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Article - (16 September 2012)

1 Comments - (Newest, 20 September 2012)

A female age 51-59, Abella writes:

CHEATING

Today the feature topics are Players and cheating and Trust issues or can you Forgive or should you forgive if your partner Cheats?

And the collective wisdom on DearCupid.org on Cheating on Betrayal, Loss of Trust and Forgiveness or not is awesome in DearCupid.org

It was not hard to find good questions and good answers on the topics above. The hardest part was selecting some that represented really good questions and really good answers.

Cheating and trust issues cause so much pain. Should you forgive? Can you forgive? Can you ever trust again? how do you move on after being cheated on?

And today was an opportunity to showcase two more great articles by AnonymousMale1 whose two articles featured her are very pertinent to the subject of Players and forgiveness

Here are some great questions and some wonderful answers from many Uncles and Aunts in DearCupid.org

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-regret-cheating-on-my-boyfriend-but-i.html

can’t say no - 43 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-over-my-fear-o4.html

how can I get over him - 8 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-believe-cheating-boyfriend-will-change.html

Want to believe he will change – 4 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-cheating-wife-says-she-wants-her-family.html

Cheating wife wants her family back - 22 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-has-cheated-on-me-after-19.html

husband cheated after 19 years of marriage - 11 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/last-night-i-cheated-on-my-husband-should.html

should I tell my husband I cheated – 34 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-wife-cheated-on-me-2-days-ago.html

my wife cheated 2 days ago and I feel so hurt – 17 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-are-men-inclined-to-cheat-on-their.html

why are men more inclined to cheat on their wives? – 16 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-girl-cheated-i-really-love-her-was.html

my girl cheated – 18 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-are-your-thoughts-on-cheating-affairs-and.html

thoughts on cheating – by iAmHereToHelpYou – 4 answers

TRUST issues and getting over betrayal are the legacies of cheating.

And once again AnonymouseMale1 has a good article on the subject – getting over a broken heart:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/10-things-to-help-you-get-over-a.html

and more from AnonymousMale1 (I told you he is really good) -

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/10-things-that-women-should-never-allow-any.html

on things a woman should never allow her man to talk her into - 11 good answers on this one.

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/will-my-wife-ever-trust-me-again-after.html

will my wife ever trust me again? – 5 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/trust-betrayal-my-girlfriend-cheated-and-got-pregnant.html

trust and betrayal issues over cheating - 18 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/cheating-wife-and-i-dont-think-i-can.html

can’t forgive wife after she cheated – 21 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-you-were-me-you-can-forgive-a.html

can you forgive a cheater – 11 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/for-anyone-who-has-forgiven-a-cheating-partner.html

for anyone who has forgiven a cheating partner – including a great answers by Blue_Angel0316 and by natasia - in total 12 answer

PLAYERS

what defines a player?

Required reading for this topic is the article by anonymousmale1

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/10-situations-that-scream-hes-a-player.html

But there are other gems on this subject – all found in DearCupid.org

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-players-always-move-on.html

do players always move on – 7 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-are-some-telltale-signs-that-someone-is.html

signs that he is a player – 6 answers

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-are-woman-attracted-to-players.html

are women attracted to players? – 7 answers

CONFESSING TO CHEATING AND FORGIVENESS - to FORGIVE? or not?

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-you-forgive-and-forget-the-lies.html

how do you forgive after being cheated on? – 10 solid answers

and sometimes a cheater will try to turn it on their partner and bluster and abuse their partner for daring to accuse them of cheating. The more strong their response can indicate how threatened they are and how much they are trying to cover up their cheating by then being verbally abusive to their partner for daring to state the completely obvious fact that, YES they did cheat but don’t want to admit it yet.

Every time you forgive and try to forget the cheating of your partner you make him a stronger more bold cheater and you give him permission (unknowingly) to keep on cheating. While you keep on forgiving a cheating partner it follows that the cheater never has to face the unpalatable consequences of cheating. Allowing cheating to continue becomes a cancer that eats away at the integrity of the relationship from the inside

So here are some links on Verbal abuse. The greater the bluster noise and drama the potential cheater tries to muster (after being accused of cheating) then the more likely that the partner did cheat.

VERBAL ABUSE

http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/femalemental.htm

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/abusiverelationships/f/verba_abuse.htm

http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/verbalabuse.html

if you know of a good article on Cheating or on forgiveness or Players or Trust issues then I would love to see you add it here.

And if I find new good articles on the topic or new great questions and answers on the topic of Cheating, Betrayal, forgiveness, Players and Trust issues I will post them all here.

Hope the resources is useful for anyone battling trust or forgiveness or cheating issues. or worse is embroiled with a Player.

My Good thoughts to you.

regards

Abella

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A female reader, Abella +, writes (20 September 2012):

Abella is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Please feel free to add here the stories of the most diabolical cheating that you experienced and you dealt with, to the best of your ability

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