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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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you must have felt good about that.
Do you have enough good memories to sustain one message a week or one a fortnight or one a month?
Be consistent.
If she does not say "stop" then continue... (read in full...)
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A. 12 April 2015: Hi
Not so good for you, sadly. That is a brush off.
However you do say that you do have qualities that surpass him.
The only thing is to stay a gentleman with her. Anything that looks like you are withdrawing from her will make the other g... (read in full...)
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A. 12 April 2015: hi
if she is not yet responding?
of course she does have a right to not respond.
you cannot make her respond.
but you can remain hopeful and courteous.
let's see how she reacts to a light and sweet short note (the .pdf) before I say more.
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Do you have her email?
Then write the letter in your own handwriting. sign it.
Scan it as a .pdf
Attach it to an email.
Her email ONLY.
Then send her a cover... (read in full...)
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OK, trust your gut on this one.
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A. 4 April 2015: hi
An ignorant person might give such prejudiced advice.
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I am very sorry that you suffered such a nasty breakup.
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A. 29 March 2015: That the two of you are fighting is not a good sign.
That you feel hesitant to raise something is not a good sign.
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Is he stringing me along or is he serious about having a relationship with me? I miss him so much.
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A. 29 March 2015: You are not still together. He is just keeping you on the back burner if things don't work out in his current situation.
Hi all, I really need advise, I can't stop thinking about this guy.
I've known him and have been out with him and apparen... (read in full...)
How I found a Possible Solution to Retroactive Jealousy and Trust Issues with my Significant Other
Q. Before all the feminazi's here jump on me this is what happened exactly. Their were no assumptions on my part or misinterpretations on my end. She lied to me and misrepresented herself as to not to lose me and put herself in a bad light. This ...
A. 28 March 2015: This is fantastic.
A really positive approach and a determination to put it behind you.
I applaud your strength and your direct no nonsense approach.
While not condoning verbal violence you also felt violated. Your purged yourself and cleanse... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 28 March 2015: First and foremost I would like to see you embrace liking and valuing you.
Because you certainly DO deserve better than to put up with a cheating girlfriend.
And NO it is never too late. I once lived next to a lovely man who emigrated fr... (read in full...)
What else? Tried anti-depressants, counselling and contraceptive pill to try to control side affects of heavy periods. Any further suggestions before I see Dr next week?
Q. Hi, I have had some great advice on here before relating to periods and anxiety - people suggested fish oil and cutting out caffeine and these have really helped me a lot - as a result I am nowhere near as anxious as I was. However, I won...
A. 27 March 2015: I hope that your Doctor is a specialist Gynaecologist? If not then ask for a referral.
This situation has remained unresolved for an extended period of time, and the time is approaching where you are reaching menopause. Hopefully your menopaus... (read in full...)
Could she be interested in me or is she just keeping her options open?
Q. Hi there, I got some confusion going on with a girl I met last night. I started to talk with her and we danced together for over an hour and she also asked me if I wanted a drink and I declined then we talked some more for a while and then she ask...
A. 21 March 2015: Hi
sounds like neither you nor he were really special to her.
she was networking and keeping her options open. she certainly does not mind if you recognise her detachment.
She is not yet committed to anyone yet.
And she may not become committed... (read in full...)
I'm feeling so low with the things that are happening in my life!
Q. I don't know where to start. I just feel so low. Everything seems to be going wrong at the moment. I am constantly crying. And upset. We moved into our house in November 13. Since then we have had 3 occasions where someone has been onto our back...
A. 15 March 2015: working in such a toxic place is clearly not helping you at all and it is affecting your health.
Your manager is choosing to do nothing about a person spreading malicious rumours so he is part of the problem if he knows the source of the rumo... (read in full...)
My wife is my sole sexual partner to date. would having sex with friends be a good or bad idea?
Q. I'm writing for the first time on DearCupid and my name pretty much speaks for itself. Now I'm not the curious as in the same sex, but the curious type that wonders what it is like to be with another woman. Since I was 17 I have been with only t...
A. 15 March 2015: Think what this could become?
You made a promise to each other. You wanted a relationship with one woman. The two of you entered into a contract to marry and since then, now 23 you now have children together.
How important is it to bring your... (read in full...)
I'm not sure that I can trust my boyfriend and feel uncomfortable asking him about things
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for one year, and occasionally have doubts and concerns about him. Mainly due to at the start him flirting with other women. I brought it up a few times and it seems to have stopped, at least in front of me. In the ea...
A. 11 March 2015: Hi,
What has happened in the past that your level of Trust is on high alert?
Lack of Trust can derail a relationship.
If he works alone and through the night he could just be lonely and bored.
If you feel that he is totally into you then there ... (read in full...)
Why won't my ex give me back my garage door opener? Is she punishing me or does she want me back?
Q. I broke up with my ex about a month ago, we were together almost a year though a LOT of ups and downs. She was frequently insecure and jealous and would always accuse me of trying to sleep with other women. We're talking about friends 10 years ...
A. 8 March 2015: sadly she has been manipulating you.
You mention that she could be nice.
But clearly she is also very prone to jealousy.
Jealousy is not love.
She possibly said and did all the right things at the start - the things she surmised that you might w... (read in full...)
Why won't my ex give me back my garage door opener? Is she punishing me or does she want me back?
Q. I broke up with my ex about a month ago, we were together almost a year though a LOT of ups and downs. She was frequently insecure and jealous and would always accuse me of trying to sleep with other women. We're talking about friends 10 years ...
A. 8 March 2015: Wow, she is a nasty petty piece of work. Who would want anyone so nasty?
She does not care about your garage opener.
She does not care about you.
She just wants you to suffer.
Yes she is likely to make use of these nasty tactics with another... (read in full...)
Is it time I ended my two year relationship with him over his disparaging nasty remarks to me?
Q. My family is going on a vacation. They rented out a nice cabin. They asked my boyfriend if he was interested in possibly coming with. The only catch is they didn't have room in the car for him so he's probably have to drive himself there but they...
A. 7 March 2015: you mentioned that you often pay for his meals. That is nice of you. But why don't you just pay for your meal and he pay for his?
As far as transport - were your parents going to take you in their car? But they could not fit him in their car as w... (read in full...)
Is it time I ended my two year relationship with him over his disparaging nasty remarks to me?
Q. My family is going on a vacation. They rented out a nice cabin. They asked my boyfriend if he was interested in possibly coming with. The only catch is they didn't have room in the car for him so he's probably have to drive himself there but they...
A. 7 March 2015: He will only get worse. The mean spirted words will be unleashed more often as time goes by.
When he is really under pressure he will become abusive more than you can imagine.
He is not worthy of your consideration.
Fighting over money is ho... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of my future, my new Mr. Nice Guy can't have and does not want any more kids. I would like to keep that option open, but I really like him!
Q. Dear all, Please help. I have a dillema. Thanks. I recently got out of a really nasty abusive relastionship ( around 6 months ago) which is good news. A few weeks ago, I ment a fantastic guy who is the complete opposite of my ex. Caring, nice , a...
A. 5 March 2015: I can see that you have really thought this through.
Children are a wonderful addition to a person's life.
And you yearn to have children. That need will continue to demand your attention.
Of course you could choose to get a pet like a dog o... (read in full...)
I'm miserable and don't know how keep positive!
Q. Hi maybe I can get some help here. I feel very miserable lately. For a lot of different reasons really, nothing in particular. I'm 22. I live with my mother and step father. My step father and I just don't really get along. He has his iss...
A. 5 March 2015: Inn addition to the great advice from Wise Owl I will add the following:
What are you doing to be nice to you?
Do you put other people before you all the time and forget that your first responsibility is to best support you. It does not have to ... (read in full...)
Can anything really happen if you give up masturbating
Q. I know there's all kinds of mythical things people tell you will happen if you masturbate, but is there anything real that could happen if you don't? I gave it up for Lent and I would love to know....
A. 4 March 2015: whether you give it up or do not give it up your life will go on.
Is there anything else you think might be more useful to give up?... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 2 March 2015: Relationships - it's not plain sailing sometimes.
Now the following is not from an article. But the answer from very wise Uncle wiseowle was so good to this question below that I am including the post in this compilation of really Great arti... (read in full...)
Would you cancel your wedding if your family wasn't interested? Is my fiance's suggestion better?
Q. I'm getting married next summer to the love of my life. We have been together almost 3 years and I love him so much. I'm 21 he is 30. I got engaged last year and booked my wedding but my family are so disinterested. My mother and father hate soci...
A. 2 March 2015: why spend money entertaining such a miserable lot? Some people become so used to being dismissive and rude that over time they appear to live in a rut of unpleasantness. Sometimes people wonder why some people choose to have a small private w... (read in full...)
My wedding is a few weeks away and his ex wife and adult daughters are still causing problems.
Q. I have written in before about my fiance's ex wife and 3 adult girls abusive behavior and was given advice that we followed and basically blocked them off of facebook, and just continued living our lives. My fiance was able to reconnect with a ...
A. 2 March 2015: He should have made it clear that he is emotionally divorced from these disruptive bullies. But IS he emotionally divored FROM them at the moment? If he wants to sit on the fence, and invite them to the wedding, in the hope that they'll ''play nice'... (read in full...)
My wedding is a few weeks away and his ex wife and adult daughters are still causing problems.
Q. I have written in before about my fiance's ex wife and 3 adult girls abusive behavior and was given advice that we followed and basically blocked them off of facebook, and just continued living our lives. My fiance was able to reconnect with a ...
A. 1 March 2015: Facebook may have it's good points but I'm yet to discover any. In the case of complete idiots, such as the ex wife and his daughters you are only giving them oxygen when you get upset at their shenanigans.
It may surprise you to know that the... (read in full...)
We broke up after 3 years and I feel broken as a result. Where do I go? please suggest what I can do?
Q. I hurt so much, I want to hide inside the dark from reality; I dislike the new day since my girl left. I gave her every thing she wanted, maybe I was buying her love. I bought her what she wanted because I loved her and wanted her to be happy....
A. 1 March 2015: The agony of a break up is real.
And you reached out for help. I really applaud you for choosing to ask for held. That is real strength. It gave me hope that you can overcome this challenge and go on to greater things and a nice new Gf at some tim... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 24 February 2015: Looking much younger than your chronological age. What a great article
One of the Uncles: mfj78 has written here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/the-perills-of-looking-young.html
I love articles that really demonstrate a key is... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 1 September 2014: Always on the lookout for new good articles to group together in this archive of great articles on dearCupid.org. It makes it easier to find the articles so that I can recommend the articles to others .
Today I am adding a guide o teen dating w... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 1 September 2014: I am adding a new Article to the DEAR CUPID Hall of Fame.
It is about DATING TIPS and deserves to be here with the Best
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/first-date-tips.html
Although it started off as a question it is so good that the ans... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 28 June 2014: Online dating: Thank you Mark1978
I just added an article by Mark1978 to my list of TOP articles.
Mark1978 has just created this excellent article on online dating.
http://www.de... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 29 May 2013: This compilation is so useful.
I just recommended three articles celebrated within this Article.
You can find out which articles I just recommended by clicking on to the link below.
My responses to the question below are all about datings. a... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 1 March 2013: Thank you for reading the article on articles.
You Should be on the list of my favorite Articles DirtBall. You write some wonderful advice.
Not only is the article a great way to find a group of good articles I also hope it alerts people ne... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 6 February 2013: Valentine’s Day – that special time each year for lovers. To some people Valentine’s day is very very special.
To others the day passes without another thought. So often people start thinking about Valentine’s day and need some ideas or some sup... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 6 February 2013: When I see an outstanding Article I intend to add it to this resource. So I can easily find the article again in the future.
So now this resource holds 58 really Great Articles by really thoughtful and excellent Aunts and Uncles on this site.
... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 19 September 2012: There can always be new variations and new issues that have not yet been asked and have not yet been posted on Dear Cupid. So if you are in love with your teacher or your lecturer then DO post your NEW question please
Sometimes some addition... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 15 September 2012: Teacher Student Crushes keep on happening. Often the student wants to know if others understand their feelings
So today I thought I would create the Definitive resource on past advice on Students in love with their teacher or with a Crush on their... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 12 September 2012: Thank you anonymous, for your Recommendation for an Article that really Resonates with you, and no doubt many other readers.
And "I am here to help you" is indeed a big contributer on this site. Well spotted.
There is nothing worse than that hor... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 12 September 2012: This following question from 2010 has a response by Yos. There are 66 responses to this question on Retroactive Jealously from some amazing Aunts and Uncles in Dearcupid.org. Now Amazing Yos if you do not yet know it is, seriously, the BEST expo... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 2 September 2012: Now over 40 articles so far in this resource - the ones in the initial article at left, plus the additional articles I have added in through followups, including this new follow up.
And it is not finished yet. I am still going through lists of... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 1 September 2012: Another reason not to post an Article as Anonymous. I have been trawling through some Articles that might be almost impossible to find. Except some digging around has revealed four more articles from the past that deserve to be read again.
I cou... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 31 August 2012: Thank you So Very Confused.
I am not finished yet. Still looking for more good articles
Regards
Abella. ... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 31 August 2012: Thank you CTR
And I intend to add any article I need to find in a hurry and think might be useful in the future, be it an article published 4 years ago or 4 minutes ago
I can't guarantee to put up every article. Only the ones that I think might ... (read in full...)
22 Great Articles from Great Aunts and Uncles on this site. Can you add to the list? Do you have a favourite article on DearCupid?
Q. Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. Which ones are your personal favourites and which ones helped you the most? I often find it hard to find the best articles on DearCupid. I know there are some great articles on the site, bu...
A. 31 August 2012: I have just found some more articles that deserve to be added to the list of my favourites
This resource is already proving to be very useful when I go looking for that amazing article. wish I had thought of this earlier.
Here are the extra ar... (read in full...)
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