrowed a lot of money from me, and we're talking over 10 000 dollars here. She promised to pay back parts of it already, which she didn't. I have so stopped ...
A. 14 June 2010: Is she physically handicapped? Is there a reason she can't do it herself? If not, it's her problem. Give your brother a birthday gift from YOU, but let your mother give him a present herself. It's up to her to do it. As for your brother, it's really ... (read in full...)
How do I get this girl to be in my life?
Q. Im 24 n i really like a girl at my institute. Im in final year and she is in pre final year hence ive only few days to be in college. i 1st saw her when she was in 2nd yr , here is my story- i used to see her but never stalked her ...after a m...
A. 18 May 2010: I don't think so. She doesn't seem interested at all. I know that for now you don't want anyone else but believe me, it will happen. Takes time but you will get over her. Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I get this girl to be in my life?
Q. Im 24 n i really like a girl at my institute. Im in final year and she is in pre final year hence ive only few days to be in college. i 1st saw her when she was in 2nd yr , here is my story- i used to see her but never stalked her ...after a m...
A. 17 May 2010: I think maybe you should leave her alone. She's made it clear that she's not interested, you are now really starting to hassle her. You are young, you'll meet many more girls in your life. This one isn't the one for you. ... (read in full...)
Is it right that american girls do oral sex easily ?
Q. I am french, so please excuse my english which is not very good. I have heard that in USA, american girls do oral sex (blowjobs) easily, it's not a big thing for them. To make love with them may be hard, but to be sucked may be easy. Is that...
A. 3 June 2009: I completely agree with Full moon temptress. It's pretty easy to see why this guy isn't getting any head from French chicks.... (read in full...)
Developing a roving eye, help!
Q. Hi. I've been married to my wife for almost 3 years, together for about 6. We are both in our late twenties. When I met her she was the most lovely, charming, sexy woman I'd ever met and we're were deeply in love within days of our first date. ...
A. 26 April 2009: You obviously love your wife, and she loves you. You have the foundation for a good relationship here. Don't go a-roving just yet. What is at the root of her waning sexual desire? Is it her health? Or is that an excuse for something else? ... (read in full...)
Hormonal changes in women during their period... quick poll!
Q. Quick poll: when a gal goes on her period: -Guys: does it happen that she can become difficult to deal with? As in, she's much shorter tempered and you can agitate her more easily? -Gals: do you tend to get short with people including your o...
A. 2 April 2009: Personally, I don't have any changes of mood. I just get cramps, but they go away with Nuroflash. So no, no mood swings here... My girlfriend doesn't either. I think people use it as an excuse (both men and women)!... (read in full...)
Important and interesting job question for all of the readers!
Q. After being unemployed for quite some time, I decided to take a job a little while ago and the pay wasnt so good but I took it because I couldnt afford to not be unemployed anymore and I actually liked the job - the role itself is almost like a ...
A. 1 April 2009: If you're passionate about it, isn't there any way you could find another job doing the same work but with a different company where you would be paid better? Now that you have experience you can ask for a higher rate from the start, also a lot of ... (read in full...)
Can't stop watching porn.
Q. Hi there, i really need some help. Ever since the age of 12 i have been download porn off the internet, its been 6 years now and i still keep doing it.. It is a complete waste of money! I really dont want to watch at all, it does not even do much ...
A. 1 April 2009: I don't think porn is that big of a deal. I wouldn't spend your money on it though, you can find it for free all over the place! If it's really bothering you or preventing you from having a social life, cut it out for a while. If everything's fine ... (read in full...)
My feelings for my boyfriend aren't as strong any more
Q. My boyfriend who is 25, and me, 21, have been dating for 3 and a half months. After a while, we started arguing about small things, but it would escalate to him losing his temper and threatening to break up with me. I would always be the one ...
A. 1 April 2009: I think that you're staying with him out of something akin to politeness. The more it drags on, the harder it's going to be to leave him - but you're going to end up leaving him in the end. Better to do it sooner rather than later. I think you know ... (read in full...)
Loving girlfriend but all I can think about is her exes
Q. Hi, Im in a loving relationship with my girlfriend. When we started going out everything was great and I was never worried or jealous of previous sexual partners but as we are together longer I get more and more jealous. We are lesbians and ...
A. 23 March 2009: The past is the past. You're going to have to deal with this on your own. Most people you will date will not be virgins, we all have our stories behind us. So your girlfriend dated guys before. Most (not all, but most) lesbians have slept with a man ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want me to perform oral sex on her
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months and have a healthy sex life. Just recently I've wanted to find more ways to pleasure her and one being eating/licking her out. She has had a few male previous sex partners, one being who she let ...
A. 23 March 2009: It doesn't mean she loved the guy more than she loves you, it means that at that point she didn't know it wasn't her thing, and you only find out stuff like that through trial and error.
You're right though, it might be different with you. Wha... (read in full...)
Do guys like girls who go horseriding?
Q. do guys like girls who do horseriding or they think girls who horserifing are posh and snobby...
A. 12 January 2009: I don't know, I think it probably depends on the rest of the horsey girl's personality... If not, she could always try dating a horsey guy, right?... (read in full...)
Will his puppy lose its sight?
Q. Hi you lot, Need some advice really. My son has a lovely new little puppy. He let his mate look after it for him while he was at work, and the friend took the puppy round to his mate who has 3 cats. To cut a long story short, the puppy got attack...
A. 19 December 2008: Ah, poor little dog. I'm sorry. If the vet says he's going to lose his sight in that eye, it's probably true... But you know, I had a cat with one eye for a very long time, and it didn't seem to make all that much difference to the cat. She still ... (read in full...)
Lover treated her badly, now wants her back, what to do?
Q. I am a lesbian after being in all types of relationships, i finally found a women whom i connected with on some many levels. She was married to a man before and had, had a child. After meeting her child and her i hopelessly feel in love with both of ...
A. 19 December 2008: Stay friends with her for now, I think. Don't jump into a relationship again - it may be that she is just lonely and regrets what happened, and if that's the case, things could slide back into the old habits. An abusive situation is NEVER excusab... (read in full...)
I've not been feeling myself for a couple of weeks. What should I do?
Q. i am 16 and i have a boyfriend, we've been officially going out for around 3 weeks but had a thing for just under 2 months. I feel very comfortable around him but that's the thing...there is no spark for me. I kinda just went into the relatio...
A. 19 December 2008: I think you should talk to your boyfriend. Three weeks isn't a long time - tell him that you're not looking for anything serious, that you don't feel as though you are ready to make a commitment to him, that you want to be honest with him about it ... (read in full...)
Weird lump! What is it?
Q. Ok I'm thirteen and I have this really weird umm...let's say....lump. It goes like in between the two labias and at the end there's a big brownish looking lump. I could pull like 10 cm down without it hurting. It gets uncomfortable sometimes and ...
A. 13 December 2008: Which labia are you talking about? The outside ones or the inside ones? Because if it's between the outside ones, this could just be your labia minora. Labia come in all shapes and sizes, there's a lot of variation.
Take a look at this: http://w... (read in full...)
She wants me then she doesn't! Why does she keep doing this?
Q. I'm 14 and I have a girlfriend, we've been going out for a long time and we were at the movies so we made out. But whenever we started making out, within seconds she would push me off and turn away like she didn't want to any more. Then a couple ...
A. 9 December 2008: She's playing a coquette game. It's a pretty dangerous thing for her to be doing, because it can go wrong. A lot of girls do it, they kiss you, then push you away going "no no no!" and giggling, then they kiss you some more. The thing is that when ... (read in full...)
Is he gay... or just lying?
Q. So I have this friend who I'm really close with, but every now and then we hook up when we're really drunk, like REALLY drunk. and most of the time it's just me doing everything, and sometimes he even pushes me off, but i can't help myself so i keep ...
A. 9 December 2008: Sounds like he's in denial. Does he get drunk every time he sees you? If it's a regular occurence, he's probably doing it on purpose. After all, alcohol is an easy scapegoat... Maybe he really doesn't remember, maybe he doesn't want to remember. Is ... (read in full...)
My wife is an automechanic and it's embarrassing!
Q. My wife is an auto mechanic and she also fixes everything around the house. It's kind of embarrassing because my friends always tease me about it. Like once we when on a rode trip with our friends and the car broke down. My wife repair it on 30 ...
A. 9 December 2008: COOL! If you don't want your wife any more, will you post her to me?
Seriously though, what's your problem? You should be proud and happy to have a wife who can fix your car. ... (read in full...)
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