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"Always be Kinder than necessary"... J M Barrie

I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)

And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf

“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “

"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."

That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.

And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.

When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:

With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.

Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.

We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.

It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.

In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.

Never underestimate such a person.

Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.

A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.

Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.

The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:

“A leader leads by example not by force. “

And now some less well known quotes:

“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”

by Daisaku Ikeda

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”

by Maya Angelou

“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”

by Zainab Alsaati

Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')

'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie

I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person

'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)

"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,

kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer

'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.

Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie

"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson

“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella

"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa

"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt

'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie

what's your favourite quote?

But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.

There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.

They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.

Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.

There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?

Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.

Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.

What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?

Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:

Negativity?

Passive Aggression?

Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?

Envy

Jealousy

For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.

The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.

Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.

Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.

Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.

Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified.

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Q. My boyfriend and I of 2 years fight. A lot. He is petty and always inventing new "rules" or things that upset him. Months ago , he told me he didn't like it when I added random men to FB, esp after a night out without him. I tried to be sensitiv...

A. 1 August 2015: He did not care enough to come back and he left you "alone at a gas station in a dress and heels trying to figure it out." That put you in a very vulnerable situation at 1am in the morning in an unfamiliar place. You found a used condom in hi... (read in full...)

I don't like the way he treated me. Does he not have a conscience? Or did he just never care? Or is he trying to get over me?

Q. 1997- 1998: Was in David's school. He was my school mate. Wasn’t really his friend but just a classmate. Sept 2014: Started working at a local Retail store Pharmacy. Saw David there. We chatted and exchanged numbers but he was getting over a break ...

A. 31 July 2015: Sorry to hear that things didn't work out too well but there are a few things that may have undermined any emerging feelings that he was starting to feel for you. And there are a couple of things that would surely have undermined your trust in him.... (read in full...)

I want to know his thoughts about our dating future but I'm afraid to ask

Q. I have been divorced for 20 years, dating but without commitment. Seven months ago I met a recently widowed man (whose family I had known for years, but not him). I am 78 and he is 72. I want to know his thoughts about our future together, but af...

A. 31 July 2015: Hopefully he will move faster than me. It took me two years after being widowed before I was ready to even consider dating again. And he most certainly will eventually appreciate the companionship and friendship he'll start to miss, now or... (read in full...)

Standing up for yourself in a relationship

A. 31 July 2015: I applaud your reasoning in your article. I like your way of thinking. So I will add in my thoughts on these issues that you so expertly explained. Your partner should be your best friend, who you trust. There should be kindness and respect ... (read in full...)

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A. 21 May 2015: Dating tips. Thanks to a fairly new poster commenting on the following post I would see that this great contribution deserved to be in this compilation. So here it is: Need to think of some questions to ask on a date? Below is a great list o... (read in full...)

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A. 12 April 2015: Well I just realized that GeeGee255 's article is so good that I have recommended it twice. That's what happens to really good articles. They are enduring. Wise advice is worth sharing with others. And dearcupid.org certainly does have a lot of w... (read in full...)

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A. 12 April 2015: GeeGee is a wise Aunt with three sons and some amazing life experience. She started dispensing advice at age 13 and is now a very busy grandmother. I've let her know that I thought her post was really relevant to teens today and so I am highlighting ... (read in full...)

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A. 2 March 2015: Relationships - it's not plain sailing sometimes. Now the following is not from an article. But the answer from very wise Uncle wiseowle was so good to this question below that I am including the post in this compilation of really Great arti... (read in full...)

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A. 1 September 2014: Always on the lookout for new good articles to group together in this archive of great articles on dearCupid.org. It makes it easier to find the articles so that I can recommend the articles to others . Today I am adding a guide o teen dating w... (read in full...)

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My boyfriend wants me to change

A. 25 June 2013: Thank you for your follow up. It is very likely that he will ACT-up and show his displeasure when your confidence improves. Please do not stay if the abuse escalates. The first time he ever hits you means that you should have left him before t... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants me to change

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My boyfriend wants me to change

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My boyfriend wants me to change

A. 21 June 2013: Hi What you have is a controlling boyfriend who is slowly reeling you in as he methodically goes about trying to destroy your confidence to make your own decisions. He is NOT correct 100% of the time. Though he thinks he is always right, ... (read in full...)

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A. 29 May 2013: This compilation is so useful. I just recommended three articles celebrated within this Article. You can find out which articles I just recommended by clicking on to the link below. My responses to the question below are all about datings. a... (read in full...)

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A. 15 September 2012: Teacher Student Crushes keep on happening. Often the student wants to know if others understand their feelings So today I thought I would create the Definitive resource on past advice on Students in love with their teacher or with a Crush on their... (read in full...)

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