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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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I thought Mystiquek's answer was very kind.
Here is my PostScript message:
Now is your time to shine.
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Just in case anyone reads the update below and finds the link does not work.
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I am a Mom and I can see that you are feeling anxious about losing your connection with your little boy.
And you are correct, you are not the one "on trial".
In this whole issue your son and his welfare is vitally important.
Ch... (read in full...)
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A. 28 June 2015: Hi
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Thank you for the update.... (read in full...)
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He does sound shallow, as you mention.
His attention to you is lessening.
He is not interacting with you more, instead it is less.
Plus he is not spending a lot of time w... (read in full...)
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It does cause serious birth defects, including:
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This is a very serious issue to leave a child for an extended period.
Yes the child is at serious risk and is being put into a vulnerable position. Yes the child should not live in that environment. The child does need an adult to take care... (read in full...)
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These are some really big issues and it must indeed be very difficult for you to decide these big issues.
You have suffered so much. You have been subjucted to so much pressure. Far too much pressure for one so young.
And you have very lo... (read in full...)
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A. 22 June 2015: Hi
A "Proper boyfriend" does not speak to a girl like that.
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And If I had ever had a guy ever physically abuse me with a slap I would have been out the door faster ... (read in full...)
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From memo... (read in full...)
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I am so sorry to hear that you suffer all this heartache.
You really do not deserve this.
Just be cautious about announcing you are leaving. Because that can be a bad time to discuss anything with him.
Here is why:
http://www.... (read in full...)
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Is he dis-satisfied at work after he compares it with the friendships he made in the army.
I agr... (read in full...)
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Three weeks? this guy hardly knows you. If he is a keeper he will remain a gentleman and not pressure you.
His actions and his pressure are crass and not the actions of a gentleman.
He should allow thi... (read in full...)
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Yet he (sort of... (read in full...)
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Of course you are not evil.
Seems like they were looking for any excuse to paint you as the villain.
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... (read in full...)
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Q. Six month's ago I found a new fb page of my current bf, which said in a relationship with someone else, when I confronted him he denied it and removed the account saying his brother made it. Anyway I kept the girls name and every now and then I g...
A. 13 June 2015: I personally don't like Facebook and prefer other forms of communication. Facebook seems to bring so much misery into some people's lives when a relationship is being affected by a rocky patch. The people I like and they like me see me regularl... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife her vagina is loose without hurting her feelings?
Q. We have been married for around 15 years and have had a good sex life. I'm around 42 and my wife is 40. I have started facing this problem - I find my wife's vagina very loose now. I do not get the same feeling in my penis now as I used to get ...
A. 11 June 2015: Yes it would be highly offensive to her. I suggest that you try a different approach. Help your wife to tone up with some fun love-making-in-progress exercises when the two of you are together for intimate times. It's a far more supportive a... (read in full...)
What sort of a relationship is it where insults and sarcasm are common?
Q. I feel so upset/down and uncared for at the moment, it's been building for a couple of days now. My partner hasn't really been as talkative the past few days or affectionate, she gets like that sometimes so basically all I asked was if she was o...
A. 10 June 2015: You are Not bad at all.
What you endure with her is not a loving relationship, nor is it a healthy relationship. Which means that it is not healthy for you to remain with her.
She is treating you with contempt. It is she who is the inadequat... (read in full...)
I'm flirting with her, but how do I get things to the next stage?
Q. We have been really close friends for like 3 years and a half now in high school (i am 17, she also is). We walk home together, help with studies and often talk in school. As we have similar mindsets and ideologies i started to develop a crush on ...
A. 9 June 2015: Hi,
There is a whole lot you don't know about her yet. She is resisting your impatience and she is being turned off by your impatience.
So I suggested some ways that could build some trust and develop greater rapport between the two of you.
... (read in full...)
I'm flirting with her, but how do I get things to the next stage?
Q. We have been really close friends for like 3 years and a half now in high school (i am 17, she also is). We walk home together, help with studies and often talk in school. As we have similar mindsets and ideologies i started to develop a crush on ...
A. 9 June 2015: Hi
She already knows you like her. But the pace may be too fast for her, at the moment.
And I realise that you are 17 and that may be a bit young to really sweep her off her feet, but you can certainly start learning how to.
Back off on the f... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he chose not to reply to my text, but later sent me a picture of his medal. What do I need to understand?
Q. There is this guy and we used to work together on Saturday. I texted him "all the best" for his match he didn't reply. So i thought he he was avoiding me so maintain silence. Then on Monday he sent me a picture of the medal which he won and i r...
A. 9 June 2015: You meant well and you used to work with him on Saturdays.
he may not have seen your message until the Monday when he was winding down from the big matched and he may have been touched that you took the time to send him a message and he thus want... (read in full...)
Is she trying to bully me? This girl make my life a misery at school. What can I do?
Q. ok, so there's this girl at school who hangs out with us in our group, she's shorter than me but she's a real ****h. she always makes fun of my name, she greets me with a really embarrasing and mean insult. She makes fun of my past (which i don't kn...
A. 7 October 2012: Also, my version of a PS:)
http://www.williamwilkie.com/bullying.htm
download the information on the book “Bullying from backyard to boardroom” on that site above – and in particular read chapter seven = Psychological Abuse In The Workplace... (read in full...)
Is she trying to bully me? This girl make my life a misery at school. What can I do?
Q. ok, so there's this girl at school who hangs out with us in our group, she's shorter than me but she's a real ****h. she always makes fun of my name, she greets me with a really embarrasing and mean insult. She makes fun of my past (which i don't kn...
A. 7 October 2012: Also, and this is VERY important: Do not retaliate with the same bullying behaviour.
Bullies are known for the fact that they often try to goad the victim to react.
They goad and goad and goad and try to get a reaction.
Then they report the r... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 2 September 2012: I love answering questions on this site. And I love reading all answers that I have time to read. I especially love the great Articles written by other Aunts and Uncles on DearCupid. As I think good articles are often a distilation of experience.
... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 18 February 2012: EyesWideOpen is such a wit, is she not! Seriously though DearCupid.org is a wonderful site. And with the Changes imposed by Google.com it is up to everyone to spread the word about how good this site is. If Google.com is bent on disadvantaging go... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 16 February 2012: ps: because I think thousands more people out there could be helped by DearCupid.org - but they have not yet seen the site. And I can only speak for myself. But I feel I may not be alone in this - and that is that often I spend additional time res... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 16 February 2012: hi
I came across Dear Cupid by accident. And found it fascinating. I read through some questions and answers started coming into my head.
Then I read the guidelines and criteria and decided it was a really genuine honorable site.
Until I f... (read in full...)
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